It's been a really exciting week. Lots of seeing pals, creative moments but a binge broke out. Being real, raw and honest.
I have experienced burnout a lot and let me tell you. I think it's up there with being one of the roughest experiences to live through. I have heard the term 'burnout' a lot but autistic-specific burnout was new. So I deepened my learning and found it truly so helpful to read the difference between autistic burnout and depression and why we cannot think that trying to get out of a depression is the same for burnout.
Dating diaries is bacckkkkkk! Current talks of my most recent dates and feelings on ghosting, sober dates and mismatch lovers. Follow my blog - www.marthasmind.co.uk
TW; Suicide Back after a mental health break (for real - it has been a very testing time on really working on me). But I am back and feeling okay. Calmed, compared to how I was before. Talking about the real reality.. suicide doesn't go up in January. but for myself it's been very hard with uni struggles, overwhelmed of social pressures.
because if it's a misconception that means we still don't really have a clear concept of what it means to have a condition that is completely mental. Bringing up the most common misconceptions and really speaking about why they aren't fully understanding the full picture. To read my blog - MARTHA'S MIND
A little debate came about when my friend messaged me about how helpful is it when people just 'label' themselves a mental health condition without outsourcing with a professional. I liked this topic because it makes mental health a societal issue 0 when is it? Or is it merely about the individual who needs a label for self-acceptance and understanding BLOG - www.marthasmind.co.uk
I spoke completely with passion and also anger to some extent. I am sick of being told that on bad mental health days, we should do X, Y, and Z??!!! I think the harsh and actual reality is - no, We exist. We survive. We do the path of least resistance in order to simply make it through. Is it giving up? Allowing your day to be swallowed? I think again, the reality of someone who actually suffers from anxiety or depression will understand that; our heads do rule us (sometimes). And we have to sit with it. Because we don't always have the strength to fight, move, get up, and try and make ourselves feel better. That's NOT the reality. I am real talking about what bad head days can be vs what your self-care days may look like.
This episode I wanted to be like my own personal check-in. I found life passes us far too quickly and unless we feel the emotions as we have them, do we even notice our lives as they exist? This week's check in includes - the dating check in - the new friendships and reflecting on broken ones - appreciating new opportunities - insecurities Martha's Mind blog is HERE
I love dating. I am well known amongst my friends for being the 'dating queen' because I do it, a lot! I started dating (really dating) in 2nd year of university and the rest is herstory! This is the first of many dating episodes (because there is so much to talk about). Topics include; -my love for dating -apps -post-pandemic dating -mindset from dating
I loved traveling. But I didn't always have a good time with it. In today's episode, I discuss a few things that I struggled with on my trip. From falling in love temporarily to awkward times in hostels. Enjoy the realities of travel. I also understand how privileged I am to travel and in NO WAY slate how lucky I am - I had (for the most part) a wonderful time, and it's okay to say I struggled as well.
eating disorders and exercise obsessions - I talk through my story of eating disorder orthorexia and exercise obsession and how this then transcended into developing BED. I currently still struggling with BED (binge eating disorder). I have only told about 4 people in my life that I struggle with this eating disorder. It has affected me for over 5 years. My mental health battles mostly stem from my recovery and setbacks with this disorder. I am still recovering. It's been a really hard journey for me. And it scares me so much to finally tell my story. But it's time I tell people because I don't want anyone else to feel alone as much as I have with keeping this such a secret for so long. BEAT - orthorexia National Eating Disorders Binge Eating Disorders Support for binge eating disorders Exercise obsession support - the priory
mental health is really about good mental health practices. I think we all know that the people who are constantly praising life itself are (yawn) tiring folk, but there is something to be said about celebrating the tiny wins of every day. mental battles are easy to feel, and might be harder to appreciate when life throws you constant tiny little wins that maybe we don't see as often. Some of my wins of life - which haven't come easy to feel, may I add. the cups of tea moments, the over-hearing of some juicy gossip, having an inside joke with a friend, the moment when the pool balls clang together when they break.... these are some of my simple joys.
If you have ever disclosed a mental health symptom/ diagnosis with someone and heard the phrase ... 'but you don't look X' - then you understand entirely. This is a BIG chat about my autistic journey. I really want to help break this notion that to be autistic you have to look/ act a certain way. You don't! I used to have a lot of shame admitting I am autistic in fear of how others react, but this is a HUGE part of me. No, it doesn't define me. I am a whole person with many other characteristics. I was diagnosed at 3, therefore I have always known I was different. How I navigate the world when growing up and what really was an incredibly defining moment for me. To read more about autism - https://www.autism.org.uk/ To follow my blog for more posts about such topics - www.marthasmind.co.uk
I'm back after another slump of low mood and spiralling. With much MUCH help from my boyfriend, friends, class pass, Vice and getting rid of a job that made me feel insecure. I'm ready again to chat :)
understanding how to rebuild work energy again, returning to work after time off/ learning a completely new environment. autistic overwhelm - not just a cafe closed!life updates!The OG - https://www.marthasmind.co.uk/
Lets work this out together, and it's not a one conversation then done type of chat. But understanding a needs of an autistic person in a reltainhip is a process. A constant one at that.
OCE, online vulnerability, starting a podcast - Katie hosts Figuring it out as i go along It was so nice to discuss topics that I find are hard to come along, OCD being very much an unspoken topic that truly shows the hardship of a disorder that many don't know the true scope of the problem. It was also so interesting to speak to someone else who also shares a lot of themselves online and how they navigate that too.
okay, lets be real. When I started this podcast, people might have listened just to 'show face'. after that, yeah I kept up something which probably didn't gain that much traction. This episode is the kick up the BUM... start something even if you are terrible.
Still riding a high after holidays, good dates and a pop up event with Girls Don't Sync.
original blog post - HEREFelt good to revist an old post and feel so vastly different to how I am now ALTHOUGH, I can definitely note that people will / still feel like this.