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This podcast will help parents of teens keep life's struggles as a teen, and as a parent of a teen, in perspective. Parents will learn real tools to help them help their teens. They will learn how to build a rock solid relationship with their teen so they will have a powerful impact and a positive influence on their teen's life.
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"Send Ben a text" Your teen might hate you sometimes… and you can still have a great relationship with them. Most parents think their relationship with their teen is something they both share. But that’s not how it works. You have your own relationship with your teen, and your teen has their own relationship with you—and they’re not the same. In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why your teen’s thoughts and feelings are NOT your job • Why trying to make your teen like you actually hur...
"Send Ben a text" Your teen’s attitude, your frustration, and the same old fights aren’t the real problem — your programming is. In this episode, Ben and Cortni break down why parents get stuck repeating the same patterns even when they’re trying to “do better,” and how a surprising back injury (and some AI wisdom) revealed the deeper truth about how to change. You’ll learn why your old emotional patterns keep pulling you back, how to spot the warning signs of a parenting “flare-up,” and the ...
"Send Ben a text" The Gratitude Shift That Can Save Your Thanksgiving Thanksgiving is amazing… until it’s not. Family drama. Stress. That one uncle. The comments you wish you didn’t hear. But what if ONE mindset shift could help you enjoy the day instead of surviving it? In this quick Thanksgiving special, Ben and Cortni talk about the real secret to gratitude — not the cheesy, forced kind, but the kind that changes your emotions fast. Inside, you’ll learn: Why gratitude is a choi...
"Send Ben a text" Identity is your hidden superpower as a parent. In this episode, Ben shares a powerful story from the football field about getting out of the victim mindset, redefining his identity, and modeling the exact behavior he wanted to see in his players — and how the same principle can transform your parenting. You'll learn why your teen doesn’t need a perfect parent… just one who leads with connection, clarity, and consistency. If you’ve been feeling stuck or unsure how to help yo...
"Send Ben a text" Ever tried to push your teen to change… only to have them push right back? You’re not alone. In this episode, Ben breaks down why trying to force your teen to change almost always backfires—and what to do instead. You’ll learn how to stop pushing, start leading, and model the kind of growth you actually want to see in your teen. Ben shares real-life examples (including a story about a stubborn horse) to help you see how pressure creates resistance, and how leadership creates...
"Send Ben a text" When your teen suddenly “stops caring” — about school, sports, church, or even family — it can feel like everything’s falling apart. Maybe they used to try hard, follow rules, and keep you happy. Now, they’re unmotivated, moody, or even defiant. Most parents panic at this point. But what if your teen’s “not caring” isn’t a breakdown… it’s actually a breakthrough? In this episode, Ben and Cortni unpack why your teen pulling back might mean they’re finally le...
"Send Ben a text" Every teen has a spark inside them—something that makes them come alive. But too often, they get lost trying to be who the world wants them to be. In this episode, I talk with my good friend Arthur C. Woods, author of SPARK for Emerging Leaders. He shares simple ways parents can help their teens discover who they want to be, not just what they want to do. We talk about: 👉 Why purpose matters more than perfection 👉 How to help your teen take ownership of the...
"Send Ben a text" You’re not in control of your teen—and that’s actually the best news ever. In this episode, Ben and Cortni dive deep into what happens when parents try to control their teens and why it almost always backfires. Drawing from the book Leadership and Self-Deception, they unpack the idea of “being in the box” and how it shows up in family life. You’ll hear real stories about morning workouts, teenage excuses, and even tacos—all tied to one powerful truth: you can’t control your ...
"Send Ben a text" You love your teen. You try to help. You want things to get better. But what if you’re accidentally doing something that’s quietly sabotaging your connection? In this episode, Ben and Cortni unpack one of the most powerful ideas from Leadership and Self-Deception—the hidden mindset that keeps parents and teens stuck in conflict, frustration, and blame. You’ll learn: 👉 What “being in the box” really means (and how it shows up in your family) 👉 Why trying to ...
"Send Ben a text" Most parents secretly wish their teen would just change — listen more, argue less, clean up, do homework, be respectful, etc. But here’s the truth: 👉 You can’t change your teen. 👉 You can only change you. In this episode, Ben and Cortni unpack one of the most powerful parenting principles of all time — “Be the change you want to see.” You’ll learn: Why trying to “fix” your teen backfires every timeHow to stop giving away your powerThe difference between victim and her...
"Send Ben a text" In this episode, I break down the difference between false confidence—the kind that’s tied to wins, grades, or outside approval—and foundational confidence—the kind built on preparation, effort, and real experience. Many teens (and parents) ride the emotional rollercoaster of false confidence. One good play or test score, and they’re on top of the world. One mistake, and it all crashes down. The problem? Mindset and “positive thinking” alone can’t hold up under pressure. Tru...
"Send Ben a text" Do you ever wonder if you’re a “good” parent… or fear that you might be a “bad” one? You’re not alone. Many parents live under the weight of these labels, and it can feel heavy and confusing. In this episode, Ben Pugh explains why “good vs. bad parenting” is a dangerous myth. These labels pull you into comparison, chasing approval, and trying to prove yourself to others. The truth is, parenting isn’t about being “good” or “bad.” It’s about being intentional, living your valu...
"Send Ben a text" Is your teen struggling? Do you ever wonder how to help them bounce back? In this episode, I share the ONE thing that makes the biggest difference in building resilience. You’ll hear real stories from my own life, from parents I’ve worked with, and from teens who have faced tough moments. We’ll talk about: Why struggle is not failure but growthHow your response shapes your teen’s resilienceThe simple shift that helps your teen handle hard thingsYou don’t have to fix your tee...
"Send Ben a text" What does a viral “Phillies Karen” baseball moment have to do with your parenting? More than you think. In this episode, I break down the Phillies Karen story—not to pile on or cancel—but to show you how outrage, mob mentality, and cancel culture are distractions that rob you of real parenting power. You’ll learn: Why cancel culture is contagious (and so is compassion)How herd mentality creeps into your parenting without you realizingWhat the Phillies dad’s choice actually t...
"Send Ben a text" Your teen knows when you’re being real… and when you’re not. In this episode, Ben and Cortni talk about “fake parenting” and why it pushes teens away. Teens don’t need a perfect parent. They need the real you. You’ll learn: Why fake parenting kills connectionHow to create a 10-word vision statement to guide youWhy focusing on what you want works better than focusing on what you don’t wantA simple gratitude hack that makes parenting easierWhen you show up as your true self, y...
"Send Ben a text" How to Simplify Parenting by Fixing Only Two Problems Parenting often feels overwhelming—like you’ve got 117 things to fix at once. But what if the secret to real change wasn’t fixing everything… but focusing on just two? In this episode, Ben shares how a lesson from football and his time as a high school principal transformed into a powerful parenting principle. You’ll learn how to: Identify the two core problems driving most of the chaos at homeStop wasting energy trying t...
"Send Ben a text" Do you ever catch yourself parenting for the approval of others—your neighbors, your parents, or even your teen? The truth is, people-pleasing doesn’t build connection. It creates distance. In this episode, Ben and Cortni unpack why parents often hide behind “masks” of who they think they should be—and how that keeps them from real connection with their teens. You’ll hear powerful stories from sports, parenting, and coaching that reveal why authenticity always wins. What you...
"Send Ben a text" Do you ever feel like you’re running on empty? Like life is just go, go, go — and you’re burning out? In this episode, Ben shares how he went from stressed and overwhelmed to calm and confident. You’ll learn why overwhelm is a choice, and how to stop wearing busyness like a badge of honor. Get ready for simple tips that will help you slow down, be present, and enjoy your life — even when it’s full. 🎧 Listen now and start feeling less stressed today. Are You Caught in t...
"Send Ben a text" Is your teen nervous when it really matters? Do they freeze, overthink, or doubt themselves when the pressure’s on? In this episode, I’ll share the one powerful thing that can help your teen show up with confidence — even in high-stress moments. Whether they’re an athlete, artist, or academic, this tool will help them stop focusing on what they can’t control and start performing like the person they want to be. This one shift changed everything for a teen athlete I coach. An...
"Send Ben a text" Is your teen yelling, arguing, or just pushing all your buttons? In this episode, I’ll show you the one trick that can change everything: modeling the behavior you want to see. You’ll learn how to: Stop mirroring your teen’s bad behaviorEscape the controlling parent trapLead with calm, confidence, and purposeTurn blowups into powerful teaching momentsYou don’t need to be perfect—you just need to show up with intention. Let’s dive in. Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Disco...
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I have a couple boys with ADHD. Interesting that in ADHD literature, they have added an "F." Fight, flight, freeze or FIB. It is an automatic reaction to avoid trouble and in my experience is very accurate with this group. Thanks for the podcast. 👍