Insource

I just got back from a weekend away with some girlfriends, and I came home so much more filled up than when I left. More filled than I’ve been in a long time.  We had some beautiful discussions and got me thinking about what I want for my future. I’ve always had massive, big, scary goals… and I still do. But I also have had some time to reflect, and took this weekend to dig into what I want my life to look like. And I was surprised by what I found.  If you’re an achiever like me, or have trouble granting yourself rest or giving yourself permission to play: this episode is for you!  I hope it encourages to prioritize joy and pursue what makes you feel most alive, and grateful to be here.  See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

In todays episode we go back to the mail bag and I get to dive into a topic I feel SO passionate about: how to *decide* and work to believe that you are worthy of love and belonging. This is a theme that comes up with almost all of my clients. And it is a theme that has come up in my life time and time again. I know what hating yourself feels like, because I did it for years. BUT, I also now know how to pull myself out of it. So join me as I share the steps I take, along with some thoughts I think, to overcome the internal bully and release your inner hype girl. I hope this resonates with you so much, and that you’re able to start treating yourself the way those who love you immensely do. You deserve that. Can’t wait to hear what you think! See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

A few episodes back I talked about how sometimes we make things harder than they are. We tell ourselves something is hard, and that keeps us from taking action. We call ourselves stuck, when really we’re just afraid to move through or past the hard. That is not what I am talking about today. In today’s episode I explore the idea that sometimes, it is *supposed to be* hard. Losing weight and prioritizing health: sometimes hard Building a business and chasing your goals: sometimes hard Repairing a relationship and allowing yourself to be vulnerable: sometimes hard Working through your trauma and healing yourself: sometimes hard But, the way our brains are set up for survival means that when things feel hard, our brain thinks we need to hit the eject button immediately. We don’t. Sometimes, we need to let them be hard and do. it. anyway. Join me today as I share with you the process you take your brain through as you let the things the matter to you, to sometimes be uncomfortable. See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

In this weeks episode we dive into the mail bag. I explore three different scenarios in three listeners marriages and try to give insight and guidance to help them make a decision that feels good and empowering to them. First up we chat about feeling disconnected from your spouse when you’ve got little kids at home. The second scenario is about supporting a spouse with mental illness, and how to drop resentment and judgement so you can get back to loving. The third is about wanting to end a marriage and how to know when it is time. I love doing these mailbag episodes, so if you’ve got any situations you need my advice on, you can always email me at Ashlie.molstad@gmai.com See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Sometimes I coach you to have your back when someone is upset with you over something you've done. And sometimes, like today, I coach you on how to apologize and truly mean it when you've treated someone you care about in a way you're not proud of. But we dive deeper than just the apology, we go into the act of repairing any damage caused. In todays episode I share several examples recently where I had to repair relationships with people I love because of how I acted. Yes, its important to look at if we need to have our own back and hold space for others to be upset with us when we don’t feel we’ve done anything wrong. BUT, it is equally as important to know how to deeply apologize and repair, so that the people we love, value and care about feel seen, heard and loved by us. I can’t wait to hear how this helps you turn the page with some relationships in your life, so that they and you, can move forward. See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

In todays episode, I dive into the little micro ways we reject ourselves, and how you can start identifying + correcting it, so you can find more peace. People are gonna label you. They’re going to project things onto you. You are going to label you and project onto yourself… But, this chips away at our confidence. It calls insecurity into our lives. It teaches people how to treat us. Join me to hear how you can catch yourself doing this, and how to stop it. See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

“By using our attention we learned a whole reality, a whole dream. We learned how to behave in society: what to believe and what not to believe; what is acceptable and what is not acceptable; what is good and what is bad; what is beautiful and what is ugly; what is right and what is wrong. It was all there already — all that knowledge, all those rules and concepts about how to behave in the world.”   Ruiz, Don Miguel. The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book Book 1)   Nothing in this world has anything to do with us. Nothing we do has anything to do with anyone else. It all has to do with the way we were raised, and what we were taught to believe.   I started reading The Four Agreements, and one of the agreements really stood out to me, Don’t Take Anything Personally.   As I heard this and then went out into the world looking for evidence that it is true, I have been blown away by how often this truth reveals itself.   In todays episode I dive into how this shows up for me, and for some of my clients. In hopes that you can find places in your life where you’re taking things personally that have nothing to do with you… or, where you might be hurting someone who is taking your actions personally, even though it has nothing to do with them.   Tune in and then let me know where you are able to find this truth in your own life.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

You know by now that our thoughts create our feelings, which cause us to take action, and those actions produce our results. So the life you’re living right now is a result of the thoughts you were thinking 3 months ago. If you want to create a different life, you have to think like your future self now. Like you’ve already achieved that thing you want. Because when you think like her, you feel like her, then you act like her. You don’t need to wait until: Life slows down The kids get older You have more followers You’ve lost the weight The timing is perfect   Because it doesn’t have to do with any of those things. Think the thoughts that your future self will think NOW, and that is how you become her.   Join me as I share exactly what this looks like, so you too can create the life your future self will thank you for!   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Making friends as an adult can be hard… but doesn’t have to be. Losing weight with joy and ease can be hard… but doesn’t have to be. Finding a life partner can be hard…. but doesn’t have to be.   What if, the things that you really want but are telling yourself is too hard, aren’t hard at all?   In today’s episode, I share how my perspective on what is hard has changed, and how to have fun doing the things I previously believed wee difficult and exhausting.   Join me and uncover what is actually stopping you from achieving that thing you want, and how to get out of your own way to finally get that thing.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Sometimes its a relationship we want to leave. Sometimes its a job. Sometimes its a friend group.   We think that if we leave, we’ll be happier. But, happiness isn’t created from jobs, relationships or people… its created from our thoughts.   In this weeks episode I dive into how to know when it is time to go, and how to do it so that it serves you best. And of course, its probably not what you think.   Make sure you listen in so that you can lean into your power, increase your resilience, and take control of your life.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Its a fact of life that some people are not going to like what you have to say or what you do. We’re all driven by different things, we were taught how to behave by different parents with different value systems.   It is also a fact of life that your brain is wired to look for the threats and pay more attention to the boos. But, just because there will always be people who don’t like that way you’re doing it, doesn’t men you shouldn’t.   In todays episode I talk about how to let the doubters and haters be there, but train your brain to focus on those cheering for you to win. Nothing has gone wrong when your brain focuses on the negative, that is what our brains were designed to do. Its kept us alive for all these years. But, most of these “threats” aren’t actually a matter of life and death. So, can we re-direct our brains to focus on the fans you’ve got?   You can stay in your cozy cave where nothing can hurt you, but you miss out on the big beautiful world awaiting you when you step outside your cave and risk being disliked, made fun of, or boo’d. Its up to you to decide what is worth it to you.   Love you, mean it!   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Todays episode is a listener write in. She wrote about an issue she was having when it came to confidence around intimacy, and how it was impacting her life and relationship.   This might not be an issue you have, but even if it isn’t, I think you’ll find something for you in this episode.  Because every one of us has a deep fear or insecurity around something, and it is always caused by our thoughts.   I walk you through where these thoughts come from, the results they are creating in your life, and how you can pick a thought that feels better and gets you closer to experiencing the result you want.   If you want my advice on your situation, please email me at ashliemolstad@gmail.com If you want to work with my 1:1, you can find my packages at ashliemolstad.com/lifecoaching   And if nothing else, please listen in, leave a review, share this episode with a friend or tag me on social. It means so much that you keep coming back!   Love you, mean it!   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

When you think about your life, what you want to be remembered for, what contributes to it being a good one, who you love, how you spend your time, what your legacy is… those are the things that truly matter to you.   But, what is it you’re thinking about? The catty co-worker? The number on the scale? How you said that dumb thing at the party two weeks ago? That the guy never called you back?   We spend so much time thinking about things that don’t matter, that we’re wasting our life away focused on the wrong things. At least that has been the case for me.   Yes, I have been in a tough season lately, but I am making it tougher because of the stories around what has gone on. I’ve been indulging in self loathing about things that don’t. fucking. matter.   So, tune in to todays show as I share how we can reconcile this and get back on track with our thinking, so that we can live a life we’re excited to wake up for.   Love you, mean it!   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Its no secret I’ve been weathering a brutal storm lately. And it got me thinking about how every storm I’ve ever experienced before has been in my favor. Always.   There is always a lesson that is there in the pain. We can’t always see it, especially when we are deep in the suffering… and this is hen we need to rely on the KNOWING that this too, is happening FOR us.   In today’s episode I walk you through some of my past tough seasons and what I learned from them, in hopes to inspire you to dig into your own tough seasons and see how you came out the other side better. And, if you haven’t come out the other side yet, my hope is that this episode will open up some space for you to look for the lesson, to find the growth that comes with the growing pains.   Hang in there, and keep growing, keep evolving, keep raising your own bar. Thats what all this is for after all.   Love you, mean it!   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Well, we made it through the holiday season. Some of us loved every second, and some of us were barely holding on through the chaos… all of us are on the other side of it now. And perhaps, if you’re like me, you picked up a habit or two that aren’t serving you right now.   Maybe you’re drinking more than you’d like, maybe you’re eating more sugar than you’d like, maybe you aren’t moving your body the way you’d like… so, in today’s episode I walk you through how to hit the reset button and regain control. And I like to call it 24 HOURS OF INTENTION.   Focus on your goal/habit for 24 hours. You can do anything for a day. And then, anticipate a temper tantrum in your brain, feel the pain associated with standing up to your primal brain and honoring your highest self… and then, do it again.   No more going through the motions, or walking through life with our brain turned off. Bring intention back, and cultivate a you that you like and love.   If you’re looking for accountability or something a little more structured, I am running a group with my functional nutritionist. It will be a 30 day group, with a 14 day detox in the middle. We’ll cover the art and science of internal wellness (aka, the mind and the body), as well as do live coaching to help you through and get out of it what you want! You can find details for the group/detox here: https://oohwownutrition.practicebetter.io/#/5ef686352a9c2410c45a3958/bookings?c=65943a218958940133970260&step=course   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

