Legally Clueless

In this empowering episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with certified fitness coach and nutritionist Coach Roseanne to unpack the deeper truths behind diet culture and how African women can heal their relationship with food, fitness, and their bodies. Roseanne shares her personal journey from being medically obese to creating a sustainable, shame-free approach to health. Together, they explore:Why most diets fail, how mindset and identity play a bigger role than calories.The emotional link between food, shame, and self-worth.How to decolonize your plate and rebuild a healthy relationship with traditional African foods.The four “food personas” many women fall into and how to identify yours.The power of small, sustainable steps and mindset shifts over restrictive plans.Why healing your inner world is key to transforming your outer habits.This is not a conversation about losing weight it’s about finding freedom in your body, your food, and your life.🎙️ Guest: Coach Rosanne Certified Fitness Coach & Nutritionist📩 Connect with Rosanne: https://www.instagram.com/coachroseanne✨ CTA:If this conversation stirred something in you, share it with another woman on her healing journey. Subscribe to For Mannerless Women and join our growing community of women rewriting the rules of womanhood.🔗 Our Usual Links:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: @legallycluelessafricaTikTok: @legallycluelessafricaYouTube: Legally Clueless AfricaShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This week, The Mid Week Tease features Susan Wanjiku, financial educator and founder of The Legacy Hub KE and She-E-O Africa. In this part 1 of our conversation, Susan opens up about her journey from employment to entrepreneurship and the financial shock that came with losing a steady paycheck. She shares real, relatable lessons on:Managing irregular income without panicThe mindset shifts that turn creatives into business ownersTracking your money (and why even Ksh 100 matters)Building systems that make your finances work for youSeparating business and personal money to regain control🎟️ Don’t miss the upcoming LCA Wellness Talk:“Smart Money Strategies for Entrepreneurs & Freelancers”🗓 Saturday 25th October | ⏰ 9 AM – 12 NOON | 💻 Virtual Session🎟 Tickets: Ksh 1,000 | Available here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=69637Join us as Susan breaks down practical money systems that can help entrepreneurs and freelancers thrive — even with irregular income.🔗 Links:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafricaTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

Part 2 of this series follows a Brenda, deepening her path toward a childfree life; from navigating painful periods and stigma around tampons, to learning contraception, witnessing friends’ very different pregnancy choices, facing healthcare gatekeeping around permanent options, and finally finding language and courage through a childfree community.In this episode:Body literacy over pain and shameTampon myths, contraception, and informed choiceAbortion, pregnancy in school, and compassionHealthcare gatekeeping vs. consent-centered careCommunity as mirror: “I’m not alone”Content note: Menstrual pain, abortion, stigma.Group Therapy (3-Part Series) on Childhood Trauma.Ticket portal closes Thursday (Oct 9).We’ll explore: Signs of childhood wounds, how they show up in adulthood, trauma responses & coping, trauma bonds, healing your inner child, and more.Facilitators: Symon Murage, Margaret Wachira, Catherine NjorogeDates: Oct 11, Nov 8, Dec 6 (Saturdays)Time: 10:00 AM – 2:00 PM (EAT)Cost: KES 4,500 for all three sessions (limited slots)Register: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=68543Stay ConnectedNewsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8Listen & subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your pods.New episodes every Monday.

In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with sleep coach, content creator, business owner, and published author Kitt Nyang'aya Kiarie for an honest conversation about identity. From navigating the pressures of relationships and motherhood, to honoring her individuality in marriage, Kitt shares how she has refused to lose herself in the roles society expects of women. She talks about raising children without shame, redefining body confidence, protecting personal agency, and why community and hobbies outside marriage are non-negotiable.The conversation also touches on her work as a Kenyan sleep coach, her groundbreaking Happy Baby Sleep Manual, and her intentional clothing line rooted in freedom. This episode is an empowering reminder that your worth isn’t tied to your titles, you are a whole person first.✨ Listen in if you’re ready to reclaim your sense of self and live womanhood on your own terms.CONNECT WITH LEGALLY CLUELESS AFRICA🌍 Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com📸 Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/🎵 TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica▶️ YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube📝 Share your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

