Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

What if being a “good partner” has been quietly costing you your aliveness? We’ve been taught to shrink, to please, to perfect, to wear the mask of goodness so well that we forget what it feels like to truly be. We keep trying to be the “good partner,” the perfect child, the devoted spouse, the reliable coworker, all while losing touch with the fire that makes us feel alive. In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Elise Loehnen, author of Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness, to explore how centuries of conditioning have shaped women into believing their worth depends on how selfless, small, and compliant they can be. Elise’s work builds on the success of her bestseller On Our Best Behavior, but this time she offers a guide for transformation that takes you from awareness to real, embodied change. We dive deep into shadow work and the ways women unconsciously inherit narratives that limit their freedom, from “I shouldn’t need help” to “I’ll only be loved if I make life easy for everyone else.” Together, we explore how to spot these stories, name them, and finally release them. We explore: Why being “good” often means abandoning your true self How inherited stories from culture and family silently shape your choices The difference between worth and value and why it changes everything What the “core process” reveals about fear, control, and the desire to be needed How to distinguish facts from stories and reclaim your power The real currency of abundance and how to break free from scarcity thinking How to recognize your personas, from the overfunctioner to the pleaser, and set them free Why self-care isn’t indulgent but sacred maintenance for your aliveness Remember to check out Elise’s new book Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness: A Process for Reclaiming Your Full Self. You can also tune into her podcast Pulling the Thread or join her Substack community for more reflections on living fully and authentically. Want to connect with her? Visit her website or find her on Instagram. And if this conversation moved something in you, I’d love to hear it, share your thoughts or story at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When was the last time you felt completely alive with your partner, not because of what you did, but because of how connected you felt? No new toys, no faraway trips, no clever tricks. Just presence. Just energy. Just the spark that comes from truly seeing and being seen. In this Language of Love Session, I sit down with Rachel, a listener and student of Sex Magic, who joined one of my live events in New Jersey and left with a notebook full of questions and a heart full of curiosity. Together, we explore what really fuels passion after the honeymoon fades. It’s not dopamine or novelty, but the deeper vibrational energy that connects two people soul to soul. We explore:  Why true intimacy starts with awareness, not more techniques How to tell the difference between dopamine-fueled excitement and deep energetic connection How curiosity can dissolve judgment and open your heart wider What to do when one partner feels the energy instantly and the other doesn’t (yet) How to hold your vibration without taking on someone else’s emotions The concept of the Quantum Love Map and its relevance to vibrational matching Why we attract emotionally heavy people and how to stop being their anchor How raising your frequency naturally transforms your relationships Simple Sex Magic practices to clarify desire and realign with what you truly want The importance of being in a high energetic state during sex to enhance the manifestation process. This conversation is for anyone who’s ever looked at their partner and wondered, Can we ever feel that spark again? The answer is yes, but it doesn’t come from doing more. It comes from being more: more present, more attuned, more alive. Passion never really dies; it just waits for you to come back home to your body, your energy, and your heart. And if this episode lit something up in you, keep the flame going. Grab your copy of Sex Magic and explore the free meditations and tools at healwithlaura.com. I’d love to hear your story or your question for our next book club, just send me an email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s be honest, every long-term relationship has seasons where sex gets pushed aside. Between changing bodies, kids, work stress, money stress, and just plain exhaustion, months can slip into years without intimacy. So what do you do when you want sex again, but it feels awkward, foreign, or even impossible to bring up? In this Language of Love Bite, I walk you through how to gently break the silence, rebuild emotional closeness, and take small but powerful steps back into an erotic connection with your partner. You will see that reigniting passion is not about pressure or performance, it is about safety, communication, and rediscovering each other in a playful, sensual way. We discuss: Why passion fades in long-term relationships (and how resentment sneaks in) The role of emotional safety and non-sexual touch in reawakening desire How to use “sensate focus” to rebuild intimacy step by step The surprising power of non-demand kissing to spark erotic energy A sensual awakening ritual you can try tonight to gently reignite connection When and how to seek support from a certified sex therapist (AASECT.org) Desire is never truly gone, it is just waiting for permission to return. If you want to go deeper into creating sacred, satisfying intimacy, check out my book Sex Magic for step-by-step practices to awaken erotic pleasure and deepen connection. And do not forget to subscribe to the Language of Love podcast for more bite-sized tools to transform your love life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when everything you’ve built, everything you’ve believed in, suddenly means nothing, and all that’s left is heartbreak, silence, and the question, “How do I go on?”  In this profoundly moving episode of The Language of Love Session, I sit down with author, mother, and speaker Nikki Mark, whose journey through unimaginable loss became a blueprint for healing, transformation, and connection across worlds. In 2018, Nikki had lost her 12-year-old son, Tommy. Doctors had no answers, only silence. But what followed wasn’t the end of their story. In the depths of grief, Nikki began to experience undeniable signs, powerful dreams, and moments of connection that defied logic but spoke directly to the heart. With no spiritual background to lean on, Nikki did what she knew best: she treated herself like a startup. One small step each day toward two goals: survive for her younger son, and honor her older one. From that resolve grew Tommy’s Field, a community soccer space dedicated to play, healing, and love, and a new mission to transform grief into purpose. In this Conversation, we explore: How to find meaning when life makes no sense. The powerful “conversation” that foretold her son’s passing and the signs that followed. What it means to “treat yourself like a startup” and rebuild a life from the ashes. The role of dreams, signs, and synchronicities in grief healing. The connection between generational trauma and soul contracts, and how healing yourself can heal those who came before you. What it really means to “keep playing” when your heart is broken. The choice that changes everything: choosing life again. If you’ve ever wondered whether love really continues beyond this world, or how to live again after loss, Nikki’s story is living proof that we can find grace even in grief and purpose where we once saw only pain. To learn more about Nikki’s work, visit nikkimark.com and read her book Tommy’s Field: Love, Loss, and the Goal of a Lifetime. And if you’re ready to take your next brave step toward healing, visit lauraberman.com to explore The Good Grief Course,  a heart-centered journey that helps you transform pain into peace and reconnect with the love that never ends. If this conversation touched your heart, I’d love to hear your story. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Your healing, your heart, and your voice matter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that if you keep leaving relationships because you’re tired of having the same arguments, you’ll probably end up having those same fights in the next one too? It doesn’t always mean you’re not compatible. Most of the time, it simply means there’s something still needs healing. In this episode of The Language of Love Sessions, I answer a question from a listener named Carrie. She wrote in because she and her partner keep fighting in circles. Same argument, same frustration, and she’s starting to lose hope that things will ever change. I get it. It’s exhausting. But what I’ve learned after decades of working with couples is that repeating arguments aren’t just about who’s right or wrong. They’re often a mirror showing us the patterns and pain we haven’t yet healed. Our relationships have this beautiful way of bringing up the stuff that’s ready to be worked on if we’re willing to look at it. In this session, I talk about: Why you keep finding yourself in the same kind of fights How to take responsibility for your part in the pattern The difference between incompatibility and unhealed wounds How to turn conflict into a chance for connection instead of disconnection Why doing your own healing work changes every relationship you have If you’ve ever thought, “Why does this always happen to me?”, this episode is for you. Because real change doesn’t start by finding someone new. It starts by getting curious about yourself. If you’d like me to answer your question on the show, send me an email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave me a voice note at speakpipe.com/languageoflove. Remember, love isn’t about avoiding conflict. It’s about learning from it, healing through it, and growing together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some people swear by the 69 position, others love the comfort of missionary, some can’t get enough of doggy style, and plenty enjoy the view with reverse cowgirl. But here’s the real question… But there is one position that actually makes you feel the most connected, the most turned on, and the most satisfied.  In this Language of Love Bite, I break down what science, anatomy, and thousands of real women have shared about the most reliable position for her pleasure. Imagine it’s simpler than you think, and with just a pillow and some mindful adjustments, it can go from average to unforgettable. We discuss: Why only 20–25% of women orgasm from penetration alone The role clitoral stimulation plays in reliable pleasure How a simple pelvic angle shift transforms missionary into the most effective position Why emotional safety and nervous system calm are essential for orgasm The benefits of chest-to-chest contact, oxytocin release, and eye contact How to use your hands (or hers) for clitoral stimulation during penetration The secret sauce for creating connected, simultaneous orgasms If you want to take this deeper, check out my book Sex Magic for a full guide to creating erotic intimacy that feels sacred and deeply satisfying. And don’t forget to subscribe to the Language of Love podcast so you never miss a bite-sized tip to level up your love life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all carry invisible chains: beliefs like "I’m not enough," "I’m not ready," or "What if I fail?" The real cage isn’t the world around us; it’s the story we’ve been told about who we’re allowed to be. Because freedom doesn’t come from trying harder, proving more, or fitting into someone else’s mold, it comes from letting go. In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Jennifer Pastiloff, author and speaker, whose new book Proof of Life explores the powerful act of reclaiming permission to exist fully in your own body, voice, and life. After years of self-doubt, shame, and self-abandonment, Jennifer shares how healing began with learning to speak her truth out loud. We dive into Jennifer's journey of self-discovery, which was shaped by moments of struggle, loss, and personal awakening. In this Conversation, we explore:  How to recognize your “inner asshole” and stop believing its lies Why speaking your truth out loud is where healing begins What “heart-sight” means and how to listen to it The trap of “when I get there, then I’ll be happy” How making bad art can actually set you free Why finding your “I got you” people changes everything The lesson grief teaches us about living now, not later If you've ever struggled with shame or felt disconnected from yourself, this conversation is a beacon back home. Remember to check out Jennifer’s book, Proof of Life: Let Go, Let Love, and Stop Looking for Permission to Live Your Life, now available on Amazon. For her intimate, life-changing retreats, visit jenniferpastiloff.com/ and email her directly  @jenniferpastiloff.com to apply, she loves hearing from people who are ready to show up fully and authentically. You can also find her on Instagram and Substack.  And if this conversation moved you, I’d love to hear your story. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same kind of painful relationship almost like you’re tuned to a certain frequency that keeps pulling you toward emotionally unavailable partners? In this episode of Language of Love Session, I answer a heartfelt question from Sarah, a listener who wrote in asking: “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable people, and how can I heal whatever inside me is drawing me to these relationships?”  We explore how the energy you carry, your vibration, and your earliest experiences all play a role in who you’re drawn to and why. I also share how healing practices like somatic experiencing and Internal Family Systems therapy can help shift your frequency so you attract partners who are truly capable of love and connection. We explore: Why emotionally unavailable partners feel so familiar (and why it’s not just “bad luck”) How childhood patterns set the vibration for the partners we’re drawn to later in life Ways somatic therapy helps release unconscious patterns stored in the body How Internal Family Systems therapy rewires your inner world for healthier love Why “butterflies” aren’t always passion, they may be your nervous system picking up on an old, unhealthy frequency This is all about learning how to change your vibration so you stop repeating painful cycles and open yourself up to safe, supportive love. For resources on somatic experiencing,  visit the Hakomi Institute or traumatherapy.org  for more on this powerful mindfulness-centered approach to healing. Have a question you’d like me to answer on the show? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, leave a voice message or question at SpeakPipe.com/LanguageofLove  or connect with me on social media @DrLauraBerman. For more support, visit my website for expert resources and don’t forget to check out my newest book, Sex Magic. And if you’re navigating betrayal or struggling to rebuild trust, share your story with me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com for a chance to be featured in a future episode. Your journey could be exactly what someone else needs to hear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How often do you find yourself zoning out during sex? One moment you’re fully present, the next, you’re mentally sorting laundry, overanalyzing your stomach, or wondering if your partner is actually enjoying it. It happens. A lot. In this Language of Love Bite, I break down why this happens, what’s going on in your nervous system and why even a hint of unease can make it so hard to stay turned on. I also share a quick, powerful exercise from my book Sex Magic to help you reconnect with your body. It takes less than three minutes, and you can do it solo or with a partner. In this Bite, you will discover:  Why your brain checks out during sex How anxiety hijacks arousal and how to reclaim it A quick way to come back into your body How to shift from pressure to sensation A simple 3-minute exercise (from Sex Magic) to snap back into your body, quiet your mind, and shift from pressure to pleasure Ready to unlock deeper pleasure and power? Grab your copy of Sex Magic and dive into transformative insights that awaken your sensual energy. While you're there, don’t miss out on the free Quantum Sex Course  designed to elevate your intimacy levels. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does it always seem like déjà vu when it comes to your love life? Ever catch yourself wondering, “Why does every guy I date end up cheating, no matter who he is?” Or maybe you’re on the flip side thinking, “Why does every woman I date always seem to have anger issues?”  It’s almost like you’re stuck in a dating loop, attracting the same person in a different body. But why does this keep happening? In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with therapist and relationship expert Jessica Baum, author of new book Safe, to explore why our love lives so often play out like déjà vu. Jessica takes us far beyond attachment labels like “anxious” or “avoidant.” She reveals how our parents’ nervous systems wire our own from infancy, shaping the way we connect, attach, and seek safety. Those early wounds often live in our bodies as sensation, surfacing later when a partner pulls away, rolls their eyes, or simply doesn’t show up the way we need. If you’re ready to stop repeating old patterns, this episode is your first step. We explore:  Why traditional attachment labels don't tell the whole story and what does. How to tell the difference between your "thinking" left brain and your "feeling" right brain. The surprising reason you keep attracting