Oh, when a Mucinex Booger provides you with a commentary to a question that was never asked, it can only mean one thing, misogynoir is at work. This week's offender is Mr. Aries Spears - who recently found himself in the crosshairs of #ubw's minding their own businessessssss on the innanets. The walking bruise informed us that it was not in our interests to wear what he calls "pterodactyl wings" on our faces. These dinosaur references are in response to the false eyelashes that many women wea...
We not fuxing with dis-respeck this week or anymore my fellow #ubw. It's a word that remains front and center when there is a discussion regarding the relationships between Black Women and Black Men - often when there is a rebuke of the toleration of disrespect, mistreatment, or abuse, be it of the seemingly innocuous kind ("I don't date Black Women") to the incredibly violent kind (of the Diddy variety). Thus, I found it most fascinating that when researching articles regarding the ten...
We are revisiting an earlier episode, and it is apropos. The dusty a** sons are partcluarly mite covered these days. From the ninja whom I deny knowing to America's "leaders" (I see you Byron Donalds) - the paupers in too large King's clothing continue to beat their chests while leaving a trail of unacknowledged disaster in the background. Mamas I come back to you, please, for the love of all things holy, Get.Your.Dusty.Ass.Sons! **************************************************************...
I'll tell you what we we are not fuxing with, and that is Juneteenth or Father's Day. For the record, the people asked to not be executed at random, and they were provided with a day off from work. Any holiday in which a local school district can switch to a more "convenient" day is not a real holiday. Yes, I said it. We not fuxing with Father's Day either in this 2024. Mine is on punishment, and the ninja whom I deny ever knowing, uses the moniker "king." Le sigh. While clearly t...
We have a whole lot to catch up on, so we fuxing with a great deal today. We are close to the halfway mark for the year. What dedicated routines have you committed to in order to get some of the promises you made to YOU happen? What do you do when you fall off your routine (there should be a resounding - "get yo' ass back up" from the audience)? We also catching up on that Ninja and the nonsense that we co-sign on. Namely, the necessity of requiring a video before a decision is ma...
We fuxing with Black Mothers and Black Daughters today (or maybe not). The fractures between them are conversation topics covered in the annals of sociology, psychology, the chucch, and our homes. It is complex. The relationship with mine has been brought into full relief as I assess its shaky foundation. Mired by the cultural mores that say to have a vagina makes one less than - whose fault is it when the women are complicit in their own demise. This question keeps coming up as I consi...
We not fuxing with Diddy. Just no, we will not make it about him. But rather, what is it that the #ubw needs to sever the ties in these abusive relationships? When I consider the through line of when it is that people are more open to having conversations related to domestic violence against women, specifically Black Women, it is when the victim of the abuse, be it physical, emotional, verbal, or financial, speaks truth about it. Consider the abuse experienced by Rihanna (Chris Brown), Meghan...
I guess we were not fuxing with Mother's Day this year? With a recognition that this holiday can be painful for many, this particular Mother's Day was a reflective one for me. In this season in which I challenge all the things in which I have been trained to believe, the issue that continues to rear its head is the value (or lack thereof) that is placed on my motherhood based on my attachment to a man. Meaning, while I consider myself an amazing mother - I mean, the Uppity Black Girl in...
We fuxing with rest, in all its forms, because #ubw is exhausted. We are literally waiting to exhale. And if you are a #ubw of a certain age, you are most likely living the movie: Waiting to Exhale. The deep breaths continue. When we do back to back episodes related to the mistreatment, the humbling, the disdain, the disrespect, the persecution - the list continues (MISOGYNOIR).... we get tired. So today we focus on the things that rejuvenate us, and we fuxung with the seven forms of re...
My therapist tells me that I take a great deal of deep breaths during our sessions. I know why - its exhausting navigating the world as a card carrying member of the #ubw club. The people are out in full force, letting us know that misogynoir is here to stay, so my Sisters, be ready. From Amanda Seales, to whom so much disdain is pointed, to Marilyn Mosby, looking at potentially 40 years for some BullSh*t, to Angel Reese wearing rags in an empty room when introduced to the world as a me...
We fuxing with lust today, well tangentially fuxing with lust. What we really fuxing with is #ubw liberation and empowerment, and actually saying fux that definition of lust as "disordered." In my God girl and Goddess girl ways, I often find myself in conflict with some tenets of the Catholic Church. A recent homily that focused on the "Seven Deadly Sins," spent an inordinate amount of time highlighting the "deadly" sin of lust as the most damaging to humanity. The dictionary definition of lu...
We fuxing with rage and pleasure today. This rage card keeps showing up and this rage indeed is warranted. The way the world comes at the #ubw, it is a wonder we have not all ended up in the clink. Instead we have trained ourselves to suppress these feelings and move forward with plastic smiles. We need no physician to tell us that suppression of feeling will not end well. The reinforcement of the suppression of true feeling bleeds into all aspects of our lives. Thus the version the world rec...
Me and the legions of #ubw who have been silent for so long, most definitely are not fuxing with misogynoir. At least we must be intentional in our attempts to not be complicit actors. It would be unfair to jump to Diddy and the minefield of misogyny that is hip-hop, without examining my own participation given my love of hip-hop - the more vulgur, misogynostic, the better! I know - it is contradictory. However, if I say I am living a life of alignment, that everything that I say and do are a...
We outside. We outside. We on Spring Break ya'll, but this #ubw still has something to say. Confusion is one of the things that I don't like to fux with. I enjoy clarity about what is happening around me, so that I can properly assess situations. Unfortunately, the luxury of clarity regarding understanding - why is it, that when we think about Black Women - the emotional and physical harm that befalls us- we accept that that mistreatment is just par for the course? It's confusing (but not su...
We fuxing with Karma, Kevin, and the Krown (KKK - just let me have this one, please and thank you). We continue the karma conversation today as we consider the incredibly draining force of applying energy to those who have done us harm. God/Source/Universe takes care of all - the debt is owed and it will be paid. Kevin and his bank account are literally and figuratively repaying those debts. What pre-tell does the K(C)rown have to to do with Karma and Kevin and #ubw? Well, similarly, th...
We are fuxing with joy again today, as Ms. ReesaTeesa and Ms. Wendy Williams back to back have the minds of #ubw reminded of how fragile the mental state and environment of many of us are. Many Uppity Black Women find themselves in similar situations, in part due to the actions of a n*gga. Because really, anyone of us can be making 50 part series or starring in documentaries showcasing the state of affairs in our very messy lives. Often in these dark spaces, there is a great deal of ene...
We are definitely not fuxing with the state of affairs of what is THE Wendy Williams. Having recently viewed the Lifetime documentary "Where is Wendy Williams" (using "documentary" loosely, given the definition of the word documentary is film regarding an event or a person, based on facts - there were a great deal of facts missing from this ) It was incredibly unsettling to see this #ubw in this physical and emotional distress, especially given how the public is familiar with this Uppity Blac...
We stay with the story of ReesaTeesa this week, simply because there are many #ubw who are in a ReesaTessa tale right now, however, their stories are not magnified on the interwebs for all the world to provide commentary. ReesaTeesa is a #ubw avatar for how we are trained (or rather not trained) to relationship with men. Our training (or lack thereof) rests on concepts of being a virtuous, pure, Christian Woman who pleases God by living her life in a manner that would be pleasing to her HUSBA...
As Black Futures Month 2024 comes to a close, we congratulate this year's winner of Corporate Fux ups structurally impacting all of our lives - and that is, this here America. The reason this podcast exists is because of this year's winner! Congratulations to all of our 2024 contestants, including Sally's Beauty Supply, Target Stores, and Lincoln University. After our awards ceremony, we'll jump into the drama that is Ms. ReesaTeesa, owner of the 50+ part, 500+ minutes "series" on TikTok. Lik...
Sticking with this concept of luxury, we are fuxing with the people who help us flourish. These are people selected with intention. Let's refresh our collective memories regarding the dictionary definition of luxury - inessential but conducive to comfort and pleasure; sumptuous living and surroundings. I consider relationships to fall into this category. They are technically not essential. I guess we can survive without them, although it would be a sad and dry existence. The type of relations...