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Today's most successful men share their life lessons to help you reach your full potential in the areas of masculinity, wealth, freedom, relationships, and personal growth. Every show is jam packed with actionable tips and insights that will propel you forward to become the man you want to become. Join us at www.knowledgeformen.com for recaps of every interview as well as an incredible gold mine of resources to help you live the greatest life possible. Prepare to grow into the strongest version of yourself!
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Last week. I visited my father's grave.    Here are my thoughts on the experience and what you can learn from it. 
This is the most important lesson my father taught me through his passing.    Don't ignore it 
I almost quit.  Knowledge for Men. San Diego. Entrepreneurship. Writing.  All of it.    But I didn't.    And I'll tell you why in this episode. 
Stephen Mansfield is a New York Times bestselling author and a popular speaker who works with leaders worldwide. He first rose to global attention with his groundbreaking book The Faith of George W. Bush, a bestseller that Time magazine credited with helping shape the 2004 U.S. presidential election. The book was also a source for Oliver Stone’s award-winning film “W.” Mansfield’s The Faith of Barack Obama was another international bestseller. He has written celebrated biographies of Booker T. Washington, George Whitefield, Winston Churchill, Pope Benedict XVI, and Abraham Lincoln, among others. Publishers Weekly described his book, Killing Jesus, as “masterful.” Favorite Success Quote “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation” ~Henry David Thoreau Key Points 1. Manly Men Need Other Manly Men  No man is an island. Even though you have heard the saying hundreds if not thousands of times, few men truly internalize what it means, and still fewer act on it. Just look at the statistics. A simple scroll across the front pages and you will find sky-high suicide rates among males, loneliness, depression, and anxiety in numbers that we have never seen before. Why is this? While there are many theories and hypothesis, a critical look at the situation makes things clear. We are a species that was built to be in community, and even though we are more connected now than ever before, most of us are utterly and absolutely alone. We have no one to call us up, no one to celebrate with us, no one to challenge us, to help us, to hold us accountable and keep us to our word. And because of this deterioration in our social structure men have become soft, weak, and effeminate. But it doesn’t have to be this way. As a man, you have the power to break this pattern. Make a conscious effort to meet and befriend other men. And when you are in these friendships, dive deeper than you ever have before. Hold nothing back and hold each other up. You will be amazed at the results. 2. Manly Men Do Manly Things If you want to call yourself a man, then you need to do manly things. Period. Does this mean that you should shave with a tomahawk, lift boulders for fun, and skin polar bears with your fingernails? Probably not (although that would be quite cool), it simply means that you need to embrace the masculine nature of doing instead of spectating  and talking. Get off of your butt and get into life! Learn a new skill, fix things, build things, explore, create, conquer. Especially if you are a younger man, get off of the darn Xbox and learn something practical. Teach yourself how to maintain a car, learn how to build and fix things, become a better public speaker. Just do.  Quit talking and take action, starting yesterday. 3. Manly Men Tend Their Field  Every man has his own field to tend. No, I don’t mean this literally, although some of you might. What I mean is that every man has his own set of duties and responsibilities and if you want to consider yourself a man, then you must tend to those responsibilities. Whether you are 15 listening to this podcast or 50, we all have our own fields. For some of you, it’s school work, your girlfriend, and your football buddies. For others, it’s your 8-figure company, your wife of 30 years, and non-profit. It doesn’t matter what your particular field is, what matters is that you are diligent in tending to and watering your field. Be disciplined in your action. Do what needs to be done. Tend your field. 4. Manly Men Build Manly Men  One of the less flaunted traits of manly men is that they build other manly men. There is an old saying that the true mark of a leader is not how many followers he has but how many leaders he creates. Regardless of your religion or personal beliefs about the historicity of Jesus Christ, his virtues as a leader are unquestionable. However, where Jesus excelled was at building up other leaders, in his case, disciples. In fact, he was such an effective leader that of the 12 men who followed him, all but one (or two counting Judas) were martyred for their belief in Christ. Now, whether you believe the stories or not, there is a powerful lesson to be learned about leadership and about the importance of building up those who are around you. Are you really a man if all you can do is take from others and be built up? Or do you need to take a step back and see who you can serve instead? 5. Manly Men Sacrifice Their Pleasures for Their Purpose  The true hallmark characteristic of all manly men is their ability to endure suffering. Manly men know that all greatness was bred through suffering. You must experience the pain and suffering of building and losing your dreams before you will be able to fully appreciate, live, and achieve in the ways that you desire. With the exception of individuals with inherited wealth, no man of substance, no man of great success, and no man of wealth ever achieved their status and material pleasures without first sacrificing and delaying gratification. If you want to be great, be ready to suffer. If you want to be great, don’t ask yourself what you want, ask yourself what you are willing to bleed for.
Today, I want to explain why I've been so silent over the past few months and give you an inside look into some of the challenges I've been facing personally and professionally.  Thank you so much for supporting me and the mission of Knowledge for Men.   
Frank Miniter is an author and investigative journalist with a penchant for outdoor adventure. He has floated the Amazon, run with the bulls of Pamplona, hunted everything from bear in Russia to elk with the Apache to kudu in the Kalahari and has fly-fished everywhere from Alaska’s Kenai to Scotland’s River Spey to Japan’s freestone streams. Along the Along the way, he was taught to box by Floyd Patterson, spelunked into Pompey’s Cave, climbed the Gunks, and graduated from the oldest private military college (Norwich University) in the U.S. He was a Senior Editor at Outdoor Life magazine and was the Executive Editor of American Hunter magazine. He is also the author of This Will Make a Man of You and The Ultimate Man’s Survival Guide.  Favorite Success Quote “I like a man who grins when he fights” ~Winston Churchill Key Points 1. You Need to Stand Up for Yourself The evolution of society and rapid shift in perceived gender roles has created a world in which manliness and masculinity are concepts that are ambiguous and difficult to explain, at best. Yet no matter what your beliefs are pertaining to modern masculinity, I think everyone can agree on one simple fact. You cannot consider yourself a true “man” unless you are willing to stand up for yourself, what you believe, and those you love. I want you to imagine John Wayne, Steve McQueen, or even a character like Tyler Durden in Fight Club are sat at a table in a bar, surrounded by friends and family. A stranger from another table comes over and starts insulting one of his family members, bringing up some past feud and looking to cause trouble. What do you think they would do? Would they cower in their seat, avert their eyes, and start nervously twitching? Or would they get out of their seat, square up with the aggressor, look them in the eyes and invite them to leave before they had a real problem? I think we all know the answer. Being a real man has nothing to do with loving or looking for violence, but it has everything to do with being willing to take a stand for yourself or the things which you believe. In the 21st century, it is important to realize that this rarely (if ever) means physical confrontation. Taking a stand for yourself can be as simple as telling your boss that you need a raise because you have been working harder than anyone else and have measurable results to prove it. It can mean speaking candidly with your significant other about the way that they have been addressing you in public situations and informing them that their actions are inappropriate. And yes, occasionally, when all other options are exhausted, it can mean taking the gloves off and throwing a mean right hook when someone truly steps out of line. Never be afraid to stand up for yourself, your friends, or your values, because at the end of the day it is better to live a short life where you face your fears and live boldly than a long life as a coward. 2. Life is Meant to be Lived in Community  10,000 years ago on the plains of the Savanna, men lived in communion with one another. They lived together, ate together, hunted together, fought together, and died together. Town elders would lead the tribe and create rituals and rites of passage for young men to pass through in order to become a man. The warriors of each tribe relied on each other and trusted the men around them with their lives. And for hundreds of thousands of years, this is the way that we as a species, and more specifically, we as men, have evolved. We live in the most socially disconnected time in human history, and despite all of our technological advancements and the rapid growth of social media and other online platforms, the problem is not getting any better. Men struggle to find meaning and purpose in life, they are lost and confused about who they are and what it means to be a man, they are lonely and afraid and depressed, and it is due, in large part to our lack of community. We no longer live in tribes. If we wanted to, there are many among us who could limit our face to face interaction with others to less than once a week when we go out for groceries. Men no longer go to other men for advice and emotional support. We no longer have tribe elders who can guide us and mentor us. With the exception of military servicemen, we no longer have brothers in arms who have struggled through life with us and been there for us through thick and thin. And we are paying the price. Men are suffering from depression and suicide at alarming rates and society tells us to simply take another pill or get a new prescription, instead of being told to build a band of brothers. If you want to succeed in life, if you want to be truly happy and successful, then you need to have a group of men around you who you can trust, you need to have a community of like-minded individuals who will build you up and hold you accountable and who will be there for you when you are on cloud nine and rock bottom. 3. Manhood is Defined by Your Values and Your Code  Manhood has meant something different to nearly every culture throughout history. The Vikings version of manhood was markedly different from the Greek’s which was markedly different from the Apache’s. But the one thing that all of these ancient cultures had in common is that their ideals of manhood were derived from a code. Every great “manly” culture built their foundation of masculinity upon an ethos, a way of life, and a code of honor and conduct based on the values of their unique societies. For some cultures mercy and reason were at the forefront of their code, for others it was power and justice. The truth of the matter is, there is no one code that will work universally for every man. We all have different realities, different religious and political beliefs, and different lenses through which we view the world around us. This means that all of us will function under a different code and live by different values. And while it is extremely important which values you have and uphold (integrity, honor, service, and generosity should be at the top of your list) it is more important that you uphold a set of values that make you a better man and help you contribute to society in a more meaningful way. 4. You Need to be a Well-Rounded Man  So often in our modern society, we are quick to judge and label certain activities as unmanly, red neck, or “posh”. Many see hunting and marksmanship as a lower class activity for camouflage wearing, tobacco chewing country boys. or they see dancing as a “gay” and unmanly activity in which no They see dancing as a “gay” and unmanly activity in which no self-respecting man would participate. Or they say that horseback riding and poker are activities that are only appropriate for trust fund babies and the super rich. But you need to remember that an essential part of modern manliness is being able to participate in a wide variety of activities and show yourself to be well-rounded both in your skills and intellect. You need to become, as the rampaging viral internet memes suggest, “A man who can do both.” You need to be able to be a diplomate and a fighter, to speak well among the scholars of academia and the blue collar workers down at the bar. You need to be comfortable both in a suit and tie and in camouflaged jacket. You need to be someone who is able to hold himself in any situation and is unafraid of new things, no matter what stigma is attached to them. 5. Show Respect to Others  I don’t care whether you are living in an incredible community of amazing men, living by a code, and the most well-rounded person in the world, if you are not extending respect and love to the people in your life, then you are not a true man. Period. End of story. No one can call himself a man if they are not respecting the people in their lives, if they are not loving others, and if they are not following the “golden rule.” Respect others and earn the respect of others. That is where true manliness lies.
Internationally renowned human emotion, connection, and cognition expert Tony Selimi is a coach and the author of #Loneliness and A Path to Wisdom. He is currently traveling the world, sharing his message of transformation and connection. Favorite Success Quote “I embrace equally both support and challenge” ~Dr. John DeMartini Key Points 1. You Must Embrace Both Sides of Life  Life is not comprised of just the good or just the bad. It is a beautiful dichotomous dance that blends together both exuberant highs and devastating lows meant to mold us, change us, and teach us. While modern pop psychology gurus would have you believe that you should ignore any pain and struggle in your life and simply live in a state of constant and never ending euphoria, the simple truth is that life is beautiful because of the pain and struggles that we face. Without the pain of discipline, there would be no joy in success. Without the hurt of loss, there would be no satisfaction in gain. Life requires the good and the bad to play out like the masterfully written movie that it is, and the sooner you learn to embrace both sides of life, the sooner you will be able to live up to your true potential. 