Every new year we have an opportunity to begin again. Whether that be in our attitudes, conversations which need fixing, or new intentions to pave the way forward to new horizons. I love the last week of every year and the first week of the new year. These for most of us are peaceful weeks. Nobody expects you to get back to them. Most of us are in relax mode. Personally, these two weeks are the purest downtime weeks of the year. It is in these two weeks that it is worthwhile taking a psychological reflective stocktake on both a micro and macro level. The micro being 2023 itself. The macro being all your years so far. I often will reflect on where in my collection of years lived so far does the last year stand. I don’t do this in a spreadsheet kind of a way!! I do this from an emotional and connection-based way. What am I proud of? What could have been done differently? Who am I becoming? The most important focus point I believe we can have, is asking ourselves if we have progressed becoming unconditionally loving, compassionate, and kind human beings. Where have I let myself down? Where have I improved? Hope you enjoy my organic free-range ramble in this episode. Have a very happy Christmas and my biggest, best wishes for the new year ahead. All my love Joe. Courage to be you https://amzn.to/49nNxy2 ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Download your free copy of Insights Magazine www.joepane.com.au/insightsmagazine To read more visit www.joepane.com.au/blog Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights
Just like physical fitness, emotional fitness has many dimensions. The goal of physical fitness is to feel good and move well. The goal of emotional fitness is for us to have a functional relationship with uncertainty. This means that we become equipped with the psychological resources to navigate life’s pressures. Similarly, we need the physical resources to handle life’s physical demands. I am by no means an expert in physical fitness, but my own physical fitness journey has taught me that there are five key areas which seem to matter: 1. Identity - Core Our identity is like our core strength. Core strength is what allows us to perform everyday movements like tying our shoelaces or reaching for something off a shelf. Without core strength or with a very weak core, we would experience the ripples in ways we would not enjoy. Given the power of identity (what defines us owns us), we rarely psychologically stray from our perceived identity. 2. Life stage – Endurance. Enduring life’s ups and downs over many decades, most certainly requires endurance of spirit, mind and body. Endurance means “to continue or last, especially despite fatigue, stress, or other adverse conditions.” Our life stage journey from ambition to meaning equips us in an array of ways to navigate the ever changing landscapes of our lives. 3. Values – Stability. Our values serve as our emotional compass which influences decision making and how we spend our time, or make time for. In times of uncertainty, stability is what we crave. There are many different expressions of stability, one of those is performing activities which light us up. For example if going for a run turns your spirit on, then this may be one of the best things you could do whilst facing some challenges. 4. Emotional flexibility – Mobility. Our emotions completely flavour every part of our experience. Most of our emotions don’t respond to facts. They respond to the meaning we give the facts. Becoming a conscious meaning maker gives us the mobility and flexibility to navigate stressful days. 5. Perspective- Strength. Has anyone ever said to you, hey, you just need to get things into perspective! This matters a lot, because having a clean perspective gives us access to a bigger picture purview of our life and our place in it. Perspective is a great source of strength when something significantly challenging has occurred. Perspective will often help us get our eyes out of the details of the drama or problem we are facing, and into the bigger picture view of where we are headed overall. For a deep dive into the five core principals of emotional fitness, have a read of “Courage To Be You – A Guide To Mastering Uncertainty”. Courage to BE YOU book available now https://amzn.to/49nNxy2 ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Download your free copy of Insights Magazine www.joepane.com.au/insightsmagazine To read more visit www.joepane.com.au/blog Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights
The ultimate purpose of embracing uncertainty is that it eventually leads to all of us becoming an authority on ourselves. This means by doing hard things we begin to awaken aspects off ourselves which we never knew existed. These new parts, which have always been available to us, will prove to be very useful for any future challenge we need to navigate. For example, when I worked in real estate in the late 90s and early 2000s, I did a lot of cold calling and door knocking on the streets. We also had a mentor in the office who loved teachers like Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy. Embracing the fear and discomfort of going out cold calling looking for new business, and listening to people like Jim, Zig and Brian, unbeknown to me was preparing me to have my own business one day. It was such a great preparation for what was to come. Becoming an authority on ourselves also means we create a deeply personal sense of wisdom. Emotionally fit people have a quiet sense of wisdom. What does this mean? It means they no longer define themselves by their roles and achievements. They instead define themselves by the character they are becoming. Their lives become less about them and more about others. They no longer chase the goal of getting happy but embrace the mission of becoming fulfilled. They no longer want to be somebody and prefer to becoming nobody. They allow an abundance of opportunities to take part in activities which bring them joy, and they are conscious meaning making machines, hence becoming incredibly emotionally healthy. They have a clean and clear perspective on all things and do not believe in regret. The journey to becoming an authority on yourself takes courage and commitment. These are tow hallmarks of psychological maturity. -------------------------------- Register for the upcoming free trainings www.joepane.com.au ----------------------------------------------------- Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights
Emotional fitness is measured by the quality of our relationship with uncertainty. It is a psychological preparedness for the pressures, stresses and challenges our professional and personal lives inevitably bring. Uncertainty is a precursory seed for growth. Growth is a perpetual need of the human condition. In other words, it has been the challenges we have needed to navigate which have given us the most significant growth points. Facing and embracing uncertainty is not only a prerequisite for our growth, but it also prepares us for the next level of our lives. Next level of responsibilities, obligations and skillsets needed to thrive and survive. It is highly likely that the 2005 version of us would struggle to handle the responsibilities, obligations, and skillsets we need to handle our 2024 version of ourselves. Our 2024 version of ourselves may struggle to handle the 2035 responsibilities, obligations and skillsets needed in our lives then. We will need to grow into the 2035 version of ourselves. Uncertainty, in its many forms, will need to be embraced to get there. Therefore, uncertainty is part of the very fabric of life. Without it we cannot grow and keep up with our lives’ demands. Our level of emotional fitness is crucial to how well we navigate life’s challenges. It is important to realize that we can proactively work on improving our emotional fitness, just like moving and exercising our bodies improves our physical fitness. Here are 5 ways we can improve our emotional fitness. 1. Do something physically hard. Naturally this is very subjective. Do an ice bath, run a marathon, or even participate in your local park run to beat your time (park run is a free 5km fun run held every Saturday morning all year round. Research has continually shown that physical exertion improves our capacity to navigate the psychological pressures life will bring. 2. Practice acceptance. When facing any form of difficulty our life brings, the worse thing we can do is avoid, reject, or try to go around the issue. The sooner we accept and embrace it the sooner we can navigate through it effectively. Carl Jung once said “We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses it.” We can practice acceptance with the little everyday things that may go wrong, for example, a friend cancels a catch up. Practice accepting it immediately without lolling around in disappointment. 3. Practice the art of conscious meaning making. Emotions don’t respond to facts. They respond to the meaning we give the facts. Next time you feel a negative or heavy emotion, ask yourself, ‘what meaning have I just given what I have just experienced?’ Changing the meaning changes the emotion which in turn changes our experience. 4. Create a clean and healthy perspective. Our mind is all we have. When we get caught up in the dramas of life, has anyone ever said to you something like, ‘you just need to get things into perspective!’ When things get tough, we need a clean and healthy big picture view of our situation. In other words, we will need a healthy perspective to lean on. This is created by having a continual connection to gratitude and appreciation. There is always something to appreciate and be grateful for. 5. Simple rituals to set up our day. Rituals create predictability, comfort, and certainty. We all need a base of certainty to effectively operate in the world. This increases our emotional fitness because we will be psychologically in a much better place to handle the pressures or stresses of our day. Our emotional fitness plays a crucial role in maintaining our mental health levels at a functional and resourceful level. By consciously working on improving our emotional fitness we will be much better prepared for when we need to navigate those difficult days, or months. ------------- To register for the Free Masterclass go to www.joepane.com.au
The topic explored in episode 97 of Insights with Joe Pane, the podcast is: Projection…a very touchy subject. Have you ever been instantly triggered by someone for no logical reason? Have you ever found yourself overreacting to a seemingly innocuous comment? What about anger? Have you ever become overly angry about something that is a mere inconvenience? These emotionally riddled triggers can be shocking, surprising and even downright confusing. They can take us and the people around us by complete surprise. Human behaviour is complex. It has been said that every where we go, there we are. Carl Jung once said that all perception is projection. In other words, every where we go, we can only experience aspects of ourselves. More accurately said, every where we go we can only experience aspects of our unconscious mind projecting itself onto the screen of life. These projections can vary from inspirational experiences through to experiences we detest. The negatively charged experiences can become very difficult to accept when we experience in others triggers or qualities which we detest or refuse to tolerate. All projection derives from the contents of our unconscious mind. In Jung’s “Collected Works” he best described the unconscious mind as: “ Everything of which I know, but of which I am not at the moment thinking, everything of which I was once conscious but have now forgotten, everything perceived by my senses, but not noted by my conscious mind, everything which, involuntarily and without paying attention to it, I feel, think, remember, want, and do, all the future things that are taking shape in me and will sometime come to consciousness: all this is the content of the unconscious.” Most projections are inert, neutral perceptions of our environment; however, the biggest learning and growing opportunities are the triggered projections. This type of projection (triggered) has 3 main qualities. They are: 1. Emotional 2. Compulsive 3. Out of proportion to the situation presented. As an example, anger is emotional (ie intense), compulsive (instant) and out of proportion to the situation (overreacting). These emotional, compulsive over reactions occur when we are projecting aspects of our unconscious which are unresolved, not embraced or we have not taken responsibility for. In other words, these triggered responses derive from unresolved frustrations, or issues, which we have not embraced or taken responsibility for in our lives. Often these triggers build up overtime because... To read more visit www.joepane.com.au/blog ---------------------------------------------------------------- Get your copy of the book: Courage to BE YOU https://amzn.to/49nNxy2 ---------------------------------------------------------------- Download your free copy of Insights Magazine www.joepane.com.au/insightsmagazine To read more visit www.joepane.com.au/blog Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights
A couple of weeks ago I've shared the weekly insight in our private facebook group the topic of "The Two MOST Important Life Skills" Some members asked how could they share this information with their teams and friends so here it is... a bonus episode directly from the Emotional Fitness Hub Trust this brings value to you or someone you know. Find more about Emotional Fitness on www.joepane.com.au Thank you so much for your 5-star ratings on Apple podcasts and for your amazing reviews. If you’re wondering how to leave a rating and a review, please checkout the step by step guide we’ve put together for you https://bit.ly/2VUNxko ------------------------------ Let's connect Emotional Fitness Hub, LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights
As 2025 fast approaches, we once again face a new chapter in all our lives. We have become the accumulation of all choices, decisions, and actions we have and have not taken. Naturally this will continue into 2025 and beyond. When we don’t make that choice or decision, we cannot see what lies beyond it. Often when faced with significant decisions which will impact our lives and life direction, we can become guilty staying still. Our ego’s addiction to certainty comes to the fore and can complicate choice points. The ego’s favourite tool is fear. It loves engaging in the ‘what if’ talk, dealing in inuendo and hypotheticals, of which the majority will never come to fruition. When the ego is driving the bus, it prefers to stick to well known routes. When our spirit or soul drives the bus, we embrace the adventure of the unknown. We go down roads which have never existed. Carl Jung identified that we can live in one of two worlds. Those two worlds are the conventional world or the special world. The conventional world has clear path, and you simply do what everyone else is doing. This world is riddled in certainty, safety, comfort, predictability and familiarity. Whilst we all love these various flavours of comfort, we cannot grow in this environment. If we don’t grow, we fail to keep up with who we are becoming and will struggle to handle the next level of the game, that is our lives. For us to grow we need challenge, resistance, problem, adventures and so on. Contrary to the conventional world, the special world has no path, it has no direction and there is nobody there to tell you what to do. Sure, as we journey further into the special world, we will inevitably meet mentors and guides, but only we can take the step. There is no elevator to the top of Mt Everest. We have guides but they can’t climb it for us. The special world requires us to make choices, new decisions and commit to our chosen direction. In this world we can change path anytime, because all paths lead to our realised potential. In the special world our path is created as we move, just as a snail leaves a trail behind. It does not wait for the trail to appear because it doesn’t exist. We cannot see beyond a choice we haven’t made, unless we make that choice and commit. -------------------------------- Register for the upcoming free trainings www.joepane.com.au ----------------------------------------------------- Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights
I love this quote from mystic Terrence McKenna : "Nature loves courage. You make the commitment and nature will respond to that commitment by removing impossible obstacles. Dream the impossible dream and the world will not grind you under, it will lift you up. This is the trick. This is what all these teachers and philosophers who really counted, who really touched the alchemical gold, this is what they understood. This is how magic is done. By hurling yourself into the abyss and discovering it's a feather bed." Let’s break this quote down and why this matters to how we become free, sovereign and autonomous. In other words, how we bust out of the hamster wheel version of life and be free to contribute to society in valuable ways which align to our personal philosophy. Firstly, “nature loves courage”. We in essence are nature and courage is the very fabric of nature’s design. The only blocker most people have to courage is their mind or ego. I will use mind and ego interchangeably here because they are one and the same thing. Many people use their egos to generate drama and complexity to keep them stuck. Drama and complexity are created by the narrative they live by which can keep them hostage to what they don’t want. Most wait for something to change before they will change. The problem is that nature or the universe only responds to who we are being in that moment. If we are being “lets wait and see” then all you will have is the “wait and see experience.” Terrence McKenna then says, “You make the commitment and nature will respond to that commitment by removing impossible obstacles.” The impossible obstacles are the mind/ego games before we take action. For example, every week when I go to my local gym to use their cold bath, I see new people, literally dipping their feet only in the bath and then decide they can’t do it. They have created a mental impossible obstacle. Impossible meaning, they just cannot see how they can do it. The first time I immersed completely in a cold bath, I was told that the first minute is the worst and when you break through to the other side of that minute you will be fine. Our nervous system realises that it won’t die, all relaxes, and we can remain immersed for many more minutes. The body magically creates a thin thermo layer only after we have been in the water for at least a minute. Terrence continues say, “Dream the impossible dream and the world will not grind you under, it will lift you up. This is the trick. This is what all these teachers and philosophers who really counted, who really touched the alchemical gold, this is what they understood. This is how magic is done. By hurling yourself into the abyss and discovering it's a feather bed." The feather bed is our freedom from the hamster wheel of 9 to 5, which is really 7 to 6 for many. Stop waiting to be ready, and just hop in and go for it. Life waits for no one. Thank you for reading, love Joe. FREE 3-part training - 2024 Uncertainty Mastery Bootcamp Register now! https://www.joepane.com.au -------------------------------------------------------------------- Get a copy of the book: Courage to be you https://amzn.to/49nNxy2 ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Download your free copy of Insights Magazine www.joepane.com.au/insightsmagazine To read more visit www.joepane.com.au/blog Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights
This article has been inspired by a book I read over the holiday period called “10x Is Easier Than 2x” by Dan Sullivan and Dr Benjamin Hardy. The single most important relationship we have is our relationship with uncertainty. This is because uncertainty is a requirement of life. All things in the natural world are either growing or dying. Uncertainty is the precursor to all growth. How we relate to uncertainty (our emotional fitness), guides us to discover the exit doorway which takes us from the mundane to the extraordinary. Here are some examples of moving from the mundane to the extraordinary: Surface level connections to real meaningful connections. Toxic relationships to deeply caring loving relationships. Having a soulless uninspiring job, to having your own business which makes your soul sing. Moving away from an average annual salary to earning that salary monthly. Getting off the hamster wheel going nowhere to committing to your own personal pathway going somewhere meaningful. Extraordinary is living your life on many plains higher than it currently exists. When we walk through this exit doorway, we are on our way to 10xing our lives. 10xing means discovering the 20% of actions which will have an 80% impact on our lives. Notice that this 80/20 (Pareto Principle) law is naturally occurring all around us. Anything worthwhile we have experienced in our lives have been preceded by a decision or action based in uncertainty. Uncertainty comes in many forms. Some may refer to it as faith, trust, and even commitment to purpose., adventure, challenge. When my wife and I sold up our family home to completely change our lifestyles and move somewhere where we knew nobody, was based on faith, trust and our commitment to purpose. That purpose was to live in the opposite way we had been living for the previous 22 years. That was one decision which has transformed our lifestyle and my business in ways I could not possible have previously imagined. We have 10x’d the quality of our lives. It is very difficult to 10x anything if we are not emotionally fit. Lack of emotional fitness means we have a poor relationship with uncertainty. 10x is about exploring and expanding our comfort zone and then committing to the changes we want to make. Our relationship with uncertainty matters immensely. Becoming emotionally fit matters more than it ever has. FREE 3-part training - 2024 Uncertainty Mastery Bootcamp Register now! https://emotionalfitnessformula.net/bootcamp -------------------------------------------------------------------- Get a copy of the book: Courage to be you https://amzn.to/49nNxy2 ---------------------------------------------------------------------- Download your free copy of Insights Magazine www.joepane.com.au/insightsmagazine To read more visit www.joepane.com.au/blog Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights
First thing we must appreciate about uncertainty is that it is a precursor to all growth. Growth is a requirement of life and therefore uncertainty is something we actually need to remain alive and well. Unfortunately, most people correlate uncertainty with fear instead of growth. There are many reasons why people are frightened of uncertainty. What if we can change this? People often associate uncertainty with getting out of our comfort zone. This is typically doing something we have never done before. In other words, this is doing something with zero reference points. Examples could include learning any new skill, or moving to an unknown foreign country, basically, doing something we have never done. These experiences provide us with huge psychological growth spurts and prove to be very effective. I can still clearly remember the first time we (my wife and I) flew to a foreign country, where we had zero reference points of experience to draw on. A month later when we returned to Australia, we both felt and knew we could handle so much more!! Suddenly minor incidental things which used to challenge us, no longer bothered us. Uncertainty prepares us for the road ahead in our lives. It prepares us for the next level. It provides us with the skills to our ever-expanding responsibilities. Could the 2010 version of you handle your current life? Probably not. The version of my life today would completely overwhelm the 2010 version of me. There is a big difference between getting out of our comfort zone and expanding our comfort zone. Getting out of our comfort zone normally means we are having a new experience with minimal if any reference points. In other words, it is literally an entry into the unknown. It is the first time we are experiencing that thing. For example, going to an overseas non-English speaking country for the first time was getting out of my comfort zone. I had zero past experiences (reference points) to draw on. It was literally entering the unknown. These experiences are significant for our growth. This kind of growth can be intense