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Learn to Speak Kid
Learn to Speak Kid
Author: Bonnieandthomasliotta
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Welcome to Learn to Speak Kid, the podcast that dives deep into real situations with real talk for struggling moms who know there must be a better way to raise kids! Transform how you understand and communicate with your children so you can live the life of your parenting dreams. Hosted by Bonnie and Thomas Liotta, a dynamic duo with over 60 years of combined leadership experience—Thomas as a Martial Arts Expert and Bonnie as a business leader and mom who has lived through ODD, ADHD, anxiety, and depression until finding Thomas—this show offers a powerful, leadership-driven approach to parenting.
Each episode explores proven methods for raising confident, emotionally secure, and empowered children, particularly when facing the challenges of behavioral and emotional disorders like oppositional defiant disorder, intermittent explosive disorder and DMDD. Whether you’re struggling with defiance, anxiety, or simply the everyday chaos of family life, we’ll equip you with the parenting tools to build peace, harmony, and cooperation in your home.
Bonnie and Thomas offer practical strategies, heartfelt stories, and expert insights that move away from gentle or authoritative parenting methods and focus instead on leadership, respect, and connection. You’ll discover how to lead your children purposefully, guiding them through emotional challenges with love, clarity, and confidence.
Ready to break through the chaos and reclaim peace in your home? Tune in each week for life-changing inspiration and a new way to speak the language of love, respect, and leadership with your kids.
Each episode explores proven methods for raising confident, emotionally secure, and empowered children, particularly when facing the challenges of behavioral and emotional disorders like oppositional defiant disorder, intermittent explosive disorder and DMDD. Whether you’re struggling with defiance, anxiety, or simply the everyday chaos of family life, we’ll equip you with the parenting tools to build peace, harmony, and cooperation in your home.
Bonnie and Thomas offer practical strategies, heartfelt stories, and expert insights that move away from gentle or authoritative parenting methods and focus instead on leadership, respect, and connection. You’ll discover how to lead your children purposefully, guiding them through emotional challenges with love, clarity, and confidence.
Ready to break through the chaos and reclaim peace in your home? Tune in each week for life-changing inspiration and a new way to speak the language of love, respect, and leadership with your kids.
17 Episodes
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Discover why forbidding becomes forbidden fruit and how to transform your parenting approach from restriction to empowerment. In this episode, Bonnie and Thomas share practical examples of applying the "let them" principle—from a 2-year-old's lip gloss fascination to a 14-year-old's first bush party request. Learn how teaching life skills proactively (instead of baby-proofing and redirecting) builds neural pathways for focus, self-control, and responsibility. Find out why becoming your child's "big kid trusted advisor" creates cooperation, connection, and lasting relationships—even into adulthood. Want more? Click here.
What if everything you're doing to fix your child's behavior is actually making it worse? In this eye-opening episode, Bonnie and Thomas Liotta introduce the Karma Principle - the revolutionary idea that you reap what you sow in parenting.
Discover why timeouts, takeaways, and traditional punishment strategies plant "anger seeds" that grow into the exact behaviors you're desperately trying to stop: lying, sneaking, defiance, and aggression. Learn the shocking truth about why therapy and medication often fail to create lasting change, and why more seclusion rooms in schools signals we're addressing symptoms instead of root causes.
Through biblical wisdom, personal stories, and 40 years of experience working with thousands of families, Bonnie and Thomas reveal the missing ingredient in modern parenting: planting love seeds instead of anger seeds. They explain how shifting from control and punishment to guidance and empowerment transforms even the most defiant children with ODD, ADHD, and behavioral diagnoses.
If you're exhausted from feeling like a broken record, ready to stop the power struggles, and want to actually enjoy your kids again begin your new empowering journey here.
Are you working overtime to give your kids everything you never had? This episode will make you rethink everything.
Bonnie and Thomas Liotta dive into a shocking truth from Napoleon Hill's 1928 Law of Success: "An easy life can often become a greater handicap than the human being can even survive."
Discover why parents who do everything for their children—buying them everything, removing every struggle, solving every problem—are actually crippling them. Learn the science behind why struggle develops strength, resilience, and confidence, and why removing it creates dependent, unmotivated children who lack the life skills to thrive independently.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why helping a butterfly out of its cocoon kills it (and what this teaches us about parenting)
The hidden danger of emotional regulation parenting trends
How "overcompensating" parents rob children of their zest for life
The simple win-win formula that creates cooperation instead of defiance
Real-life examples of transforming toddler meltdowns into joyful moments
If your child struggles with defiance, lack of motivation, or behavioral challenges, this episode reveals the root cause you've never considered—and the solution that doesn't require medication, therapy, or harsh punishment.
Featured Quote: "Being forced to work and forced to do your best will breed in you temperance, self-control, strength of will, content, and a hundred other virtues that the idle will never know." —Napoleon Hill
Are you struggling with a child diagnosed with ODD, DMDD, or other behavioral or mood disorder? In this episode, Bonnie and Thomas Liotta reveal why doing too much for your kids might be stealing their zest for life. Drawing from Napoleon Hill's "Law of Success" (1928), they explain how struggle develops essential qualities in children and why an "easy life" can become a greater handicap than most kids can survive. Learn the science behind creating win-win environments where both parent and child thrive, and discover why the formula of positive child goals plus proactive parent plans equals cooperation, happiness, and family harmony. Plus, hear a real-life example of how this works with their two-year-old granddaughter, Harlie-Faith. If you're ready for a new, empowering parenting journey with cooperative kids. Click Here
Is your child labelled with ODD, DMDD, or simply "impossible to manage"? What if every meltdown, every hit, every lie is actually a desperate attempt to communicate something you're not hearing yet?
In this powerful episode of Learn to Speak Kid, Bonnie and Thomas Liotta reveal the life-changing truth that most parenting experts won't tell you: children cannot think abstractly until at least age 13, which means traditional discipline methods are fundamentally misguided.
Discover why your child hears "wah wah wah" when you explain consequences, how the "terrible twos" are actually your fault (not theirs), and the simple reframe that transforms defiant behavior into cooperation without medication, years of therapy, or harsh punishment.
You'll learn:
Why telling your child "no" 400 times more than "yes" creates oppositional behavior
What your child is REALLY saying when they hit, lie, or melt down
The genius code of "monkey see, monkey do" that unlocks cooperation
How to teach life skills instead of trying to control behavior
If you've tried every parenting book except Learn to Speak Kid, this episode will change everything. Stop seeing behavior problems—start seeing brilliant genius kids with limited life skills.
🎯 Ready to transform your home from chaos to cooperation? Visit learntospeakkid.com
Are you exhausted from the endless cycle of timeouts, takeaways, and tantrums? Feel like a broken record constantly repeating yourself? In this eye-opening episode, Bonnie and Thomas Liotta challenge everything you've been taught about parenting.
Discover why traditional discipline methods—punishment, lectures, and behavior correction—actually work perfectly in the wrong direction. Learn the revolutionary paradigm shift from controlling children to teaching them life skills through the "monkey see, monkey do" method.
The Liottas reveal why your child's "bad behavior" is actually a genius asking to be shown how to do things themselves. With a 90% success rate and zero restraints required, their approach transforms crisis management into proactive life skills training—turning your home from chaos to harmony.
If you've tried everything and nothing works, this episode will change how you see parenting forever. Stop being a firefighter putting out flames and become the architect building your child's independence, one life skill at a time. If you love this and need help now, click here and begin a new empowering parenting journey.
Stop controlling, start teaching! Discover why children misbehave due to missing life skills—not defiance—and learn the four-step approach that achieves 90%+ behavioral transformation. Hear how a 17-year-old with severe ODD turned his life around in five months without restraints, timeouts, or medication. This finale of our three-part series reveals the revolutionary parenting method that's helping families worldwide raise cooperative, confident children from the inside out. Click here and begin your journey to empowering parenting.
Bonnie and Thomas Liotta challenge every popular parenting method and reveal the hidden control mechanisms behind gentle, conscious, and attachment parenting approaches. Discover why even the kindest parenting techniques are creating the aggressive behavior you're trying to prevent. Click Here for more.
Hosts Bonnie and Thomas Liotta tackle the tragic reality of restraint-related deaths in schools and therapeutic facilities. Following the October 16, 2025, death of Amy Morrell while restraining a 14-year-old girl, this episode explores why restraint exists, how it escalates from everyday parenting practices, and why over 20 children die from restraint every year in the United States alone.
The Liottas argue that restraint is the endpoint of a continuum that begins at home, starting in infancy, when parents control their children through punishment rather than empowering them with life skills. Drawing on Thomas's experience working with thousands of children without ever using restraints, they reveal how authoritative parenting habits stem from previous generations' authoritarian punishment-based parenting, which still influences modern parenting, but under gentler labels.
This is part one of a three-part series examining how adults create aggressive children and what alternatives exist to transform defiant behavior without force, punishment, medication, or therapy. Click here and start a new empowering parenting journey today.
Join Bonnie and Thomas Liotta as they reveal why traditional behavior management fails families and how to transform your parenting by teaching life skills instead. Learn the practical "Play-Clean-Sleep" framework that empowers children to develop responsibility naturally, without power struggles, rewards, or punishments. Perfect for parents tired of feeling like broken records who want cooperation from the inside out. If this episode resonates and you'd love to learn my click here.
Parents searching for help with ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) and ADHD often feel stuck in years of therapy with little change. In this Learn to Speak Kid episode, Bonnie and Thomas Liotta share why a proactive, life-skills approach—self-control, responsibility, self-discipline, and focus—can create authentic transformation in 90 days without harsh punishment, endless appointments, or mind-altering medication. You’ll learn how “goal power,” guiding behavior (not managing symptoms), and CCFL’s 12 Principles bridge short-term wins into long-term change so defiant child behavior becomes cooperation at home and school. Click here for solutions that work!
Tired of band-aid solutions for your child's aggressive behavior? The Learn to Speak Kid podcast with Bonnie and Thomas Liotta helps parents get to the root cause of oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), DMDD, ADHD, and defiant child behavior. Discover why labels fall short and how missing life skills—not broken brains—drive aggressive outbursts, meltdowns, and defiance. Learn proven strategies to transform even the most challenging child behavior without harsh punishment or endless therapy. Move from managing behavior to teaching life skills that empower children to choose cooperation from the inside out. Real solutions for real parents raising difficult kids. Tap Here for life-changing resources.
Parents of oppositional defiant disorder kids are often told to punish, take things away, or rely on time-outs. But what if that approach is actually making things worse? In this episode, Bonnie shares her story of discovering why traditional discipline failed — and how shifting to a proactive, life-skills-based plan turned defiance into cooperation. You’ll learn why “goal power” changes everything and how to stop living in daily battles with your child. Are you seeking resources that promote harmony and cooperation? Click Here
Join Bonnie and Thomas Leota on Learn to Speak Kid as they tackle one of parenting's toughest questions: Is Oppositional Defiant Disorder the parent's fault? Through personal stories and unique perspectives, they explore how ODD develops, why traditional labels may miss the mark, and how parents can feel empowered rather than blamed. Discover why every child is born a "genius" and how understanding the natural learning process can transform difficult behaviors into cooperative ones. This episode challenges conventional thinking about child behavior disorders and offers hope for parents struggling with defiant children. Need resources to turn ODD into cooperation? Click Here
Discover the surprising secret to raising confident, independent, and truly successful children. Bonnie and Thomas Liotta reveal why struggle is essential for your child's development and how well-intentioned parents might be accidentally crippling their kids' future success. Learn the universal formula that transforms children from dependent to champion status, why video games aren't the enemy, and how to stop being a "broken record" parent. This eye-opening conversation challenges conventional parenting wisdom and provides practical solutions you can implement today.
Bonnie & Thomas unpack why so many loving parents feel scared to set boundaries—and how to transition from a reactive “because I said so” or endless gentle negotiating approach to a proactive system where the environment (not the child) holds the authority. You’ll hear Bonnie’s raw story of ADHD/ODD meltdowns transformed into calm cooperation, the power of earned privileges (paycheck vs. allowance), and how structure and validation create confident, independent kids. Practical, hopeful, life-changing.
Begin your transformative journey here.
Social media isn’t going away—so how do we prepare our kids for it? In this episode, we explore why giving kids devices without earning them is backwards, and how life skills training—not control—is the key to raising confident, prepared kids in the digital age. Need help with a defiant child? Get started here.
What every great parent needs to know about aggressive child behavior. You might be wondering what's going on and what you can do to address it.
In this episode, we delve into the causes of aggressive child behavior and provide actionable solutions to help parents confidently manage these situations.
From emotional dysregulation to environmental stressors, we examine the various factors that can trigger aggression in children. Plus, we share strategies for teaching emotional regulation, setting boundaries, and fostering positive behavior.
If you're ready to turn chaos into harmony in your home, this episode is for you! If you need help now, see our Linktree for resources and options...tap here.



