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Real-life scenarios and practical, professional advice for adult children of immigrants on talking to our parents about stuff that’s taboo to them.
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Rae gave birth during the COVID-19 pandemic. She developed postpartum depression while caring for her baby under lockdown, and tried to explain to her Chinese-Jamaican family what she was going through. And, psychiatrist Leena Mittal, who specializes in maternal mental health, speaks with Juleyka about normalizing this experience, which is the most common complication of pregnancy.Our expert this week is Dr. Leena Mittal, Chief of the Division of Women’s Mental Health at Brigham and Women’s Hospital where she serves as Program Director for the Women’s Mental Health Fellowship . If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Telling Mamí She Needs Mental Help and When Mamí Makes You Doubt Becoming A Mom.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Liz is excited about exploring her sexual orientation and fluidity, but thinks her more conservative Colombian mother will not be as open to the idea. And, sex educator Stephanie Campos offers us strategies to bring our loved ones along, once we're ready.Our expert this week is Public Health Professional and Sex Educator Stephanie Campos. Stephanie is a sex educator with Sex Discussed Here! and you can learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Talking to their Parents About Being Nonbinary and Overcoming Shame to Love Who You Are.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Nathalie’s parents moved her and her siblings to Mexico as children and back to the U.S. later on. Those decisions had huge consequences for their emotional lives, which the family is now trying to understand. And, family therapist Catalina Fortich returns to help us reshape our "dominant narratives" to reconnect with loved ones—and ourselves.Our expert this week is Catalina Fortich, a marriage and family therapist with her own private practice based in South Florida, Safe Place Therapy. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to She's Stuck in a Family Triangle and When Mamí & Papí Help Too Much,We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Carmella believes her mother's drinking is a serious concern, but getting her and her Cuban family to acknowledge it––and the impact on her mom's health––has been a challenge. And, substance-abuse specialist Liliana Calle helps us destigmatize addiction.Our expert this week is Liliana Calle, a mental health therapist specializing in substance use disorders affiliated with Montefiore Medical Center.SAMHSA's National Helpline, 1 (800) 662-HELP (4357), provides 24/7 information and referrals to those suffering from substance use disorder and their loved ones. Here are some helpful resources for understanding alcohol and addiction and where to find local help,   and an organization  that offers friends and family the opportunity to get support of their own.If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Telling Mamí She Needs Mental Help and When Papí Gets a Fatal Diagnosis.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Carmen identifies as a feminist, but the term has negative connotations for her Cuban parents. And, migration and gender scholar Berta Hernández-Truyol helps us deconstruct the label and reclaim the word feminism.Carmen is the cohost of the Teikirisi podcast. Our expert this week is Berta Esperanza Hernández-Truyol, professor of law at the University of Florida Law School . Learn more about her work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to She Has A Ph.D But Papí Still Wants Her to Serve Him, and When Mamí Wants You Close, But You Need Space.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Nelson's Colombian mom always looked down on salespeople and scoffed at his father's business ambitions. Now an entrepreneur, he still struggles with her misperceptions. And, psychotherapist Stevon Lewis helps us talk about our ambitions with our loved ones and reconcile different definitions of success.Our expert this week is Stevon Lewis, a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice based in Inglewood, CA. Learn more about his work here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Talking to Mamí About Her Money, and She Loves Her Work, Her Parents Don't Get It.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Veda talks about deciding not to speak with their Indian parents about their gender identity. And, Sree Sinha, co-founder of  the South Asian Sexual and Mental Health Alliance, helps us figure out when, if, and how to talk about identity and sexuality with loved ones.Our expert this week is Sree Sinha, Co-founder of the South Asian Mental & Sexual Health Alliance, or SAMSHA. Learn more about her organization here, and find their podcast, Brown Taboo Project, here. Sree recommends this UN map on gender and sexuality across time and culture, and this PBS map on diverse genders. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to Overcoming Shame to Love Who You Are, and Coming Out to My Family.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Kristie just received her doctorate, a milestone that's impacting her father-daughter relationship and revealing tensions in her Mexican-American family around gender roles and expectations. And, psychologist Gabriela Livas Stein comes back to walk us through "selective acculturation" and how to align our family roles with our values.Our expert this week is Gabriela Livas Stein, Associate Professor of Psychology at University of North Carolina in Greensboro. Learn more about her lab here. If you loved this episode, be sure to listen to When Familism Hurts, and She's Fighting Inherited Gender Roles. We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Diane's Korean mother and grandmother live in New Jersey, and would like her to visit more often. But Diane has a full life in NYC, and feels guilty and torn. Hatty Lee, a marriage and family therapist who works with Asian-Americans, shares tips on how to speak with loved ones about honoring our individual and family needs.Our expert, Hatty Lee is a licensed, marriage and family therapist in private practice based in Los Angeles, California. Hatty co-authored a book called The Indwell Guide, an eight-step mental health guide to help people  begin to recover from the past, reclaim their true self, and learn to live with purpose. Find out more about her work on her website.
