Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

Have you ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same kind of painful relationship almost like you’re tuned to a certain frequency that keeps pulling you toward emotionally unavailable partners? In this episode of Language of Love Session, I answer a heartfelt question from Sarah, a listener who wrote in asking: “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable people, and how can I heal whatever inside me is drawing me to these relationships?”  We explore how the energy you carry, your vibration, and your earliest experiences all play a role in who you’re drawn to and why. I also share how healing practices like somatic experiencing and Internal Family Systems therapy can help shift your frequency so you attract partners who are truly capable of love and connection. We explore: Why emotionally unavailable partners feel so familiar (and why it’s not just “bad luck”) How childhood patterns set the vibration for the partners we’re drawn to later in life Ways somatic therapy helps release unconscious patterns stored in the body How Internal Family Systems therapy rewires your inner world for healthier love Why “butterflies” aren’t always passion, they may be your nervous system picking up on an old, unhealthy frequency This is all about learning how to change your vibration so you stop repeating painful cycles and open yourself up to safe, supportive love. For resources on somatic experiencing,  visit the Hakomi Institute or traumatherapy.org  for more on this powerful mindfulness-centered approach to healing. Have a question you’d like me to answer on the show? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, leave a voice message or question at SpeakPipe.com/LanguageofLove  or connect with me on social media @DrLauraBerman. For more support, visit my website for expert resources and don’t forget to check out my newest book, Sex Magic. And if you’re navigating betrayal or struggling to rebuild trust, share your story with me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com for a chance to be featured in a future episode. Your journey could be exactly what someone else needs to hear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How often do you find yourself zoning out during sex? One moment you’re fully present, the next, you’re mentally sorting laundry, overanalyzing your stomach, or wondering if your partner is actually enjoying it. It happens. A lot. In this Language of Love Bite, I break down why this happens, what’s going on in your nervous system and why even a hint of unease can make it so hard to stay turned on. I also share a quick, powerful exercise from my book Sex Magic to help you reconnect with your body. It takes less than three minutes, and you can do it solo or with a partner. In this Bite, you will discover:  Why your brain checks out during sex How anxiety hijacks arousal and how to reclaim it A quick way to come back into your body How to shift from pressure to sensation A simple 3-minute exercise (from Sex Magic) to snap back into your body, quiet your mind, and shift from pressure to pleasure Ready to unlock deeper pleasure and power? Grab your copy of Sex Magic and dive into transformative insights that awaken your sensual energy. While you're there, don’t miss out on the free Quantum Sex Course  designed to elevate your intimacy levels. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does it always seem like déjà vu when it comes to your love life? Ever catch yourself wondering, “Why does every guy I date end up cheating, no matter who he is?” Or maybe you’re on the flip side thinking, “Why does every woman I date always seem to have anger issues?”  It’s almost like you’re stuck in a dating loop, attracting the same person in a different body. But why does this keep happening? In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with therapist and relationship expert Jessica Baum, author of new book Safe, to explore why our love lives so often play out like déjà vu. Jessica takes us far beyond attachment labels like “anxious” or “avoidant.” She reveals how our parents’ nervous systems wire our own from infancy, shaping the way we connect, attach, and seek safety. Those early wounds often live in our bodies as sensation, surfacing later when a partner pulls away, rolls their eyes, or simply doesn’t show up the way we need. If you’re ready to stop repeating old patterns, this episode is your first step. We explore:  Why traditional attachment labels don't tell the whole story and what does. How to tell the difference between your "thinking" left brain and your "feeling" right brain. The surprising reason you keep attracting the same type of partner (and how to break the cycle). Why "triggers" are actually invitations for healing and how to reframe them. How memory is stored not just in your mind, but in your gut, heart, and muscles. What it truly means to heal in a relationship, and why you can't do it alone. The subtle signs your nervous system is scanning for to answer, "Are you with me?" A powerful, real-life example of rupture and repair between a parent and adult child. Practical steps to start creating safety within yourself and your relationships. Remember to check out Jessica’s other books, including Anxiously Attached. And don’t forget to preorder your copy of Safe, coming out on October 28. It’s the manual your relationships have been missing. As a special gift for listeners, she’s offering free bonuses, including a deep-dive healing blueprint and a rare interview with her mentor. You can find her at jessicabaumlmhc.com and on Instagram @jessicabaumlmhc  If you want to share your own love story, I’d love to hear it. Send me an email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Want to know what you really want in love? Take the quiz  now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when everything looks good on paper, yet your heart keeps whispering that something’s missing? You love your partner. Nothing’s really wrong. And still, you can’t shake the feeling that maybe you’re settling, or maybe you’re expecting too much. In this Language of Love session, I respond to an anonymous listener who’s been with their partner for several years. The relationship checks all the boxes, but a nagging sense of absence lingers. Is it a red flag, or just fear keeping them from leaning all the way in? In this session, we talk through: Why “something missing” can mean very different things, and how to tell which applies to you The hidden danger of making excuses for a partner’s shortcomings How unhealed wounds, depression, or anxiety can disguise themselves as relationship doubts Why the only way to experience real love is to risk heartbreak If you’ve ever second-guessed your relationship and wondered whether it was intuition or insecurity talking, this conversation will speak directly to your heart. And if this resonates with your own story, I’d love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, your experience could help others feel less alone.Want more tools for navigating love and intimacy? Visit my website and check out my latest book, Sex Magic, for a deeper dive into building authentic, lasting connection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wondered what sexual fantasies really mean? Is there something deeper to them? In this Language of Love Bite, I unpack what science and symbolism tell us about fantasies, and how they’re often a mirror of your true desires. If you want to take this deeper, check out my book ⁠Sex Magic⁠ for a full guide to creating erotic intimacy that feels sacred and deeply satisfying. And don’t forget to subscribe to the⁠ Language of Love podcast⁠ so you never miss a bite-sized tip to level up your love life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all long to feel connected to our loved ones after they have  crossed over. That ache to speak with them again never really goes away. But is it possible to make that conversation real? Can it be instinctual, natural, like you're just talking to someone beside you? In this  Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with psychic medium and spiritual teacher MaryAnn DiMarco to explore the unseen support surrounding us. MaryAnn shows how connecting with spirit guides isn’t reserved for the gifted; it’s something every single one of us can do. Talking with her feels like being handed a secret key to a whole new world, one where guidance shows up in the middle of everyday chaos, not just in moments of perfect stillness. MaryAnn shares her own journey of learning to trust her intuition and explains how our guides, angels, and loved ones work together to support us. We dive into why so many of us feel blocked, how to tell the difference between our own thoughts and true guidance, and what happens when we finally stop forcing and start trusting the path that’s meant for us. Here’s a sneak peek… The difference between guides, angels, and loved ones on the other side Why guidance often sounds like your own voice How to know when it’s intuition speaking or just fear What to do when life feels stuck or off-track How your guides can help you manifest what you want Ways to reconnect with loved ones who have passed The surprising role your guides play in healing old wounds Why you don’t need to be psychic to receive powerful guidance If this episode resonates with you, I invite you to explore more of what MaryAnn DiMarco has to offer at maryanndimarco.com You can follow her journey on Instagram and Facebook, and if you’re feeling called, pick up one of her books or preorder her newest one, The Guide(s). If you’ve had a sign, a spiritual moment, or something meaningful you'd like to share, I’d truly love to hear from you. Feel free to reach out at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.And if you're navigating loss, take a look at the Good Grief Course. It’s a gentle, structured path through grief designed to help you move forward while still honoring your connection. You don’t have to do this alone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever felt too shy or embarrassed to talk about your sexual needs, even with a partner you trust? This episode might be for you! In today’s Language of Love Session, I’m answering a question from a listener who’s struggling to open up about her desires and fantasies.  Maybe you received messages growing up about what’s “appropriate” or things you witnessed that made you feel ashamed of your desires… I’ll walk you through how to start untangling those beliefs and embrace your sexuality with confidence. I also talk about how to communicate your sexual needs with your partner, even when it feels awkward or cringey. It’s all about creating a safe space to have that conversation, and I’ll give you some tips on how to open up without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. In this session, we’ll cover: Why sexual inhibitions often come from external sources, not you How to identify and release shame-based beliefs around sex How to start the conversation with your partner about trying new things in the bedroom How to communicate your desires in a positive, low-pressure way You deserve to have the sex life you want, free of shame and judgment. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, learning how to talk about what you want and exploring your desires is key to a fulfilling, beautiful sex life. If you have a question or want to share your story, I’d love to hear from you. You can always email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and I’m here to support you as you learn how to love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like it or not, attraction can dim even in the brightest, most loving relationships. Maybe you're loyal. Maybe you care deeply. Maybe you've built a life together. But that spark? It flickers. And when it does, you're left with questions, guilt, maybe even shame. It’s heavy, confusing, and painfully human. In this Language of Love Bite, I break the silence around why you may not feel attracted to your partner anymore and guide you back to the root of your own erotic energy. Because when desire fades, it’s not a sign of failure… It’s a call to deeper awareness and reconnection. We explore the four core reasons attraction fades and why this doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. And I also  guide you through a gentle, powerful embodiment practice called the Pleasure Mirror Practice, a ritual designed to help you reconnect with your own sensuality, aliveness, and desire, from the inside out. Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode: Why attraction naturally ebbs and flows in long-term love What unspoken resentment does to desire How safety and routine can dull erotic energy What happens when you disconnect from your own sensuality How nervous system trauma or stress can suppress arousal How to do the Pleasure Mirror Practice to reignite your erotic energy If you want support with intimacy, sexual connection, or rediscovering your own sensual fire, check out my free Quantum Sex course on my website, and my book Sex Magic. Because true attraction isn’t something you lose, it’s something you learn to consciously recreate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raising a child while carrying the weight of grief after losing your husband is no easy task. Learning to love again, knowing that loss is always a possibility, adds another layer of complexity. In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with the incredible Tembi Locke, actor, advocate, and New York Times bestselling author of From Scratch, which many of you may know as the hit Netflix series she co-created. Tembi’s newest project, Someday, Now, is a fully immersive audiobook that completely moved me. We talk about her journey through grief, caregiving, and parenting after the loss of her beloved husband Saro. How do you keep going when the person you planned your future with is no longer here? Tembi shares how her grief has transformed over the years, what it was like to raise her daughter while healing herself, and how she still feels her husband’s presence in everyday life, from hummingbirds outside her window to cherished memories in Sicily. We dive into: How grief evolves over time and why it never really ends The surprising ways caregiving prepares (and fails to prepare) you for loss What no one tells you about the physical exhaustion of grieving The best ways to support a child on the grief journey   The quiet ways our loved ones continue to guide us after they're gone Why so many of us are grief-illiterate and what we can do about it What it means to show up for others in grief, even when words fall short How becoming an empty nester stirred up old wounds and new revelations What it really takes to open your heart to love again after devastating loss What makes this conversation so special is how honest Tembi is. She doesn’t shy away from the messy truths about the physical toll of grief, the emotional fatigue of caregiving, and the quiet courage it takes to choose love again. Whether you're grieving, supporting someone who is, or simply wondering how to keep going when life breaks your heart this one is for you. Want more from Tembi? Explore Someday, Now and her memoir From Scratch at her website. Follow her on Instagram: @tembilocke or LinkedIn. And if you’re on your own healing journey, I’d love to invite you into my Good Grief Course, a safe space filled with tools, practices, and support to help you grow through loss. If this conversation touched you, I’d love to hear from you. Share your story or a sign you’ve received at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does something that happened years ago still show up in the bedroom today? Why can you trust your partner completely, and still feel yourself pull away the moment intimacy begins? And why, when all you want is closeness, does your body react as if it’s still living in the past? In this Language of Love Session, I respond to two heartfelt listener questions that touch on some of the most vulnerable parts of our intimate lives. The first comes from Renee, who shared that after experiencing sexual trauma years ago, she still finds herself freezing or dissociating during intimacy even with a partner she deeply trusts. I talk about why this happens, why it’s actually a normal and adaptive response, and the steps you can take to reconnect with your body.  The second question comes from Angel, who admitted she’s always been shy about talking about sex, even though she has desires and fantasies she wants to explore. I offer concrete strategies for starting those vulnerable, exciting conversations with a partner in a way that feels safe and empowering. In this episode, you’ll hear me share: Why dissociation during intimacy is a normal trauma response and how healing begins Somatic practices that can help you stay grounded in your body Gentle ways to reintroduce intimacy after trauma A three-column exercise to let go of shame and reclaim your desires How to talk to your partner about fantasies and needs without fear If you’d like me to answer your question on a future episode, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Don’t forget to check out: The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis, the Hakomi Institute for locating Somatic Experiencing therapists, and traumahealing.org, which offers a full directory of practitioners. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when the honeymoon phase ends? That early period in a relationship, full of excitement, ease, and constant attraction, doesn’t last forever.  Most people assume that this means the excitement is over and they are stuck with a lackluster intimate life. But the end of the honeymoon phase can mark the start of the real love story. In this Language of Love Bite, I explain why  the end of the honeymoon phase is actually one of the best things that can happen in your relationship. Did you know that couples who are keeping their sexual connection alive for 20 or 30 years aren’t just relying on heat alone? They’re learning to cultivate it intentionally and with ongoing practice. I also guide you through a powerful, heart-opening practice called the Desire Memory Ritual. It’s perfect for long-term couples who want to reconnect with their erotic roots, reignite attraction, and let those feelings flow through them once again. Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode: Why the honeymoon phase ends and what it does What your brain is doing during and after that phase How couples stay connected over the long term Why being present matters more than trying harder How attraction changes over time How to do the Desire Memory Ritual If you want help with intimacy and sexual connection, check out my free Quantum Sex course on my website, as well as Sex Magic. And always remember: true connection begins when we stop performing and start seeing each other, soul to soul. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Language of Love Conversation, I welcome Suzy Miller, a former pediatric speech pathologist whose world was turned upside down when a nonverbal four-year-old boy named Riley communicated with her telepathically.  Riley revealed a stunning truth: he needed Suzy’s help to integrate his “light body” with his physical form. This encounter launched Suzy on a journey to redefine autism not as a deficit, but as a superhuman ability, a different way of being that holds a mirror to our own unhealed energies and invites us into a more authentic, heart-centered existence. Together we explore: How those on the spectrum act as mirrors, reflecting the unacknowledged emotions of those around them Why many people with autism struggle with being fully “in their bodies” and what that means energetically The mismatch between their high vibrational frequency and the dense conditioning of our physical world How so-called “problem behaviors” can be understood as communication and energetic processing Practical tools like the Blue Sphere technique for releasing heavy emotions and raising your vibration Ways parents, teachers, and loved ones can authentically connect with these extraordinary beings Suzy’s work is a beautiful call to action for parents, educators, and all of us to shift our perception, embrace deeper authenticity, and learn the language of energy and love. Want to go deeper? Explore Suzy’s book, AWESOMISM!:, and her incredible resources at SuzyMiller.com. Have a story about neurodiversity or awakening? I’d love to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. For more tools to support your journey of connection and growth, visit my website and explore my courses, including the Good Grief program to help you stay connected to those you love, both here and beyond. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the thing you crave most is the one thing you can’t say out loud?  You love your partner. The sex is good. But there’s more inside you—a desire you’ve never voiced. Not because it’s wrong… but because you’re terrified of what might happen if you do. Will they judge you? Will they feel like they’re not enough? Could it change everything?   In this Language of Love session, I connect with Kelly, who’s been married for five years and loves her husband deeply. Their sex life? Pretty solid. But there’s a part of her that wants more. She has desires she’s never shared—and she’s terrified that voicing them might hurt his feelings or make him think he’s not enough. So what do you do when you want to grow sexually with your partner, but you’re afraid it could backfire? In this session, we talk through: Why it’s not a great idea to talk about fantasies in the middle of sex (and when to do it instead) How to open up these conversations in a way that feels safe, honest, and even exciting The “Fantasy Box” game I love recommending to couples who want to spice things up together How to find creative middle ground when your fantasies don’t totally match If you’ve ever held back something in the bedroom because you didn’t want to rock the boat, you’re going to feel seen in this one. And if Kelly’s story sounds a little like yours, I’d love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your story could help someone else feel less alone. Want more tools for connection and pleasure? Head over to my website, and check out my latest book, Sex Magic, for a deeper dive into unlocking spectacular intimacy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When that desire for sex hits hard, like I need this now, have you ever paused and thought… is this really about sex? Or is it something else? A need to feel safe? Held? Less alone? In this Language of Love Bite, we’re talking about the kind of sex that doesn’t always come from turn-on, but from a deeper part of us that’s craving regulation. Because the truth is, your nervous system plays a much bigger role in desire than most of us realize. We talk about how your body might be reaching for sex not out of passion, but as a way to self-soothe and how to gently tell the difference. I also share a simple body-based practice you can use anytime to check in with yourself and get really honest about what you’re actually needing in the moment. This isn’t about shame. It’s about choice. And giving yourself the chance to have sex that feels nourishing… not just numbing. We explore: Why your body might crave sex when it’s actually craving safety How past experiences shape the way we reach for intimacy The subtle signs you might be using sex to regulate your emotions A go-to somatic practice (“Body Yes / Body No”) to check what’s really going on inside How to shift from survival sex to sacred, satisfying connection   Ever had sex and felt more empty afterward? You’re not alone and there’s nothing wrong with you. There’s just more going on beneath the surface. If you’re ready to explore the deeper layers of your intimacy, grab my book Sex Magic, a powerful invitation to challenge everything you’ve been taught about your sexuality and self-worth. Because sex should feel like coming home to yourself, not like you’re trying to fill an invisible gap. Want to uncover what’s holding you back in bed and beyond? Take the free quiz on my website to get clarity and personalized insights into your intimacy blocks. And while you're there, don’t miss 7 Days to Better Sex, a practical, transformative program that helps you get in the driver’s seat of your sex life, actively creating the passion and connection you truly desire. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Liz Entin didn't believe in an afterlife. She wasn’t spiritual, and she avoided thinking about death. That changed after she  lost her father. His death didn't just bring grief, it sparked a search for answers. In this episode, Liz shares how that search led her into quantum physics, reincarnation research, and mediumship. We talk about how she went from skeptic to believer after encountering evidence she couldn’t ignore. She even tested psychics using fake names and burner phones, trying to confirm or debunk what they said. Liz is the author of WTF Just Happened?!: A Sciencey-Skeptic Explores Grief, Healing, and Evidence of an Afterlife and the host of the WTF Just Happened?! podcast. What makes her story unique is that it’s based on firsthand experiences and real evidence, not blind faith. Liz discusses: The moment she realized life after death couldn’t be dismissed The University of Virginia’s reincarnation studies that shifted her perspective Her secret tests of mediums with Google Voice numbers, fake names, and burner emails The signs and synchronicities that changed everything for her How she accidentally gave her own mediumship reading How afterlife awareness shifts the grief journey  Liz’s story is about more than loss. It’s about discovering something deeper in the wake of tragedy. If you’ve ever questioned what happens after we die, or if you’re hoping for a sign from someone you’ve lost, this episode is for you. Want to learn more about Liz? Check out her books, her podcast, and her grief-meets-science salons at wtfjusthappened.net Follow her on Instagram: @wtf_just_happened_ And if you’re curious about your own healing, I invite you to explore my Good Grief Course. It's filled with tools, practices, and support to help you connect and grow through loss. If this episode touched your heart, or if you have a story or sign to share, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. We’re in this together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So the date’s going really well. The drinks are flowing, the laughter is effortless, the chemistry? Off the charts. One thing leads to another... and you sleep together. Now you’re lying in bed, wondering: Was that a mistake? Should you have waited? Does having sex so soon make you seem less serious—or just honest about your desires? Can it create real connection, or does it shut the door before anything deeper begins? In this Language of Love Session, I  respond to a heartfelt question from Susie, who finds herself second-guessing her decision to have sex on the first date. I explore the emotional landmines of modern dating—especially in a world of ghosting, dating apps, and conflicting advice. You will learn: Why dating apps have changed the rules—and how to protect your heart How delaying sex can reveal true intentions (without playing games) What oxytocin does to your brain (and why it matters after sex) The truth about “earning” intimacy—and how it builds mutual respect Why your sexuality is a gift, and how to share it with intention When first-date sex does work—and what to watch for if it doesn’t If you’ve ever second-guessed sleeping with someone too soon—or felt like you gave too much too fast—this one’s for you. And if someone disappears after sex, I explain why that says everything about them, not you. Have your own story to share or a question for Dr. Berman? Email languageoflovepod@gmail.com. You might hear it featured in a future session. For more on navigating intimacy and dating with confidence, visit my website or check out my newest book, Sex Magic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We hear so much about low libido, but what about the women who feel alive with desire, who crave connection and intimacy, and don’t always know where to put all that energy? If that’s you, I see you. If you love a woman like that, listen closely. In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into what high desire women secretly wish their partners knew. You’re not too much. You’re not too needy. Your sensuality is sacred and it deserves to be honored, not dimmed. I share five powerful truths that can shift how we understand desire, along with a beautiful, simple 5-minute eye-gazing ritual to help you reconnect without pressure, agenda, or words. Just presence. Just being seen. I talk about: Why desire isn’t just physical: it’s energetic and emotional How initiating sex is often a bid for closeness, not control The heartbreak of dimming yourself to make others comfortable Why presence matters more than performance in bed How your desire, fully expressed, becomes a gift to the relationship   Whether you’re a high-desire woman or you love one, this episode is here to remind you: Your sensual energy isn’t something to fix. It’s a power to honor. If you’re craving tools that blend intimacy, healing, and pleasure, grab Sex Magic, because true connection begins when we stop performing and start seeing each other, soul to soul. And don’t forget to visit my website to explore 7 Days to Better Sex, a transformational program designed to put you in the driver’s seat of your sex life, actively creating the passion you crave and deserve. Because this isn’t about fixing yourself… it’s about reclaiming your power. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever lost someone you love and found yourself wondering… where did they go? Are they still near? Can they feel me? In this episode of Language of Love Conversations, I’m joined by Anita Moorjani. A bestselling author and globally respected speaker, Anita has been a guiding light for me and for many who have walked through grief. When I lost my mother 12 years ago, her book Dying to Be Me helped me feel less alone and more connected to something beyond this life. Anita’s story is nothing short of miraculous. After a four-year battle with cancer, her body shut down completely. Doctors declared she wouldn’t make it. But during a 30-hour near-death experience, Anita crossed over into what she describes as the most loving, peaceful, and joy-filled space imaginable. There was no pain. No fear. Just pure freedom. And yet, she could still feel her family’s sorrow. She wanted so badly to comfort them, to let them know she was okay. She was in a much better place now, but had no body, no words. What she experienced during that time challenged everything she’d ever believed. In this episode, Anita opens up about what she saw on the other side and how even the soul of her estranged father met her in love. What she learned changed her life. It just might change yours, too. We talk about: Anita’s experience with cancer, death, and healing What she learned about love, forgiveness, and who we really are How your loved ones keep supporting you after they’re gone Why you don’t have to keep grieving to show your love, and how healing helps you and them How her father’s spirit helped her live without fear Ways you can raise your energy to connect with those who have passed What spirit looks like, if it has a body, and if it changes over time How her healing affected the doctors and medical staff Advice for those who lost a partner and wonder if it’s okay to love again What instant manifestation looks like after death Why some disturbing dreams aren’t messages from loved ones, and how real messages come through Anita’s thoughts on reincarnation and soul plans and the 360-degree tapestry of life The three main truths she learned on the other side Why life can feel like a video game with more going on behind the scenes If Anita’s story speaks to you, you can read her  book Dying to Be Me. or visit her website.  You can also find her on LinkedIn and YouTube. There’s a Sedona retreat coming soon for those interested. If you’re grieving, you don’t have to go through it alone. Check out the Good Grief Course on my website for support and guidance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do same-sex fantasies really mean? You’re in a loving, heterosexual relationship. You feel close to your partner—emotionally and physically. And yet… your imagination is taking you somewhere unexpected. Somewhere that involves desire, intimacy, and sex—with the same gender. In this episode of Language of Love Session, we dive into this very experience through Chelsea’s story. She’s been with her male partner for years. Their bond is strong. The love is real. But lately, her mind has been drifting. Recurring sexual fantasies about women have started popping up—quietly, insistently, and powerfully. She hasn’t acted on them. She doesn’t want to end her relationship. But she can’t help but wonder: “Does this mean I’m gay or bi? Or are same-sex fantasies just… fantasies?” This session unpacks what fantasies are really about—why they don’t always match our lived desires, and how you can explore them without fear or shame. You don’t need a label to ask the question. You’re allowed to be curious. If you’ve ever wondered what your fantasies might mean—or if they mean anything at all—this one’s for you. We explore: Why same-sex fantasies are far more common than you think (especially for women) What the Kinsey Scale can teach you about the fluidity of sexual desire How to separate fantasy from identity—and why they don’t always need to match Why you don’t have to act on a fantasy for it to be meaningful, fun, or real The difference between curiosity, confusion, and true longing And if you’re exploring new territory in your mind or your relationship, I’d love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your story could help someone else feel more seen.  Visit my website or dive into my latest book, Sex Magic, for a transformative look at pleasure and self-discovery. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You know that weird knot in your stomach when your partner doesn’t text back? Or that moment when, after an argument, you just totally shut down? What if I told you those little patterns don’t just mess with your relationship—they sneak into your sex life too? In this Language of Love Bite, we’re getting real about something we all bring to the bedroom but almost never talk about: your attachment style. I’m talking about how the way you love is literally the way you touch. Whether you’re anxious, avoidant, secure, or somewhere in between, those patterns show up in bed—and not always in ways you expect. This isn’t about slapping a label on you. It’s about freeing you. Because once you get what’s really going on, you can change the script—and finally experience the kind of intimacy your body and heart have been starving for. Here’s what  uncover together: Why anxious attachment can make sex feel like a test you’re scared to fail—and why rejection hits like a gut punch. Why avoidant attachment might have you pulling away from closeness, even when you’re totally turned on. How disorganized attachment turns desire into a confusing, scary mix—often tied to old wounds you didn’t even realize were still there. What secure attachment really feels like—being safe, present, and emotionally connected during sex. And the one powerful question that reveals your true sexual attachment needs—and opens the door to healing Whether you're over-giving in bed, emotionally checking out, or somewhere in the middle, this episode offers a mirror—and a map. Your patterns aren’t permanent. With awareness, your attachment style can evolve. And sex? It can become a space of deep healing, not just habit. Want to go deeper? Grab my book Sex Magic for body-based tools that rebuild trust, safety, and sacred connection. Feeling seen by this episode? Share your story: Email languageoflovepod@gmail.com Because how you love… is how you touch. And you deserve to feel safe enough to surrender. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices