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Today's most successful leaders share their incredible stories and life lessons to help you get the life you want in the areas of health, wealth, relationships and personal growth. Every show is jam packed with actionable tips and insights that will propel you forward to become the man you want to become. Join us at knowledgeformen.com for recaps of every interview as well as an incredible gold mine of resources to help you live better. Prepare to become the most powerful version of yourself!
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Nate Broughton is an internet marketing veteran of 17 years who specializes in lead generation and client acquisition. He’s built and sold four companies and been involved in several acquisitions with private equity firms. He’s now the leader of a movement and company called The Opt Out Life which teaches people all over the world how to design an amazing lifestyle centered around fun and experiences… While still making fantastic money in an industry they love. Favorite Success Quote “Lifestyle before money. But money also.” “If there’s a will there’s a way” Key Points 1. Focus on Lifestyle First and Money Second  Money is a tool. In the right hands, it can serve as a force multiplier to help you live the life of your dreams, enjoy wild adventures, and create a lasting legacy. However, when it’s your sole aim and purpose it will overtake your life and lead you down a dark and lonely road filled with regrets. As such, Nate’s motto and entire company (opt-out life) is built on the ethos of “Lifestyle first but money also.” In life, you will often be presented with two options. The lucrative option The lifestyle option For example, Nate was offered an executive position with a multiple six-figure salary, a significant amount of equity, and great benefits. The only problem is that the position required him to drive 60 minutes to and from work five days a week, sacrificing time with his young children and wife. He turned it down in less than a minute. Money is great and you should always seek to expand your income and create passive assets. But it’s not everything. If you find yourself working 80 hours a week to make multiple six figures you need to take a step back and ask yourself, “Is this really worth it?” Is this how you want to live your life? 2. Get Creative to Achieve Your Dreams  Where there’s a will there’s a way. Cliche, I know. But it’s true. Whatever goal you want to achieve, whether it’s making a certain amount of money, improving your body, or finding the partner of your dreams, is ahievable. IF you’re willing to get creative and find unconventional roads to success. A great example that Nate shared in the interview is how his business partner moved his family from an inexpensive inland suburb to the exclusive coast of Lajolla. Even though his partner couldn’t afford the mortgage on the house he wanted, he got creative, found a property with a guest home and then rented the home out while simultaneously renting the casita in the back yard. The result? He cut the rent payments in half and ended up spending roughly the same amount as his previous mortgage. If you’re willing to get creative, there’s nothing that you can’t do, be, or achieve. But you must be willing to think outside of the box and cut yourself off from any possibility of failure. 3. Know When to Hold ‘Em and When to Fold ‘Em  You are going to have to make tough decisions in life. It’s simply a part of the human existence. And oftentimes, the most important decision that you will make is not whether or not you should start something, but whether or not you should stay with something. Whether it’s a relationship, career, business, or just a boring ‘ol workout program, you must understand when a particular endeavor has run its course and when there is still something of value to be gained. Nate has grown and sold several businesses, and he’s found that there’s a critical tipping point in each business (typically when it hits $5,000,000 in revenue) where he begins to burn out and lose interest. Instead of fighting this, he’s adopted the “Serial Entrepreneur” approach and will sell his equity or the entire business, once a project passes a certain revenue threshold. Here’s the deal… Life is short. And there are thousands of things that we all want to try out and we have no way of knowing if they’re worth our time until we step up to the plate and swing. But once you’ve been in the game for a while, you need to honestly evaluate your pursuits and ask yourself the simple question, “Is this serving me at the highest level?” If the answer is “No” then cut your losses and move on… IMMEDIATELY. 4. Understand the Seasons of Life (And How they Impact Your Priorities)  It’s funny to me how often I have young men reaching out to me in their early 20’s bemoaning the fact that they have no money and no clue what they want to do with their lives. I always have to chuckle at these messages, because these guys are missing the point. You aren’t supposed to be super wealthy and on purpose right out of the gate!  Your 20’s are a season in life for pursuing your passions, seeing what sticks, making LOTS of mistakes, and learning as much as you can. Life isn’t supposed to be this massive and nonstop upwards growth curve. It’s a long and bumpy ride filled with different seasons. And one of the biggest keys to success is learning how to capitalize on these seasons and use them to your advantage. For example, your 20’s are a high energy season that is best used to learn marketable skills, live super frugally while building a war chest, and to figure yourself out along the way. Your 30’s are a season that should be devoted to mastery of your chosen craft and the creation of passive income streams that will create lasting wealth and freedom. And once you have that? Your 40’s and beyond are for doing whatever the hell you want. 5. Develop a High-Value Skill Set and Turn It Into Passive Income  It’s been said that passive income is worth 10x working income. And truer words have yet to be spoken. No matter where you are in life today, one of your top priorities should be the creation and expansion of passive income. Money is simply a tool to buy freedom. And when you escape from the race of trading your time for dollars and create sustainable passive income, you will have freedom for life. Imagine going to bed and waking up with an extra $500 in your bank account. What would that do for your life? How would you spend your days differently? What hobbies would you pursue? What relationships would you invest in more deeply? How would your life change if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that you were going to be ok when the 1st of the month rolled around? I can tell you from personal experience… It’s one of the most liberating feelings a man can have. Get to work on building passive income streams NOW and your life will forever change because of it.
Jordan Harbinger, once referred to as “The Larry King of podcasting,” is a Wall Street lawyer turned talk show host, social dynamics expert, and entrepreneur. After hosting a top 50 iTunes podcast for over a decade that enjoyed nearly four million downloads a month at its zenith, Jordan has embarked on a new adventure: The Jordan Harbinger Show, where he deconstructs the playbooks of the most successful people on earth and shares their strategies, perspectives, and insights with the rest of us. Jordan’s business sense, extensive knowledge of the industry, and contemporary approach to teaching make him one of the best and most sought-after coaches in the world. Favorite Success Quote “Fortune favors the bold” ~Latin Proverb Key Points 1. Find the Silver Lining  Sh*t happens. It’s an inevitability of life. Things will not go your way. Partners will leave you. Employees will steal from you. Friends will betray you. This isn’t a pessimistic outlook on life, it’s simply the reality of the world we live in. As such, the question is not if these events will happen but how you will respond when they do.  In every negative situation, every layoff, divorce, breakup, and failure, you have one of two choices. You can throw yourself a pity party, whine, moan, and cry that your life isn’t where you want it to be. Or you can find the silver lining and move forward with your life. Every door that closes opens up a new one. Every failed endeavor frees up your time and resources to pursue a new one. Everything that you currently think sucks has a silver lining… If you’re willing to look for it. Learn to make the best of any situation and use adversity to your advantage and you will become unstoppable in your business, relationships, and life. 2. Dig the Well Before You’re Thirsty  There is an old proverb that states, “Dig the well before you are thirsty”. And truer words have yet to be spoken. In every area of life, you must learn to cultivate a proactive attitude instead of a reactive one. In your finances, set aside money each month and invest in your future so that when the unexpected happens, you are prepared. In your relationship, create your own social circle and build your own life so that, even if your partner leaves you, you aren’t left out in the cold. In your business and career, learn to cultivate powerful relationships with people when you have no agenda so that, if and when something happens (like a layoff or bankruptcy) you have a network of friends who will come to your aid and support you. Take preemptive action in your life to avoid and recover from tragedies before they happen. As I’ve already said, it’s not a matter of if something bad will happen, it’s a matter of when.  Plan for these crises and prepare for them before you need to. Your future self will thank you. 3. Don’t Wait on Other People  Whether it’s a business partner, spouse, or friend you can never allow your momentum in life to be dictated by another person. Don’t wait for someone else to get on board with your mission and vision. Simply take action and move forward. If your business partner or significant other is dragging their feet and screwing around with regards to your vision and important goals, fine. Take action without them and move forward on your own. You can spend years or even decades waiting for someone else to come through, all the while missing opportunities and possibilities in your own life. Don’t let this happen to you… Chart your own path and move forward whether the people around you are on board or not. 4. Don’t Sacrifice Success for Other People’s Comfort  In many relationships, people will avoid having difficult conversations with their partner because they don’t want to hurt the other person. For example… A wife might avoid talking to her alcoholic husband about his drinking problem because she doesn’t want to upset him. A man might avoid talking to his girlfriend about her lackluster work ethic and spending problem because he doesn’t want to hurt her feelings. A business partner might avoid calling his team out for laziness because he doesn’t want to be seen as overly critical or negative. Stop! In all of these situations, the uncomfortable conversation is necessary. Unless you are willing to step up, make other people uncomfortable, and call them out on their b.s., they will never change. You will never move forward in life and eventually, the relationship will implode. Be willing to take a stand for yourself and let other people know when they’ve violated a boundary or acted in a manner that is unacceptable. Otherwise, you will live in a constant fairytale and fail to achieve the life you want. 5. Do the Things Today that Your Future Self Will Thank You For  Every day, you have a choice. You can either choose to live for the moment or the future. While it’s all fine and dandy to be present, it’s even more important that you are acting in a way today that your future self will thank you for. What would make your future self-smile? Eating that piece of cake or eating a salad? Skipping the gym because you’re tired or staying commited to your training? Talking to that cute guy/girl or letting fear hold you back from the relationships you want? Working hard on your side hustle or goofing off with YouTube and video games? You have a choice to create the life that you want. The only question is, “What choice are you going to make?” Next Steps You can learn more about Jordan and follow his new podcast at jordanharbinger.com or click the following link to get Jordan’s Free Networking course. We’re on a mission to impact a million men with powerful life changing content. If you enjoyed this article, please share it with your friends on your preferred social network on the left. I spent a ridiculous amount of time creating this article for you and with your support, we can impact the world together. Do you want my help? Then click here to join my elite community of 800+ high-performing men and get access to powerful coaching to close the gap from where you are now to where you want to be, The Secrets of the Top 1% of Men. Not only will you get tapped into your own “band of brothers”, but you’ll also have access to the best damn content and training available for men as well as weekly group calls with my team of transformative coaches. No whiny boys, complainers or dabblers, for serious men only. If you’re ready to push the boundaries of what’s possible in your life and become the man you’ve always wanted to be. This is the fastest way to do it.
Sam Morris is the founder of Zen Warrior Training®. In 1999, just after leading a bicycling trip for nine teenagers across the United States, Sam was in a car accident caused by a drunk driver which left him paralyzed from the waist down. Rather than becoming the victim of his circumstances, Sam learned and created a system of attitude training that brought him more vitality and clarity than he ever had before his injury. In addition to coaching private clients and businesses in Zen Warrior Training®, Sam hosts biweekly classes in Santa Monica, CA and leads community talks and workshops throughout the country. You can connect with Sam and learn more about him at zenwarriortraining.com Favorite Success Quote Self-consciousness is a lack of consciousness of the self Key Points 1. Expand Your Relationship with Yourself Beyond Your Mind  So often we get stuck in a place where our relationship with ourselves is limited only to our mind and the incessant mental chatter happening within it. From this place, it becomes difficult to understand who you truly are, what you want, and what you must do to achieve the range of experiences that you desire in this lifetime. Your breaths are shallow, your thoughts are cluttered with the opinions and expectations of others, and your truth is being clouded by noise, the ego, and your lack of presence. But when you expand your relationship with yourself beyond your mind, everything changes. When you get into your body and begin experiencing more frequent states of flow and presence, your reality changes. You no longer worry about what you said yesterday or fret about what you must do tomorrow. You are able to simply “Be” in this moment without judgment or criticism. And when you’re in this place of presence and freedom from judgment, you can be 100% you. I challenge you to make a conscious effort to get into your body this week. Go surfing, pick up an instrument, train parkour, lift heavy weights, do something that jolts you out of your head and into your body. Because when you are in your body and focused on your movements you are present, and when you are present, life opens up in ways that you can’t imagine. 2. Presence Frees You From Your Bullshit  When you are living in the past or the future, it’s easy to get stuck in your bullshit. Think about it… If you’re living in the past, you are thinking about what you did wrong, or how you could have done something better, or how you said this or didn’t say that. You are stuck in an endless loop, experiencing the same “negative” event over and over again in your head. This lack of presence eeks its way into your present moment and you begin to doubt yourself during conversations and constantly overanalyze yourself and your actions because you are so hung up on yesterday’s mistakes. Living in the future is no different. If you’re constantly focused on what you want to achieve tomorrow and the life you will have someday, then you aren’t focused on the amazing life you are living right now. And if you have the ability to read this article, you do have an amazing life. By getting present, you are able to be free from the bullshit. With presence, you cannot dwell on past mistakes and personal criticisms. You cannot get caught up in projecting a future that makes you dissatisfied with your current reality. When you are present, you are free. 3. Presence Accelerates the Human Experience Everything that you do is amplified by the power of presence. Everything… All of the greatest human experiences from creation to sex to friendship to adversity are all amplified by getting present. When you are present with a woman, your anxiety disappears and you are able to reveal yourself to her in a way that is completely and totally authentic. When you are present at work, you can tap into flow states and execute your craft masterfully in half the time that it would take if you were distracted. When you are present with yourself, you are in tune with your body and emotions and all the lessons to be learned from them (more on that later). Presence amplifies existence. Get present. 4. Success without a Strong Internal Identity is Inevitable Failure  One of the greatest mistakes a man can make is to tie his identity to something other than himself. When a man’s identity is contingent on his relationship with his woman, his work, his possessions, or anything outside of himself, his identity is inherently fragile and ripe for disruption. No one is impervious to the harsh realities of unexpected change. From a lay off to a divorce to an unexpected death, there are thousands of things that can disrupt your life and completely wreck all of the things that you now hold dear. And if your identity is wrapped up in these things, when they go, so too does your sense of self. If your identity is outside of yourself then it doesn’t take much to raze your identity and leave you feeling lost and uncertain about who you are. By cultivating a strong internal identity, you allow yourself to experience the storms of life with all of the pain and joy that comes with them. You experience everything but can be beaten by nothing. You are who you are. And that’s more than enough. 5. Feelings Are Teachers  Human emotions are the greatest teachers we’ve ever met. Whether positive or negative, any emotion that you feel is there to teach you something. It could be there to confirm that you are doing well, such as the bliss that you feel when you look at your partner, or the satisfaction that comes from a full day’s work. It could be to inform you that how you are acting is not working, such as the tension in your gut when it comes time to pay the bills or the apprehension you feel about getting your yearly physical. Or they could be there to tell you that the path you are on ultimately will not serve you such as the inexplicable “Gut feelings” so many of us receive whenever we are unknowingly out of alignment with our highest calling. If you are going to live this life to the fullest and truly embrace this existence, you must learn to feel your emotions, embody them, learn from them… Don’t flee from them. Never allow your emotions to scare or control you, but always notice them and give them the attention and intention that they deserve. Your emotions are your mentors and your guides on this crazy journey. Follow them and you will learn more than you ever imagined. Next Steps We’re on a mission to impact a million men with powerful life changing content. If you enjoyed this article, please share it with your friends on your preferred social network on the left. I spent a ridiculous amount of time creating this article for you and with your support, we can impact the world together. Do you want my help? Then click here to join my elite community of 800+ high-performing men and get access to powerful coaching to close the gap from where you are now to where you want to be, The Secrets of the Top 1% of Men. Not only will you get tapped into your own “band of brothers”, but you’ll also have access to the best damn content and training available for men as well as weekly group calls with my team of transformative coaches. No whiny boys, complainers or dabblers, for serious men only. If you’re ready to push the boundaries of what’s possible in your life and become the man you’ve always wanted to be. This is the fastest way to do it.
Jeff Hoffman is a successful entrepreneur, proven CEO, worldwide motivational speaker, published author, Hollywood film producer, and a producer of a Grammy-winning jazz album in 2015. He has been the founder of multiple startups, has been the CEO of both public and private companies, and has served as a senior executive in many capacities. Jeff has been part of a number of well-known companies, including Priceline.com. uBid.com, ColorJar, and more. Jeff is a featured business expert seen on Fox News, Fox Business, CNN, CNN International, Bloomberg News, CNBC, ABC, and NPR, and in publications including Forbes, Inc., Time, Fast Company, the Wall Street Journal, and more. You can find out more about Jeff and the work that he is doing by visiting his website at jeffhoffman.com Key Points 1. Don’t Fear Failure… Fear Not Trying  Failure is an inevitable part of life. Most of us spend our whole lives trying to escape and avoid it when we should be running towards it. We’ve been taught our whole lives that failure is somehow a bad thing, that it means you aren’t a “real” man, or that you aren’t good enough. In reality, failure is simply feedback. Instead of running from failure, embrace it. Learn to fear not trying instead of failing. … When you fail, you grow, you learn, and you improve. When you allow your fear of failure to control your actions you end up paralyzed and never take action. As a result, you stagnate, burn out, and eventually die with your best work inside of you. 2. Follow your Curiosity and Ignore the Labels It’s easy to allow your label to control you. Think about it… How many times have you thought to yourself “Wow, I’d love to dive into real estate investing, but I’m in IT, I can’t do that” Or “I would really enjoy learning how to dance the Tango, but I’m a powerlifter so that’ll never happen” Or even… “I’d really love to produce an album but I’m a marketing guy… That’s not really my style” We get so caught up in our own labels that we prevent ourselves from pursuing our deepest passions and curiosity. Remember: You are a learning machine… Not an occupation.  Just because you make money in a certain way or have been in a specific niche for a long time doesn’t mean that you can’t learn new skills. … It doesn’t mean that you can’t pursue new hobbies, passions, and businesses. As Joseph Campbell says, “Follow your bliss”. Pursue what makes you curious, no matter how odd or out of character it may seem. At the end of the day, the person who wins at life is the person who leaves it all on the field. So stop holding back from life because your interests don’t conform to your label. 3. Stick to One Pursuit at a Time  Although it’s important that you have a wide variety of interests and hobbies to pursue, it’s even more important that you understand how to successfully pursue each interest. How do you do this? … One at a time. Although Jeff has a wide variety of achievements and accolades ranging from the transportation business to the music & film industry to consulting and keynote speaking, he didn’t try to accomplish all of these things at once. He devoted himself single-mindedly to each task for a period of 3-5 years. In your own life, you can do anything that you want. But you must learn to focus on only one thing at a time… As the old adage goes, “The fox who chases two rabbits catches none.” Pick one passion, define what constitutes “success” with regards to that passion, pursue it single-mindedly until you achieve your goal an then move on. 4. Eradicate Your Fear of Failure with This Simple Exercise  If you are afraid of failure, then listen up. I’m about to share a fool proof strategy to eradicate your fear and move forward with your life. Are you ready? Then here it is… Anytime you are afraid of failing, dive into your failure. Ask yourself “What will happen if I fail and how can I recover?” For example, if you are considering starting a new business and you fail miserably, what will actually happen? … And more importantly, how can you minimize the damage? If you fail at the entrepreneurial endeavor you can: Move back in with your parents Get a 9-5 corporate job for 6-12 months Save every penny that you can Try again When you break it down, it doesn’t seem so scary, right? The concept of failure is often more terrifying than failure itself. When you look at the reality of your situation, you will quickly realize that you can overcome any setback with relative ease and quickly get back on your feet if things go South. So feel the fear. Figure out your escape plan. And then take action. 5. Begin with the End in Mind  One of the biggest mistakes that most entrepreneurs make is that they begin without a clear end goal in mind. They set all of these wild goals and ambitions but never really know where the path is ultimately going to take them. Before you set out to achieve anything, you need to begin with the end in mind. What counts as success? What counts as failure? What quantifiable metrics can you use to determine whether or not you’ve achieved success? When you have a clear end game in mind, the day to day tasks of pursuing a goal becomes much simpler. You know exactly what you need to do, what you need to avoid, and how you can expedite the path to your goal. Take some time to sit down after listening to this interview and write out answers to the following: What does success look like in my: Relationships Finances Career Personal development Physical health Spirituality When you know exactly what you are trying to get out of life, life has a way of helping you succeed. Begin with the end in mind and your path to success will be far smoother and simpler. 6. Make People Understand Your “Why”  Oftentimes, as men, we get so caught up in our careers and finances that we can neglect important relationships and connections in our life. One of the reasons that this is so easy to do is that we understand the bigger picture and just assume that everyone else in our life understands it as well. We think to ourselves, “I’m working this hard for my family, for my community, and for our future… Surely they understand”. But we never actually take the time to sit the important people down and help them understand why we are pushing so hard. Your wife and kids probably don’t know why you are always at the office. They assume that work is more important than they are and that you’d rather work than spend time with them. Even when this isn’t the case… As such, it’s important that you sell your proverbial “Board of Directors” (the important people in your life) on the “Why” of what you’re doing. Why are you working so hard to build this business or advance your career? Is it to… Retire early Pay for your kid’s college Take your wife on a 3 year round the world trip Get out of debt and have the money to work less than 10 hours a week Enjoy a better quality of life Give back to your community and make a real difference Why are you doing what you’re doing? Once you have the answer for yourself, share it with the important people in your life. More often than not, they will understand and rally to help you. 7. Ideas are Welcomed, Execution is Worshiped  Simply put, ideas are great but execution is where the magic happens. You can think and come up with ideas all day long. But if you don’t get your ass out of the chair and make moves to achieve your goals, you will remain stuck exactly where you are. Execution is everything. Without the grit and determination to take action and make things happen, you will never succeed. Become a master action taker and the world is yours. 8. Your Success is Someone Else’s Miracle  We live in such a guilt ridden society that it can be easy to get trapped in the mindset that success is dirty. … It’s easy to believe that making money is wrong and that you should give away all of your surplus. But this is a false concept. The more successful you are, the more power and influence you can exert to help others. When you have millions of dollars in the bank, it’s much easier to make a difference when disaster strikes. When you have vibrant physical health, it’s much easier to help others overcome their own challenges. When you are successful, you can show up as a miracle in someone else’s life. If you want to make a real difference in the world, then success is your duty and obligation. Forget what you’ve been told… Becoming successful doesn’t make you greedy or power hungry. It gives you the ability to make a difference. 9. What is Enough? In pursuit of any goal, whether its… Financial success Career success Marriage Physical health Travel & Adventure Or fame You must know when enough is enough. When can you call it quits and move on to the next goal or activity? If you don’t have a clear end game in mind, it’s easy to get caught in the comparison trap and waste your life constantly trying to compete with other people and buy the biggest boat, fastest car, or most luxurious mansion in town. Ask yourself… “What do I really need to be happy and feel fulfilled?” There’s no right answer for everyone, but the more clearly you can figure out what you need to be happy, the easier it will be to achieve it. Forget keeping up with the Joneses and showing off on Instagram. Figure out what brings you joy and makes you feel fulfilled and then go achieve it. Next Steps We’re on a mission to impact a million men with powerful life changing content. If you enjoyed this article, please share it with your friends on your preferred social network on the left. I spent a ridiculous amount of time creating this article for you and with your support, we can impact the world together. Do you want my help? Then click here to join my elite community of 800+ high-performing men and get access to powerful coaching to close the gap from where you are now to where you want to be, The Secrets of the Top 1% of Men. Not only will you get tapped into your own “band of brothers”, but you’ll also have access to the best damn content and training available for men as well as weekly group calls with my team of transformative coaches. No whiny boys, complainers or dabblers, for serious men only. If you’re ready to push the boundaries of what’s possible in your life and become the man you’ve always wanted to be. This is the fastest way to do it.
Isaiah Hankel received his doctorate in Anatomy & Cell Biology and is an expert on mental focus, behavioral psychology, and career development. His work has been featured in The Guardian, Fast Company, and Entrepreneur Magazine. Isaiah’s previous book, Black Hole Focus: How Intelligent People Can Create a Powerful Purpose for Their Lives, was published by Wiley & Sons and was selected as Business Book of the Month in the UK and became a business bestseller internationally. Isaiah has delivered corporate presentations to over 20,000 people, including over 300 workshops and keynotes worldwide in the past 5 years. Isaiah grew up working on a sheep farm in the Pacific Northwest of the US before going on to get his doctorate. Isaiah went on to become the founder and CEO of Cheeky Scientist®, a career training company that specializes in helping PhDs transition into corporate careers; he is also the director of Hankel Leadership®. Through these ventures, Isaiah has consulted on career development, employee management, entrepreneurship, focus, and motivation at several Fortune 500 companies. He has been invited to speak at top institutions including Harvard Medical School, Stanford University, Vanderbilt University, University of Chicago, University of Oxford England, the Marie Curie Institute France, and the St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital. You connect with him at his website. Favorite Success Quote “Take responsibility for your own life and never give that responsibility to other people” Key Points 1. Everything Is Your Fault Read that sentence again and internalize it. Everything in your life is your fault. Good. Bad. It doesn’t matter. It’s your fault. And that’s a good thing… If everything is your fault or, should we say, your responsibility, then you have control over everything in your life. When you take 100% responsibility for everything in your life and everything not in your life you are the only one who has the power to change things. Now I don’t know about you… But I would sure as hell prefer taking an uncomfortable amount of responsibility for my results than allowing someone else to determine my levels of achievement and success. Accept that everything is your fault. Unless you internalize this truth you will constantly give you power away and fail to reach the goals you have set. 2. Align Your Values with Your Daily Actions  One of the first steps to achieving the life that you want is defining the values that will drive you towards your dreams. Your values (should) determine how you conduct yourself, how you handle business, and how you treat others. This is not a matter to leave to chance or shirk off with a dismissive “It’s not really that important”. Living a life that is congruent with your values means the difference between living your biggest dreams and ambitions and wallowing away in mediocrity. When you have clearly thought through values that you have defined, written down, and committed to living in your day to day life, every decision becomes easier. You no longer have to debate decisions constantly in your head. You can simply analyze your options, refer back to your values, and make the decision that is most in line with your #1 priority. I challenge you to sit down after this interview has concluded and really think about your values. What do you value? What forces do you want driving and shaping your life? What outcomes are truly important to you and which ones are merely societally incepted b.s. that is incongruent with your deepest identity? When you can answer this question and authentically live it, life and all of the amazing experiences within it, are yours for the taking. 3. Your Most Valuable Asset is Your Mental Energy  People will often (mistakenly) tell you that your most precious resource is your time. They are wrong. Time is NOT your most valuable resource, mental energy is. Let me prove it… Multiple peer-reviewed studies have shown that your mental energy or “Willpower” is a finite resource. Much more finite than the #hustle generation wants to admit. The most commonly referred to research suggests that we only have 90-120 minutes per day of peak mental energy levels. And we only have about 5 hours a day of mental energy levels greater than 80%. Let’s do the math for a moment… If you live in a developed country, you have about 20,000 days or roughly 500,000 hours of life to live after the age of 18. However, of those 500,000 hours, your mental energy levels will only be at optimal  (80%+) levels for 145,000 of them! When you apply the laws of supply and demand you will quickly realize that your mental energy is worth about 300% more than your time! Crazy paradigm shift, huh? So now you understand why mental energy is your most precious resource. The question remains… What do we do about it? If you want to be a high performer then you must learn to work with your biology, not fight it. Dr. Hankel recommends that you shift your work schedule so that you tackle your most important tasks roughly 2-3 hours after waking. This is when your mental energy will peak and this will allow you to allocate your best focus time to important tasks. He further recommends taking frequent breaks throughout the day, working in 50-90 minute chunks, and using mental “Slump time” (typically 2-4 p.m.) to manage your most unimportant or simple tasks. 4. Prioritize Sleep More than You Think that You Should The great hustlers and movers of the world have done us all a disservice. They have glorified an unbalanced and unhealthy lifestyle that can lead to an early grave. You will often hear “Gurus” telling you to sleep only 4 hours a night, to draw inspiration from your dreams, to push through your exhaustion and just “Do IT!”. But they are all wrong. Unless you are one of the rare individuals with the DEC2 mutation you, quite literally, cannot function at optimal levels on less than 7.5 hours of sleep. (6 is a bare minimum) While you are sleeping your brain restore and repairs itself, allowing you to attack the next day with your mental energy firing on all levels. As we’ve already established, time isn’t your most valuable resource. Mental energy is. This means that the hours you “lose” sleeping you are actually “investing” in restoring your mental energy and operating at the peak capacities of which you are capable. 5. Everyone Should be an Entrepreneur  There is a common misconception that entrepreneurs are born not made. As technology continues to advance and the landscape of the workforce continues to change more and more people are realizing that “Part Time Entrepreneurship” is not only a worthwhile endeavor, it’s downright necessary. Company loyalty and pensions are a thing of the past. This is the era of the freelancer and the side hustler. If you want to “Make It” in today’s rapidly evolving business landscape, then you must develop your innate entrepreneurialism and find unique ways to generate income and create freedom in your life. Every single person reading this should keep their day job and start a side hustle. It will give you income, options, and most importantly freedom. You don’t have to be born with special skills and abilities, you simply need to find something that the market needs and provide it in a systematized and automated way.
Steve Sims is a kid from London with a knack for networking and an attitude that refuses to believe the word “Impossible”. Founder of the super exclusive, membership only personal concierge service for VIPs and executives seeking the ultimate in unique experiences and travel for themselves and their companies, Steve Sims is an unlikely expert marketer within the luxury industry. But his secret to success is that he’s built a life out of keeping his word, and not taking no for an answer. Profiled and often quoted in international publications including the Wall Street Journal, Forbes, London’s Sunday Times, and South China Morning Post, TV and Sims is a sought-after speaker at a variety of prestigious organizations such as the Pentagon and Harvard! Whether you want to sing with your favorite rock star, have lunch with Donald Trump, get married in the Vatican, or dive to the wreck of the Titanic, Steve Sims is the guy who gets to yes when the answer for anyone else would be no. You can connect with him and learn more at stevedsims.com Favorite Success Quote “No one ever drowned by falling in the water. They drowned by staying there.” ~Steve’s Father Key Points 1. It’s Not About How You Go Down It’s About How You Get Up  Life is hard. It will kick the crap out of you and leave you on the ground and there is very little you can do to avoid this. So stop trying to fight failure and accept it. You are GOING to fail. You are going to mess up. You are going to make bad decisions. You are going to lose money. You are going to fail at important relationships. You are going to fall down. But that’s not what is important. Everyone in the history of humanity has fallen down. What history cares about, what the marketplace and the “gods” of success care about is how you get up. If you are willing to pick yourself up off the ground, get back up, and start swinging again, life will reward you greatly. If you are willing to push through adversity, smile in the face of failure, and persevere no matter how many times you fall down, you will eventually succeed. Failure is inevitable. It’s what you do after you fail that makes all the difference. 2. People Will Pay to Avoid Rejection and Humiliation  If you are struggling to make ends meet, one of the quickest ways that you can increase your income is by becoming comfortable with rejection and humiliation. People all over the world will pay handsomely to avoid the discomfort of rejection. It’s simply part of human nature. Humiliation and rejection are not pleasurable experiences. But if you can learn to overcome your fear of rejection and humiliation and then leverage that skill to help others, there is no limit to the amount of money and influence you can create. 3. Communication Opens the Doors of Life  The “Secret Sauce” to becoming wildly successful in 2018 and beyond is simple… Master the art of communication. While everyone else stares down at their cell phones, stays addicted to their Crackberries, and struggle to make small talk while they’re in line for a coffee, you can accelerate your success by learning to communicate. Learn how to cut through the bullshit and start interesting conversations. Master the art of building reciprocity. Learn how to persuade people and connect with power players. Master the art of gift giving. Become a master communicator and the world will become your oyster. Our society is slowly but surely losing its ability to connect and collaborate. If you can maintain and improve your ability to network and build authentic relationships, there is no limit to what you can achieve. 4. Be Memorable  The worst crime that you can commit in a social situation is to be boring. The world is filled with boring and uninteresting people. It’s your job to stand out from the crowd, be authentic, and be memorable. This doesn’t mean that you should be an obnoxious clown or some sort of ass hole. It simply means that you must learn how to stand out in people’s minds. Learn how to make people feel special and how to present yourself in a way that is unique and unexpected. If you can successfully position yourself as a memorable and interesting individual you will have an abundance of business opportunities and romantic relationships coming your way. 5. Throw Sh*t at the Wall and See What Sticks  Life is about experimenting. Try out 1,000 things this year until you figure out what you like. Try three new things a day. Talk to as many strangers as you can. Throw shit at the wall and see what sticks.
Tal Gur, a blogger, entrepreneur, and devoted adventurer, has spent a decade pursuing 100 major goals around the globe. But his journey had its challenges. Like most people, he faced crippling self-doubt and struggled for a sense of purpose. Behind every difficulty, he discovered a life-changing gift, and now he’s passing what he learned onto others. You can connect with him and learn more at talgur.me Favorite Success Quote “Happiness before goals” Key Points 1. Put Your Happiness Before Goals Happiness should not be something that we defer until we achieve a specific goal. It should be a state of being that we cultivate every single day. It should be an emotion that we make incredibly easy to achieve. If you are reading this blog right now you have a lot to feel happy about. You have your sight. You have an internet connection and a device that is more powerful than the computers NASA used to put a man on the moon. You have full control of your brain and an ability to comprehend complex ideas and sentences. You have a LOT to be happy about. So act like it. Lower your barrier to happiness. Make a conscious effort to cultivate more happiness in your life by making it stupid simple to feel happy. When you wake up each morning, take a moment to feel happy for the warm sheets and cozy blankets covering your body. When you walk into work (even if you hate it) be happy that you have some sort of employment. When you come home each day, be happy that you have a roof over your head and food in your belly. Be happy now. Because now is all that we have. 2. Fulfillment is Dependent on Direction So often people assume that fulfillment is dependent on achieving some goal or arriving at some arbitrary destination. It’s not. Fulfillment should depend on one thing and one thing only… Direction. Sit down in a quiet place later this week and really ask yourself what direction you want to take your life. Don’t tie this to a specific goal or outcome, simply a direction. Do you want to move in the direction of more physical fitness? Greater financial freedom? More love and abundance? Whatever you decide, write it down and then commit to take three actions each day that move you in that direction. 3. Pain is a Messenger  Most people try to ignore or hide from pain. This is like trying to put a bandaid on cancer. Pain is a messenger. It’s there to tell you that something is broken and you need to fix it. If you have a broken arm, a shot of morphine will numb the pain but it won’t solve the problem. You need to visit a hospital, get a cast, and allow your bones to heal. Pain in your life is the same way. If you are depressed, anxious, or feeling overwhelmed… Good. This is a sign that something in your life isn’t working. And you have the power to fix it. Whenever you experience pain don’t run from it. Feel it. Experience it fully and sit in it for a few hours. Ask yourself, “What is this pain trying to tell me?” Are you in the wrong job or relationship? Struggling to be disciplined with your finances? Overweight and unhealthy? Before you run from the pain always try to uncover why you are experiencing pain in the first place. Because until you solve the root cause of the problem, you will never truly overcome the pain. 4. Focus on Financial Freedom First  People will often begin their journey of self-transformation by trying to fix their relationships, their career, or pursuing more of their passions. In most cases, this approach is completely backward. The first step that you should take to building your dream life and achieving your biggest goals is to achieve financial freedom. Until you have the money to do what you want, when you want, with whom you want, everything else should be secondary. Financial freedom will revolutionize every aspect of your life. It will allow you to travel more and pursue your passions with greater ease. It will allow you to have more choices in your relationships and care for the people you love. It will allow you to take care of your body and give yourself the care and attention you truly need. Financial freedom opens the doors of life and allows you to pursue your dreams on your terms. Focus on getting your money right first, and the rest will follow. 5. Pick One Thing and Stick With it to Completion  One of the most powerful ways to improve your quality of life is to master the art of single focusing on a task to completion. Life isn’t short. We make it short by chasing too many goals at once and filling our time with unnecessary garbage. By learning to pick a goal or project and see it through to completion, you will unlock one of the master skills of life and learn that you can accomplish anything you want with the right sequencing and a little perseverence. Pick one goal and stick to it. The benefits will be enormous.
Ryan Stewman is a high-performance sales coach and trainer who went from spending two stints in federal prison to building a multiple seven figure income. He is the author of several best-selling books including Kick-Ass, Bulletproof Business, Elevator to the Top, and Hardcore Closer. You can learn more and connect with Ryan at hardcorecloser.com Favorite Success Quote “You must take action before you can take over.” Key Points 1. Knowledge is Only Power if You Take Action  You often hear the phrase “Knowledge is Power”. This simply isn’t true. In and of itself, knowledge is useless. Knowledge doesn’t do anything. It can’t add money to your bank account. It can’t make you ripped. It can’t help you find the woman of your dreams. It can’t do a damn thing. As the (in)famous entrepreneur and investor Derek Sivers said: If [more]information was the answer we’d all be billionaires with six packs. But we aren’t and it isn’t. Knowledge is only power if it’s applied. It’s only worth a damn if you use it. It only matters when you leverage your knowledge to take massively informed action towards achieving the life of your dreams. 2. Everything But Death is Temporary  Everything in life is temporary. Good and bad. All of the pains, frustrations, and heartaches will eventually end. All of the success that you are enjoying will one day grind to a halt. Everything in your life will end. And this is a beautiful thing. Because life is temporary and fleeting, like the cliche feather in the wind, everything falls into place. When you are struggling you know that your struggles are temporary. When you are at the top, you take the time to savor the moment because you know that it will end. Keep perspective on your life, the good and the bad, by always remembering that “This too shall pass”. 3. Your Past Doesn’t Matter  This year alone, Ryan’s company will generate more multi-millions of dollars in revenue. Which illustrates a very important lesson… Your past doesn’t fucking matter. Who you were yesterday has no bearing on who you are today and Ryan is living proof of this. At 19, Ryan was strung out on every drug that you can imagine and dealing full time to make ends meet. He was eventually busted by the feds and sent to federal prison for several years. When he was released, he dove into the world of sales and eventually, was making so much money in real estate that he was again targeted by the police who thought he was still selling drugs. They raided his house and found zero evidence of any drug possession, use, or trafficking. In order to save face, they arrested for felon possession of a firearm (which resided in a legal grey zone). He was sentenced to prison again except this time, his then-wife stole all of his assets and left him for the man with whom she’d been having an affair. Talk about a mess, right? Upon his second release, Ryan dove into the world of sales again taking special care to keep his nose clean and, in the last two years, has grown his sales coaching business from $0 to multimillions in revenue. If a convicted felon and former junky who lost everything can rise from the ashes and rebuild his life to the top then so can you. So cut the excuses and quit using your past as a crutch. You are capable of achieving anything that you desire. But you have to overcome your excuses and hustle. 4. It’s All Sales  In life and business, you must become a master of sales. I know that the word conjures up images of sleazy used car dealers and snake oil peddlers but let me assure you, everything that you do is sales. Want to meet the woman of your dreams and convince her to marry you? That’s sales. Want to get funding for your new startup? That’s sales. Want to convince your kids that it’s important to read personal growth books and regularly exercise? That’s sales. Want to get your boss to give you a raise or move forward with one of your ideas? You guess it! Sales. Everything that you do is sales or, to put it in less cringy terminology, influence. If you lack this skill then your quality of life and success will suffer. If you can master it then the world is your oyster. 5. Take Massive Action. Fast Although I’ve already mentioned the importance of taking massive action in this article, it’s a point worth repeating. Experience is the best teacher and there is no book or course that can serve as a shortcut for rolling up your sleeves and getting your hands dirty. Your goal in business and life should be to acquire the MVIR or ‘minimum viable information required’ to take action on your next step. I’m not recommending that you simply take action without a plan or system to support you. I am saying that you should take action as soon as you have a concrete next step. You know what you need to do to improve your body, boost your income, or improve your love life. So go and do it. Once you’ve taken action, collect the MVIR for the next step and take action again. Information is important. But in a world where more than 2.5 million blog posts are published each day, information can also be a massive obstacle.
We live in a world caught between two extremes. In one breath, we eschew and vilify masculinity and traditionally “manly” virtues, labeling them as “toxic” and detrimental to society. Yet in another, we revel in them. Subconsciously pining for a resurgence in traditional masculinity. We are enamored with the classically masculine archetypes that proliferate our favorite movies, books, and TV shows (think Jon Snow, Don Draper, Hank Moody, and Captain America). The blood in our veins rips at the sight of a vicious knockout in the UFC and, as we watch the victor leap to the top of the cage with his arms held high in the air, we can’t help but imagine ourselves standing in his place…the taste of blood on our lips, the deafening roar of the crowd filling our ears, and the inner confidence of knowing that we are capable of handling ourselves in conflict. Yet all of our imagining does little to change the way we feel and show up in life. Despite our desire to “be the man”, to feel strong, accomplished, and powerful…our desires are left unmet. We are not the hero of our lives so we allay our growing sense of emasculation by watching other hero’s through a steady stream of action movies, video games, and extreme sports.  The reason is simple… Men today are lost. In the famous words of Bob Dylan, “The times, they are a-changing.” And modern men have failed to evolve with the changing times. As feminism has given rise to unprecedented equality men are faced with a growing and inescapable sense of obsolescence. Men aren’t needed in the way that we once were and, our seeming lack of utility has left men wondering, “What the hell am I supposed to do now?” We no longer have clear roles in society and men all over the world want to know how to be more masculine and even if it’s okay. And today, I'm going to give you the answers you've been looking for. 
oes it feel like something is missing internally? Like the fire that once consumed your very soul has been extinguished…replaced by frustration, dissatisfaction, and the exhausting monotony of working your fingers to the bone to fuel a materialistic lifestyle you no longer want or have never truly enjoyed?  Like you’re missing out on the most important things in life…the deep connections and friendship, the wild and exciting intimate relationships, and the lust for adventure and purpose that has fueled men for millenia.  Thoreau wrote, “The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation.” Look around you – this is as true today as it was then. Perhaps even more so.  And today, I'm going to teach you how to change it for good. 
Dr. David Lieberman is one of the most sought-after leaders in the fields of human behavior and interpersonal relationships. His groundbreaking research and writings have established him as a remarkable force of influence across a spectrum of fields and industries. His eleven published books, which include two New York Times bestsellers, have been translated into 27 languages, selling more than three million copies worldwide. Dr. Lieberman has appeared on more than 300 programs. He is a frequent guest expert on national television and radio shows, and he has been interviewed for, and featured in, leading newspapers and magazines around the globe. You can connect with Dr. Liberman and learn more at drdavidlieberman.com. Favorite Success Quote “Mental health requires an allegiance to reality at all costs to consequences ” Key Points 1. You Must Accept Reality  The first step to developing true mental health and emotional control is to accept the reality in which you live. As the famous words written on maps and billboards across the world state: “You are here” Wherever ‘here’ is… If you wish to create the life of your dreams you must start where you are. You must develop real clarity on where you are in the important areas of life, where you want to be, and (most importantly) what’s holding you back. I challenge you, right now, to write down the answer to the following questions: Where am I in my health? Where am I in my relationships? Where am I in my happiness, adventure, and play time? Where am I in my career? Until you have a clear picture of where you are, you will never be able to get where you are going. Be real with yourself and accept reality. Because once you do, life get’s a helluva lot more exciting. 2. Maximizing Your Potential Requires Enduring Pain  If any of you have watched the (now) mainstream classic “Rick and Morty” then you probably remember the episode with the Meseeks box. If you have a particularly astute memory, then you probably remember their tagline: “Existence is pain“. Although you don’t often uncover valuable life lessons from cartoons on Adult Swim, I’ve gotta hand it to the writers of the show… They were right. Existence is pain. Because there is nothing in life that can be achieved without pain and nothing that can be truly appreciated without adversity. Pain is what makes existence valuable, it’s what makes life worth a damn. Think about the Olympics that are going on right now. How would you feel if you walked up to the podium and were simply handed an Olympic Gold Medal? Sure, some of you might use it to brag or try and pick up women, but most of you reading this would feel completely and utterly cheated. Why? Because you didn’t earn it. You didn’t endure the pain of early morning workouts, strict diets, and sobriety. You didn’t experience the pain of grueling training sessions and years of dedication for that one moment of victory. Pain is what makes life valuable. So stop avoiding pain and start accepting it. Because the more comfortable you become with pain, the more pleasure and, ultimately, fulfillment you will experience. 3. Uncover Your Values… And Live Them  One of the biggest problems holding men back from achieving their true purposes is that most men aren’t living their lives based on their values. In fact, most men aren’t even consciously aware of what they value. Sure, every guy can tell you that he values family or fitness or money or success but do his actions reflect these values? Have you taken the time to clearly define the values that drive your life? Have you asked yourself the tough questions to help you understand what you care about and why? If not, then you are like a ship at sea with no rudder, a feather in the wind. Without clearly defined values you have no purpose, no mission, and no fire driving you forward. As soon as you finish listening to this podcast I challenge you to sit in silence and contemplate what you value. Once you have your values defined, make a list of actions associated with those values. From there, it’s simply a matter of living those values each and every day. 4. Anger Doesn’t Solve Problems (It Only Helped You Survive) One of the most critical steps to ridding your life of anger is to first change your relationship with it. Many men believe that anger is a good thing. They think that it’s somehow manly to get pissed off and try to solve problems with their fists or strained vocal chords. And while it’s certainly true that there are rare moments in most men’s lives where violence or aggression is called for, these moments make up less than 0.0001% of your lifetime interactions. In almost every other case, anger is simply a sign of weakness. It’s a sign that you lack control over yourself and, by extension, the world. The grounded man doesn’t get angry. The strong man doesn’t lose his temper. The wise man doesn’t scream and yell to make a point. Anger is childish and, what’s worse, is that it rarely solves problems. When was the last time that you got pissed off with a friend, family member, or romantic partner, began screaming at them and arrived at a positive outcome? I’m going to assume “Never” is the answer you would give. This is important to realize. Anger doesn’t solve problems. It simply makes them worse. Thousands of years ago on the plains of the Sahara, anger had its place in our survival instincts. But in 2018 it’s an outdated method for interacting with the world that needs to end. 5. Anger Stems from Poor Communication When you get angry with someone, especially someone to whom you are close, your anger typically stems from ineffective communication. Sure, there are times where someone is genuinely trying to egg you on and get a response from you. But 9 times out of 10, you are angry because the communication between you and someone who loves you wasn’t clear. Maybe a friend forgot your birthday, a lover said something that hurt your feelings or a family member berated you for a particular political or religious belief. Whatever the case, most anger is formed from misunderstanding, not genuine friction between two individuals. And that’s the catch 22. When we get angry with someone, the last thing that we want to do is sit down and attentively listen to what they have to say while trying to fully understand and internalize its meaning. All we want to do is prove that we are right and they are an a**hole. But I want to challenge you. Next time you get angry, stop. Take a deep breath and ask the other person what they really mean. What are they really trying to say and why are they saying it. Until you understand the root of the problem which, by the way, is NOT the fact that your wife forgot to do the dishes again, you will never solve anything. So calm down, shut up, and listen. It might not solve anything but it will allow you to enter into the interaction from a place of understanding.
Gary John Bishop is one of the leading Personal Development experts in the industry with a global reputation that has impacted tens of thousands of people worldwide. He is the author of Unf*ck Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life.  His “urban philosophy” approach represents a new wave of personal empowerment and life mastery that has caused miraculous results for people in the quality and performance of their lives. He calls it like it is while being influenced by ontology, phenomenology and the philosophy of some of the world’s greatest thinkers to help you be inspired, unburdened and grounded. Favorite Success Quote “You have the life you are willing to put up with.” Key Points 1. You Are Responsible for Being F*cked  Whenever you (or someone that you know) is confronted with the cold reality that they are utterly and completely f*cked, the initial reaction is almost always one of blame. “My parents were terrible! You don’t understand.” “Yeah, well I grew up poor so this is just how it has to be” “You don’t know what it’s like to be an [insert minority group of choice]!” Although every statement above could be true, it doesn’t change the facts. You are 100% responsible for your life. Why would you let anyone else control even a fraction of 1% of your life? Do you really want to leave your future, your potential, and your one life to the whims of other people? If not, then you must accept full responsibility for your life and move one. 2. Authenticity is Inherently About You Whenever people hear the phrase “Just be authentic”, they often assume that they now have free reign to say and react to others in any way that they choose. This is not authenticity, it’s called being an ass hole. Authenticity in your interactions is about expressing your truth and owning that truth. Let me give you an example of what I mean. Let’s say that a client of yours responded to an error in a manner that was completely inappropriate and unacceptable on both a personal and professional level. You are feeling frustrated, hurt, and angry by their actions and feel compelled to bring them up. There are two ways of going about this. The first way, (which most people choose) is to make the interaction about them. “How dare you treat me that way! You are such an ass hole and you clearly don’t value our working relationship! You can take this project and shove it because I can’t stand this crap anymore.” Although the statement might be true, it’s not productive because it’s focused on the other person instead of you. A more authentic way to approach the conversation would be to say: “Look, what you did yesterday made me feel very hurt and undervalued. I don’t know whether you understand how your actions affected our professional relationship, but I wanted to let you know that I will no longer be able to continue working with you if we have another incident like that.” When you shift the focus from the other person and onto yourself, you step into your power and own your responsibility for your feelings and your response to those feelings. 3. Someone Somewhere Has Dealt with What You Are Dealing With  It’s funny how often I hear the words “No one knows what I’m going through”. It doesn’t really matter what the topic is about. It could be an abusive childhood, a controlling partner, a crappy boss, bad health, or any wide variety of ailments and general shittiness. But the simple fact of the matter is that someone somewhere has experienced the exact same thing that you are struggling with and they have turned this perceived weakness into their greatest strength. Sean Stephenson was born with a genetic deformity that stunted his growth, permanently confined him to a wheelchair, and weakened him so much that he’s broken every bone in his body. Yet he’s an inspiration to millions. Tony Robbins was abused as a child and kicked out of his house, left to live on the streets at 16. Today, he is worth more than $1 billion and coaches some of the world’s top performers to the top. Grant Cardone lost his father at the age of 9, became addicted to drugs at 16, and was in line for unemployment at 26. Today, his real estate empire has helped him amass a fortune of more than $750 million with a beautiful wife and two children. Whatever excuse you are allowing to hold you back… It’s bullshit. Someone somewhere has gone through the same things as you and worse. It’s up to you to choose a more empowering story, follow their example, and reclaim control of your life. 4. Always Seek to be of Service When we are focused on ourselves, life can quickly become a pit of chaos and confusion. The smallest obstacles derail us from our dreams, our emotions run wild, and we get so caught up in our own drama that we can miss out on the beauty of our lives. The simplest and most powerful way to fix this issue is to shift your focus from yourself to others by seeking to be of service. This doesn’t mean that you are a doormat but rather that you actively look for opportunities to serve others. In the office, do what you can to serve your boss, your clients, and your customers. At home, seek to serve your wife, your children, and your family. When you go into the gas station, think of how you can serve the attendant helping you find your favorite candy bar. Always look for ways to serve others and your life will transform at a pace you cannot imagine. 5. If You Want Something You Must Express It Something I’ve always found a bit frustrating about our society is how many people feel that they are entitled to things. People want raises without producing more value. They want respect without earning it. And, as it pertains to our conversation, they look for love without expressing it. How man women have you met who complain that they can’t find a “Nice Guy” while sleeping with a different ass hole at the club each week? How many men have you met who complain that they “Can’t find a good girl” and yet spend their weekend’s nose deep in cocaine and hookups? How many people have you met who are always looking for love but never willing to start by giving love themselves? If you want to experience something, then you must be the kind of person who is capable of manifesting and generating it in your own life. In the examples above, if you want a quality partner, you must first become a quality human being. If you want more money, you must first provide more value. If you want more love, you must first express and give love freely before you expect it to be returned to you. Stop searching for the things that you want and start expressing them. As soon as you make this shift, your life will change forever. Influential Books 1. Man’s Search for Meaning by Dr. Viktor Frankl 2. Being and Time by  Martin Heidegger 3. Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck.   Next Steps We’re on a mission to impact a million men with powerful life changing content. If you enjoyed this article, please share it with your friends on your preferred social network on the left. I spent a ridiculous amount of time creating this article for you and with your support, we can impact the world together. Want to become the strongest version of yourself? 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Kenneth Shamrock (born Kenneth Wayne Kilpatrick; February 11, 1964) is an American mixed martial artist, Ultimate Fighting Championship (UFC) Hall of Famer, and retired professional wrestler. He emerged as one of the biggest stars in the history of mixed martial arts, headlining over 15 main events and co-main events in the UFC and Pride Fighting Championships during the course of his career and set numerous pay-per-view records. Shamrock is widely considered to be a legendary figure and icon in the sport of mixed martial arts. Shamrock was named The World’s Most Dangerous Man by ABC News in a special entitled “The World’s Most Dangerous Things” in the early part of his UFC career, a moniker which has stuck as his nickname. Favorite Success Quote “You have no idea what I’m willing to do to get where I’m going.” Key Points 1. Be Willing to Do Whatever it Takes If you want to truly succeed in the most competitive environments then you must cultivate a “Whatever it Takes” mentality. This doesn’t mean that you are willing to engage in unethical or immoral activities, simply that you are willing to sacrifice, to hustle, and to grind your way through any challenge and any adversity. For those of you who are content to be in second place (and there’s nothing wrong with that), doing whatever it takes isn’t truly necessary. You can skate by, cut corners, take shortcuts, and still arrive at your destination. But if you want to be the best, the top 1%, a leader, mover, and shaker in your industry, then you must show up early, stay late, and outwork all of your competition. The price of admission is high, but the rewards are worth it. 2. You Have to Choose Yourself In business and in life, most people wait to be called on. Like a child being called on by the teacher instead of raising their hand, most people wait until life presents them with an opportunity or opens a door. If you want to play the game of life in the top echelon of society, then you need to find opportunities and kick the doors down yourself. Or as previous podcast guest James Altucher puts it, you must Choose Yourself. No one is going to give you the freedom, the career, or the lifestyle that you desire. If you are a man, then do what needs to be done and take it for yourself. Take massive action, take huge initiative and do the work. Because if you don’t… Someone else will. 3. If You Don’t Seize the Moment Someone Else Will Life is competition. Anyone who has even the most basic understanding of our species’ history and the story of evolution knows this. Although we live in a world filled with abundance and a plethora of resources, we also live in a world filled with fierce competition. And the most dangerous thing that you can do in your life, relationship, or career is to hesitate and allow someone else to seize your moment. Think about how many times you saw that pretty girl, had that business idea or wanted to make that change but you didn’t. You hesitated, you waited, and you procrastinated. But someone else didn’t. Someone else went up and introduced himself, someone else set up their LLC and took action on their idea, someone else made the change, reaped the rewards and enjoyed the spoils of their labor… But you didn’t. In each of our lives, we are presented with a small handful of pivotal moments where we must decide whether we will take action or not. It is in these moments that your destiny is shaped. Don’t allow someone else to shape it for you. Take action, seize the moment, and live the life you’ve always dreamed of. 4. Find Your “Person”  If you continue down your current trajectory of personal and professional development, sometime in the future, you will arrive at a place in your life where you are surrounded by “Yes Men.” Your success and reputation will be so great that the people in your social circle will rarely tell you the truth and will, instead, try to tell you what they think you want to hear. This is one of the most dangerous places any man can be. You must find someone, whether a friend, relative, or coach who will tell you the truth all the time with compassion. You need someone in your life who will tell you when you are messing up, when you are on the right track, and when you need to shut up and get things done. Find your “Person” who will always be honest with you and you will find that your life will be a lot smoother and easier than it will when you operate on the opinions of impressed “friends”. 5. Slow Down and Be Patient  Life is a marathon, not a sprint. It seems like our instant gratification society has lost touch with the realities of life and, the simple truth is that life is meant to be lived and experienced. Don’t be so eager to achieve great things that you forget to live your life and enjoy the journey. Be patient and allow success to happen in its own time and its own way.
Russell Whitney is an entrepreneur, philanthropist and a recognized worldwide leader in the business, real estate investment, and financial training fields. Russell prospered in both business and real estate and eventually used his knowledge and experience to help others do the same. Over the past 15 years, he has traveled the world speaking to audiences as large as 10,000, at one time to a fully packed arena. He has spoken alongside luminaries like Donald Trump, Robert Kiyosaki, Anthony Robbins, and George Foreman, always spreading his message of how to take immediate action to achieve financial goals and dreams by following his easy-to-follow, step-by-step process. Favorite Success Quote “Rock bottom is the foundation that you can build upon” “If you truly want something you will find a way, if you don’t you will find an excuse.” Key Points 1. Fear of the Unknown Disappears when you Commit to Massive Self Education The one thing that holds most people back from achieving the life that they want is not laziness, procrastination, or ignorance. It’s fear of the unknown. When you don’t know what will happen next, it’s easy to become complacent and get trapped in mediocrity. You think to yourself “Things aren’t that bad right now. If I quit my job, leave this relationship, or move to a new city, everything could go horribly wrong!” And these thought patterns keep you stuck in your current situation and prevent you from ever achieving your dreams. So what’s the solution? Massive self-education through books, courses, and mentors. Other people have been where you are right now, taken massive action, and experienced the joy and pain inherent in the goals you are pursuing. Instead of trying to do it all on your own, learn from others. By educating yourself on your goal you will know what obstacles to expect, how to overcome the challenges you will experience, and how to capitalize on opportunities that come your way. When you educate yourself, fear disappears. 2. Sales is the Key to All Financial Success If you want to succeed at business and in life, then you must become a master of sales. There’s no way around it. Regardless of what you do to make money or what your goals are in life, sales is the key to unlocking everything that you want. Want to make millions of dollars with real estate? Then you must learn to sell the leads, prospects, and clients on why they should work with and buy from you. Want to have a beautiful spouse and an amazing family? Then you must go out and sell yourself to your ideal partner and convince them that they should be with you and not the millions of other men out there. Want to lose weight, gain muscle, and get in the best shape of your life? Then you must go out there and sell yourself on why it’s a ‘must’ for you to go to the gym and eat clean every day. Sales is the key to everything. The sooner you can master it the sooner you can have the life that you want. 3. Use Fear of Failure as your Greatest Motivation After the 2008 market collapse, Russel lost everything. He went bankrupt, became homeless, severed ties with his family and friends, and developed a massive drug problem. One night as he was contemplating suicide, he suffered from a drug-induced schizophrenic episode and flushed every narcotic that he had down a toilet. He committed to himself that he was going to get sober and rebuild his life and in a little under 3 years, he went from living on the streets to reaching multi-millionaire status. He told me that the reason he is so “Disciplined” with his finances and lifestyle today is not willpower or a commitment to his future, but rather a crippling fear of going back to rock bottom. In our modern society, we often treat fear as a negative thing. In some cases (as with fear of the unknown) fear can cripple us and prevent us from taking action. But in other cases, fear can be our most powerful ally in driving ourselves towards the life that we want. Learn to harness your fear and you’ll be amazed at the results that you can achieve. 4. The Key to Success is Humility and Drive  In our interview, Russel shared a story about one of his students who was a young 20-something who went from a college dropout to multi-millionaire with online business in only a matter of months. When I asked him what separated his student from the other people he’d mentored Russel’s answer was simple. “He’s willing to listen to people who are smarter than he is and he has a tremendous hustle and drive.” Humility and drive. If you want to achieve your biggest goals, it will not be easy. But it is simple. If you are willing to learn from people who are smarter than you, be humble about your abilities, and obsessed with your craft, you will succeed. Period. It may take months, years, or even decades, but if you are willing to be humble and put forth a tremendous effort, nothing can stand in the way of achieving success. 5. As Soon as You Make Money Throw it Away (Invest) I’m about to give you the secret to financial abundance and freedom for the rest of your life. Are you ready? Here it is… Stay broke and invest every extra dollar you make.  It’s that simple. If you are willing to set a reasonable budget for yourself so that you can enjoy your lifestyle and you are willing to increase your income and invest every single dollar into income producing assets, you will become a millionaire over the course of your life. It doesn’t matter how much money you make or how many bills you have. If you can set a budget, increase your income to exceed your budget, and invest the surplus, you will get rich.
Olaniyi “Niyi” Sobomehin is a former American football fullback. He played college football at Portland State. He was signed by the New Orleans Saints as an undrafted free agent in 2008. After being cut from the NFL due to an injury, Olaniyi decided to begin coaching and from there, in addition to being a full-time firefighter, he has built a coaching company imnotyou.com to help young athletes be successful at an elite level. You can connect with him and learn more here, imnotyou.com Favorite Success Quote “People wish to be settled but only as far as they are unsettled is there any hope for them.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson Key Points 1. You Must Have a Vision  Before you can achieve any goal, you must first set that goal. Before you can arrive at a destination, you must know what destination you wish to arrive at. Before you can live the life of your dreams, you must have a vision for what that life looks like. So many men today walk around aimlessly, without any real vision or purpose to their lives. Maybe they have some arbitrary goals that they set because society told them to, but they lack a visceral purpose and vision that pushes them forward in life. If you hope to live a great life, a life of meaning, a legendary life, then you must start with your vision. Who do you want to be? What do you want to achieve? How do you want to show up every day? How many lives do you want to impact? Until you know the answers to these questions, you cannot achieve the life you were born to achieve. 2. Reverse Engineer Your Vision and Treat Failures as Opportunities  Once you have a vision, you have just gotten started. With your vision clearly written down, you must reverse engineer the steps that are required to achieve that vision until you have a long list of small steps that will help you achieve your goals in the coming years. Once you know what steps you need to take and when you need to take them (this will take you a long time to figure out), you must take daily massive action and learn from everything you do. You must remember that failure doesn’t mean you’re out of the game, it means you have a chance to learn. For example, if you sit down to work and have a completely unproductive day, instead of viewing this as a failure, ask yourself “What did I learn?” Maybe you learned that your phone needs to be on airplane mode throughout the workday. Maybe you learned that you need to have your days planned before you begin them. Or maybe you learned that you just need to get some extra sleep because you’re too damn exhausted to work. Whatever you learn, write it down, tweak your approach, and continually learn from the process until you achieve your goal. 3. Stay Hungry and Focus on Growth  One of the biggest traps into which many men fall is the trap of success and complacency. You see, many of us start with relatively small visions that we achieve early on in life. Maybe you’ve sold your business, finally earned the 6-figure salary, or married the woman of your dreams. That’s great, but you’re not even close to finished. In fact, you’re just getting started. Life is all about expansion, it’s about growth, it’s about constantly striving to be, do, and achieve more. Instead of resting on your laurels, you must stay hungry. Even when you are enjoying the fruits of your hard work, you must set your sights on the next milestone, the next goal, and the next vision. Because if you don’t, if you settle in your current circumstances, you will eventually atrophy and die, leaving this world with so much potential left on the table. No matter how successful you are or how much success you achieve, you must remember the famous words of Steve Jobs and “Stay hungry, stay foolish”. 4. Commit Yourself to Discipline Every Single Day Most of you have probably heard our interview with Jocko Willink where he echoes his infamous statement that “Discipline Equals Freedom”. And most of you treat this statement as a convenient war cry instead of an ethos by which you live your life. Most men commit to discipline sporadically and as a result, they make great achievements and breakthroughs sporadically as well. They are disciplined when they need to be but they aren’t disciplined when they should be. And this reality is clearly reflected in their success and failures. If you want to be one of the greats, if you want to be a legend, if you want to be the kind of person who people remember, then you must be willing to discipline yourself daily. You must make a commitment to discipline every day that you wake up, you must stand strong in your values, and take massive action towards your goals even when you don’t need to. This is the only way to achieve lasting success and it’s the only way that you will leave a dent in this universe. 5. Surround Yourself with the Right People  When you have created a vision, reverse engineered that vision, committed yourself to discipline, and begin learning from your failures, there is only one final step towards ultimate achievement. Your network. Who you surround yourself with is one of the single most important factors in anyone’s journey. If your five closest friends are millionaires, high achievers, and grounded men, then you will be the sixth. Conversely, if your five closest friends are slobs, party animals, and lost boys then you will become the sixth. You are the average of your five closest friends so pay careful attention to the company that you keep… It can literally make or break your success.
Charles Duhigg is a Pulitzer-prize winning reporter and the author of Smarter Faster Better, about the science of productivity and The Power of Habit, about the science of habit formation in our lives, companies, and societies. You can connect with him and learn more at charlesduhigg.com/. Favorite Success Quote “Think more deeply about what’s going on so that I can determine how I should respond?” Key Points 1. Ask Yourself “What Do I Really Want Out of This?” One of the greatest tragedies of modern society is that most people are vigorously pursuing goals that aren’t congruent with who they are and what they really want. Society, our friends, and our families all encourage us to earn more money, pack on more muscle, get married (or not), buy a house, and do what “good” little boys do. Unfortunately, most people never actually take the time to ask themselves what they really want. They never set aside the time to think purposefully about their life, their vision, and their goals. As a result, more and more people arrive at their deathbeds wishing that they could live their lives over again in a different way. I want to encourage you to take a step back and ask yourself “What do I really want from this?” In every situation, whether it’s in the bedroom, the boardroom, or the gym, set aside the time to think deeply about what you really want and how you can attain it. 2. Your Habits are Predicated on Queues, Actions, and Rewards While the old saying, “Knowing is half the battle” might be a little bit hyperbolic, it’s origins are found in reality. If you don’t truly understand a system, process, or job, you will never be able to accomplish it successfully and nowhere is this truer than in the realm of productivity, habits, and performance. Most people simply assume that they are lazy or a procrastinator or just plain unlucky. But the reality is that most people have never been taught how to properly build the habits of success into their lives. Luckily, building a habit… Any habit is very simple (notice I did not say easy). Habits can be broken into three parts: The trigger, the action, and the reward. If you’ve ever been addicted to cigarettes then I have no doubt that you are uncomfortably familiar with this process. You see a cigarette or experience stress (the trigger), you pull out a smoke and light it up (the action/habit), and then you experience a buzz from the nicotine and a sense of relaxation (the reward). But the same pattern can be found in positive habits. For example, you might see your running shoes and gym clothes (the trigger), decide to go workout (the action), and then experience a rush of endorphins and endocannabinoids that give you a feeling of elation and euphoria (the reward). Every habit can be broken down into these three simple steps and when you understand this framework you will be able to manipulate your actions and outputs at will. Pay close attention to the “Reward” element of this framework and you will be able to change your habits quicker and easier than you ever believed possible. 3. The Small Daily Decisions Matter  It doesn’t matter what you had for lunch today, if you went to the gym or not, how many drinks you had, or how much you slept. But what does matter is what you consistently have for lunch, how often you go to the gym, how frequently you drink, and how serious you are about the quality of your sleep. For most people, there is no one action that will make or break their life and success. Instead, their lives are the direct result of thousands of tiny actions and decisions made overtime. When you realize this, you will begin to see the small decisions in a different light. Because even though one action might not make a difference today, when that action is repeated and compounded over years and decades, it will literally determine the quality and capacity of your life. 4. Set S.M.A.R.T. Goals  With the new year right around the corner, many of you are undoubtedly setting New Year’s resolutions. Although I think resolutions are a terrible idea (which I will be discussing in an upcoming article), if you are going to set resolutions, Charles shared a few simple tips to help you actually stick to them this year. For starters, you want to set two major goals, a stretch goal and an easy goal. The stretch goal should scare the crap out of you and be something that you aren’t 100% certain you can achieve. It shouldn’t be unrealistic, just difficult. Your second major goal should be an important habit or result that you know you can achieve if you are simply willing to put in the work. Once you have your goals, you are going to break them down using the SMART formula. Specific: What do I want to achieve? Who is required to achieve it? What resources will I need? Measurable: How much? How many? How will I know my goal is achieved? Achievable: How realistic is this goal based on my current restraints? Relevant: Is this goal worthwhile? Is the timing right? Is it applicable in my current environment? Time Bound: When will my goal be achieved? What benchmarks and checkpoints should I set for myself? When you break down a goal in this manner, you clear all of the clutter from your mind and you’re left with nothing but clear, actionable steps that will help you get from where you are to where you want to be. 5. Assume That You Will Achieve Success  One of the biggest roadblocks on your path to achieving your goals are your own limiting beliefs and b.s. internal stories. But I’ll let you in on a little secret. You are already doing better than you think you are and you’re much more likely to achieve success than you probably believe. So why not act in a way that is reflective of this reality? Assume that you will be successful at every endeavor you pursue. Assume that if you are willing to stick it out and persevere, you will achieve your goals and dreams. Act as if you are already successful, put in the work, and you will achieve the goals you’ve set for yourself.
Dan Millman is a former world champion athlete, university coach, martial arts instructor, and college professor. After an intensive, twenty-year spiritual quest, Dan’s teaching found its form as the Peaceful Warrior’s Way, expressed fully in his books and lectures. His work continues to evolve over time, to meet the needs of a changing world. Dan’s seventeen books, including Way of the Peaceful Warrior, have inspired and informed millions of readers in 29 languages worldwide. The feature film, “Peaceful Warrior,” starring Nick Nolte, was adapted from Dan’s first book, based upon incidents from his life. Much of Dan’s time is devoted to writing and speaking. His keynotes, seminars, and workshops span the generations to influence men and women from all walks of life, including leaders in the fields of health, psychology, education, business, politics, sports, entertainment, and the arts. Dan and his wife Joy live in Brooklyn, NY. They have three grown daughters and four grandchildren. You can connect with him and learn more at peacefulwarrior.com Favorite Success Quote “Success is making progress towards a meaningful goal” “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” Key Points 1. Seek Excellence Not Success One of the most common mistakes that people make in their pursuit of happiness is that they seek success instead of seeking excellence. Let me break down what this means… Most people, especially the kinds of people who listen to this podcast and read this blog, are future and goal oriented. We are laser-focused on the attainment of something, on the accomplishment of something sometime in the distant future. But what we often forget is that these accomplishments for which we are striving are made up of individual pieces. For example, no one can “Build a Business”. A business is built by doing hundreds, maybe even thousands of small things well. You don’t “Build” your dream body by doing one thing once. You build your dream body by doing thousands upon thousands of reps with perfect form. And that is where your focus should be. Yes, you must have compelling goals that push you forward and encourage you to perform at your best. But you must always remember that every worthy goal is comprised of thousands and thousands of micro-actions that you must take in the present moment. They are the product of committing to excellence in the present moment and maintaining that commitment year after year after year. Focus on doing things with excellence and success will inevitably follow. 2. The Quality of Your Moments Becomes the Quality of Your Life  In the same way that many people mistakenly pursue success instead of pursuing excellence, many of us devote our lives to the pursuit of the “Good Life”. We hustle, grind, and sacrifice so that, one day, we can finally be happy and enjoy a high quality of life. We give up the things that are most important for an uncertain future that may or may not bring joy and fulfillment into our lives. And by doing this, we forget to live our lives as they are happening. We fail to realize that the “Good Life” is nothing more than a life filled with “Good Moments”. If you want a good life, you must have good years. To have good years, you must have good months, weeks, and days. And to have good days, you must have good moments. You must learn to embrace where you are right now and enjoy the moment for all that it is. Because the present moment is everything. It’s all that you have. There is no future. There is no past. There is only now. So live in the now. Cultivate those small moments of joy, happiness, and excellence. If you do this, I promise you that you will look back on your life with a smile, knowing that you lived it well. 3. Trust the Process of Your Life Unfolding  This if the 400th interview that I’ve conducted on the Knowledge for Men podcast and, after almost 4 years of interviewing top achievers, thinkers, and performers, I’ve noticed an interesting pattern. Success, happiness, and fulfillment almost always exist on the other side of pain. Grant Cardone was struggling with a drug addiction, broke, and unemployed before he found his future in sales and real estate. Ryan Blair was involved in the most dangerous L.A. gangs almost sentenced to a decade of incarceration before he fell in love with entrepreneurship. Bedros Keulian was literally digging through dumpsters to find food before he created the 8-figure fitness empire that he now owns today. Yet these men trusted the process (admittedy they may have done so unconsciously). They were willing to take a leap of faith and trust the process of their life unfolding. They were able to accept that, as Steve Jobs said, “You will never connect the dots looking forward, only looking backward. So you have to somehow trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” And you must do the same. Trust the process of your life unfolding. Live in the present moment. Have faith in yourself and in the universe and realize that life is an adventure that is meant to be lived… Not avoided. 4. Anticipation is One of the Greatest Sources of Suffering  One of the most sinister and seemingly innocuous sources of suffering is anticipation. Think about it like this… Imagine that there is a co-worker whom you cannot stand. The kind of person who makes your skin crawl and your stomach turn into a knot. Imagine that later today, you have a meeting and you know that this particular co-worker will be in attendance. In anticipation of the event, you imagine all of the possible outcomes in your head, forcing yourself to live in an unpleasant and mentally exhausting reality that hasn’t even happened yet! You bring yourself into a state of dissatisfaction and discomfort because you are living in future pain even though the present moment is completely tranquil! How differently could this scenario be if you simply allowed yourself to live in the moment. To know that you will have to face your peer but… Not yet. To give yourself permission to say “I am not in that situation in the present moment so I am going to live life now and cross that bridge when I get there.” 5. We Are All Just Humans  At the end of the day, we are all human beings on this journey together. We have different views, beliefs, personalities, and desires, but we are all people. We all experience deep emotions, we all have dreams and desires, and we all have struggles to overcome. Even the seemingly invincible characters like Tony Robbins, Gary Vaynerchuk, or Bradd Pitt have problems. We are all humans. No one person is inherently better or worse than anyone else. We are all in this race together. So why can’t we start acting like it? Instead of judging others and blaming them for their shortcomings, seek to understand and empathize with their struggles. Instead of acting superior to your fellow man, remember the times in which you acted and behaved in unscrupulous or unsatisfactory ways. Instead of pretending that you are on this journey alone, remember that we are all in this together. Man, woman, black, white, gay, straight, republican, democrat… We are all in this together. The sooner we realize this, the sooner we will unlock our specie’s true power.
Mastin Kipp is the #1 best-selling author of Daily Love: Growing into Grace and his latest book Claim Your Power and has been recognized by Oprah Winfrey on her Emmy-award winning show Super Soul Sunday as a “spiritual thinker for the next generation.” He is the founder of Functional Life Coaching (TM) and has appeared alongside Tony Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Dr. Brene Brown and others as a part of Oprah’s Super Soul 100, a collection of awakened leaders who are using their voices and talent to elevate humanity. He leads sold-out seminars and retreats all over the world, and collectively two million people in over 100 countries have been influenced by Mastin’s work. You can connect with him and learn more at mastinkipp.com. Favorite Success Quote “Unless you’re in mortal danger, fear is a compass showing you where to go.” Key Points 1. You Always Have a Choice Between What is Easy and What will Lead to Your Dreams  In every person’s life, they will come to a hallway, perhaps many hallways where they will be presented with a simple choice. Will they take the first door on the left, the door that leads to ease, comfort, and safety? Or will they take the second door, the door on the right that exposes them to danger at every corner but allows them to live their lives fully and completely? When you take the first door, you make the decision to play safe to avoid doing the uncomfortable things that will drive you towards your dreams, and eventually, you become so bitter and jealous of other’s success that you begin to sabotage yourself and your goals. When you take door number two, you take a bold step into uncertainty. And it’s terrifying. But it’s also worth it. 2. What’s Really Going On?  If you have found yourself stuck in a rut, unable to break free of the habits and tendencies that have kept your life where it is today, then you need to take a step back and ask yourself, “What’s really going on?” Peel back the layers of the onion and look beneath the surface. Maybe you are terrible at relationships and no matter how many beautiful women you bring into your life, they all seem to leave faster than they show up. Are you really terrible at relationships or is there something in your past, some sort of unresolved trauma or experience that is causing you to subconsciously sabotage yourself? Is there a deeper reason for the struggles that you are experiencing? A common one that I see with many men is the problem of laziness and procrastination. I know so many men who are powerful, excited and motivated about life, but when it comes time to actually go to work, they drag their feet and fail to accomplish even the most basic tasks. Are they lazy? Maybe. But I think the real problem is that their subconscious is telling them that there is an incongruence. Maybe they are working a job they aren’t passionate about, maybe they are in a business they don’t really love, or selling a product they don’t truly believe in. Whatever the case may be, you will never be able to fix your biggest problems until you understand the root of the problems themselves. What’s really going on? 3. Don’t Just Use Your Pain… Transcend It  Your pain is a powerful motivating force, but it must be used for good. I see so many men who are burnt out and struggling simply because they’ve spent the past decade of their lives fueled by pain. Pain is often the spark that can start a fire in your life. But if you aren’t careful, it can also be the fire that consumes and burns your life to the ground. Therefore, we must learn to transcend our pain and trauma. Use it to ignite the fire you need to make bold moves and step forward in life and then… Let it go. Come to terms with your pain, let go of your suffering, and forgive whoever and whatever hurt you. Pain is a powerful ally. But it can be an even more powerful enemy. 4. Start with What You Have Where You Are If you are broke, struggling, and depressed, then this is one of the most powerful pieces of advice that you will ever hear. You cannot win the marathon that is life until you start running. And the only way to start running this race is to start where you are with what you have. You might be living in a 400 square foot apartment with no running water and $50,000 in debt. Great. Start where you are with what you have. You might be living a great life but you know that you can do better if you just knew how. Great. Start where you are with what you have. There is no better time to start moving towards your dreams than today. No matter what you have or don’t have. No matter what you lack or need. Start where you are with what you have. 5. Your Purpose is Based on an Emotional State and Nothing Else I often hear guys who will tell me that they are unsure of their purpose in life. But what’s funny to me is that no one seems to have agreed upon what purpose actually means. In the same way that 30 different people can all believe in “God” but they all have wildly definitions of who/what “God” is, thousands of you reading this will all have different definitions of what purpose is and how you pursue it. But here’s the thing. Purpose is extremely simple. Your purpose is nothing more than an emotional state that matters to you and your ability to express and cultivate that emotional state. Purpose is the feeling that you get when you are acting in a way that is congruent with what you want. Purpose is the emotion that you feel when you are expressing yourself at the highest level. Purpose is a fluid emotional state that can change and shift on a daily basis. So stop worrying about finding your purpose and realize that it’s your responsibility to cultivate your purpose.
Noah Kagan was #30 at Facebook, #4 at Mint.com, and is the Chief Sumo (founder) of SumoMe, a company which offers free tools to help grow website traffic. He has built 4 products that each generated 7-figures and become one of the leading marketing experts in the world Favorite Success Quote “The squeaky wheel gets the grease” “You’re not important and no one cares” Key Points 1. Just Do Things You Enjoy  As far as we know, we only have one life. We only have one opportunity to live, laugh, and love. So why is it that so many of us waste our precious time doing shit that we don’t like? Why do we work jobs that we hate, stay in relationships that we don’t enjoy, and force ourselves to spend time with people who suck? It’s absolute insanity. Although there’s no “One size fits all” approach to happiness or living the good life, everything starts by doing more of the things you enjoy and less of the things that you hate. So start today. Find a way to cut out activities that you don’t enjoy and that don’t serve the bigger picture and a way to add in more activities that light you up and put a smile on your face. 2. No One Gives a Sh*t About You  This sounds harsh, I know. But if you think about things objectively, you will quickly realize that it’s true. Outside of your immediate family and maybe a handful of close friends, no one cares about you, no one. People don’t care whether you succeed or not, they don’t care if you’re happy, and they don’t really care if you carry on living. Although it sounds morbid, this is actually good news. The fact that no one cares gives you permission to screw up, it gives you permission to fall on your face, to fail, to lose, and to try things that might not work because, at the end of the day, no one really gives a shit either way. So stop worrying about other people and focus on yourself. If you don’t, you will live your life trying to make everyone else happy without ever taking a second to think about your own happiness and well being. 3. Learn to be Empathetic  Even though no one really cares about you, this doesn’t mean that you should go through life constantly ignoring others, acting like a narcissist, and screwing people over to achieve your goals. You must develop a certain level of empathy so that you can successfully maneuver through the world. The people that you encounter in your everyday life have their own goals, their own struggles, and their own problems. When you can learn to identify with them and consider things from their point of view, you will become a social powerhouse. 4. Define Success for Yourself  One of the biggest mistakes that anyone can make in their life is striving to achieve a version of success that isn’t truly congruent with their deepest goals and desires. Noah has made millions of dollars several times over but his lifestyle is pretty modest. You won’t see him posting on Instagram about his new McLaren or bragging about his new private jet. He’s content to live in a 700 square foot flat and drive his scooter downtown in search of the city’s best tacos. Because that is his version of success. He enjoys what he does and has a simple life. For other people, however, this would be a living hell. People like Gary Vaynerchuk need to be in constant motion to enjoy their life and feel fulfilled, they need the rush of the deal and the job in order to feel successful and fulfilled. Neither path is wrong. It’s simply a matter of what works for you. So I want to challenge you to take some time to think about what success really means to you. What do you really want? What would it take for you to be happy and fulfilled? Once you have your answer, go do that thing, and ignore everyone else’s opinions and ideas. Because your definition of success is the only thing that matters. 5. Stop Complaining and Start Looking for a Solution  For the next 30 days, I want you to do something. It sounds simple, but I promise it’s not as easy as you might assume. I want you to quit complaining. That’s it. For the next 30 days, I want you to consciously quit complaining about anything in your life whether it’s your job, your spouse, your kids, or just crappy weather. Stop complaining and start looking for solutions. If something bothers you, instead of bitching about it, find a way to change it. It might sound simple, but I promise that it will change your life.
In today's podcast I'm tackling one of THE most infectious diseases affecting men today...Oneitis.  In other words, the belief that ONE specific woman is the ONLY woman who can complete you and make you happy.  I'll be destroying common myths, giving you powerful exercises to reframe your mindset, and giving you tactical action steps to overcome oneitis for good and build the dating life of your dreams.  Let's dive in. 
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An Drew

So men are now allowed to express emotions and for you its a bad thing? Suicide and depression were there even before, they just werent recognized as today, depression doesnt come cause of not knowing what to do as a man, it comes cause bad things happen in life. "Were told to stay quiet", even girls are told so, not just boys. Plus, quietness and courage are not "man things" but human things. If you're a man and youre reading this, yes, youre allowed to cry, have depression and anxiety, and youre allowed not to look as Aquaman. Fuck this. Youre role in this society is to follow youre dreams, and thats it.

Dec 18th
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Sophia

awesome podcast

Dec 3rd
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Bryan Shipley

I just listened to this podcast for the second time, it is a keeper and is PACKED with practical insights and ways to apply them to our lives, listen and enjoy!

Nov 18th
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Patrick Scanlon

Great interview. The part about counter dependency was very profound.

Sep 21st
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Felipe Magalhães Bambirra

Excellent! It's a privilege to access such a good content. Congrats!

Sep 12th
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MJWWarriorKing

Great advice. Time to implement the knowledge!

Sep 5th
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Lemichael Dotson

Great interview

Aug 3rd
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jrod3260

very cool interview, 👍😎👍

Aug 1st
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

ugh the fake laugh please stop it. the laugh is outweighing the great guest.

Jul 29th
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Robert Lee

don't get be wrong, I love Grant's stuff, but why is this popping up on my list years after the interview lol

Jul 17th
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Kurt Hake

great podcast

Jul 16th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

little Andrew sounds so beta compared to jocko

Jul 15th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

rule number 1 of seal teams . no fake laughs or "pickup" coaches.

Jul 15th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

I can only imagine what jocko was truly thinking when this guy does his fake laugh.

Jul 15th
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Chris Crosby

I loved this podcast and could definitely relate to the things they discussed. the love of comfort and choosing to seek that rather than willing to endure suffering for the sake of success has robbed me for so long. My biggest enemy is fear.

Jun 28th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

I truly wish I didnt find some of the guests interesting because the host is so fake and beta and well ... subpar.

Jun 26th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

wow. who is Ellen musk. andrew aka mr fake laugh learn how to pronounce 8th grade words b4 claiming to be a coach or mentor of anything. plethora plateau yeah you pronounce those incorrectly repeatedly and Elon Musk. not ellen.

Jun 26th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

newsflash beta boy you are pronouncing plethora and plateau incorrectly while also sounding extremely elitist and beta and knife in the ear I'm well read and smart sounding. its plethora str8 thru not pluh-thora. its plah-toe not pluh=toe. if your going to attempt to sound well read and too cool for school make sure you are first beta boy. mr. o make money off lame ugly dudes who cant get women by making them think they can get girls all the while you arent in a happy sustained marriage or even relationship heading that way.

Jun 19th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

ok the fake laugh beta boy does while laughing at his own jokes is really annoying. it's too bad I like some of the guests enough to tolerate it.

Jun 17th
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Mind_Muscle_Connection 22379

whoa whoa whoa beta boy just said its 2017? yet this is supposed to be new? nice.... so these arent new. good to know.

Jun 17th
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