Hotter Than Ever

“I’m in a phase of my life where I want to f*cking shine. I do not want to shrink.”Sometimes we just need to admit we’re mad.  While society may not always make space for women's anger, when we reflect on the challenges we face today,  it can be hard not to feel it. Why do women still carry the heaviest load of care in relationships? Why are we still criticized for our ambition and judged for maintaining our independence?In today’s conversation, producer Erica joins us as we dive into these questions and more. We’re not holding back, and we’re definitely in our feels. Here’s what we’re unpacking:Why women often bear the emotional labor in relationships, managing not just their own feelings but also the well-being and self-esteem of their partners.How patriarchy’s grip leaves women shouldering more at home, even in seemingly progressive partnerships.How the very traits that make women successful— independence, competence, and resilience— can be weaponized against us.Freeing ourselves to express anger to mitigate the build up of stress and resentment.Re-examining our relationships with men—not just as wives and mothers, but as individuals who deserve care and support too.Exploring financial freedom, communal living, and the pursuit of independence.The challenge of finding emotionally intelligent partners who respect boundaries.Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

“We need to understand that pleasure is not a luxury—it’s a necessity for sending good signals back to the brain.”When Dr. Nan Wise had a panic attack at just 21 years old, it sparked her lifelong fascination with the brain. Today, as a seasoned behavioral neuroscientist and sex therapist, Dr. Nan is at the forefront of research exploring the deep connection between sex, pleasure, and brain health, particularly as we age. Her studies have uncovered the vital role that orgasms play in boosting oxygen flow to the brain, underscoring the critical role pleasure plays in our overall well-being.Join Erin and Dr. Nan for an eye-opening conversation about the transformative power of pleasure and how it can help us cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others as we grow older.Pleasure isn't a luxury—it's essential for a healthy brain and maintaining well-being.Why many women experience better sex as they ageUnpacking elements of modern life that diminish our ability to experience genuine pleasure.The importance of engaging in pleasurable activities for managing anxiety, depression, and stress.Why active sexual desire isn't necessary for a healthy sex lifeTips to maintaining and ‘rebooting’ long-term relationships Cultivating an attuned relationship with your body and the things that bring you pleasureOUR GUEST: Dr. Nan Wise is a licensed psychotherapist, cognitive neuroscientist, certified sex therapist, and clinical hypnotherapist with 30 years of experience. Motivated by a deep curiosity about the brain's role in shaping moods and behaviors, she earned a Ph.D. in cognitive neuroscience from Rutgers-Newark in 2014. Her research, particularly her fMRI study on female orgasm, has filled critical gaps in understanding the neural basis of human sexuality, attracting international recognition. Dr. Nan’s journey is rooted in both personal and professional experiences, having faced anxiety from a young age and turning her challenges into a lifelong pursuit of emotional well-being.Want more Dr. Nan? Find her online and get a free consultation at https://askdoctornan.com and read her book Why Good Sex Matters. Follow her on: Instagram: @askdoctornan   X/Twitter: @askdoctornanFacebook: @AskDoctorNan    Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook:

If you’ve ever paid attention to female representation in Hollywood or the push for more women filmmakers in entertainment, you’ve likely encountered the work of Melissa Silverstein. As the founder of Women and Hollywood, one of the pioneering platforms advocating for gender diversity in the film industry, Melissa has been a driving force in this movement. She also co-founded the Athena Film Festival, a celebration of female-driven films, established the Girls Club, an online community for women creatives, and hosts the podcast In Her Voice, which offers a behind-the-scenes look at women who make films. A true trailblazer, Melissa has dedicated decades to elevating women and their stories and is now turning the page to focus on her own creative journey.Join Erin and Melissa as they delve into the importance of creating spaces that spotlight women’s stories and explore the opportunities that arise from challenging the status quo—especially the patriarchy. We discuss:The ongoing struggle for women’s stories and representation in the film industry.The crucial role of women behind the camera in bringing authentic, diverse narratives to the forefront of entertainment.Why it’s essential to see women, especially women of color, in powerful on-screen roles to shift societal attitudes and dismantle patriarchal structures.Expanding the conversation on gender representation in media to include trans and non-binary voices.The ongoing challenges of getting women’s stories made in Hollywood and the importance of women investing in and supporting each other's projects.The current disruption in the media industry and how it creates an opportunity to develop new storytelling models for women over 40.OUR GUEST: Melissa Silverstein is the founder of Women and Hollywood and the Artistic Director and Co-Founder of The Athena Film Festival at Barnard College. She is also the founder of the Girls Club, an online community for women creatives. Want more Melissa? Check out Women and Hollywood and the Athena Film Festival and listen to her podcast In Her Voice. Follow her on:Instagram: @melsil@womenandhollywoodX/Twitter: @melsil@womenahollywood Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: a...

“I want you to know what your options are at this point in your life.”In this special episode, we’re breaking from our usual format to bring Hotter Than Ever producer, Erica, out from behind the scenes for a candid conversation with Erin about the podcast's journey and it’s future. Inspired by thoughtful feedback from our hottie listeners and Erin’s reflections during this ‘slow-roll summer,’ we’re diving into Erin’s evolving views on midlife, personal transformation, and the unique challenges and opportunities facing women over 40 as we navigate this uncharted chapter of life.While the road ahead is filled with uncertainty, one thing remains clear: Hotter Than Ever is committed to offering our community not coaching or self-help advice, but a variety of possibilities for thriving in midlife and beyond. Join us as we discuss the themes and ideas that have shaped this podcast and will drive its next evolution, including:The myth of “having it all,” its impact on women, and why a stronger support system and equal distribution of labor are essential.The feminization of wealth and the potential for women to increasingly step into their power.Unpacking the systemic nature of the stresses and challenges women face in midlife.Embracing the unknown and discovering new ways to live, even without a clear precedent or roadmap.Reconnecting with the joie de vivre of youth,  while harnessing the wisdom and experience that comes with midlife.Why being in community is vital for our emotional and social well-being.What’s next for Hotter Than Ever: a book, live events, stand-up comedy, filmed episodes, partnerships, and more!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

As part of our ‘slow roll summer’ on Hotter Than Ever, we’re revisiting one of our favorite early conversations with Oprah dynasty legend, author, producer and transformation doula Sheri Salata.In this episode, we explore self-love and renegotiating what life looks like after you’ve achieved your wildest dreams (hint: it’s not over!). We unpack what it means to focus on yourself beyond your work, and what happens when we choose to step out from behind the curtain and into the spotlight. Join us as we discuss:The price of amassing conventional success and achievements, and how that factors into our self worth Learning how to steward your own wellbeing and ascend beyond people pleasing Recovering from self betrayal–in the many forms it takes–and learning how to have your own back What it means to choose discomfort in order to continue evolving, releasing, healing and upleveling, until our very last breath Getting over the shame that comes with the desire to be front and center, and to have a public voice and presenceOvercoming chronic dissatisfaction and learning to appreciate the time you have left in this world (and start using it to its fullest) Knowing that you can’t complain your way to the life of your dreams. Our actions are completely informed by the stories we tell ourselves, so start telling yourself an incredible story and get going! Free for Hotter Than Ever listeners! Check out Sheri’s Change 10 Words Workbook using this link. OUR GUEST: Sheri Salata is an author, world class producer and transformation doula. She is the founder + CEO of The Support System, a global membership group for women dedicated to creating real-life transformation.  Sheri’s memoir, The Beautiful No: And Other Tales of Trial, Transcendence and Transformation is an Amazon Editor’s Choice Best Memoir and an Apple Must-Listen audio book. Sheri spent 20 years in the land of Oprah finishing that glorious run as the final Executive Producer of The Oprah Winfrey Show, President of Harpo Studios and President of OWN as captured in the cable hit series Season 25: Oprah Behind The Scenes. Learn more about “The Support System,” Sheri’s global membership group for women empowerment through this link. Check out her incredible memoir, “The Beautiful No” here. Want more Sheri? Learn more about her here and on https://sherisalata.com/. Follow her on:  Instagram: @sherisalata Facebook: @sherisalatacommunity Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: a...

In a world where beauty standards are constantly evolving and societal pressures can feel overwhelming, makeup artist Molly R. Stern brings a refreshing perspective to the conversation. With a career spanning over two decades and a client list that includes some of Hollywood's most iconic faces, Molly has witnessed firsthand the struggles women face with self-perception and the impact of the beauty industry on mental well-being. In this candid and insightful episode Erin and Molly dive deep into the complexities of beauty, aging, and self-love.Join us for an eye-opening discussion as Molly shares her wisdom on navigating the beauty industry while staying true to oneself. We explore:Why negative self-talk is so pervasive among women, regardless of fame, wealth, or appearance and the importance of shifting towards self-love and acceptance.The role of societal pressures and marketing in creating insecurity, and how to combat these influences.Molly's approach to her work as a makeup artist: prioritizing making her clients feel good about themselves and focusing on their individual needs and empowerment.The changing ideals of beauty over time and the importance of being inspired rather than emulating unattainable standards.The impact of the body positivity movement, and the rise of weight loss drugs on beauty standards.Practical beauty tips, including self-massage and nurturing skincare routines as acts of self-love and self-care.OUR GUEST: For over 30 years, Molly R. Stern has been a trusted artist and influencer in Hollywood with an engaged social media audience of over 60K followers. Molly has been recognized with numerous industry accolades. She was awarded Makeup Artist of the Year at the prestigious Hollywood Style Awards, and her outstanding makeup on the acclaimed HBO series Big Little Lies was nominated twice for an Emmy. A couture piece from her cult apparel line, m.r.s, was selected for the Goddess exhibition at the Costume Institute of the Metropolitan Museum of Art. The stunning makeup Molly created for the Disney blockbuster film, A Wrinkle In Time, was immortalized in a collectible signature Barbie doll line by toy manufacturer Mattel. Her #LOVEyourself mantra led to the collaboration with renowned jewelry brand Sarah Chloe. Molly resides in Los Angeles, CA with her husband, 3 children and 2 dogs.Want more Molly? Find her online at https://www.mollyrstern.com/ and shop her Sarah Cole Love Yourself Collection HERE. Follow her on:Instagram: @mollyrstern  TikTok: @mollyrstern  Facebook: @MollyRSternMakeup  X/Twitter: @TheMollyRStern   Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: a...

“The job of life is to get good at change, because it never stops.”Why do so many of us resist change instead of embracing it? For our host Erin, life over the past few years has become almost unrecognizable, but in the best way possible. In this episode, she takes us through her journey of navigating and thriving through these shifts. From battling COVID to a complete lifestyle overhaul, Erin explores the evolving landscape of her life and what it means to fully embrace change.Join Erin as she recounts her experiences of significant personal and professional changes, emerging stronger, more self-assured, and more connected to her desires. We discuss:Dismantling the "boxes" society places around us: work, marriage, motherhoodStaying connected to your desires and being open to new experiences, from romantic adventures to deepening friendships.Practical ways to actually ‘thrive in ambiguity’ and embrace the inevitability of change.Lessons from various life phases, from parenthood to navigating modern dating.Ways to identify and let go of dynamics and situations that no longer serve you, and embrace new, enriching experiences.Want advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

“I'm striving for excellence, but I'm not pretending to be perfect anymore.”The Covid-19 pandemic was a watershed moment of change for everyone, reshaping both personal and professional lives. For our host Erin, it catalyzed her divorce and sparked a career pivot that led to the birth of “Hotter Than Ever”. But what major trends emerged post-pandemic that are now influencing how we navigate our next chapters—midlife and beyond?To explore this, we’re joined by Lori Hamilton, an award-winning writer, director, performer, and insights expert. In this episode, Lori delves into her research, highlighting how the pandemic prompted a reassessment of our relationship with work, redefined our notions of success, and emphasized the value of authentic connections. Erin and Lori also discuss the joy and fulfillment that come from identifying and pursuing your unique talents and finding work that aligns with your core values, moving beyond the pursuit of perfection. Join us as we embrace authenticity and explore:Recognizing and pursuing your true gifts rather than forcing yourself into roles that don’t fit.Balancing corporate work with artistic endeavors for a more fulfilling career.How sharing vulnerabilities can enhance our well-being and relationships.Post-COVID corporate dynamics and the efforts made to shift from perfectionism to authenticity and genuine care in the workplace.The importance of aligning your relationship with your employer to your personal values.Focusing on relationships and activities that bring true joy and fulfillment, and setting boundaries with those that do not.Prioritizing environments that appreciate and value your contributions.OUR GUEST: Lori Hamilton is an award-winning writer, director, performer, and creator with 69 awards for creative excellence, including 28 for short films. Her work includes Project Spudway, a take off of Project Runway with animated potatoes, to Landalor Industries, a serious corporate satire, to North Star (or what I listened to instead of my intuition), a one-woman show from the Edinburgh Fringe Festival, to 150+ short films, comedy bits, TV pilots and feature film scripts.Want more Lori? Find her online at https://thelorihamilton.com/ and follow her on:Instagram: @thelorihamilton  TikTok: @thelorihamilton  X/Twitter: @thelorihamilton Threads: @thelorihamilton  LinkedIn: Lori Hamilton  Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: a...

Navigating modern life as a working mother and a creative professional is no small feat. In this episode, we dig deep into comedian and Mom Ophira Eisenberg's journey through comedy, storytelling, and podcasting. Ophira, a multi-talented comic, storyteller, and host of the podcast "Parenting is a Joke," shares her captivating story with humor, and recounts the diverse roles she has embraced to carve out a meaningful career all while juggling motherhood and beating back toxic positivity culture, one post-it note at a time.Join us for an insightful conversation as Erin and Ophira explore:How career pivots can lead to greater professional successThe challenges of balancing career ambitions with motherhoodThe need for realistic, tangible support for working mothers How societal systems often place the burden of systemic issues on individuals, especially working mothersUnpacking the cultural shift towards positivity and gratitude, and the negative impact of the commercialization of wellness practices targeted at womenThe importance of creating space for real, honest humanity and actionable support for one anotherThe ongoing journey of self-care, setting boundaries, and the liberation that comes from learning to say "no"OUR GUEST: Ophira Eisenberg is a standup comedian, writer, and host of the award-winning podcast Parenting Is A Joke. She also hosted NPR’s Ask Me Another, interviewing and playing games with celebrities like Neil Patrick Harris, Rosie Perez, and Awkwafina. Ophira has appeared on CBS’s The Late Late Show, Sherri!, Comedy Central, HBO, and The Moth Radio Hour. Her memoir, Screw Everyone: Sleeping My Way to Monogamy, was optioned for TV, and her comedy special, Plant-Based Jokes, is streaming on YouTube. She performs regularly at The Comedy Cellar and other New York clubs, and her solo show, Leaving A Mark: A Comedy About Scars, won the Women in the Arts & Media Award for Solo Show Scripts.Want more Ophira? Find her online at https://www.ophiraeisenberg.com/ and listen to her podcast Parenting is a Joke. Follow her on:Instagram: @ophirae  TikTok: @ophiranyc Facebook: @OphiraEisenberg  X/Twitter: @OphiraE Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook:

“Every single person is special, but most of us are too afraid to show up in the world and let them see how special we are.”In a world that often values polished presentations and corporate facades, finding and maintaining authenticity in professional and personal settings can feel like a daunting task. Yet, it's precisely this authenticity and vulnerability that can create genuine connections and drive impactful change. Kim Rittberg, a former media executive who took the brave step to become her own boss, joins Erin in this episode to dive deep into the power of bringing your authentic self to every situation.Join us for an insightful and candid conversation as Kim and Erin how embracing vulnerability and being true to oneself can lead to richer, more meaningful interactions and greater professional success. We discuss:Kim’s decision to leave a successful corporate corporate life to see more control over life and career.Transitioning into entrepreneurship and how to recognize and lean into your unique skills and strengths.How authenticity and being true to oneself enhances not only your professional success, but personal connections.The importance of integrating vulnerability into your professional life and how to bring (almost) your whole self to work. Why more women feel imposter syndrome and why it’s important to validate your place in these spaces.Reshma Saujani’s *Smith College commencement speech about imposter syndrome: Imposter Syndrome Is A Scheme: Reshma Saujani’s Smith College Commencement AddressShifting your mindset to prioritize your goals and message over the fear of displeasing others.OUR GUEST: Kim Rittberg is a 6x award-winning digital marketer who teaches business owners and brands how to grow leads and revenue through video and podcasts, bringing 20 years of media experience from Netflix, PopSugar and TV News.  She launched the first ever video unit for Us Weekly (which sold for $100 million). She’s been featured in Forbes, Business Insider, Fast Company and is a national speaker. She hosts the podcast The Exit Interview with Kim Rittberg for self-employed folks to grow their business, every Friday is a 5-minute marketing tip and Wednesday amazing founders share inspiration and actionable tips. Want more Kim? Find her online at https://www.kimrittberg.com and listen to The Exit Interview with Kim Rittberg. Follow her on:Instagram: @kimrittberg   LinkedIn: @kimrittberg X/Twitter: @kimrittberg YouTube: @kimrittbergcontent Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: a

"It's in vulnerability and self-love that we find our true strength."If you've been tuning into Hotter Than Ever, you know that while our host Erin offers plenty of dating advice, especially for those re-entering the scene after a marriage, her aim isn’t necessarily to find love herself. But regardless of whether you're skeptical about love or seeking it with all your heart, you'll enjoy this conversation with Lilli Bewley. Lilli is a dating coach, teacher, author and host of the Lilly Bewley podcast, with a mission to help 1 million people find true love in their lifetime. In this episode, Erin and Lili delve into the complexities of modern dating through the empowering lens of the goddess archetype, transforming how women view themselves and their relationships.Join us as we explore embodying confidence, self-love, and actionable steps every woman can take to attract epic love. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to enhance their relationships, improve their dating experiences, and gain a deeper understanding of themselves. Together, we delve into:The power of the goddess archetype in enriching women's self-improvement and dating journeysStrategies for healing perfectionism and control, opening oneself to vulnerability and honest communicationThe significance of emotional availability in partners and the role of past trauma in shaping relationship dynamicsPersonal stories of setting boundaries, fostering understanding, and creating healthy, supportive partnershipsDifferent archetypes of women—chill woman, fortress woman, goddess woman, and magnetic woman—and the path to becoming a magnetic womanThe mirror effect in relationships, reflecting our internal states externally, and the importance of inner healing workPractical insights on overcoming the fear of being "too much" and embracing self-love and confidence in dating and lifeOUR GUEST: Lilli Bewley is a Dating Coach for Finding Love with over 10 years of experience in personal development. She, herself, went from just surviving in life to thriving in love & purpose. Currently, she is helping single & successful women love dating & find true love. Lilli is on a mission to educate people on how dating can be fun again after a divorce, even in their 30s & 40s & 50s, & even if they’ve been single for forever. We have the ability to create magnetic energy in our dating lives even if we have to perform & be high achievers in other parts of our lives. Her signature Quiz, The Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz, will show women their blocks to love & help them find their true love match. Want more Lilli? Find her online at https://www.lillibewley.com/ and listen to the  Lilli Bewley Podcast. Follow her on:Instagram: @lillibewley TikTok: @lillibewley Facebook: @LilliBewleyYouTube:@lillibewleyWant more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: a...

Despite the fact that women make 85% of household buying decisions, the majority of women over 40 report feeling largely overlooked by the advertising industry. Even more striking, 82% of women in a recent survey felt cooler, stronger, and sexier than they ever expected at this age—so why aren’t advertisers targeting them? Enter Katie Keating, the founder and Co-Chief Creative Officer of Fancy LLC, a 100% women-owned advertising agency. Katie and Fancy’s mission is not only to create impactful work targeting women—especially those in midlife—but also to provide a work environment where women can thrive.Join us for an enlightening and empowering conversation as Erin and Katie delve into reshaping how women are viewed and spoken to in the world of advertising, and embracing their power as consumers and entrepreneurs. We discuss:How women are often relegated to female-centric products in advertising, like beauty and women’s health.Katie’s founding of Fancy LLC to tackle the gender disparity in advertising and create an agency where women can balance their careers and personal lives.Why traditional advertisers often ignore women over 40, despite their significant role in household purchasing.Approaching “taboo” subjects in advertising to better connect with women over 40.How social media platforms restrict advertisements related to women's health and sexual pleasure, perpetuating taboos.How cultural resistance to discussing salaries and finances hinders women's economic empowerment.Strategies for advertising to women about aging, cannabis, and mental health.The positive impact and empowerment that occurs when women control financial resources.OUR GUEST: Katie Keating is recognized as one of Adweek’s Creative 100, and a snappy, strategic, and seasoned Creative Director empowering brands to create meaningful, motivating connections with women—setting the stage for long-term brand loyalty and revenue growth. Katie co-founded Fancy in 2011 to change the way advertising works for women. Entrepreneurial in spirit and in practice and a hands-on leader who values collaboration with both clients and partner agencies, Katie’s is a contributor to Adweek, Ad Age, and Campaign. She loves a spontaneous dance party.Want more Katie? Find her and Fancy LLC online at https://www.fancynyc.com. Follow her on:Instagram: @fancynyc X/Twitter: @katiekeating  LinkedIn: @katiekeating  Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook:

“Are you being compulsive and chasing that dopamine hit of likes and matches like you're one of Pavlov's dogs?” Dating apps can be exhilarating, especially when exploring new connections for the first time after leaving a marriage. But what if swiping has left you with so many matches that managing them feels overwhelming? In this episode, Erin responds to a listener’s dilemma of balancing multiple matches, by offering practical advice on managing dating app usage, staying honest with matches, and not worrying about losing the "good ones" as the right connections will stick.Join us as we discuss:Limiting your time on dating apps to avoid feeling overwhelmed and compulsive.Being upfront with your dates about seeing multiple people to manage expectations.Prioritizing the matches you're most excited about to maintain balance in your schedule.Taking breaks to maintain your well-being if dating becomes too stressful.How the right connections will persist; those meant for you won't be scared away by honesty or a slow pace.Staying present and enjoying the dating process without the pressure of immediate serious relationships.Want advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

For many women who’ve never had an orgasm, it’s easy to feel like there’s something wrong or that they’re broken, a sentiment shared by many of Dr. Kelly Casperson’s patients. However, as urologist and star podcaster Dr. Casperson explains in our latest episode, the issue isn’t with women—it’s our lack of good sex education. This lack hinders women’s ability to experience pleasure, which is why over 10% of women report never having had an orgasm. This issue is particularly pronounced in midlife, where menopause and societal stigmas leave many women feeling abandoned in their sexuality.Join us as Erin and Dr. Casperson guide you through your own adult sex ed class, busting myths about female sexuality, diving into hormonal balance, discussing how to express your sexual needs, and showing you how to reclaim your sexual health and well-being at any age.Debunking myths and misconceptions about female health, libido, and sexuality, which are often understudied and not discussed.How tuning into your inner voice can lead to a more passionate, truthful life.Unlocking the secrets of estrogen and testosterone for better sex and overall health.The impact of unrealistic media portrayals of sex on women’s self-perception and satisfaction.How open conversations about sex can boost pleasure, connection, and intimacy.Why we need a sex education revolution to replace porn as a go-to resource, helping close the orgasm gap for mutual pleasure.How sex toys can help you discover what you really want and what gives you pleasure.Read the paper discussed in the episode The heteronormative theory of low sexual desire in women partnered with men.OUR GUEST: Dr. Kelly Casperson is a certified urologist, surgeon entrepreneur, Tedx speaker, author, and top international podcaster with "You Are Not Broken." Her book, "You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over Your Sex Life" is an Amazon best seller. She has a dynamic speaking presence and is proud to speak on female pelvic health, sexual wellness, and genitourinary symptoms of menopause to educate and empower individuals to take control of their bodies and health care options.Want more Dr. Kelly Casperson? Find her online at https://kellycaspersonmd.com  and listen to her You Are Not Broken podcast. Follow her on:Instagram: @kellycaspersonmdFacebook: @youarentbroken  YouTube: @kellycaspersonmd  Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: a...

Getting your needs met is hot. What’s not hot is when your emotional or physical needs (or both!) are neglected.  One listener is grappling with this issue, questioning whether to give a man a second chance after a real first date fail, especially as she navigates dating after a sexless marriage.In this episode, Erin is drawing from her own experiences and shares the importance of prioritizing our own needs and self-worth in casual dating, and to avoid settling for less than you deserve. Join us as we discuss:Prioritizing emotional care and connection in addition to physical intimacyTrusting your instincts and prioritizing your well-being, particularly if an encounter leaves you feeling empty or degraded.Communicating your needs and being prepared to move on if they're not met.Recognizing your worth and refusing to accept poor treatment, even in casual relationships.Want advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

“It's only when we come into the body that we can start to see our thoughts.”In the age of the internet and social media, we're constantly bombarded with pseudoscientific wellness trends that promise quick fixes for every aspect of our mental well-being. Beneath the noise, there exists a grounded, science-based, and holistic approach to wellness, exemplified by Victoria Albina. Victoria is a family nurse practitioner, breathwork meditation guide, life coach, and host of the "Feminist Wellness Podcast." Her mission is to empower women to become their own best healers, enabling them to break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, and to reclaim their joy. This is what being Hotter Than Ever is all about.Join us for a fascinating conversation as Victoria guides us through the importance of getting deeper in touch with our bodies through feminist wellness, understanding the nervous system, and utilizing somatic practices. We discuss:Intersectional feminism and the importance of considering the whole person to understand their unique experiences and needs in wellnessThe connection between the nervous system and mental wellness, and how past traumas and emotional experiences affect current well-being.How emotional outsourcing and feeling unsafe in our bodies can lead to chronic stress in women, making it difficult to unwind and relaxPractical somatic practices to calm the nervous system and how these differ from healing practicesWhy self-love is so challenging to cultivate in a world driven by external approval, and how somatic practices can help foster itHow visualization can be used as a technique for healing, allowing us to alter our neural pathwaysOUR GUEST: Victoria Albina (she/they) is a Certified Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping women realize that they are their own best healers, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York’s Hudson Valley.Want more Victoria? Find her online at https://victoriaalbina.com/ and listen to her  Feminist Wellness podcast. Follow her on:Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellnessFacebook: @VictoriaAlbinaWellness LinkedIn: @VictoriaAlbinaWellness Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok:

Are you a natural flirt, or do you consider yourself clueless when it comes to flirting or recognizing when you’re being flirted with? Our host Erin has experienced the entire spectrum, from being oblivious to flirting—both as a single and married woman—to embracing it as a powerful form of self-expression and connection post-divorce. In this episode, Erin shares how flirting has transformed the little moments in her life, whether she’s at Trader Joe’s or the DMV, making her feel more alive, seen, and engaged with the world.Join us for fun stories and advice on letting your own light shine through flirting, including:Embracing flirting as a source of joy and self-expressionProjecting playful, open energy that invites connection and new interactions with othersHow practicing flirtation actively defies the stereotype that women in their fifties are invisibleMaking small efforts to let your sparkle show, engage with others, and soak in the fun and freedom that come with itWant advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you by writing us a review on Apple Podcasts! If you’re enjoying Hotter Than Ever, consider supporting us! It’s as simple as buying us a coffee!

Half of marriages these days end in divorce, but did you know that 73% of divorces are initiated by women? In today’s episode we’re joined by Paulette Rigo, a credentialed private mediator and certified divorce coach, whose mission is to help couples avoid court and navigate their divorces more amicably.  Paulette endured a grueling divorce litigation process that spanned nearly 10 years. Now, she is determined to use the insights from her experience to ensure no one else gets trapped in a similar situation.Join us as Erin and Paulette take an honest and hard look at the evolving landscape of marriage and divorce for women in midlife, offering a compassionate and comprehensive guide to navigating divorce. We discuss:Why women are initiating the majority of divorces and no longer see marriage as a prerequisite.Insights from Paulette’s personal journey from marrying young to enduring an extensive legal battle during her divorce.The importance of mediation to resolve divorces more peacefully and cost-effectively, and why most divorces can be settled through alternative dispute resolution methods.The 21 reasons couples divorce and how to determine whether divorce is right for you or if the issues you’re facing in your marriage are something you can work on.How to avoid involving your children in marital conflicts and maintain a stable and loving environment through divorce.The importance of understanding marriage laws in your state, as they significantly impact the divorce process.OUR GUEST: Paulette Rigo is a Credentialed Mediator, Certified Divorce Coach, High Conflict Specialist, Trauma-Informed Recovery Coach, Career Transition Specialist, Book Writing Coach, Speaker, Host and Author. Her best selling release “Better Divorce Blueprint” the Book and Workbook, No Matter What card deck, Thriving in Chaos Project Podcast, All Things Divorce on Clubhouse, Best Life Ever Private Island Retreats and Better Divorce Academy are tools she created and utilizes to help her clients create an optimal divorce experience even with high-conflict personalities and build the new chapter they deserve and desire.Want more Paulette? Find her online at https://betterdivorceacademy.com/ and listen to her Better Divorce podcast. Follow her on:Instagram: @paulettegloriarigo Facebook: @paulettegloriarigo Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  We’d love to...

“Thank God for representations of real sex on screen.”A 40-year-old woman and an unbelievably hot 24-year-old man get together for an unexpected, steamy romance? Sign us up! It’s no wonder why everyone has been asking Erin what she thinks of the new movie “The Idea of You”, released earlier this year. In this episode, Erin breaks down the film and shares her thoughts on why this story, and the representation of romance between an older woman and a younger man, matters in today’s cultural landscape.Join us as we explore the emotional truths the film reveals about love, vulnerability, and the enduring allure of a good love story. We discuss:The importance of stories featuring older women finding love and happiness in our mediaThe realness and magic the film portrays of letting your heart lead you, despite its ‘Hollywood-ized’ nature.Why romcoms and romance are still important in today’s culture–they remind us of what’s possible in our own livesWant advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you by writing us a review on Apple Podcasts! If you’re enjoying Hotter Than Ever, consider supporting us! It’s as simple as buying us a coffee!

It’s no secret that many women don’t enjoy having sex. But the problem isn’t the women: it’s the sex we’re shown in the media and porn, which is dominated by patriarchal ideas and largely ignores women's pleasure. Amidst this dearth of sexual satisfaction for women emerges Susan Bratton, an intimacy expert and advocate for lifelong intimacy and passion. Susan has helped countless clients and readers of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion, proving that we can all embody being Hotter Than Ever.In today’s episode, Susan shares her valuable insights on transforming sexual experiences, maintaining sexual health and enjoyment as we age, embracing authenticity in intimate relationships, and more. We discuss:The importance of enjoying pleasure and sexuality throughout life and normalizing the sexuality of older womenTips and techniques for transforming sex into heart-connected conscious lovemakingAddressing cultural myths that prioritize male pleasure, and encouraging men to understand and fulfill their partner’s needs for a mutually satisfying experiencePractical advice on reversing sexual atrophy and maintaining sexual health and vitality into older ageHow estrogen impacts body image and the need for more diverse and realistic representations of pleasure in mediaThe benefits of unconventional relationship structures and polyamory to fulfill different needsHow women and men can support each other in fulfilling our sexual desiresOUR GUEST: Susan Bratton, known as the "trusted intimacy wellness expert to millions,” is the co-founder and CEO of two companies in the intimate wellness space and an author and publisher of 44 books. She manufactures supplements and publishes online courses on lifelong relationship health. Her expertise includes ageless sexuality, sexual biohacking, libido supplementation, and sexual regenerative therapies. A sought-after speaker, Susan has appeared on numerous podcasts, radio shows, and TV segments worldwide, including CBS, The CW, and NBC.Want more Susan? Find her and her work online at: https://susanbratton.com/ The20, LLCThe Sexual Soulmate PactRelationship Magic Follow her on:Instagram: @susanbratton LinkedIn: @susanbrattonYouTube: Susan Bratton - BetterLover  Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: