Iterate with Ashley

On one hand, someone asks how you’re doing, you say: “Fine.”  Or your partner has been treating you like their personal merry maid services. And you have been silently raging for weeks, but when they ask if something’s wrong… you say, “I’m fine.”  On another hand, someone comes for a member of your team and like a mama bear protecting your cubs in the wild, you push them behind you and go to war.  Why?  How come you’ve been able to defend, protect and fight for other people, but not yourself?  In this episode I answer that question plus:  How to stop saying “I’m fine” and start speaking your truth.  A breakdown of my Showrunner method that I take coaching clients through that emboldens them to self-advocate and lead with power. If you have any questions about what I shared, feel free to DM me over on IG:⁠ @ashleymorganlive⁠ I currently have 3 spots open in MORPH, my 6 month 1:1 leadership development coaching program for purpose-driven women who want to shed good girl conditioning and lead with MORE power. This is for you if-- You've got the good on paper job and look successful from the outside looking in, but you've been called to go bigger and silly little things like: self-doubt, perfectionism, people pleasing and lacking confidence have held you back or kept you stuck. DM me “MORPH” on IG: ⁠@ashleymorganlive⁠ if you desire this kind of support.  Lastly, if you loved the episode, share it with a friend!

Curious about what it’s like to coach with me behind the scenes? This audio is for you.  Inside this bonus episode: 6 MIN — I give you the chance to hear from a client of mine who is 6 weeks into our 6 month coaching relationship. Joy is a CFO with an MBA. She reached out initially after learning she was severely underpaid.  She wanted to negotiate a larger compensation package and be paid fairly.  It became clear FAST that while yes, it was time for a raise… her true hearts desire was to fulfill the dream and purpose of supporting burnout exhausted CEO’s create freedom-based businesses.  She’s a mom of 3.  She was also exiting a 10 year marriage. And family is one of her highest core values.  She thought she had a confidence issue… but we uncovered it wasn’t that at all.   I share the process I take you through during my 1:1 coaching that transforms your brain, heart and leadership so that you can truly do the purpose work you are meant for in the world.  We also cover:  How to know if MORPH right for you? I describe the woman I created this offer for.  The process I walk you through to upgrade your mindset, emotional intelligence, decision making and leadership skills.  The investment details.  Questions for me: Shoot me a DM on IG: @ashleymorganlive

In this episode of Iterate with Ashley I'm sharing my journey from being married and expecting that I would one day have children to joyfully choosing to be childfree as a single woman. I answer the question: "Aren't you afraid you'll regret it?" I share the core beliefs I have about my life and how they support my major life decisions. And in true Ashley fashion, I rant about fulfillment, self-advocacy, soul missions and your personal leadership. If you have any questions about what I shared, feel free to DM me over on IG: @ashleymorganlive I currently have 3 spots open in Morph, my 1:1 coaching program for driven women who want to re-commit to their purpose work. This is for you if-- You've got the good on paper job and look successful from the outside looking in, but you've been called to go bigger and silly little things like: perfectionism, people pleasing and lacking confidence have been holding you back or keeping you stuck. 6 or 9 month options are available. DM me "morph" on IG: @ashleymorganlive for more deets. Also, if you loved the episode, share it with a friend!

Them: “Are you volunteering for the book drive again this year?” You: “No.” Them: “Oh, why not?” You: “I don’t want to.” **** crickets. awkward silence**** Could you calmly and confidently have this conversation with someone without:  Feeling an ounce of guilt trickle down your spine? Feeling dread drop into the pit of your belly?  Feeling tingly sensations flitter in your fingers? Yes! Stop reading. Congratulations 🎉🥳👏 You’ve beat out 70% of women who feel like they’ve robbed a granny or kicked a puppy when they simply say, “nope… won’t be doing that.” If you’re like the rest of us… well (former Ashley) I designed a new program just for you called the Obligation Detox.  It’s all the learnings I needed when I was volunteering in five church departments, working full time, going to school full time and being a wife, daughter, sister… well just all the things. AKA being the textbook over-giving, over-functioning, over-committed woman. Read the deets here.  Q’s about the program? DM me on the Gram here.  xx, Ashley

