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Hello, I'm your host Dr Maryhan, psychologist and parenting expert.
The How Not To Screw Up Your Kids podcast is for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves. With twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.
The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.
The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.
We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!
This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation...
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Join me for this inspiring story of parent power. When a WhatsApp group went viral a community of over 150,000 parents came together to change the culture around children and smartphones. Sign the SFC parent pactFind your local SFC community💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I’ve just come back from a couple of days at The Independent School Show in London where I took the bucket for a live explanation and discussion with parents and children attending the show.I wanted to share the visual with you and the examples of bucket emptying activities the children shared with me.You can download your own bucket resource from my free resource library and to go through this with your child or teen. If they aren’t sure what fills their bucket, I’d recommend they journal for a week and see what comes up for them.Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Frustrated with children who dig their heels in, or seem incapable of doing what we ask of them?? Then this episode is a must listen!!Here are the highlights: (4:00) Stay calm(8:33) Look for patterns(11:57) Provide choices(16:30) Be clear with instruction and expectation(19:53) Boundaries(21:56) Enforce consequences(25:28) Descriptive praiseListen to the Bucket Emptying Episode; Sow the seeds💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Today's bucket emptying episode is a new tool that you can add to your parenting toolkit. It won't necessarily work every single time, but it's a powerful tool that to have in your armoury and it is to sow the seed. The idea behind sowing the seed is to park the approach that you may well have used most traditionally around nagging and reminding our children and our teens that we've said the same thing repeatedly and instead we start sowing small seeds. Join me as I explain how to use it.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Today I'm joined by the founder and nutritional lead of NatureDoc, Lucinda Miller. Nutrition for brain health is Lucinda’s superpower, and in an easily accessible way for all parents. Purchase your copy of Lucinda's book Find out more about Lucinda and visit Naturedoc 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I'm revisiting an episode answering a listener question about sleep struggles. Listen as I share my tips from babies to teens struggling to get to sleep.If you need more support with this topic, please listen to Ep 5: Bedroom Routines and Sleep💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Libbi shares her experience of teen life on a 4-day digital detox and the surprising effects of being smartphone free.Watch ITV’s Tonight ShowGet your tickets for the Independent School Show💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In today’s bucket emptying episode I'm talking about the thing I believe can have the biggest impact to us as parents in terms of emptying our bucket and that's around boundaries for your child or teen.It might help to think of boundaries as lanes our children travel along, sometimes we may let them widen whilst in certain situations you may need to narrow the lane to keep your child safe.Join me as I share my practical tips to help you set boundaries with confidence.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Shifting focus in this one area will have the biggest impact when it comes to raising resilient adults.Here are the highlights: (2:15) Reflection on parenting(3:45) Differences in parenting, then and now(8:20 Happiness(11:30) Have an honest conversation(14:15) Stop making life easy(18:12) Focus on accomplishment(19:19) Don’t let failure go to waste(23:20) Have faith in the process 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Today I’m sharing a valuable bucket-emptying tip with you all - the power of saying no!In our multifaceted roles as parents, employees, managers, children, siblings, and more, the ability to say no is crucial in preventing overwhelm and enabling us to focus on what truly matters. Many of us struggle with turning down opportunities or requests, but learning to gracefully decline can free up valuable time and energy for the things that align with our priorities. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I've received lots of emails asking about suitable punishments for specific behaviours, so I thought it was a great time to revisit this episode which was originally released in 2021. Traditional methods of discipline and punishment can lead to power struggles missing the opportunity to teach our children anything and causing family tension.Join me as I guide you through simple do's and don'ts to create routines and structures that yield positive results with your child or teen. Here are the highlights: (1:04) Our children are like buildings(5:30) Appropriate consequences(9:07) Random rewards(12:09) The talk through strategy(15:31) Let children be part of the decision-making process💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
As parents, we can easily get caught up in habits that may not benefit us or our families. Perhaps we tolerate certain behaviours due to exhaustion or fear of change. It's time to step out of autopilot and start a morning routine. I invite you to watch today’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode and take on my SHINE morning routine for a week! Experience the difference and share your insights with me at contact@drmaryhan.com. Purchase your own Shine plannerPurchase your own How Not to Screw Up Your Kids notebook💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
What options do parents have when it comes to smartphones? More than you think! It starts with a simple question – why.Here are the highlights:(0.42) Recap of Part 1(4:15) My honest opinion(7:25) Feature phones(9:04) Pact with other parents(11:30) Boundaries with a smartphone(15:30) Model good smartphone use(20:15) Digital detox 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Today's Bucket Emptying podcast topic is homework. Are you facing challenges getting your child to finish their homework? One key question to ask is, whose homework is it - yours or your child's? Stay tuned as I reveal my top tips for navigating what can become a frustrating situation. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Join me and founder of Rites for Girls, Kim McCabe, as we discuss the unique challenges our girls face growing up, and how we can best support them to become the resilient women we know they can be. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In today's Bucket Emptying episode, I delve into the challenging topic of navigating the balance between pushing our children and knowing when to step back. It's crucial to recognise the fine line between motivating them to excel in areas they are passionate about and potentially becoming overly involved as a parent and living vicariously through your child. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I promise you a thorough review of the issues surrounding smartphones, and why schools are banning them.Here are the highlights:(2:11) Let’s look at the data(9:35) 6 concerns(23:05) Why are you considering giving your child a smartphone? 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
This episode, originally released last December, resonated with many seeking advice to support children navigating change. In the face of inevitable change, managing transitions can be daunting for both adults and children alike. From school shifts to relocations, adapting to new routines can pose unique challenges.However, with proper guidance and assistance, children can cultivate resilience and learn to navigate change effectively. Join me as I delve into 3 essential principles to empower children in coping with and embracing change. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Does your child struggle to make friends and yet they are super chatty with adults? Is it impacting their self-esteem? I’ll share small wins they can gain today.Here are the highlights:(2:00) Skills your child may be struggling with(11:45) Provide scaffolded play dates (15:28) Qualities of a good friendship(19:35) Practice role play(17:58) Is it a me no or a them no?(22:30) Keep the faith💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
On this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I tackle an important listener question: "How do we help and support our children when they encounter upsetting content on their smartphones?"Join me as I explore two key angles on this topic: Curation of their feed and reflection on their content curation. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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