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In chatting with a client this week, we unpacked an old belief she has about herself and what being successful means. She had it in her head that success looks a certain way, so she is always trying to achieve more, make more, be more. But recently she stopped and asked herself what truly makes her happy- and it wasn't her bank account or title. Turns out, she has a new belief about what success means, but the old belief was still driving the car. In today's episode, I go back to the mail bag and answer a question from a listener who is in a relationship that current her loves, but younger her feels nervous about. Again, old belief vs. new belief. Tune in and hear me break down how to handle cognitive dissonance, or when you've got two competing beliefs…. Likely when one is something you learned long ago but no longer resonates, and you've got a new one that you've formed as an adult. If you need help with anything, email me your question or visit my website to learn how we can work together! Details below. See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad —

This week we have another mailbag situation. The specifics of this are around political differences within a family, and how to move through them… but the overall takeaway from this podcast is how to navigate when people do things differently than you and you find yourself judging them because of it. It could be regards to the way someone parents, conducts themselves in a relationship, handles conflict, votes, etc. It is normal for the human brain to think there way is the right way… but, that doesn't make it easy. I share how I was able to move through judgment over differences, and I hope you can apply some of these strategies to whatever situation in your life is causing a divide between you and them. See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

One of my fave topics! This comes up so frequently in my coaching and mentoring sessions: "I feel like I am made of more but I am paralyzed by fear." Cool. Welcome to being human. In today's episode I dive into how to shift your brain from fear to focus so you can start taking action in the direction of your dreams. This is a topic I am so passionate about it, because I am living proof of how much things can change when you manage your mind and focus on the best case outcome. I can't WAIT to see what you do when you finally do the dang thang. Of course, I'd love to work with you… so if you need a little more direction and clarity come find me! I'd love to help. See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Sometimes parenting is about parenting. And sometimes parenting is about re-parenting ourselves. In todays episode we go into the mailbag re: parenting triggers and reactions, and how we need to understand ourselves before we can show up and understand out kids' needs. Whether you're a parent or not, today's episode can show you a peek into your brain and learned behaviors from your childhood, so you can work to become aware of what is triggering you, and how you can intentionally respond, instead of intrinsically. See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Today you get part two of my conversation with Raina, where we dive into what has happened since she finished writing her book, Bare. It was so cool, as her friend, but also as a fellow human, to actually feel the peace she created and energy shift as her book went on. It's even cooler to see the life she has manifested now. Since she finished writing, she has met someone. In this part of our convo we share that with you. Along with how she was able to manifest so many of her blessings. I hope it inspires you, the way it did me, to grab life by the horns and make it what you want! You can find Raina on IG at @Raina.Odell You can find her book on Amazon or wherever you get your books! See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

This episode is one of my faves ever, because I got to have a convo with one of my besties, and also one of my fave humans before we were ever even friends… Raina Odell. She wrote a book about her life and story and it blew me away. The lives she has lived, the things she has gone through, and then the lemonade she made out of lemons is beyond inspiring. We had such a great conversation that I split it into two parts. So, here is part one. All about her story and struggles, and how she was able to stay true to herself, while allowing herself to grow and evolve. I hope you enjoy! And if you do, share it! You can find Raina on IG at @Raina.Odell You can find her book on Amazon or wherever you get your books! See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

I listened to a podcast episode this week that floored me. It was on Theo Von's podcast, This Past Weekend. He had complex trauma specialist, Tim Fletcher on, and together they talked about what complex trauma looks like as a kid, and then as an adult. I always love learning about the brain and how it works. And if you do too, that episode is for you! I also share some of my other favorite resources that have taught me so much about how our brains work. Hopefully you love them as much as I do! See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