About 6 weeks ago, I got on a call with my therapist and he said, “You look like you ate a string of Christmas lights. You’re glowing from the inside out.”  I offered him a grin and teared up, because I felt it.  Like oil on a hot stove crackling as it gets hotter and hotter, I’d been feeling it. Like the pilot light on a furnace gets sparked — it felt like I my energy had been reignited.  I was nourished. Fat. Like the chubby, squishy thighs of a baby feeding on liquid gold.  Rested. Clear. Grounded.  They weren’t just nice words, they were embodied wisdom.  After collapsing into 2023 and first fighting my bodies call to rest then giving in and honoring it — I was feeling like myself again.   Better really.  4-5 months before this moment I was crying for a different reason.  The guilt I felt over stepping back from relationships and commitments. Hasty imperfect asks for space. The wash of disappointment constantly flooding my body since I had spent the entire year doing the bare minimum.  And he told me this:  “Ashley, it’s a good thing that there isn’t enough of you to go around.”  He added:  “You did what there was to do. If a car is running out of gas, you don’t floor it and  force it to push through. It’ll eventually stop. You pull over to a gas station and refill it. Just like that car, you pulled over. The people who love you and genuinely care for you will be happy to see you well.”  I exhaled and have kept exhaling.  Which brings me to my point:  I didn’t hit any of my career goals in 2023.  And still…  I left the year feeling mentally and emotionally stronger, energetically lighter, my vision is more clear, my creative expression is more free, I feel like I actually have the bandwidth and capacity to go out and re-engage the world.  In this episode I’m sharing:  A permission slip for rest and an urging to answer the call for slowness.  Why I don’t believe in New Year Resolutions And the 3 guideposts I’m leaning on as I set the tone for 2024.  If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe, leave a review, share with a friend or to your Instagram stories and tag me.  Come say hello on IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  If you’re at a career crossroads and desire to make a change, DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 1:1 coaching container.

Have you ever felt the nagging feeling that you were just built different? Like maybe real fulfillment or contentment with life would forever be playing a game of hide-n-seek with you? Despite having checked the boxes, hit the career milestones, got the relationship, booked the trip... you still have felt like you're playing a smaller game than you wanted to be? I can relate and many of my clients can too. This episode covers: - Why abandoning your career ambition isn't the solution to greater fulfillment. - How gratitude and a desire for more aren't in competition. - What to ask yourself and where to start if you find yourself wanting to play a bigger game. - And more. If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe, leave a review, share with a friend or to your Instagram stories and tag me.  Come say hello on IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 6 to 9 month coaching containers. 

From the time you were a tiny-tot, you’ve been trained — see also indoctrinated — to make work/career/ job the main thing Leaving the the rest of your life to play side-chick.  You were taught to make your career the fancy centerpiece of the dining room table that is your life— but you’ve realized it’s not working for you.  Career is no longer king — That’s the old model.  You don’t just want to look “impressive” you want to feel/be fulfilled w/o compromising pay or power.  The new model says— work matters and it’s also only one small part of who you are, how you live and how you express yourself in the world.  You’ll still have big impact and make the money you wanna make— just not at the expense of being a whole ass human.  That’s a price you aren’t willing to pay anymore.  So where do you start? How do you begin designing a career where your life comes first? That's what we're covering in today's episode. Want me in your back pocket as you create this transformation in your own life? DM me “MORPH” and get to on building your life-first career.  In my world, your quality of life is the main thing.  You can do it w/o sacrificing your six-figure income or director title (I didn’t give up mine). In my 1:1 coaching, you untangle the mental mess of “what do I really want next from work.”  I don’t ask you to trash your ambition or stop giving AF about your team, but you do raise the standards for your own personal fulfillment and well-being.  Come say hello or drop any questions about the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Enjoying the party? Like, subscribe & share w/ a friend!