Social media has become part of our daily lives but it’s also quietly changing us. The endless scroll, the outrage-driven posts, the comparison traps… all of it can keep us in survival mode: tense, reactive, judgmental, and even less empathetic. In this episode of Mid-Week Tease, Adelle unpacks what survival mode actually feels like, the racing heart, the late-night doom-scroll, the sense of always being “behind” and explains how algorithms profit from keeping us there. But it’s not all bad news. You’ll also learn practical ways to use social media without losing your humanity: from pausing before reacting to creating no-scroll zones and practicing digital sabbaths.If you’ve ever wondered why scrolling leaves you more drained than inspired, this episode is for you. Resources Mentioned:Brady et al. (2017, PNAS): Outrage spreads faster online.Kramer et al. (2014, PNAS): Emotional contagion in social networks.Suler (2004): Online disinhibition effect.🔗 Links:Sign up for our newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafricaTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this episode, we document Brenda's path toward a childfree life, from a lively Meru childhood and firstborn duty to the moment, at seven years old, when she first questioned whether motherhood should be her destiny. Through community, Catholic-school conditioning, and a deep love of words, she begins naming a life that’s hers by choice. In this episode you’ll hear:Meru roots: muddy play, tea farms, and a massive, close-knit communityFirstborn duty vs. being allowed to be a childEarly conditioning around womanhood/motherhood and the first “no”Reading as refuge and rebellionBody literacy at home vs. school expectationsYou're invited to our upcoming 3-part group therapy!We’ll explore: Signs you may be carrying childhood wounds, how it shows up in adulthood, trauma responses & coping mechanisms, trauma bonds, healing your inner child, and more.Facilitators: Psychologists Symon Murage, Margaret Wachira, Catherine NjorogeDates (Saturdays): Oct 11, Nov 8, Dec 6Time: 10:00 AM – 2:00 PMCost (all 3 sessions): KES 4,500Registration: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=68543 (limited slots)Stay ConnectedNewsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8Listen & subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your pods.New episodes every Monday.

In this moving episode of For Mannerless Women, Catherine, the first Kenyan woman to lead a yoga teacher training in Africa, shares her extraordinary journey of healing and transformation. Born and raised in Kariobangi, Catherine discovered yoga by accident, but it soon became the tool that helped her navigate the challenges of her upbringing, heal generational wounds, and support her mother through recovery from alcoholism. You will hear how:Yoga became a path of mind, body, and spirit healingCatherine rebuilt her relationship with her mother through forgiveness and compassionShe transformed pain into purpose by becoming a teacher and mentorHer nonprofit, Yoga Link Kenya, now empowers teenage girls and young mothers to embrace self-love and reclaim their futuresCatherine’s story is a testament to resilience, compassion, and the power of turning personal healing into community impact.✨ This episode is an invitation to witness how one woman used yoga to rewrite her story and inspire others to do the same.🔗 Connect with Legally Clueless Africa:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this Mid-Week Tease, Adelle dives into the hidden ways internalized shame limits women and how it often makes us judge each other too. Shame is sneaky; it feels personal, but really it’s society’s voice living inside of us. Adelle shares how shame silences us, shrinks us, disconnects us from others, and even makes us police other women. And drawing from Brené Brown’s research, Adelle unpacks what shame resilience looks like and how we can start reclaiming our power with awareness, compassion, and connection.Reflection prompts in this episode:What rules do you live by that you never actually chose?Where do you notice shame making you smaller?When do you catch yourself judging other women and what does it reveal about your own shame?What’s one area of your life where you want to practice shame resilience?Let’s talk about it.Links:The Moth In Nairobi: https://themoth.org/events/the-moth-in-nairobi📩 Join our newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com📸 Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica🎶 TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica📺 YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube💌 Share your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

Over the past two episodes, we’ve journeyed with Audrey through her childhood and the unimaginable loss of her beloved brother, Warren. In this final part of her story, Audrey shares how she navigated life after loss, the painful burial, the anger she felt at faith, and her long journey of slowly facing the places and memories she had been avoiding.She also reflects on how unexpected moments, like her mother’s later pregnancies, brought new light into their family’s story. This episode is a powerful reminder that grief isn’t linear, and healing often comes in pieces, sometimes in the most surprising ways.📌 This is Part 3, the final part of Audrey’s story.Connect with Audrey here: https://www.instagram.com/apondiaudrey/✨ Legally Clueless Group TherapyWe’re holding our final 3-part group therapy of the year in partnership with Shamiri Health. The theme is Childhood Trauma, and together with three accredited psychologists, we’ll explore:How trauma shows up in adulthoodHow it shapes our relationships and bondsHow to begin healing your inner child🗓️ Dates: October 11, November 8, December 6🎟️ Ticket: KES 4,500 (covers all three sessions)Join us if you’re ready to start understanding yourself more deeply and take steps toward healing. Tickets are available: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=68543✨ Explore more Legally Clueless Africa platforms:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, host Adelle Onyango sits down with Ingashian Gibendi, product leader, founder of The Career Whisperer, and a bold advocate for women crafting careers on their own terms. Ingashian shares why rest is not laziness but a radical act of reclaiming power in a world that equates worth with constant work. From taking unplanned career breaks, to rejecting toxic workplace cultures, to choosing life before titles, she reminds us that women have the right to pause and that those pauses can be life-changing.Together, they explore:The lie that titles define successCareer breaks as tools for healing and clarityHow to embrace guilt-free rest and avoid burnoutWhy your life should come before your job descriptionThe hidden power of choosing partners who support your career wellbeingThis conversation is a rallying cry for women ready to unlearn productivity anxiety and boldly rewrite what ambition and success look like.📌 Join the Legally Clueless Africa Community:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafricaTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This week on Mid Week Tease, Adelle is joined by therapist Natali Mukami from Shamiri Health as they open up a deeply important conversation about childhood trauma. They unpack:What childhood trauma really is and how it shows up in adulthoodThe subtle ways trauma manifests in our work, relationships, and self-perceptionWhy group therapy is such a powerful space for healingGentle tools you can begin using to manage trauma responses✨ Upcoming Group Therapy ✨We’re closing out the year with our final 3-part Group Therapy of 2025, in partnership with Shamiri Health, led by three accredited psychologists. Theme: Childhood TraumaTogether, we’ll unpack:How trauma manifests and how to recognize itSigns of childhood trauma we often missCommon trauma responses and how to manage themHow trauma shapes our relationships and bondsInner child dialogue — reconnecting and healingBuilding self-compassion📅 Dates:October 11November 8December 6🎟️ Ticket: Ksh 4,500 (covers all three sessions + resources + refreshments)Tickets are limited—secure yours now here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=68543.Come as you are, bring a friend, and step into a safe space where healing happens in community.

When Grief Silences Siblings In Part 1 of Audrey’s story, she took us back to her childhood in Migori County, the joy, the cracks in her parents’ marriage, and the loneliness of family separation. In this second part, Audrey shares the unimaginable: the sudden loss of her beloved brother Warren. She opens up about the chaos that followed, the unanswered questions surrounding his death, and the invisible grief siblings often carry when families and communities focus only on the parents. This part of her story is raw, painful, and a reminder of how layered grief can be, and how important it is to honor every voice touched by loss.👉🏾 Part 3, the final part of Audrey’s story, will be out next week.📌 Subscribe so you don’t miss it.✨ Other Legally Clueless Africa Platforms:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this deeply honest episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with journalist, advocate, and founder of the Inua Dada Foundation, Janet Mbugua, for a vulnerable conversation on the realities of female friendships. Together, they explore:How the media and society pit women against each otherThe quiet shame and trust issues that shape how we show up in friendshipsFriendship breakups, ghosting, and learning how to confront with loveWhy adult women aren’t taught how to make friends—and what intentional friendship looks likeThe everyday magic of sisterhood in small acts of care and presenceThis is a heartfelt reminder that while female friendships can be complex, they are also deeply healing, affirming, and transformative.✨ Lean in and let this conversation inspire you to nurture the bonds that hold you.🔗 Stay ConnectedNewsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

Why do some relationships feel like home even when they hurt us? Why do we cling to people who echo the very wounds we’ve been trying to escape? In this episode of the Mid Week Tease, we unpack how childhood trauma shapes the way we love, the way we trust, and the bonds we form, even the ones that break us. From understanding trauma bonds, to relearning trust, to breaking generational cycles, this is a heartfelt conversation on rewriting how we connect.✨ We’ll explore:How childhood sets the blueprint for love and trustWhat trauma bonds are and why they feel so magneticThe difference between trauma bonding and shared vulnerabilitySmall steps to rebuild trust in relationshipsHow to stop passing trauma to the next generationWhat love looks like beyond trauma💛 GROUP THERAPY ANNOUNCEMENTWe’re excited to share that our final 3-part group therapy of 2025 is back! This time, we’re partnering with Shamiri Health, and 3 accredited psychologists will guide us through the theme:CHILDHOOD TRAUMA.Some of the issues we’ll be tackling include:How trauma manifests and how to recognize itSigns of childhood trauma we often missCommon trauma responses and how to manage themHow trauma shapes our relationships and bondsInner child dialogue — reconnecting and healingBuilding self-compassion in the aftermath of pain📅 Session DatesOctober 11November 8December 6🎟️ Tickets are Ksh 4,500 — and this covers all three sessions.Tickets available here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=68543🎧 Subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes, and share this episode with someone who might need it.Follow us here:Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeNewsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This week on Legally Clueless, we step into Part 1 of Audrey June’s story. She takes us back to her childhood in Migori County, the joy, the bond with her siblings, the love in her family, and then the cracks that began to appear. From her parents’ separation, to the loneliness she felt as a child, and the strength she witnessed in her mother as she fought to rebuild their lives. Part 2 of her story, where joy and unimaginable heartbreak collide, will be out next week.Connect with Audrey here:https://www.instagram.com/dreytaleshttps://www.instagram.com/apondiaudrey📌 Subscribe so you don’t miss it.👉🏾 Sign up for our newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/👉🏾 Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/👉🏾 Follow us on TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica👉🏾 Subscribe to our YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube👉🏾 Share your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Dr. Amanda Kenya, a holistic obstetrician and gynecologist passionate about hormone health. Dr. Kenya breaks down the truth about hormones, beyond periods and fertility, revealing how they impact our sleep, mood, mental health, libido, skin, bones, heart, and so much more. We talk openly about perimenopause, menopause, and post-menopause, and Dr. Kenya gives practical, life-changing insights on:Why there’s no health without hormone healthThe three key hormones shaping our wellbeing: estrogen, progesterone, and testosteroneHow lifestyle factors like nutrition, sleep, and stress directly regulate hormone balanceWhy hormone therapy today is safer, more individualized, and deeply empoweringHow women can prepare for and thrive through perimenopause and beyondThis conversation is both eye-opening and affirming, a must-listen for every woman navigating her body’s changes.✨ Tune in, learn, and share this episode with every woman you care about.🔗 Stay Connected with Legally Clueless AfricaNewsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the quiet legacy many of us carry: the wounds passed down through generations of women, and the strength we inherit too. From the silence of our mothers and grandmothers, to the resilience that allowed them to endure, this episode unpacks how we can recognize both pain and power in our lineage. Adelle shares reflections on:The unspoken traumas women before us carried.The survival patterns we unconsciously repeat.The strength, creativity, and wisdom we also inherit.How to decide what ends with us and what continues.✨ We are living proof that our lineage carried both hurt and hope. And in us, we get to decide which story continues.🔗 Stay connected with Legally Clueless Africa:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeStory submission form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This is Episode 341 of the Legally Clueless Podcast!We’re sharing the second part of a powerful story from Petronilla, a mother of three. In Part 1, she opened up about her chaotic childhood, traumatic delivery, and the early struggles of raising her firstborn. In this episode, she continues her journey, revealing the painful family tensions around her marriage, the terrifying experience of giving birth prematurely, and her battle with postpartum depression. Through it all, Petronilla speaks candidly about what it takes to hold onto hope when life feels overwhelming.✨ Listen out for:How unresolved family wounds can affect marriage.The devastating realities of pre-eclampsia, NICU stays, and postpartum depression.Why patience, acceptance, and valuing people became Petronilla’s lifeline.📌 Episode Links:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Lolo Cynthia, a women’s rights advocate and unapologetic voice on women’s liberation, sexuality, and self-determination. Lolo shares her bold journey of becoming, from creating the persona of “Lolo” at 18 to embracing her true self today. She opens up about therapy as a catalyst for transformation, learning to trust her gut, and the revolutionary act of decentering men. Together, we unpack:Why proximity to power is not power.How to break free from performing for the male gaze.The pushback women face when they reject society’s rules.Practical steps to begin your own journey of becoming.This conversation is raw, unfiltered, and deeply affirming, reminding us that liberation is tough, lonely at times, but always worth it.✨ Join our community & keep up with Legally Clueless Africa:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the characters children often adopt in dysfunctional families, the hero, the clown, the scapegoat, the lost child. These roles may have kept us safe as children, but they can trap us as adults, shaping our relationships, our sense of self, and even how we love. This episode dives into:What family dysfunction creates these childhood roles.The most common characters children adapt.The hidden cost of carrying them into adulthood.How to shed these roles and step into your true self.Navigating family relationships after you’ve stopped playing the part.Wellness Talk This SaturdayWe’ll be going even deeper into these themes at our upcoming Wellness Talk on Family Dynamics & Boundaries happening this Saturday, with therapist Faith Guchu.🚨 Ticket portal closes this Thursday, don’t miss your chance to join this healing conversation in community. Grab your tickets here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/products/66913Stay Connected with Legally Clueless Africa:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafricaTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8