How To Love Yourself No Matter What

If you’ve spent your whole life trying to “think more positively,” “change your mindset,” or “just stop spiraling,” this episode is going to shift everything for you.Because here’s the truth most sensitive women never get taught:Thoughts are not facts.They never have been.But when your nervous system is dysregulated (Part 1) and your emotions feel too big to hold (Part 2), your brain grabs the easiest, most familiar thought it can find — even if that thought hurts you.This episode breaks down why your overthinking isn’t caused by the thoughts themselves…It’s caused by the beliefs you’ve practiced for years, the ones that have become so familiar your brain mistakes them for truth.You’ll learn how beliefs become well-worn paths in the brain, why new thoughts feel impossible at first, and how to practice thinking in a way that creates safety, self-trust, and actual change. This is the step that allows everything you learned in Part 1 and Part 2 to finally land.This is the third and final part of my overthinking series — and it’s where the transformation really locks in.💡 What You’ll Discover in This EpisodeWhy thoughts feel true (even when they aren’t)The real reason you can’t access helpful thoughts when your emotions are at a 9 or 10How practiced beliefs become mental “paths” your brain walks automaticallyWhy your brain prefers painful familiarity over unfamiliar possibilityWhat it actually takes to create a new belief you can rely onHow radical self-love, compassion, and hope build the thoughts that change your lifeWhy you keep ending up in the same emotional patterns even when you try to “think differently”A simple, repeatable three-step system to create thoughts that serve you instead of sabotage youHow changing your thoughts becomes effortless when your nervous system and emotions are balanced🔗 Get full show notes, transcript, and more:amandahess.ca/289👉 Interested in working with me?Sign up for a free discovery call: amandahess.ca📱 Connect with me on TikTok & Instagram:@theamandahess

If you’ve been trying to “fix” your overthinking by changing your thoughts, but nothing ever seems to stick, here’s the truth:You don’t have a thought problem — you have an emotion problem.When your emotions feel too big, too fast, or too overwhelming for your system, your brain does the only thing it knows how to do: it starts thinking harder. It analyzes, spirals, replays conversations, imagines every worst-case scenario — not because you’re dramatic, or weak, or too sensitive, but because your body is trying to protect you from the intensity of unprocessed emotion.This episode explores why overthinking is always rooted in emotional dysregulation, how a sensitive nervous system amplifies feelings, and why “controlling your emotions” has never worked. You’ll learn what emotions actually are, how they move through the body, and how to start building emotional capacity so your mind can finally take a breath.You don’t need to out-think your feelings — you need to learn how to experience them in a way that feels safe.This is Part 2 of my three-part series on overthinking, and it’s the piece no one teaches sensitive women… but it’s the one that makes everything else finally click.💡 What You’ll Discover in This EpisodeWhy overthinking is an emotional issue long before it becomes a thought issueThe difference between “reacting” to emotion and actually processing itWhat emotions really are — and why they’re not good, bad, or logicalHow a sensitive nervous system intensifies emotional wavesWhy unprocessed emotion always comes back bigger, louder, and more overwhelmingHow emotional capacity makes difficult feelings easier to handleThe simple skill of “feeling emotion in the body” without being consumed by itWhy learning to process emotion is the key to ending the overthinking cycle🔗 Get full show notes, transcript, and more:amandahess.ca/288👉 Interested in working with me?Sign up for a free discovery call: amandahess.ca📱 Connect with me on TikTok & Instagram:@theamandahess

Overthinking isn’t a flaw — it’s a survival response.If your brain feels like it never shuts off, if you replay conversations, worry about every decision, or try to anticipate every possible problem before it happens — this episode is for you.When your nervous system has been running in survival mode for too long, overthinking becomes your body’s way of trying to keep you safe. But the truth is, it’s not protecting you — it’s exhausting you. In this episode, we break down why overthinking isn’t a mindset problem, it’s a nervous system problem, and how learning to regulate your body first changes everything.When you understand that your “racing thoughts” are really a sensitive nervous system doing its best to help you survive, you stop trying to fix yourself — and start working with yourself.This is Part 1 of a 3-part series where I teach the Love Yourself No Matter What Method — starting with nervous system regulation and why your gas pedal and brake are always out of sync.💡 In this episode, you’ll discover:Why overthinking is your nervous system’s way of trying to keep you safeHow a sensitive nervous system gets triggered — and what it really meansThe difference between the sympathetic and parasympathetic systems (and how to balance them)What “fight, flight, freeze, or fawn” actually looks like in real lifeWhy your brain doesn’t know the difference between a bear chasing you and your friend not texting backThe simple daily practices that start rebalancing your nervous system — without hours of meditation🔗 Get full show notes, transcript, and more:amandahess.ca/287👉 Interested in working with me?Sign up for a free discovery call: amandahess.ca📱 Connect with me on TikTok & Instagram:@theamandahess

What if everything you’ve been told about being “too sensitive” is wrong?In this episode, I share a deeply personal story from my early motherhood — the exhaustion, the misdiagnoses, and the moment I realized that I wasn’t broken… I was sensitive. For years, I tried to “fix” myself, believing that my emotions were the problem. But the truth is, sensitivity isn’t a weakness — it’s a form of wisdom.We’ll explore what sensitivity really is (and what it’s not), how it overlaps with common mental health labels, and why learning to partner with your sensitivity is the key to feeling grounded, powerful, and whole.If you’ve ever felt like the world was too loud, your emotions too big, or your empathy too much — this episode is for you. You’ll learn:✨ Why your nervous system feels things so deeply✨ How to stop pathologizing your sensitivity✨ What it looks like to create safety and strength from the inside outYour sensitivity isn’t something to fix — it’s something to understand.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/286Interested in working with me? Book a free discovery call: amandahess.caJoin the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership: https://www.skool.com/emotions-school-8427/about?ref=b947741c562941f4b4d1d3f05a1b437cCome find me on TikTok and Instagram: @theamandahess

Did you grow up in a house where everything had to be someone's fault? That type of environment creates a specific kind of wiring in your brain. The spilled glass of water that turns into chaos, the constant need to assign blame, the walking on eggshells - these experiences don't just disappear when you become an adult. They show up as that relentless inner critic, the exhausting need to control everyone's emotions, and the panic that rises when something goes wrong. The path forward isn't about becoming perfect or never making mistakes. It's about learning to feel safe in the mess of being human. In this episode, you'll discover how to recognize criticism as a red flag for feeling unsafe, how to regulate your nervous system when panic rises, and most importantly, how to build the muscle of self-compassion. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/285Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

When your heart feels like it's been shattered into pieces and the pain consumes every moment of your day, you're experiencing something that every human being knows intimately: heartache.In this episode, I'll walk you through my Love Yourself No Matter What method - a three-part process that helps you regulate your nervous system, process the emotion in your body, and decide what to believe about yourself when your brain offers up those cruel thoughts. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/284Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

Most of us have been taught that jealousy is wrong, and that we should never feel it. But rejecting a normal human emotion only makes it come back louder and more destructive. In this episode, I share my own experience with jealousy and shine a light on the hidden connection between feeling threatened and speaking poorly about others. You'll learn ways to regulate your nervous system, reduce your jealousy, and hear why the person who truly wins isn’t someone who never feels jealous - it’s the person who can feel all their feelings without sabotaging themselves.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/283Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

Most of us think the point of a goal is to achieve it. But what if the real purpose is who you become along the way? When I laced up my skates, put on a sparkly costume, and stepped onto the ice to perform in front of judges, I thought the goal was the medal. What I learned instead was that the goal was there to help me meet every part of myself—the scared, the brave, and the resilient—all in one two-minute skate.In this episode, I’m sharing what really happens between setting a goal and achieving it, and why that messy middle is where the true transformation takes place. Through stories from my own skating experiences, I’ll show you how goals aren’t just about the finish line. They’re about the relationship you build with yourself while you go for it.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/282Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

Goal setting triggers panic for so many of us. The fear of not meeting expectations, the pressure of deadlines, the looming possibility of disappointment - it's enough to make anyone avoid setting goals altogether. But what if the real problem isn't the goal itself, but our relationship with failure along the way?Tune in to hear my four-step process for moving through fear and failure with compassion. You'll discover how to set goals that stretch you, create belief before you see results, fail on purpose (yes, really), and evaluate without judgment. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/281Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

So often we believe that a better relationship depends on our partner changing. But the truth is, the real work starts with you. If you’ve ever felt stuck giving too much, overcompensating, or constantly managing the relationship on your own, this episode is for you. I share practical ways to start building self-love as a standard in your life, how to navigate guilt or frustration when it arises, and why creating this inner foundation can transform your romantic relationships from the inside out.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/280Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

Beating yourself up might feel productive, but it's actually keeping you stuck in the same painful patterns. The real work of healing from trauma isn't about fixing all your problems or thinking positive thoughts. It's about developing self-love as a skill—a feeling you can generate in your body that becomes the fuel for different actions.In this episode, I'm sharing why the skill of self-love isn't fluff. Through a specific process of recognizing when you're in a trauma response and bringing love to that moment, you can start to grow around your pain rather than trying to make it disappear. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/279Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

Life moves in seasons, just like the world around us. Summer turns to fall, winter melts into spring, and nature shows us how to flow with change. Yet in our own lives, we often fight those shifts—pushing ourselves to stay in “summer mode,” always productive, always busy, always trying to feel amazing.In this episode, I’m sharing how to honor where you are right now and use each season to your advantage. You’ll discover why rest can be just as productive as action, how to nurture new growth, and when to harvest the wisdom your current season is offering. Most importantly, you’ll walk away knowing that no season lasts forever—and each one is preparing you for what’s next.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/278Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

Do you feel like no matter how hard you try, life just keeps letting you down? Like you’re stuck in a cycle of disappointment that seems impossible to break? If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. But chronic disappointment doesn’t have to be the way you live forever. In this episode, I’m showing you how to shift out of this cycle and finally experience the joy and fulfillment you’ve been waiting for. Learn how to move beyond disappointment, stop playing small, and start reclaiming the joy and satisfaction that’s waiting for you.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/277Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

As a culture, we don’t know how to grieve. We’re expected to keep it together, stay strong, and move on, even though grief is one of the most universal human experiences. The truth is, when no one models how to grieve, it’s easy to feel lost, broken, or like you’re “doing it wrong.”In this episode, I’m opening up about my own experiences with grief - the loss of my mom, my mother-in-law, and even beloved pets - and what I’ve learned along the way. When we allow ourselves to feel grief fully, it becomes not just bearable, but healing. Discover how to stop resisting the waves of sadness, why missing someone is not a problem to solve, and how grief can actually introduce you to deeper parts of yourself. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/276Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

Feeling misunderstood is exhausting. When you’re worried about being too much or too hard to read, it’s easy to slip into performing instead of simply being yourself. And during summer, when social situations ramp up, that pressure to change or fit in can feel even heavier.In this episode, I’m talking about why advocacy feels so hard and why our nervous systems often default to people-pleasing instead of speaking up. I’ll also share three practical communication strategies that help you ask for what you need without collapsing into shame or guilt. These tools will help you protect your energy, clarify your relationships, and model consent while staying in integrity with yourself. Advocacy isn’t about being difficult. It’s about finally belonging to yourself first.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/275Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

Emotional safety is more than just a buzzword. It’s the foundation for healing and thriving in every area of your life. But for many women, creating emotional safety can feel like an abstract idea. And honestly, it wasn’t until I really started to dig into it as a coach that I understood what it truly meant.In this episode, I break down why emotional safety isn’t about being calm or waiting for others to “make” you feel safe, but rather starts when you go first. That means acknowledging your emotions and taking the steps to regulate your own nervous system, even when everything around you feels out of control.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/274Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

If you’ve ever felt emotionally overwhelmed, mislabeled, or unsupported by traditional systems, this space is for you. I’m Amanda Hess, a trauma-informed life coach, and I’m here to help you reclaim your true identity beyond clinical labels and build radical self-trust.In each episode, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and stories that will help you create emotional safety within yourself, set boundaries that honor your unique experience, and stop trying to fix yourself. If you’re ready to break free from shame, overwhelm, and the pressure to perform, hit follow now and join me on this journey to love yourself no matter what.Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

Do you always think that you're the problem? Are you constantly trying to be more perfect? Are you angry at others and don't quite know why? In this episode, I'm exploring how internalized shame shows up in our everyday thoughts and behaviors, often disguised as perfectionism, resentment, or self-criticism. You'll discover practical ways to recognize shame when it arises, understand why it can't be white-knuckled away, and learn how to grow your capacity to feel difficult emotions through nervous system regulation. And I'll guide you through the process of shining a light on shame, releasing its grip, and ultimately reclaiming your inner authority so you can stop hiding pieces of yourself and start living from a place of truth rather than fear.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/273Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

Self-trust starts to erode when you’re constantly beating yourself up over past mistakes. But lack of self-trust isn’t a character flaw. It’s conditioning. And the key to building radical self-trust isn't about eliminating negative thoughts or becoming perfect. It’s about learning to hold two truths at once: yes, those conditioned thoughts are loud and familiar, and yes, you can still build trust in yourself. In this episode, I’ll walk you through how to process fear and doubt without letting them control you, how to take radical responsibility without self-abuse, and how to plant new, empowering thoughts while accepting that the old ones might still show up.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/272Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

You’ve tried it all - podcasts, self-help books, courses. And yet, somehow, you always end up back where you started. The strategies that work for everyone else leave you feeling more broken, more stuck, and wondering what’s wrong with you. But here’s the thing: the problem isn’t your willpower, and it definitely isn’t your motivation. The real issue is that traditional methods don’t address what’s going on beneath the surface.In this episode, I’m sharing the four steps you need to go from feeling stuck, unseen, and misunderstood to a place of peace, contentment, and joy. This isn’t about becoming someone different or fixing what’s "wrong" with you. You’ll learn to work with your nervous system, not against it - so that you can process emotions without drowning in them, and plant new thoughts that nurture what you want instead of always fighting off what you don’t.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/271Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess