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Today's most successful leaders share their incredible stories and life lessons to help you get the life you want in the areas of health, wealth, relationships and personal growth. Every show is jam packed with actionable tips and insights that will propel you forward to become the man you want to become. Join us at knowledgeformen.com for recaps of every interview as well as an incredible gold mine of resources to help you live better. Prepare to become the most powerful version of yourself!
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Gordon Miller has devoted more than 30 years to the pursuit of excellence in design and innovation. An accomplished designer and engineer in his own right, Mr. Miller first focused his attention on K-12 and higher education solutions and then corporate websites, decision support systems and now mobile applications and data aggregation. As CEO of G3 Systems, Inc. since 1993, Mr. Miller has developed a rapidly expanding base of mission critical government projects including efforts for the US Dept. of Defense, US Navy, US Army, US Dept. of Education, US Dept. of Housing and Urban Development, US Dept. of State and US Dept. of Homeland Security. As CEO of G3i Ventures, LLC, Mr. Miller has co-founded, launched or funded a total of 8 companies. Favorite Success Quote “You are the average of the five people that you surround yourself with most” ~Jim Rohn Key Points 1. Your Network Determines Your Networth  Do you want to know how to really “get rich quick”? Do you want to know the fastest way to achieve massive amounts of wealth and success? It’s actually pretty simple… Level up your network. That’s it. The quickest way to exponentially increase your results in your life, your bank account, and your body is to hang around people who already have what you want and more.  When you are constantly spending time around low caliber individuals who are worried about making rent, have fixed mindsets, and who let you rest on your laurels, you will eventually become complacent and begin to stagnate and die. There’s no way around it. But if you are around people who are playing the game of life at a higher level than you are, if you are around people who are true hustlers and game changers, they will start to rub off on you. You will begin to see the world through the lens of the player instead of the spectator. So I want you to commit right now, that no matter what happens this year, you will find a group of men who are playing the game of life at a higher level than you are and get around them. Your success depends on it. 2. Fall in Love with the Process One of the biggest mistakes that people make is that they are outcome oriented, not process oriented. In this moment, you might think that you will find satisfaction by purchasing that big house, the yacht, or the car. But what happens after you are done? What happens when the transaction concludes and you have you “dream”? You are left to your own devices once again and asked to find fulfillment and joy in yet another set of goals and outcomes. You are constantly chasing something that you can never catch, because there is always another goal to achieve, another benchmark to hit, and another level to break through. But what if I told you that you could achieve all of the joy, happiness, and fulfillment that you desire right now in this very moment? Well, you can. All you must do is learn to love the process. Learn to love the hustle and the grind as you work towards your dreams. There is no tomorrow, the only time that you have is right now… So make damn sure that you are enjoying it. 3. Live Below Your Means and Put Money Away  One of the biggest mistakes made by most people in their 20’s is spending money like they will live forever. Statistically speaking, if you are under 30 reading this right now, you will likely live well past 90 years old. Do you really want to be working your ass off and hustling like a college graduate at that age? If the answer is “No” then you need to start saving and investing money, immediately.  Do whatever you need to do to set aside at least $500 a month every single month and invest it into a money market account or low-risk index fund. If you can do this, then you will be a millionaire by the time you are 60. Period. 4. Get Out There and Do It In our age of social media and hyper-connection, everyone loves to talk. They love to talk about entrepreneurship, about how they are going to start a business, about how they are going to quit their job, or how they are going to make it big. Here’s a revolutionary idea… Stop talking about it. Get out there and do it! The world belongs to those who do.  So stop running your mouth and start moving your feet. As Nike says… Just DO IT! 5. Own Your Mistakes and MOVE ON You are going to make mistakes. That is simply part of the human experience. You aren’t perfect and you shouldn’t expect to be. Mistakes are not only normal they are necessary. So learn from your mistakes and move on. Don’t dwell in the past, wishing that you could have done it differently. Decide to do it differently today. You only have the present moment, don’t waste it wishing that things could be different. They aren’t. What is done is done. All that you can do is learn from it and move on.
Adam Grant has been recognized as Wharton’s top-rated teacher for five straight years, and as one of the world’s 25 most influential management thinkers and Fortune’s 40 under 40. As an organizational psychologist, he studies how we can find motivation and meaning, and lead more generous and creative lives. Adam is the author of two New York Times bestselling books translated into 35 languages. Originals and Give and Take. Adam received a standing ovation for his 2016 TED talk on the surprising habits of original thinkers and was voted the audience’s favorite speaker at The Nantucket Project on the success of givers and takers, which was the subject of his most recent TED talk. His speaking and consulting clients include Facebook, Google, the NBA, Merck, Goldman Sachs, Disney Pixar, Johnson & Johnson, BCG, Amex, the U.S. Army and Navy, and the World Economic Forum, where he has been honored as a Young Global Leader. Favorite Success Quote “The best way to succeed is to help other people succeed.” Key Points 1. Become a Master of “Five Minute Favors” One of the secret weapons of high performers, their proverbial “special sauce” if you will, is the five-minute favor. These favors are simple, easy-to-do tasks that can have a huge impact on your network and future success. One of the simplest examples is devoting 10 minutes a week to connecting at least 2 people you feel need to know each other. This simple tactic resulted in the formation of the Beatles and Apple. Another example is taking the extra initiative at work or in the classroom. Simple things like providing your boss with ten easy-to-implement actions to save the office money or helping a co-worker with a project that they are behind on can drastically increase your social capital and build reciprocal kindness and goodwill. 