in a great way. On the other hand, expanding our comfort zone has many familiar reference points. In other words, we are having an experience that is different yet familiar at the same time. For example, even though I have been running for some thirty years, entering a marathon, is an expansion of comfort zone. I have the many years of experience to draw on, but in a new and unfamiliar situation. There is growth to be had here too. The final tip here is that most people don’t like change (uncertainty) but they want to grow. All change leads to growth either immediately or sometime soon. Anytime we are facing change, see it for what it really is, which a growth moment. We need to grow into our future, so we can handle whatever our future lives will demand. Thank you for reading. Love , Joe. Courage to be you https://amzn.to/49nNxy2 ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- Download your free copy of Insights Magazine www.joepane.com.au/insightsmagazine To read more visit www.joepane.com.au/blog Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights
Download your free copy of Insights Magazine www.joepane.com.au/insightsmagazine We often hear how people share that they are ‘guilty’ being a people pleaser. People pleasing has been portrayed as being a bad thing or a negative thing. Given that the human condition is designed to contribute to others, our most fulfilling actions are when we do something for someone else. As we know the human condition is wired to serve. The only road I know to meaning is through contributing to someone or something bigger than us. Making a difference or having impact or simply leaving a positive ripple effect brings us joy. Contribution also comes in the form of our attitude as well. Smiling to a stranger in the supermarket, letting someone pass in front of you in traffic or a coffee cue, general acknowledgment of other people’s existence is all part of making a difference. People pleasing is wired into the very core of what and who we are as human beings. Where we can run into trouble with this is when we people please to our own detriment. But this is the same problem we can have with empathy, compassion, contribution, love, and giving of any kind. If it is done to our own detriment, it is unsustainable and becomes a personal problem. It normally only affects us negatively if we are running an agenda with our people pleasing. If we are pleasing others so we can be seen, accepted, heard or loved, then we suddenly have an attachment to how well or not so well our people pleasing is accepted. On the other hand, if we accept that people pleasing is plain and simple part of our DNA, and you give with zero agenda or secondary gain, people pleasing is one of the most delightful, impactful and meaningful things we can do. Think about it….how good does it feel to be acknowledged by someone else, smiled to, or even let into a cue. It is a beautiful moment between two people who will never see each other again. The relationship lasts of all of a few seconds. These are the moments, we sometimes fail to realise, how much impact we can actually make. Try eliminating people pleasing from your life and see how if you can still be happy, be joyous and experience meaningful contribution. I have tried, it seems impossible. I hope this episode has pleased you. Love Joe. To read more visit www.joepane.com.au/blog ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights
In Episode 88 of Insights, we delve into a captivating quote from "John Wick 4." The quote, "Those who cling to death live," triggers a profound exploration of fear, attachment, and the essence of existence. To be frank, I never thought I’d be quoting from a John Wick movie, but here we are. Just recently I sat to watch John Wick 4 and in the penultimate scene (no spoilers here) John says to his dear friend, “ those who cling to death live”, his friend responds with, “…and those who cling to life die.” What does this even mean? Let’s go to first half of this mind shifting soul stirring string of words. “Those who cling to death live.” Clearly this is just my interpretation and I’m sure many of you would have a different slant or purview into this fascinating life insight. Put simply, it is about being unafraid of death. How do we become unafraid? There are a couple of thought points I would love to share. 1. Practically every near death experience (NDE) that has been studied, researched and categorised, show us that when the NDEr comes back to full waking consciousness, any fear of death has been completely vanquished! In fact, many near death experiencers actual state that in death they were unspeakably more alive than being trapped in a body living a physical life. Fascinating!!! Great to know, but do we believe it? 2. Our beliefs are designed to bring us comfort. Beliefs aren’t facts. Beliefs are convenient assumptions we have about anything we are aware of. For what it’s worth, I take great comfort in believing that life is not just living until the age of eighty or ninety and then it ends. I believe that life is not just limited to the experience of our personalities and attached bodies but that life is who or what we actually are. CS Lewis said that “we do not have a soul, we are a soul, what we have is a body.” In other words, life is not only something we experience. Life is what we actually are. Life is consciousness itself. It is beyond the dualistic ego mind and beyond our level’s of comprehension. To me the transition into death is a very exciting one. This is what clinging to death means to me. By being excited by death we are not afraid to live. Being unafraid to live means we are living with a continual awareness of the joy at we even exist!!! As at the time of this writing, in two days’ time, I am running my 27th half marathon. I was asked just this morning what I expect my time to be. I have been running for nearly 30 years, and for 25 of those years I used to put so much pressure on myself to run a personal best, and if I didn’t or if I didn’t come close I would be so disappointed. I seemed to have forgotten something really important…..that I can run this thing!! So when I was asked what my expectations are, I said to have a fun day, and celebrate a healthy and vibrant life so far!!! Now my running events are celebrations! Now before some of you may think, oh Joe its because your getting old and you just can’t run as fast!! My last half marathon, two months ago was only 3 minutes slower than my all time personal best!!! To read more visit www.joepane.com.au/blog ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights
Welcome to Episode 87 of Insights, the podcast with Joe Pane. In today's episode, we're going to dive deep into the ONE THING that has a profound impact on your potential, success, and overall quality of life. And let me tell you, this ONE THING is a game-changer. Over my 17 years of experience training over 7000 coaches, mentoring individuals, and delivering countless trainings, one truth has emerged: there are three ways to deal with uncertainty, but only one of them actually works. Many people try to go around it, thinking they can avoid it altogether. Others freeze in the face of uncertainty, getting caught in the wheels of procrastination. But here's the secret: successful people embrace uncertainty and journey through its tunnel. That's the only way to create real change and transform your life. Now, I know it's not easy. Embracing uncertainty requires making a decision—a decision to cut off from the past and commit to facing uncertainty head-on. The longer you wait or try to avoid it, the bigger and more overwhelming it becomes. Trust me, I've seen it time and time again. Avoiding or freezing in the face of uncertainty only leads to crises in various areas of your life—your health, finances, relationships, career, or business. But here's the exciting part: on the other side of that uncertainty tunnel lies the next-level version of you—the version capable of handling the next level of life. And it's not just about your own growth; it's about the impact you can make on others. As coaches, consultants, trainers, and leaders, our mission is to embrace uncertainty and transform the lives of those we serve. Because here's the truth: uncertainty is not a choice; it's a prerequisite for the sustenance and growth of humanity itself. So, if you're ready to transform your relationship with uncertainty and deepen your impact on the world even more, I invite you to join me for the "Uncertainty Mastery Bootcamp," a three-part free training series starting on June 29. Together, we'll navigate the uncertainties of life and uncover the next-level version of ourselves. Keep an eye out for the link—I promise you won't want to miss this opportunity to step into your true potential. To learn more visit www.joepane.com.au/blog ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights
Join us as we explore the path from ambition to meaning in episode 86 of Insights. Many people find it difficult to achieve their goals in light of their demanding full-time jobs and family responsibilities. In the meaning-driven world, which includes emotional, spiritual, and bodily harmony, there is the possibility of deep happiness and extraordinary fulfilment. But how can we leave the world of ambition behind and follow a more rewarding path? In this episode, we'll examine a potent answer put out by renowned author John Soforic of "The Wealthy Gardner." Get ready to learn about the idea of an impact hour—a focused effort directed at a single activity that has a significant impact. We may liberate ourselves from pointless behaviours by committing to at least five impact hours every week, allowing us to focus on the actions that really matter. We have an inspirational story to share about a lawyer who toiled assiduously at a busy legal practise. He started writing a novel during his designated impact hours after hearing a moving testimony that moved him. Despite all odds, his draught finally evolved into the smash hit "A Time To Kill." With "The Firm," which was later made into a well-liked movie, this success opened the door for much more success. This amazing journey serves as a testament to the transforming potential of regular impact hours. Are you eager to improve your chances of success and transform your life? Tune in to episode 86 to learn more about the impact hour and how it may help you get ahead in your personal, spiritual, and business pursuits. Don't miss on this chance to start on your own road to success and fulfilment. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Download our Insights Magazine - go to www.JoePane.com.au ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights Fb private group: Emotional Fitness Hub Email: joe@joepane.com.au
In Episode 85 of Insights, we delve into the transformative teachings of Dr. David R. Hawkins. Join me as we explore how simple shifts in our mindset and emotional reactions can help us navigate through life crises and ultimately lead to greater self-awareness and healing. I'll be sharing powerful insights from Dr. Hawkins' book "Letting Go," and discussing how we can apply his teachings to our daily lives. Life crises are choice point crises. Whether we consciously make those choices or not, either way they are being made. Don't miss out on this enlightening episode that will leave you feeling inspired and empowered. Episode 85 of Insights, the podcast with Joe Pane. ------- Download our Insights Magazine - go to www.JoePane.com.au ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights Fb private group: Emotional Fitness Hub Email: joe@joepane.com.au
In episode 84, I highlight the importance of the quality of our relationships and how it can amplify all of our experiences. I share that courtesy, which is also referred to as significance, attention, kindness, and respect, is the golden ingredient that serves as the glue for all relationships. Small acts of kindness, such as thanking your partner for cooking dinner or giving them your full attention during morning greetings, can accumulate to form a beautiful connection between two people. I concluded that having core relationships filled with courtesy and care can help us handle life's uncertainties more efficiently. Thank you for tuning in! Love, Joe Visit the Insights blog to read the Insights blog on www.joepane.com.au/blog --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Register for the upcoming FREE training Go to www.JoePane.com.au --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights Fb private group: Emotional Fitness Hub Email: joe@joepane.com.au
So many people remained trapped prisoners of their mind. They may spend years living on someday isle. Someday I’ll start my own business, someday I’II relocate, some I’ll learn guitar, some I’ll get fit, someday I’ll commit… Have you noticed that life does not have a pause button. Time passes, regardless of whether we ever leave ‘someday I’II’ or not. Lots of people live their lives like they have another in the bank. Whilst there may be an array of reasons and explanations as to why most will never leave someday I’ll, one of those explanations is that we all have an unconscious addiction to certainty. There is nothing wrong with certainty, in fact it is a significant component of our psychological survival. The irony here is that we also need healthy doses of uncertainty. Growth is a perpetual need of the human spirit, and the precursor to all growth is uncertainty. Most people would rather stay on Someday Isle because they prefer the continual predictable (boring) nature of the known, even though it sinks their spirit over time, than exploring the possibilities of something new. If my “someday I’ll” ‘dream’ comes alive then doesn’t that change everything? Well…..yes it could! Yet so many would rather stay with the familiarity of any ordinary certainty than risk trying something new. Breaking out of ‘someday I’ll” starts with one decision. The problem is that most don’t know what or which decision to activate or say yes to. The simple solution to this is to say yes to any opportunity present right now in front of you. What happens is by saying yes and actioning that one opportunity, it creates a another opportunity. This second opportunity could not exist without the first! For example, when I was in my fourth year at uni (college), I was wondering (more like worried) about how I was to make the transition into the workforce in a job that was related to my qualifications. A doctor at Monash Uni where I was studying, was looking for researchers to help carry out some data collection for his thesis. This work wasn’t terribly exciting but nevertheless it was an opportunity. I applied for the position and myself and a handful of other researchers got the gig. I could have easily said to myself that this is not what I want to do and that I could do better ‘out there’. I certainly didn’t see myself as a researcher!! This job was only for a few months but it ended lasting 6 months. During these 6 months another opportunity arrived – an interview at Ford Motor Company as a rehab counsellor. My work as a researcher was what got me the interview!!! In a strange connected way my work into researching work related fatalities (looking and reading about death all day), got the attention of my future employer because the main decision maker (as I later discovered) had some kind of weird addiction to reading the obituaries from A-Z every day in the newspaper!!! He had a fascination with death….my research job, along with my qualifications was enough (just) to land the interview!!! I didn’t get the job first up because deservedly someone else (his name was Ken…I’ll tell u why that matters in a moment)... Visit the Insights blog to read more on www.joepane.com.au/blog ---------------- Register for the upcoming FREE training Go to www.JoePane.com.au
It has been years since I have set ‘goals.’ The thought of setting another income goal, or health goal, or business goal I find draining, repetitive and boring. Goals are often confused with targets. Nothing wrong with targets if they help you focus, so go for it if it works for you. What if instead we did this ONE new thing? This ONE new thing beautifully fulfils one our most important needs: our need for growth. This is our perpetual need. Without growth we die. Nothing stays still for very long. Everything in the universe without exception is expanding or shrinking, breathing out or breathing in, green and growing or ripe and rotting. The precursor to growth is uncertainty. Uncertainty is presented to us in various forms. It can be experienced in an array of flavours and colours. It can be experienced by embracing (instead of resisting) challenges presented to us. It can be invited into our lives as a form of adventure, or for some of us in the form of variety and the wide choices and experiences this brings. The richer our lives are in uncertainty, or challenge or adventure or variety the more we grow. The more we grow, the more we are fulfilled, the deeper the fulfilment the fuller we live. Life lived fuller does not mean faster, it means deeper. Now, what is the ONE THING which can massively impact 2023 and take us to places we don’t even know exist? (Sounds more exciting than a weight goal or a money goal….) Before we get to that, we need to embrace something important. We need to embrace courage. The courage to be loyal to our values, the courage to love, the courage to be vulnerable, the courage to live life deep, the courage to step into your truth, the courage to be you. Wow…this sounds like a lot! Well, it may seem that way but if we do this ONE THING we automatically take care of all these various expressions of courage. Here’s the ONE THING😊I warn you…do not allow the simplicity of what I am about to share to minimise this message in any way. THIS I know will make a big difference! What if in 2023 we embrace the courage to follow our intuitive hits, our hearts, and our emotional compass down NEW paths? That’s it! Follow the wisdom of your heart instead of the certainty seeking nature of our ego centric minds? What if we all just did this for one year!!! Follow the swirl of your souls instead of the mess of our minds. This WORKS! I know this because we did this ONE thing in 2021! Any opportunity which led down a new path we embraced. This ended up with our big move with our family to Noosa in the Sunshine Coast of Queensland Australia, from Melbourne 2000km down south where we lived all of our 50 years of life. This decision was based on a spirit / heart level. It most certainly was not a decision based on our linear logical minds. On a logical level it made no sense to leave everyone we know and everything we know to move to place we knew little about and had nobody we knew. We had no idea if it would work out! Turns out to be one of best decisions we have ever made! This then led to one of my most profoundly successful years I have ever had in my life, on all levels. The problem with goals is that we can only see from where we are at, whereas following our intuitive hits, our hearts down new paths brings us to a completely different vantage point which we could not see from where we are trying to set goals from. Imagine your 2010 version of you trying to set goals for you in 2023….it would place huge limits to what may have been possible in 2022. My 2021 version of me COULD not even begin to imagine what 2022 introduced our family to... Visit the Insights blog to read more on www.joepane.com.au/blog ---------------- Register for the upcoming FREE training Go to www.JoePane.com.au
Episode 79 of Insights is about creating self trust and self respect. Emotional fitness is about becoming a professional giver of significance. This matters because most people have very little self respect. Self respect can be one of the most powerful and important gifts we can give ourselves. This is because self-respect provides us with clarity of boundaries, clarity of priorities and clarity of where we stand in our relationships. Respect may also be known as significance. By embracing the notion of being a giver of significance we lay down the psychological pathway for someone to begin respecting themselves. Naturally self-respect can be defined in many ways, in this instance it is defined as valuing oneself as much as you may value anybody else you have respect for. Self-respect matters immensely because it is a precursor to self-love. It is very difficult to be emotionally fit and well if we lack both these qualities. The next question may well be…”how do I discover, create and embrace self respect?” A great question and a very important one. 1. Becoming a professional giver of significance is most definitely one of the paths to self respect. We need to bring into the world what we would like to see in the world and in ourselves. Being a giver of significance means we, in almost all instances give respect to others. For example, allowing people in front of you in traffic or in a supermarket isle. It is uncanny how the more we take care of those around us the more our world takes care of us. Being a giver of significance also means that when you are chatting with someone you know very well, at work or at play, that you remember what matters to them and what little joys you may be able to bring into their lives. For example, remembering how they have their coffee or juice etc. When it comes to people we deeply care for and love, whether that be a partner, a son, daughter best friend etc we can be givers of significance by being completely present when they are speaking with us. By being completely present we make them feel significant and thus respected. ... Read more www.joepane.com.au/blog Free Introduction to EDISC training on www.joepane.com.au --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights Fb private group: Emotional Fitness Hub Email: joe@joepane.com.au
In Episode 78 of Insights I am going to ask you to not agree with what I am about to share. I do not want you to agree either. I would love for you to just allow this idea to simmer somewhere in the middle. All good? So here we go... Our thoughts do not belong to us. Our thoughts are not ours. We do not create them. Our thoughts are no more ours than the song belongs to the radio or the iphone which plays the song. The iphone radio is a channel. The iphone brings to life in our physical worlds something that previously was invisible and beyond everyday perception. In fact the song exists independently of the iphone/radio. The radio does not create the music, it doesn’t own it, it simply operates as an apparatus or channel or an instrument which the frequency of the sound comes into our awareness. The radio has no opinion on what the music sounds like. It just simply brings into physical awareness what is focused on by the dial. Just yesterday (as of the time of this writing/podcast), I had the internet connected to our newly renovated home. In order to test it I brought my laptop over to our new home (it wasn’t ready to be moved into yet). I plugged our modem in, connected my laptop and wa la! I had access to the invisible via my laptop. My laptop did not create the youtube video I watched, it simply channeled it. To watch the youtube channel Iwould need to know how to navigate my laptop and the links I was clicking on, but the youtube video exists independent of my laptop and my ability to navigate to the video. Could it be that our bodies are channels of thought streams which fly past us everyday? Just like the radio/internet waves, there are 100s if not 1000s of thought streams available to us. Where ever we place our attention, brings this thought stream to life. These thought streams can also be known as streams of consciousness. It has been proven in consciousness research that consciousness exists independently of our bodies, of our ego personality. Our bodies act as complex channels of streams of consciousness. What we refer to as ‘we’ or ‘I’, operates as a radio which makes the soundwaves become expressed as music. Well, if all this was to be true, how is this useful to us? Great question! One of the most difficult things about life for many people, is taking the mental action of letting go. The ability to let go is crucial to our emotional fitness. Everything in our lives right now, at some point, we will need to let go of. There is zero exception to this. The other crucial element to our emotional fitness, is... ... Read more www.joepane.com.au/blog Free Introduction to EDISC training on www.joepane.com.au --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Let's connect @joepaneinsights - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram @joepaneinsights Fb private group: Emotional Fitness Hub Email: joe@joepane.com.au