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We love assessments over here. On past episodes we have discussed the DISC, Enneagram, Love Languages and Myers Briggs. In this episode, we dig into the Energy Leadership Index which enables leaders to hold up mirrors to their perceptions, attitudes, behaviors, and overall leadership capabilities. We hand the show over to special guest, Claire Becker who walks us through our results just as she does her coaching clients.  Be sure to connect with Claire via here website: https://www.clairebeckercoaching.com. Connect with her on Instagram: @ClaireBeckerCoaching About Claire: Claire doesn’t accept the world as it is. As a leadership coach, she works with change agents who are ready to grow themselves and their impact on the community around them so that each day we get closer to a world that truly serves all of us. Claire was trained by the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC), accredited by the International Coaching Federation. Before launching her coaching practice, she spent a decade working in education and professional development, serving learners and developing leaders of all ages. Her past experiences include leading as a bilingual middle school educator, as an adjunct faculty for multiple graduate-level courses, and as a coach for teachers, professionals and leaders. At the local level, Claire is a partner in facilitating on topics such as White Identity Formation and Development, Unconscious Bias, Anti-Racism, and Microaggressions as well as general team development and best practices for adult learning and facilitation.Claire graduated from University of Wisconsin-Madison with a Bachelor of Arts in Sociology & Spanish. She then attended Cardinal Stritch University and received a Master of Urban Education and completed a thesis on Metacognitive Learning in 2012.  

We recently moved into an RV full-time, as we continue to embrace a more minimalist lifestyle. In this episode, we share what minimalism is to us and how we are working be more minimal. We discuss how we have prioritized experiences in our lives. We are hoping to experience a lot of new adventures while living and traveling in our RV.

It has been a year since our little guy, Lincoln was born. In this episode, we reflect back on the episode we recorded in the delivery room as we waited to welcome Lincoln to the world. We shared our hopes and dreams for our son a year ago and now we share updates on how things have gone. We also break some BIG NEWS! Happy Birthday, Lincoln! We love you, even though we didn't plan for you!

Josh & Elisha are truly a couple who does it all. They run multiple side-hustles in addition to working full-time and parenting. There’s nothing this couple can’t do! Listen in as we chat with them about how they support one another in their businesses, the process they use for setting and adjusting goals, and their debt-free journey.

The pandemic has caused some unusual things. Social distancing? Conspiracy theorists? The uptick in “uncoupling”? We’ve found ourselves on different pages in two major parts of our lives. With the extra time, we each invested it in different ways. For Billy, it has been his career. For Ashley, it has been parenthood. Investing time in these areas has also left the other behind - hence, we are on different pages. Listen in as we replay the first conversation we had about this and how we are already working through this. What we talked about in this episode: What the extra time during the pandemic has looked like for us How Ashley brought up this conversation This method is NOT recommended! The areas of our life we are on the same page Why being on different pages doesn’t have to be an area of conflict How we plan to work through this and tips for you in your relationship

We have a bone to pick with the Golden Rule - treat others the way you want to be treated. It is a rule that is engraved in our brains from a young age, but we think it’s wrong. ESPECIALLY in relationships. Listen to this episode as we upgrade to the Platinum Rule - treat others the way they want to be treated.  What we talked about in this episode: Why the Golden Rule is wrong Upgrading to the Platinum Rule Examples of how we treat each other the way they want to be treated

You may not know this about us, but we are COMPLETE OPPOSITES. Oh wait, we only constantly talk about that on this podcast. Nearly every assessment we've ever taken points out how different we are. Our Myers Briggs results point this out too. In this episode, we zero in on that first letter of the MBTI results - introvert vs extrovert. We share our favorite… and least favorite things about being married to the opposite! What we talked about in this episode: Our Myers Briggs (or MBTI) results Billy is an INTJ Ashley is and ENFP The difference between introverts and extroverts Our favorite things about each other for being the opposite Our least favorite things about each other for being the opposite  The value in being an introvert/extrovert couple

It has been a tough couple of weeks as we all learned about the deaths of Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, and George Floyd. We need to have some tough conversations about race. But that requires vulnerability. We have to shed those layers and embrace imperfection. In this episode, we share a few recent moments of vulnerability in our relationship, how its brought us together and where we still need work. We believe vulnerability is key to having difficult conversations and can improve race relations in our world. Being vulnerable with your partner can take your relationship to the next level.

We are often asked how we spend SO much time together without driving each other crazy. Right now, a lot of couples are spending more time together than usual, which is leading to conflict. In this episode, we chat about how we thrive together through communication, vulnerability based trust and goal setting. The key to our partnership is that we focus on thriving rather than just surviving. This is how we grow together rather than apart.

It is a scary time for our world as we grapple with the reality that is COVID-19 and the impact is is having on our way of life. We are sheltering in place here in Austin, Texas and in this episode we share what are new normal looks like. We share what work is like for us now, what we are doing to pass the time and how we are using this pandemic as an opportunity to come even closer together. Spoiler alert - one of us randomly bought a PS4... Guess who?!

It has been a hot minute since we last released an episode, so allow us to reintroduce ourselves! In this episode, we go back to the beginning. Who were are individually, who we are together. We chat about why we started this podcast and what it has become. If you're a new listener, hopefully this keeps you coming back. For our loyal listeners, we hope this will remind you where we started. A lot has changed. One thing continues to stay the same. We are better together.

Setting goals together did not always come easy for us. Billy had two decades of experience before meeting Ashley. Ashley had no experience. Billy remained persistent, but was patient as Ashley explored goal setting. And now it’s become a way we bond and allow us to grow together. Listen in as we provide examples to encourage your partner when they are not on board. What We Talked About in this Episode: Our experience setting goals prior to our relationship Billy began setting goals at the age of four. By the time we met, he had years of knowledge on the value of goal-setting. Ashley had never set goals and not even a new year’s resolution. The closest she ever came to setting a goal was giving something up for Lent. Billy’s passion for goal-setting was tough for Ashley to match at first Ashley was apprehensive towards goal-setting Billy continued mentioning resources for Ashley to start the process but nothing stuck. It wasn’t until Billy guided Ashley into a program that gave her the space to find her own footing. Goal setting brought us together Billy was patient but persistent in getting Ashley to embrace goal-setting Billy adapted his style to a style that work for us together Ready to start setting goals as a couple? Check out of free Goal Setting for Partners guide at bashleymoyer.com/goals.  

A year ago our worlds were rocked with the news of our pregnancy. We immediately captured all those feelings (and more) in a podcast episode (EP 38) that later became our pregnancy announcement. Fast forward to now where we listen back on that episode. We reflect on where we were mentally, and where we are now... and you can bet there were some tears shed (again)!    

In this weeks episode, we discuss why we are taking a different approach with our goals this year after struggling in 2019 to accomplish all we set out to do. We share a few goals and how they have a similar destination as last year, but how we plan to get there is different. We are focusing more on the journey this year. We are taking things slow. We are working through some stuff over here.

We share another couple of takes in this episode where each of us shares a take on something going on in the world. Our takes this episode are about people from across the pond. Ashley talks about Harry and Meghan making an important decision for their family. Billy talks about not understanding people investing money in the MMA fight with Conor McGregor who is an all around horrible person. Let us know if you agree or disagree with our takes.

Last episode we looked back on 2019, which was a challenging year for us. It ended up being our best year ever. In this episode, we look forward to 2020, a new year and decade. We are in a much different place now. We answer some questions we reflected on during our planning retreat and share our new vision for our relationship moving forward. We know this will be our best year ever yet again! Oh and don't miss Billy sing a little Wicked!

Welcome to 2020! It's a new year and a new decade! We know you are excited. We are too! But before we officially look forward to the next year that we know will be amazing, we look back on 2019. We answer the questions we shared in Episode 64 and guess what? It gets a little emotional because 2019 was tough for us, but it also was our best year ever!

Last episode we shared questions to reflect on when looking back on a year. In this episode, we share questions to reflect on when looking forward to a new year. The questions will set you and your partner up for success when setting your goals for next year! Questions We Shared: What do we/I want to achieve? What do we/I want to create? What do we/I want to do more of? What do we/I want to do less of? What do we/I want to start? What do we/I want to stop? What do we/I want to complete? What do we/I want to experience? Who do we/I want to become?

Can you believe there are only two weeks left in the year… scratch that - THE DECADE! Coming off the #10yearchallenge and the end of the year/decade in sight, everyone is feeling very retrospective. In this episode, we take all that introspection and take it to reflection. We share the what/when/where/how to reflect on the past year and set yourself up for success when setting your goals for next year! What We Talked About in this Episode: The best time to reflect How to “set the mood” for reflecting The key questions to ask yourself to jumpstart your reflection Why you should dedicate the time & other resources to reflecting Ready to start setting goals? Check out of free Goal Setting for Partners guide at bashleymoyer.com/goals. Questions We Mentioned: What did you accomplish in 2019? How did you grow? What are you most thankful for? What did you learn about yourself in the last year? What was your greatest disappointment? How were you hurt? How were you healed? What did you overcome? What are you still working through?

Time to take a trip back in time to our worst year together as a married couple. We have shared a lot on this podcast about how we are better together, that we often collab and how we are great communicators. We have an awesome partnership, but year one of our marriage was not great. It was tough. In this episode, we share why the year was so difficult and how we got through it. We mentioned two previous episodes in this one. The links are below. The Story of How We Met Compromising on Holidays