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Biblical Perspective for a Fuller Marriage and Extraordinary Sex! Most married couples want more for their marriage, especially when it comes to sex. Intimate Covenant offers biblical teaching and resources to help achieve oneness with your spouse, resulting in a fuller relationship and an extraordinary sex life. Warning: We cover necessary and important topics about the marriage relationship and sex. We use frank language without being crude or crass. Our approach is biblical and wholesome, but not intended for singles — especially not for children.
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Send us a text Augustine and subsequent Medieval sexual theology have profoundly influenced modern Christian teachings on sexuality, often causing unnecessary shame and restrictions that aren't biblically based. During the Middle Ages, the influence of Augustine, with echoes of Greek philosophy, intensified into even more unnecessarily restrictive laws and unbiblical teachings about sex. Contrary to Augustine and classic Catholic doctrine, celibacy is not more holy than marriage. The Bible te...
Send us a text Matt and Jenn explore how ancient Greek philosophy has shaped modern Christian attitudes toward sexuality, creating an unbiblical culture of shame and stigma around sexual desire. • Plato's dualism in the 4th century BC separated body and soul, viewing bodily desires as inferior to spiritual pursuits • Stoicism further emphasized suppression of passions, teaching that sex was only acceptable within marriage and solely for procreation • The Apostle Paul directly confronted thes...
Send us a text Matt and Jenn use a cooking analogy to explore how great married sex requires more than just "spices" – it needs solid foundational ingredients of spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical connection. • Adding more spice to bad ingredients doesn't make a dish better; it likely makes it worse. • In struggling marriages, focusing solely on sexual excitement without addressing overall closeness leaves couples unsatisfied • All aspects of intimacy (spiritual, emotional, mental, p...
Send us a text Warning: We cover necessary and important topics about the marriage relationship and sex. We use frank language without being crude or crass. Our approach is biblical and wholesome, but not intended for singles — especially not for children. Difficult conversations are at the heart of successful marriages, yet many struggle with vulnerability and emotional expression. We explore practical ways to share feelings authentically and address how to reveal past mistakes you've been...
Send us a text In this episode, Matt & Jenn tackle the concept of "organic sex" and whether truly spontaneous intimacy is even possible in a long-term marriage. The myth that good sex should just naturally happen without planning or effort has damaged many marriages and created unrealistic expectations. • Sex is natural but not naturally perfect - it requires intentional cultivation • Many couples believe the Hollywood myth that passionate encounters should happen effortlessly • Th...
Send us a text In this episode, Matt & Jenn share an encore episode about reassessing your expectations for your marriage and moving the trajectory of your relationship through personal investment. Mature past the selfish motivations of relationship and begin to see the true fulfillment of covenant love built on self-sacrifice — in your marriage and in your relationship to God.Instead of asking "What do I want FROM my marriage?", change your perspective with a new question: “What do I wan...
Send us a text In this "Christmas Q&A Potpourri" episode, Matt & Jenn are sharing segments from previous live Q&A sessions. We're answering the following questions: Should I sacrifice my desire for sexual intimacy if my spouse does not desire sex?What are your favorite topics of conversation for rejuvenation and reconnection?How do I handle my spouse being defensive when i ask them any question?How do I grieve unmet expectations?How often should we be having date nights and get-aw...
Send us a text In this episode, Matt & Jenn answer the following listener questions: What advice do you have for couples that have great sex but struggle talking about sex? We’ve tried conversation starters but the answers are always brief.I’m ashamed how much value I place on my spouses physical appearance. Self-improvement is a good virtue, but how do I ensure my motives are not immoral or shallowI enjoy sleeping naked. My wife hates it. How can I encourage her to try & embrace it r...
Send us a text In this episode, Matt & Jenn share another set of clips from the Q&A session at our recent Annual Marriage Retreat. We cover the following questions: What ways can I warm my spouse up to more public displays of affection? Discuss navigating, in different seasons, sexual pursuer/responder roles switching. It's not a smooth transition and can be confusing.What if you are the sexual AND the emotional persuer??I love giving my wife oral pleasure. She never reciprocate...
Send us a text This episode is an excerpt from the live Q&A session at the 2024 Annual Marriage Retreat. We’re sharing our response to the following question: “Can you go into further detail on how the act of sex can glorify God?” We’re also sharing our responses to questions about sex toys, solo masturbation, modeling a healthy sexual relationship for your kids, and when to talk to your kids about pornography. We also want to thank the sponsors of this year's Retreat: Married DanceCocon...
Send us a text In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss the complaint, "My spouse never initiates sex." So, whose job is it, anyway? How can I get my spouse to initiate more often? Whether it’s sexual connection or any other aspect of your relationship, if you sense a lack of it in your relationship, it’s up to you to initiate what is missing.If you feel like you are the only one initiating, keep striving. But, recognize — with gratitude — that your spouse may be contributing a whole lot more...
Send us a text In this episode, Matt & Jenn compare the sexual relationship to a hurricane. Sex, like a hurricane, is a powerful, God-given force. While we can’t direct the path of a hurricane, quiet the gale-force winds, or suppress the rising waters, we do have control over the effects of sex in our own marriages. The forces of a hurricane are mostly destructive. But the power of sexual desire can be channeled to constructive, passionate and intimate relationship.The damage of hurricane...
Send us a text In this episode, Matt & Jenn respond to a listener's email from a wife who is feeling rejected because her husband, the usual sexual pursuer, has stopped initiating. We'll explore some of the reasons this might be happening and what she can do about it. Plus, we give some personal updates and exciting announcements about the future of Intimate Covenant. Sexual pursuers may stop for many reasons and it’s often more complicated that just hormones.A change in this dynamic in y...
Send us a text In this episode, Matt & Jenn discuss some of the latest TikTok relationship tests and whether there is something we can learn about our marriages from these viral trends. If you really want to test your relationship, pick up a mirror rather than a microscope. Only you can change you. “Turn towards” rather than “turning away” from your spouse by making and receiving bids for connection.Whether your prior rejections have been intentional or unintentional, challenge...
Send us a text In this episode, Matt and Jenn discuss the resurging popularity of sleeping in separate bedrooms. We'll consider the reasons why a couple might choose this option and whether it might be wise for your marriage. In addition, we'll discuss some of the consequences of spouses who have separate bedtimes. Every step we take away from our spouses, especially physically, has inevitable negative long-term consequences for the relationship. The decision to sleep apart should be we...
Send us a text In this episode, Matt & Jenn share some experiences from their recent trip to China and some life-changing lessons they are bringing back. We think these lessons will impact your marriage too! It’s easy to lose focus on eternal priorities and purpose. Revisit this conversation with your spouse frequently.Changing your circumstances will not change your marriage. To improve your marriage, you have to lean into the conflict and learn to better serve your spouse.We are deeply ...
Send us a text In this episode, Matt & Jenn share excerpts from several different live Q&A sessions recorded at previous live events. - How do you differentiate between responsive sexual desire and a medical problem resulting in a lack of sex drive? - How can I keep striving for spiritual and emotional intimacy when my spouse is reluctant to do so? - How can I overcome shame in my physical appearance that hinders me from giving myself to and fully enjoying physical intimacy with my s...
Send us a text In this episode, Matt & Jenn share some important news and updates, including a fun blooper reel. There are multiple ways to help support Xander Moody and his family. GiveSendGo (https://www.givesendgo.com/supportxander) - This is a crowdfunding site launched by Xander's baseball team organization. Blessings Overflow: Mail checks (avoid transaction fees) with “Xander Moody” in the memo line to:Blessings Overflow 9114 Hermitage Ln Alvaton, KY 42122 Venmo (https:...
Send us a text In this episode, Matt & Jenn share segments from the live Q&A session at the Tampa Marriage Day on March 2nd, including: How to connect sexually, even during periods of conflictHow to learn contentment when I desire a certain sex act, but my spouse doesn’tHow to avoid complacency when things seem “good”How to navigate different preferences for sexual frequencyHow to encourage spiritual growth and accountability Don’t miss early-bird pricing for the Annual Marriage Retr...
Send us a text In this episode, Matt & Jenn share their responses to a few anonymous questions posed by attendees at a recent Marriage Day in Austin, TX. What are some ways we can help prevent our children from feeling shame about sex in marriage to stop the feeling we were raised with?Is it OK for me time in a successful marriage?How to deal with past relationships interfering with current one… as in constantly comparing oneself to another…If I am disinclined toward sex and my spouse fee...
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What a complete bulshit. Feminism ruined the world. The sex has to come from the wife. Woman have the power in relationships. According to Dr laura schlessinger
Great Podcast!