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Hot Marriage. Cool Parents.

Author: Jamie Otis and Doug Hehner

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Are you looking for someone to share their deepest, darkest secrets on keeping their marriage spicy? Are you like, “puhhlease DISH on how to be a cool parent .. because, yeah ... I dunno!” Well Jamie Otis and Doug Hehner have got all you hubbies and wifeys - and mommies and daddies - covered, because each week they find a guest who will SPILL all their dirty secrets! Because we all wanna keep our marriages hot and our parenting cool!

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Today we are super excited to share a chat with you that we got to have with Danielle Schaffer (City Girl Gone Mom). Danielle is a momma and a podcaster of Mom Confidential. She is a wife and a boss BABE and her son is boss babe Brody. Her podcast is all about the realities about being a mom, all the truths and personal anecdotes! She is all about letting her kids personalities shine through no matter what society says! She likes to tell it like it is and so do we!!! We love keeping it real! 18:07 - Welcome to Hot Marriage. Cool Parents., Danielle! What inspired you to start your son, Brody’s Instagram page? (@bossbabybrody) 22:51 - Jamie asks, did you ever put him in dance classes to nurture his ability? 26:15 - Doug asks, when did you realize it started to go viral? 28:15 - Doug asks, were you gender focused with your older kids or when did that start? 32:09 - Jamie asks, what’s your advice for stepping out of this type of a mind frame and really allowing your kids to embrace whatever they want without too much influence for others? 36:30 - Doug asks, do you think others wearing dresses is going to help others feel more comfortable breaking away from societal standards, or do you think of this as a new trend, or just someone expressing their individuality? It’s gonna be a good episode next week! You don’t wanna miss it! ;)    Danielle’s Instagram: Brody’s Instagram:  Danielle’s Today Show Article: Mom to Harry Styles critic: My son wears a dress too and it's OK. Here's why. And thank you to our sponsors: Jonas Paul Eyewear - Save 15% off by using the code COOLPARENTS15 at Disney Hits Playlist - Enjoy the magic of Disney Music anytime, anywhere! Disney Hits Playlist is available on all music streaming services! Dropps - visit and use the code hotmarriage to get 25% off your first order! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
We are SUPER excited to have Crystal Fairbanks, momma of a 6 year old, 3 year old, and triplets on the podcast today! She totally amazes us how she has been able to take care of all of her kiddos and during COVID! WHOA! She comes on and shares some struggles she has had with postpartum depression/anxiety, and she shares some ways that she has overcome it.    We hope you are encouraged that you are not alone and there should not be a stigma around mental health difficulties!   09:04 - Welcome to Hot Marriage. Cool Parents., Crystal! 10:25 - Crystal shares all about how she found out she was having triplets. 16:39 - Crystal shares the amazing help her family has had to help care for the triplets. 19:38 - Jamie asks Crystal what the anxiety symptoms were that she was experiencing. 31:35 - Jamie asks Crystal if she feels like she has overcome the postpartum depression? 35:47 - Doug asks Crystal if she breastfed the triplets? 38:47 - Jamie asks Crystal if her doctor ever recommended medication and what was the response from her family and friends? 39:00 - Jamie asks Crystal what are some of the things she has done to overcome the stress and anxiety causing depression?   Stay tuned for another great podcast episode next week!   Crystal’s Instagram   And thank you to our sponsors:   LinenFit - Go to, use the code hotmarriage, and get 20% off your purchase! Dropp - visit and use the code hotmarriage to get 25% off your first order! Native Deodorant - Check out their holiday selection! Go to or use the promo code hmcp for 20% off your first order! Order before December 7 to make sure that your products come just in time for Christmas! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Gonna share this vulnerable chat with you guys about our marriage relationship because we KNOW that other people will benefit :) We have gotten kind of in the “thick” of life and just have struggled because we are SO busy!    We have Jennifer Lehr, she’s a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of WeConcile, an online program for committed couples seeking help. She’s an educator on the process of living, self-acceptance, and stepping into your magic life! Like many others, Jennifer grew up in a family with difficult family dynamics and she changed that by spending years working on her own issues, educating herself as well as being in training to work as a couples therapist.    We’re excited to hear all of the ways she suggests to help us care about each other’s feelings and voice our feelings in an appropriate way!   09:45 - Welcome to Hot Marriage. Cool Parents., Jen! 10:00 - Jen shares her background and why she does what she does! 12:32 - Jamie asks Jen how to handle the shifting dynamics of having kids? 17:49 - Jamie asks how do you handle the stress of kids needing things all the time and you’re tired? 27:32 - Jamie asks if she has any tips on how to go about a conversation with a child (example tell me why you don’t want to eat?) 33:54 - Jen shares about her online program, WeConcile, that is actually being developed into an app!   Jen’s Instagram: Jen’s Facebook: https//   And thank you to our sponsors: OnePlus - Go to the OnePlus website and try out their phones today! It charges in 15 minutes! Or Check them out on Instagram! #15MinuteChallenge #OnePlus8T #OnePlusPartner BlendJet - Go to right now to save an extra 12%! Calm App - Calm is offering a special limited time promotion of 40% off a Calm premium subscription at Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
We are SO excited to finally get to have Greg and Deonna on Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. You guys have been BEGGING us to have them on and here they are! :) Greg Okotie and Deonna McNeill Okotie were on Season 9 of Married at First Sight and became INSTANT fan favorites!    They are adorable and we are excited to hear what they are up to, all about their pregnancy, and chat ALL things Married at First Sight Season 11! Is it really already time to film Season 12?!? Time flies! Show Notes: 02:32 - Welcome, Greg and Deonna, to HMCP! Greg and Deonna give a pregnancy update! 06:31 - Doug asks when was the point where both Greg and Deonna got on board once the pregnancy test was positive? 09:16 - Jamie asks if they have decided if they want to find out the gender? 16:06 - Jamie asks if they are planning to use disposable or cloth diapers? 18:47 - Deonna and Jamie talk about having weird dreams during pregnancy and Deonna getting carpal tunnel! 23:00 - Let's talk Amelia and Bennett! 26:30 - Let's talk thoughts on Christina and Henry! 30:38 - Let's talk Miles and Karen! 34:28 - Let's talk Olivia and Brett! 39:33 - Last, but certainly not least, Woody and Amani! Stay tuned for another AWESOME podcast episode next week! Stay healthy, wash your hands...and come back next week to hang with us! 😊  Greg’s Instagram Deonna’s Instagram Greg & Deonna’s Facebook Page Akpesiri Clothing      Wifey 101: Everything I Got Wrong After Meeting Mr. Right - Autographed Copy on Jamie's website Wifey 101 on Amazon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Today we have a very very special guest on the podcast, Lolah Mupotaringa, from Girl Pride Africa. Girl Pride Africa not only rescues girls from child marriages, but it also supports pregnant teens and orphans. This organization has rescued more than 2300 girls and provided accomodation, food, and mentoring to at least 3000 girls around Africa! We are so humbled and thankful to have Lolah on the podcast today! Lolah reached out to Jamie and shared her story, and we are asking you guys to consider giving towards Lolah's amazing non-profit! Grab your tissues, because this one is gonna be a tear jerker! Lolah is literally helping girls who are child brides - it's heartwrenching how these girls are treated by these older men! Show Notes: 16:42 - Welcome, Lolah, to Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. 19:04 - Lolah shares about Girl Pride Africa and the daily work they are doing. 22:08 - Jamie shares with Lolah the struggles her mother had especially with the abuse she had, as well as the difficulties of taking care of her 5 kids 24:25 - Jamie asks Lolah if the girls there feel the same way as her mother, wanting to give up when things get tough 27:45 - Lolah shares the day to day life of taking care of these young girls and the many issues that will come up with the husbands. 28:59 - Lolah shares her background as well as her passion behind this work and why she is so ambitious about helping others. 32:15 - Jamie asks Lolah what is the age of the youngest girl who Lolah has helped and who has had a child? And where are her parents if she is so young? 34:50 - Jamie asks Lolah how we can help Girl Pride Africa? 41:55 - Next week we are switching gears to a bit more lighthearted and we are excited for you to hear from our guests! Giving Way Fundraiser for Girl Pride Africa Girl Pride Africa Facebook Page Girl Pride Africa Instagram Stay tuned! And don't forget all the things - wash your hands, wear your masks. Ya know. 😊 And thank you to our sponsor: LinenFit - Right now, LinenFit is offering our listeners 20% off their purchase sitewide at when they use the code HOTMARRIAGE at checkout! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Andrew East, a college athlete, turned NFL player turned successful entrepreneur and host of the podcast Redirected, and his wife, Shawn Johnson East an Olympic Gold medal gymnast and DWTS champ are our awesome guests on this week’s podcast! Shawn and Andrew are Youtube STARS, athletes, podcasters and parents to an adorable baby girl! This power couples truly does it all!!!!! They got engaged in 2015 and were married a year later. Last year they welcomed their beautiful daughter, Drew Hazel East. They also have their own podcast called Couple Things!   Before we bring Andrew and Shawn on, Jamie takes a moment to share some deep thoughts and feelings about body positivity. Be watching Insta for details on her upcoming body positivity course!   Show Notes: 21:00 - Welcome to HMCP, Shawn and Andrew! 21:53 - Do you see gymnastics or football in Drew’s future? 22:29 - Is Shawn nervous at all for Drew to follow in her footsteps with gymnastics? 23:36 - What was Shawn’s experience like with body dysmorphia? 26:40 - How do you deal with “Mommy Shamers?” 29:03 - Are you currently trying to conceive? 32:08 - Were you scared to have sex while Shawn was pregnant? And what was it like postpartum? 36:12 - Have you thought about whether you may or may not want to deliver in the hospital because of COVID? 41:31 - Andrew, have you tried breast milk? 43:40 - As parents, are there any pet peeves you have of each other in parenting? 44:30 - What’s one thing that you appreciate about each other as parents?    You guys know the drill - wear your masks and wash your hands! :) Chat soon!   Andrew’s Instagram: Shawn’s Instagram: Drew’s Instagram: Couple Things Podcast:    And thank you to our sponsor: Native Deodorant - Do what I did, and make the switch to Native today by going to or use promo code hmcp at checkout to get 20% off your 1st order! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
It’s definitely been a busy few weeks including a quick family trip out to L.A.! We are back now and hope that our sharing the parenting struggles we have will help someone out there. We love you guys! We know we say it ALL the time, but you guys genuinely are the best ever!   So long story short, Henley was born with a piece of skin over her private area. The doctors told us it was fine and that it would eventually fix itself. Well she was playing in the house and ended up falling and tearing that skin… we didn’t know that was what it was at the time. It caused our sweet baby so much pain! My heart was broken in a million pieces! So we brought her to the doctors after a rough couple of days just to make sure she was okay.    We also chat about being thankful that we saw her get hurt since we are living in a new place, she's going to a new school and we have new babysitters, etc. and could have been worried about Henley being taken advantage of :-\ We also share our thoughts about how important it is to teach kids at a young age what the names are of their private parts, so that they know how to defend themselves if the need were to come!   Okay guys, till next week...make sure you register to vote! It’s important!   And thank you to our sponsor:   GreenChef - Use code hotmarriage80 to get $80 off your first month plus free shipping on your first box! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Brooke & Bridget, sisters, speech therapists, and mommies to their own kiddos are our guests today! In 2012, the sisters opened up their private practice for speech therapy in California, and in 2018 they started an Instagram account to help parents help their kiddos develop their language & communication skills!    Before we bring Brooke and Bridget on, Doug and Jamie chat about the struggle to have sex (but they finally did!) and Jamie shares what she does to be able to always love her body and feel positive!     Show Notes: 02:37 - Doug and Jamie have big news! They finally, after over a year, had sex! 08:46 - Doug asks Jamie if she has any tips about getting to the point of being able to have sex and improving her libido. 11:23 - Jamie and Doug discuss their thoughts on the importance of having body positivity and that we should love our bodies no matter what! 17:06 - Welcome, Brooke and Bridget! 18:08 - Jamie asks, what made the 2 of you want to do this together? 20:00 - Doug asks, what are the first milestones and how long would it be for you to consider someone late to talk? 22:27 - Doug asks, how do you easily quantify the amount of words your child is saying? 23:29 (28:19) - Jamie asks, what do you recommend a mom or dad to do for their child at the point that speech intervention is needed? Or what can a parent do before that point? 29:45 - Jamie asks, what are some of the interventions that you guys talk about in your courses and on your Instagram page?  32:17 - Doug asks, is baby talk something that is harmful to child development? 35:08 - Doug asks, Henley sort of has a lisp when she says her s’s. Is that something that can be worked through or needs intervention? 39:03 - Jamie asks, when do you recommend switching to an open cup? 40:43 - Jamie asks, Since we had Hendrix, Henley has definitely regressed with speaking. She is whining a lot and talking like a baby - what should they do to help Henley? 44:13 - Jamie asks if they think it could be confusing to a child to have a very consistent nickname and regular name? 46:25 - Doug asks, what is some advice that you have for parents who are trying to help kids read things out loud? Especially with trying pronounce words? 53:56 - Next week - it’s a surprise! It’s gonna be epic!    Wash your hands twice 😊 Chat next week! Speech Sisters Instagram: Speech Sisters Website:   And thank you to our sponsors:   Jonas Paul Eyewear - save 15% off by going to and use code COOLPARENTS15.   PayPal - PayPal is making it easy to pay safely, quickly and easily. Download the PayPal app today! Terms and conditions apply.   Sweaty Betty - Now through November 1, get 20% off your ENTIRE purchase when you visit This is the best offer Sweaty Betty has available anywhere!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
We figured we would switch things up this week and get some feedback from you guys. We asked what are some assumptions you guys have of us, and let me tell ya, we got some good ones!    Show Notes: 04:52 - 1st assumption - Does Jamie do anything for Doug? He is so caring. 07:54 - 2nd assumption - You’re super in love and laugh all the time. 08:24 - 3rd assumption - I assume people recognize you immediately wherever you go. 12:11 - 4th assumption - Always assumed you guys are rich. 17:56 - 5th assumption - We will be working on baby #3 soon. Another assumption - I assume that now that you have 2 kids you may not have the 4 or 6. 24:40 - 6th assumption - You get packages all the time - too much mail. 27:30 - 7th assumption - I feel like you kind of forgot about Gracie after the baby was born. 29:07 - 8th assumption - That Doug does not cook. 31:55 - 9th assumption - Jamie is the boss in the relationship. 33:24 - 10th assumption - I’m worried you are getting more like friends. 37:53 - 11th assumption - Has Jamie quit nursing? 39:58 - 12th assumption - They have lots of laundry. 40:02 - 13th assumption - That Jamie, not Doug, wears the pants in the relationship. 40:30 - 14th assumption - That Doug and Jamie rarely spend time alone because of the kids. 43:53 - Next week is an awesome interview with the Speech Sisters - you guys are gonna love it!    And thank you to our sponsors:   Disney Hits Playlist - Enjoy the magic of Disney Music anytime, anywhere. Simply say, “Alexa, Play Disney Hits” or stream Disney Hits on your favorite music service! It is available on all music streaming services!   PayPal - PayPal is making it easy to pay safely, quickly and easily. Download the PayPal app today! Terms and conditions apply.   Native Deodorant - Do what I did, and make the switch to Native today by going to or use promo code hmcp at checkout to get 20% off your 1st order! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
We are super excited to welcome on to our podcast today the amazing Mary Marantz! She is a rockstar podcast host, speaker, and author! She grew up in a single-wide trailer in rural West Virginia. The first of her immediate family to go to college, she went on to earn a law degree from the nation's top-ranked law school, Yale. After ditching six-figure-salary law firm offers in London and New York, she started a business with her hubby, Justin. Together they have built a successful online education platform for creative entrepreneurs and She is also the host of the highly-ranked and popular podcast The Mary Marantz Show. Mary will release her first book, Dirt: Growing Strong Roots in What Makes the Broken Beautiful on September 15!    Doug is furniture shopping so before Mary comes on Jamie shares updates on their Florida home, how much Hendrix has grown, how it always is raining, Gracie is starting pre-k - what?!, and so much more! Show Notes: 12:49 - Welcome to the show, Mary!  13:40 - Jamie asks - what made you go down a different path in life? 15:57 - Doug asks - as a young girl that would go away to college, was your background something that you started to hide behind or something that you chose to wear on your sleeve? 16:52 - Jamie asks - how did writing about your trailer life get you into Yale? 18:06 - Jamie asks Mary to share more about her past in the trailer and what that was like? 24:07 - Doug asks - did you ever feel out of place going to college and to Yale? What advice do you have to find the motivation that you can do it! 31:07 - Jamie asks - what would you want to say to the young Mary who was growing up in the trailer? 34:13 - Doug asks - what do you mean by becoming/building something more can sometimes feel like a “betrayal” to the people who raised you. How do you balance those two? 42:22 - Jamie asks - what advice do you have on reconciling relationships whether they be with family members or partners? 48:56 - Next week we are answering ALL your assumptions about us!   Have a great week! Chat soon!   Mary’s Instagram: Mary's Book, Growing Strong Roots In What Makes The Broken Beautiful And thank you to our sponsor:   Disney Hits Playlist - Enjoy the magic of Disney Music anytime, anywhere. Simply say, “Alexa, Play Disney Hits” or stream Disney Hits on your favorite music service! It is available on all music streaming services! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Hot Marriage. Cool Parents is coming to you live from LA this week!! Last weekend, Jamie went to LA to shoot for Married at First Sight: Unfiltered and she finally got to catch up with the whole crew! We are really excited to share this conversation between Alisha, Jamie's WONDERFUL makeup artist & Jamie! But first, Doug and chat about first impressions of the new MAFS couples meeting face to face, what life has been like at their new Florida home, not having sex for close to a year and so much more! Henley even comes on and talks and sings to everyone! Show Notes: 24:44 - Welcome, Alisha! 25:03 - Alisha and Jamie talk about Black Lives Matter and how Jamie didn't realize that racism is still prominent in our country! Alisha shares information about qualified immunity. 27:02 - Alisha and Jamie chat about how people who are on reality TV can become divas! 34:43 - Jamie and Alisha share how the conversations that you get to have with the girl doing your hair is like therapy! 35:47 - Alisha shares the story of her and her ex that she met online 46:34 - Alisha talks about the worst, best, and most annoying people that she has ever had in her chair! 50:03 - Alisha shares some basic makeup tips to make you look fresh and alive (facial prep oils, SUNSCREEN for EVERYONE, cc cream, mascara, and brow gel) Rapid Fire Questions for Alisha about working with MAFS stars: 54:50 - Who is her favorite person to work on from all time MAFS? 55:18 - Who is the most difficult person to work with on MAFS? 55:50 - Who is the funniest person to work with on MAFS? 56:16 - Who is the sweetest person to work with on MAFS? 56:25 - Who is her favorite expert to work on? 56:51 - Who is the most annoying person to work with? Not necessarily in the makeup chair? 57:12 - Jamie introduces everyone to her producer, Jeff, who is behind the scenes who does it ALL! And it's time for Jamie to go on set, so until next week - stay tuned! 😊 58:46 - Next week on the podcast we have the very inspirational Mary Marantz joining us to share her story! We say it every week, but please wash your hands and wear your masks! Love you! And thank you to our sponsors: Sweaty Betty - Now through November 1st​ get 20% OFF your ENTIRE purchase when you visit SWEATYBETTY.COM/HMCP. This is the BEST OFFER Sweaty Betty has available ANYWHERE! Disney Hits Playlist - Enjoy the magic of Disney Music anytime, anywhere. Simply say, “Alexa, Play Disney Hits” or stream Disney Hits on your favorite music service! It is available on all music streaming services! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Hot Marriage. Cool Parents is coming to you live from Florida for the next few months! Doug and Jamie are super excited to be in the sunny weather! It is going to be fun trying to get the house all set up!   We are really excited to share this interview with you today! We brought on some of our awesome frans, Tim & Kelli Dexter, to share a really inspiring story!    For those of you who don’t know, after over 30 years of searching Jamie finally found her father through a DNA service. Kelli reached out to Jamie through social media because her husband’s story is very similar and after many years he has finally found his biological mother and siblings! We think stories like this are super inspiring so we wanted to invite them onto the podcast to share their story!    We always love to hear from you when what we share inspires you guys to take action! Let us know if you want to hear more of these stories!    Show Notes:   08:34 - Welcome to the show, Tim and Kelli!  08:51 - Tim shares how he grew up and when he found out he was adopted as well as why he wanted to seek out his biological family. 10:46 - Tim shares what the results were when he did the health history and the ancestry. 13:38 - Doug asks if he had any information before the test was done to find his family? 14:23 - Doug asks if his adopted parents ever had the conversation with him about looking for his biological family? 15:02 - Jamie asks what was it that made him want to connect to his biological mom? 17:17 - Doug asks how it went when they first attempted to reach out to family? 21:39 - Jamie asks if it was a surprise for his biological sister to find out that she has a brother? 26:20 - Doug asks what is the relationship like now and have they set any expectations for the future?   Stay healthy and show love to others and yourself :)   Kelli’s Instagram:   And thank you to our sponsor:   Disney Hits Playlist - Enjoy the magic of Disney Music anytime, anywhere. Simply say, “Alexa, Play Disney Hits” or stream Disney Hits on your favorite music service! It is available on all music streaming services! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Breanna Lockwood, mama to be, IG blogger, and fertility awareness advocate and her mama, Julie Loving are our guests today! Breanna has a VERY special story to share with us today, one that is unique and beautiful! After going through a difficult journey to getting pregnant, Breanna turned to surrogacy and let’s just say, she found her PERFECT MATCH! Today we are interviewing Breanna and her mama, Julie Loving, aka, Breanna’s SURROGATE!  Before we bring Breanna on, Doug and Jamie chat about what's been going on with life lately, including Henley's 3rd birthday, HPV update, and traveling to Florida! Show Notes: 04:57 - Jamie's sister is naming her son Jayme after her! Jamie shares how honored she feels! 06:52 - Jamie gives update on HPV and the LEEP procedure she had. 13:55 - Doug and Jamie talk about Henley’s struggle with defiance with taking naps. 21:09 - Doug and Jamie talk about their upcoming trip to Florida and getting a fence to put around their pool! 28:56 - Welcome, Breanna! Breanna shares her fertility journey and the struggles she has had to overcome. 30:30 - Doug asks how long Breanna and her husband have been together? They discuss struggles with self guilt. 32:35 - Doug asks how many rounds of IVF Breanna went through? 32:59 - Jamie asks if they have any answers as to why it didn’t work out for Breanna? 34:07 - Doug asks at what point did Breanna consider surrogacy and how was she introduced to it? 36:06 - Jamie asks how old her mom, Julie, is and was she always willing to be a surrogate? 39:17 - Doug asks Breanna what her husband’s reaction to all of this? 40:51 - Doug asks Breanna if her mom had to go through testing and was there a concern that she may not be able to carry the baby? Did she have a plan B if it didn’t work out? 42:18 - Jamie asks if the baby is a boy or girl. 42:28 - Doug asks for clarification about the surrogacy process. 44:23 - Jamie asks Julie how far along she is? And how do they both feel now that she is past the age of viability? 46:45 - Jamie asks what are other things that surrogates have to do to carry the baby? 47:45 - Doug asks Julie what her husband's thoughts were on all of this? 48:05 - Jamie asks how has the pandemic made the pregnancy difficult? 49:36 - Doug asks Julie about her birth plan. 50:47 - Doug asks if Julie plans to breastfeed the baby. 53:33 - Doug asks what future plans are for more children. 57:33 - Next week’s guest is a surprise! Stay tuned!   PLEASE wear your face masks! We love you guys!   Breanna’s Instagram: And thank you to our sponsors: Jonas Paul Eyewear - Save 15% off on a new pair of prescription glasses by using the code COOLPARENTS15 at Green Chef - Use code hotmarriage80 to get $80 off your 1st month PLUS free shipping on your 1st box! Go to to redeem the offer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
We are SO excited to have the absolutely HILARIOUS Lauren Lapkus with us on the podcast today! Oh my goodness, this girl is SO talented! She's an American actress, comedian, and impressionist and she is known for portraying Susan Fischer on Orange is the New Black and Jess in the HBO series Crashing, and she is the BIGGEST star of Jamie's favorite movie on Netflix, the Wrong Missy! She's also a MAFS fan! Wow - we are thrilled to be able to chat with her!   Welcome, Lauren! Before we bring Lauren on, Doug gives an update on their Florida home and shares his thoughts about potentially becoming a full time stay-at-home dad!   Show Notes: 20:15 - Doug, Jamie, and Lauren chat about the Wrong Missy and Lauren talks about her podcast, Newcomers. 21:57 - Lauren shares how she got involved with acting. 23:28 - Jamie asks Lauren what it was like starting out and then having her breakthrough of being the lead role in a hit movie? 25:00 - Lauren talks about what it is like working closely with Adam Sandler. 25:48 - Lauren talks about opportunities to improv in The Wrong Missy. 27:17 - Doug asks Lauren if she had any romantic feelings toward David Spade? 28:27 - Lauren talks about how weird it can be to film making out and sex scenes as a married woman. 30:32 - Lauren shares about her love for MAFS, and especially Doug and Jamie's season! 31:56 - Doug asks Lauren about filming the fish scene in The Wrong Missy. 34:00 - How is the quarantine affecting Lauren's jobs? 35:18 - Jamie asks Lauren about season 2 of her podcast, Newcomers. 38:05 - Jamie asks Lauren which season of MAFS is the most memorable? 41:00 - Doug, Jamie, and Lauren chat about the current season of MAFS as well as their interest in 90 Day Fiance. 48:28 - Lauren tells listeners all of the different films and specials she has taken part in. 49:42 - Doug asks Lauren what it's like working with Netflix? 50:24 - Doug asks Lauren how she and her husband met? We have some exciting interviews lined up! Stay tuned! AND Please stay well, everyone! 😘WEAR YOUR MASKS!   Lauren’s Instagram: And thank you to our sponsors: Jonas Paul Eyewear - Go to and use code COOLPARENTS15 to get 15% off! GreenChef - Use code hotmarriage80 to get $80 off your first month plus free shipping on your box! Go to to redeem and for more details. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
SO excited to have Dibs Baer on the podcast with us today! She's one of our favorite people in the whole wide world! She's an L.A. based entertainment writer and author/co-author of many great books, including Wifey 101 - Jamie's book! One of our favorites that she wrote is Lady Tigers in the Concrete Jungle! Check it out! Dibs had a 15 year stretch in NYC and was the executive editor of In Touch Weekly and worked on staff at Cosmo Girl, Lifetime and Ladies Home Journal - you won't even believe the people that she interviewed!!! ALSO! We have reached 2 MILLION downloads on our podcast! We're having a big giveaway! Show Notes: 06:01 - Welcome, Dibs! 06:20 - Doug asks Dibs out of all the people she has interviewed, who did she like the LEAST? 07:47 - Dibs shares that one of her favorite interviews was with Mariah Carey. 08:17 - Doug asks Dibs where she developed the passion for writing? 09:28 - Jamie asks Dibs what she thinks about Ellen because people really don't like her right now! 14:26 - Jamie asks Dibs what she thinks about Jennifer Garner and Bradley Cooper?! 17:25 - Dibs shares a story about interviewing Katie Holmes. 18:57 - Jamie asks Dibs what are some things that she has overheard about celebs while being with them in their homes? 20:00 - Dibs and Doug and Jamie talk about what is going on with Britney Spears. 23:45 - Doug asks Dibs how she walked the fine line between being friendly and choosing the right words to put out in the tabloids? 25:00 - Jamie asks are the tabloids factual? 26:00 Doug asks Dibs if she ever ran into any circumstances where celebrities were trying to get their names back into the tabloids? 37:22 - Dibs, who are your favorite couples this season? What do you think is going to happen with the adoption vs biological kids situation because Amelia definitely wants children? 42:46 - What are your thoughts on Henry and Christina? 46:55 - Jamie asks what Dibs thinks of the fact that Woody has admitted that he has cheated before? 51:11 - What do you think about Miles and Karen? Until next week, wear your masks, wash your hands, and stay tuned! We love you guys lots! And thank you to our sponsor: Native Deodorant - Go to or use promo code hmcp at checkout to get 20% off your first order! Jonas Paul Eyewear - Save 15% off on a new pair of prescription glasses by using the code COOLPARENTS15 at Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
We are SUPER blessed to have Sangela Martins, mama of 2, wife, and ovarian cancer survivor on HMCP today! Sangela’s story is unique because when she was pregnant with her second kiddo, she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer after doctors spotted a cyst on her ovary at her 14-week pregnancy scan. She and her daughter fought through it and now she has a beautiful baby and is cancer-free! We are SO happy for her! Sangela uses her platform to spread awareness about ovarian cancer and we hope that it helps any ladies right now that are fighting a similar battle!   Before we bring Sangie on, Doug and Jamie talk about the option of name changes, their recent trip back to Jamie’s hometown (the family got to meet Hendrix!!), the struggles during Jamie’s childhood, and the passing away of Jamie’s step-dad. Jamie shares about how proud she is of her siblings breaking the cycle!   Doug and Jamie also chat about the new season of MAFS and share who their favorite couple is!    Show Notes:   23:29 - Sangela shares how she found out she had ovarian cancer and what it was like finding that out while pregnant. 34:21 - Doug, Jamie and Sangie talk about how in a way her daughter inside had saved her life! Doug asks if there was ever a chance that the treatments could have hurt the baby. 38:14 - Jamie asks how long did she have to have chemo while pregnant?  38:47 - Jamie asks if there were any sort of side effects she had while being pregnant? 39:51 - Doug asks if Sangie was always planning to do an unmedicated birth? 42:06 - Jamie asks what was the toughest part of the whole situation? 43:44 - Jamie asks Sangie to share what she would say to someone going through a similar situation? 50:22 - Next week on the podcast we DISH all about MAFS!   Be kind to yourself this week. Love you ALL.     Sangela’s Instagram:   And thank you to our sponsor:   Jonas Paul Eyewear - Save 15% off on a new pair of prescription glasses by using the code COOLPARENTS15 at Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
We are SUPER excited to share this podcast episode with you guys! We got the opportunity to talk with Harold and Rachel Earls from the Earls Family Vlogs on YouTube! Guys, they are SO incredibly inspiring! They are authors, youtubers, and parents to Wyatt and Leo. Rachel spends her time vlogging and running her successful business, Earl’s Family Foundation. Captain Harold is an active duty Army Officer currently serving as the commander of the guard of the tomb of the unknown soldier. Their YouTube channel has over ½ a million subscribers and its where they love God, love people, make a difference, and they are thankful!    They come on to the podcast to chat about Harold climbing Mt. Everest, married life, their new book coming out, and so much more! But before we bring them on, Doug and Jamie take turns answering some thought provoking questions!     Show Notes: 02:16 - Doug and Jamie answer “3000 questions.” Well not really 3000, but they answer some questions that you may not know! :) Question 1: What is your idea of perfect happiness? 05:23 - Question 2: What is your greatest fear? 06:34 - Question 3: What is the trait you most deplore in yourself? 08:17 - Question 4: What’s your greatest extravagance? 09:35 - Question 5: What’s your current state of mind? 10:11 - Question 6: What’s the most under-rated virtue? 12:26 - Question 7: On what occasion do you lie? 14:51 - Question 8: What do you most dislike about your appearance? 16:42 - Question 9: Which living person do you most despise? 17:24 - Question 10: What is the quality you most like in a man? 18:59 - Question 11: Which words or phrases do you most overuse? 20:06 - Question 12: What or who is the greatest love of your life? 20:42 - Question 13: When and where were you happiest? 23:22 - Question 14: Which talent would you most like to have? 32:02 - Welcome to the show, Harold and Rachel! Rachel shares about the Earl’s Family Foundation. 33:51 - The Earl’s talk about their newly released book, A Higher Calling, which made the national bestselling list! 33:46 - Jamie asks them to share about their journey together. 36:02 - Doug asks what was the biggest challenge gearing up for Mt. Everest? 38:56 - Doug asks about their mission to draw attention to veteran suicide and people facing PTSD. 40:02 - Jamie asks what advice do they have for anyone who is anxious or fearful? 42:58 - Jamie asks them to share what helps to maintain their strong relationship with each other? 47:38 - Doug asks when they started to feel a sense of community with their YouTube channel? 50:18 - Doug asks if Harold always wanted to go to West Point? 52:30 - The Earls chat about their book release and the events surrounding it and why they waited to release the book. 55:49 - Doug asks what’s next for the Earls Family?   Have a great week, everyone! Chat again soon!     Rachel’s Instagram: Harold’s Instagram: Earl’s Family YouTube: Earl’s Family Website for their book:   And thank you to our sponsors: Jonas Paul Eyewear - Save 15% off on a new pair of prescription glasses by using the code COOLPARENTS15 at   Betabrand - Get 25% off your first order for a limited time at Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
We are SO lucky to have the amazingly beautiful Liz Sandoz with us on the podcast today! She’s a birth doula, she’s a podcaster of Miraculous Mamas, a wife, and a former Bachelor contestant. Liz’s podcast is all about empowering women through education and storytelling. She aims to bring light to the trying to conceive community and different pregnancy journeys in general and she also is pregnant herself and due in just a few weeks!   Welcome, Liz! Before we bring Liz on, Doug and Jamie have some fun playing this or that and learning new things! 😜     Show Notes:    3:34 - Doug and Jamie talk about their interest in the Howard Stern Show. 6:55 - Jamie shares that she is trying to add fun into her life because she has ranked for PPD. 10:48 - Doug and Jamie play a game of this or that! 22:52 - Welcome to Hot Marriage. Cool Parents, Liz! 23:04 - Jamie asks: What happened to her 1st podcast, Babes and Babies? 23:38 - Jamie asks: What was it like to be on the Bachelor? 26:25 - Doug asks: Did the Bachelor experience make Liz think about her future husband more? Did it help with getting more in the mindset of stability? 28:51 - Doug asks: What was her birth plan before the pandemic? Has it changed? And what is she doing now? 32:24 - Jamie asks: Can you explain what the difference is between a midwife and a doula and why doulas are so important? 39:37 - Doug asks: What is the spouse’s role during labor? 42:07 - Jamie asks: How have you been in limiting anxiety during your pregnancy? What are some things you have done? 44:31 - Jamie asks: What do you have planned for yourself in the last couple months before your baby comes? 46:54 - Next week on the podcast, the Earl Family! They are YouTubers with a very inspirational story! Stay tuned!   Please stay well, everyone! 😘   Liz’s Instagram: Miraculous Mama’s Instagram: Miraculous Mama’s Blog:   And thank you to our sponsor: Nutrafol: You can grow thicker, healthier hair by going to and using promo code HMCP and new customers will get 20% off – this is their best offer available anywhere. Plus FREE shipping on EVERY order! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
We’re so glad you guys LOVED Kristin and Deena from Big Little Feelings! We didn’t get to share all of the questions we discussed last week, so here are the other parts to the interview! We cannot stop talking about how helpful these ladies are and just how much they have saved our SANITY!   Show Notes:   02:30 - Jamie shares that there is a different dynamic in this MAFS season! Don’t miss it! 03:14 - Jamie asks if it is good or bad to try to manipulate your kids into doing something? She uses the example of Doug whining to convince Henley to take a bite of food. 07:44 - What can we do about all the whining from our toddlers? 08:45 - Kristin and Deena share about the 10 minute miracle. 09:29 - Doug and Jamie talk about how even adults need a 10 minute miracle! Or maybe even 15 minutes! 10:17 - Jamie asks how do you know when your child is ready to potty train and what advice do you have for success? 15:11 - Doug asks what are your thoughts on rewarding kids during potty training? 17:28 - Doug asks if they know if the poop fairy comes to NJ? 😆 17:52 - Jamie asks what is their number one piece of advice when it comes to discipline? 18:10 - The #1 tip is never try to teach the lesson in an emotionally heightened moment! 19:38 - Kristin and Deena share how to calmly talk to your child when they are frustrated. 20:10 - Kristin and Deena share about their upcoming toddler course they have coming soon! 21:05 - One final question, what is the best advice for sleep training your toddler? 27:12 - Next week on the podcast is Liz Sandoz! She was on the Bachelor, and she is currently a doula! We are gonna ask her all sorts of questions - you don’t want to miss it!   Like we say every week! Please think of others and wear a mask! 😘 Big Little Feelings Instagram - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Doug and I aren’t always on the same page when it comes to parenting. We really try to make the rules together and stick to them so that we are a united front with these kids, but sometimes we find ourselves in situations where we literally have no idea what to do!    We are SUPER lucky this week to be able to have toddler EXPERTS, Kristin and Deena, on the podcast this week! Deena is a child therapist and a parent coach, and Kristin is a momma of two toddlers. Together they share the most PRACTICAL tips for handling toddlers on their Instagram page, Big Little Feelings!  Welcome to Hot Marriage. Cool Parents, Kristin and Deena! We’re so glad you are joining us!!!   Show Notes: 00:21 - Henley Grace is here on the podcast to chat with you! 04:00 - Jamie shares an update from her 6 weeks postpartum appointment and shares the current information on her being HPV positive. 07:58 - Doug and Jamie share that if you would like to talk about your story in an anonymous way, comment on Instagram! 08:13 - Jamie shares that it is important that we share our stories because otherwise no one will feel comfortable enough to get treatment! 10:24 - Jamie shares that she found out that she has a cyst on her vaginal wall that doesn’t hurt so she is leaving it there for now! 16:53 - It’s time to welcome on Deena and Kristin to the show! 17:00 - Jamie asks the toddler experts their advice on transitioning a toddler from a crib to a toddler bed. 19:33 - Doug asks what signs do you look for or are there any tips for preparing your toddler’s mind for the switch? 24:02 - Doug shares that no one could have prepared for teaching kids at home during quarantine. He asks what are recommendations as to how many activities parents should be doing at home with their toddlers? Are there too many activities? 27:02 - Doug asks, what are some ways to respond to a child that will only say no?  30:50 - Jamie shares how thankful she is for their Instagram page which gives daily nuggets of wisdom. 31:33 - Jamie asks what is the right parental reaction to when a child doesn’t respond to the this or that option? 33:22 - Doug gets vulnerable and shares about a parenting struggle he recently had with Henley. 35:57 - Next week on the podcast we answer WILD questions about us! It’s gonna be a fun one!   Wear your masks, people! Let’s kick this pandemic! Thank you to our sponsors: The Daily Smile Podcast - Anyone looking for a pick-me-up or stories that will remind you of how good people can be, subscribe to The Daily Smile hosted by Nikki Boyer on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or the Wondery app. It’s guaranteed to leave you with a smile on your face! Native Deodorant - Make the switch to Native today by going to or use promo code hmcp at checkout to get 20% off your 1st order! Big, Little Feelings Instagram - Big Little Feelings website - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit
Comments (21)

Yasmin Ayoub

Wooow Jamie, you are doing amazing! motherhood, Podcasts, Instagram! You need to give yourself a break! I really feel for you and I identify with a lot of the worries you have, I'm learning so much from you for when I get pregnant with how to manage emotions and fears. I love that Doug is so soo encouraging and supportive and that's his role you don't have to feel bad for him he is there rooting for you 👍🏾stay strong and ride the wave, you got this! 👏🏾X

Jun 1st

Erica Hanson Brown

Wow! I learned a lot about both of you this episode.

Feb 4th

Erica Hanson Brown

Did Douglas say vape??? Instead of smoking in the show he vapes now????

Dec 16th
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Kara Sander

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I had to leave 10 stars, I've been following Doug and Jamie since episode 1, season 1 of MAFS, I was rooting for you so hard, Jamie crying over being paired with Doug and Doug fell in love at first sight with Jamie. The moment Jamie fell in love with Doug caught on camera made me cry, I watched it over and over because I could feel it. I have followed every step,from the beginning, to sweet Johnathan, from one miscarriage to the next, to little miss Henley Grace, to the baby BOY, (My prediction) coming in may, I've cried, laughed and prayed for you. I absolutely adore you 3 and the love you have for each other, Jamie's raw emotion that you don't even try to hide is so inspiring. I follow you on every platform, and listen to your podcasts and watch your YouTube videos and I am so excited today is the day to find out the gender of your sweet baby!! I have to stay online all day so I know when you post it! you guys are so amazing, God bless you guys and keep doing what you do because you inspire people all over the world and don't even know it! much love to you and your beautiful family 💗💗💗💙💙💙

Nov 25th
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Karen Ceccofiglio

enjoy listen to your podcast. always very interesting

Nov 25th
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Kari Helal

I'm at work listening to your podcast via headphones, and the moonwalk backwards comment had me giggling to myself. love listening to you two.

Nov 20th
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Kari Helal

Jamie, you did so good here and totally relate with you...I feel I am very socially awkward and don't always know how to keep a conversation going.

Nov 19th

Krista R Hanner

I've never crapped on the bathroom floor but I have crapped myself numerous times since having gastric sleeve and experiencing dumping syndrome. I've cleaned myself in public bathrooms and thrown out my underwear there numerous times. I started carrying wet wipes and a spare pair of underwear in my purse, lol.

Oct 18th
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Hannah N'Jared Pepper

Doug and Jamie are so real, hilarious and down to earth. I have been following them since MAFS. I love how they compliment each others stregnths and weaknesses (not that you are weak but if one is weak in one area the other is strong). I love how Castbox has their episodes a day before they come out to everyone else. It definetely makes my Thursdays better and more enjoyable. I also love listening to them and following their lives. It makes me think that if I lived close to Jamie we would be Best Frieamily!!! @hotmarriagecoolparents @jamieotis

Apr 29th

Kaley Hazell

Hi Doug and Jamie! I love love love you both and have been following you both since MAFS. Your podcast is one of the few that I consistently listen to. I appreciate how open and honest you both are and how engaged you are with your frans. Love you both and keeping my fingers crossed for another baby Hehner. @jamieotis @DougHehner #rainbowbaby

Apr 18th

Michelle Ruby

AJ hates not being in control of the situation! And he knew that they were all going to be there that's what the dinner was all about. He really needs to control his outbursts or its gonna drive Stephanie away.

Mar 19th


Best thing my sister in law told me is that a parent never forgets any children they've had and it's okay to celebrate their motherhood and fatherhood on mother's or Father's day by recognizing those children they have and have lost. It won't "remind" them of anything they don't already know and think about.

Mar 12th

Stephanie Nicole Gregersen

just had my 2nd pregnancy and 1st ectopic pregnancy where I lost my baby and left fallopian tube

Jan 23rd

Jessica Danielle

I ❤ y'alls honesty, very down to earth. #momlife #wehaveallbeenthere #poopstation

Dec 30th

Libby N Mark Coker

CONGRATS to our growing FRANILY! So excited for y'all! ❤

Dec 26th

Kelli Baum


Dec 25th
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