We're concluding our three part series, Coaching Yourself, with an episode about a somatic approach to leadership. We'll chat about how to look at how your body is telling you things in times of stress or turmoil. Looking at the idea of somatic intelligence (or body intelligence), we'll talk about practical ways you can be more connected to your body to help you with your career, especially in terms of stress management and decision-making.
We often ask ourselves why we can't do something, or why something isn't working out. In coaching, asking ourselves what the opportunities are, who we can engage, what we're feeling or thinking, can be so much more insightful and helpful. Join the conversation as we get curious -- about ourselves!
We've all been in situations where we've been in back to back meetings, we've had stressful days, we've been in the middle of conflicts, and we've had no clue what to do. Join the conversation as we introduce a series about coaching yourself in situations where you don't have easy access to the time or resources to speak to your own coach (or you don't have one) or a colleague, but you really need to sort through some things for yourself.
"Hey, do you have a minute?" is a question that instantly sparks fear -- especially when that question comes from your boss. Asking for feedback can feel like a blessing and a curse because once you know what someone thinks, then you know, but also, if something needs to change and you don't know how to change it, then you know and you feel stuck. Join the conversation as we talk about how to ask for -- and receive -- feedback.
If you've struggled to give feedback as a leader, this is the episode for you! Maybe you were afraid of hurt feelings, debate, or doing it wrong . . . or maybe you've given feedback before and it didn't make the difference you wanted it to. Join the conversation as we talk about what feedback is and why leaders avoid it. We'll give you tips and tricks for giving really good feedback and some resources for additional learning.
Pronoia is the opposite of paranoia -- it's the idea that the world has your back. The world (or universe, or god, or other people) has your back and is looking out for your greater good. This opposes the feeling we often have that the world is out to get us (or that other people are!). Join the conversation as we explore negative bias, fear, and that feeling of "waiting for the other shoe to drop" and what's possible if we take a look from the POV of pronoia (not to be confused with toxic positivity!).
We can tend to think in terms of the distinction between a manager and a leader and a coach. In this episode, we'll talk about all three, and how you can be a leader and a coach (and a manager!) all at the same time. Join the conversation as we talk about how to transition from a traditional style leader and manager, to becoming a leader who is also a great coach!
You're great at advocating for others, but when it comes to advocating for yourself as much as (or more than) you advocate for others, it can feel hard to impossible to fight for YOU. Leaders have a tendency to “eat last” and make that mean that until everyone else is fully taken care of, you don’t get to ask for anything for yourself. In many cases, this leads to not only not moving forward in your career, but also being seen as the person who will do anything asked of you, which can cause a backslide in your career. Join the conversation as we talk about how self-advocacy can make a huge impact on your life.
"What do you want?" is a question that can cause a feeling of dread for busy leaders. When there's so much going on, so many decisions to make, and so much to DO, stopping to think about what we want can be completely overwhelming, and so . . . we avoid even thinking about what we want. Join the conversation about how to start thinking about YOU in the swirl of busyness!
Today, Lauren and John explore the four step formula to get transformational results for yourself -- both professionally and personally. Join the conversation as we talk about how to use the formula, especially for the areas that we may not focus on as much when we're high achievers.
When we become leaders, it's because we've gotten really, really good at one (or many) things, and we're seen as the experts. This makes new beginnings -- well -- extra scary. In this episode, John and Lauren talk about why being a beginner is so hard and makes us want to run away and hide under the bed and what can be amazing about being a beginner. Join the conversation as we try to make the scary position of being a beginning just a little more fun!
We've seen so many companies have their ups and downs in the way they treat their most important assets: people. We've seen leadership fluctuate from "work from home is here to stay!" to "everyone back to the office because we don't trust you" and everything in between. Join the conversation as we talk about what the cost is of not treating humans as assets you need to protect, and also, what the benefits of recognizing how valuable your people are can be.
Leaders work hard to keep up with the required training and education we think we need in order to get paid, promoted, and respected. But as adults, we forget we're also allowed to choose what we want to learn at any age and stage -- and we forget we're allowed to carve out time for getting curious about, well, anything we want! Join the conversation as we talk about what it's like to choose our way through professional development (it's more exciting than you think!).
What if the universe isn't out to get you, but instead, it's out to help you? Today, we're talking about how the things that happen TO us might be happening FOR us -- don't worry, no toxic positivity in this episode (and we'll address the difference between toxic positivity and constructive moving forward!). Join the conversation as we explore what happens when we believe the universe is on our side.
Season 2 is here with all new topics about being both a leader and a human! We're kicking off with a dialogue about the value of taking a break. So many of us live in the assumption that if we start something, we absolutely must finish it or risk being seen as a quitter or a failure. The truth is that taking a break, deciding to pause or even end something, can be really powerful. Join the conversation as we dig into our break from the podcast and other breaks we've both chosen to take in our lives.
Masking is something we all do - putting on a 'face' to avoid showing . . . something. It can be really hard to get vulnerable, to risk our senses of security and control and our search for external approval. Join the conversation as John and Lauren talk about masking and unmasking, and why it's worth the risk! It's the Season 1 finale (after a year and a half and 35 episodes) of the podcast! If you've missed past episodes, take a look-back during the break and get caught up! And make sure to connect with the hosts of I Could Talk to You All Day: John Spears: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnjspears/ and https://www.instagram.com/john_spears.coach/ Lauren Lefkowitz: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurenlefkowitz/ and https://www.instagram.com/lauren.coach.fineisatrap/
High-achievers are often great decision-makers...for their work, the people they serve, and the responsibilities they have. But when it comes to making decisions for themselves (ourselves...John and Lauren are not exempt from this!) high-achievers often sit in indecision, or avoid allowing themselves to make decisions in service of their own development or futures. Join the conversation as we talk about this phenomenon and how we work to make hard decisions for ourselves.
High achievers are amazing at smushing down feelings so they can get. things. done. But what happens when it's time to actually confront our feelings, explore how we want to BE with our feelings and find growth in expressing and sorting through our feelings? Join the conversation as we explore this!
Ick, right? We know. When we try to bring up the mushy topics in our busy corporate lives, our brains reaaaallly want to shut us down. Join the conversation as John and Lauren talk in this episode about how actually looking at self-love in a healthy (and even practical) way can be productive, even for busy leaders.
On this episode, John and Lauren talk about coaching--how each of them got into coaching, got their own coaches, and the value they've each gotten (and you might get) from being coached. And of course, you'll get stories of growing (and resisting growth) and a story or two about what's happening in your hosts' lives.