I am so excited to bring you today's episode with Human Design Expert Stefanie Joseph. I was introduced to human design and Gene Keys when I went to my retreat in Sedona back in February. It opened up a fascinating world to me that I couldn't wait to sign into more.  The idea is that based on your time, date and place of birth, you can start to learn more about how you were made, why you were here, what your likely pain points are, and where you'll find your purpose. I learned so much in my first reading, and even more in today's conversation. Unfortunately, we had quite a lot of technical difficulties, so I will be having her back on! But, if you don't want to wait for that, you can find Stefanie on Instagram @_stefaniejoseph or her website https://stefaniejoseph.com/ See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

I've been a very productive pivoter for much of my life. Pivots can be scary because you're leaving what is comfortable for the unknown. BUT, just because something is comfortable, doesn't mean it's where you belong. In this weeks episode I share some of the past pivots I've made in my life, what led me to those choices, and the outcomes of choosing them. And, I offer some encouragement for you to lean into the voice inside that is asking you to pivot. Whether that is to pivot your career, relationship, self talk, habits etc… it's not life and death. So just keep walking towards what feels right-enough. You can always change your mind. If this podcast resonated with you, I would LOVE to hear from you. Leave a review, slide into my DM's, share it on social, whatever feels good to you. Thank you for continuing to come back and hang with me. See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

I just got back from a weekend away with some girlfriends, and I came home so much more filled up than when I left. More filled than I've been in a long time.  We had some beautiful discussions and got me thinking about what I want for my future. I've always had massive, big, scary goals… and I still do. But I also have had some time to reflect, and took this weekend to dig into what I want my life to look like. And I was surprised by what I found.  If you're an achiever like me, or have trouble granting yourself rest or giving yourself permission to play: this episode is for you!  I hope it encourages to prioritize joy and pursue what makes you feel most alive, and grateful to be here.  See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

In todays episode we go back to the mail bag and I get to dive into a topic I feel SO passionate about: how to *decide* and work to believe that you are worthy of love and belonging. This is a theme that comes up with almost all of my clients. And it is a theme that has come up in my life time and time again. I know what hating yourself feels like, because I did it for years. BUT, I also now know how to pull myself out of it. So join me as I share the steps I take, along with some thoughts I think, to overcome the internal bully and release your inner hype girl. I hope this resonates with you so much, and that you're able to start treating yourself the way those who love you immensely do. You deserve that. Can't wait to hear what you think! See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

A few episodes back I talked about how sometimes we make things harder than they are. We tell ourselves something is hard, and that keeps us from taking action. We call ourselves stuck, when really we're just afraid to move through or past the hard. That is not what I am talking about today. In today's episode I explore the idea that sometimes, it is *supposed to be* hard. Losing weight and prioritizing health: sometimes hard Building a business and chasing your goals: sometimes hard Repairing a relationship and allowing yourself to be vulnerable: sometimes hard Working through your trauma and healing yourself: sometimes hard But, the way our brains are set up for survival means that when things feel hard, our brain thinks we need to hit the eject button immediately. We don't. Sometimes, we need to let them be hard and do. it. anyway. Join me today as I share with you the process you take your brain through as you let the things the matter to you, to sometimes be uncomfortable. See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

In this weeks episode we dive into the mail bag. I explore three different scenarios in three listeners marriages and try to give insight and guidance to help them make a decision that feels good and empowering to them. First up we chat about feeling disconnected from your spouse when you've got little kids at home. The second scenario is about supporting a spouse with mental illness, and how to drop resentment and judgement so you can get back to loving. The third is about wanting to end a marriage and how to know when it is time. I love doing these mailbag episodes, so if you've got any situations you need my advice on, you can always email me at Ashlie.molstad@gmai.com See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Sometimes I coach you to have your back when someone is upset with you over something you've done. And sometimes, like today, I coach you on how to apologize and truly mean it when you've treated someone you care about in a way you're not proud of. But we dive deeper than just the apology, we go into the act of repairing any damage caused. In todays episode I share several examples recently where I had to repair relationships with people I love because of how I acted. Yes, its important to look at if we need to have our own back and hold space for others to be upset with us when we don't feel we've done anything wrong. BUT, it is equally as important to know how to deeply apologize and repair, so that the people we love, value and care about feel seen, heard and loved by us. I can't wait to hear how this helps you turn the page with some relationships in your life, so that they and you, can move forward. See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

In todays episode, I dive into the little micro ways we reject ourselves, and how you can start identifying + correcting it, so you can find more peace. People are gonna label you. They're going to project things onto you. You are going to label you and project onto yourself… But, this chips away at our confidence. It calls insecurity into our lives. It teaches people how to treat us. Join me to hear how you can catch yourself doing this, and how to stop it. See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

"By using our attention we learned a whole reality, a whole dream. We learned how to behave in society: what to believe and what not to believe; what is acceptable and what is not acceptable; what is good and what is bad; what is beautiful and what is ugly; what is right and what is wrong. It was all there already — all that knowledge, all those rules and concepts about how to behave in the world."   Ruiz, Don Miguel. The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book Book 1)   Nothing in this world has anything to do with us. Nothing we do has anything to do with anyone else. It all has to do with the way we were raised, and what we were taught to believe.   I started reading The Four Agreements, and one of the agreements really stood out to me, Don't Take Anything Personally.   As I heard this and then went out into the world looking for evidence that it is true, I have been blown away by how often this truth reveals itself.   In todays episode I dive into how this shows up for me, and for some of my clients. In hopes that you can find places in your life where you're taking things personally that have nothing to do with you… or, where you might be hurting someone who is taking your actions personally, even though it has nothing to do with them.   Tune in and then let me know where you are able to find this truth in your own life.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

You know by now that our thoughts create our feelings, which cause us to take action, and those actions produce our results. So the life you're living right now is a result of the thoughts you were thinking 3 months ago. If you want to create a different life, you have to think like your future self now. Like you've already achieved that thing you want. Because when you think like her, you feel like her, then you act like her. You don't need to wait until: Life slows down The kids get older You have more followers You've lost the weight The timing is perfect   Because it doesn't have to do with any of those things. Think the thoughts that your future self will think NOW, and that is how you become her.   Join me as I share exactly what this looks like, so you too can create the life your future self will thank you for!   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Making friends as an adult can be hard… but doesn't have to be. Losing weight with joy and ease can be hard… but doesn't have to be. Finding a life partner can be hard…. but doesn't have to be.   What if, the things that you really want but are telling yourself is too hard, aren't hard at all?   In today's episode, I share how my perspective on what is hard has changed, and how to have fun doing the things I previously believed wee difficult and exhausting.   Join me and uncover what is actually stopping you from achieving that thing you want, and how to get out of your own way to finally get that thing.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Sometimes its a relationship we want to leave. Sometimes its a job. Sometimes its a friend group.   We think that if we leave, we'll be happier. But, happiness isn't created from jobs, relationships or people… its created from our thoughts.   In this weeks episode I dive into how to know when it is time to go, and how to do it so that it serves you best. And of course, its probably not what you think.   Make sure you listen in so that you can lean into your power, increase your resilience, and take control of your life.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad

Its a fact of life that some people are not going to like what you have to say or what you do. We're all driven by different things, we were taught how to behave by different parents with different value systems.   It is also a fact of life that your brain is wired to look for the threats and pay more attention to the boos. But, just because there will always be people who don't like that way you're doing it, doesn't men you shouldn't.   In todays episode I talk about how to let the doubters and haters be there, but train your brain to focus on those cheering for you to win. Nothing has gone wrong when your brain focuses on the negative, that is what our brains were designed to do. Its kept us alive for all these years. But, most of these "threats" aren't actually a matter of life and death. So, can we re-direct our brains to focus on the fans you've got?   You can stay in your cozy cave where nothing can hurt you, but you miss out on the big beautiful world awaiting you when you step outside your cave and risk being disliked, made fun of, or boo'd. Its up to you to decide what is worth it to you.   Love you, mean it!   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: ashlie.molstad@gmail.com IG: @ashliemolstad