the same type of partner (and how to break the cycle). Why "triggers" are actually invitations for healing and how to reframe them. How memory is stored not just in your mind, but in your gut, heart, and muscles. What it truly means to heal in a relationship, and why you can't do it alone. The subtle signs your nervous system is scanning for to answer, "Are you with me?" A powerful, real-life example of rupture and repair between a parent and adult child. Practical steps to start creating safety within yourself and your relationships. Remember to check out Jessica’s other books, including Anxiously Attached. And don’t forget to preorder your copy of Safe, coming out on October 28. It’s the manual your relationships have been missing. As a special gift for listeners, she’s offering free bonuses, including a deep-dive healing blueprint and a rare interview with her mentor. You can find her at jessicabaumlmhc.com and on Instagram @jessicabaumlmhc  If you want to share your own love story, I’d love to hear it. Send me an email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Want to know what you really want in love? Take the quiz  now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when everything looks good on paper, yet your heart keeps whispering that something’s missing? You love your partner. Nothing’s really wrong. And still, you can’t shake the feeling that maybe you’re settling, or maybe you’re expecting too much. In this Language of Love session, I respond to an anonymous listener who’s been with their partner for several years. The relationship checks all the boxes, but a nagging sense of absence lingers. Is it a red flag, or just fear keeping them from leaning all the way in? In this session, we talk through: Why “something missing” can mean very different things, and how to tell which applies to you The hidden danger of making excuses for a partner’s shortcomings How unhealed wounds, depression, or anxiety can disguise themselves as relationship doubts Why the only way to experience real love is to risk heartbreak If you’ve ever second-guessed your relationship and wondered whether it was intuition or insecurity talking, this conversation will speak directly to your heart. And if this resonates with your own story, I’d love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, your experience could help others feel less alone.Want more tools for navigating love and intimacy? Visit my website and check out my latest book, Sex Magic, for a deeper dive into building authentic, lasting connection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wondered what sexual fantasies really mean? Is there something deeper to them? In this Language of Love Bite, I unpack what science and symbolism tell us about fantasies, and how they’re often a mirror of your true desires. If you want to take this deeper, check out my book ⁠Sex Magic⁠ for a full guide to creating erotic intimacy that feels sacred and deeply satisfying. And don’t forget to subscribe to the⁠ Language of Love podcast⁠ so you never miss a bite-sized tip to level up your love life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all long to feel connected to our loved ones after they have  crossed over. That ache to speak with them again never really goes away. But is it possible to make that conversation real? Can it be instinctual, natural, like you're just talking to someone beside you? In this  Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with psychic medium and spiritual teacher MaryAnn DiMarco to explore the unseen support surrounding us. MaryAnn shows how connecting with spirit guides isn’t reserved for the gifted; it’s something every single one of us can do. Talking with her feels like being handed a secret key to a whole new world, one where guidance shows up in the middle of everyday chaos, not just in moments of perfect stillness. MaryAnn shares her own journey of learning to trust her intuition and explains how our guides, angels, and loved ones work together to support us. We dive into why so many of us feel blocked, how to tell the difference between our own thoughts and true guidance, and what happens when we finally stop forcing and start trusting the path that’s meant for us. Here’s a sneak peek… The difference between guides, angels, and loved ones on the other side Why guidance often sounds like your own voice How to know when it’s intuition speaking or just fear What to do when life feels stuck or off-track How your guides can help you manifest what you want Ways to reconnect with loved ones who have passed The surprising role your guides play in healing old wounds Why you don’t need to be psychic to receive powerful guidance If this episode resonates with you, I invite you to explore more of what MaryAnn DiMarco has to offer at maryanndimarco.com You can follow her journey on Instagram and Facebook, and if you’re feeling called, pick up one of her books or preorder her newest one, The Guide(s). If you’ve had a sign, a spiritual moment, or something meaningful you'd like to share, I’d truly love to hear from you. Feel free to reach out at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.And if you're navigating loss, take a look at the Good Grief Course. It’s a gentle, structured path through grief designed to help you move forward while still honoring your connection. You don’t have to do this alone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever felt too shy or embarrassed to talk about your sexual needs, even with a partner you trust? This episode might be for you! In today’s Language of Love Session, I’m answering a question from a listener who’s struggling to open up about her desires and fantasies.  