2. Being an “Original” Is Simple If you want to be original, the path is simple. First, avoid the status quo. Second, look for a new way to do things. And third come up with a superfluous number of ideas, even bad ideas, until you find the solution for which you’re looking. Many people seem to think that being an “Original” is a complicated process that requires psychedelic drugs, a MENSA IQ, or a real creative genius. But the simple truth is that all non-conformists, originals, and real industry disrupters have followed the same three steps. 3. Learn to Reframe the Mundane  One of the most immediate and impactful ways that you can increase your own levels of happiness and satisfaction is to reframe the mundane tasks in your life and find a way to enjoy them. The simplest example is email. How many of you spend at least an hour a day sorting through, organizing, and responding to emails? How many of you think that one hour sucks? I get it… It might seem hard to reframe this seemingly sucky task into something that is genuinely meaningful and enjoyable, but just imagine if you could. Imagine if instead of seeing your email as a drudgery, a  life-sucking task, you saw it as an opportunity. An opportunity to touch every life with which you connect. An opportunity to inspire love, gratitude, and empowerment in every interaction. Because isn’t that exactly what it is? It’s a chance for you to connect with people from all around the globe and inspire them with your attitude, your mindset, and your values. When you approach it from this angle and with this mindset, checking your email because an empowering and exciting task because, instead of thinking “How many freaking message do I have to handle” you get to think “How many lives will I get to shape?” 4. Being an “Original” Is About Execution Not Ideation Being an original has nothing to do with the idea. Everyone, if they think about it long enough, can develop a “Billion dollar idea” that would change the world and disrupt entire industries. But they never take the requisite action. They allow their dreams, their hopes, and their ideas to wither away and die because they cannot bring themselves to execute. They take their ideas with them to the graveyard because they were unwilling to take action on those ideas! At the end of the day, those who truly succeed and shape the world are those who are willing to take ideas and run with them. To take massive action in the face of uncertainty, and give their idea the chance to see the light of day. 5. Fear the Failure to Try Many gurus and self-help proponents shame the fear of failure. They instill a toxic belief that fearing failure is a bad thing. But the simple truth is that you should fear failure. In fact, it should scare the hell out of you! But not in the way that most people imagine. You shouldn’t fear the failure of your business, your relationship, or your bank account… you should fear your own failure to try. At the end of the day, when you lie in your bed, weathered by time, and near the end, you will not look back in regret on the things that you tried and failed. You will look back with regret on the times that you failed to try. You will wonder “What if” I had asked her to marry me? You will wonder “What if” I had started that business? You will wonder “What if” I had embraced my truth and lived a life that was in alignment with my values and my beliefs instead of allowing my family and society to dictate my actions. Because at the end of the day, we are all dead men. The worst thing that can happen to you, death, is already a certainty. So don’t fear failing to succeed. Fear failing to try.
If you're struggling with an existential crisis, this guide will help.  I don't have all of the answers, but I've been through the ringer.  From quitting my job to devastating breakups, to losing my father and best friend in the same month... I've been through challenges that have made me question the purpose of life and my place inside of it.  And this is how I overcame those challenges. 
Jocko Willink is a decorated retired Navy SEAL officer, author of the book Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win, and co-founder of Echelon Front, where he is a leadership instructor, speaker, and executive coach. Jocko spent 20 years in the U.S. Navy SEAL Teams, starting as an enlisted SEAL and rising through the ranks to become a SEAL officer. As commander of SEAL Team Three’s Task Unit Bruiser during the battle of Ramadi, he orchestrated SEAL operations that helped the “Ready First” Brigade of the US Army’s First Armored Division bring stability to the violent, war-torn city. As commander of SEAL Team Three’s Task Unit Bruiser during the battle of Ramadi, he orchestrated SEAL operations that helped the “Ready First” Brigade of the US Army’s First Armored Division bring stability to the violent, war-torn city. Task Unit Bruiser became the most highly decorated Special Operations Unit of the Iraq War. Jocko returned from Iraq to serve as Officer-in-Charge of training for all West Coast SEAL Teams. There, he spearheaded the development of leadership training and personally instructed and mentored the next generation of SEAL leaders who have continued to perform with great success on the battlefield. During his career, Jocko was awarded the Silver Star, the Bronze Star, and numerous other personal and unit awards. In 2010, Jocko retired from the Navy and launched Echelon Front where he teaches the leadership principles he learned on the battlefield to help others lead and win. Clients include individuals, teams, companies, and organizations across a wide-range of industries and fields. Favorite Success Quote “Discipline equals freedom” Key Points 1. Discipline Gives You True Freedom If you want freedom, then forget all the crap about life hacks, smart drugs, and shortcuts. If you want freedom, then you must cultivate extreme levels of discipline. Period. I don’t care if you want to do the important things. Do them. I don’t care if you feel like handling your responsibilities. Handle them. I don’t care if you want to wake up early and grind. Just fucking rise and grind. Discipline equals freedom. 2. You Have to Be Humble Once you have cultivated discipline and overcome your weakness and propensity to allow your feelings in the moment to dictate your life, arrogance becomes your most dangerous enemy. Just because you have achieved a certain level of success does not mean that you have it figured out. The day that you think you know it all, the day that you stop trying to grow, and the day you stop learning from others… That’s the day that you will fall and you will fall hard. 3. Take Extreme Ownership  Whatever circumstances life has given you, it’s time to man up and own them. Step up and take charge of the results that you are producing or failing to produce. Take ownership of your marriage, your business, and your finances. Sure, you can piss away your time blaming others, whining, and moaning. But you will lose respect from the people who matter and accomplish nothing in the process. Or, you can let go of your ego, accept responsibility, and take extreme ownership. And when are willing to swallow your pride and take ownership of your life and success, you will cultivate respect for yourself and respect from others. 