Spiritual life coach Michelle Gomez speaks with Juleyka about what he calls the Latina Mother Wound, and shares strategies to recognize and begin to heal childhood traumas that impact mother-daughter relationships. Then, she offers advice on how to incorporate it all into conscious parenting practices.Our expert, Michelle Gomez, is a spiritual life coach, author, and sacred space holder. You can learn more about her work on her website, where you can also download her free e-book The Latina Mother Wound, and her digital healing guide The Healing Hija Accelerator . Michelle also runs a community of sisterhood, Healed Hijas, a FB group of Latina adult daughters at different stages in their Mother Wound healing journey.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Liz and her Mexican mom have always had a difficult mother-daughter relationship. Now that Liz is thinking of having children, she worries that because of her strict Catholic upbringing, and her emotionally-detached mother, she may not have become the type of parent she wants to be.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
When Oriana opened an online bookstore focused on BIPOC authors, her Venezuelan parents didn't understand why it was necessary to highlight the identity and work of writers of color. And, facilitator Liza Talusan offers advice on how to discuss anti-racism and inclusion with our parents.You can visit Xolo Books, here. Our expert on this episode is Dr. Liza Talusan, a scholar practitioner in areas of diversity, equity, inclusion, justice, and leadership. Learn more about her work with organizations, corporations, leadership teams, schools and individuals on her website. Liza highly recommends the work and resources from Courageous Conversations, including this protocol for having conversations about race.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
When Gina was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder—the cause of her insomnia, panic attacks, and night teeth-grinding—she decided not to tell her Latino parents. Dr. Ana Ribas, an anxiety specialist, shares strategies for discussing our mental health and treatment options with our parents.Our expert on this episode, Dr. Ana Ribas, is a clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles, specializing in anxiety, OCD, and relationship issues. She is also the Assistant Clinical Director of the UCLA Adult OCD Intensive Outpatient Treatment Program. Learn more about Dr. Ana's work here.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Ray's father passed away last year. A few years earlier Ray and his parents discussed the kind of care his dad would want at the end of his life. Professor of Law María Mercedes Pabón returns with advice on how to broach this difficult subject with loved ones.Our expert on this episode, María Mercedes Pabón, is a professor of law at Loyola University New Orleans. Here is a good overview on living wills and advance directives, a list of forms by state (also in Spanish), and a multicultural online tool to help individuals explore their wishes and talk about them with family, friends, and medical providers.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Fryda grew up in a Cuban-American family, and easily sees how her mother's life in Cuba influenced how she raised her. As a result, sometimes their relationship feels strained. And, Juleyka speaks with an immigration and acculturation scholar who helps us uphold boundaries with parents.Fryda is the cohost of the Teikirisi podcast. Our expert this week is Rose Perez, Associate Professor in the School of Social Work at Fordham University. You can learn more about her work here.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Jor grew up in a very religious Indian family. Coming out to himself and to his parents took years. And, Aruna Rao, who guides South Asian LGBTQ+ individuals and their families, helps us accept and affirm our loved ones' identities.Jor Gonsalves is the host of  Unshaming, a podcast about representation and storytelling. You can listen wherever you get your podcast. Our expert is Aruna Rao, founder of Desi Rainbow Parents, an organization that fosters understanding and acceptance among South Asian families, with the goal of affirming and celebrating LGBTQ+ individuals. Learn more about the work they do on their website, here.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Rafe was sexually assaulted as a teen, and only began to open up to his family about it and his sexual identity as an adult. He now feels very much loved but bears the scars of the incident and the silence around it. And, Juleyka speaks with Rosalia Rivera, an abuse prevention expert who works with survivor parents, about how to teach consent and body autonomy in our families.Our expert is Rosalia Rivera, a consent educator, abuse prevention expert, and sexual literacy advocate who works  with child sexual abuse survivors who are now parents.  She is the founder of Consent Parenting and the host of the About Consent podcast, and the creatrix of CONSENTwear. To learn more about her work visit her website here.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts. 
Amalia grew up watching her Cuban mom work hard to make ends meet. As an adult, Amalia is her mom’s safety net, but talking with her about finances and planning for the future makes her very nervous. Then, Juleyka speaks with certified financial advisor Anna N’Jie-Konte about how to talk to our parents about their money.Our expert, Anna N'Jie-Konte is the founder of Dare to Dream Financial Planning, a financial planning firm serving women of color, and she's the host of the "First-Gen Realness". podcast. Visit her website and learn more about her work here.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Ele's parents have always been really supportive. When she and her husband lost their home during the recession, her parents took them and their kids in. Ele was grateful, but at times overwhelmed by their eagerness to help. Then, Dr. Maritza Mikolich, a family therapist, shares strategies for talking to parents about how best to really help us.Our expert, Dr. Maritza Mikolich, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a doctoral degree of psychology and a specialty in EMDR. Learn more about her work here.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
Mental health professional Blanca Amaya, who specializes in culturally competent, trauma-informed therapy, helps us talk about suicide, depression, and mental illness with our loved ones. Our expert, Blanca E Amaya is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who provides psychotherapy in English and Spanish. She owns her own practice, Amaya Counseling in Pasadena, California. Visit her website  here.We’d love to hear your stories of triumph and frustration so send us a detailed voice memo to hello@talktomamipapi.com. You might be on a future episode! Let’s connect on Twitter and Instagram at @TalkToMamiPapi and email us at hello@talktomamipapi.com. And follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and anywhere you listen to your favorite podcasts.
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