Maybe you received messages growing up about what’s “appropriate” or things you witnessed that made you feel ashamed of your desires… I’ll walk you through how to start untangling those beliefs and embrace your sexuality with confidence. I also talk about how to communicate your sexual needs with your partner, even when it feels awkward or cringey. It’s all about creating a safe space to have that conversation, and I’ll give you some tips on how to open up without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. In this session, we’ll cover: Why sexual inhibitions often come from external sources, not you How to identify and release shame-based beliefs around sex How to start the conversation with your partner about trying new things in the bedroom How to communicate your desires in a positive, low-pressure way You deserve to have the sex life you want, free of shame and judgment. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, learning how to talk about what you want and exploring your desires is key to a fulfilling, beautiful sex life. If you have a question or want to share your story, I’d love to hear from you. You can always email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and I’m here to support you as you learn how to love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like it or not, attraction can dim even in the brightest, most loving relationships. Maybe you're loyal. Maybe you care deeply. Maybe you've built a life together. But that spark? It flickers. And when it does, you're left with questions, guilt, maybe even shame. It’s heavy, confusing, and painfully human. In this Language of Love Bite, I break the silence around why you may not feel attracted to your partner anymore and guide you back to the root of your own erotic energy. Because when desire fades, it’s not a sign of failure… It’s a call to deeper awareness and reconnection. We explore the four core reasons attraction fades and why this doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. And I also  guide you through a gentle, powerful embodiment practice called the Pleasure Mirror Practice, a ritual designed to help you reconnect with your own sensuality, aliveness, and desire, from the inside out. Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode: Why attraction naturally ebbs and flows in long-term love What unspoken resentment does to desire How safety and routine can dull erotic energy What happens when you disconnect from your own sensuality How nervous system trauma or stress can suppress arousal How to do the Pleasure Mirror Practice to reignite your erotic energy If you want support with intimacy, sexual connection, or rediscovering your own sensual fire, check out my free Quantum Sex course on my website, and my book Sex Magic. Because true attraction isn’t something you lose, it’s something you learn to consciously recreate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raising a child while carrying the weight of grief after losing your husband is no easy task. Learning to love again, knowing that loss is always a possibility, adds another layer of complexity. In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with the incredible Tembi Locke, actor, advocate, and New York Times bestselling author of From Scratch, which many of you may know as the hit Netflix series she co-created. Tembi’s newest project, Someday, Now, is a fully immersive audiobook that completely moved me. We talk about her journey through grief, caregiving, and parenting after the loss of her beloved husband Saro. How do you keep going when the person you planned your future with is no longer here? Tembi shares how her grief has transformed over the years, what it was like to raise her daughter while healing herself, and how she still feels her husband’s presence in everyday life, from hummingbirds outside her window to cherished memories in Sicily. We dive into: How grief evolves over time and why it never really ends The surprising ways caregiving prepares (and fails to prepare) you for loss What no one tells you about the physical exhaustion of grieving The best ways to support a child on the grief journey   The quiet ways our loved ones continue to guide us after they're gone Why so many of us are grief-illiterate and what we can do about it What it means to show up for others in grief, even when words fall short How becoming an empty nester stirred up old wounds and new revelations What it really takes to open your heart to love again after devastating loss What makes this conversation so special is how honest Tembi is. She doesn’t shy away from the messy truths about the physical toll of grief, the emotional fatigue of caregiving, and the quiet courage it takes to choose love again. Whether you're grieving, supporting someone who is, or simply wondering how to keep going when life breaks your heart this one is for you. Want more from Tembi? Explore Someday, Now and her memoir From Scratch at her website. Follow her on Instagram: @tembilocke or LinkedIn. And if you’re on your own healing journey, I’d love to invite you into my Good Grief Course, a safe space filled with tools, practices, and support to help you grow through loss. If this conversation touched you, I’d love to hear from you. Share your story or a sign you’ve received at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does something that happened years ago still show up in the bedroom today? Why can you trust your partner completely, and still feel yourself pull away the moment intimacy begins? And why, when all you want is closeness, does your body react as if it’s still living in the past? In this Language of Love Session, I respond to two heartfelt listener questions that touch on some of the most vulnerable parts of our intimate lives. The first comes from Renee, who shared that after experiencing sexual trauma years ago, she still finds herself freezing or dissociating during intimacy even with a partner she deeply trusts. I talk about why this happens, why it’s actually a normal and adaptive response, and the steps you can take to reconnect with your body.  