“Maybe I just got lucky?”  “Maybe it was my connections?”  “Maybe it was just a coincidence?”  “Maybe they didn’t have a better option?” Nah, boo – you did that.  Own that sh*t.  The above were lies I was believing when I was in self-protect mode after a toxic AF workplace experience left my confidence in the toilet.  These useless thoughts kept me stuck in career purgatory making $14/hr when I had 6-figure skills.  We go to church in this podcast ep. I intend for you to leave the episode OWNING your results and giving yourself boatloads of credit for every damn thing you’ve done.  That’s the HOW of building rock solid self belief.  In the episode, I share: A story I’ve never put anywhere on the interwebs, all about how I was unqualified for a promotion and raised my hand anyway. And things outside my control made it so that I was still the best choice.  Why happy accidents are a part of the success journey and not enough people are being honest about it.  A riff on gratitude… plus much more.  PS…  Enrollment is open for the Anti-Confidence Clinic.  A 6 week program where you learn how to stop the doubt spiral, clear fear and take powerful action everyday. What would it feel like for taking action in life and work felt as easy as making your morning cup of coffee?  No mental boxing match with doubt. No worrying about whether or not you'll fail. No stressing about what other people will think. Just moving forward.  You’re about to find out. ⁠⁠JOIN HERE.⁠⁠ Come say hello or drop any questions about the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 6 to 9 month coaching containers. 

Hi Friend—  In this episode we cover a range of ideas, see the highlights below:  Riff on relationships and allowing yourself to be supported. I talk about how this hasn’t been the easiest thing for me as someone used to being the “strong friend.”  Why I question “imposter syndrome” and how I see it as something that pathologizes normal human behavior.  The value of being a good question asker.  A case for treating life more like a scientific experiment and less like a 100 point test that we could fail, I think we’d all be a little happier in life.  How digging into the real definition of confidence set me free and I think it will for you too.  Plus more…  Curious about the Anti Confidence Clinic — HERE is a link to a short video that answers the why and what you’ll be learning.  The focus of the program is simple: turning down the dial on fear and turning up your power to take action.  Ready to enroll — ⁠⁠JOIN HERE.⁠⁠ Come say hello or drop any questions about the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 6 to 9 month coaching containers. 

In this episode I share:  A riff on proving your power to yourself.  The difference between being seen, felt, heard and understood and having the power bring solutions to problems.  A breakdown on my favorite part of the Anti Confidence Clinic and how you can initiate your very own Personal Power Project.  And more… PS…  Enrollment is open for the Anti-Confidence Clinic.  A 6 week program where you unplug from the pressure to feel confident so you can move.  What would it feel like for taking action in life and work felt as easy as making your morning cup of coffee?  No drama.  No overthinking.  No negotiating. Just moving forward.  You’re about to find out. We’ll find yourself on the other side of overwhelm, lack of clarity, fear of judgement and feeling powerless.  You’ll be running towards the things that used to scare you instead of being bullied by them.  Taking action will begin to feel as easy as making your morning coffee.  Enrollment is open now and the special of $100 is on thru Sun 09/03 @ 11:59PST.  Promo code— MOVE100 ⁠⁠JOIN HERE.⁠⁠ Come say hello or drop any questions about the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 6 to 9 month coaching containers. 

Holy sh*t! We did it!!! We have officially completed 30 episodes in 30 days.  What an incredible feeling — I for sure doubted whether or not we’d make it happen at the beginning of the month and also knew it would be completely freakin’ epic to actually do it. This was a real time of example of making action taking feel as easy and stress free as getting your coffee in the morning!  In this episode I share:  The benefit of giving yourself grace and allowing yourself to be a human with real emotions. You can’t hack your humanity. You don’t have to suffer with it and you do have to feel it.  A case for adding more generative, nourishing and nurturing tasks into your day to day work + my biggest take away my 30 day podcast sprint.  The number one sign of purpose work. Why I don’t want you to do it scared, I want you to neutralize the fear so the path to taking action is smoother.  PS…  Enrollment is open for the Anti-Confidence Clinic.  A 6 week program where you unplug from the pressure to feel confident so you can move.  What would it feel like for taking action in life and work felt as easy as making your morning cup of coffee?  No drama.  No overthinking.  No negotiating. Just moving forward.  You’re about to find out. We’ll find yourself on the other side of overwhelm, lack of clarity, fear of judgement and feeling powerless.  You’ll be running towards the things that used to scare you instead of being bullied by them.  Taking action will begin to feel as easy as making your morning coffee.  Enrollment is open now and the special promo has been extended to $200 off thru Thurs 8/31 @ 11:59PST.  Promo code— MOVE200 ⁠⁠JOIN HERE.⁠⁠ Come say hello or drop any questions about the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 6 to 9 month coaching containers. 

I was comparing some of the biggest moments in my life where I felt stuck — like life just had me in freakin’ chokehold and it occurred to me that there was one thing happening every single time.  When I felt stuck in my career — like the job I was doing was paying me well, but sucking the life force energy from me.  When I felt stuck in my body — like no matter what I was doing, I couldn’t release the 80 pounds of weight I gained after leaving a toxic workplace situation.  When I felt stuck in my unhappy marriage — like I was destined to never experience magic and would always have to settle. There was one lie, I was believing, that was consistently at the root.  I share it in this episode, plus: Why laughter is good for the soul and how it helps to regulate your nervous system.  A riff on leadership and how you can be a regulating resource for other people.  Feeling stuck doesn’t actually mean you are stuck.  You can love your body and still decide to lose weight, build muscle and drink less alcohol. It doesn’t mean you are in shame. Plus, is self love as a construct even necessary?  What to do TODAY if you feel stuck in your relationship, job or body or anything!  PS…  Enrollment is open for the Anti-Confidence Clinic.  A 6 week program where you unplug from the pressure to feel confident and make taking action feel as easy as making your morning coffee.  We’ll find yourself on the other side of overwhelm, lack of clarity, fear of judgement and feeling powerless. You’ll be running towards the things that used to scare you instead of being bullied by them.  Taking action will begin to feel as easy as making your morning coffee.  Enrollment is open now at $200 off thru Wed 8/30 @ 11:59PST.  Promo code— MOVE200 ⁠⁠JOIN HERE.⁠⁠ Come say hello or drop any questions about the show: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 6 to 9 month coaching containers. 

In this episode I’m sharing:  The simple way I get myself to workout when I don’t feel like it and how you can use this process to motivate yourself to do anything.  What avoidance is often a true signal of and how to get yourself to move through it. Why confidence is a means to an end and how I intend for making progress to be for you… plus more.  Ready to beat procrastination once and for all?  Join me in the Anti-Confidence Clinic.  Pull the plug on the pressure to feel confident... so you can move. Over 6 weeks you’re gonna hack your brain and your body so you can predictably and reliably prompt yourself to take action.  I won’t be talking to you about discipline.  I won’t be telling you to use willpower.  And I sure as hell won’t be trying to help you conjure up the feeling of confidence that we all know, plays hard to get.  I intend to teach you how to give your brain marching orders it understands so that moving toward desired targets, is as predictable and easy as raising your arm.  So if, you’ve been avoiding something — especially something you want to do…  Procrastinating on something— the mind is just giving you feedback.  It wants a quarter.  You aren’t lazy, disorganized or unmotivated.  It wants different marching orders.  In the Anti Confidence Clinic we solve procrastination so you can move.  Taking action will feel as easy as making your morning coffee. ing action will feel as easy as making your morning coffee.  Enrollment is open now at $200 off thru Wed 8/30 @ 11:59PST.  Promo code— MOVE200 ⁠JOIN HERE.⁠ Come say hello or drop any questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 6 to 9 month coaching containers. 

In this episode I share:  Why I believe that confidence is a feeling and power is a knowing.  What hustling for confidence says about how you feel internally and the spoiler alert that will set you free.  A quick riff on reclaiming power in my body after gaining 80 pounds.  The one question to ask yourself if you are feeling a sense of stuckness about anything.  A simple process for moving out of rock and a hard place energy and back into your power. Plus the details on my newest offering— The Anti-Confidence Clinic.  Pull the plug on the pressure to feel confident... so you can move. Over 6 weeks you’re gonna hack your brain and your body so you can predictably and reliably prompt yourself to take action.  I won’t be talking to you about discipline.  I won’t be telling you to use willpower.  And I sure as hell won’t be trying to help you conjure up the feeling of confidence that we all know, plays hard to get.  I intend to teach you how to give your brain marching orders it understands so that moving toward desired targets, is as predictable and easy as raising your arm.  By the end of the program you’ll be running in the direction of things that used to scare you instead of being bullied by fear. And you’re gonna do it with me as your spotter in the mental and emotional gym.  Regular investment: $499 Use FREEDOM300 for $300 off the regular price through Sun August 27th at 11:59 PST.  ⁠JOIN HERE.⁠ Wouldn’t it be fun to—  … conquer the battle with self belief once and for all so you can move. … know how to give your brain a chiropractic adjustment to the funny thing it’s been doing, that left you feeling paralyzed, even though you have boatloads of success, so you can move.  … learn 3 simple neuroscience backed techniques to stop the habit of freezing and anxious thought spirals so you can move.  … try on 3 different sets of corrective lenses that clear feelings of imposter syndrome… so you can move. … hack your imagination & the reward centers of your brain to cause endless feelings of motivation… so you can move.  Even if you’ve read all the books, tried other programs, and have felt anxious or just plain defeated before.  I’m your evidence.  And what spending 3 years in career purgatory then manifesting a dream job in 4 weeks while feeling terrified and not fully believing in my own prior success, showed me —  Fuck confidence. Know your power.  The lessons I’m teaching in the program cost me 3 years of life and well over 400K in earnings. My corporate clients pay $2500 for me to come and teach for 60-90 minutes.  For a fraction of that you get my brain, my experience and my skills for 6 weeks. ⁠JOIN HERE.⁠ Come say hello or drop any questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

In this episode I share:  The four words that save my ass daily and were especially useful as I tried to bridge old success with new intentions.  A coffee analogy that will change how you see confidence and your personal power.  The importance of finding evidence and building a case for your success.  When you aren’t sure or certain, it’s enough to start with curiosity.  And more… Plus the details on my newest offering— The Anti-Confidence Clinic.  Pull the plug on the pressure to feel confident... so you can move. Over 6 weeks you’re gonna hack your brain and your body so you can predictably and reliably prompt yourself to take action.  I won’t be talking to you about discipline.  I won’t be telling you to use willpower.  And I sure as hell won’t be trying to help you conjure up the feeling of confidence that we all know, plays hard to get.  I intend to teach you how to give your brain marching orders it understands so that moving toward desired targets, is as predictable and easy as raising your arm.  By the end of the program you’ll be running in the direction of things that used to scare you instead of being bullied by fear. And you’re gonna do it with me as your spotter in the mental and emotional gym.  Regular investment: $499 Use FREEDOM300 for $300 off the regular price through Sun August 27th at 11:59 PST.  ⁠JOIN HERE.⁠ Wouldn’t it be fun to—  … conquer the battle with self belief once and for all so you can move. … know how to give your brain a chiropractic adjustment to the funny thing it’s been doing, that left you feeling paralyzed, even though you have boatloads of success, so you can move.  … learn 3 simple neuroscience backed techniques to stop the habit of freezing and anxious thought spirals so you can move.  … try on 3 different sets of corrective lenses that clear feelings of imposter syndrome… so you can move. … hack your imagination & the reward centers of your brain to cause endless feelings of motivation… so you can move.  Even if you’ve read all the books, tried other programs, and have felt anxious or just plain defeated before.  I’m your evidence.  And what spending 3 years in career purgatory then manifesting a dream job in 4 weeks while feeling terrified and not fully believing in my own prior success, showed me —  Fuck confidence. Know your power.  The lessons I’m teaching in the program cost me 3 years of life and well over 400K in earnings. My corporate clients pay $2500 for me to come and teach for 60-90 minutes.  For a fraction of that you get my brain, my experience and my skills for 6 weeks. ⁠JOIN HERE.⁠ Come say hello or drop any questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

In this episode I share: Why I officially appointed myself the Anti-Confidence Evangelist and what sparked it.  The biggest myth about confidence is debunked. If you listen to nothing else from me ever again, I’d want you to hear this one thing.  How doing this one thing is like ‘crack’ for your brain… it literally gets addicted and it’s actually good for you! The one sentence I used to bridge my prior successes to future results even though I wasn’t sure I could do it again.  Plus the details on my newest offering— The Anti-Confidence Clinic.  Pull the plug on the pressure to feel confident... so you can move. Over 6 weeks you’re gonna hack your brain and your body so you can predictably and reliably prompt yourself to take action.  I won’t be talking to you about discipline.  I won’t be telling you to use willpower.  And I sure as hell won’t be trying to help you conjure up the feeling of confidence that we all know, plays hard to get.  I intend to teach you how to give your brain marching orders it understands so that moving toward desired targets, is as predictable and easy as raising your arm.  By the end of the program you’ll be running in the direction of things that used to scare you instead of being bullied by fear. And you’re gonna do it with me as your spotter in the mental and emotional gym.  Regular investment: $499 Use FREEDOM300 for $300 off the regular price through Sun August 27th at 11:59 PST.  JOIN HERE. Wouldn’t it be fun to—  … conquer the battle with self belief once and for all so you can move. … know how to give your brain a chiropractic adjustment to the funny thing it’s been doing, that left you feeling paralyzed, even though you have boatloads of success, so you can move.  … learn 3 simple neuroscience backed techniques to stop the habit of freezing and anxious thought spirals so you can move.  … try on 3 different sets of corrective lenses that clear feelings of imposter syndrome… so you can move. … hack your imagination & the reward centers of your brain to cause endless feelings of motivation… so you can move.  Even if you’ve read all the books, tried other programs, and have felt anxious or just plain defeated before.  I’m your evidence.  And what spending 3 years in career purgatory then manifesting a dream job in 4 weeks while feeling terrified and not fully believing in my own prior success, showed me —  Fuck confidence. Know your power.  The lessons I’m teaching in the program cost me 3 years of life and well over 400K in earnings. My corporate clients pay $2500 for me to come and teach for 60-90 minutes.  For a fraction of that you get my brain, my experience and my skills for 6 weeks. JOIN HERE. Come say hello or drop any questions: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 

How is it that y'all just keep getting me to talk about things on the pod in a way I don't anywhere else. I tell on myself for 40 minutes -- allow the ways I showed up in my marriage to be a blueprint for you to make more useful, informed, powerful choices in your relationships. Blame is easy. Responsibility is tougher -- and that's also where the magic is, where the transformation occurs and where you GET the gifts of your experience. I wouldn't trade a single experience of my life because I am absolutely obsessed with the woman I've become on the other side. This one can be filed in multiple places... relationship resilience, personal resilience, leadership, freedom... We cover so much. In this episode I share: How I was able to exit my marriage from a place of love and how I can wish my ex well despite his actions. What to do if you find your relationship isn't nourishing you. How secrets and lies made eroded us from the inside out. The recipe for what I call the death by disappointment cocktail -- in which I break down the harm in settling/lowering your standards. The mindset that allows me to have zero regrets in spite of investing 15 years in a relationship that no longer exists. How being selfish is the key to creating collective wellness in your relationship. Enjoying the show? Subscribe, leave a review, share with a friend or to your Instagram stories and tag me.  Come say hello on IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 6 to 9 month coaching containers.  Download the PLOT TWIST Self Coaching Guide ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ — 25 questions to help you get unstuck. You'll turn the dial down on emotional pain, restore confidence and move forward.

Today, August 23, would’ve been my 15 year wedding anniversary. In honor of the marriage that didn’t last, I’m doing…  You probably thought I was gonna say, launching a new relationship podcast – because isn’t that what everyone is doing these days? Maybe it’d be named “Failure to Last: The Do’s and Don’t of Making it Work” –  but I’m really just gonna share 15 of the gifts (read: lessons) I received from the marriage that completed its assignment.  On today’s episode I share:  An unplanned riff on why I think every woman could benefit from starting a podcast.  Why I think you could benefit from ignoring relationship advice.  The toxic belief system that led me to get married for reasons other than soulmate love.  Why I don’t think wives should “submit” to their husbands and what I think is a more useful idea.  Where most relationships go wrong and the obvious fix. Enjoying the show? Subscribe, leave a review, share with a friend or to your Instagram stories and tag me.  Come say hello on IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 6 to 9 month coaching containers.  Download the PLOT TWIST Self Coaching Guide ⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠ — 25 questions to help you get unstuck. You'll turn the dial down on emotional pain, restore confidence and move forward.

2017 supporting my dad with terminal cancer  trained me for supporting his sistercousin with terminal cancer in 2020. 2012 wrongful termination trained me for being laid off in 2020.  2014 exiting a high demand religious organization trained me for exiting a 15 year relationship and 9 year marriage  in 2017  There’s this saying… “What got you here won’t get you there.” And I’d like to offer you a different set of glasses to look through.  What got you HERE is ab-so-fucking-lute-ly what will get you THERE.  Every prior season of life was training camp for where you are today. The place your feet are planted now is training camp for tomorrow. You’re building… the tactical skills. the muscles of resilience. the network of relationships. the ability to metabolize emotional pain. Today’s challenge, should you choose to accept it: Notice how THAT got you HERE and HERE will get you THERE.  Want the churchy version? God intends for us to go from faith to faith and glory to glory…and all that.  We cover all this and so much more in the episode... Enjoying the show? Subscribe, leave a review, share with a friend or to your Instagram stories and tag me.  Come say hello on IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 6 to 9 month coaching containers.  Download the PLOT TWIST Self Coaching Guide ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ — 25 questions to help you turn the dial down on emotional pain, restore confidence and move forward.

Did I really just say that?  Jesus be a MFing fence. LOL. Okay that’s dramatic AF. It wasn't actually that bad... That said, the former church girl died another small death today. All jokes aside, I don’t know if there is a world where I ever thought I would talk about how I gained 80 pounds after wrongful termination and the issues that created in my sex life, but I digress. It's a universal experience so there's that. Anyhow, in this episode I share: The root of my 80 pound weight gain and what it taught me about self-protection and visibility. The mental game I played that got me back to a public workout space after years of avoiding it. The life long lesson I learned on a yoga mat years 5 years ago that still serves me today. Where to put your attention if you cannot access the feeling of confidence, your knowingness or sureness.  Why I believe it’s really cool to be SEEN trying. And lots more…  If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe, leave a review, share with a friend or to your Instagram stories and tag me.  Come say hello on IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  DM me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for details on my 6 to 9 month coaching containers.  Download the PLOT TWIST Self Coaching Guide ⁠HERE⁠ — 25 questions to help you turn the dial down on pressure, boost optimism and activate your inner badass.