4. Detach Emotions from Your Decision-Making Process  If you want to sabotage your success and ruin all chances of high achievement, then allow your emotions to dictate your decision making. If you want to achieve greatly, lead effectively, and create massive success in your life, then learn to detach your emotions from important decisions. I don’t care if you like an under-performing employee and feel bad about letting them go. If you have done everything you can to empower them and call them forward, and they still fail… it’s time to let them go. I don’t care if you don’t feel like getting up and doing your work for the day. It’s time to rise and hustle. When it comes to important decisions, you must lead with logic. I don’t care how you feel. Feelings don’t win wars, build businesses, or change the world. Smart and consistent action does.  5. Win the Mornings and Win Your Day  If you want to have great days, then start with great mornings. Jocko rises every morning at 4:30 a.m. and hits the gym long before distractions or other people’s agendas can start to distract him and interfere with his goals. To achieve high levels of success, you must accomplish your most important tasks first thing every morning before the rest of the world is awake. If you can do this, success is all but guaranteed.
Isaac Lidsky “may possess the most eclectic resume in entrepreneurship” according to Inc. Magazine. He played series regular “Weasel” on Saved by the Bell: The New Class; graduated from Harvard College at age nineteen with a degree in mathematics and computer science; graduated from Harvard Law School magna cum laude; served as a law clerk for Supreme Court Justices Sandra Day O’Connor and Ruth Bader Ginsburg; argued more than a dozen appeals in federal court on behalf of the United States and never lost a case; started a tech company that sold for $230 million; transformed a struggling $15 million concrete subcontractor into an industry-leading $150 million construction services company in five years; and founded Hope for Vision, a nonprofit organization that funds the development of treatments and cures for blinding diseases. Lidsky was born with Retinitis Pigmentosa, a rare degenerative disease of the retina that caused him to gradually lose his sight. Lidsky lives in Windermere, Florida with his wife, Dorothy; their triplets, Lily Louise, Phineas, and Thaddeus; and baby Clementine. Favorite Success Quote “Try not to become a man of success, rather become a man of value” ~Albert Einstein Key Points 1. Make Your Own Definition of Success Each and every day, we are bombarded by images, videos, and social diatribes about what it means to be a success. Fancy cars overtake us in traffic, well-dressed men dating beautiful models captivate our attention, and the “Houses in the Hills” earn both our scorn and envy. And most of us allow this societal autopilot to determine our goals, dreams, and ambitions. We all want to make millions, sleep with beautiful women, and have a luxurious lifestyle, but we never stop to ask ourselves why. We define our success by the world’s standards instead of our own, and as a result, most of us are angry, confused, and frustrated. But there is another way. You have the power to create your own definition of success. To decide for yourself what is important and what is not. To create your own goals based on your deepest values and desires. Forget what society says. Success is subjective. If you wake up each morning, happy, fulfilled, and full of life, then you are a success. The only question that remains for you to answer is “What is my definition of success”? 2. Your Reality is Determined by Your Choices  If you are drawing breath and reading this paragraph right now, then chances are, you have been through the ringer. And if you haven’t, then you might want to put on your raincoat, because there are a couple of storms on the horizon that are headed in your direction. Struggle is an axiom of the human experience. Everyone has challenges, problems, and setbacks. So why is it that two people who are faced with exactly the same circumstance can create massively different results? One simple word. Choice. In each moment, you have the power to choose how your circumstances will affect you. You can choose to believe that life is happening for you, that everything happens for a reason, and that you will achieve your goals and dreams. Or you can choose to believe that life is happening to you, that people are all inherently evil and trying to hurt you, and that you are doomed to a life of failure. The choice is yours. But as the Knight in Indiana Jones said “Choose wisely.” 3. There is No Tomorrow  Yesterday no longer exists. It is nothing more than a series of mental projections that often occurred in a completely different manner than you remember. Tomorrow has not yet arrived and never will. All that we have is right now. This present moment. Take a minute to appreciate it. Enjoy the next breath you take, feel the chair underneath you, listen to the sounds around you. Each moment that we have is a gift, you must learn to appreciate it and be grateful for it instead of waiting for a tomorrow or “Someday” that may never come. 4. Reframe Fears as Fiction In AA, they define fear as “False evidence appearing real”. And truthfully, that is all that it is. Most of the things that we worry about, lose sleep over, and allow to paralyze us will never come to fruition. The worst case scenarios almost never happen, and when they do, they are rarely as awful as we initially imagined. Fear is nothing but fiction. Every fear that is holding you back and preventing you from achieving your greatness is little more than fiction. It is a projection that your 10,000+ year old brain is creating to try and keep you safe from an imaginary fate. Realize this. Embrace this. And step into your fear and take massive action. 5. Get Congruent with Your Values  We live in a world that utterly and completely lacks integrity. I don’t mean this in the sense that we all run around lying and breaking our promises, but rather in the sense that what we think, say, and do rarely align. Most people think that they want to be rich, they say that they want to be well-off, and then they act like they want to be poor. People say think that they want to be shredded and healthy, they say that they want to be in “Decent shape”, and then they act like their body is a playground to use and abuse. People are rarely congruent and almost never in integrity with their values. You need to realize that you cannot have your cake and eat it too. You cannot say that you value health and well being and then abuse your body, skip the gym, and deprive yourself of sleep. You cannot say that you value wealth and then spend every penny you make and waste hours on end in front of the television. If you want to be successful, whatever your definition of success is, then the first step is to get in integrity with your values. What do you want? Say it. And once you say it, go and do it. It’s that simple.
Nicolas Cole is a former pro World of Warcraft player turned entrepreneur. He is writer and essayist, and a Top Writer on Quora. His work has been published in Time, Forbes, Fortune, Inc., The Huffington Post, Business Insider, and more. He is best known for writing true stories about self-development. He recently authored the book, Confessions of a Teenage Gamer.  Favorite Success Quote “You can’t steer a stationary ship” Key Points 1. There Are Always Lessons to Be Learned  Few people consider video games to be a vehicle for learning powerful life and business lessons. However, according to Nicolas, the exact same skills and strategies that made him a phenomenal World of Warcraft player were the exact same skills that translated into professional body building, entrepreneurship, and writing. And while I am not suggesting that you go and become a professional gamer to build up your resume for the business world, you need to realize that there are life lessons to be learned in almost any endeavor. Because the rules of success are universal. The same laws that governed your success in the gym will govern your success in business. The same laws that governed your success in business will govern your success with women. Understand that there are always lessons to be learned and look for ways that you can apply seemingly disparate concepts and ideas from one area of life to achieve success in another. 2. Feel Don’t Think If you ever watched Star Wars growing up, then you probably remember Obi Wan’s famous line to Anakin in Attack of the Clones “Feel. Don’t think.. Use your instinct.” And while I am not training you to bring balance to the force or defeat the dark side, this same truth is applicable in our everyday, non-Jedi lives. People, especially men, think too much. We allow logic and egoic reasoning to dictate what we want (or what we say we want) and what goals we pursue. But if you want to be truly happy. If you want more joy and fulfillment in your life, and you want to live for your true purpose, then you need to feel your way through life. When you trust your instincts instead of your head, you will be in greater alignment with your true purpose and your actual desires. So drop the logic and just feel. What do you really want? Who do you really want to become? And most importantly… Why? 3. Learn to Gamify Your Life If you want to quickly achieve success in life and business, then stop taking it so damn seriously. Relax and gamify your experience. See your different goals and dreams as quests. And in order to achieve those quests, you need to “level up” by practicing different skills and breaking through different milestones. When you begin to view your life and goals as a game, they start to become less of a chore, and more of an adventure. How can you begin to gamify your life more, starting today? 4. You’ve Got to Start the Quest  Once you have created a “quest” that you are going to pursue… You have to get started. You cannot hope to achieve success without taking action and actually taking the first step towards your dreams. I don’t care what this step is. It can be buying a new domain name, writing your first blog article, or launching your podcast. Just do something. Just get started. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step ~Lao Tzu 5. Learn to Hustle  If you want to achieve success, then you’ve gotta hustle. This applies to professional gaming, entrepreneurship, bodybuilding, and success with women. You can have whatever you want, but you have to work for it. You have to get off your butt, show up, and do the work. If you are willing to do this day in and day out over the years, you will succeed. It will not be all at once, but over time, as Charlie Munger said, “If you live long enough, most people will get what they deserve.”
William Eckstrom is the President and founder of the EcSell Institute. Bill has spent his entire career in the sales arena; the first 14 years in personal production and then 13 in various sales leadership roles. His management career began in 2000 as a District Manager for a medical equipment company and was promoted to U.S. Director of Sales in 2003. In 2004, Bill was lured away to become Senior Vice President of Business Development for a publicly traded healthcare organization. In 2008, he founded the EcSell Institute to fill a void he witnessed and personally experienced in the sales leadership Favorite Success Quote “The constant facade of order hides the wilderness that is craving to seek out and teach us that life wasn’t created to be what we think it is. Beyond words we must experience the wilderness to be taught what otherwise cannot be known.” ~Dr. Serene Jones Key Points 1. We Only Grow in a State of Discomfort  We live in an age of unprecedented comfort. Things are easier today in 2017 (or whenever you are reading this) than they have ever been before. If we get hot, we turn up the AC. If we get bored, we open up YouTube. If we are hungry, we order a pizza. Life is too darn easy! And with this ease, has come a disease that is plaguing society. The disease of stagnation. The more comfortable you become, the less drive and ambition you have to grow, create, and build a better life for yourself. The more comfortable you become, the easier it is to relegate your dreams, desires, and aspirations to the realm of “someday”. Unless you are facing massive discomfort in your life, then odds are, you are slowly dying. True growth, real, visceral growth is always predicated by discomfort. If you are living a mediocre life and want to break free to achieve levels of success and happiness that you have been searching for for so long, then you must get uncomfortable. It’s as simple as that. It’s not pretty and it’s not easy… but it is the truth. You need to actively seek out discomfort in your career, your personal growth, and your physical health. If your job isn’t inspiring you, then find ways that you can take on new and uncomfortable responsibilities or quit. If you are not growing as a man and becoming stronger and more grounded each and every day, then find mentors and friends inspire you to level up your game and quit playing it small. If you are not constantly pushing the limits of your body and breaking through to new feats of strength, speed, and agility, then get your butt in the gym today and start sculpting yourself into a stronger man. Gentlemen, if you are not growing you are dying. It’s time to cut the crap and start living life. And it all starts by stepping outside what is easy and embracing discomfort. 2. Focus on Yourself First If you have ever been on an airplane, then you are well aware of the boring (and often ignored) safety briefings at the beginning of each flight. But if you pay special attention during those briefings you will notice something interesting. The flight attendants will always tell you that, in the event of a crash, you need to put the oxygen mask on yourself first before helping anyone around you, including your children. And while this might sound selfish and downright barbaric to some of you, it comes with good reason. If you black out on during the crash while trying to help someone else, then what have you accomplished? You have likely killed yourself and sealed the other person’s fate as well. And this lesson is applicable in all areas of life. If you are not taking care of yourself, if you are not taking the time to grow yourself, mentally, spiritually, and professionally, then what use do you have to the rest of the world? If you are so strung out on projects and problems that you can’t think straight and need a double shot of espresso and a line of cocaine just to function, do you really think that you will be able to be the man that you woman needs you to be? That your family needs you to be? That your friends need you to be? No! Absolute selflessness is the ultimate selfishness. It is only by taking care of yourself first that you can truly serve others. If you want to truly serve your team, your loved ones, and your friends, then start by serving yourself. Take time in solitude each day to meditate and be alone with your thoughts. Take care of your health. Take whatever time and resources are necessary to ensure that you can show up fully charged and alive. Because when you are can unleash yourself on the world with power and energy, that’s when you can serve others and make the biggest impact. 3. Life Happens for You Not to You Each and every day you have a choice. You can choose to believe that the circumstances and the events in your life are happening to you. Or you can choose to believe that they are happening for you. When you believe that life happens to you, you disempower yourself, rob your life of meaning and purpose, and will get lost in the downward spiral of negativity. But when you can expand your mind and embrace the belief that life is happening for you, you will begin to see lessons and opportunities where previously, there were only obstacles. If Bill hadn’t been fired from his job, I would not be writing this article and would not have had the pleasure of interviewing him. If I hadn’t quit corporate and endured the pain of sleeping on my brother’s couch and going broke to build this business, then I wouldn’t have been privileged to have the business and the impact that I have today. Whatever situation you are facing in your life, whatever struggle you don’t believe you can overcome, choose to reframe it and see it as a gift from the universe. See your pain as an opportunity to grow and become the man that you need to be so that you can truly achieve greatness when the time comes. 4.Realize that the Journey Never Ends As you are reading or listening to this talk about discomfort, many of you might be thinking “When does this end? When can I sit back and relax and just enjoy all the comforts and ease life has to offer?” The honest answer? When you are dead. You see, life is a journey. And while you are on that journey, you are either growing or dying. It doesn’t matter how old you are, how accomplished you are, or how much you have achieved, in every moment you can either choose growth or death. If you look at the statistics you will see that a large number of retirees die shortly after they leave their jobs, businesses, and careers behind. And this isn’t because of old age. It’s because they were no longer growing. Because they no longer had a deeper purpose driving their lives. So yes, you can embrace comfort and just coast through life. Just be prepared for decades of unfulfilling drudgery and overwhelming emptiness. However, if you are listening to this podcast, if you are actively seeking out information that will help you grow to become the man you were born to be, then I would guess that you have no interest in coasting. And if this is true, then you need to embrace discomfort. Embrace the fact that until the day you die, you will never arrive, you will never be done, and the journey will never end. Life is nothing more than a continual set of problems for which you are tasked to find the solution. If you do it right, these problems will grow in size and magnitude as you grow. But they will never end. Embrace the journey and get excited about discomfort. 5. Focus on Your Passions  There has never been a time in human history where it was easier or more important to find and follow your passion. With the power of the internet, you have the opportunity and the responsibility to find what you love and unleash it on the world. It’s time to start living your life and stop living someone else’s. Find what you love doing and go do that! Stop squandering your time pursuing dreams and goals set by other people and start doing what you were meant to do. If you get nothing else from this interview, get this. You are meant to do so much more than you can imagine. But to do this, you must embrace discomfort and follow your passions no matter what the cost. Period.
A 24 year veteran of the FBI, Chris Voss is one of the preeminent practitioners and professors of negotiating skills in the world. He is the founder and principal of The Black Swan Group, a consulting firm that provides training and advises Fortune 500 companies through complex negotiations. Voss has taught for many business schools, including the University of Southern California’s Marshall School of Business, Georgetown University’s McDonough School of Business, Harvard University, MIT’s Sloan School of Management, and Northwestern University’s Kellogg School of Management, among others. Favorite Success Quote “It can’t be that hard” ~Chris Voss Key Points 1. Just Jump in and Figure it Out  Whatever it is that you want to do, whatever goal you want to achieve, whatever business you want to start, whatever dream you want to pursue… Just jump in and do it. How hard can it be? If other men have come before you and accomplished goals of the same or similar magnitude, then why not you? Why shouldn’t you be able to gain the knowledge, skill sets, and expertise you need to succeed? Don’t overthink it. Don’t waste time analyzing it. Just jump in and figure it out. 2. Don’t Talk to Somone. Talk with Them  One of the keys to great negotiation and communication is that you must talk with people, not just to them. Too many people walk around running their mouths and talking to people, but they never actually take the time to slow down and listen to them. They never talk with them to figure out who they really are and what they are saying. If you want to immediately improve the quality of your negotiations at work, your communication in your marriage, and the quality of conversation with your friends, then start talking with people in your life. Figure out what really makes them tick. Delve deeply into the why behind their comments and beliefs. Become deeply curious about them and you will find doors opening up in some huge ways. 3. Surround Yourself with the Right People Regardless of your goals and ambitions, it is imperative that you surround yourself with the right people. People who are smart, hard working, fun, and most importantly… people who know things that you do not. If you are the smartest person in any room, then you are in the wrong room. As you progress through life, seek to find rooms that make you more and more uncomfortable. Rooms that are filled with people who are so big and powerful that you are forced to pause and think “Do I really belong here?” The more that you can surround yourself with the right people, the more quickly you will become the right person in your own life. So ditch the negative friends and the unambitious buddies from college. It’s time to level up your social circle and level up your life. 4. Work Hard and Have Fun The rules of success are simple. Work hard and have fun. At the end of the day, if you can do those two things, then you are a success. If you can show up, put in the effort, get your nose to the grindstone and make things happen while laughing, smiling, and enjoying yourself, then you have achieved success. To live a fulfilling and rich life, you must work hard. But you must also have fun while doing it. 5. Take Good Advice  Most people want mentors. They want teachers and guides who can help them to achieve their goals and live a 10/10 life. But when they finally find those people and are given their first challenging piece of advice, they run and hide, ignoring the very thing that could revolutionize their reality. If you want to succeed, then learn to take good advice. No matter how hard or uncomfortable it might be, when you find someone succeeding at a high level who has what you want… Listen and implement what they say. No questions asked and no hesitation.
Todd Henry is the founder of Accidental Creative, a company that helps creative people and teams be prolific, brilliant and healthy. He regularly speaks and consults with companies about how to develop practices that lead to everyday brilliance. He is the author of Die Empty, The Accidental Creative, and Louder than Words. Favorite Success Quote “Verily the lust for comfort murders the passion of our soul and then walks grinning in the funeral” ~Kahlil Gibran Key Points 1. The Goal of Life is Not Comfort it’s Contribution Society has tried to convince us that the ultimate goal of our lives is to increase our comfort. But the problem with this philosophy is that no great work ever came from comfort. You cannot contribute to society and build a true legacy while staying comfortable. In fact, comfort is what kills great work and dreams. The more you are pursuing comfort, the more you are going to be willing to compromise what you know is right and ultimately the more you are willing to reduce your goals and play it small in life. It’s not comfortable to build a great business. It’s hard work, it requires long hours, and lots of lost sleep. It’s not comfortable to sustain a strong marriage. It requires difficult conversations, a commitment to your spouse even when they are at their worst, and the ability to say no to the temptation of other women. It’s not comfortable to build a great body. It requires strenuous exercise, denying yourself the pleasure of excess food, and controlling vices that would harm your health. But while it might not be comfortable to do any of these things, it is worth it. 2. Suffering is Not Evil One of the missions of many modern gurus is to “Eradicate suffering wherever it exists”. And while this sentiment sounds noble, when you understand its ramifications, the truth becomes clear. Suffering is not evil, it is not wrong, and it is not a danger to society. Suffering is a necessary part of growth and development. Suffering builds character in the individual and equips them for challenges that they will face later in life. I want you to imagine two men. The first grew up in NYC, with rich affluent parents, and the whole world presented to him. The second, grew up in the South Side of Chicago, with an abusive father and an emotionally distant mother. They both grow up, and decide to take up the mantle of entrepreneurship. When the first man comes in contact with his first set of challenges, what do you think will happen? When he is required to work for 24 hours straight, to fire a dear friend, and to pull payroll from his own bank account… how do you think he will respond? While he might rise to the situation and surprise us all, odds are, his love of comfort and soft life will have conditioned him to tuck his tail and run. But the second man? The man who became friends with pain and suffering from a very young age? What do you think he will do? He will laugh. This is nothing compared to where he came from and he knows that he can easily overcome these obstacles to achieve his goals. Suffering breeds strong men and strong men shape the world. While you shouldn’t seek to suffer more than is necessary, you should embrace suffering as it arises and be willing to see it for the gift that it is. 3.Contemplate Your Own Death  We are all going to die. Maybe Elon Musk will step in and save the population from its rapidly approaching fate, but until then, the only axiom of life is the inevitability of death. You are going to die, I am going to die, and everyone who reads this is going to die. And when we are presented with this reality, we have but one of two choices. We can either continue living life like we always have, lazily coasting through our days, living the deferred life that everyone else has designed for us. Or we can take action. We can use this disturbing and dark reality to inspire us and empower us to live our best lives. If tomorrow is not guaranteed then you can no longer waste today. Don’t wait until later to tell someone that you love them, don’t wait until next week to start pursuing your dreams, and don’t wait a second longer to start living with joy and passion. We are all dead men walking. So we might as well make the most of it. 4. Make Mistakes of Commission Not Omission There are only two kinds of mistakes in this world. Mistakes of omission and mistakes of commission. Mistakes of omission are the worst kind. These mistakes are where we knew we needed to do something, desperately wanted to take action, but froze in fear. These are the mistakes where we think back and wonder “What would have happened if I had taken that trip, quit that job, asked that girl out, or been willing to be my true self.” These are the mistakes that haunt us to our death bed. Then there are mistakes of commission. These are the mistakes that we will most often look back and smile on. These are the mistakes where we started that business, made a bad move, and then failed and learned what we needed to for our next venture. These are the mistakes where we drop out of school, travel the world, lose everything and have to rebuild. But, we had a heck of a time doing it, met some amazing people, and lived a fuller life for it. These are the mistakes where we go up and talk to the girl, ask for her number, and then get shot down. But we laugh it off, go back to our buddies and try again. Mistakes of commission at the best, help us in future endeavors, and at worst teach us lessons. You have a choice. You can either make mistakes of omission and live the rest of your life wondering “what if” or you can make mistakes of commission and live the rest of your life saying “At least I tried”. 5. Are You Loving People Through Your Work or Using Them? At all times you are either loving people through your work or using them through your work. There is no in between. When you use people through your work, sure you can make a few dollars. But how long will it last? How long until people say, “Enough! I am sick of this”? When you love people through your work, you might find that the money comes a little bit slower (trust me though it will come) but the fulfillment flows in abundance. You know that every post you write, every video you publish, and every product you sell is ultimately helping people, engaging people, and pushing them further in their journey to become their best selves. When you can use your business to love people, the flood gates of the universe will open to you and you will start to see love and abundance show up in your lives in a way that you never could have imagined.
Sean Ogle is a former 9-5er turned lifestyle entrepreneur. Since 2009, Sean has built his company Location Rebel into one of the premier digital nomad and location independence blogs on the internet. After quitting the corporate world, Sean was able to grow his company to multiple six figures in revenue and create a lifestyle of total freedom, travelling to dozens of countries, and exploring parts of the world many people didn’t even know existed. Favorite Success Quote “Comparison is the thief of joy” ~Theodore Roosevelt Key Points 1. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others One of the most pervasive problems in our hyper “connected” society is the prevalence of the comparison mindset. No matter how great you are doing in your business, health, and relationships, someone is always doing better, and after 30-seconds of surfing through Instagram you are immediately reminded that you are not the biggest fish in the pond. But guess what? It’s ok. Every single person is on their own unique journey to success. We all have our own path to chart and our own roads to travel. And comparing yourself to others (whose story and struggle you are completely unaware of) is the fastest way to sabotage your own success and happiness. It is one thing to aspire to a certain level of success. It is another thing entirely to degrade your own journey and achievement by comparing yourself to other people who had an entirely different set of skills and advantages when they entered the game. Cut out the comparison and you will cut out a vast majority of your unhappiness. 2. Start with the Basics  So often whenever people are getting started on their journey to freedom and location independence, they want to focus on the sexy businesses. They want the six figure membership site, the 7-figure ecommerce store, and the high ticket coaching and consulting gigs. But what most people don’t realize is that these types of businesses require an incredible level of skill and knowledge to build. You need to start with the unattractive basics first. Select a skill like SEO, copywriting, or web design. Become extremely proficient in that skill until you can make a full time living as a freelancer. Then, once you have the bills paid for and the ability to work from anywhere in the world, start applying those skills to your own “Freedom Business.” Without the basics, you will fail at creating the “sexy” business every single time. 3. Consistency is the Key to Success True success comes from one thing. Consistency. It doesn’t matter whether you devote 2 hours a day or 20 hours a day. As long as you are doing something to grow your skillset or business every single day, you will achieve success in a relatively short amount of time. By making a 2-hour daily commitment over the next 18 months, you can quit your job, travel the world, and make more income than you ever thought possible. But it requires consistency. You can’t just work 80 hours on your freedom business one week, and then forget about it for three months. You need to lay the foundation every single day and keep piling up those bricks until you reach the level of success that you desire. 4. Focus on Vulnerability, Not Perfection One of the biggest road blocks that most entrepreneurs come across is that they are striving for perfection. Perfection in their content creation, perfection in their product creation, and perfection in every aspect of business execution. This is a mistake. The world responds to vulnerability, not meticulously written articles that require a month of editing. Be raw, be real, tell people what is really going on. The more vulnerable you are, the more people will be able to relate with you and the more of an impact you will be able to have. Don’t try to be perfect. Just be real and the results will come. 5. Realize that Uncertainty is the Greatest Killer of Dreams  “People will choose unhappiness over uncertainty” ~Tim Ferriss People are scared of the unknown. It’s just how we are wired. We are terrified of the “ifs” surrounding our lives. What if she rejects me? What if this business fails? What if I lose it all? But what people forget is that 9 times out of ten, the worst case scenario, the “if” that we are so scared of is extremely unlikely. And even if it happens, it’s almost never as bad as people think it will be. So what if you start a business and it fails. You can lick your wounds and return to the corporate world or you can start over and try again. But if you succeed, you will have a life that you can only imagine right now. So what if that hot girl rejects you? Odds are she will let you down gently and you will still be the only guy in your social circle with the balls to talk to her. And best case is that she is amazing and you end up in a happy fulfilled relationship. With most uncertainty in life, there is a disproportionate reward to risk ratio. Meaning that whatever you are scared of and uncertain about will typically result in a small potential loss, but has the potential for massive long term gain.
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Robert Lee

don't get be wrong, I love Grant's stuff, but why is this popping up on my list years after the interview lol

Jul 17th
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Drew Brid

Robert Lee Lol

Jul 18th
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Kurt Hake

great podcast

Jul 16th
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Joanna Francis

Kurt Hake Great

Jul 17th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

little Andrew sounds so beta compared to jocko

Jul 15th
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Jennifer Arabella

Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379 agree

Jul 16th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

rule number 1 of seal teams . no fake laughs or "pickup" coaches.

Jul 15th
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Emily

Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379 👍

Jul 16th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

I can only imagine what jocko was truly thinking when this guy does his fake laugh.

Jul 15th
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Jennifer Arabella

Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379 haha, agree

Jul 16th
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Chris Crosby

I loved this podcast and could definitely relate to the things they discussed. the love of comfort and choosing to seek that rather than willing to endure suffering for the sake of success has robbed me for so long. My biggest enemy is fear.

Jun 28th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

I truly wish I didnt find some of the guests interesting because the host is so fake and beta and well ... subpar.

Jun 26th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

wow. who is Ellen musk. andrew aka mr fake laugh learn how to pronounce 8th grade words b4 claiming to be a coach or mentor of anything. plethora plateau yeah you pronounce those incorrectly repeatedly and Elon Musk. not ellen.

Jun 26th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

newsflash beta boy you are pronouncing plethora and plateau incorrectly while also sounding extremely elitist and beta and knife in the ear I'm well read and smart sounding. its plethora str8 thru not pluh-thora. its plah-toe not pluh=toe. if your going to attempt to sound well read and too cool for school make sure you are first beta boy. mr. o make money off lame ugly dudes who cant get women by making them think they can get girls all the while you arent in a happy sustained marriage or even relationship heading that way.

Jun 19th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

ok the fake laugh beta boy does while laughing at his own jokes is really annoying. it's too bad I like some of the guests enough to tolerate it.

Jun 17th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

whoa whoa whoa beta boy just said its 2017? yet this is supposed to be new? nice.... so these arent new. good to know.

Jun 17th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

oh geez man you sound beta enough as is.... let the guy curse if he feels like it.

Jun 17th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

that's it? wheres the quality pods been. at this point that would be the bigger surprise. smh.

May 30th
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Christopher Agweyu

Great episode. Her advice is gold

May 24th
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Christopher Agweyu

Pure Gold... Be the person you needed in your life. That's when you are most authentic. Damn I love this shit!

May 21st
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cxmillison

echoeing lenor, as if i wrote it myself! it's true that ancient persian proverb - "this, too, shall pass" - & it's true as well that "time heals all wounds". i've seen myself heal from adversities that i at the time saw no way out of; no light or hope i could cling onto. but with time comes the restitching of the sinews & though the pain of your loss may not ever entirely go away, how you perceive it & its power over you will alter & you'll evolve from its victim into a victor. allow it to hurt, & then allow it to pass. "pain breeds art", & i commend you for sharing your struggles so candidly. it is so very important for both us listening & for your own healing process. take your time to grieve, to mourn, & to acknowledge the events that have come to pass. & then acknowledge that after it all, you're still here standing. in regards to coming back to serve your loyal listeners, you'll know when it's precisely the right time. stay strong, warrior! PS - the japanese art of kintsugi - google it! i find it the perfect metaphor for recovery & the concept has drastically altered my perception of the things that once hurt me so deeply... now i can always find the light i thought had been lost in those darkest of times. much love & peace of mind to you, my friend

May 21st
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Christopher Agweyu

This is gold. Pure gold. I needed to listen to this.

May 20th
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Christopher Agweyu

Loved this episode.

May 18th
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Connor

Fantastic series. Thank you for sacrificing your own time to help others understand themselves and grow.

May 13th
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Lenor Dolker

hang in there. please remember: 'this too shall pass.' it is 100 true. continue doing what you do. experience but don't indulge in your grief. suffering is part of being alive. therefore, continue living with all its illusions. sending you blessings and virtual hugs. you take good care of yourself. all the best🙏

May 8th
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