How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!

Online Dating Is Brutal in 2026—Here Are 26 New Rules to Finally Get Good Matches (Part 1)

You’re exhausted by the dating apps, right? The endless swiping, the scarcity of matches, the ghosting. The problem? Online dating has changed, and most guys are still using outdated strategies. In this two-part episode, dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down his 26 new rules for online dating in 2026. It’s time to match more, get ghosted less, and finally find your dream woman in the new year.Episode Highlights:03:30: The Biggest Myth About Online Dating that Changes Everything07:20: How to Choose Photos You KNOW Will Work (Backed by Data)13:27: Survival of the Spiciest: The Prompt Women Respond To19:02: Replace Your Opening Photo with This33:12: The Secret to Taking Your Bio from Boring to Swipe-ableBOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS COACHING CAN HELP YOU MEET THE GIRLFRIEND YOU’VE ALWAYS WANTED: www.DatingTransformation.com

12-11
36:05

Introducing The 6 Icks: A New Dating Framework to Never Be Creepy—and Always Flirt with Charm

Chances are, you freeze up around women because you’re afraid of seeming weird or creepy. You just don’t want to give women “the ick,” right? In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett proudly unveils his new framework: The 6 Icks—the 6 core behaviors that creep women out. Once you know them, you’re free to make confident, calibrated moves without seeming pushy or inappropriate.Episode Highlights:02:45: The Moment Connell Learned How to Approach with Charm, Not Creepiness12:15: The Sex Object Ick: Leading with Sexual Comments that Objectify Women13:05: The Too Timid Ick: Hesitant, Fearful Energy that Feels Uncomfortable14:20: The Me-First Ick: Making It About What You Want, Rather than a Win-Win15:22: The Try-Hard Ick: Desperate Bragging, Instead of Authentic Core Confidence16:35: The Signal-Blind Ick: Missing or Ignoring Her Cues and Escalating the Wrong Way20:01: The Agenda Ick: Using Manipulative Tactics & Ignoring Her BoundariesBOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU MEET WOMEN AND FLIRT WITH CHARM:DatingTransformation.com

12-04
35:06

The Truth about Liquid Courage + 9 Ways to Make Sobriety Your New Edge in Dating (Part 3)

Dating sober raises real questions: Will women find you less interesting without alcohol? How do you handle social anxiety at bars or parties without “liquid courage”? And is liquid courage even real? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett answers 10 questions from sober (and sober-curious) men, revealing how to unlock core confidence, enjoy great dates, and make sobriety your new edge in dating.WANT TO MEET YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND IN 90 DAYS OR LESS? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://DatingTransformation.com

12-03
37:50

I Approached Models in Miami Stone-Cold Sober… and Everything Changed (Sober Dating, Part 2 of 3)

Most guys need alcohol to approach women. But what if meeting women in bars actually gets easier when you’re sober—if done the right way? In Part 2 of his Sober Dating series, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his 5-step framework for reaching a fearless flow state when out meeting women, no booze required.Episode Highlights:01:58: What Happened When Connell Approached Models Sober10:03: Getting “Drunk” on Action: the Natural High that Beats Booze13:48: The 5 Master Steps–Your Framework for Confidently Approaching Women23:25: How Robbie Went from Frightened to Getting 5 Numbers in One Night29:30: The Truth about What to Say When You ApproachBOOK A FREE CONSULT WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW YOU CAN APPROACH WOMEN WITHOUT THE CRUTCH OF ALCOHOL: DatingTransformation.com

11-27
32:40

I Chose My Girlfriend Over Johnnie Walker: Love Lessons from 1,000 Days Sober (Part 1)

If you struggle with dating, you’re probably addicted to something. Maybe it's “liquid courage,” or settling for so-so relationships, or choosing porn over approaching women. In this 3-part sober dating series, dating coach Connell Barrett shares his 1,000-day journey of sobriety—and offers 3 steps that can help you beat almost any addiction. Whether you want to date sober or get out of your comfort zone, this inspiring episode shows you how to upgrade your love life.Episode Highlights:06:54: How a 30-Day “Booze Break” Became 1,000 Days—and a Whole New Life13:04: “This Is Not Me”: The Moment Connell Knew He Had to Change19:01: The Liquid Courage Lie28:00: The Lasting Way to Destroy an Addiction37:30: Three Steps to Kick Any Habit—and Transform Your Dating ConfidenceFOR A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL BARRETT TO SEE IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: Go to DatingTransformation.com

11-25
52:59

Ask the Dating Coach: ‘How Do I Start Conversations with Women without Making It Awkward?’

If you struggle to start conversations with women, this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” will help. While taking questions, dating coach Connell Barrett gives you a simple, reliable ice-breaker you can use anywhere to talk to women—without it feeling awkward. He also reveals how much height and looks actually matter to women (hint: not much!). And you won’t believe what one guy is willing to do to his body to become taller.Episode Highlights:01:32: “Connell, How Do I Make Women Chase Me?”08:25: “How Do I Start Conversations without Making It Awkward?”11:55: “What Actually Makes Women Attracted to Men?”17:30: “How Important Are a Guy’s Looks to Women?”22:57: “Should I Get Leg-Lengthening Surgery to Become Taller?”DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T": Connell@datingtransformation.com

11-19
29:39

The E=MC² of Dating: How to Be Charismatic to Women (Even if You’re Shy or Introverted)

Do you feel like you’re just not charismatic? It’s frustrating to see outgoing guys succeed with women, while you feel stuck. But what if you could become charismatic to women today, without changing who you are? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals his Charisma Code—the 3-part formula that helps introverts become magnetic to women. Get ready to discover the E=MC² of dating to unlock real charisma.Episode Highlights:01:48: The Charisma Code Formula: AE + P + Pl = Charisma02:40: How Connell First Applied it for a Great First Date07:37: Authentic Expression (AE): Why Your Uniqueness Unlocks True Charisma12:42: Presence (P): How to Get Out of Your Head when Talking to Women19:05: Playfulness (Pl): The Flirting Secret Women Want You to KnowBOOK A FREE CONSULT CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN ABOUT HIS 1-on-1 COACHING: http://www.datingtransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL AND HE WILL SEND YOU A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

11-13
26:56

From Boring to Banter! 5 Flirty Banter Secrets that Create Instant Romantic Chemistry

Are you unsure how to flirt with women? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 5 flirty banter secrets that help you create chemistry, avoid awkward silences, and get her into you. These simple techniques work both in-person and on the dating apps. It’s time to go from boring to being great at banter.Episode Highlights:2:11: Secret #1: How to Tease Her without Crossing the Line6:48: Secret #2: Make Her the Seducer (A Fun Roleplay that Women Love)10:40: Secret #3: The 5 Best Banter Topics that Ignite Chemistry17:12: Secret #4: How to Spark Attraction with Sarcasm20:28: Secret #5: The Playful Pivot: Never Run Out of Things to Say Again!TO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com

11-11
27:16

“She Dumped Me for Her Ex! What Am I Doing Wrong?” Your Trickiest Dating Questions Answered

Have you ever liked a woman who chose a total jerk over you? It stings and makes you wonder, “What does he have that I don’t?” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps a listener learn why the woman he was dating went back to her toxic ex—and what to do differently to attract the wonderful relationship he deserves.Highlights of this Episode:01:31: The Real Reason Women Sometimes Choose Jerks Over Good Guys07:12: Why Nice Guys like You Can Date Wonderful Women—If You Do One Thing26:15: How to Fearlessly Ask Out Your CrushTO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

11-06
37:30

From No Dates to 2 Dates a Week: New Strategies to Fill Your Dating Dance Card

Has it been months—or even years—since you had a first date with an incredible woman? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett explains why your options are scarce, and how to fix it. He’ll walk you through three proven ways to meet women so you can go from zero dates to two quality dates a week.You’re About to Learn:02:25: Why You’re Dateless (and Why It’s About to Change)04:55: How Connell Went from Lonely to Landing 3 Dates in 3 Nights07:03: A Trio of New, Powerful Ways to Get an Abundance of DatesTO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

10-30
30:17

How a Shy, Lonely Software Engineer Learned to Flirt and Found his Dream Woman—and How You Can, Too!

If you struggle to talk to women or feel stuck in the friend zone, you need to hear Tony’s story. A shy, single dad and software engineer, Tony was dateless when he began working with Connell. By learning how to flirt with women and bring confidence to every date, Tony met his dream girlfriend, Jennifer. In this episode, he shares the exact shifts and flirting techniques that helped him succeed—so you can find love, too.Episode Highlights:01:54: Why Tony Felt Women Didn’t Want Him03:31: The Self-Doubt Voice that Keeps Men Single—and How to Silence It12:36: Steal the “Time Traveler” Online Dating Opener that Got Jennifer’s Attention17:36: How Tony Escaped the Friend Zone on His First Date21:20: The First Date that Changed Everything27:53: Tony’s Take—the One Move Every Shy, Single Guy Should MakeTO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

10-28
29:00

“Nice Guys Are Sexy—if They Do This One Thing.” A Maxim Model’s Dating Secret

Do you worry you’re “too nice”? Tired of seeing women date jerks? It’s time to own being a nice guy! The truth is, women actually prefer kind men over “alpha males,” if you make 3 key moves. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares these tested tips. Plus—the powerful lesson he learned from a Maxim model. Nice guys can finish first with women, and this episode shows you how.Episode Highlights:04:41: Move #1: Ignore the “Alpha Male” Myth09:05: What 64,000 Women Actually Want in a Man (It’s Not Looks or Money)16:13: Move #2: Be a Man with a Game Plan20:26: Maxim Model: “Nice Guys are Sexy, if They Do One Thing”22:24: Move #3: Direct the Date to Quickly Spark AttractionTO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

10-23
30:47

How to TRIPLE Your Number of Hinge Matches (with ‘Date Smarter’ Author Tim Molnar)

Dating apps feel rigged, and IRL approaches are just plain awkward, right? How are you supposed to find love today? In this encore episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” author Tim Molnar draws from his insightful new book, “Date Smarter,” to offer practical, research-backed dating strategies. A data-driven dating expert, Molnar shares what works both on the apps and in real life—including one move that has TRIPLED Hinge matches for some singles.Highlights of this Episode Include:05:11: The Primacy Effect: Why the First 5 Minutes of a Date are Make or Break09:45: How to Make Sure You Get Date No. 221:07: How to Get 500 Percent (!) Better Approach Results with the “Small Favor” Strategy26:13: 100,000 Swipes, Zero Dates—Why Some Men Fail on the Apps44:16: Why Paid Dating Apps (Not the Free Ones) Give You a Better Shot at Love47:12: How to Instantly Triple Your Number of Hinge Dates54:07: Why Tim’s IRL Approaches Got Him 10 Times More Second Dates than the Apps DidListen now and triple your number of Hinge matches!LEARN ABOUT TIM MOLNAR AND GET A COPY OF HIS NEW DATING BOOK, ‘DATE SMARTER’:http://www.TimothyMolnar.comGET ‘DATE SMARTER’ ON AMAZON: https://www.amazon.com/Date-Smarter-Strategic-Navigating-Romance-ebook/dp/B0DP3GJPZ5DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: http://www.DatingTransformation.com

10-21
01:13:35

Be Magnetic to Women as the Nice Guy You Are—By Doing ONE Thing

Why do “nice guys” get friend-zoned while jerks get the girl? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett smashes the “Nice Guy” myth, settles the debate over who should pay on a first date, and shares the time he flew cross-country to surprise a woman he’d never met—with an unexpected “gift.” You will laugh. You will cringe. Listen now!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF 1-1 DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY: Connell@datingtransformation.com

10-16
21:35

From Reddit Rage to Real Connection: How Ajay Learned that Women Actually Like Good Guys!

Do you fear that approaching women might get you labeled a creep—or even socially shunned? Connell’s client Ajay once felt that way. Drowning in toxic Reddit advice, Ajay believed that women didn’t want to meet good guys like him. In this episode of ‘How to Get a Girlfriend,” he tells Connell how he went from feeling terrified to approach women to confidently meeting cool, cute girls. It turns out, women actually LIKE good guys.Highlights of this Episode:01:45: Ajay’s Greatest Fear that Kept Him from Approaching Women07:54: How He Met 6 Women in One Day—and Transformed His Confidence13:15: The Instant Kiss that Led to Ajay’s Spiritual Breakthrough22:29: The Biggest Reddit Lie About Approaching… Exposed!28:08: “Get off Reddit!” Ajay’s Unfiltered Advice to Escape Toxic MasculinityDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

10-14
44:11

Flip the Authenticity Switch: 4 New Ways to Approach Women IRL (No Pickup Tricks Needed)

Do you see women you’d love to talk to in real life but you freeze up? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals how to flip the “Authenticity Switch” and go from anxiousness to confidently approaching women—without any cheesy pickup lines. Four powerful shifts will help you meet women in a charming way. Plus, Connell gives you 4 practical approach missions to start meeting women today.DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING: www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T": Connell@datingtransformation.com

10-09
20:20

How Shy Robbie Got 5 Numbers in 3 Hours! Steal This Move for Fearless Approaching

Robbie, 26, is a shy software engineer who had never approached a woman in a bar—until one Friday night when dating coach Connell Barrett taught him the Hero Approach. It’s a bold move you make to start a night that unlocks authentic confidence. Three hours later, Robbie had collected 5 phone numbers. “I’m in god mode,” he said at one point. In this episode, you’ll learn how to use the Hero Approach to fearlessly meet women anywhere!Highlights of this Episode:04:47: Meet Robbie, Who Battled Approach Anxiety and Self-Doubt07:10: The Hero Approach: The Game-Changing Move to Unlock Confidence09:35: “Approach Her or I’ll Put You in a Headlock”—Coach Connell Gets Tough12:00: Robbie Reaches “God Mode” and Gets 5 Phone Numbers15:03: Three Approaching Myths DestroyedBOOK A FREE CONSULT CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN ABOUT HIS 1-on-1 COACHING: http://www.datingtransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL AND HE WILL SEND YOU A FREE COPY OF HIS BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Connell@datingtransformation.com

10-07
29:33

5 Fixes to Make Your Online Dating Profile a Match Magnet Today—New Photos NOT Needed

Struggling to get matches on Hinge, Bumble or Tinder? It’s not your looks, and it’s not the dating apps. It’s your profile. Small but costly mistakes make women swipe left. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five proven “Match Magnet” fixes you can apply today—using the photos you already have. No photo shoot, no stress. Just make 5 simple upgrades to turn your profile into match-generating machine.Episode Highlights:04:30: Match Magnet #1: Be Hilarious, Not Handsome10:04: Match Magnet #2: Entice Her with a Good Travel Shot12:31: Match Magnet #3: Replace Red Flags with Green Flags16:30: Match Magnet #4: Get Down & Flirty21:31: Match Magnet #5: Tug at Her HeartstringsBOOK A FREE CONSULT WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-1 DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://www.DatingTransformation.com

10-02
29:25

From Playdates to First Dates: The Single Dad’s Dating Reset (Live Coaching with Zach!)

Online dating is tough for most men. But when you’re a single dad, it’s hard to find the energy and motivation. In this live coaching session, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his client Zach—a single dad re-entering the dating world—improve both his online dating profile and his mindset. Don’t miss Zach’s breakthrough moment (at the 42-minute mark) when he realizes the real reason he’s not meeting the kinds of women he’s into. Listen now!Episode Highlights:13:36: The Funny ‘DILF’ Prompt that Gets Women Laughing and Writing You Back26:02: How to Navigate Your Busy Schedule and Still Get Dates43:10: Zach’s “Aha!” Moment: “This is Why I Haven’t Had more Dates!”59:25: Zach Unlocks the Power of Fearless Flirting1:08:09: The Secret to Motivation, Action… and a Date by this WeekendDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-ON-1 DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.DatingTransformation.com

09-30
01:11:30

Stop! Getting! Ghosted! The 5 Flirting Escalators to Turn First Dates into Second (and Third and Eighth) Dates

More live coaching! Join dating coach and bestselling author (“Dating Sucks but You Don’t”) Connell Barrett as he helps his client Evan break through a big roadblock: getting ghosted after first dates. Connell reveals the 5 Flirting Escalators—the crucial steps Evan was missing. Get ready to stop hearing “I’m not feeling a connection” and start hearing “When are we going out again?” Listen now.DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-ON-1 DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://www.DatingTransformation.com

09-25
52:05

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I really appreciate most of the advice in this episode, but the money thing... I'm sorry, but how shallow can you get? Corey Wayne says if a woman asks you what kind of car you drive, you tell her you ride the bus. Money enough to provide and enjoy life is enough, whether that's 100,000 or less. I would literally never date that woman you spoke about.

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