It can be very easy to allow ourselves to be taken for granted or even abused, when we are in a relationship, because we want it to succeed so much, we often put up with behaviour that is detrimental to us without even realising it. From the podcast: "Even when some women (and men) actually feel that they are a low option for their lovers, partners, or bosses, that they come last in the diary, the schedule, the job, and the scheme of things, they still hang in there taking the crumbs that fall off the table, instead of being the main bread themselves. Such a situation, where the relationship is clearly imbalanced and one-sided, is not good for either person." Elaine explains the negative effects iof just being an option in this episode. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. • NEED SOME HELP? • Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #crumbs #neglect #relationship #option #priority #treatment #dating #partnership #couplegoals #single
You might believe that the way people treat you is entirely dependent on what they think of you. That is true in part. But there is something else about you, personally, that really triggers their reaction, often without you even knowing. This podcast explains what it is. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik RELATED BOOK: The New Theory of Confidence SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a worrying question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #perception #treatment #communication #hiddenfactor #relationships workplace #colleagues #attitude #approach
Are you the type of person who is afraid to fulfil your own needs because you tend to put others above you? To treat them more than human, and to think you are not worthy of them? Do you find it difficult to articulate your own needs, especially to ask someone out? You could find this podcast useful. Learn about what could be blocking your attempts, and how to get rid of them. Give yourself the chance to build relationships confidently with the help of this episode. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik RELATED BOOK: 7 Steps to Finding, and Keeping, ‘The One'! SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #relationships #dating #attraction #chemistry #askingforadate #fear #apprehension #lowconfidence #lowesteem
It is often very annoying and frustrating to feel misunderstood by others, despite what you do. Sometimes it can feel like we are existing in a void, or we're very different from others. So what could be the answer to that? This podcast explains the basic reason why you might feel misunderstood and what you could do about it. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik RELATED BOOK: The New Theory of Confidence SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #emotionalhealth #wellbeing #mentalhealth #relationships #interaction #workplace #colleagues #communication
Meeting a new date is always exciting because of the potential and possibility of finding the right person for us. In fact, often we want that new friendship to succeed so much, so anxious for it to be 'perfect', we are likely to try to control its development by slowing it down as much as possible, and 'taking things slowly' to prevent any hurt or conflict. But is that helpful? And does it enable greater knowledge of each other between the couple? Does it really avoid hurt? This podcast explains why trying to control a relationship instead of lettng it develop spontaneously often loses us what we are actually seeking. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers to? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #relationships #dating #love #slowingthingsdown #couplegoals #expectations #friendship #romance
It is a fact of life that the more we give thanks is the more we have to be thankful for (that Law of Attraction again). Our gratitude energy goes out and attract other similar energy and brings us back much more in return, just ask Oprah Winfrey, one of the richest women in the world. You don't ever have to do something wonderful to be a winner. Never take anything or any day for granted because nothing is guaranteed to us. The fact that we are still alive on a new day is a particular gift and blessing. Express quiet thanks for your family, children, friends and everyone who has been there for you. By thanking your God, Universe or whatever you believe in for your blessings, you will get even more to be thankful for. Most important, you won’t have too many regrets about loved ones because you would have appreciated them every step of the way. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #thankyou #gratitude #friendship #communication #fear #value #lowconfidence
After some heady dating, are you feeling tired of the date's company, wishing for some breathing space, and even regretting the relationship? And is that really normal, or unusual? What do you do when you feel that way? This podcast answers the question and explains the main reasons for this dilemma, and how they can be remedied. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik RELATED BOOK: 7 Steps to Finding, and Keeping, ‘The One’ SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a worrying question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #relationship #dating #fatigue #resentment #tiredofpartner #love #attraction#evolution #emotionalhealth
• Do you or others believe that you might be ‘toxic’ in your approach? • Do you have a constant urge to be hurtful, unkind or cruel to yourself and others? Negativity and toxicity do not build anything. They simply destroy whatever is there. Only hope, love, positivity and forgiveness give us what we want. This podcast provides simple tips on changing your attitude and behaviour to a more positive and affirming approach. •Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a worrying question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #toxic #negativity #relationship #interaction #wellbeing #mentalhealth #bully
What hidden factor could be killing many relationships? For a start, in order to have a good relationship, the positives must outweigh the negatives by a large percentage. "If negativity is creeping into your relationship it also crowds out the positive. It is like water seeping through walls, eventually weakening the structure. People usually feel motivated around others who are positive and energising, as well as those who help them to feel good about themselves. However, pushing aside or neglecting to address real problems is not the answer either, and can be just as harmful to the partnership." This podcast explains the single most lethal force that often destroys relationships. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a worrying question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #relationships #expectations #resentment #killer #wellbeing #conflict #communication #dating #couplegoals
Our basic need to belong means that we tend to choose others to share our company for a variety of reasons, but what message do our friends and associates give about us? Can we detach ourselves from their own words, actions and beliefs? This podcast looks at the significance of our friendships. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. • Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #company #relationships #influence #belonging #incrowd #friendship #companion
Many people are living quiet lives of desperation, aware that they no longer feel attracted to their partner, or vice versa, yet suffering the neglect and often loneliness at losing their appeal, while pretending all is well. But what is attraction, and how does it work? This podcast offers a perspective. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik RELATED BOOK: Cheating & Betrayal: A Handy Guide to Reducing Its Impact SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #attraction #dating #relationship #neglect #value chemistry #couple
Some people are very wary of talking about their past relationships, others take their experiences in their stride and do not mind sharing them with current partners. Do you find that easy to do, or is there some reluctance? This podcast looks at the difficulty in disclosure, and the necessity of doing it, if you feel inclined. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #relationships #sharing #dating #past #communication #intimacy #history
We all like to think that we are good friends to others. But those expectations between friends can often scupper the best friendships. Additionally, friendship is not just about what comes back to us. It's what others receive from our presence, too. Often we might be the whole world to someone who might seem indifferent, simply because they haven't got our confidence, security or assurance. Just because they are silent doesn't mean they don't care or appreciate you being there. One can always spot the self-absorbed and the person just seeking an audience. The others who really need us and benefit from us, or who might secretly admire us, are more difficult to spot. So allow people to be who they are, and accept them as they wish to be, so long as they are not being offensive. So what does being a 'good friend really mean? This podcast offers an answer. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers to? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #friend #friendship #relationship #communication #sharing #value
In the light of some depressing divorce statistics, it might be stating the obvious to say that seeking a soulmate for life, or even a few months, is a very important decision. But it is a fact in need of restating. The simple truth is that it gets forgotten as soon as our eyes meet those of the perceived ‘chosen one’. Instead, we abandon common sense (or, conversely, we are ruled too much by it), as our familiar patterned behaviour is triggered in the hope of achieving our desires. The result is that nothing much changes – we go on seeking our soulmates in just the same way we have always done, and, not surprisingly, continue feeling as disappointed with our lives as ever. This podcast aims to change that demoralising circular approach. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics! Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #musthaves #factors #elements #dating #couples #relationships #interactions
Have you started to like someone who does not seem as interested and you are hoping that, if you give it time, they might come to feel the same about you? Why don’t you both feel the same way at the beginning? What causes the mismatch? This podcast explains the basics of what draws people together and why our feelings are not always reciprocated. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik • RELATED BOOK: 7 Steps to Finding, and Keeping, ‘The One’ • SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. • Have a worrying question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #attraction #chemistry #dating #couple #values #communication
When we have not had any luck finding a date or partner, it is easy to think the worst of ourselves in relation to others. To perhaps assume that we are unlovable and to feel an acute sense of disappointment whenever our expectations are dashed. However, the first relationship starts with you, and it could be that there is something important you have been missing in your search for a suitable date. This podcast looks at the the reason why you might not have had the attention and responses you desire from others. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik • SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers to? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #rejected #selfsteem #dating #relationships #interaction #wellbeing #mentalhealth
If you are in a relationship, does it feel comfortable, enjoyable, and satisfying? Are you getting the attention, love and care you should have? If not, there are many reasons why partners go off each other and perhaps stray, each specific to that relationship, but four main ones seem to cause the most damage. They are tell-tale signs that the marriage is In trouble and needs urgent attention. This podcasts looks at them closely and the reasons they are lethal. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik RELATED BOOK: Cheating & Betrayal: A Handy Guide to Reducing Its Impact • SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #podcast #relationship #conflict #trouble #resentment #disrespect #dating #interaction
Many of us might marvel at some couples who seem, outwardly at least, to have little in common, and might wonder what do they see in each other to be drawn together so closely. Are they proof that opposites really attract each other? Or is there something else in the mix? “Put simply, we like those who like us in return. Others showing that they prefer us tends to make us respond in kind. Where there is little reciprocity, it affects individual self-esteem because it removes the reason to be proud, to impress the other person and to feel truly valued. It also leads to disrespect, low self-worth and a feeling of rejection.” Elaine's podcast offers a another perspective on the mystery. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik RELATED BOOK: 7 Steps to Finding, and Keeping, ‘The One’ SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #podcast #opposites #attraction #relationships #dating #single #values #communication
Hatred is a complex and destructive emotion that can have profound negative consequences for individuals, communities, and societies. While the specific roots of hatred can vary, depending on individual circumstances and social contexts, there are several underlying factors that often contribute to its development. This podcast outlines what they are and also gives tips on dealing with mindless intolerance. SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. • NEED SOME HELP? • Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #podcast #hatred #society #selfesteem #confidence #emotionalhealth #wellbeing #power #weapon #inequality, #intolerance
How often have you ended dating someone and then promised each other to be 'friends' afterwards? Is that a good foundation for real friendship, or just to sugar-coat any rejection? Is real friendship possible after any intimacy? This podcast explains why having real friendship that is often a futile hope. Episode Image Credit: fwstudio on Freepik RELATED BOOK: 7 Steps to Finding, and Keeping, ‘The One’ SUBSCRIBE to LOVE & LIFE podcast for more useful topics. Have a troubling question for which you'd like some answers? Elaine might be able to help. Send a query today! #friendship #love #dating #fear #expression #relationship #couple