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Today's most successful leaders share their incredible stories and life lessons to help you get the life you want in the areas of health, wealth, relationships and personal growth. Every show is jam packed with actionable tips and insights that will propel you forward to become the man you want to become. Join us at knowledgeformen.com for recaps of every interview as well as an incredible gold mine of resources to help you live better. Prepare to become the most powerful version of yourself!
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Jimmy Rex is among the nation's leading realtors having sold over 2000 properties and is also an investor in over a dozen companies. He is the coauthor of You End Up Where You're Heading: The Hidden Dangers of Living a Safe Life available on amazon.  Learn more about the work I do with clients helping them build their confidence, adventurous social lives and high quality romantic relationships. https://www.kfmcoach.com  
Mike Matthews shares how COVID has impacted his fitness and supplement business along with the growth he's had in recent years and key lessons on financial freedom that every man needs to consider. Check out Mike at: https://legionathletics.com/ https://www.amazon.com/Bigger-Leaner-Stronger-Building-Ultimate-ebook/dp/B006XF5BTG Learn more about my men's coaching program helping guys reach their full potential in life and relationships: https://www.kfmlive.com
A great episode here diving into the mind of the cofounder of Pura Vida Bracelets Griffin Thall. He walks us through the birth of the brand and it's impact on his lifestyle, happiness and freedom. I found his insights counter to the common narrative of hustle at all costs over having a life worth living. Enjoy! Learn more about the work I do with men with building their confidence, social lives and relationships here.
Mason Thomas shares his incredible story of building Superior Labs a supplement brand from the trunk of his car to 7 figures on amazon. https://superiorlabs.com/ Learn more about how you can work with Andrew Ferebee and his coaching team to maximize the quality of your life and relationship: www.kfmcoach.com  
Gordon Miller is, without a doubt, one of the “realest” entrepreneurs I’ve ever had the pleasure of interviewing. Unlike the myriad of “Influencer-preneurs”, Gordon is a relatively unknown mogul who has generated multiple 9-figures across several highly technical industries and landed dozens of 7 and 8-figure government contracts. If you want to learn how to grow a business the right way, his raw, no-nonsense style will put you on the fast track to success and teach you what it really takes to build $100 million in value. Who is Gordon Miller? Gordon Miller has devoted more than 30 years to the pursuit of excellence in design and innovation. An accomplished designer and engineer in his own right, Mr. Miller first focused his attention on K-12 and higher education solutions and then corporate websites, decision support systems and now mobile applications and data aggregation. As CEO of G3 Systems, Inc. since 1993, Mr. Miller has developed a rapidly expanding base of mission-critical government projects including efforts for the US Dept. of Defense, US Navy, US Army, US Dept. of Education, US Dept. of Housing and Urban Development, US Dept. of State and US Dept. of Homeland Security. As CEO of G3i Ventures, LLC, Mr. Miller has co-founded, launched or funded a total of 8 companies. Gordon’s Favorite Success Quote “You are the average of the five people that you surround yourself with most” ~Jim Rohn Key Points from my Interview with Gordon Miller 1. Your Network Determines Your Networth  Do you want to know how to really “get rich quick”? Do you want to know the fastest way to achieve massive amounts of wealth and success? It’s actually pretty simple… Level up your network. That’s it. The quickest way to exponentially increase your results in your life, your bank account, and your body is to hang around people who already have what you want and more.  When you are constantly spending time around low caliber individuals who are worried about making rent, have fixed mindsets, and who let you rest on your laurels, you will eventually become complacent and begin to stagnate and die. There’s no way around it. But if you are around people who are playing the game of life at a higher level than you are, if you are around people who are true hustlers and game changers, they will start to rub off on you. You will begin to see the world through the lens of the player instead of the spectator. More importantly, you will have access to deals, opportunities, and investments that the general public doesn’t even know about (let alone know how to take advantage of). You’ll get objective eyes on your business, no-holds-barred accountability and proven systems from men who’ve been “in the trenches” for decades. So I want you to commit right now, that no matter what happens this year, you will find a group of men who are playing the game of life at a higher level than you are and get around them. Your success depends on it. 2. Fall in Love with the Process One of the biggest mistakes that people make is that they are outcome-oriented, not process-oriented. In this moment, you might think that you will find satisfaction by purchasing that big house, the yacht, or the car. But what happens after you are done? What happens when the transaction concludes and you have your “dream”? You are left to your own devices once again and asked to find fulfillment and joy in yet another set of goals and outcomes. You are constantly chasing something that you can never catch, because there is always another goal to achieve, another benchmark to hit, and another level to breakthrough. But what if I told you that you could achieve all of the joy, happiness, and fulfillment that you desire right now in this very moment? Well, you can. All you must do is learn to love the process. Learn to love the hustle and the grind as you work towards your dreams. Learn to love the work, not the rewards and your life will change forever. In my own business, I discovered long ago that my passion for writing amazing content, interviewing badasses, and changing lives supersede any financial reward or acclaim that this work offers to me. There is no tomorrow, the only time that you have is right now… So make damn sure that you are enjoying it. 3. Live Below Your Means and Put Money Away  One of the biggest mistakes made by most people in their 20’s is spending money like they will live forever. Statistically speaking, if you are under 30 reading this right now, you will likely live well past 90 years old. Do you really want to be working your ass off and hustling like a college graduate at that age? If the answer is “No” then you need to start saving and investing money, immediately.  Do whatever you need to do to set aside at least $500 a month every single month and invest it into a money market account or low-risk index fund. If you can do this, then you will be a millionaire by the time you are 60. Period. 4. Get Out There and Do It In our age of social media and hyper-connection, everyone loves to talk. They love to talk about entrepreneurship, about how they are going to start a business, about how they are going to quit their job, or how they are going to make it big. Here’s a revolutionary idea… Stop talking about it. Get out there and do it! The world belongs to those who do.  So stop running your mouth and start moving your feet. As Nike says… Just DO IT! 5. Own Your Mistakes and MOVE ON You are going to make mistakes. That is simply part of the human experience. You aren’t perfect and you shouldn’t expect to be. Mistakes are not only normal they are necessary. So learn from your mistakes and move on. Don’t dwell in the past, wishing that you could have done it differently. Decide to do it differently today. You only have the present moment, don’t waste it wishing that things could be different. They aren’t. What is done is done. All that you can do is learn from it and move on.
My buddy Matt Decelles shares how he started William Painter a popular men's sunglass brand that has taken the industry by storm. His philosophies on life, business and investment are eye opening and worth every second. Enjoy the jam! Check out: williampainter.com and @mattdecelles on twitter  Learn how to work with Andrew to improve confidence, social life and relationships: www.kfmlive.com
Bedros Keuilian is the fitness industry’s most trusted consultant. His various fitness businesses are designed to enable trainers to maximize their earning potential with revolutionary industry techniques. Before constructing his fitness empire, Bedros owned five fitness gyms at once. After revamping his business model with direct response marketing and sales techniques, he began earning profit margins totaling hundreds of thousands of dollars from these locations alone. He would then go on to found Fit Body Boot Camp. As the CEO and founder of Fit Body, currently the world’s fastest growing fitness chain, Bedros practices what he preaches, implementing the same formula for success that he brings to his fitness clients worldwide. Fit Body was recently listed as one of Inc. 5000’s fastest growing businesses of 2016. Favorite Success Quotes “How you do anything is how you do everything” “Circumstances do not change responsibility” Key Points 1. Your Responsibilities Aren’t Affected by Your Circumstances The vast majority of modern men have been castrated by a societal conditioning that tells them it’s “ok” to shirk their responsibilities. Men who allow the whims of their emotions and their day to day circumstances to dictate their actions and responses. We see men who allow the whims of their emotions and their day to day circumstances to dictate their actions and responses. Fathers who ignore their duties to their children, husbands who shrug off their responsibilities to their wives, and workers who simply aren’t willing to put in the work necessary to keep their clients happy. And as a result, our society has been left scratching its head in confusion wondering “Where have all the real men gone”? The real men are still out there… They are just harder to find. They are the men who do not allow their feelings and problems to interfere with their duties. The men who provide for their families, prioritize their relationships and take care of their bodies. The men who are willing to say no to luxuries and parties now so that they can have an incredible quality of life for their family later.  Are you one of those men? 2. Resourcefulness is the Ultimate Resource Markets crash, businesses crumble, people die, and life happens. So what? The greatest breakthroughs of human history have often come in times where resources were slim and things were looking grim. But a handful of (now) iconic individuals were willing to look at the circumstances and negative situation and see it for what it was… An opportunity. You see, if you are resourceful enough, no circumstance or turmoil will prevent you from success. You can always find a way to make money and create a life of happiness and freedom for yourself. You must simply learn to look for it. Resourcefulness is your greatest resource in the tumultuous and unpredictable world that we live in. If you can learn to cultivate this trait in yourself and others, you will find a way to be successful. No matter what. 3. Despite What You’ve Been Told, Work-Life Balance Is Crucial  With the proliferation of the “Hustlers” mentality and the idea that grinding it out 24/7 365 is the only way to success, many of you are operating under the misguided belief that work-life balance is b.s. Well… It’s not. Bedros found this out first hand when, after several consecutive months of high-stress projects, he snapped and suffered from multiple anxiety attacks (initially mistaking them for heart attacks). These episodes scared Bedros into making a change and, after kicking and clawing his way through the transition, he began to ease himself out of business scenarios that he found stressful. He cut back on his time in the office, started prioritizing his health and family again, and learned to delegate and outsource like crazy. And now… He’s healthier, wealthier, and happier than ever before. Hustling your way to the top is great. Grinding and working hard are great. But they must be tempered by taking a step back and making time for yourself and your family. 4. The Quickest Way to Overcome Adversity is to Reframe It Life can suck. Things happen and circumstances outside of your control can knock you on your ass. But the quickest way to overcome any adversity is to reframe it. Learn to see challenges as opportunities. Learn to see setbacks as an opportunity to grow. Learn to see failure as education. The more that you can reframe the difficult things in life, the easier they will become. This will not make your problems go away… But it will make them easier to deal with. 5. All Success is Preceded by Risk  If you want real success, you are going to have to take real risks. End of story. For the majority of A+ players, every big breakthrough, achievement, and milestone were preceded by even bigger risks. For some people this meant a breakup, for others, taking out a line of credit to fund a business, and for others still, it was dropping out of college and pursuing their dreams of their own volition, without the help of mom and dad. For Bedros, risk has come in many forms, from turning down six-figure job offers to taking out tens of thousands of dollars in credit, to leveraging his house, to purchasing a $4 million office space. But all of these risks ended paid off in the long run. And while you are on your own unique path to success, you must remember that you will be required to take risks and make sacrifices that are uncomfortable. But when you do… You will have no choice but success. And that’s where the real magic happens.
William H. McRaven is a former United States Navy admiral who last served as the ninth commander of the United States Special Operations Command from August 8, 2011, to August 28, 2014. Since January 2015, he has served as the chancellor of The University of Texas System. McRaven previously served from June 13, 2008, to August 2011 as Commander, Joint Special Operations Command (JSOC) and from June 2006 to March 2008 as Commander, Special Operations Command Europe (SOCEUR).  In addition to his duties as COMSOCEUR, he was designated as the first director of the NATO Special Operations Forces Coordination Centre (NSCC), where he was charged with enhancing the capabilities and inter-operability of all NATO Special Operations Forces. Admiral McRaven retired from the Navy on August 28, 2014, after more than 37 years of service. Favorite Success Quote If by Rudyard Kipling Key Points 1. Focus on Doing Your Duties Now  Success in life doesn’t come from focusing on what you are going to do in the future. It comes from focusing all of your attention on the tasks that are in front of you right now. Yes, you should have goals, dreams, and aspirations. However, do not allow these dreams and aspirations to rule the present moment. Instead, focus on the now, focus on what is right in front of you, focus more on the next 24 hours and less on the next 24 years. The quickest way to achieve success (whatever your definition of success might be) is to have a plan and then execute on that plan, day in and day out. Do your duties now and allow tomorrow to take care of itself. 2. You Can’t Make it Alone  Many men like to think that they are an island, they like to believe that they are the Alpha and Omega of their lives. Until one day, they are struck by the very harsh reality that they are not. No man, regardless of size, intelligence or other capability has ever “made it” on this planet by themselves. We were designed for community and teamwork. One of the fastest ways to achieve your mission, whether that is in business, in your health, or in your relationships is to surround yourself with amazing, like-minded individuals who can help support you and push you along the journey. With a tight-knit circle of influence, you will be able to accelerate your results, find your blind spots, and receive help when you are outside of your comfort zone. And more than that, you will have more fun! Life is a team sport, it’s meant to be played with other people. So eradicate the erroneous notion that real men do it alone. Build your tribe and have a blast doing it. 3. What Are You Really Made of? So often in our modern society, we are quick to judge others (and ourselves) on external factors like height, weight, attractiveness, financial success, and social capital. But we forget that our worth is defined by how much heart we have, not how much money or muscle we have. A person’s worth is defined by what’s inside. Admiral McRaven illustrates this point perfectly in his book when he shares the story of Thomas Norris, a Navy Seal who was awarded the congressional medal of honor. During training, nearly all of his classmates assumed that Tom would fail. He was short, skinny, and out of shape compared to the other men. However, Tom had a level of internal fortitude, mental strength, and heart that few men in the world display. And his bravery was exemplified repeatedly on the battlefield, especially during the infamous rescue mission that lead to his Congressional Medal of Honor. Like Tom, many of you might not be what comes to mind physically when people think of an “Alpha” or a “Real Man”. But that isn’t what matters. What are you made of? Who are you? What is your character like when everything goes wrong and your life is spiraling out of control? That is what determines your worth as a man. 4. You Are Going to Fail Read that again. You are going to fail. I don’t care how good you are, how smart you are, or how strong you are. Life will kick you to the curb and beat you senseless at some point in your existence. This isn’t a speculation. It’s fact. You are going to fail! You might not face the catastrophic failures that come to mind when you hear the word, but at some point in your life, you will be faced with a situation, a business deal, a relationship, or a physical challenge that you simply cannot surmount. So get over it. Stop letting this fear of failure rule you and accept that failure is inevitable. Failure is a sign of life, it is a sign that you are trying to push the envelope forward and a sign that you are growing into the man you need to be. So get used to failing. If you do anything of worth in this life, it is going to become a pretty common occurrence. 5. Your Bank Account Doesn’t Determine Your Success Many men operate under the flawed ideology that the more 0’s they have in their bank accounts, the more successful they are. This simply isn’t true. Yes, money is important, and you should certainly strive to earn enough to enjoy your life, be comfortable, and have enough left over to share. But it is not the end all be all to success. Who are you? How is your character? How do you treat others? How is your marriage? These are the things that determine a man’s success. If you are surrounded by good friends, have a happy, loving relationship with your wife, are in good health, and positively impact the world on a regular basis, then congratulations… You have achieved success.
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Sam Upton is an actor and writer known for his roles in The Lincoln Lawyer, Gone, and Stand Up Guys. He is also the director and main actor in his most recent movie, Gun. Favorite Success Quote “The greatest revenge is success” ~Frank Sinatra Key Points 1. No One’s Going to Give it To You We live in an era of entitlement. The current generation is filled with individuals who have never had to work for anything in their lives, never had to sweat for a goal, and never had to bleed for their dreams. When reality sets in, and they realize that life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows, they panic and cry and loudly scream about how “unfair” life is. Well here’s a little newsflash. Life’s not fair… And no one gives a shit. No one cares enough about you to make your dreams happen for you. If you want something bad enough, then go and get it. Don’t ask for permission, get off your ass and go get it. The sweet nectar of success is reserved for those rare individuals just like you who make the definite decision to become the master of their own fate and the captain of their own destiny. Those individuals who are, as Theodore Roosevelt put it, “Actually in the arena with their faces marred by sweat and tears and blood.” Those are the individuals who shape the world, create great art, build massive wealth, and live a life of happiness and prosperity along the way. What about you? Are you going to bitch and moan and whine about how unfair life is, or are you going to accept your challenges and circumstances and make the definite decision to go out and get what’s yours? Only you can decide. 2. Stop Giving a Fuck  One of the greatest truths of life is this… The fewer fucks you give, the better life you will live. It’s that simple. People in the 21st century simply care too much about the wrong things. We allow the denigrating remarks of passersby’s and internet trolls to damage our self-esteem and derail our mission. We allow the opinions of people who have done next to nothing for us to determine what path we will take and what passions we will pursue. We allow the push and pull of society to rope us into lives that we never wanted to live surrounded by people that we’ve never liked working for a cause that we never believed in. And there’s a simple solution to all these problems. Stop giving a fuck. The less time and energy you allow yourself to waste on the petty garbage and insignificant opinions, the happier you will be. If you are on your purpose, on your mission, and on your path, if you are doing the things that are meaningful to you and waking up each day with a smile, then the rest can fade away into the background. 3. Unplug and Spend Time In Life  We live in such a hyper-connected world that the vast majority of people no longer experience life through their own eyes, they experience it through the lens of the latest smartphone. Instead of going out on dates and connecting with the person across from us, we waste our time Tweeting and texting and Instagramming. Instead of spending time with our wives and children, we waste our evenings surfing social media and watching B-grade, uninspiring garbage on the internet. We aren’t living anymore dammit! And it’s starting to show. Depression, loneliness, and suicide are at record highs (especially among men) and yet we continue moving through life like zombies, attached to our screens. So let me challenge you to change that. Put your damn phone down for an evening. Spend real quality time with your wife and kids. Go hang out with a friend and leave your phones at home. Spend time by yourself with your own thoughts and no stimulation (you just might come up with some phenomenal ideas). Learn to let go of the need for constant stimulation and I promise that your life will be better for it. 4. The Act of Doing Makes You a Success  As men, it is easy to tie our self-worth and perception of our own success to external things. We believe that we are only a success if we have the beautiful girl, the 7-figure business, the Lamborghini, the fame, and the body. But the truth of the matter is that the very act of doing and pursuing our goals is what makes us a success. If you are getting up every day, putting your nose to the grindstone and your shoulder to the wheel in pursuit of a higher vision and calling, then you are a success. You will not become a success when you achieve some arbitrary goal or ideal, you are a success right now so long as you are in pursuit. So long as you stay hungry, so long as you put in the work, and so long as you never give up, you can go to bed knowing that you are a success regardless of the external circusmtances in your life. 5. F*ck your Feelings and Do What’s Right  There are only two kinds of people in the world, hedonists and stoics. A hedonist does whatever it takes to feel good, a stoic does what is right whether it feels good or not… And unfortunately, we live in a time that is filled to the brim with hedonists. The vast majority of our society allow their whims, emotions, and feelings to dictate their actions instead of their dreams, visions, and moral code. And the results have been pretty catastrophic. If you want to break away from the herd, away from the men who, as Thoreau put it “Lead lives of quiet desperation” then you must master your emotions, thoughts, and actions and force yourself to do what is right even when you don’t feel like it. No… Especially when you don’t feel like it. Fuck your feelings. No one cares how you feel or what emotions are going through your head. You have a responsibility to do what is right regardless of your emotions. So quit trying to feel good and start doing good.
Robb Wolf is a former biochemist,  a health expert, and author of “The Paleo Solution” and (more recently) “Wired to Eat“. Robb is also a consultant at the Naval Special Warfare Resiliency Program. Favorite Success Quote “Fear is the mind eater” Key Points 1. Understand that We are Hard-Wired for a Different Time  One of the biggest problems facing the human race in 2017 (especially those of us living in developed countries) is not terrorism, global warming, or political turmoil… It’s evolutionary mismatch. As a society, we are becoming fatter, more depressed, more anxious, and less social than we have ever been and it is killing us. Obesity is at an all time high, suicide continues to be a leading cause of death (especially among men), more people than ever before are reliant on anti-anxiety and depression medication, and the general populous feels more disconnected than ever before. The simple reason for this is that we are not designed to live in this world. We were designed to walk dozens of miles each day, catch our own meals, live in a close-knit tribe, have regular sex, raise children and die. And nothing could look more different from how we evolved to live than how we are currently living in 2017. While there are dozens of books written on this topic and plenty of solutions to the problem, my goal here is simply to acknowledge what’s going on so that you properly understand the situation and realize that there is hope. Things can change and you can live a healthier, happier, more vibrant life than ever before… But you first have to address the problem. 2. Understand the Importance of Bio-Individuality Even though we understand the problem (evolutionary mismatch), the solution isn’t as cut and dry as one might assume. While there are certainly axiomatic principles that can help you level up your health in record time (follow your circadian rhythm, eat more real foods, and exercise more) the specifics are actually highly bio-individual. What works for one person will not necessarily work for another, because every body is different. Your body responds to substances, sleep patterns, forms of exercise, and supplementation differently from your best friend’s body which responds differently from his girlfriend’s body. This means that you must adopt a very scientific approach to your health. No, you don’t need to go full Tim Ferriss and test hormone levels every night and sleep with crazy wired machines attached to your head. You just need to realize that achieving perfect health is an individual journey and requires experimentation and testing. Try out different methods and techniques and see what works for you. 3. Take Time Each Month to Serve Others Many of you are feeling lost and off purpose. Many of you feel lonely and disconnected. And one of the primary reasons for this is that you are disconnected from other people. Most of us live our lives in a box where we are constantly focused on ourselves, our problems, and our goals. And few of us are ever willing to take a step back and get outside of that box, causing us to feel like we are on the journey alone. If you want to break out of this box, reconnect with others, and gain some perspective on your problems, then I highly recommend that you take some time each month to go volunteer and serve others. This isn’t just a philanthropic thing. Loneliness has been linked to a number of different diseases and problems. So much so that some studies claim lacking a real social circle is worse for you than smoking a pack a day. When you get out of your bubble and go serve those who are in a worse spot than you are, not only will you connect with like-minded individuals and improve your circle of friends, but you will also reframe your problems and stresses, allowing you to handle the challenges of everyday life in a much more effective manner. I know that this particular piece of advice might seem a little “out there” but I challenge you to give it a go. All it takes is a few hours a month, and not only will you be doing good for others, but you might just find your own life changing in the process. 4. Surround Yourself with People Who are Smarter than You  One of the first steps to becoming a more successful in all areas of your life is to surround yourself with people who are better than you in every area of life. If you want to improve your bank account, get around millionaires. If you want to improve your body, befriend competitive athletes. If you want to improve your love life, go hang out with the town “Casanova”. When you are intentional about surrounding yourself with the right people, you will find every area of your life accelerating. They will be able to point out your blind spots, call you on your bullshit, and elevate your thought processes to an entirely new level. Jim Rohn said it best, “You are the average of the five people you spend your time with most.” So be damn selective about who you are spending your time with. 5. Increase Your Income and Decrease Your Expenses While it might seem strange to include financial advice in an article and interview with one of the world’s leading health experts, this one piece of advice could actually have a bigger impact on your health than anything else we’ve discussed so far. How? Because quite simply, money freaking matters. When you are broke, living paycheck to paycheck, your life is harder, plain and simple. That isn’t to say that you can’t be happy, but rather that your overall quality of life is drastically diminished when you lack financial resources. When you are stressed about money, your cortisol levels will shoot through the roof, you will feel like you have less time to spend with the people that you love, you will not be able to afford the food, supplements, and gadgets that can take your health to new levels, and you will not have sufficient time to rest, recover, and recharge. In other words, you are digging yourself an early grave. So if you want to optimize your health, your relationships, and your sense of well-being, optimize your income and expenses. While the number and lifestyle will look different for everyone, a good baseline goal is $75,000/year ($100,000 for those who live in expensive cities). Even though it might be outside the realm of your imagination right now, it’s a very achievable income regardless of your current skills and abilities. And once you can regularly make this income, while reducing your expenses, and working reasonable hours, you will find that your quality of life elevates to new heights.
Mark Goblowsky is an air force veteran, career martial artist, podcaster, author, and entrepreneur. He is on a mission to help others overcome the obstacles in their life based on his own experiences. Favorite Success Quote “Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years” ~Bill Gates Key Points 1. Practice Your “Kung Fu” The martial art kung fu literally translates into two words. Effort and time. And the only things that are standing between you and your goals are these two factors. If you can become a master of Kung Fu, a master at putting in the effort over time, you will succeed. We all want to achieve great things, we all want a great life. We want the business, the relationships, and the body. And you can have it! You can have it all. But you must be willing to approach life through the lens of Kung Fu. Put in the effort, be patient with the time, and you will succeed. Because at the end of the day, time is going to pass whether you are doing what you love and pursuing your goals or not. So stop worrying about the outcome and get busy doing what you need to do to create the life that you want to live. If you are willing to be patient, to stick through it when times are tough, and to trudge forward even in the face of adversity, at the end of the day, you will be successful. No one who was truly committed to their craft, dream, or ambition for more than a decade fails. You will have failures along the way, yes. But at the end of the day, when it’s all said and done if you are willing to keep doing the work year in and year out especially when it’s hard, you will succeed. 2. If You Aren’t Happy on the Journey You Won’t Be Happy at the Destination There is a pervasive myth in society that “One day” we will be happy. We believe that when we finally have the six pack, the 7-figure company, the beautiful girlfriend, the house on the beach or the sports car then we will be happy. But the truth is that happiness can be experienced right here and now. And not only can it be experienced now, it must be experienced now. Because if you are not happy on the journey, you will rarely find happiness at the destination. If you cannot learn to be happy while you are building your business, you will not be happy when you sell it for $10 million. If you cannot learn to be happy while you are training your body and building your physique, you will not be happy when you finally attain the look you’ve been longing for. If you cannot allow yourself to be happy while you work to find the woman of your dreams, no relationship will ultimately satisfy you. Happiness is a choice, and if you aren’t choosing to be happy along the journey, you will arrive at the destination and wonder “Is this it?” 3. Resistance Gives You Strength  Most of you reading this want to become stronger. In all areas of your life. But what most of you don’t realize is that strength doesn’t come from ease. If you go to the gym every single day of your life from now until you die and all you do is push against the air, you will never get stronger, you will never build a strong body, and you will never force your muscles to grow. To become stronger, you must push against resistance, you must struggle, you must sweat, and you must bleed. And this doesn’t just apply to the gym. If you want your relationship to be stronger, you will have to face resistance. You cannot have a thriving marriage and never face adversity together. Because it is in times of struggle when love is truly born. It’s only when your marriage is facing resistance in some form or another that it is strengthened. In your business, you will never achieve success if you stay in your comfort zone and never face resistance. Success in business mandates failures. It mandates struggles and resistance that force you to grow, adapt, and evolve with the times. So embrace resistance, for it gives you strength. 4. Understand What is Truly Important  When Mark’s son was a young boy, he and his mother were in a terrible hit and run car accident with a semi-truck. His son suffered from a traumatic brain injury and now suffers from disabilities that will affect the rest of his life. When he got the call that his son was in a coma, how do you think Mark responded? Did he say “Gee, that really sucks… But I’ve got to finish up this project at work” Or “Wow! I will be there later, but I just really need to close this client… They’re worth a lot of money.” Hell no! He dropped everything in his life and was by his son’s side 24/7 for four months. Nothing, not his business, not his finances, not even his health got in between him and his child. And it is in times of severe duress that we realize what is truly important. Most of us spend our lives chasing external validation that is ultimately pointless instead of spending time on what really matters… The people that we love. Yes, you should want to be successful. Yes, you should want to be healthy, wealthy, and wise. But what’s the point if the people you love aren’t there to share it with you. Understand the importance of family, friends, and love and make that your focus in life. Everything else is dust in the wind. 5. When Hope Disappears, So Does Action You must always keep hope, no matter how grim the circumstance. And by hope, I don’t mean positive thinking. Hope is a powerful acronym that you must remember when life becomes hard. Here and now. Opportunity Perseverance Enthusiasm If you wish to keep moving forward and succeeding in life, you must live in the here and the now, you must always look for opportunities in adversity, you must push through adversity, and maintain a constant enthusiasm for success. When you lose hope, you lose the ability to take action. And when you stop taking action… You wither away and die. Never lose hope.
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Leah Guy is an intuitive transpersonal healer, spiritual teacher, professional speaker, and media personality. She has developed a framework to help people transform trauma and pain into peace and wholeness. Using her personal triumphs in addition to more than two decades of working with clients, she has helped people move from fear and disconnection to heart-centered and peaceful living. She is a sought-after inspirational speaker who has appeared on major media outlets as an expert on topics such as meditation, the mind-body connection, energy medicine and chakra balancing, intuition and addiction as well as emotional and spiritual healing. Her down-to-earth, honest and often humorous approach makes her one of the most accessible leaders in the field. Known as The Modern Sage, she is the owner of two companies, Modern Sage, LLC and A Girl Named Guy Productions, LLC, a lifestyle media company. Favorite Success Quote “Fear is our greatest teacher” “To risk nothing is to risk even more” Key Points 1. You Must Continually Embrace Risk  One of the most underrated characteristics of all great people (men and women) is their willingness and enthusiasm to embrace risk. You see, life doesn’t happen in your comfort zone. Good things don’t come to those who sit on their ass and avoid adversity. Success, happiness, and true fulfillment come from facing and overcoming risks on a daily basis. And by “Risk” I don’t mean jumping out of airplanes, quitting your job with no backup plan, or getting a divorce because you haven’t worked on the relationship and you’re unhappy. I mean the simple, small, and uncomfortable risks that make you a better human being. Even seemingly small things can have a huge impact on your life. For some of you, you need to take the risk of taking up a meditation practice. You’re scared to sit by yourself and be with your thoughts, you are terrified of what will come up when you silence yourself and truly listen to your inner voice. You’re scared of what will happen if you actually take the time for yourself to be objective and listen to your heart. And you must take that risk. For some of you, you need to risk the “humiliation” and discomfort of resuming a regular workout routine. You might be scared of what other people will think, scared of how hard it will be, or scared that others will judge you. And you must embrace that risk. And for many of you, there is a much more painful risk that you need to face, maybe it is the risk of quitting a job, leaving a relationship, or relocating yourself. Whatever that risk might be… Do it. Because when you overcome risks, you grow, you become the person that you were meant to be and you 2. Learn to Successfully Fail We have a societal misconception about what success truly means. Most people assume that one is only “successful” if everything goes right. If they have the 7-figure business, the beautiful woman, the jaw-dropping physique, and the house on the beach. But in actuality, your level of success is in direct proportion to the effort that you are devoting to a specific task. For example, if you are trying to grow a business, your success isn’t determined by the bottom line at the end of the quarter, it’s determined by whether or not you were showing up fully present and willing to give your all each and every day. If you come to work, hustle your ass off, leave nothing on the table, and haven’t generated your desired results yet then you can still rest easy knowing that you are a success because you are taking action. The same thing applies to your relationships, health, and finances. As long as you are putting your best foot forward, as long as you are not holding back, as long as you are exerting maximum effort, you are a success whether you have the results yet or not. And when you shift your paradigm around success, you can also shift your paradigm around failure. Failure is no longer defined as “Something not working out”. That’s called a learning opportunity. In fact, “Failures” in business, relationships, and life are necessary to your success. And if you are working your hardest then you can consider any mishap or pitfall along the journey to be a “Successful Failure” You have only truly failed when you have given up or withheld your true power. And if you can become a master at successfully failing in life, then you will be a master of life. 3. Break the Cycle Many of you reading this are in a rut. You are unmotivated, uninspired, and unsure of your next step. And that’s ok.  But it’s not ok for you to stay in that place. You must commit today to break that cycle. And to break out of this cycle requires you to do things that you may never have done before. One of the best ways to break your current cycle is to commit today to serving something to serve someone else. Seriously, take a step back from your own problems and your own headspace and go serve someone in needs. It’s not to say that your issues are not valid, but when you focus on serving others, the struggles that you are facing in your everyday life are immediately put into perspective and you begin to remember just how truly blessed you are. 4. You’ve Gotta “Let it Out”  Look, gentlemen, you need to let it out. Whatever it is. You see, most men hold so much tension and frustration in their chest and they just keep it there, repressing those feelings and never truly freeing themselves from it. Whether it’s the daily stress of work, an unresolved emotional issue you must deal with, or troubles at home. Just let it out. Get in the car and scream at the steering wheel. Curse, yell, spit, and swear all you need to, but just get that shit off your chest. Then once you’ve released that energy, go and talk to someone. Spend some time really delving into the issues that you are facing and allow someone else to come in and shed their light on your circumstances. This one little tip might just change your life. 5. Time Doesn’t Solve a Damn Thing  Time never has, and never will solve a damn thing. The only problem that time solves is the problem of existence. Time will eventually kill you and solve all of your problems, but until the day that it does, only “you” can solve your problems. It’s time for you to step up and look in the mirror. Face the music and face your problems. Whether you have unresolved trauma, a struggling career, a lousy marriage, or deep internal wounds from childhood…. Time won’t solve it. Only you can solve your problems, and you must start by admitting that you have problems to solve. Talk to a mentor, coach, or friend about the problems you are facing and commit to taking small daily actions towards the solutions.
Steve Taylor is the author of several best-selling books on psychology and spirituality and is a senior lecturer in psychology at Leeds Beckett University. For the last five years, he has been included in Mind, Body, Spirit magazine’s list of the ‘100 most spiritually influential living people.’ His books include Waking From Sleep, The Fall, Out of the Darkness, Back to Sanity, The Calm Center and his latest book The Leap: The Psychology of Spiritual Awakening. His books have been published in 19 languages, and Eckhart Tolle has described his work as ‘an important contribution to the shift in consciousness which is happening on our planet at present.’ Steve has a Ph.D. in Transpersonal Psychology and teaches on ITA professional’s on-line MSc in Consciousness, Spirituality and Transpersonal Psychology. His articles and essays have been published in over 40 academic journals, magazines, and newspapers. He writes the popular blog ‘Out of the Darkness’ for Psychology Today magazine. Steve lives in Manchester, England with his wife and three young children. Favorite Success Quote “Finally, it’s clear that fulfillment isn’t a place to seek but the place from which you are seeking That wholeness isn’t a distant future goal but your closest present state And no matter how much success you accumulate or how much failure trails behind you, it’s always enough just to be alive.“ Key Points 1. The Present is All You Have We do not live in a society that values presence. Everything, and I do mean everything, that is pushed on us in the modern world is designed to take us out of the present moment and transport us to some imaginary plane that doesn’t truly exist. Each and everyday big companies inundate us with desires for all sorts external garbage that does little to truly fulfill our deepest desires. Instead of living each moment fully and savoring the sweetness of life, we are constantly in a rush to buy the latest gadget, follow some new trend, or keep up with the Joneses. And in this rush to keep up appearances and live for future goals, we forget to enjoy what is happening right now. Because at the end of the day, the present is truly all that you have. If you are chasing a future goal, you are still chasing it in the present. If you are reminiscing about the past, you are still doing so in the present. But we rarely take the time to sit back and embrace the present moment. We rarely notice the trees swaying in the wind, or the soft sounds of our partner sleeping next to us, or the feeling of the cold hardwood underneath our feet. And when we ignore the present moment, we are ignoring our lives. Because the present is all that we have. 2. Get Recentered  No matter how much you focus on being present, the challenges and struggles of modern life will derail you and cause you to lose your center. And when you find this happening, it is imperative that you take a step back and get recentered. Go for a swim, take some time to go on a run, and pay attention to your sensations. If it is feasible, the best way to find your center and bring more presence into your life is travel. Whenever you travel, everything is new and exciting, it’s like being a child all over again. You don’t know what to expect around the next corner, you aren’t sure what each day will bring, and you are constantly living in a state of wonder and awe. It is truly the best way to bring presence back into your life and find the balance that you have been searching for. And it doesn’t have to be a wild trip either. Just a 2-hour drive can take you to a city or a state that you have never visited before and provide you with a plethora of opportunities to explore and rekindle that child-like wonder and amazement. 3. Focus on “Being” Instead of “Doing” In today’s society, men are conditioned from birth to be “Doers”. We are told to get sh*t done, to make things happen, to hustle, and to grind. And all of those things are great. But they are only one part of the puzzle. The other piece that most men miss is to learn the art of “Being”. Learning to simply sit with yourself, your thoughts, and your current circumstances and to be ok with them regardless of how society might view them. When you focus on being, you will begin to realize that simply drawing breath, that simply having a pulse, simply existing is enough. Being alive is the greatest gift there is, the greatest truth that you can seek, and the greatest goal that you can achieve. And guess what? You’ve already achieved it. 4. Spiritual Awakening is Not About Bliss  All too often, mainstream culture assumes that spiritual awakening is about achieving “Nirvana” or “Bliss” where all of your problems disappear and life is just a constant flow of joy and internal peace. But the true nature of spiritual awakening is not the absence of problems, but rather a greater understanding, acceptance, and capacity to deal with those problems. When you open your eyes to the world of spiritual awakening, your problems will not magically disappear. You will still have bills to pay, a family to care for, issues in your relationships, and physical ailments. However, because you have devoted the time and energy necessary to become more awakened, you will be able to approach these problems from a different space. Instead of being controlled by the problems, you will see them for what they really are and be able to handle them more adeptly and with more peace. 5. Spirituality is About Valuing What You Have At the end of the day, the ultimate lesson of spirituality, presence, enlightenment or whatever else you want to call it is simple… Value what you have in this moment. Some of the most spiritual people I know haven’t meditated a day in their lives, they’ve never read any of the sacred texts, and terms like “enlightenment” seem foreign to them. But they have a deep appreciation and gratitude for what they have. Instead of focusing on what they want and what they don’t have, they find peace and comfort in counting the blessings that already fill their lives. And if you take nothing else away from this interview take that one lesson. Valuing what you already have and being grateful for each breath you take is the ultimate form of enlightenment.
Brett McKay is the founder and editor-in-chief of The Art of Manliness, the largest independent men’s lifestyle magazine on the web with over 10 million monthly page views. Brett earned a degree in Letters (with a focus on Classics) from the University of Oklahoma and graduated from the University of Tulsa College of Law. He lives with Kate, his wife and AoM’s Executive Editor, and their two children in Tulsa, OK. When he’s not talking or writing about manliness, Brett enjoys barbell training and spending time outdoors. Favorite Success Quote “Be useful, not important.” Key Points 1. Focus on Being a Man of Value  We live in a society where everybody wants to be “Somebody.” And while there is nothing inherently wrong with ambition or a drive to become successful, in our modern, ego-driven culture, this desire for fame and recognition has begun to supersede our desire to provide real value as men. We are more worried about our status on Facebook and the number of fans we have on Instagram than the quality of the work that we are producing on a daily basis. And it’s gotta stop. Success is the result of doing your work and doing it with excellence. It’s the result of trying to find ways to serve others, instead of constantly serving yourself. And the sooner that we can embrace this axiomatic truth, the sooner we will be able to live richer, healthier, and more abundant lives. It’s not about you. It’s about the impact you have on others and the legacy that you leave. 2. The Worst Rarely Happens  Mark Twain is often quoted as saying I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened. And while the quote itself might have been uttered tongue in cheek, it’s relevance to our modern lives cannot be understated. Yes, you are going to face challenges in your life, you will face difficulty, adversity, pain, and suffering. It’s an inevitability. But the vast majority of your internal worries will never come to fruition. As a society, we spend time locked inside of our heads, mentally plugging through the “What if’s” and “Oh no’s” until our blood pressure is through the roof and our anxiety levels critical. To be an effective risk taker and leader, you must learn to discern between genuinely possible worst-case outcomes and unlikely disasters. Yes, if you quit your job to go full time with your side hustle, it is possible that you might lose everything, go bankrupt, become homeless, and eat out of garbage cans until Elon Musk saves humanity. But it’s not very likely. Chances are, even the worst failure would simply require you to find a new corporate job, live at home for a while, and rebuild yourself from the ground up. There is an element of risk in everything worth pursuing. And as a man, you must learn to cull your fear and worries and realize that despite the perceived risk, the big, scary, life-altering disaster of an outcome that you fear is unlikely at the least and downright laughable at most. 3. Toughen Your “Mental Hide”  With the wide reach of the internet, it is all but impossible to do anything of worth without attracting negative criticism and denigration. Keyboard warriors and airsoft commandos abound, each of them offering a different (and graphically detailed) opinion about why you suck and should immediately quit at your current endeavors. It doesn’t matter whether you are creating products, offering information, or detailing your journey through life… If you do anything for long enough, you are going to have to haters. So what is a man to do? While it might be uncomfortable and difficult, there is certainly merit in accepting and responding to constructive criticism that offers genuine value to you and your brand. However, the vast majority of the emails, comments, and posts that you will find littering your inbox and social platforms are not constructive, they are simply the result of disgruntled individuals with an abundance of time and a lack of common sense. In these situations, you must simply learn to toughen your mental hide. Not everyone will like you. In fact, if you do anything well enough, some people will hate you. And that is ok. You must learn to ignore the haters and stay focused on your dreams and mission. When others try and knock you off course, or make wild accusations, you should learn to take it as a sign that you are doing something right. Because it is a rare occurrence for a man offering little value to attract much attention (positive or negative). So build your mental resilience and learn to be ok with the haters. 4. Focus on Adaptability Not Effectiveness One of the greatest struggles for men of a high caliber is learning to embrace adaptability over effectiveness. Yes, you should have routines and rituals built into your daily life that allow you to create and contribute at a high level, but you must remember one simple truth… Life happens. Things don’t always go according to plan. People get sick, cars break down, the weather changes, you get food poisoning, and your kids get into fights at school. When events like this happen, learning to go with the flow and adapt is paramount not only for success but also for mental well-being and stability. You will not always be able to stick to your morning routine, you will occasionally have to sacrifice your hour of uninterrupted work time to tend to a family emergency, you won’t always be able to get to the gym… And that’s ok. Learn to be like water. Flow from one task and “tragedy” to the next without missing a beat and your quality of life will increase ten-fold. 5. Just Do Something  If you are struggling in life right now, if you are on the fence if you have been wanting to get started on a dream for years but you don’t know where to start… start by doing something. Anything! One of the immutable laws of the universe is that a body in motion will tend to stay in motion, and once you get yourself in gear and begin taking action, you will find that the remaining pieces will begin to fall into place. Want to get in shape but you feel lost in the sea of diets, fads, and “scientifically proven” workouts? Go for a run and do 20 pushups and figure the rest out from there. Want to start a business but don’t know how? Buy a website, write a short ebook, and start creating content and figure the rest out from there. When you start walking, the path will be revealed. But you must start by getting up, lacing your shoes, and taking that first step.
MJ DeMarco is the current founder of Viperion Publishing Corp., a media company focused on online and print content distribution. He also is admin/founder for The Fastlane Forum, the webs’ leading destination forum for start-up, finance, and entrepreneurial business discussions. He was the former start-up Founder/CEO of Limos.com (1997-2007), a global ground transportation aggregator and marketplace that he successfully built and grew into a profitable multimillion dollar company, all with no money, no formal training, and with just a few employees. In 2001, he sold the company and later reacquired the company via bankruptcy reorganization. He later sold the company again in 2007 to a Phoenix-based private equity company. He has authored two best-selling books including The Millionaire Fastlane: Crack the Code to Wealth and Live Rich for a Lifetime and UNSCRIPTED: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Entrepreneurship, his most recent work about the current landscape of life, liberty, and entrepreneurship. You can connect with him and learn more at http://www.mjdemarco.com/ Favorite Success Quote “If you accept conventional wisdom from conventional people living conventional lives. Can you expect to be anything other than conventional?” Key Points 1. Wake Up and See Through the Matrix  You have been lied to. By the government, your parents, and all of society. I am not propagating a conspiracy theory, just sharing the facts. From the day that you are born, you are inundated with a bullshit script that tells you to go to school, get all A’s, go to college, get a safe job, sock aside 10% of your income and invest in mutual funds, skip the lattes, blah, blah, blah…. I am here to tell you… It doesn’t freaking work! How many multi-millionaire 65-year-olds do you know? How many wildly wealthy retirees have you met (who worked a dead-end job for the past 40 years)? And more importantly, if you have met any of these people how many were happy and fulfilled? How many were free? The script that you were fed since childhood doesn’t work. So it’s time to wake up and flip the script. If you want freedom, if you want to retire, if you want to live a life that you actually enjoy, a life where you aren’t giving up 5 days of your life in exchange for 2 (a pretty shitty ROI if you ask me) then the first step is simply acknowledging that there is a problem with the script you have been fed. Wake up, see through the matrix, and be ready to take the action required to change it. 2. The Rich Don’t Get Rich from the Script… They get rich from preaching the script! One of the biggest misconceptions about success is that the rich achieved their current success levels by following the script you see laid out for you. They didn’t. They got rich by preaching the script. They got rich by selling you on the idea of mutual funds (which they own) and stock market investments (which they control). They didn’t get rich investing in any of those things themselves, they got rich by selling that garbage to you. While compiling research for his new book, MJ examined some advice being given by Forbes.com on the topic of long-term financial wealth. The article in question was recommending a long-term mutual fund strategy starting as young as possible. Then MJ decided to see how many Forbes cover models had actually followed that advice to get rich. The results? Zero, nada, zilch. None of the world’s rich and powerful had eaten their own dog food or taken the medicine they were prescribing to everyone else. Just because you see Warren Buffet or Charlie Munger providing you with an investing strategy reliant on a long term yield of 8% doesn’t mean that it’s a strategy they actually leveraged to create their own wealth. When you are cognizant of this you will be much more wary about who you take advice from and why. 3. Learn to Provide Relative Value on a Massive Scale and You Will Become Rich  Do you want to know the secret to becoming rich? Even the secret to getting rich quick? Well, listen up… I am about to share it. Provide relative value on a massive scale. If you do this, you will become rich, and chances are, you will become rich a helluva lot quicker than you would have playing the “Get rich slow” game. But how does one go about providing relative value? It’s actually a lot simpler than you might think. The first step is to identify a problem or an inefficiency in the marketplace. If you see a problem and you have the ability to fix it, you have found your “in”. Furthermore, if you look at an already “saturated” market and you notice that there are numerous inefficiencies in the day to day operations (customer service, fulfillment, product quality etc.) you can use this knowledge to break into an otherwise full market. 4. Happiness Comes from Autonomy Not Money  So many people assume that more money will make them happy. That going from $20,000 to $200,000 to $2,000,000 will drastically boost your happiness and levels of fulfillment. And yes, money matters. In fact, it matters a lot. And to a certain extent, money will make you happy. However, if you look at the research compiled by the leading experts in the field of psychology, after about $70,000 a year ($110,000 for those of you living in more expensive cities) increasing your income will not drastically increase happiness. Increasing your autonomy and freedom, however, will. Your levels of happiness are directly correlated to the amount of freedom that you have in your life. Do you have the power to choose when you wake up? Do you have the power to choose when you work and what you work on? Do you have the power to choose who you work with? Your end goal should be to work until the answer to all of the above questions is a resounding yes. Because if it’s not, even $10,000,000 in the bank won’t make you happy. 5. You Only Achieve Balance Through Imbalance  Do you want a balanced life? A life where you have the freedom to devote plenty of time to your body, your family, your wife, your kids, and your hobbies? Great! So does everyone else. But if you want to achieve balance, then you must first commit to several years of imbalance. You can only achieve balance when you are willing to put in the sacrifices up front to generate the money you need to live the life you want. It’s that simple. No one became a millionaire working 35 hours a week, spending their mornings doing hours of meditation, and having lazy afternoons with their spouse. They became a millionaire by working 12 hours a day 7 days a week for 2-3 years and then sitting back and reaping the rewards of those few years for the rest of their lives. So if you want balance, commit to a period of imbalance. The people who truly love you will weather the storm and stick with you through it all.
Ryan Blair is a serial entrepreneur who established his first company at age twenty-one and has since created and actively invested in multiple start-ups. As the CEO of ViSalus, he took the company from start-up to more than $1.6 billion in cumulative sales and was named Ernst & Young’s 2012 Entrepreneur of the Year. His first book, Nothing to Lose, Everything to Gain, was a number one New York Times bestseller. He lives in Los Angeles. Key Points 1. The First Step to Transforming Your Life is Transforming your Environment If you are really ready to change your life, accelerate your results, and achieve your dreams, then the first step that you must take is to radically transform your environment. There is an old saying that environment is stronger than willpower, and I believe it to be true. If you are constantly around low ambition individuals who spend their weekends getting hammered, stoned, and watching Netflix, then how can you really expect to rise above your environment and excel at a high level? The first step on your journey to success is to change your environment. If your friends are bringing you down, get new friends. If you’ve never lived outside of your small town where everyone knows one another and success is frowned upon, move the hell out of there. Change your environment as quickly as possible, put in the work, and you will find yourself achieving at levels you previously thought impossible. 2. Go Give Back to Someone Who Has it Worse than You Do  If you are reading this article right now, then you are blessed. If you woke up this morning and didn’t have to wonder where your next meal would come from, then you are blessed. If you even have the eyesight and cognitive function to comprehend this interview, then you are blessed. And yet, despite the abundance in our everyday lives, many of us take our blessings for granted. And as a result, we whine and moan about the most trivial things, never taking responsibility and never stepping up to the plate. It’s time to step up and step out of your own circumstances. Go volunteer with Habitat for Humanity or some other cause that will get you around people who are less fortunate than you are. Save up for a few months and go do a volunteer trip to Haiti, then come back and complain to me about how slow your iPhone 6 is. In our Western society, we don’t suffer from a lack of resources or a lack of opportunity. We suffer from a lack of perspective. And the only way to get a better perspective is to get out of your current environment and go serve other people who are suffering more than you are. So I want to challenge you to find somewhere that you can volunteer this week. Go serve food at a soup kitchen, go build homes for low-income families, go serve the homeless in downtown. Go do something that will remind you just how lucky you are. When you return to your daily life, I would bet my last dollar that you will do so with a better attitude and a sense of gratitude. 3. Base Your Goals on the Value you Want to Offer Something that you will find on your journey to success is that the universe has an odd habit of conspiring to help those who conspire to help others. If you find that you are constantly unable to meet your financial goals, then chances are, your focus is almost entirely on yourself. You think “God, I want to make $100,000 so that I can enjoy a better quality of life, nicer things, and fancier dinners.” And yet for the fourth year in a row, your company is stuck at $60,000. I want to challenge you to think about your goals differently. Instead of saying “How much money can I make?” Ask yourself the question “How much money do I want to give away? And who do I want to help?” I don’t know what it is, but when you change your goal from “I want to earn $100,000 to so I can buy my new Jaguar F-Type” to “I want to earn $200,000 so that I can give away $70,000 to build schools in Guatemala” the universe will come to your aid and present you with opportunities that seem inexplicable. So I want to challenge you to start focusing on others. Begin to look at money as a flow of energy that enables you to help other people and improve their quality of life. Yes, you should have more than enough for yourself and enjoy a great quality of life. But you should also seek to give away 10X the value of what you have earned. Adopt this attitude for 18 months, and I can promise that your life will never be the same. 4. Constantly Level Up Your Social Circle  Jim Rohn, the father of personal development said it best “You are the average of the five people whom you associate with most.” And while this axiom of success has likely been repeated more times than any of us care to recount, so few of you reading this will actually internalize the message. Right now, I want you to pull out a pen and paper and take stock of your current circumstances. Everything, from your health, your finances, your fulfillment, and your relationships. Now, I want you to pull out a separate sheet of paper and write down that same list of circumstances for your five closest friends. If I was a gambling man, I would bet that the lists look pretty similar. Proximity is power, and if you are serious about achieving your dreams and reaching the levels of success that you desire, then you need to constantly level up your social circle and spend time around people who are smarter, better, and more successful than you. 5. Ask for Help As men, it’s easy to let our pride stand in the way of our fulfillment and growth. It’s easy to say “I’m fine” and block out the outside world. What’s difficult is to be real. It’s difficult to be honest with the important people in your life and tell them the truth. The truth that you aren’t alright, that everything isn’t ok, and that you are feeling pretty messed up right now It’s difficult to ask for help. But until you are willing to hang up your ego and talk with someone else, you will never overcome the challenges standing in your way. You must be willing to let go of your pride and speak the truth. Because when you do, the universe will come to your aid and the people who truly care about you will help lift you up and raise you to new levels.
After amassing over 30 million views on YouTube by producing a video every day for a year, Jaret Grossman has quickly become sought after as one of the world’s best life coaches and business consultants. Jaret’s world class advice is drawn from his early childhood woes and muscular transformation. As an 8th grader, Jaret was only 90 pounds, won only one wrestling match, and was constantly picked on and bullied. He progressed to become one of New York’s best wrestlers and eventually became a 3x All-American at Bryant University. After he pursued a career in law or investment banking, Jaret realized his passion lied elsewhere. While finishing up his JD degree, Jaret started up a health and fitness brand with his childhood friend Richie Allen. The two of them built the Muscle Prodigy presence to over 300,000 unique visitors per month, over 1 million social media followers, and topped the charts with several iTunes albums. Favorite Success Quote “He that gives should never remember and he that receives should never forget.” Key Points 1. Absorb What is Useful Discard What is Not  In our modern society, it seems like everyone with a blog or a YouTube channel is trying to peddle the “One weird Secret to Success” or “Top Tips for Financial Freedom”. And while many of these platforms provide valuable sources of information, people often mistake general principles for universal truths. Every person is different. We all have different goals, dreams, aspirations, and definitions of success. So you must learn to pick and choose the advice that you follow. Absorb useful information from a variety of sources, use what works for you and discard what doesn’t. Over the years, as you continually try new things, succeed, fail, and figure out what works for you, you will develop a formula for success and fulfillment that is uniquely your own. Do not waste your time trying to pursue other people’s goals and dreams. Take the advice that is relevant to your life and goals, and ignore the rest. 2. Become a Generalized Specialist  If you want to be a successful entrepreneur  (or successful in any area of life) then you must commit yourself to becoming a generalized specialist. This means that while you should only strive for mastery in a small handful of skills, you should seek to be competent in a wide variety of disciplines. Think of your life like mixed martial arts. You can pick one discipline to master like Brazilian Ju Jitsu, Muay Thai, or Boxing. But you should be competent in all of the disciplines because you are only as strong as your weakest link. Success as an entrepreneur requires competence in sales, marketing, leadership, communication, accounting, time management, and technology among many others. And while you don’t have to master every area, you must have a strong grasp and understanding of the nuances behind each one. 3. Focus On Your Life Not Other People’s Lives  The greatest trap that high achievers fall into is the trap of comparison. Once you make your first $100,000, you begin comparing yourself to people making $1,000,000. Once you make your first $1,000,000, then you begin comparing yourself to people making $10,000,000 and so on and so forth. But when you compare yourself to others, you denigrate your own success and sabotage your potential. There will always be someone who is doing better than you. Someone who is richer, someone who is smarter, someone who is more athletic. It doesn’t matter how great you become, there will always be someone who is better than you at something.  That’s just how the world works. And if you fall prey to the comparison trap, you will never attain fulfillment, you will never be happy, and you will never enjoy your life because you will constantly be comparing yourself to people who are on a different path. So focus on your life. Focus on success as you define it. Don’t worry about other people’s achievements. Focus on doing your own thing, and the rest will fall into place. 4. Get Crystal Clear Clarity on Your Goals The first step to achieving success, whatever that means for you, is gaining crystal clear clarity on exactly what you want, when you want it, and why you want it.    You can achieve anything that you set your mind to, but you must first know exactly what it is that you want to achieve. And when I say “Get clarity” I mean clarity.  Saying that you want to be rich isn’t clarity. Setting the goal of starting an online marketing firm that generates $84,000 a month in net profit while you only work 45 hours a week… That’s clarity. So take some time and get crystal clear on what you want in all areas of your life. What does your ideal day look like? Who do you spend your time with? How much time do you devote to work? What is your health like? Really sit down and ask yourself what you truly want out of life. Then once you know what you want, figure out why you want it. There’s an old saying in the personal growth community that says, “With a strong enough why, you can figure out any how.” And no statement could be more true. When you know what you want and you have a powerful list of reasons why you want it, you will figure out a way to make it happen. 5. Understand that Success is More than Money  It seems like we live in a society that values one thing and one thing only… The almighty dollar. And don’t get me wrong, money is important. It gives you freedom, options, and the ability to live a lifestyle that will help you feel fulfilled and on fire. But it is not the end all be all of life. Money is just a small part of the puzzle. If you want to live a life of true joy and fulfillment, then you must take a holistic approach to success. Jaret recommends that everyone focus on 8 pillars of life and success. Mission: Why you are doing what you are doing Abundance: Your finances and long term wealth Family: Your relationships with the most important people in your life Foundation: Your mental and physical well being Control: The amount of freedom that you have to do the things you want to do Connection: Your relationship with whatever higher power you believe in (even if it’s just mother nature or your connection to society) Wisdom: Your skill sets and ability to learn new things Legacy: How you want to be remembered and the impact that you want to leave behind When you consciously develop each of these 8 pillars, you will begin to find yourself feeling on fire and on purpose. But if even one pillar is crumbling, the other 7 will begin to slowly deteriorate in tandem. So take stock of where you are today and where you want to be. Then start taking the action necessary to develop your life into a living breathing masterpiece of true success.
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Thibault Volckaert

💛

Oct 6th
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Him

Stop putting words in guests mouth. we are here to listen to guests, not own gyaan from the host.

Feb 24th
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An Drew

So men are now allowed to express emotions and for you its a bad thing? Suicide and depression were there even before, they just werent recognized as today, depression doesnt come cause of not knowing what to do as a man, it comes cause bad things happen in life. "Were told to stay quiet", even girls are told so, not just boys. Plus, quietness and courage are not "man things" but human things. If you're a man and youre reading this, yes, youre allowed to cry, have depression and anxiety, and youre allowed not to look as Aquaman. Fuck this. Youre role in this society is to follow youre dreams, and thats it.

Dec 18th
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Sophia

awesome podcast

Dec 3rd
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Bryan Shipley

I just listened to this podcast for the second time, it is a keeper and is PACKED with practical insights and ways to apply them to our lives, listen and enjoy!

Nov 18th
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Patrick Scanlon

Great interview. The part about counter dependency was very profound.

Sep 21st
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Felipe Magalhães Bambirra

Excellent! It's a privilege to access such a good content. Congrats!

Sep 12th
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MalikTheWolf

Great advice. Time to implement the knowledge!

Sep 5th
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Lemichael Dotson

Great interview

Aug 3rd
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jrod3260

very cool interview, 👍😎👍

Aug 1st
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

ugh the fake laugh please stop it. the laugh is outweighing the great guest.

Jul 29th
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Robert Lee

don't get be wrong, I love Grant's stuff, but why is this popping up on my list years after the interview lol

Jul 17th
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Kurt Hake

great podcast

Jul 16th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

little Andrew sounds so beta compared to jocko

Jul 15th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

rule number 1 of seal teams . no fake laughs or "pickup" coaches.

Jul 15th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

I can only imagine what jocko was truly thinking when this guy does his fake laugh.

Jul 15th
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Chris Crosby

I loved this podcast and could definitely relate to the things they discussed. the love of comfort and choosing to seek that rather than willing to endure suffering for the sake of success has robbed me for so long. My biggest enemy is fear.

Jun 28th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

I truly wish I didnt find some of the guests interesting because the host is so fake and beta and well ... subpar.

Jun 26th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

wow. who is Ellen musk. andrew aka mr fake laugh learn how to pronounce 8th grade words b4 claiming to be a coach or mentor of anything. plethora plateau yeah you pronounce those incorrectly repeatedly and Elon Musk. not ellen.

Jun 26th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

newsflash beta boy you are pronouncing plethora and plateau incorrectly while also sounding extremely elitist and beta and knife in the ear I'm well read and smart sounding. its plethora str8 thru not pluh-thora. its plah-toe not pluh=toe. if your going to attempt to sound well read and too cool for school make sure you are first beta boy. mr. o make money off lame ugly dudes who cant get women by making them think they can get girls all the while you arent in a happy sustained marriage or even relationship heading that way.

Jun 19th
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