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A podcast hosted by Leslie Wong, Ryan Fung, & Jonathan Chiu. We started LRJ Podcast and Chill to share our experiences and explore topics as expats working, dating, and living in Hong Kong. Grab a glass of wine and come hang with us :)
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People break up with their partner for many different reasons, such as their partners not satisfying their needs, infidelity (physical, emotional, financial, etc.), changes in circumstances (e.g. moving away), etc. In these cases when you want to break up with your partner, does that mean you don't love them anymore? With such a serious question, LRJ tries to dig deep to figure out what this question means and when/if this can happen.
Questions Asked
- What does it mean to love someone?
- Is there a difference in familial love and romantic love?
- Is love enough to keep a relationship?
- Is love something that can be prioritized?
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What is a Situationship? The term was created in Urban Dictionary in 2006 and according to the Cambridge Dictionary, a situationship is "a romantic relationship between two people who do not yet consider themselves a couple but who have more than a friendship." Meaning there is no label on the relationship with the person you are interested in and the people that are interested in you. Also you are doing all the emotional and physical parts of the relationship without the commitment of being in a relationship. Is this good or bad? LRJ discusses further into this new emerging relationship "terminology".
Questions asked:
- Why would someone want to be in a Situationship?
- What societal pressures are making people be in a Situationship?
- What is the difference between Friends with Benefits and a Situationship?
- Would you want to be in a Situationship?
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You and your partner are unique individuals with distinct expectations and desires from one another. What if your partner isn't happy with you and wants you to make more money and wants you to keep improving? When your partner requests or suggests changes in your behavior or habits, it can be challenging to differentiate between their demands and genuine areas for self-improvement. LRJ delves into this subject to explore where the boundary lies.
Questions Asked:
- How would you handle your partner asking you to stop dressing a certain way?
- What if your partner asks you to change your career?
- Would you entertain your partner's suggestions or demands to change?
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Congratulations to David on the arrival of his first baby! It goes without saying that having a baby brings sleepless nights and the challenge of figuring out how to balance raising a daughter with managing social and parenting life. LRJ has a conversation with David about his experiences before and after becoming a parent - discussing the challenges he faces and how he deals with them.
Questions Asked:
- How do you deal with the stress of having a child?
- What are your plans for raising your daughter in Hong Kong?
- Would you argue with your spouse in front of your child?
- How do you balance allowing your child to pursue what makes them happy while also disciplining them to ensure they stay on the right path?
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What is the meaning of life? We've all heard this question before, and it might be the most frequently asked question in the world. However, it seems like no one has the answer. What could the meaning of life be? Is it money, career, happiness, or love? In this episode, LRJ attempts to explore what this question means to us and the personal significance we find in life.
Questions asked:
- How do you find the meaning?
- What do you value?
- Do you have to travel to find the meaning of life?
- If our ending is going to be the same anyway, what's the point?
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In this episode, one of our listeners asked LRJ for advice on their relationship. Our listener's boyfriend initiated a breakup because he believes he is unable to provide the life she desires. She wants to get married, but her boyfriend doesn't want to waste her time. LRJ aims to investigate and understand the situation, offering suggestions for our listener's next steps.
Questions asked:
- What is the boyfriend's level of readiness for marriage?
- Is it an age issue? (31F and 29M)
- Is there a difference in expectation on what the boyfriend needs to provide?
- Is the reasoning BS or just an excuse?
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Your partner is considered your other half, but how much are you supposed to share with them? Should you share your bank account details and passwords with your partner, or should you keep your phone password hidden from your partner indefinitely? There seems to be boundaries when it comes to privacy and transparency. In this episode, LRJ attempts to find where those boundaries lie.
Questions asked:
- What should you share?
○ Phone password
○ Bank Account
○ Keys
○ Toothbrush
Should you tell your partner that you've vented to your friends about your relationship with them?
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The term "Body Count" in relationships refers to the number of people someone has slept with, and people often ask this question to other people and even their partner when they get to know them. Would you rather your partner have fewer partners in the past or more partners in the past? And is it important to know about the person's past in terms of their relationships? In this episode, we bring in Pam and her friend Phyllis to dive deep into this topic.
- Questions asked:
○ What is too few and what is too many, and why?
○ What determines if a relationship counts as a serious relationship and not a fling?
○ What would you do if your partner asked you to get checked for STDs?
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The term "Body Count" in relationships refers to the number of people someone has slept with, and people often ask this question to other people and even their partner when they get to know them. Would you rather your partner have fewer partners in the past or more partners in the past? And is it important to know about the person's past in terms of their relationships? In this episode, we bring in Pam and her friend Phyllis to dive deep into this topic.
- Questions asked:
○ What is too few and what is too many, and why?
○ What determines if a relationship counts as a serious relationship and not a fling?
○ What would you do if your partner asked you to get checked for STDs?
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收兵 (Sau1 Bing1) literally means "collect soldiers" and is a term used in Hong Kong to describe someone (usually a girl) who has guys doing all kinds of things in order pursue the girl in hopes of a relationship or maybe just to get in bed with her. Usually guys would buy gifts, offer rides, buy food, and even help fix devices/appliances for the girl. In this episode, we invite Kerry to discuss why and how Hong Kong girls would 收兵.
- Questions asked
○ What do guys usually do when they are 兵s?
○ How does this type of relationship start?
○ Why would the girl or the guy continue this kind of relationship?
- Reference
○ https://www.hk01.com/%E9%96%8B%E7%BD%90/624654/%E5%8E%9F%E4%BE%86%E6%88%91%E5%9D%90%E5%BE%8C%E5%82%99%E5%BA%A7-10%E4%BB%B6%E5%A5%B3%E7%A5%9E%E6%94%B6%E5%85%B5%E5%BF%85%E6%90%B5%E4%BD%A0%E5%81%9A%E7%9A%84%E4%BA%8B-%E5%A4%9A%E9%81%8E%E4%B8%80%E5%8D%8A%E8%82%AF%E5%AE%9A%E5%86%87%E6%A9%9F%E6%9C%83
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Engaging in ongoing conversations with your romantic partner about finances is an endless conversation. How do you navigate everyday expenses such as rent, groceries, dining out, and travel costs? Moreover, how do you handle major financial matters such as joint bank accounts, downpayments, mortgages, and raising children? Additionally, are there alternative ways to contribute to the relationship beyond financial means? In this episode, we welcome back our special guest, Steven, to discuss this topic.
- Questions Asked:
○ How do you split your income between you and your partner? 50/50? Proportionally?
○ What are your goals and how did that affect your financial plan for the future?
○ If your partner wanted to use up all your savings to find themselves and travel (with you, of course), would you do it?
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Hong Kong and Australia are very different in terms of culture from lifestyle, work-life balance, and especially in dating. So what is it like to live and date in Hong Kong vs Australia? Is life better in Australia because work-life balance is better or is life better in Hong Kong because it is a lot easier to meet people? We talk with our guest, Tim (accountant by day, raver by night) to ask about his experiences in these two different cultures.
- Questions Asked:
○ How are the dating prospects in HK vs AU?
○ What was the worst catfish that you've experienced?
○ What kind of dates do you usually go on?
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In this thought-provoking episode, LRJ delves into a fascinating phenomenon happening in China's parks. Discover a unique tradition where parents seek potential partners for their children, driven by concerns about their future marriage prospects. Why do these parents engage in this practice? What are the reasons behind their worries about their children's ability to find a suitable spouse?
Would you be comfortable if your parents took such an active role in your love life? Moreover, would you consider adopting this approach for your own children? In this episode, LRJ dives deep into the complexities of this cultural practice.
Questions asked:
- Why do these parents engage in this practice?
- What are the reasons behind the parents' worries about their children's ability to find spouses?
- Would you do this for your children?
Reference:
https://youtu.be/91x5nFVZsWo?si=yc-6ZrO686sc3oZH
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Corporal or physical punishment is very common in Asian households by parents to discipline their children. However in Western culture, any physical pain or discomfort on the child by the parent is unheard of. In this episode, LRJ talks with Ayon, Quinson and Anson on their experiences being physically punished by their Asian parents and how they feel about their experiences afterwards.
Questions Asked:
- How do you feel about physical punishment as a form of discipline?
- Would you beat your own children?
- Do you feel any resentment towards your parents?
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LRJ welcomes back one of our favourite guests - Eric T, to talk about his experiences dating in his 30s. Many people on the internet nowadays comment on how bad dating is at the moment. Some of the issues include, ghosting, differing commitment levels, catfishing and more. In this episode, LRJ dives deep with Eric on these topics to understand more on how dating is like in the current landscape.
Questions Asked:
- What is dating in your 30s like?
- What is too much (too foward) when you are going after someone?
- What do you do when you are ghosted?
- What is considered too much/too little commitment on first dates?
- Coffee date too little? Dinner date too much?
Markham, Canada Dating Events:
https://www.eventbrite.ca/d/canada--markham/dating/
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There have been relationships that have ended because someone or both parties feel that they are "too comfortable" in the relationship. In this article by marriage.com, Rachael Pace (Expert Blogger lol) explains that being too comfortable in a relationship means feeling at ease with your partner without the desire for change or improvement. Have you ever been "too comfortable in a relationship?" LRJ dives into the article's 30 points on what might be considered "too comfortable" and what we feel is too comfortable or not.
Discussion points on what is too comfortable:
- Dating is a thing of the past
- You feel they can't share anything you don't know already
- Sex has become a routine
- You don't commit to the moment
- Saying "I love you" routinely
References:
https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/signs-you-are-getting-too-comfortable-in-a-relationship
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In a recent SCMP article, divorce rates are increasing in Hong Kong, where 1 out of 3 people are getting divorced, and remarriages have tripled since 1991. LRJ sheds light on the shifting attitudes towards family, emphasizing the need for couples to receive necessary tools and guidance to navigate the complexities of relationships and marriage.
Questions Asked:
- Why are people getting divorced?
- Are poor people more likely to be divorced or wealthy people?
- Is getting a divorce a bad thing? Or is it a start of a new beginning?
- Would you get a divorce if your partner cheated on you?
- Would you be with someone who has a kid?
References:
- https://www.scmp.com/news/hong-kong/society/article/3229912/what-about-kids-hong-kongs-high-divorce-and-remarriage-numbers-reveal-changing-attitudes-family
- https://www.ceibs.edu/new-papers-columns/20503
https://govisafree.com/divorce-rates-by-country/
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On the 29th of June 2023 the Supreme Court of the United States ruled Affirmative Action unconstitutional to end race-conscious admissions. In top universities, they have been pushing for racial diversity on campus to increase the number of African American and Hispanics, but now that number will decrease after the Supreme Court decision. LRJ goes into this topic to discuss our opinions and whether we support affirmative action or not.
- Questions Asked:
○ Is affirmative action such a bad thing?
○ What are the benefits of having affirmative action?
○ Why not give minorities a chance by lowering the bar?
- References:
https://www.aei.org/op-eds/is-it-time-to-replace-race-with-class-in-affirmative-action/
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Have you ever experienced a couple in Hong Kong getting a bit more intimate than you feel comfortable with in public? In this episode, LRJ dives into the strange topic of public display of affection (PDA) in Hong Kong and explore how it differs from various cultural perspectives.
- Questions Asked:
○ Should any PDA be allowed? What are the limits?
○ What is the max level PDA that you would do and accept?
○ What are the differences between Western Countries and Hong Kong?
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Modern era dating has become quite complicated where you have to know how to play the game. In this episode, we talk with Christina whom we have met through our friends from Dragonboat (Tina from LRJ episode 7). We talk with Christina about various topics about dating: online dating, dating preferences, ghosting, and etc.
Questions Asked:
- How did you get into Dragonboating?
- How is it using dating apps in Sydney, Australia?
- Is it a red flag to date someone with no dating experience?
- Is it normal for guys to delay their messages after the date?
- Why do people ghost others in the dating scene?
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