2. Loneliness Affects Every Area of Your Life Often times, as men, we revel in the concept of solidarity. We love the thought of being the lone wolf, outnumbered and against the world achieving greatness all by his own accord. And nothing could be more damaging or destructive to our overall health and well-being. Whenever you live your life out of communion with others, whenever you lack strong bonds and friendships, and whenever you isolate yourself from the world, you are not only damaging your psyche, but your physical well-being and genetic expression as well. Loneliness has been shown to cause disease, mental illness, and even alter your genes in a very real and powerful way. There is nothing manly about depression and sickness, so quit trying to go it alone and invest into your social life. 3. Place Yourself in the Right Environments An interesting phenomenon that can occur in our modern world is that men can be surrounded by friends but still feel lonely if the activities and conversations with those friends are incongruent with your personal values and desires. For example, let’s say that you hate sports. You couldn’t care less about the NFL or NHL or any other sports league. And yet, one of your social circle’s favorite activities is to sit down together at the local bar, have a few beers, and watch the game. Even though all of the men in the circle are fantastic influences and valuable friends, taking part in this activity will actually increase your feelings of isolation and loneliness. This makes it essential that you start becoming more intentional about the activities you indulge in and the things that you do with your peers.
Dr. Corey Lewis is the author of The Art of Becoming, a professional coach, and a master of NLP and quantum leaping. Favorite Success Quote “We cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are”  ~Max Dupree Key Points 1. If You to Achieve Something You Must First Conceive it and Believe It I want you to imagine for a moment that there are three men, let’s call them James, Alex, and Will. All three men suffered through challenging childhoods and crippling adversity during their younger years, from poverty to the death of family members, to abusive parents. They have all seen the worst that this world has to offer and lived through a reality where most men wouldn’t last a day. Now James, the first of the men doesn’t know how he could possibly improve his life, he assumes that this is “just the way it is” and relegates all of his hopes and dreams to childhood fantasies. Alex, on the other hand, knows that his life could be better. He constantly finds himself daydreaming of a better life, one filled with an abundance of wealth, unconditional love, vibrant health, and a deep sense of belonging. However, Alex doesn’t believe that this can be a reality for him. After all, he is a former convict, drug addict, and grew up in one of the worst families you can imagine. How could he change? Now, I don’t think it takes a genius to figure out the results that these two men are going to generate in their lives with these types of convictions and beliefs. But what about Will? Will is in the same boat as everyone else. He went to prison in his late teens, never had a father, and is currently broke, alone, and addicted to drugs, but he’s different. Not only does he know that life can get better for him, he deeply believes that he has what it takes to make it so, he believes that he can change his life, turn things around, and achieve the success he has been dying for his whole life. You see, the only limits on your life are the ones that you impose upon yourself. If you can conceive a new way of being, deeply believe that it is possible, and are willing to take the action necessary to do it, you will succeed. 2. Tapping Into Your Emotions Creates the Motion You Need for Success How many times have you woken up in the morning, intending to get out of bed early and go “seize the day” but found yourself instead rolling over lazily and smashing the snooze button? How many times have you sat down at your computer intent on working hard and grinding away at your latest project, when three hours later, you find yourself deeply lost in the trap of the internet, throwing your day down the drain? How many times have you come home after a long day of work intending to hit the gym and work on your health only to find yourself sitting in front of the television on a guilty Netflix binge? My guess is a lot. You see the problem isn’t that you are lazy or lack work ethic, the problem is that you lack the emotional drive to create the motion you need to achieve success. You need to have a burning reason to pursue your dreams, you need to have clear goals, and you need to learn how to tap into the power of your emotions to go after the life that you want. 3. Your Thoughts are the Father of Your Results If you have anything in your life that you are unhappy with, you need to remember that the root of these results did not start in your bank account, in your relationship, or in your body, but these results started in your mind. When you look at your bank account and don’t like what you see, you need to remember that these results were caused by your thoughts. They were caused by your beliefs, your decisions, and your values that were then projected into your reality. This truth can be seen in any area of your life. No matter what results you have or don’t have in your life, your thoughts are the cause behind all of them. And if you can change your thoughts, then you can change your actions, change your actions and you can change your results, and if you can change your results you change your life. 4. Break Down Your Dreams into Achievable Steps Become a millionaire.  