How Did We Get Here?

In this new original series from Somethin' Else, Claudia Winkleman and Professor Tanya Byron identify struggles faced by real-life parents and family members by inviting them in and hearing their story, in a one-time unscripted session with a real person. Claudia listens in to the conversation to discover how Tanya begins to unlock the story behind the issue and help find solutions. With topics ranging from parental estrangement, gender identity, domestic violence, trauma, inheriting mental health issues, family dynamics after cancer and raising a severely disabled daughter, How Did We Get Here? is a passionate, insightful and moving experience with clear outcomes to each episode. This podcast doesn’t tell people how to raise their children, or reconnect with family members, rather it helps people understand why, as perfectly competent adults, they can’t put into practice what they know they should do. Each episode passes on useful links and contacts which listeners can find in the programme notes. This is a Somethin' Else production.

If I'm Not Thin I'm Not Successful

Bea is an achiever in all areas of her life apart from one. She feels that until she is slimmer, she hasn’t achieved everything she set out to do.  If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.  To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered.  Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk Find the transcript for episode 12 here: somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_12.txt  How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.  If you're interested in taking part in future episodes of "How Did We Get Here?", please email describing your issue to how@somethinelse.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

09-14
49:03

Grieving Multiple Losses

Isla has suffered more deaths in her family than most people deal with in a lifetime.  She finds it impossible to process what has happened and needs a way out of the pain.  If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.  To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered.  Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk Find the transcript for episode 11 here: somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_11.txt  How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.   If you're interested in taking part in future episodes of "How Did We Get Here?", please email describing your issue to how@somethinelse.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

09-07
47:26

Keep Myself to Myself

George was a fireman for the RAF in Iraq and Afghanistan. After his tour of 2007, he came back a different person and has found it hard to reintegrate into society.  If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.  To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered.  Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk Find the transcript for episode 10 here: somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_10.txt How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.   If you're interested in taking part in future episodes of "How Did We Get Here?", please email describing your issue to how@somethinelse.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

08-31
50:39

My Mother Walked Out

Heather’s mum left the family home when she was 17 with no warning. Heather still struggles with that day many years later, but is she looking at it the wrong way?  If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice.  To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk Find the transcript for episode 9 here:  somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_9.txt How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.  If you're interested in taking part in future episodes of "How Did We Get Here?", please email describing your issue to how@somethinelse.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

08-24
47:14

Why Does Everyone Leave?

Lottie can’t get over the split with her ex-husband and finds it hard to trust her new boyfriend. As a child, she lost both her parents and her brother was murdered, the repercussions of which are still felt today. If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk Find the transcript for episode 8 here: somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_8.txt How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.   If you're interested in taking part in future episodes of "How Did We Get Here?", please email describing your issue to how@somethinelse.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

08-17
50:58

Driving Phobia

8 years ago Eva felt faint when driving on a motorway and hasn’t been able to drive on fast roads since. Her friend’s death in a road traffic accident when she was a teenager may be the key. If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk Find the transcript for episode 7 here: somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_7.txt  How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.  If you're interested in taking part in future episodes of "How Did We Get Here?", please email describing your issue to how@somethinelse.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

08-10
52:11

Constant State of Anxiety

Charlie, who had to care for his siblings and had a difficult coming out story, finds it hard to take care of himself. If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk Find the transcript for episode 6 here: somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_6.txt  How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.  If you're interested in taking part in future episodes of "How Did We Get Here?", please email describing your issue to how@somethinelse.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

08-03
51:02

Strained Family Ties

Annie’s relationship with her siblings has worsened since their mother died, and realises the key to resolving the conflict might lie with their estranged father. If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk Find the transcript for episode 5 here: somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_5.txt  How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.  If you're interested in taking part in future episodes of "How Did We Get Here?", please email describing your issue to how@somethinelse.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

07-27
53:12

Childhood Trauma

Maya tried to resuscitate her baby brother when she was 11 and has carried guilt from that day ever since. If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk Find the transcript for episode 4 here: somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_4.txt  How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.  If you're interested in taking part in future episodes of "How Did We Get Here?", please email describing your issue to how@somethinelse.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

07-20
49:01

The DNA Test That Changed Everything

Danny took a home DNA test and the result has blown his family apart. If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk Find the transcript for episode 3 here: somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_3.txt  How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.  If you're interested in taking part in future episodes of "How Did We Get Here?", please email describing your issue to how@somethinelse.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

07-13
50:10

Why Can't I Get Close To People? Am I Asexual?

Asha finds it hard to be intimate with friends and lovers and wonders if she is Asexual. If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk Find the transcript for episode 2 here: somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_2.txt  How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.  If you're interested in taking part in future episodes of "How Did We Get Here?", please email describing your issue to how@somethinelse.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

07-06
47:59

Can't Unsee It - PTSD

Gary served in the military and the British Transport Police. He was a frontline worker in the aftermath of the 7/7 bombings and is haunted by some of the tragic things he has seen as part of his job. As mentioned in the podcast, here is the link for the charity that Gary runs. https://www.ptsd999.org.uk/ If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode, please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk PTSD UK - www.ptsduk.org PTSD Resolution - www.ptsdresolution.org Combat Stress - www.combatstress.org.uk Find the transcript for episode 1 here: somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode3_1.txt How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.  If you're interested in taking part in future episodes of "How Did We Get Here?", please email describing your issue to how@somethinelse.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

06-29
55:23

How Did We Get Here?... Season 3!

It’s time for a new season, where Claudia Winkleman and Professor Tanya Byron meet a different guest each week who has an issue that they are struggling with. Professor Tanya speaks to them in a one to one session and Claudia asks questions in the breaks. Claud and Tan aim to unlock the challenges facing our guest and help them to move to a place of clarity. This season we look at challenges such as PTSD, anxiety, surprise DNA tests results, sexuality, grief and trauma.  No matter what the subject, the themes of loss, guilt, love and forgiveness are universal with practical advice and tools that we can all use. Series 3 launches Tuesday 29th June. Click to follow and get new episodes as they arrive. Thank you so much and see you soon. A Somethin' Else production. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

06-15
01:51

Eating Has A Hold Over Me

Rhian has suffered from disordered eating throughout her life and wants to break the hold it has over her. If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Find the transcript for episode 12 here: https://somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode2_12.txt How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

12-01
47:27

Am I On The Spectrum?

Everyone tells Tom he is on the spectrum. He wonders whether he should find out. If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Find the transcript for episode 11 here: https://somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode2_11.txt How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

11-24
42:00

Should I Leave My Family?

John realises his family have always been abusive to him. Should he distance himself from them? If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Find the transcript for episode 10 here: https://somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode2_10.txt How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

11-17
43:03

Struggling With IVF

Sophie is struggling to come to terms with having children by IVF. If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance FERTILITY NETWORK - www.fertilitynetworkuk.org Find the transcript for episode 9 here: https://somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode2_9.txt How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

11-10
40:00

My Father Was Imprisoned

In this episode, we meet Clare. Clare’s father was arrested in front of her and then imprisoned when she was 11. She has struggled for a number of years and wants a formal diagnosis.    If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance PRISONERS' FAMILIES HELPLINE - info@prisonersfamilies.org / or call 0808808200 Find the transcript for episode 8 here: https://somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode2_8.txt How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

11-03
44:46

I'm Misunderstood

In this episode, we meet James. James feels misunderstood and finds it hard to trust people.   If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Find the transcript for episode 7 here: https://somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode2_7.txt How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

10-27
42:02

Does My Daughter Hate Me?

In this episode, we meet Allie. Allie cannot shift the feeling that her daughter hates her. Allie is worried that the grief she suffered when her father died has been passed on.  If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Find the transcript for episode 6 here: https://somethin-else.github.io/transcripts/hdwgh/episode2_6.txt How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

10-20
47:02

Sarah Bowes

When is the podcast coming back?!

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Vicki Garner

wow what a story, I get night terrors, people don't understand, oh just have a hot drink, oh try a hot bath. I'm glad George has children. I'm more of an introvert, I hope George improves more and more, to George's friend ,well done. and well done for talking George

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Captn Marianne TrulteTroll

This is such a brilliant podcast. I’ve listened to all the episodes now. Such an uplifting podcast!I’m a therapist myself and been working in mental health for years. It’s been a hard year. I feel I learn so much from listening to Tanya in action. You are both doing such a brilliant job and shedding a much needed light on so many difficult aspects of being human. Please, keep going with this brilliant podcast! Ps. And I agree to have an episode where Claud is accepting a compliment.

09-19 Reply

Claire Windmill

I love this series so much. I always take something away from the stories. Please do some follow up conversations!

09-15 Reply

Pam Tempo

love this thoughtful and compassionate programme. Big acknowledgement to all contributors, it takes courage to share your vulnerability and your story. I'd love to hear what happened next.

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