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It's weird only podcasting once a month, but boy do we have a LOT of information and news to throw at ya. We go over everything that happened with Hendrix's seizure (and some things we have found that help in the moment), give an update on baby Jayme, talk about what it's like to live in an RV, answer a frans question about when we first felt like we were the ones for each other, and SO MUCH MORE! You definitely are gonna wanna tune in to this episode because we aren't holding anything back, even about Jamie's most recent news with not being host of Unfiltered. And thank you to our awesome sponsors: KiwiCo - Use promo code HMCP and get 50% off your first month at kiwico.com. Native Deodorant - Stay merry, happy, and fresh this holiday season! Go to NativeDeodorant.com and use code HMCP to get 20% off your first purchase! Girlfriend Collective - Get $25 off $100 or more when you go to girlfriend.com/hotmarriage! June's Journey - Are you ready to awaken your inner detective? Download June's Journey free today on the Apple App Store or Google Play! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Shewee it has been a while! SO much has happened and Doug is here to tell you the good, bad and DISGUSTING about living in an RV 😅 It has been QUITE the adjustment but I think we are getting there! 🤞🏻 Doug is also ready to answer a fran’s question about whether he has met any of my exes! 😳 We are really thankful for all those who have come over to our Patreon and invite anyone else to come that wants to join our super fun community there ❤️ here’s the link! patreon.com/hangingwiththehehners Thank you SO much to our sponsors this week: DBS Alliance - To learn more about how you can start conversations about mental health and suicide in your community, visit dbsalliance.org/sucicide-prevention gohenry - Get started at gohenry.com and get one month free with promo code HMCP  KiwiCo - Scare up some fun this Halloween with KiwiCo! Redefine learning with play - explore hands-on projects that build confidence, creativity, and critical thinking skills. Get 50% off your first month plus FREE shipping on ANY crate line with code HMCP at kiwico.com.  Girlfriend Collective - Get $25 off your purchase of $100 or more when you go girlfriend.com/hotmarriage. Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/jamieotisanddoughehner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In today’s episode, we fill you in on the events that led up to my nephew Jayme in the hospital. In chronological order, we go through each step of the way until we reached my family in upstate New York to provide as much support as possible.  You’ll also hear how and why we started a Go Fund Me for my nephew and how much we appreciate each and every one of you. We discuss how my sister and her family are dealing with this tragic situation and how they are moving forward. On a much lighter note, we also introduce our new venture into launching a Patreon page to stay connected with all of you! Doug also opens up about how he feels being a stay-at-home dad from a voice memo question from one of our frans.  And thank you to our sponsors: DBS Alliance - To learn more about how you can start conversations about mental health and suicide in your community, visit dbsalliance.org/suicide-prevention Girlfriend Collective - Get $25 off purchases of $100 or more when you go to girlfriend.com/hotmarriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In today’s episode, we get candid about a time when divorce was in the cards for us and share how our couple’s therapist made us aware that it wasn’t realistic to count on one person to be everything to each of us. You’ll hear how our therapist managed to identify that Doug’s habit of speaking in an announcer’s voice is stonewalling, and how she showed us that it is damaging to our relationship. The purpose of this podcast is to connect with you! We tell you how we learn and grow from your contribution and answer a listener question about why the producers of Married at First Sight paired us with one another, before telling you what we are constantly learning from one another. We discuss the guy Jamie dated before she met Doug and the story of how we are still friends with the girl Doug lost his virginity to. Jamie records a voice note after a session with a couple’s therapist and shares her thoughts on boundaries, and how her childhood has shaped who she is today. One of the main things we hope you take from this episode is that spreading yourself too thin serves nobody, least of all you! Please join us for some powerful insights from our personal journey today. Key Points From This Episode: How our therapist helped save our marriage from the brink of divorce. What we learned from therapy: you can’t count on one person to be everything. How Jamie used the voice recorder on her phone as a form of therapy. Doug’s ‘announcer voice’ and how this stonewalls Jamie in situations of conflict. How you can get in touch via email or social media with your questions. The main aim of Hot Marriage Cool Parents, which is to connect with you! Doug’s endorsement of Manly Bands and their range that you can customize. Listener question: what did the producers find compatible about Doug and Jamie? How Doug has shown Jamie how to get comfortable in her own skin and how Jamie has taught Doug to have drive about everything he does. Jamie shares why the person she dated before Doug was a great guy, but not suited to her. How Doug stayed friends with the girl he lost his virginity to. Jamie’s voice note that she recorded in her car after a couple’s therapy session. How finding the right fit in a therapist has been a huge game changer for us. How putting yourself last doesn’t make you reliable, but is a way to try to get the love and acceptance of people around you. The effect of having no boundaries, which is resentment. How having boundaries benefits absolutely everyone in your life. The story of how Jamie’s mother turned to drugs and put her family’s needs aside. How she realized that setting boundaries helps her please herself and put her family first. What Jamie identified about spreading herself too thin: that she’s no good to anyone, including herself! For All Things HMCP, Check Out Our Instagram Handles: Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. — https://www.instagram.com/hotmarriagecoolparents/ Jamie — https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/ Doug — https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/ And Thank You to Our Sponsors: Manly Bands - Get 21% off plus a free silicone ring by going to manlybands.com/hotmarriage DBS Alliance - To learn more about how you can start conversations about mental health and suicide in your community, visit dbsalliance.org/suicide-prevention  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
