It's Not Your Fault

In part three of inside the mind of a Narcissist, Chelsea & Emily begin to discuss how to cope with the Narcissist in your life. 

This is their reality. This is their normal. This is how it should be. This is their world and we're just living in it, succumbing to their wants and needs 100% of the time. This is Part Two of inside the mind of a Narcissist. 

Ever wonder what a Narcissist is literally thinking? Do they actually mean what they're saying or are they just saying it? How they treat you... are they sincere in their feelings, their actions, and their reluctant apology? On this episode, Chelsea & Emily go inside the mind of a Narcissist. 

In part three of Coming to Terms, Chelsea tells us the one boundary she had with Jack (it's a big one) and Emily shares the secret ingredient of what makes you a psycho bitch. Terms discussed: Boundaries, Narcissistic Supply in the form of Sleep Deprivation, Smear Campaign, & Grooming.

Part Two of Coming to Terms: Emily & Chelsea cover the three stages of a Narcissistic relationship, and ––arguably–– the most effective tactic in keeping you in the relationship, Future Faking.

Let's talk terms. We took a reddit thread on all things NPD and are matching it to our stories and other information we've come across. In this episode we cover: Cognitive Dissonance, Hoovering, & Love Bombing.

In the second part of talking sabotage, Chelsea shares how Jack fed off her in the relationship (more Narcissistic Supply) and Emily has some sound life advice for everyone.

We're talking sabotage. How did your Narcissist sabotage you in the relationship? Was it a slow or quick burn? The worst part? You only know the sabotage exists when you get out of the kitchen (pun kind of intended).

Emily nails down why Chelsea wrote letters to Jack which poses the question: was it enough? Will anything you do or anything you say ever be enough?... Will YOU ever be enough?

The end of the ABC's of TLC for our NPD boys. Emily shares her experience and Chelsea leaves us on a cliffhanger.

How did your Narcissist liked to be cared for? Hint: it has nothing to do with love languages.

They have their shit together. They are the life of the party. Their charisma and charm have you in a tail spin. We are talking grandiosity: exaggeration, big gestures, altruism; everything they do, they do in a big way, and everyone loves them for it.

Two more signs your partner may be gaslighting you are if (1) you have a sense that something is wrong but aren't able to identify what it is and (2) you make excuses for your partner's behavior. 

Gaslighting does not boil down to any one fight. It is the accumulation of all fights that sum up to your partner making you feel crazy. Chelsea and Emily begin this roller coaster with some of the signs to watch out for: (1) you no longer feel like the person you used to be, (2) you feel more anxious and less confident, (3) you often wonder if you're being too sensitive, (4) you feel like everything you do is wrong (i.e. your fault), and (5) you're apologizing often.

How you know you're not with the right person: Day One.

He's the perfect man... or is he? This is the story of how Chelsea met Jack.

"Narcissist" is often used loosely when describing someone's "bad" character traits. We're giving you the cold hard truth of the word and how, at the of the day, It's Not Your Fault.