The second question comes from Angel, who admitted she’s always been shy about talking about sex, even though she has desires and fantasies she wants to explore. I offer concrete strategies for starting those vulnerable, exciting conversations with a partner in a way that feels safe and empowering. In this episode, you’ll hear me share: Why dissociation during intimacy is a normal trauma response and how healing begins Somatic practices that can help you stay grounded in your body Gentle ways to reintroduce intimacy after trauma A three-column exercise to let go of shame and reclaim your desires How to talk to your partner about fantasies and needs without fear If you’d like me to answer your question on a future episode, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Don’t forget to check out: The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis, the Hakomi Institute for locating Somatic Experiencing therapists, and traumahealing.org, which offers a full directory of practitioners. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when the honeymoon phase ends? That early period in a relationship, full of excitement, ease, and constant attraction, doesn’t last forever.  Most people assume that this means the excitement is over and they are stuck with a lackluster intimate life. But the end of the honeymoon phase can mark the start of the real love story. In this Language of Love Bite, I explain why  the end of the honeymoon phase is actually one of the best things that can happen in your relationship. Did you know that couples who are keeping their sexual connection alive for 20 or 30 years aren’t just relying on heat alone? They’re learning to cultivate it intentionally and with ongoing practice. I also guide you through a powerful, heart-opening practice called the Desire Memory Ritual. It’s perfect for long-term couples who want to reconnect with their erotic roots, reignite attraction, and let those feelings flow through them once again. Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode: Why the honeymoon phase ends and what it does What your brain is doing during and after that phase How couples stay connected over the long term Why being present matters more than trying harder How attraction changes over time How to do the Desire Memory Ritual If you want help with intimacy and sexual connection, check out my free Quantum Sex course on my website, as well as Sex Magic. And always remember: true connection begins when we stop performing and start seeing each other, soul to soul. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Language of Love Conversation, I welcome Suzy Miller, a former pediatric speech pathologist whose world was turned upside down when a nonverbal four-year-old boy named Riley communicated with her telepathically.  Riley revealed a stunning truth: he needed Suzy’s help to integrate his “light body” with his physical form. This encounter launched Suzy on a journey to redefine autism not as a deficit, but as a superhuman ability, a different way of being that holds a mirror to our own unhealed energies and invites us into a more authentic, heart-centered existence. Together we explore: How those on the spectrum act as mirrors, reflecting the unacknowledged emotions of those around them Why many people with autism struggle with being fully “in their bodies” and what that means energetically The mismatch between their high vibrational frequency and the dense conditioning of our physical world How so-called “problem behaviors” can be understood as communication and energetic processing Practical tools like the Blue Sphere technique for releasing heavy emotions and raising your vibration Ways parents, teachers, and loved ones can authentically connect with these extraordinary beings Suzy’s work is a beautiful call to action for parents, educators, and all of us to shift our perception, embrace deeper authenticity, and learn the language of energy and love. Want to go deeper? Explore Suzy’s book, AWESOMISM!:, and her incredible resources at SuzyMiller.com. Have a story about neurodiversity or awakening? I’d love to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. For more tools to support your journey of connection and growth, visit my website and explore my courses, including the Good Grief program to help you stay connected to those you love, both here and beyond. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the thing you crave most is the one thing you can’t say out loud?  You love your partner. The sex is good. But there’s more inside you—a desire you’ve never voiced. Not because it’s wrong… but because you’re terrified of what might happen if you do. Will they judge you? Will they feel like they’re not enough? Could it change everything?   In this Language of Love session, I connect with Kelly, who’s been married for five years and loves her husband deeply. Their sex life? Pretty solid. But there’s a part of her that wants more. She has desires she’s never shared—and she’s terrified that voicing them might hurt his feelings or make him think he’s not enough. So what do you do when you want to grow sexually with your partner, but you’re afraid it could backfire? In this session, we talk through: Why it’s not a great idea to talk about fantasies in the middle of sex (and when to do it instead) How to open up these conversations in a way that feels safe, honest, and even exciting The “Fantasy Box” game I love recommending to couples who want to spice things up together How to find creative middle ground when your fantasies don’t totally match If you’ve ever held back something in the bedroom because you didn’t want to rock the boat, you’re going to feel seen in this one. And if Kelly’s story sounds a little like yours, I’d love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your story could help someone else feel less alone. Want more tools for connection and pleasure? Head over to my website, and check out my latest book, Sex Magic, for a deeper dive into unlocking spectacular intimacy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices