How To Be An Ok Person

Dear beautiful, sophisticated, trendsetting listener of How To Be An OK Person, this is my invitation to you to come join me and friends (including Lindsay) over on the new podcast, The Sane & Miraculous This episode of H2BOK is one part reflection on things past, and one part invitation for things currently happening elsewhere that are a lot of fun! I hope you enjoy. And if you want to come join us at The Sane & Miraculous, links are below. Here's the substack, where you can get all the episodes, plus articles and extra content: https://podoflions.substack.com/ Here's the pod on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-sane-and-miraculous/id1677145553 And here it is on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6HY5Vr6u0wjuB5NIpw0G7i

In this episode * We return after a long break! * What to do when you’re feeling blue! * A complete history of reality! Enjoy :) Here’s my favorite Ken Wilber book: https://smile.amazon.com/Brief-History-Everything-Ken-Wilber/dp/1570627401 Which informed the part about evolution.

We talk about Sex! Parental advisory (mostly Lindsay's parents). Inspired by recent news stories and the #metoo movement, we explore some of what makes the difference between good and bad sexual encounters. In this one we’re mostly looking at how the man affects this. Episode #1 - The Grid https://www.howtobeanokperson.com/updates/2017/1/1/1-the-grid The original Aziz Ansari article https://babe.net/2018/01/13/aziz-ansari-28355 NLP Marin (the best place to learn NLP!) https://www.nlpmarin.com/

In this one we talk about THE DOWN. The place you go to when the usual things stop working. Even though this could be a gloomy subject, we hope you find this recording helpful, and ultimately even uplifting. Notes: On Becoming an Alchemist http://amzn.to/2AClezh Jacobs Ladder http://amzn.to/2ARGMor Marion Woodman http://amzn.to/2C11HEM

Robbie and Lindsay talk about the scourge of modern life: Social Media! And more generally, how we can be more mindful about the information that comes in to us and the information that goes out from us. * CGP Grey - This video will make you angry. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rE3j_RHkqJc A short and brilliant description of one of the big problems with social media. * Tristan Harris on Sam Harris. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jlPF9_1VIso We didn’t mention this one in the show because I hadn’t listened to it until after we recorded, but it is well worth listening to. Tristan talks to Sam about the dangers of social media. Also, fun fact: Lindsay and I were classmates with Tristan at NLP Marin for awhile.

Lindsay talks about her favorite daily practice and the "most beautiful part of [her] life" - God Time. Robbie drops some spiritual knowledge and asks questions which Lindsay sort of answers. A short and sweet episode. A great place to start with Ken Wilber (the philosopher who talks about 1st, 2nd and 3rd person Spirit): One Taste: Daily Reflections on Integral Spirituality. You can order the book here: http://amzn.to/2qQdNxI Since recording, Lindsay has realized she has more to say on the "how to" part of God Time. So, if you listen and you're like "I want more!" email Lindsay and she will invite you to a free special class for subscribers/listeners. You can contact her here: https://www.howtobeanokperson.com/contact/

Lindsay asks a question and oh boy does she get an answer. An in depth refutation of Elon Musk's claim that we are most likely all living in a Simulation. A description of Musk’s claim: https://motherboard.vice.com/en_us/article/elon-musk-simulated-universe-hypothesis An overview of the Computational Theory of Mind: https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/computational-mind/ Nick Bostrom’s original paper: http://www.simulation-argument.com/simulation.html RIck and Morty, the greatest show on TV right now: http://amzn.to/2nM0BXB Robbie’s two favorite Greg Egan books (exploring these ideas in fiction) Diaspora: http://amzn.to/2nM0hIi Permutation city: http://amzn.to/2nLYXoI CGP Grey on the Transporter problem: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQHBAdShgYI An overview of the chinese room argument: http://www.iep.utm.edu/chineser/

Lindsay and Robbie discuss all the things Lindsay has been doing to improve her pre-menstrual symptoms. Hang on to your hats! This is a description of the Life Activation session Lindsay talks about. We haven’t actually done anything with the Modern Mystery School, so this is not an endorsement, just some information. (not NOT an endorsement either. They’re probably great!) http://www.modernmysteryschoolint.com/services/life-activation/ Turns out the pelvic floor muscles are now also called the Kegel muscles. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise Learn more about jade eggs and buy your own here! http://howtobeanokperson.com/jade-egg CGP Grey, a very informative and entertaining man. http://www.cgpgrey.com/ Hawthorne effect https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hawthorne_effect The hormonology horoscope app: http://hormonehoroscope.com/

Robbie and Lindsay talk about THE BELLS, the workout routine that has made a huge difference in both their lives. They also follow up on questions about The Grid from the last episode, and more fun stuff besides. The whole show is great, and if you want to skip straight to the part about THE BELLS, it begins at 34:50. Enjoy! Below are links mentioned in the show. The egregious Keystone Habits article http://www.businessinsider.com/keystone-habits-that-transform-your-life-2015-8/#having-strong-willpower-8 Here’s a video of kids being tortured with marshmallows: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0yhHKWUa0g#t=02m53s The video is a Ted Talk about the experiment. But the link takes you straight to the kids. If you want to watch the whole thing, just skipped to the start. Kettlebell Simple & Sinister by Pavel Tsatsouline https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0989892409/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=howtobeanokpe-20&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=0989892409&linkId=729dcce7d4d5020f9ae5aba3264dec71 Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity by David Allen https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0143126563/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=howtobeanokpe-20&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=0143126563&linkId=004d22134d4376d645550932d0ede05f Another of Lindsay’s projects, Sex, God and Beverages: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y129T_F73ig

In their first full length episode, Lindsay and Robbie talk about “The Grid” - what it is, why it’s so effective, and why it’s WAY better than making New Year’s Resolutions. They show us their own grids and give some helpful tips on how to make your own. For more info on Duncan Riach: http://howtobeanokperson.com/duncan-riach We would love to see your grid! Post on twitter with hashtag #CheckOutMyGrid Moleskine Cahier’s Journal we use: https://store.moleskine.com/usa/en-us/notebooks/journals/cahier-journal/p7

Robbie tells the story of a slightly interesting thing that happened to him on Facebook the other day. Here’s the (minimal) section of wikipedia on the Baader-Meinhoff phenomena, AKA the Frequency Illusion: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_cognitive_biases#Frequency_illusion And the article on Shazam and the Mandela Effect: http://www.newstatesman.com/science-tech/internet/2016/12/movie-doesn-t-exist-and-redditors-who-think-it-does