Legally Clueless

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, host Adelle Onyango sits down with Ingashian Gibendi, product leader, founder of The Career Whisperer, and a bold advocate for women crafting careers on their own terms. Ingashian shares why rest is not laziness but a radical act of reclaiming power in a world that equates worth with constant work. From taking unplanned career breaks, to rejecting toxic workplace cultures, to choosing life before titles, she reminds us that women have the right to pause and that those pauses can be life-changing.Together, they explore:The lie that titles define successCareer breaks as tools for healing and clarityHow to embrace guilt-free rest and avoid burnoutWhy your life should come before your job descriptionThe hidden power of choosing partners who support your career wellbeingThis conversation is a rallying cry for women ready to unlearn productivity anxiety and boldly rewrite what ambition and success look like.📌 Join the Legally Clueless Africa Community:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafricaTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This week on Mid Week Tease, Adelle is joined by therapist Natali Mukami from Shamiri Health as they open up a deeply important conversation about childhood trauma. They unpack:What childhood trauma really is and how it shows up in adulthoodThe subtle ways trauma manifests in our work, relationships, and self-perceptionWhy group therapy is such a powerful space for healingGentle tools you can begin using to manage trauma responses✨ Upcoming Group Therapy ✨We’re closing out the year with our final 3-part Group Therapy of 2025, in partnership with Shamiri Health, led by three accredited psychologists. Theme: Childhood TraumaTogether, we’ll unpack:How trauma manifests and how to recognize itSigns of childhood trauma we often missCommon trauma responses and how to manage themHow trauma shapes our relationships and bondsInner child dialogue — reconnecting and healingBuilding self-compassion📅 Dates:October 11November 8December 6🎟️ Ticket: Ksh 4,500 (covers all three sessions + resources + refreshments)Tickets are limited—secure yours now here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=68543.Come as you are, bring a friend, and step into a safe space where healing happens in community.

When Grief Silences Siblings In Part 1 of Audrey’s story, she took us back to her childhood in Migori County, the joy, the cracks in her parents’ marriage, and the loneliness of family separation. In this second part, Audrey shares the unimaginable: the sudden loss of her beloved brother Warren. She opens up about the chaos that followed, the unanswered questions surrounding his death, and the invisible grief siblings often carry when families and communities focus only on the parents. This part of her story is raw, painful, and a reminder of how layered grief can be, and how important it is to honor every voice touched by loss.👉🏾 Part 3, the final part of Audrey’s story, will be out next week.📌 Subscribe so you don’t miss it.✨ Other Legally Clueless Africa Platforms:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this deeply honest episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with journalist, advocate, and founder of the Inua Dada Foundation, Janet Mbugua, for a vulnerable conversation on the realities of female friendships. Together, they explore:How the media and society pit women against each otherThe quiet shame and trust issues that shape how we show up in friendshipsFriendship breakups, ghosting, and learning how to confront with loveWhy adult women aren’t taught how to make friends—and what intentional friendship looks likeThe everyday magic of sisterhood in small acts of care and presenceThis is a heartfelt reminder that while female friendships can be complex, they are also deeply healing, affirming, and transformative.✨ Lean in and let this conversation inspire you to nurture the bonds that hold you.🔗 Stay ConnectedNewsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

Why do some relationships feel like home even when they hurt us? Why do we cling to people who echo the very wounds we’ve been trying to escape? In this episode of the Mid Week Tease, we unpack how childhood trauma shapes the way we love, the way we trust, and the bonds we form, even the ones that break us. From understanding trauma bonds, to relearning trust, to breaking generational cycles, this is a heartfelt conversation on rewriting how we connect.✨ We’ll explore:How childhood sets the blueprint for love and trustWhat trauma bonds are and why they feel so magneticThe difference between trauma bonding and shared vulnerabilitySmall steps to rebuild trust in relationshipsHow to stop passing trauma to the next generationWhat love looks like beyond trauma💛 GROUP THERAPY ANNOUNCEMENTWe’re excited to share that our final 3-part group therapy of 2025 is back! This time, we’re partnering with Shamiri Health, and 3 accredited psychologists will guide us through the theme:CHILDHOOD TRAUMA.Some of the issues we’ll be tackling include:How trauma manifests and how to recognize itSigns of childhood trauma we often missCommon trauma responses and how to manage themHow trauma shapes our relationships and bondsInner child dialogue — reconnecting and healingBuilding self-compassion in the aftermath of pain📅 Session DatesOctober 11November 8December 6🎟️ Tickets are Ksh 4,500 — and this covers all three sessions.Tickets available here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=68543🎧 Subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes, and share this episode with someone who might need it.Follow us here:Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeNewsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This week on Legally Clueless, we step into Part 1 of Audrey June’s story. She takes us back to her childhood in Migori County, the joy, the bond with her siblings, the love in her family, and then the cracks that began to appear. From her parents’ separation, to the loneliness she felt as a child, and the strength she witnessed in her mother as she fought to rebuild their lives. Part 2 of her story, where joy and unimaginable heartbreak collide, will be out next week.Connect with Audrey here:https://www.instagram.com/dreytaleshttps://www.instagram.com/apondiaudrey📌 Subscribe so you don’t miss it.👉🏾 Sign up for our newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/👉🏾 Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/👉🏾 Follow us on TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica👉🏾 Subscribe to our YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube👉🏾 Share your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Dr. Amanda Kenya, a holistic obstetrician and gynecologist passionate about hormone health. Dr. Kenya breaks down the truth about hormones, beyond periods and fertility, revealing how they impact our sleep, mood, mental health, libido, skin, bones, heart, and so much more. We talk openly about perimenopause, menopause, and post-menopause, and Dr. Kenya gives practical, life-changing insights on:Why there’s no health without hormone healthThe three key hormones shaping our wellbeing: estrogen, progesterone, and testosteroneHow lifestyle factors like nutrition, sleep, and stress directly regulate hormone balanceWhy hormone therapy today is safer, more individualized, and deeply empoweringHow women can prepare for and thrive through perimenopause and beyondThis conversation is both eye-opening and affirming, a must-listen for every woman navigating her body’s changes.✨ Tune in, learn, and share this episode with every woman you care about.🔗 Stay Connected with Legally Clueless AfricaNewsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the quiet legacy many of us carry: the wounds passed down through generations of women, and the strength we inherit too. From the silence of our mothers and grandmothers, to the resilience that allowed them to endure, this episode unpacks how we can recognize both pain and power in our lineage. Adelle shares reflections on:The unspoken traumas women before us carried.The survival patterns we unconsciously repeat.The strength, creativity, and wisdom we also inherit.How to decide what ends with us and what continues.✨ We are living proof that our lineage carried both hurt and hope. And in us, we get to decide which story continues.🔗 Stay connected with Legally Clueless Africa:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeStory submission form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This is Episode 341 of the Legally Clueless Podcast!We’re sharing the second part of a powerful story from Petronilla, a mother of three. In Part 1, she opened up about her chaotic childhood, traumatic delivery, and the early struggles of raising her firstborn. In this episode, she continues her journey, revealing the painful family tensions around her marriage, the terrifying experience of giving birth prematurely, and her battle with postpartum depression. Through it all, Petronilla speaks candidly about what it takes to hold onto hope when life feels overwhelming.✨ Listen out for:How unresolved family wounds can affect marriage.The devastating realities of pre-eclampsia, NICU stays, and postpartum depression.Why patience, acceptance, and valuing people became Petronilla’s lifeline.📌 Episode Links:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Lolo Cynthia, a women’s rights advocate and unapologetic voice on women’s liberation, sexuality, and self-determination. Lolo shares her bold journey of becoming, from creating the persona of “Lolo” at 18 to embracing her true self today. She opens up about therapy as a catalyst for transformation, learning to trust her gut, and the revolutionary act of decentering men. Together, we unpack:Why proximity to power is not power.How to break free from performing for the male gaze.The pushback women face when they reject society’s rules.Practical steps to begin your own journey of becoming.This conversation is raw, unfiltered, and deeply affirming, reminding us that liberation is tough, lonely at times, but always worth it.✨ Join our community & keep up with Legally Clueless Africa:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores the characters children often adopt in dysfunctional families, the hero, the clown, the scapegoat, the lost child. These roles may have kept us safe as children, but they can trap us as adults, shaping our relationships, our sense of self, and even how we love. This episode dives into:What family dysfunction creates these childhood roles.The most common characters children adapt.The hidden cost of carrying them into adulthood.How to shed these roles and step into your true self.Navigating family relationships after you’ve stopped playing the part.Wellness Talk This SaturdayWe’ll be going even deeper into these themes at our upcoming Wellness Talk on Family Dynamics & Boundaries happening this Saturday, with therapist Faith Guchu.🚨 Ticket portal closes this Thursday, don’t miss your chance to join this healing conversation in community. Grab your tickets here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/products/66913Stay Connected with Legally Clueless Africa:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafricaTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This is Episode 340 of the Legally Clueless Podcast!We’re sharing the first part of Petronilla Njoki’s powerful story. From growing up in a single-parent household, navigating tough teenage years, and later stepping into motherhood, Petronilla opens up about the challenges she faced, including a traumatic delivery and the emotional rollercoaster of caring for her firstborn through serious health struggles. This episode is about resilience, faith, and the strength it takes to turn pain into purpose.✨ Listen out for:How growing up “raised by the wild” shaped Petronilla’s independence.The harrowing experience of premature labour and an emergency C-section.The mental and emotional toll of navigating postpartum depression and a child’s delayed milestones.✨ Wellness Talk Reminder:We’re creating an intentional space for African women to gather and reflect on boundaries, family dynamics, and emotional wellbeing.📍 Virtual | 10AM EAT🎟 Grab your ticket here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=66913 📌 Episode Links:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this bold episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with author and mother of four, Felgonah Oya, who shares her powerful story of getting divorced at 31 with four young children. Felgonah opens up about:Walking away from a marriage despite family and societal pressure.The shocking reactions she faced from friends and relatives.The long, messy, expensive reality of divorce in Kenya.Her raw healing journey—allowing herself to grieve, get angry, and slowly rebuild.Rediscovering identity, love, and dating after divorce.Writing as a form of survival and her latest book I’m Healed, Send Me Another Man.This episode is a reminder that choosing yourself is not failure, it’s freedom.Tap in for an honest, unfiltered conversation about divorce, healing, identity, and living life on your own terms.Links:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeStory submission form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this week’s episode of The Midweek Tease, Adelle dives into one of the hardest truths about healing: sometimes, the people who hurt us never apologize. We’ll talk about:Why not receiving an apology can trigger anger, sadness, or even self-doubtHow waiting for an apology keeps us stuck in the painPractical ways to start healing on your own termsWhy closure is something you can create for yourselfPlus, Adelle shares details on our upcoming Legally Clueless Africa Wellness Talk: a safe space to dig deeper into these themes, learn tools to nurture your healing journey, and connect with a community of women doing the work of unlearning and becoming.Tune in to remind yourself that your healing is not dependent on someone else’s silence.🔗 Links:Sign up for the Wellness Talk: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=66913 Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this week’s episode, we hear from Christine, a mother whose journey of raising two daughters with rare diseases shifted her life from corporate boardrooms to building a powerful advocacy movement. Key themes in this episode:Parenting through disability and rare diseases in Kenya.Why community and support matter more than money.How inclusion truly begins at home.Turning personal challenges into collective advocacyConnect with the organization Christine founded here:https://rarediseasekenya.org/ ✨ Wellness Talk Reminder:We’re creating an intentional space for African women to gather and reflect on boundaries, family dynamics, and emotional wellbeing.📍 Virtual | 10AM EAT🎟 Grab your ticket here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=66913 Listen to this episode & don’t forget to share your biggest takeaway with us!Connect with UsNewsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafricaTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Mwanga, Senior Associate at Alakonya Law, to unpack the legal truths every woman needs to know, but often isn’t told. We go deep into:Why wills aren’t always the safest option, and why trusts might protect your loved ones betterHow to safeguard your children and yourself if your spouse passes awayThe legal steps to take immediately after losing a partnerYour rights in the workplace, from maternity leave to protection against discrimination and harassmentWhy keeping receipts could be your most powerful legal weaponWhether you’re married, divorced, widowed, or single, this episode is a must-listen for understanding how to legally protect yourself and your future. Listen now, your legal empowerment starts here.🔗 Links:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafricaTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This week’s episode is deeply personal, I’m sitting down with my therapist and dear friend, Faith Guchu, who will also be the guest speaker at our upcoming Wellness Talk on August 30th at 10AM EAT (Virtual). Faith has been instrumental in my own healing journey. In this candid conversation, we unpack:Why healthy boundaries with family can be so hard to build and how to start.The guilt, fear, and loneliness that often come with choosing your peace.Healing without the apology you may never get.Compassion fatigue & navigating the “sandwich generation” (caring for both parents and children).Rebuilding your true identity after shedding roles you adopted in childhood.If your family relationships in adulthood feel draining, complicated, or guilt-filled, this episode is for you.🎟 Wellness Talk On August 30thTheme: Reimagining Family Relationships in AdulthoodJoin us from anywhere in the world for a transformative session with Faith. Together, we’ll unpack boundaries, caring fatigue, identity, and healing without an apology. You’ll leave with clarity on your “why” and practical steps you can take immediately.📍 Virtual | 10AM EAT🎟 Grab your ticket here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=66913 Resources & Links:Legally Clueless Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeStory Submission Form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this episode of Legally Clueless, you’ll meet Rachel Lubanga, the eighth born in her family, born with albinism, and raised in Kakamega, Kenya. Rachel opens up about her journey through special and regular schooling, the stigma and myths she’s had to navigate, the mental health challenges that followed, and the bold ways she has advocated for herself and others.This episode also connects to themes we’ll explore at our upcoming Wellness Talk in Nairobi – from setting boundaries with family, to reclaiming your identity, to healing from the silence of those who should have supported you.📌 Key Moments in this episode:Growing up in Kakamega and discovering the realities of albinismThe difference between special and regular school environmentsHow misunderstanding and stigma can impact mental healthAdvocacy wins – from pushing for sunscreen access to policy changesThe complicated dynamics of family relationshipsMoving towards healing and self-acceptance🎟 Don’t miss our LCA Wellness Talk on 30th August with Counselling Psychologist Faith Guchu.We’ll unpack boundaries, family dynamics, and choosing yourself without guilt.Tickets: Ksh.1000 and the talk 10:00am EAT!Grab your tickets here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/products/66913 💛 Join the Legally Clueless community:Sign up for our newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafricaTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeSubmit your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Barbara Malowa, senior partner at Alakona Law and the lawyer who supported Adelle through her own divorce. Together, they unpack the legal truths that every woman should know about marriage and divorce in Kenya. From understanding the marriage contract, property rights, and parental responsibility, to navigating divorce timelines, court processes, custody, and protection from emotional and physical abuse, this conversation is raw, informative, and deeply necessary. Barbara also breaks down:The 4 legal grounds for divorce in KenyaWhat proof the courts actually requireWhy marriage is easier to enter than exit legallyThe real cost and timeline of divorceWhat to do if you’re being financially bullied or emotionally abusedHow to document and protect yourself even when you're still in loveWhether you're married, thinking of leaving, or want to be prepared, this episode is for every woman determined to live shame-free and fully informed.📍 Follow Barbara Malowa:website: https://alakonyalaw.co.ke/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/barbaramalowaLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/barbara-malowa🔗 Join the Legally Clueless Africa community:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: @legallycluelessafricaTikTok: @legallycluelessafricaYouTube: Legally Clueless AfricaSubmit your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This week’s Midweek Tease is all about building healthy boundaries with the people we love most, family and close friends. Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first, especially when guilt, cultural expectations, and old family patterns are involved.But the truth is: boundaries are essential for your mental health and for healthier, more respectful relationships. In this episode:💛 Why boundaries aren’t selfish, they’re acts of self-respect💛 Psychology-backed insights on unlearning guilt and people-pleasing💛 Practical exercises to start setting boundaries this week🎟 Don’t miss our LCA Wellness Talk on 30th August with Counselling Psychologist Faith Guchu.We’ll unpack boundaries, family dynamics, and choosing yourself without guilt.Tickets: Ksh.1000 and the talk 10:00am EAT!Grab your tickets here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/products/66913