When your breakup leaves you wondering how to create a life that’s actually bigger and better than the one you had with your ex, the advice out there usually falls short. “Just move on,” “go no contact,” or “time heals all.” But none of that shows you how to design a life that feels extraordinary on your terms. In this episode, I’m sharing the 3 steps of self-authorship. A framework that will help you stop living in reaction to your ex and start writing your own story. You’ll learn how to decide who you are without them, how to author your emotional experience instead of being hijacked by it, and how to create experiences that make your new life impossible to ignore. If you take these 3 self authoring steps today, by the end of this week you’ll feel like the main character of your own life instead of a supporting role in your ex’s story. The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/ If you’d like to know if this mastermind is a fit for YOU, email us at dorothy@dorothyabjohnson.com with three dates/times (including your timezone) so we can hop on a call.
After a breakup, one of the most common (and painful) questions I hear is: “Who am I without them?” If you don’t know who you are apart from your ex, you can’t clearly see what you want, what’s possible, or how to build a life that’s truly yours. Instead, you risk creating a life that’s just a reaction to the breakup, or worse, one that keeps you tied to the person who left. In this episode, I’m sharing the exact process I use with my clients to help them uncover who they are without their ex. Inside, you’ll learn why knowing yourself is the foundation for not wanting your ex, how it changes the way you date (or don’t), and why it’s the only way to create a bigger and better life that feels authentic instead of accidental. You’ll walk away with a framework, five activation codes, that will help you finally shift from obsessing over them to becoming obsessed with your own life. The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
When heartbreak hits, it can feel unbearable, like you’ll never stop hurting, never find love again, and that maybe the problem is you. In this episode, I sit down with Braveheart alumni Anne, who knows that feeling all too well. After her breakup, she was consumed by fear, self-doubt, and the thought that she wasn’t enough. But everything shifted when she learned one powerful concept “I’m allowed to.” This simple reframe helped her release the weight of “I should” and “I have to,” and instead step into permission. Permission to not miss him, permission to move on, and permission to live her own life fully. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the loop of pain, wondering what’s wrong with you, Anne’s story and the mindset shift she shares will give you the exact perspective you need to take back your power and start moving forward. The Comeback (starts TODAY): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/thecomeback/
What happens when you finally stop obsessing over your ex, the one you thought would give you everything you ever wanted? In this episode, you'll hear from Braveheart alum Allison, who went from feeling deeply attached and convinced her ex was her only shot at the life she dreamed of… to no longer wanting him at all. And ironically, that’s when everything shifted. Together, we unpack the trap of high desire and high attachment, how to loosen your grip without pretending you don’t care, and the powerful analogy that changed everything for her healing. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the loop of “he was the best I’ll ever get,” this one will hit home and give you a new way out. The Comeback: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/thecomeback
You know you should move on, you even want to move on, but every time you start making progress, something inside you slams on the brakes. You sabotage your own healing, make excuses to stay stuck, or find reasons why you're "not ready yet." What if the thing keeping you trapped isn't love for your ex, it's fear of who you'll become without them? In this final episode of the series, I'm exposing the invisible barriers that keep you playing small and the exact process I'd use to shatter every limiting belief that's been keeping you caged. If you've ever wondered why you keep getting in your own way, this episode reveals what's really going on. The Comeback - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/thecomeback/
You keep waiting for your ex to give you the closure you need, an explanation, an apology, some sign that what you had mattered to them. In this episode, I'm revealing the twisted psychology behind why begging for closure actually pushes your ex further away, and the counterintuitive approach that either gets you your ex back or something infinitely better. Plus, I'm announcing something I've never offered before that's going to change how you approach getting over your ex completely. If you're tired of waiting for someone else to set you free, this episode flips everything you think you know about closure upside down. The Comeback - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/thecomeback/
You've been working on your nervous system and taking better care of yourself, but your ex is still living rent-free in your head 24/7. Every song reminds you of them, you're having fake arguments in the shower, and you keep replaying memories on repeat. You wonder if there's something seriously wrong with you. Why can't you just stop thinking about someone who clearly doesn't want you? In this episode, I'm revealing the real reason your brain is obsessed with your ex and the exact approach I'd use now to rebuild the most important relationship of your life. If you're tired of feeling like a prisoner in your own mind, this episode shows you the way out. The Get Over Your Ex Program - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
You've been doing all the "right things" to get over your ex. Therapy, journaling, staying busy, even no contact, but you're still waking up at 2 AM thinking about them, still checking their social media, still feeling like your whole life is completely over. You're not broken, and you're not doing anything wrong. There's just one crucial piece missing that most breakup advice completely ignores. In this episode, I'm sharing exactly what that piece is and the simple approach that finally made the difference for me and thousands of my clients. If you've been wondering why you're still struggling when you're trying so hard, this episode has the answers you've been looking for. The Get Over Your Ex Program - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Two years ago, she moved to Hawaii for love and got dumped the moment she landed. No friends, no support system, completely alone. Today? She's calling in from a surf trip in Mexico, planning adventures to the Maldives, and dating from a place of complete confidence. This is a 2-year check-in with a GOYE alumni who proves that your breakup breakdown can become your biggest breakthrough. She shares the exact tools she still uses daily, how she learned to stop taking rejection personally, and why dating feels effortless now. Her biggest revelation? Realizing his emotional unavailability had nothing to do with her worth. Now when someone isn't a fit, whether dating or career, she doesn't spiral, she just moves on. If you're in the thick of heartbreak thinking this is the worst thing that could happen to you, listen to this. You're going to look back and be proud of yourself. The life you're building without him is better than anything you imagined with him. The Get Over Your Ex Program is OPEN: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Are you making decisions based on what will make you happy or what will make other people comfortable? In this final episode of the ceiling-breaking series, Dorothy tackles the biggest limitation of all: living your life by committee. Discover why the fear of judgment only kicks in when you're about to do something that would actually light you up, and learn the question that will free you from everyone else's opinions about your choices. Get the Come Alive Audit that will show you exactly where you've been dimming yourself for others' approval and how to start choosing what makes you feel most alive. If you're tired of seeking permission to live fully, this episode gives you the framework to trust your own compass over the committee's vote. How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your Ex (1 hour free training) - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/ The Get Over Your Ex Program - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
"I'm not ready yet." These four words are keeping you stuck in preparation mode while your dreams collect dust. In this powerful episode, Dorothy exposes the readiness myth that convinces you to wait for some magical moment when you'll feel prepared enough to go after what you want. Spoiler alert: that moment never comes. Discover why "begin before you believe" is the secret to quantum leaps and get the Begin Before You Believe Challenge that will prove you can start before you feel ready. If you've been waiting to feel qualified, confident, or prepared enough to make your move, this episode will show you why starting scared is exactly what successful people do. How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your Ex (1 hour free training) - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/ The Get Over Your Ex Program - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Whether you're day one or year three post-breakup, there's an invisible trap keeping you playing small that has nothing to do with your ex. You're making "realistic" choices that keep you trapped in a life that's fine but not extraordinary. In this episode, Dorothy reveals why asking "What's realistic?" is the ceiling blocking your bigger life and shares the simple question shift that opens up possibilities you can't even see right now. Plus, get the Possibility Audit challenge that will show you exactly where you've been limiting yourself and how to break free. If you're ready to stop settling for what seems "realistic" and start building what's actually possible, this episode changes everything. How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your Ex (1 hour free training) - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/ The Get Over Your Ex Program - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