For all the MAFS fans out there, guess who we have on the podcast this week! Yup it's the beautiful, lovely, BOSS BABE, Rachel DeAlto! Not only was she the favorite expert to many couples on MAFS, she is also an author of her new book, Relatable which comes out on September 7! Rachel has also been featured on the Today Show, TedX, Kate Plus Date .... aaand she's the official person for Match.com! On top of ALL of that she's an amazing momma! What an honor that she wanted to come onto HMCP! Rachel is passionate about people, and has worked with organizations and individuals worldwide to help them develop their leadership skills, improve teams, and create stronger interpersonal relationships. In today’s episode, we talk about how to improve your social skills in every setting, including networking, dating, and more, especially with the increased social awkwardness that came with the pandemic. Rachel shares some tips for diving into the world of online dating, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and open mindedness, and we also talk candidly about how to turn acquaintances into friends and build relationships bu having the courage to let your guard down and be vulnerable. We also touch on the shifts Rachel has noticed in the dating world during COVID and her tips for your dating app bio, as well as where you can find her book, Relatable, and how you can get a free 15-minute coaching session with her! Make sure not to miss this, dare we say, relatable, conversation with relationship expert and our friend, Rachel DeAlto! Key Points From This Episode: • We respond to a voice memo from Holly about triggers and remembrance. [0:03:45] • Find out what Rachel has been up to since Married at First Sight a few years ago. [0:18:33] • How she became a ‘relationship expert’, which she says she fell into by accident. [0:21:24] • Some insider information from an expert’s perspective about how the format of Married at First Sight has shifted. [0:23:24] • Hear why Rachel left the show and her relationship with Dr. Jessica Griffin. [0:27:04] • Rachel shares her most memorable moment from working on the show. [0:31:41] • What led her to work at Match.com; how she hoped to making dating better. [0:32:30] • Some of the shifts Rachel has observed in dating during the pandemic. [0:35:52] • Advice for diving into the world of online dating: take three to five pictures, keep your bio short and sweet, and stay positive! [0:37:44] • The importance of showing up authentically; be who you are, know what you want. [0:41:10] • Learn about Rachel’s book, relatable; how to connect in a hyperconnected world. [0:45:00] • Tips for building relationships, starting with having the courage to be vulnerable. [0:50:33] • The inspiration in being relatable; ask yourself what you are most proud of. [0:56:12] • Advice for starting a conversation with someone if you are shy: don’t overthink it! [1:00:27] For All Things HMCP, Check Out Our Instagram Handles: Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. — https://www.instagram.com/hotmarriagecoolparents/ Jamie — https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/ Doug — https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/ And Thank You to Our Sponsors: Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance — Visit https://www.dbsalliance.org/suicide-prevention to learn how to start conversations about mental health and suicide in your community. Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Rachel DeAlto — https://www.racheldealto.com/ Rachel DeAlto on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/racheldealto/ Rachel DeAlto on Twitter — https://twitter.com/racheldealto Rachel DeAlto on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/racheldealto/ Rachel DeAlto on TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/@racheldealto relatable — https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1982171081 Big Little Feelings — https://biglittlefeelings.com/ Dr. Jessica Griffin — http://www.drjessica.com/ Match.com — https://match.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is such a special episode of Hot Marriage. Cool Parents, that Jamie called in from the doctor’s parking lot just to be with us! Today, we have the pleasure of welcoming a very important guest with whom we have interacted in the past but never had the opportunity to sit down and speak! She's the author of The Emotional Entrepreneur, co-host of the Okay Sis Podcast, host of the SCOUT Podcast, Founder of Scout's Agency, and a trailblazing entrepreneur, Scout Sobel! Scout’s success did not come without her fair share of trials and tribulations. She has been living with bipolar disorder for the past 15 years, which once rendered her unable to hold down a job, go to college, or function from day to day. With a focus on self-development work, Scout now successfully manages her bipolar disorder and uses her mental health healing journey to inspire other women to take radical responsibility for their emotions, live a life of purpose, and follow their entrepreneurial calling. In this episode, we find out why Scout calls her bipolar disorder her most sacred internal compass, how you can empower those who feel helpless to take control over their own lives, and how Scout cultivated the foundational belief that she is safe in her emotions, as well as what you can expect from her book, The Emotional Entrepreneur, and some of the non-negotiable mental health tools she puts into practice on a daily basis, plus a whole lot more! Even if you don’t struggle with mental health issues, there is so much insight, inspiration, and practical advice that you can take away from this conversation, so make sure not to miss it! Tune in today. Key Points From This Ep: • Scout’s #1 tip for women entrepreneurs: celebrate every and any win possible! • How taking radical responsibility for her emotions kickstarted her entrepreneurial journey. • Find out what she means when she calls her bipolar disorder a ‘sacred internal compass’. • Hear about some of the free resources and support groups available to you. • The value of implementing a daily routine that works for you, even if you are a busy parent. • Scout emphasizes the importance of owning where you say ‘yes’ in your life; say no more! • How you can take control over 30 minutes of your day to concentrate on nourishing rest. “Being proud of yourself is my number one tip. Celebrating any and every win possible is the way to move forward.” — Scout Sobel For All Things HMCP, Check Out Our Instagram Handles: Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. — https://www.instagram.com/hotmarriagecoolparents/ Jamie — https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/ Doug — https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/ And Thank You to Our Sponsors: GoHenry — Teach your kids to make sound financial decisions with gohenry.com and get one month free with the promo code, HMCP. ReadySlim — Try their 28-day detox tea and get 25 percent off your first order, plus a free collapsible water bottle at readyslim.com/hotmarriage. Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Scout Sobel — https://www.scoutsobel.com/ Scout Sobel on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/scoutsobel/ Okay Sis Podcast — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/okay-sis/id1434353917 SCOUT Podcast — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/scout/id1505252696 The Emotional Entrepreneur — https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578951754 NAMI Support Groups — https://www.nami.org/Support-Education/Support-Groups Depressed Anonymous — https://depressedanon.com/ Untamed — https://www.amazon.com/Untamed-Glennon-Doyle-Melton/dp/1984801252 Moleskine — https://www.moleskine.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Lisa Bilyeu, who is literally SUCH a boss babe and honestly someone I really look up to in the business world is our guest today! She’s the cofounder and president of the company Impact Theory AND she’s the co-founder of the billion-dollar brand Quest nutrition. She also gets in front of the camera to chat all things female empowerment. Doug and I are super excited to chat all the things with her because she is literally SO inspiring!  Tuning in you’ll hear Lisa share some of the valuable lessons she’s learned about shame and confidence, like why combating shame and establishing confidence is not something you arrive at but is more like a muscle that needs to be trained and maintained. We delve into the importance of identifying future goals, how to do it if you don’t know where to start, and why that internal knowledge is crucial to set boundaries. Later, Lisa opens up about the intense physical debilitation she experienced after years of not listening to her body and building her business, and what recovery meant for her. She shares how she had to reassess her values after her health crisis and why going forward she is keenly aware of whether her work aligns with her purpose. We loved having Lisa on the show and were blown away by her honesty and wisdom. Tune in today for a wealth of insight, compassion, and meaningful advice! Before we bring Lisa on, we chat about how we literally just got back from a crazy heated therapy sesh with our couples therapist where we talked about support systems and how Doug and I have big issues on communication. We came to realize that I don't really have a support system - I don't have parents to go to, and I can't go to Doug's family if I am having issues with my marriage. I've come to realize that my girlfrans feel like my support system! This podcast is like THERAPY for me. Show Notes: 17:25 - Welcome to HMCP, Lisa! 22:25 - Overcoming shame is a muscle. Facing inadequacies and not letting ego get in the way is something we have to keep training! 24:30 - We talk about our goals of what we are trying to get to in 2 sentences 26:48 - Was there a turning point in your life or what was that thing that kind of got you over the edge to start you on that routine of working on yourself and empowering women? 37:13 - What helped make the transition into sharing your story and empowering women? 45:20 - What would you say to the person who says I don't know what my goals should be - where do I even start? 54:08 - What were your goals at the age of 14? 58:00 - Tell us about your book! "People think confidence is the end goal...but confidence isn't your end goal. Confidence is your TOOL to get to the end goal! .... Focus on the end goal of impacting others!!!!" - Lisa Bilyeu Lisa's Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/  Impact Theory Website: https://impacttheory.com/  And Thank You to Our Sponsor: Ritual - Get key nutrients–without the B.S.! Get 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/HMCP to start Ritual today.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In today’s episode, we pull back the curtain on Jamie and Doug's past, and some of the experiences in her and Doug's life which have shaped how they both view and interact with the world. Jamie shares the guidance that her therapist has given her regarding managing her workload in order to protect her mental health. Also, we take a look at Jamie’s previous relationships and the influence that these have had on her. On a lighter note, prompted by a listener’s comment, we also pull back the curtain on Doug and Jamie’s experiences in the world of reality TV! We also chat about Jamie's recent break from social media and why it was important. We are so appreciative of all the support that you have shown us during this time. We truly have the BEST listeners! Key Points From This Episode: The mask that Doug usually wears. An explanation of what batch-work is.  What we are hoping to achieve through the question-and-answer sessions with our listeners.  Jamie shares a story about the brand that duped her, and what it taught her about collaborations. Advice that Jamie was given from her therapist about how to work in a way that protects her mental health. Where the phrase “unveiling the curtain” comes from. The various reality shows that Doug tried out for.  How Jamie ended up on the Bachelor.  Why Jamie’s ex-boyfriend was so instrumental in determining how she deals with issues in relationships. Jamie runs us through some of the unhealthy relationships she had in the past. Doug delves into what his relationship with his ex-girlfriend was like. Jamie's recent break from social media including an audio clip of her story from Instagram For all things HMCP check out our Instagram handles: Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. - https://www.instagram.com/hotmarriagecoolparents/ Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/ Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/ And thank you to our sponsor: Native Deodorant — Visit https://www.nativedeo.com/HMCP or use promo code HMCP at checkout to get 20% off your first order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Welcome back to Hot Marriage. Cool Parents! In this week’s episode, we catch up with both Doug and Jamie. We are currently still in Cortland, New York visiting Jamie’s family, and have had to recover from an unfortunate bout of illness that’s been doing the rounds! Life is still crazy and we are both very much looking forward to being in one place for more than a few days! After a quick rundown of how our family has been doing, we spend some time on feedback from our listeners. Doug gives a shout-out to an awesome review and shares why he’s so grateful when fans connect with him. We also hear a voice note from one of our listeners, who shares a painful story of ectopic pregnancy, and Jamie takes the time to unpack the issue and empathize with how difficult it can be to deal with. Next, we delve into the question of the benefits and challenges of being open and vulnerable about your struggles, especially when they’re painful and intimate. We discuss how Jamie’s therapist has helped with insights that have contributed to a healthier dynamic between us and what our hopes are going forward. Join us today as we reflect on life, relationships, and much more! Key Points From This Episode: We hear from Jamie about her time in Los Angeles doing Unfiltered. Doug shares his shout-out for the week. Why Doug and Jamie are grateful when fans connect with them. We hear from listeners about their struggles and how the podcast has impacted them. Jamie breaks down what it means to have an ectopic pregnancy. Doug and Jamie discuss what it’s like for their lives to be so public. Jamie empathizes with a listener who went through an ectopic pregnancy. Why it’s important to be vulnerable and open in your life. Doug shares his struggles with being open and vulnerable and how communication has helped him. How Jamie’s therapist helped them find a healthier dynamic as a couple. How the isolation of COVID 19 has impacted Doug’s opportunities for being open and communicative with friends. Jamie’s hopes that Doug will become less closed off and be willing to share his inner life with her more. Why Doug believes his and Jamie’s personalities complement one another. Some of the details of their visit to Cortland, New York, Jamie’s hometown. Jamie and Doug give a sneak peek into next week’s episode and encourage listeners to send voice notes. For all things HMCP check out our Instagram handles: Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. - https://www.instagram.com/hotmarriagecoolparents/ Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/ Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/ Become Body Positive - https://www.instagram.com/becomebodypositive And thank you to our sponsors: GoHenry — Teach your kids the value of money starting today! Go to gohenry.com and use promo code HMCP to get your first month free! Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Couples' Cam — https://www.mylifetime.com/shows/married-at-first-sight-couples-cam  Big Little Feelings — https://biglittlefeelings.com/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Join us on our car ride to Upstate NY to visit Jamie's family after not seeing them for SO LONG! Jamie and Doug talk about her past and how she and her siblings have overcome so much, and Jamie also shares her exciting conversation with her makeup artist Alisha. She gives some REALLY fantastic tips on skincare and also she and Jamie give some good true crime suggestions! Don't miss this ep! And thank you to our sponsors: Credit Karma - Take the stress away and use Credit Karma today! Go to creditkarma.com/podcast to learn more and find offers tailored just for you or you can see your offers on the Credit Karma app.   Agency - Do what I did and try out Agency – the personalized, anti-aging skincare that evolves with you! Go to withagency.com/ hotmarriage for a free 30-day trial, just pay $4.95 for shipping and handling!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
So Jamie is out in LA (by the time this airs she will *hopefully* be home!) so Doug is going solo for this ep, but if you are a MAFS fan in the least, this is the episode for you! Doug brings his brother Matt on the podcast to chat allllll about how they felt when Doug first told them he was going on the show, their first impressions of Jamie, and SO much more!!!! This is a super insightful episode into some parts of Doug and Jamie's life that haven't been shared much if at all! Also, Doug spends time remembering their sweet firstborn angel baby, Johnathan Edward, as well as shares updates from moving back to New Jersey and how school is going for Henley and Hendrix. He also chats about how learning love languages has greatly helped his and Jamie's intimacy struggles. And thank you to our sponsors: Ritual - Get key nutrients - WITHOUT the BS - Visit ritual.com/HMCP to start Ritual today and get 10% off during your 1st 3 months!  Gabi - Check out Gabi’s website today and put your policy to the test like we did! Get a better insurance with Gabi. It’s totally free to check and there’s literally NO OBLIGATION. Just go to gabi.com/hotmarriage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Welcome back to Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. with both Doug and Jamie for the second week in a row! By the time you hear this, we will be back in New Jersey, finally! Well....actually we miiiiiight be in LA filming... But anyway, our kids will be starting school soon, and we will have some time to breathe during the day! Kicking off today’s episode, Jamie speaks candidly about her nursing struggles and how she has had to consult virtually with a lactation consultant during COVID, and Doug shares some hilarious shenanigans from a day he had with the kids at the Ringling Brothers Circus Museum recently. We discuss the value of airing the skeletons in your closet and how helpful our couples’ therapist has been in addressing some of Jamie’s insecurities about thinking that Doug cheated on her, and we share some updates and ideas for sleep training and the value of having someone to talk to about your fears! Lots to chat about! Tune in today! For all things HMCP check out our Instagram handles: Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. - https://www.instagram.com/hotmarriagecoolparents/ Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/ Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/ And thank you to our sponsors: Lovevery — Take the guesswork out of your child’s play by choosing Lovevery today! Go to https://lovevery.com/hotmarriage to get free shipping! Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Couples' Cam — https://www.mylifetime.com/shows/married-at-first-sight-couples-cam  Big Little Feelings — https://biglittlefeelings.com/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Happy 4th of July everyone! We are super excited to hang out with you guys and just talk a little bit together almost like we are sitting with ya in your living room! This week we spend some time chatting about the Free Britney movement - what are your thoughts on it? Let us know by emailing teamjamie@jamieotis.com! Doug and Jamie also chat about Jamie's struggles to make friends and how things are going with getting the house ready to *hopefully* rent!! Thank you to our sponsors: gohenry - Get started at gohenry.com and get one free month with promo code HMCP. Credit Karma - Apply with confidence today! Just go to Credit Karma dot com slash podcast or the Credit Karma app. Agency - Go to WithAgency.com slash hotmarriage for a free 30-day trial, just pay $4.95 for shipping and handling! See WithAgency.com for all the details. Subject to consultation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Here at Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. we love finding guests to motivate us to be better spouses, partners, friends, parents, and the list goes on. We are always looking for people with who we really resonate, and Nate and Kaley Klemp are definitely one of those couples! Nate Klemp, Ph.D, and his wife Kaley have impressive education degrees behind their names. Nate received a Ph.D. from Princeton University and Kaley has a Masters in Sociology from Stanford University. Nate is a founding partner of the company, Mindful, and Kaley has been featured on TedX. Despite their skills in education, they often find themselves disagreeing about fairness in marriage, so they worked together to come up with a new model that is grounded on radical generosity and shared success and put those ideas in a book called The 80/80 Marriage. We sometimes struggle with this idea of fairness, especially with Doug becoming a stay-at-home dad, which is why we are SUPER excited to talk to Nate & Kaley allll about this! Before Nate & Kaley come on, Doug tells a crazy story about their day at the circus museum and gives an update on their plans to go back to New Jersey. 12:35 - Welcome to HMCP, Nate & Kaley! Can you share how you met? 13:40 - You talk about in your book and in interviews that there was a sort of "breaking point" in your marriage. Could you tell us a little bit about that and the point where you decided something had to give or something had to change? 16:23 - Is it as easy as a mathematical percentage? 23:07 - What were some of the steps that you guys took to get back on the right track? 24:38 - Could you share a little bit about radical generosity? 29:35 - During your research, was there anything else that was sort of eye-opening for you guys? 36:18 - So if there's a spouse that wants change, they recognize this change, but their partner is kind of selfish and refuses to see any of the issues - what advice do you have for that person? 39:46 - What's some advice that you would give to help couples improve on that control or if someone is struggling with letting go of control? 43:16 - What are some of the things that you guys recommend for couples that are just getting annoyed with each other? 48:59 - For any couples that are listening and realizing that they have some work to do, what would be a good 1st practical step forward? 50:50 - What was the radical gratitude that worked in your relationship moving forward? 53:11 - What are some of your favorite challenges to do live? Chat again with you guys soon! Until then, have a fantastic week! 80/80 Marriage Website - www.8080marriage.com 80/80 Marriage Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/8080marriage/ And thank you to our sponsor this week: Agency - Try out Agency – the personalized, anti-aging skincare that evolves with you! Go to withagency.com/hotmarriage for a free 30-day trial, just pay $4.95 for shipping and handling! See withagency.com for all the details. Subject to consultation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We're extremely excited to chat with our amazing guest today! Sarah Talbi was actually born without her arms and seriously this girl is SO inspiring to us! Jamie found her on Insta and she just truly amazes us with her positivity even in times of difficulty! She is a Youtube Boss babe and shares how she is able to do things like put on a bra, cook, brush her teeth, even paint beautiful pictures...all with her feet! It’s all so amazing! Happy Father's Day to all you amazing dads out there! 😊 Next week on the podcast we have Nate & Kaley Klemp who are marriage EXPERTS! Stay tuned because you guys are gonna like this one, too! 😊 For all things HMCP, check out our Instagram handles: Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. - https://www.instagram.com/hotmarriagecoolparents/ Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/ Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/ Sarah's Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcRttvE8IpP8T_STZIFrcSA Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saritalbi/ And thank you to our sponsors: Canva - Design like a pro with Canva Pro! Right now, you can get a FREE 45-day extended trial when you go to canva.me/hotmarriage. Credit Karma - Go to creditkarma.com/podcast to learn more and find offers tailored just for you or you can see your offers on the Credit Karma app. Apply with confidence today. gohenry - Get started at gohenry.com and get one free month with promo code HMCP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week we are excited to welcome Katy Chen Mazzara to Hot Marriage. Cool Parents! Katy is a certified financial coach, former journalist, award-winning documentary filmmaker, AND my former producer on the Bachelor!!! Now, Katy is helping creative, freedom seekers make MORE, worry less and achieve true financial freedom, so they can create the life of their dreams! We are spending LOTS of time today chatting about being on the Bachelor, what it's like behind the camera, and more! Money is a struggle for LITERALLY everyone, so Katy also shares some tips for our listeners to cause much less stress with finances! Before Katy comes on, Doug and Jamie chat about some financial struggles they have had through marriage. 35:21 - Welcome to HMCP, Katy! 35:39 - What was it like working on the Bachelor? 39:23 - Katy shares what she remembers about Jamie when she was on the Bachelor. 42:29 - Working on a show as popular as the Bachelor, when you go to leave the Bachelor is it seen as a positive show to be a producer on, or does it make a mark on your resume? 43:47 - Katy, Jamie, and Doug talk about whether the Bachelor is scripted as well as give some juicy info about behind the scenes at the Bachelor!! (46:45) 51:58 - Can you share with us a little bit about what made you transition to being a financial coach? 53:58 - What was it that made you want to leave production in general? 56:34 - Is there a certain number you need to have in a bank account in order to benefit from a financial coach like yourself? 57:20 - What are some of the strategies or tips that can actually help people become more free with their finances? 1:01:40 - For anyone interested who is struggling from the pandemic, but need financial help, how would you recommend going about this without the one-on-one coaching? Next week on the podcast we have the VERY inspiring Sarah Talbi - she was born without her arms and keeps the most positive attitude EVER! You definitely don't want to miss it! 🙂 For all things HMCP, check out our Instagram handles: Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. - https://www.instagram.com/hotmarriagecoolparents/ Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/ Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/ Katy's Website: https://www.katychenmazzara.com/ Katy's Financial Quiz: https://www.subscribepage.com/financialquiz Katy's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katychenmazzara/ And thank you to our sponsors: Talkspace - To match with a licensed therapist today, go to talkspace.com and make sure to use the code JAMIE to get $100 off your first month! Firstleaf - save time, money, and stress with Firstleaf - the wine club designed with YOU in mind! Join today and get 6 bottles of wine for $29.95 and free shipping! Just go to tryfirstleaf.com/hotmarriage. Ritual - Get key nutrients - WITHOUT the BS. Visit ritual.com/HMCP to start Ritual today and get 10% off during your 1st 3 months!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We've got Lavinia Brown back for part 2 this week! We are chatting more about healing the inner child and some practical ways to reparent our inner child that sometimes tries to take over. In the outro, Jamie shares her thoughts and opinions about the interview. Before we share the rest of the interview, Jamie shares her difficult and ongoing struggles with depression and thoughts of suicide. She talks about how it is important to try to help others because sometimes we all need a smile. (02:16) 13:14 - Can you share some practical ways that we can reparent our inner child? 17:35 - When you say that everything changes, what do you mean by that? What happens physically, emotionally, and mentally to the person once they are able to finally nurture their inner child? 21:14 - How do we make sure we nurture our children while they are living their inner child? 23:21 - Jamie & Lavinia discuss how racism is passed from generation to generation. 24:16 - Jamie shares that her mom got pregnant with her unexpectedly and apparently her grandpa said he thought Jamie might be black and to abort her because her mom didn't know who her father was and her grandfather didn't want to have a black kid in the family. 24:37 - Jamie shares that she thinks it's possible that some of her family may have been racist. Next week on the podcast we have Jamie's former Bachelor producer, Katy Chen Mazzara who is also a financial freedom coach and GURU to share about her and Jamie's time working together on the Bachelor as well as give practical financial tips! Don't miss it! 🙂 For all things HMCP, check out our Instagram handles: Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. - https://www.instagram.com/hotmarriagecoolparents/ Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/ Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/ Lavinia's Website: https://www.laviniabrown.com/ Lavinia's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laviniabrowncoaching/ And thank you to our sponsors: Ana Luisa Jewelry - Go treat yourself and your loved ones! Go to analuisa.com/hotmarriage and use the code hotmarriage to get 10% off! Lovevery - Take the guesswork out of your child’s play by choosing Lovevery today! You can get free shipping when you sign up to receive your play kits at lovevery.com/hotmarriage. Native Deodorant - Stay fresh and stay clean with Native! Go to NativeDeo.com/hmcp or use the promo code hmcp at checkout to get 20% off your first order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We are excited to welcome Lavinia Brown to HMCP this week! Lavinia Brown, who is helping mothers to heal the patterns that are keeping them stuck is our guest today! Lavinia is an ambitious, multitasking psychodynamic coach, supporting other women to find the commitment and courage to parent their ‘inner children’ and claim their adult voice. She’s also a momma to 3 who has both loved and hated motherhood. She has had to confront her own childhood trauma. Besides being SUPER helpful to others as a coach, she is quite the adventurer! So Jamie has lately been trying to figure out if some childhood trauma has been affecting our marriage relationship and we are excited this week to chat with Lavinia about how to reparent our inner child. We split the interview into 2 parts, so be sure to come back next week for Part 2! Before we share the interview, we chat about Jamie's upcoming birthday party! 21:42 - Welcome to HMCP, Lavinia! 21:55 - What caused you to even learn about how to heal your inner childhood trauma and how do you know that what you're offering is actually helpful? 25:01 - You said, "They didn't care for me the way that I needed to be cared for?" What's a good example of recognizing that in yourself and as you parent your kid? 33:10 - What do you do if you are trying to not mask your frustrations? Answers to "Can you share some practical ways that we can reparent our inner child?" and more in part 2 next week!!! For all things HMCP check out our Instagram handles: Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. - https://www.instagram.com/hotmarriagecoolparents/ Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/ Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/ Lavinia's Website: https://www.laviniabrown.com/ Lavinia's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laviniabrowncoaching/ And thank you to our sponsors: Ana Luisa Jewelry - Go treat yourself and your loved ones and go to analuisa.com/hotmarriage and use the code hotmarriage to get 10% off! Agency - Go to withagency.com/hotmarriage for a free 30-day trial, just pay $4.95 for shipping and handling! See withagency.com for all the details. Subject to consultation. Canva Pro - Design like a pro with Canva Pro! Go to canva.me/hotmarriage to get your FREE 45-day extended trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
So we really debated sharing some parts of this interview, but we always feel like it's really important AND needed these days to be transparent. So today we are sharing the good, the bad, and the ugly! We really hope this helps someone who is struggling ❤️ Before we share the interview, we give an update on house hunting in NJ, Hendrix's 1st Birthday Party, and much more! Don't miss next week's episode and for all things HMCP check out our Instagram handles: Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. - https://www.instagram.com/hotmarriagecoolparents/ Jamie - https://www.instagram.com/jamienotis/ Doug - https://www.instagram.com/doughehner/ Dr. Gertrude Lyon's Website: https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/ The moth(HER) Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mot-her/id1534581166 Dr. Gertrude's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drgertrudelyons/ And thank you to our sponsors: Rothy's - Upgrade your closet with washable, sustainable, stylish shoes and bags from Rothy’s. Head to Rothys.com/HMCP to find your new favorites today! June's Journey - Join 30 million fans across the globe and awaken your inner detective with June’s Journey. Download June’s Journey free today on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dr. Gertrude Lyons, the woman who is rewriting the mothercode, & helping women heal the mother wound is our guest today! Dr. Gertrude Lyons is a Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert with over 20 years of experience. Through her Rewriting The Mother Code initiative, which challenges the traditional notions of motherhood and womanhood, Dr. Lyons has become a national mothering revolutionary. She challenges the myths surrounding womanhood, mothering, and the very notion of what it means to be a mother. It’s Dr. Lyon’s belief that the concept that all women have a “mother code” instilled in them—which is the current model for mothering in our culture – she sees that as broken. It is limited, constricting, and disempowering. She questions preconceived beliefs and focuses on topics that will tap into the powerful femininity within all of us. She also hosts her own podcast, the mot(HER) Podcast. We got into some nitty gritty all about our marriage and relationship, so there is a part 2 to this episode that will be next week! ❤️❤️ Before Dr. Lyons comes on, Doug updates everyone on life with the Hehners including Hendrix's 1st birthday, spending time in New Jersey, and their hopes of being able to build their dream home! Thank you to our sponsors: Graf Lantz - Go to graf-lantz.com and get 20% off with the code MARRIAGE20. This offer will end on May 30th so go shop for your merino wool pieces or face masks now! Talkspace - To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com and make sure to use the promo code JAMIE to get $100 off your first month! gohenry - Just go to gohenry.com and get 1 month free with promo code HMCP.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Comments (21)

Yasmin Ayoub

Wooow Jamie, you are doing amazing! motherhood, Podcasts, Instagram! You need to give yourself a break! I really feel for you and I identify with a lot of the worries you have, I'm learning so much from you for when I get pregnant with how to manage emotions and fears. I love that Doug is so soo encouraging and supportive and that's his role you don't have to feel bad for him he is there rooting for you 👍🏾stay strong and ride the wave, you got this! 👏🏾X

Jun 1st
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Erica Hanson Brown

Wow! I learned a lot about both of you this episode.

Feb 4th
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Erica Hanson Brown

Did Douglas say vape??? Instead of smoking in the show he vapes now????

Dec 16th
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Kara Sander

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I had to leave 10 stars, I've been following Doug and Jamie since episode 1, season 1 of MAFS, I was rooting for you so hard, Jamie crying over being paired with Doug and Doug fell in love at first sight with Jamie. The moment Jamie fell in love with Doug caught on camera made me cry, I watched it over and over because I could feel it. I have followed every step,from the beginning, to sweet Johnathan, from one miscarriage to the next, to little miss Henley Grace, to the baby BOY, (My prediction) coming in may, I've cried, laughed and prayed for you. I absolutely adore you 3 and the love you have for each other, Jamie's raw emotion that you don't even try to hide is so inspiring. I follow you on every platform, and listen to your podcasts and watch your YouTube videos and I am so excited today is the day to find out the gender of your sweet baby!! I have to stay online all day so I know when you post it! you guys are so amazing, God bless you guys and keep doing what you do because you inspire people all over the world and don't even know it! much love to you and your beautiful family 💗💗💗💙💙💙

Nov 25th
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Karen Ceccofiglio

enjoy listen to your podcast. always very interesting

Nov 25th
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Kari Helal

I'm at work listening to your podcast via headphones, and the moonwalk backwards comment had me giggling to myself. love listening to you two.

Nov 20th
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Kari Helal

Jamie, you did so good here and totally relate with you...I feel I am very socially awkward and don't always know how to keep a conversation going.

Nov 19th
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Krista R Hanner

I've never crapped on the bathroom floor but I have crapped myself numerous times since having gastric sleeve and experiencing dumping syndrome. I've cleaned myself in public bathrooms and thrown out my underwear there numerous times. I started carrying wet wipes and a spare pair of underwear in my purse, lol.

Oct 18th
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Hannah N'Jared Pepper

Doug and Jamie are so real, hilarious and down to earth. I have been following them since MAFS. I love how they compliment each others stregnths and weaknesses (not that you are weak but if one is weak in one area the other is strong). I love how Castbox has their episodes a day before they come out to everyone else. It definetely makes my Thursdays better and more enjoyable. I also love listening to them and following their lives. It makes me think that if I lived close to Jamie we would be Best Frieamily!!! @hotmarriagecoolparents @jamieotis

Apr 29th
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Kaley Hazell

Hi Doug and Jamie! I love love love you both and have been following you both since MAFS. Your podcast is one of the few that I consistently listen to. I appreciate how open and honest you both are and how engaged you are with your frans. Love you both and keeping my fingers crossed for another baby Hehner. @jamieotis @DougHehner #rainbowbaby

Apr 18th
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Michelle Ruby

AJ hates not being in control of the situation! And he knew that they were all going to be there that's what the dinner was all about. He really needs to control his outbursts or its gonna drive Stephanie away.

Mar 19th
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Cuisine_Slate

Best thing my sister in law told me is that a parent never forgets any children they've had and it's okay to celebrate their motherhood and fatherhood on mother's or Father's day by recognizing those children they have and have lost. It won't "remind" them of anything they don't already know and think about.

Mar 12th
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Stephanie Nicole Gregersen

just had my 2nd pregnancy and 1st ectopic pregnancy where I lost my baby and left fallopian tube

Jan 23rd
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Jessica Danielle

I ❤ y'alls honesty, very down to earth. #momlife #wehaveallbeenthere #poopstation

Dec 30th
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Libby N Mark Coker

CONGRATS to our growing FRANILY! So excited for y'all! ❤

Dec 26th
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Kelli Baum

❤️❤️❤️

Dec 25th
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