Join the Ma'ams for a lively discussion of how they tackle the common woe of relationship monotony. Sometimes all it takes is a touch of initiative to shake off the doldrums that occur in long term relationships.
The Ma'ams delve into an often overlooked casualty of menopause - the mind. What to do if a drop in estrogen is contributing to absent mindedness and forgetfulness due to undiagnosed ADHD?
Sandy stepped way out of her comfort zone by accepting an award that acknowledged her as a Long Island Power Woman. Kyra acknowledges that she's not a public speaker, yet she was able to entertain at her best friend's wedding, presenting a lengthy and memorable toast for the audience to enjoy.
The Ma'ams talk to a 60 year old MAN who is living his best life and question why they aren't?
Sandy and Kyra are giddy over the latest reality tv dating show, The Golden Bachelor, which focuses on finding love in midlife.
Sandy felt abandoned by her husband at his boss' party, when he didn't realize that she had been eating dinner alone while he was at the bar talking to his female and male colleagues. Kyra enjoyed being left alone at parties. In fact she insists upon it. 'Cliff go away, I want to mingle on my own and now worry about you being upset with me'.
As Kyra and Sandy take a stroll down memory lane, sharing the wisdom they'd impart to their younger selves, a revelation unfolds. It seems the echoes of wisdom align with the timeless lyrics of Baz Luhrmann's 'Everybody's Free'. Looks like the universal truth persists: they've discovered firsthand that, indeed, Mother was right all along.
Sandy & Kyra explore their texting styles and discover that it would be helpful to have a texting guidebook for reference.
The Ma'ams reminisce about their coming of age and the journey that led them into womanhood. Sandy remembered playing spin the bottle and kissing a boy named Ira who was a good kisser. Kyra was focused on the chant "I Must, I must increase my bust" because she was worried her breasts would resemble a woman she delivered newspapers to.
Kyra worries about who will take care of her in her older age, due to the fact that she doesnt live with her boyfriend, or have children. Sandy cannot assume her sons will take care of her. After all, they will have partners that will need to be considered first.
Sandy brings up a situation where her husband thought she was being hit on. Kyra thinks innocent banter between men and women is harmless, yet she believes there needs to be a new term for "hitting on".
The Ma'ams candidly discuss their technology frustrations, feeling somewhat out of place in the digital age. Sandy reluctantly acknowledges that her anxiety turns into a high-tech stand-up comedy show whenever she attempts to master the digital world. Kyra, who prides herself on being fiercely independent, finds herself helpless, having to rely on the younger generation for guidance.
The Ma'ams wonder if "You look good for your age" is a true compliment or just a polite way of saying "You're old but still holding up.'" Sandy thinks that people can simply say "you look good" and not qualify the statement with "your age". After all, who decides how women should look at any age? Kyra likes when people say she does not look her age. She doesn't like when her boyfriend says "you look good, today" leading her to wonder how bad she looked on other days.
The Ma'ams grapple with their slower paced lifestyles in middle age. Kyra, a lifelong thrill-seeker and adrenaline junkie, finds solace on her colossal "boat" couch, binge-watching streaming shows and reminiscing about prior adventures. Sandy fondly recalls her party-filled Bar Mitzvah days.
The Ma'ams have different views about doing less and being in the moment. Sandy and Kyra discuss the concept that doing less is actually a superpower. Sandy says she could benefit by doing one thing at a time, while Kyra says she is more effective multitasking.
Sandy admits to being a terrible packer and stresses about her need to take everything with her, clearly making airport travel a nightmare, especially for her husband who must juggle all her suitcases. Kyra has learned to take less on trips, allowing her to check her bag and not schlepp a suitcase. She enjoys zipping in and out of airports seamlessly.
The Ma'ams discuss whether Martha Stewart's decision to appear on the cover of Sports Illustrated was beneficial for older women or if it set higher standards. Sandy believes that Martha Stewart looked fantastic and served as an inspiration for older women, making them feel attractive and sexy. Kyra feels that Martha Stewart appears artificial due to favorable lighting and costly cosmetic procedures. She believes that the image projected might make an average woman feel inadequate, especially considering that most middle-aged women don't resemble that ideal.
Sandy and Kyra reminisce about how their friendship began in midlife, with Kyra in Yellowstone hiking up a mountain and Sandy calling her to discuss a patient. It's hard for Sandy to find time to make new friends, especially when she doesn't see some of her closest friends. Kyra, a self described introvert, is cautious about meeting new people who can be overstimulating.
Grey hair - what to do or not to do? Sandy thinks it's liberating when women let their grey hair shine and aren't subjected to frequent salon visits. Conversely, Kyra has been told by men she dates that grey hair reminds them of their mothers and grandmothers, which can't be sexy.
The Ma'ams are diagnosed with Osteoporisis. Kyra feels she is turning into dust. Sandy takes a more pragmatic approach in dealing with and treating this disease.