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Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.
Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.
The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.
The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.
We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!
This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation...
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Spoiler alert: all children lie! And many of our children will experience self-esteem issues, so it’s really important to understand how to recognise it, and support your children through these difficult times.Does your child lie often about silly things?Are they not growing out of it like you thought they would?Do their lies cause upset or consequences to others?If you answered yes to any of these, you’re not alone!In this episode, I talk you through the key things you need to know, including what you should avoid and what you need to start doing to help.Highlights from this episode:01:22 - Children who lack confidence do this…04:21 - Lying as a coping mechanism09:17 - 2 things you should avoid12:08 - 5 things to start doing15:12 - Which line is longer?18:31 - Praise the process22:57 - Confidence is an inside job26:34 - White lies💚 Let’s grow our village together, please with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Whether your situation - be it parenting solo, coparenting, parallel parenting or something else - we can all agree that sometimes parenting is hell! That’s why this episode is all about finding contentment.From the Happiness Myth to mantas, I share some top ways you can cultivate your own contentment, helping you stay happy, healthy and motivated to take on whatever life (and the kids) throw at you!Highlights from this episode:00:48 - The Happiness Myth03:03 - A typical scenario04:43 - Scan the day08:21 - The power of mantras💚 Let’s grow our village together, please with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Does your child seem anxious or worried?What are the signs to look out for?And what can you do to help?In this episode, I am going to talk you through how to manage anxiety and worry in your child, by applying what I call the Seesaw of Wellbeing. I help you to understand what an unbalanced seesaw looks like, how this might present itself in everyday life, and some actionable steps you can take to rebalance.Highlights from this episode:01:36 - The Seesaw of Wellbeing06:37 - The symptoms of unbalanced seesaws11:01 - The different kinds of unbalanced seesaws12:47 - The three categories16:32 - Anxiety20:02 - What can we do to help?💚 Let’s grow our village together, please with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Today, I’m answering a listener question that I think will empty quite a few of your buckets. It’s all about rude behaviour.Whether it’s a young child screaming, “I hate you!” or a teen being disrespectful, name-calling, or acting out in ways that feel rude, I’ll explore strategies to understand and address these challenges effectively.Join me as we unpack the roots of rude behaviour and learn how to navigate these moments with clarity and confidence. 💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Whether it’s managing emotions better, building confidence, or reducing anxiety this framework is all you need.Here are the highlights:(3:11) Kaizen principles and the ladder(5:50) Let’s look at a child lacking confidence and the ladder(18:40) Let’s look at a lack of motivation and the ladder💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode, I’m introducing a transformative new concept: The Power of One.Instead of concentrating on your child’s current behavioural challenges, I encourage you to shift your focus to building the relevant skills that address the root cause. 💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
42% of marriages end in divorce, and the negative impact can be minimised if you follow these simple steps. Here are the highlights:(3:20) Trauma caused by separation or divorce(7:30) Communication(12:20) Have a plan about logistics(18:45) Be available to answer their questions(23:20) Provide Reassurance(24:00) Behaviour regression is normal(26:18) Accept parenting may be different to your co-parent(28:40) Your children many appear to take sides💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Today, I’m sharing a super simple technique to add to your toolkit, which is powerful at encouraging our children to do more of what we want without the nagging. It's called descriptive praise. Join me as I share my 3 top tips to implementing this incredible tool.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
You’ve loved the guest episodes this year, so we’ve curated some of your favourite moments from 2024! Whether you’re revisiting old favourites or discovering gems for the first time, this compilation is packed with insights to inspire, motivate, and empower you.Sit back, relax, and enjoy the best of the best from our incredible guests. Here are the highlights:(0:00) Raising resilient women with Kim McCabe(0:00) Libbi’s digital detox – one teen’s experience of life without their smartphone(0:00) Brain Brilliance with Lucinda Miller(0:00) Smartphone-free childhood; the power of the parent collective💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Battles with our children at mealtimes can create stressful family situations. It’s helpful to identify why your child won’t eat, is it texture, specific food types or a phobia? Please trust your gut instinct as a parent and if you are concerned, please consult your GP for medical advice.If your child struggles with eating, you might find these additional episodes helpful (available on Apple and Spotify): Ep 9: The Link Between Children’s Emotional Wellbeing and Nutrition with Lucinda MillerEp 96: Nutrition for ADHD with Lucinda Miller💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
They say, “Repetition is the mother of all learning,” so we’ve curated some of your favourite Dr Maryhan moments from 2024. Whether you’re revisiting old favourites or discovering gems for the first time, this compilation is packed with insights to inspire, motivate, and empower you.Enjoy! Here are the highlights:(0:00) Great habits for super young children(0:00) Are we too soft? Part 1(0:00) Raising confident girls(0:00) Friendships – the whole 9 yards Part 1(0:00) Teaching children how, not what to think!(0:00) Why validating emotions workYou can listen to the episodes that follow on from the episodes that are part of a series below:Are we too soft? Part 2Friendships – the whole 9 yards Part 2Friendships – the whole 9 yards Part 3💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Feeling overwhelmed by the holiday hustle? Don’t let the season steal your joy! In this episode, we’re revisiting How to Manage Festive Stress. I’ll share three practical tips to help you set realistic expectations, stay grounded, and fully embrace the magic of this time of year.Tune in and discover how to navigate the festivities with ease, balance, and a little extra cheer! Listen to 25 for 2025💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
It’s my favourite time of year—goal-setting season! I’m not one for New Year’s resolutions, but I do love creating meaningful promises and intentions using a framework that truly works.In this episode, I’ll share my personal goal-setting process, the framework I use, and why setting goals can be such a powerful, life-changing practice.Are you ready to dream big, get intentional, and make the year ahead your best yet? Let’s do this together! Here are the highlights: (2:18 Statistics for cynics (3:50) Why setting goals is important(10:54) The framework (17:45) Reflection(22:06) One big goal and small behaviour changes to support it(25:10) Accountability with a buddy(26:44) Manage your mindset💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Are mornings at your house a whirlwind of chaos? Do you struggle to get the kids out of the house without losing your mind? If you’re nodding along, today’s episode is just for you!In this week’s episode, I’m diving into a listener’s question: How can we make leaving the house with kids less stressful? It’s a challenge so many parents face, and let’s be real—it can sometimes feel impossible. Join me as I share my top tips.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Meaningful changes often need very small tweaks. I’ll share five changes for you, and three changes for your children. The impact will be huge!Here are the highlights: (1:48) Sleep deprived (6:08) One change at a time(9:15) Practice saying no!(13:37) Curate your tribe weekly(21:08) Early sleep for your child(23:05) Daily mantras(24:50) Reflection and gratitude💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In today's bucket emptying episode, I'm introducing the Seven C's to help raise a super confident and resilient adult. The first of these is Competence.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
It’s tough growing up as a male. Society and peers send conflicting messages – be strong, don’t cry! Raising resilient men is possible; it just requires a few tweaks.Here are the highlights: (1:09) Current challenges for young boys (10:22) Active listening(17:23) Don’t shy away from difficult conversations(21:10) Be consistent with boundaries and values(23:08) Don’t jump in to fix(27:11) Positive male role models(29:56) Self care(32:08) Rights of passageListen to the Sow the seeds episodeWatch the Bucket Emptying episode💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I'm often asked about the challenges of extracurricular activities, whether it's finding engaging activities for young children to do with their parents, or the battles that often arise when encouraging teens to participate.Today, I'm diving into this topic in the latest Bucket Emptying episode. I'll be sharing my top tips on how to make extracurriculars more enjoyable and meaningful for everyone involved.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Facing into motherhood isn’t something you can really prepare for – it just sort of hits you unexpectedly. I share my thoughts after seeing Amy Adams in Nightbitch.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this week's bucket emptying podcast episode, I discuss affirmations and how using the technique I share for 30 days will help with your internal chatter. Once you've seen the benefits, you can share the resource with your children and add it to your family wellbeing toolkit. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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