In this raw and honest episode, Dorothy exposes the dark side of our information-obsessed culture and how it's keeping you stuck in decision paralysis. After consuming countless expert opinions on everything from new motherhood to scaling her business, she found herself more confused and doubtful than when she started. Sound familiar? If you've ever felt overwhelmed by conflicting advice, paralyzed by too many options, or found yourself second-guessing decisions you used to make with ease, this episode will show you how to break free from information addiction and start taking action that actually moves you forward. Dorothy shares the exact steps she's using to cut through the noise and rediscover the decision-making confidence that built her dream life in the first place. How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your Ex (1 hour free training) - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/ The Bigger & Better Life Mastermind - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/biggerbetterlifemastermind/
Picture this: You finally get into that exclusive book club you've been trying to join for months. You walk in excited, ready to build your bigger and better life... and there's your ex. With their new partner. What do you do? Run? Hide? Or something completely different? Today I'm sharing a client's real-time experience that turned what felt like a setback into the most accelerating moment of her healing journey. If you've ever wondered how you'd handle running into your ex in the wild, this episode will change everything. The Get Over Your Ex Course - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourexcourse How to Fast Forward Getting Over Your Ex (1 hour training) - https://dorothyabjohnson.com/overyourexpodcast/
When you’re heartbroken, your “bigger and better life” can feel a million miles away. Like something that happens someday if you can just survive the now. But what if the life you want isn’t actually far off… you’re just not stepping into the rocket that’s sitting right in front of you? In this episode, Braveheart Colleen and I discuss how we delay our own healing and growth by waiting for the ‘right time’ instead of recognizing the acceleration that’s available right now. If you’re feeling stuck or like things are moving painfully slow, this conversation is your invitation to shift gears, get in the rocket, and make real, tangible progress toward the life you say you want. Colleen's Blog: colleenschwartz.substack.com Colleen’s Instagram: @colleenschwartz
You’re furious and you can't stop thinking about it. Your ex said or did something you completely disagree with, and even though you understand how they might see it that way, you know they’re wrong. The anger feels endless, and the more you think about it, the worse it gets. In this episode, I’m breaking down why rage after a breakup sticks around longer than it should, why it’s really there, and how to finally move past it without needing your ex to agree with you. You’ll learn the hidden role anger is playing in your healing, the three-step process to break out of the rage cycle, and how to take your power back when you’re stuck in mental arguments you can’t win. If you feel trapped replaying what they said and how wrong they were, you cannot miss this episode. The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
You're stuck thinking your ex was the only person you could ever truly want and every time you meet someone new, your brain seems to prove it. In this episode, we break down why you’re not just missing your ex, you’re caught in what I call a "mental hostage situation." I’ll show you how your brain is running two hidden tracks at once, how they’re keeping you stuck, and the simple shift that breaks the loop. If you feel like no one could ever measure up to your ex, this episode will change how you see everything and open up possibilities you can't even see yet. The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/ The Breakup First Aid LIVE (Replays): https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupfirstaidlive/ The Breakup Toolkit: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakuptoolkit/
You're terrified you'll never experience love again. Every dating app swipe feels empty, every "moving on" advice rings hollow, and deep down, you wonder if your chance at real love died with your relationship. But what if this fear isn't what's actually holding you back? In this episode, I'm exposing the hidden thought patterns keeping you locked in post-breakup limbo and sharing the exact mindset shift that transformed my clients' relationship with love after heartbreak. If you're haunted by the question "What if they were my last chance at love?" — this is the episode you need to hear. The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex
Your ex left, but the thoughts didn't. Join Breakup Coach Dorothy for a free 2-day live experience that will completely change your relationship with your breakup. In this quick episode, she reveals what you'll discover during Breakup First Aid LIVE and why this approach works when conventional breakup advice fails. Breakup First Aid LIVE: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/breakupfirstaidlive/
That quality you hate most about yourself? It might actually be your greatest strength. In this episode, I share how one of my clients discovered her "indecisiveness" was actually her hidden superpower and how this revelation transformed her healing journey. I'll walk you through the exact 5-step process to identify, reframe, and embrace the parts of yourself you've been at war with (often the same parts your ex criticized). When you finally love what you've been taught to hate, you don't just heal faster, you unlock the secret to building a life that's genuinely bigger and better than the one you had with your ex. The Get Over Your Ex Program: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/
Leila Alavi
that was amazing 👏