Meet the girl of your dreams.  Lose 100 lbs.  All of these goals are incredible in size and scope and are a scary whenever you look at them without first thinking about how you can break them down into achievable steps. If you want to become a millionaire, then start by working on earning your first $1,000 a month and build up from there. If you want to meet the woman of your dreams, then start getting out once a week and meeting awesome women at cool social events. If you want to lose 100 lbs. then start with 5. Whatever goal you have, it can be broken down into several smaller steps that will allow you to approach your dreams without feeling overwhelmed or scared. 5. Escape Your Plateaus and Find the Next Level  Life is full of unlimited possibilities and opportunities just waiting for you to show up and take them. But first, you have to break through your plateaus and realize that you can be living life on an elevated level. No matter how incredible your life is right now, there is always room to grow, there are always new mountains to be conquered, and there are always new ways to push yourself to become a better man.
Connor Beaton is a thought leader in the men’s community who founded ManTalks, has spoken at events around the nation, including TEDx. Favorite Success Quote “Aim for fulfillment and success will follow” Key Points 1. Stop Chasing the Golden Handcuffs In most modern western societies, there is one great expectation placed upon all men. Can you guess what it is? It’s not to get married and have kids. It’s not to find a career that they love and find spiritually fulfilling. Rather, all men are expected to earn.  And not just to earn a living so that they can pursue a life of their choosing, they are expected to earn as much money as they can regardless of the cost. And while there is nothing wrong with money, most men who pursue those greenbacks with a single-minded intensity soon find themselves financially wealthy, but spiritually, emotionally, and relationally broke. You need to realize that money is great. It can enable you to do so much good in the world and make a difference in the lives of countless people. But it can also become a prison. Men who chase after careers they dislike in order to achieve a financial status that they don’t really need will often find themselves sitting at home alone, millions in the bank but utterly, and completely miserable. You see, the real secret to life is to chase fulfillment. Chase what makes you feel alive, chase what you love, and the money will come. And even if it doesn’t, you still had a helluva ride and enjoyed life to the fullest. 2. Allow Yourself to Experience Your Success How many times has this happened to you? You have spent hundreds of hours working yourself down to the bone to achieve your goals. You haven’t slept in days, you haven’t allowed yourself to go out with friends in months, and you are on the verge of mental collapse, when finally, you reach your goal. Whether you hit an income goal, increase your subscriber base, or finally got your first client, you have finally achieved the thing that you had been pursuing for so long. But there’s a problem. You don’t allow yourself to acknowledge your victory and enjoy the rewards of your labor. Instead, you are off to the next goal, the next milestone, the next big thing before you even pause and appreciate what you already have. One of the most essential parts of success is taking the time to fully experience each of your accomplishments. No matter what you have achieved, you need to give yourself adequate time to bask in the glow and enjoy the successes you have already reached before you start chasing after the next big thing. 3. You Need to Have Men Who Call You Forward When was the last time you messed up? I mean really messed up? You know, the time that you made the mistake that ended your relationship, that lost you 6-figures in business, or that cost you a trip to the hospital. Who did you call? Undoubtedly, you had friends who came to the rescue and told you everything would be alright, but did you have anyone in your life who cut through the crap of the situation and was willing to call you to a higher standard? Most men have lots of friends on their level and below them, but few of those men have high-level mentors who are willing to call them on their B.S. and tell them when they have messed up. But you need to realize that the only way forward is to surround yourself with men who are willing to challenge you to achieve at a new level, men who are willing to call you out, and men who are willing to brave your disapproval in an attempt to make you better. 4. If You Want to Achieve Your Goals You Have to Eliminate Porn Porn is one of the most insidious creations of the modern age. How many nights have you spent alone in your room, ignoring the real issues and tasks in your life while you were silently kept company by dozens, if not hundreds of virtual women? How many times have you suppressed the frustrations that you were facing with real women by resorting to a form of “entertainment” where you have unlimited access to any type of woman on the planet, who will do anything that you want, all from the comfort of your own bed? How many men do you know who lack the passion and drive that they should have because they are wasting all of their energy “experiencing” women online? The simple fact is this, if you want to achieve the greatest levels of success in your business, your health, and your relationships, then you have to cut out the porn. There are no questions about it. It is draining you of your masculinity, of your sex drive, and of your energy to get shi!t done. Eliminate it from your life as quickly and permanently as you can. 5. Reinvest in Your Creative Side  One of the great travesties of the modern male is that we have all become so caught up with becoming successful in our health, finances, and relationships, that we have completely abandoned all of our creative energies that fulfill us and reinvigorate other aspects of our lives. If you are feeling lost in your life, if you are feeling unsure of where to go, or if you are simply lacking the motivation that you need to begin pushing the envelope forward in a given area, then you need to reinvest in your creative side. Whether you take up an instrument, begin writing, dancing, woodworking, or anything else that engages your mind in a new and exciting way, I can guarantee that you will begin to see the world in a new light. Have you ever noticed how musicians appreciate and describe music (and even the world) in a way that non musicians simply cannot. Have you ever noticed how writers are able to captivate their audience’s at social gatherings with riveting stories? Have you ever noticed how men who have learned how to dance are often some of the most creative and enthusiastic partners that a woman will ever experience? This is not a coincedence. Engaging in your creative energy will change your life in unexpected and exciting ways. So whether you are killing it in life right now or are in an existential funk, get out there and get creative.
Justin Constantine is a former Marine who suffered a traumatic gunshot wound to the head in Iraq and retired from the Marine Corps at the rank of lieutenant colonel. He also serves as an attorney and is now an inspirational speaker and leadership consultant who advises the corporate community on military issues and sustaining employee peak performance. He now serves on the board of directors of several national nonprofit organizations who co-founded the Veteran Success Resource Group in 2015, a military nonprofit that provides full spectrum resources for veterans and their families. He is also a senior advisor at the U.S. Chamber of Commerce Foundation, where he leads a team focused on employment opportunities for wounded veterans and their caregivers. Favorite Success Quote “This is a wonderful day, I have never seen this one before” ~Maya Angelou Key Points 1. We All Face Our Own Adversity  I want you to imagine for a second that your whole world is crumbling down. You wake up bleary eyed from a fitful night of sleep and check your phone to only to be met with two voice messages informing you that you have one week to pay your mortgage before your home will be foreclosed and the bonus you were expecting has been cut in half due to a recent drop in your company’s stock. Furthermore, as you rest your head in your hands wondering what you are going to do, your wife, whom you are on the verge of divorcing, enters the room and begins to argue with you about trivialities you don’t understand until you are so frustrated that you storm out of the house, slamming the door behind you. You decide to skip work for the day and instead drive yourself to a local bar where you intend to drown your worries in whiskey because you just can’t deal with the stress anymore. Walking through the doors of the dimly lit bar, you notice that there is another man sitting in the bar by himself, looking sullenly into his drink as he fights back tears. With hopes of finding a companion to share in your misery, you sit down next to him and begin a conversation only to find out that the man had recently suffered a layoff at work after losing his wife of 15 years to cancer. Startled by his situation and own perceived weakness, you silently curse yourself for your self-pity and decide to keep your own worries to yourself and order another round. You see, no matter what adversity you are facing, someone else always has it worse and it’s easy to trivialize our own struggles whenever we compare them to the things that others are facing. But the problem with this mentality is that we fail to realize that comparing away our strugles will not make them dissapear. Just because you aren’t facing disease, death, or bankruptcy does not mean that your pain is not real and that it does not need to be addressed. Whatever struggle you are facing, there is only one way to eliminate it. And that is to admit that you are in pain and seek the help that you need to overcome it. 2. You Can Achieve Anything With Time  The media loves to propagate this myth of the “overnight success.” They love reporting on stories about the 17 year old entrepreneur who achieved IPO and retired before graduating high school with $20 million dollars in the bank. Or the actress who landed one movie role and suddenly became the face of Hollywood. Or even the “Biggest Loser” who dropped 150 lbs. of fat and became a model of health and athleticism. But the thing is, none of these people’s success happened overnight. It happened after years and years of working behind the scenes, after countless sleepless nights toiling away at their craft, and after thousands upon thousands of disciplined mornings brought them the results that they wanted. You need to remember that no goal you have is out of your reach, it will just take time and it will take sacrifice. It will require that you give up on the “good” so that you can step into the “great.” It will mean that you miss out on parties and dates and time with friends while you work to build your legacy and achieve your dreams. Nothing is out of your reach, but you must be patient and you must be diligent if you want to achieve it. 3. It’s Ok to Ask for Help Do you remember when you first learned to ride a bike? Do you remember the feeling of the wind in your hair, the rub of the helmet strap against your chin, the exhilaration in your stomach as you accelerated down the street… And the sudden halt whenever you suddenly hit an unexpected bump and flew over the handlebars crashing into the ground with a definitive thud. As you sat on the street, blood oozing from the raspberries on your knees and elbows, you began to cry and if your father was present, he likely responded to your accident with four words “Man up! You’re ok!” As an adult, your father knew that you would be fine, but as a young boy, you felt that your world was caving in around you and the only response that you receive was to suck it up and be a man. While instances like this may seem relatively benign in the big scheme of things, this mantra of “Man up! You’re fine!” is repeated over and over to the men of our society like a record on repeat until we reach a point where, no matter our struggle, we simply bear it and grin, refusing to ask for help because we fear that we will appear weak or vulnerable. The simple truth, however, is that we all need help. We all have our inner demons, we all have our struggles, we all have those dark places we don’t let anyone see that eat us alive at night. And the only way to overcome them is to be willing to reach out to others and ask for help You need the support of others, you especially need a group of men in your life who can be with you through the hard times and help keep you on the right path. You are not alone, and you don’t need to be. Whether you need to join a men’s mastermind, hire a coach to talk to, or simply call up an old friend, if you are in pain then get help. Talk to someone and be real about the struggles in your life, I promise it will be one of the best decisions that you ever make. 4. Forget What You “Should” Be Doing With the holiday season in full swing, most of you who are going to visit family are going to hear one word more than any other, “Should.” You should get a job and quit trying to build your silly business. You should find a girlfriend and stop partying. You should quit spending so much time on silly pursuits like travel and art and just get married and get a job instead. You should do this. You should do that. But the truth is, there is no guidebook for what you should be doing as a man. No one in society can tell you what is right for you, whether it is entrepreneurship or the 9-5, marriage or the bachelor life, travel or settling down. Life is a beautiful buffet with countless options and most men feel weighed down with the expectations that society sets that we are supposed to earn a certain amount of money, marry a certain type of person, or live a certain type of life. 5. Define Your Own Version of Success       With New Year’s right around the corner, everyone is going to be setting new goals and resolutions for 2017. And I can tell you without ever meeting the person or knowing a darn thing about them who is most likely to succeed based purely upon what they write down. You see, most people want to achieve success but they never truly define what success means. They set vague and ambiguous goals that are uncompelling and uninspiring. Everyone says that they want to lose weight, make more money, have a more abundant dating life, and achieve more, but what does that really mean? How much weight do you want to lose? How much money do you want to make? Who do you want to be dating and how frequently? You see, the only way to truly achieve “success” is to have a clear picture of what success means to you. For some people, success is an easy going 9-5, $10,000 in the bank and a happy family. Other people would become depressed if they are making less than $10,000,000 a year and travelling 11 months out of the year. If you want to achieve success, you need to define what it means to you first, and then set out to achieve it second.
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Christopher Agweyu

Pure Gold... Be the person you needed in your life. That's when you are most authentic. Damon I love this shit!

May 21st
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cxmillison

echoeing lenor, as if i wrote it myself! it's true that ancient persian proverb - "this, too, shall pass" - & it's true as well that "time heals all wounds". i've seen myself heal from adversities that i at the time saw no way out of; no light or hope i could cling onto. but with time comes the restitching of the sinews & though the pain of your loss may not ever entirely go away, how you perceive it & its power over you will alter & you'll evolve from its victim into a victor. allow it to hurt, & then allow it to pass. "pain breeds art", & i commend you for sharing your struggles so candidly. it is so very important for both us listening & for your own healing process. take your time to grieve, to mourn, & to acknowledge the events that have come to pass. & then acknowledge that after it all, you're still here standing. in regards to coming back to serve your loyal listeners, you'll know when it's precisely the right time. stay strong, warrior! PS - the japanese art of kintsugi - google it! i find it the perfect metaphor for recovery & the concept has drastically altered my perception of the things that once hurt me so deeply... now i can always find the light i thought had been lost in those darkest of times. much love & peace of mind to you, my friend

May 21st
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Christopher Agweyu

This is gold. Pure gold. I needed to listen to this.

May 20th
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Christopher Agweyu

Loved this episode.

May 18th
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Connor

Fantastic series. Thank you for sacrificing your own time to help others understand themselves and grow.

May 13th
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Lenor Dolker

hang in there. please remember: 'this too shall pass.' it is 100 true. continue doing what you do. experience but don't indulge in your grief. suffering is part of being alive. therefore, continue living with all its illusions. sending you blessings and virtual hugs. you take good care of yourself. all the best🙏

May 8th
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Mahesh Krshnawalla

Great insight

May 7th
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Kenneth Hopkins

This is definitely a podcast that is worth listening to a few times. Good stuff

Apr 18th
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Jr Renteria

very interesting. love the content

Mar 26th
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Robert McCoy jr

Can you explain the Guy Code ?

Mar 21st
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Chinguun Battulga

He is one of a kind 🔥

Mar 11th
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Joseph Fagundes

"Find the gift in every crisis"

Mar 9th
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Chinguun Battulga

Wonderful episode.

Feb 23rd
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Lenor Dolker

Not every woman is same or has the same taste. Therefore, different woman likes different things. But a man that is honest, smart, successful and respectful will get the woman he wants. Period! Just speak up and it will all come together:)

Feb 12th
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Edward Perez

new Listener... love the knowledge

Jan 28th
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Chinguun Battulga

wow, what an episode. Probably the best one for me now.

Jan 21st
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Amam Saens

Cheers Up And Enjoyed Everyday with The Lord God He's Holy Spirit Is In My Heart With Love. He's Marcy Undores forever. The Lord God He's Powerful Hands Control over the World's. If y'all Believe in The Lord God Keeps Praying For World's To Be in Peace Amen Amen Amen

Jan 10th
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Moises A. Plazola

seems like you guys just stole Native American rituals without giving credit to our. community. i know ppl in boulder co that know this Craig guy.

Jan 7th
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Rob Villegas

How does Jack ask, "Why is making money what a man is about?" when "providing" is a pillar of male character? For most of us, in the real world, no matter how big the club swinging between out legs, money is the tangible reward for having created value beyond his personal needs.

Dec 27th
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Chinguun Battulga

Turning to my favorite podcast cannel!

Dec 21st
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