I love rituals. And I love believing in magic and something higher than me. I love trusting that I am not alone, and that everything I go through I asked for.    I heard about this ritual that puts a bow on this year we just lived, and brings anticipation for the year to come. The idea is writing down 13 wishes you want for yourself in 2024, but they all need to be something that you would feel comfortable making come true.   I dive deeper into the details of this episode (along with some other sideline stories, because you know me…) and I can’t wait to see how this pans out for you!   If you resonate with this episode, or any, please consider leaving a review and/or sharing this podcast on social. It truly means the world.    Thank you for being such a bright spot in my 2023. I can’t wait to see how we evolve and expand together in 2024! See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Its been a minute since I’ve shared a live coaching call with you. I’ve been having a lot of deeply personal conversation with my clients that have felt best kept private. But, this is a portion of a group coaching call I had in my membership.   This brave woman has been battling a bit with who she is, and thinking perhaps she is too difficult, too emotional, too much for people. I’ve been going through several of these same thoughts lately, so getting to coach her was also a bit of the coaching I needed to give myself.   Join us as we chat through what her brain actually believes and wants, and some through strategies you can employ the next time your brain decides you’re not too special or great either.   I hope you’re taking care of yourself this holiday season and loving you as best you can. It means so much that you’re here with me, doing this work, and trusting in me to help guide any part of it.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Its the most wonderful time of the year, right? So why have I been feeling so low?   A couple weeks ago my depression came on, and it came on strong. There were a few things that seemed to be the catalyst for it, but regardless of why its here, in todays episode I want to share with you what I am doing to manage through it.   I have 8 tips that I have been deploying during this season that help me make sure I am taking care of me and not adding to the list of reasons my brain has for not being good enough.   I do want to make it clear, I am not a medical professional and this isn’t medial advice. If you are experiencing depression (or any other mental illness) I encourage you to reach out to your doctor, or a therapist, and get help. You don’t have to white knuckle it through alone. Asking for help doesn’t make you weak, it makes you STRONGER THAN MOST.   Also, if your emotions and mental health are not in a space where it can handle a discussion about depression, please protect your peace and table this episode for a time when your brain is feeing more open to this.   Lastly, you are loved. You are good. You are absolutely here on purpose. You will get through this.  And I love you so much.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

As we grow, comfort zones and requests grow and change with us. Change is hard. Our brains don’t like it, and the people who are effected by us changing can often struggle with how it impacts them.   As we begin to prioritize ourselves and insource our lives, we might need to pull out of commitments we once were all in on, or set a boundary that had never been enforced before, or create discomfort for people we care about as a result of prioritizing you.   And this feels HARD. But, hard doesn’t mean we’re doing it wrong. As we journey inwards, hard often means we’re finally doing it right… we’re dealing with the right kind of hard.   In todays episode I share what holding space looks like, and why it is such an important piece of growth. Space for you, and space for those around you.   We can’t all think the exact same, nor would we want to. But if we’re not careful, these differences can lead to frustration and resentment… which is never something I’m going to sign up for.   Join me as we walk through the mind a bit on what it means to hold space for change, for other people’s experiences of our change, and for ourselves as we learn and unlearn who we want to be.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

On the surface our fears sound reasonable… I am afraid of confrontation, I am afraid of public speaking, I am afraid of what they’ll say or what they’ll think. You talk to your friends about your fear and mot can relate.   BUT, what if what you’re afraid of isn’t actually what you’re afraid of at all?   In todays episode I offer a different way to look at your fears, to dig deeper, to peel back the layers and see what is hiding underneath that surface fear. And, spoiler alert, its your THOUGHTS.   We’re not *truly* afraid of what’s going on outside of us, as much as we’re afraid of what could go on inside of us. And when we can see and recognize that, it takes some of the power from that fear.   Because with the work we’re doing here on this podcast, and in the world, we know that we are the only masters of our mind. And if our fear is of ourselves, then we have control over it. And man, there is so much power in that!   Join me as we take a look at what your subconscious might be offering, that your conscious mind is actually totally cool with.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad