How To Love Yourself No Matter What

As a culture, we don’t know how to grieve. We’re expected to keep it together, stay strong, and move on, even though grief is one of the most universal human experiences. The truth is, when no one models how to grieve, it’s easy to feel lost, broken, or like you’re “doing it wrong.”In this episode, I’m opening up about my own experiences with grief - the loss of my mom, my mother-in-law, and even beloved pets - and what I’ve learned along the way. When we allow ourselves to feel grief fully, it becomes not just bearable, but healing. Discover how to stop resisting the waves of sadness, why missing someone is not a problem to solve, and how grief can actually introduce you to deeper parts of yourself. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/276Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

Feeling misunderstood is exhausting. When you’re worried about being too much or too hard to read, it’s easy to slip into performing instead of simply being yourself. And during summer, when social situations ramp up, that pressure to change or fit in can feel even heavier.In this episode, I’m talking about why advocacy feels so hard and why our nervous systems often default to people-pleasing instead of speaking up. I’ll also share three practical communication strategies that help you ask for what you need without collapsing into shame or guilt. These tools will help you protect your energy, clarify your relationships, and model consent while staying in integrity with yourself. Advocacy isn’t about being difficult. It’s about finally belonging to yourself first.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/275Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

Emotional safety is more than just a buzzword. It’s the foundation for healing and thriving in every area of your life. But for many women, creating emotional safety can feel like an abstract idea. And honestly, it wasn’t until I really started to dig into it as a coach that I understood what it truly meant.In this episode, I break down why emotional safety isn’t about being calm or waiting for others to “make” you feel safe, but rather starts when you go first. That means acknowledging your emotions and taking the steps to regulate your own nervous system, even when everything around you feels out of control.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/274Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

If you’ve ever felt emotionally overwhelmed, mislabeled, or unsupported by traditional systems, this space is for you. I’m Amanda Hess, a trauma-informed life coach, and I’m here to help you reclaim your true identity beyond clinical labels and build radical self-trust.In each episode, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and stories that will help you create emotional safety within yourself, set boundaries that honor your unique experience, and stop trying to fix yourself. If you’re ready to break free from shame, overwhelm, and the pressure to perform, hit follow now and join me on this journey to love yourself no matter what.Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahess

Do you always think that you're the problem? Are you constantly trying to be more perfect? Are you angry at others and don't quite know why? In this episode, I'm exploring how internalized shame shows up in our everyday thoughts and behaviors, often disguised as perfectionism, resentment, or self-criticism. You'll discover practical ways to recognize shame when it arises, understand why it can't be white-knuckled away, and learn how to grow your capacity to feel difficult emotions through nervous system regulation. And I'll guide you through the process of shining a light on shame, releasing its grip, and ultimately reclaiming your inner authority so you can stop hiding pieces of yourself and start living from a place of truth rather than fear.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/273Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

Self-trust starts to erode when you’re constantly beating yourself up over past mistakes. But lack of self-trust isn’t a character flaw. It’s conditioning. And the key to building radical self-trust isn't about eliminating negative thoughts or becoming perfect. It’s about learning to hold two truths at once: yes, those conditioned thoughts are loud and familiar, and yes, you can still build trust in yourself. In this episode, I’ll walk you through how to process fear and doubt without letting them control you, how to take radical responsibility without self-abuse, and how to plant new, empowering thoughts while accepting that the old ones might still show up.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/272Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

You’ve tried it all - podcasts, self-help books, courses. And yet, somehow, you always end up back where you started. The strategies that work for everyone else leave you feeling more broken, more stuck, and wondering what’s wrong with you. But here’s the thing: the problem isn’t your willpower, and it definitely isn’t your motivation. The real issue is that traditional methods don’t address what’s going on beneath the surface.In this episode, I’m sharing the four steps you need to go from feeling stuck, unseen, and misunderstood to a place of peace, contentment, and joy. This isn’t about becoming someone different or fixing what’s "wrong" with you. You’ll learn to work with your nervous system, not against it - so that you can process emotions without drowning in them, and plant new thoughts that nurture what you want instead of always fighting off what you don’t.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/271Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

You don’t need a rigid routine — you need a framework that supports your sensitivity, your energy, and your capacity.Let’s design a summer that works for you.On today's Take Back Your Summer free, live coaching call, you’ll learn:Why typical planning advice doesn’t work for your brainHow to build flexibility without spiralingA simple strategy to enjoy your summer — on your termsJoin the call happening TODAY at 2pm Pacific here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/summerMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

In this week's episode, I'm addressing something that so many women struggle with quietly: feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions. Whether you grew up as the peacemaker in a volatile home or you've just always been the one who fixes things for everyone, this pattern of emotional enmeshment keeps you stuck in survival mode. You'll discover why trying to regulate everyone else leaves no one regulating you, how to build emotional boundaries without pushing people away, and practical tools for staying rooted in your own nervous system when someone else is spinning out. Most importantly, you'll learn that growing your emotional capacity - not shrinking your feelings - is the key to breaking free from this exhausting pattern.Join the free Take Back Your Summer coaching call happening TODAY at 2pm Pacific here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/summerGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/270Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

The expectations are relentless — to plan the vacations, hold the emotions, run the household, keep it all “fun.”Let’s burn that list and make a different one.On today's Take Back Your Summer free, live coaching call, you’ll learn:The truth about sensory and emotional burnoutHow masking shows up in your daily to-do listHow to build a summer rhythm that actually supports your energyJoin the call happening TODAY at 2pm Pacific here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/summerMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

You’re not lazy. You’re dysregulated.If you find yourself zoning out, doom scrolling, or avoiding everything — you’re not alone.On today's Take Back Your Summer free, live coaching call, you’ll learn:Why “doing nothing” doesn’t recharge you the way you hopedHow your stress response is hijacking your plansA shame-free way to interrupt the shutdown spiralJoin the call happening TODAY at 2pm Pacific here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/summerMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

Everyone else seems fine. So why does this season feel so heavy for you?Let’s talk about why your emotional experience of summer is valid — and why it’s not your fault.On today's Take Back Your Summer free, live coaching call, you’ll learn:How your nervous system experiences “freedom” as chaosWhy you feel like you’re failing at something everyone else enjoysWhat’s actually going on when your body wants to tap out before noonJoin the call happening TODAY at 2pm Pacific here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/summerMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

Summer can be a lot when you're sensitive, neurodivergent, or simply wired to experience the world deeply. The lack of routine, constant sensory input, and the pressure to “be fun” can quickly turn what should be a carefree season into a full-blown performance.But here’s the truth: having a burnout-free summer isn't about changing your mindset or pushing through. What you really need is a softer structure—one that works with your nervous system, not against it.In this episode, I’m sharing a three-part framework to help you create anchors (not rigid routines), build in buffers for self-regulation, and identify what’s truly "bonus" based on your actual capacity. When you stop performing summer and start structuring it for your specific needs, you create a season you can truly enjoy.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/269Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

When you find yourself scrolling through your phone instead of spending time with family, or lying in bed when it's beautiful outside, your body has figured out something you haven't yet. You are stressed out, checked out, and shut down. In this episode, I explore why so many women feel stuck in shutdown mode, especially during summer when expectations are high and routines are out the window. I break down how even positive experiences like beach days and family barbecues can dysregulate sensitive nervous systems, and why motivation is terrible fuel that will only create more stress. By the end, you'll understand how to work with your shutdown responses instead of fighting them, and create a summer that actually works for your brain and body.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/268Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

Summer arrives with the promise of freedom and relaxation, yet for many of us, it delivers the exact opposite - a whirlwind of overstimulation, unpredictable schedules, and mounting pressure to create perfect memories. If your experience of summer is never as relaxing as you wish it would be, listen in this week. I share three essential insights for creating a summer that actually works for your life. You'll discover practical strategies for regulating your nervous system, setting boundaries that honor your capacity, and designing intentional recovery time into your days - so you can stop performing summer for everyone else and start experiencing it for yourself.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: amandahess.ca/267Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

Setting boundaries can feel like a radical and scary act, especially if you've spent years people-pleasing. The discomfort that comes with saying no often feels worse than the exhaustion of constantly saying yes. For those who feel deeply and strongly, this challenge becomes even more complex because you've likely learned to take responsibility for other people's comfort, feelings, and reactions.In this episode, I explore why boundary-setting feels like disconnection for deep feelers and highly sensitive people. You'll discover practical strategies for moving through the guilt that inevitably shows up when you start setting boundaries. Most importantly, you'll learn why boundaries are for you, not rules for others, and how to give people back their feelings while tending to your own.Get full show notes, transcript and more information here: amandahess.ca/266Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: https://amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

Have you ever been told you’re “too much,” “too sensitive,” or simply “not normal”? Those labels can feel like a life sentence - but they’re nothing more than stories you’ve been handed. Today, I dismantle the idea that you must hunt down and “fix” what’s wrong with you; instead, I re-frame intense emotions and unique wiring as invitations to understand yourself on a deeper level.I also unpack how pathologizing everyday human experiences keeps women tangled in self-doubt. By shifting from judgment to curiosity, you’ll see how not fitting the mold can become a powerful source of insight and self-acceptance.Shame and misdiagnosis work together to keep women doubting their worth instead of embracing genuine healing. In this episode, you can expect practical, nervous-system-friendly tools, mindset shifts that cut through guilt, and questions that help you reclaim your own story so you can step off the endless self-improvement hamster wheel and finally breathe.Get full show notes, transcript and more information here: amandahess.ca/265Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: https://amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

Emotional overwhelm can feel like a full-body shutdown - racing thoughts, physical tension, and an overwhelming urge to escape. When these intense feelings take over, it's not because we're broken or dramatic. Our nervous system is simply doing its job, without proper context for the modern world.As a coach, I see clients trapped in stress responses they can't seem to escape from. Whether it manifests as panic attacks, procrastination, or people-pleasing, these automatic reactions stem from our nervous system's attempt to keep us safe. Through my own experience with emotional overwhelm and working with countless clients, I've discovered that the key isn't trying to think our way out - it's learning to regulate our nervous system.In this episode, I share three accessible ways to calm your nervous system using your senses, movement, and nature. These tools aren't about perfection - they're about building emotional safety one small step at a time.Get full show notes, transcript and more information here: amandahess.ca/264Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: https://amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

One extremely common experience among sensitive women is the exhausting push-pull of feeling simultaneously being "too much" and "not enough." Through my own journey and experiences coaching others, I've witnessed how this internal conflict affects our relationships, self-worth, and ability to show up authentically. In this episode, I share my perspective on why intensity and emotional depth shouldn't be viewed as flaws that need fixing, but rather as unique gifts that make us who we are. This mindset shift is crucial for those of us who've spent years trying to dial down our natural enthusiasm or mask our true selves to fit others' expectations. Find the full show notes, resources, transcript, and more information from this episode here: https://amandahess.ca/263Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: https://amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call

Are you an emotionally intense woman who’s ever felt like you’re just too much—or maybe not enough? On this podcast, I help you break free from shame, overwhelm, and the pressure to fit into someone else’s boxes.  I’m Amanda Hess, trauma-informed life coach, and each week we dive into building self-trust, setting authentic boundaries, and embracing who you truly are beyond labels. It’s time to create emotional safety and reclaim your identity—without trying to fix yourself. Follow now, and learn how to start loving yourself, no matter what! Interested in working with me? Sign up for a discovery call: https://amandahess.caWant to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membership For Free? Join here: amanda-hess.mykajabi.com/loveyourselfCome find me on TT and IG: @theamandahessMentioned in this episode:Are You Ready for a Change?Book a free discovery call with me here: https://how-to-love-yourself-no-matter-what.captivate.fm/bookacallBook a Discovery Call