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Episode 353 continues the powerful journey of Ciru Karimi, whose pregnancy story took a terrifying turn after a sudden preeclampsia diagnosis at 26 weeks. In Part 2, she shares what happened after her emergency delivery, from the shock of seeing her premature son for the first time, to the emotional weight of the NICU, and the long path toward healing. In this episode, Ciru opens up about:• Delivering at 29 weeks after severe preeclampsia• The fear and numbness that followed her baby’s birth• Daily NICU visits, kangaroo care, and milk expression• The mental load of caring for a 1.2kg premature baby• Postpartum depression and the moment she realised she needed therapy• Navigating societal pressure to “have another child”• Her husband’s hidden emotional burden during the crisis• The long recovery, the second pregnancy, and finding the right doctor• Why preeclampsia awareness is urgently needed for African women• The need for more support systems for preemies and their parentsThis is a story about survival, motherhood, trauma, mental health, and the resilience it takes to keep going when society keeps demanding more. If you’ve experienced preeclampsia, premature birth, NICU life, postpartum depression, or pressure around motherhood, you are not alone. Ciru’s story holds space for so many women who’ve endured these journeys in silence.Join the Legally Clueless Africa community:Newsletter → www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram → www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok → www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube → www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeSubmit your story → forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8#LegallyCluelessAfrica #PreeclampsiaStories #PrematureBirth #NICUJourney #AfricanMothers #PostpartumDepression #PregnancyComplications #MentalHealthAwareness #AdelleOnyango

In this powerful Season 3 opener of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Lydia KM for a deeply honest conversation on shame, emotional healing, boundaries, grief, self-awareness, therapy, and becoming your most authentic self.Lydia opens up about:• how shame gets projected onto women from childhood• the pressure of perfection and visibility• learning to feel her emotions instead of analysing them• navigating grief, anxiety, and emotional shutdowns• building boundaries that protect—not punish• breaking cycles of shame so she doesn’t pass them on• the inner work that has reshaped her identity• choosing sobriety and emotional clarity• meeting the version of herself she didn’t expect to findThis episode is grounding, exposing, affirming and a must-listen for any African woman on a healing, therapy, or self-discovery journey. Listen in and meet the woman you’re becoming.LCA Links:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeStory submission form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This week on the Midweek Tease, Adelle unpacks one of the most misunderstood emotional patterns: how fear often disguises itself as anger.Rooted in psychology and the lived experiences of African women, this episode explores why we react the way we do, what’s happening in the brain and nervous system, and how to understand the emotions hiding beneath anger. In this episode, you’ll learn:Why anger is often a secondary emotionHow fear, shame, overwhelm, and hurt drive our reactionsThe “Fight Response” and what it means for your mental healthHow childhood, culture, trauma, and pressure shape our emotional patternsThe four faces of anger and how they show up in relationshipsSimple psychology-backed tools to regulate anger with compassionHow to identify what you really need in heated moments It’s a soft, grounding episode for anyone who has snapped, shut down, withdrawn, or felt overwhelmed and later wondered, “Where did that come from?”If this resonates, share it with another woman who needs permission to feel without shame. Connect With Legally Clueless Africa Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story with us: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8#MidweekTease #LegallyCluelessAfrica #EmotionalWellness #AfricanWomen #AngerManagement #FearResponse #HealingJourney #MentalHealthAwareness

Episode 352 of the Legally Clueless Podcast features Part 1 of Ciru Karimi’s powerful story a deeply honest journey through childhood, societal expectations, studying abroad, navigating adulthood in Nairobi, and the frightening moment her first pregnancy takes an unexpected turn.In this episode, Ciru opens up about:• Growing up between Donholm and Westlands, and the identity shifts that came with it• Culture shocks in primary, high school, and university• The transition from campus to job-hunting in Kenya• Societal pressure on African women around marriage and children• How anxiety first showed up in her life• Her complicated pregnancy and preeclampsia diagnosis at 28 weeks• The emotional, physical, and mental toll of a high-risk pregnancy• Emergency delivery and the fear of navigating premature birth This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in African women’s stories, preeclampsia experiences, pregnancy challenges, motherhood in Kenya, and the unseen emotional labour so many women carry.Next week, Part 2 continues Ciru’s journey as she shares what happened after her emergency delivery, life with a premature baby, and the resilience she didn’t know she had.Join the Legally Clueless Africa community:Sign up for our newsletter → www.legallycluelessafrica.comIG → www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok → www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube → www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeSubmit your story → forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8#LegallyClueless #LegallyCluelessAfrica #AfricanPodcasts #PreeclampsiaStories #PregnancyJourneyKenya #WomenHealing #MotherhoodStoriesAfrica

As the year winds down, many of us are running on fumes, juggling deadlines, expectations, and the pressure to “finish strong.” But what if success didn’t have to come with exhaustion?What if ambition could feel soft, steady, and nourishing? This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle explores how to redefine ambition, moving away from hustle culture and into harmony.It’s a reflective conversation about ambition that honors wellness, rest, and purpose without guilt. In this episode, Adelle shares:- The myth of hustle culture and how it silently shapes our self-worth- How burnout has become an identity — and why that’s dangerous- What ambition looks like when you center peace instead of performance- Practical ways to build dreams that don’t drain youAs we reach the end of the year, this is your reminder that you don’t need to prove your worth through exhaustion. You can still be ambitious and rested. Driven and grounded. Focused and free.Join the conversation:How are you redefining ambition for yourself this season?What does success feel like when peace becomes part of it?LINKS:✨ Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com📱 Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/🎵 TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica▶️ YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube📝 Story submission form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this episode, we meet Nile Dawta, a reggae singer, songwriter, producer, and gender activist from Shauri Moyo. Her story is a moving journey through identity, purpose, and spiritual awakening. She shares how growing up next to Kamukunji Grounds shaped her activism, how she walked away from a stable job to follow her music, and how heartbreak, loss, and ancestral connection led her back to herself. This story beautifully reminds us that healing and creativity often flow from the same source: the ancestors who walk with us.Connect with Legally Clueless Africa:🌍 Website📩 Sign up for our newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/📱 Instagram: @legallycluelessafrica🎵 TikTok: @legallycluelessafrica▶️ YouTube: Legally Clueless Africa🗣️ Share your story: Story Submission Form

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks a quiet but familiar feeling, that sense that everyone else is moving faster than you. You know it, the comparison, the “shoulds,” the sinking thought that maybe you’ve missed your moment.In this episode, Adelle explores timeline anxiety, how it shows up, why we experience it, and how to soften it with truth and self-compassion.In this episode, she shares:Why “life timelines” are myths we inherit, not truths we must followHow comparison culture disconnects us from our own rhythmWhy growth isn’t linear, it loops, pauses, and redirectsHow to redefine success on your termsThis is your reminder that healing, purpose, and success are not races they’re rhythms.And you can’t be behind on a path that’s uniquely yours.LINKS:✨ Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com📱 Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/🎵 TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica▶️ YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube📝 Story submission form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this episode, Ann shares a deeply personal journey that began in the hallways of all-girls schools in Kenya, where curiosity, identity, and faith collided. She speaks openly about being labelled and isolated for exploring her identity, how her family and community reacted, and the painful but powerful road that led her back to self-acceptance and healing.This story is a reminder of how silence and misunderstanding can wound but also how courage, honesty, and grace can rebuild us.Listen now to hear Ann’s journey of becoming through shame, silence, and ultimately, self-acceptance.🔗 Join the Legally Clueless Africa community:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafricaTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this moving episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Apondi a life coach and relationship minister for a raw, intergenerational conversation on womanhood, freedom, and authenticity.Apondi opens up about the importance of financial independence as a form of agency, the never-ending work of setting and protecting boundaries, and how authenticity can irritate toxic people who prefer conformity.She also challenges how we socialize both girls and boys unpacking how neglecting the boy child harms everyone and reminds us that growth never ends.This is an episode about reclaiming power, choosing dignity, and living unashamedly as your fullest self.Listen, reflect, and share with every woman learning to live on her own terms.🔗 Join our community:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: @legallycluelessafricaTikTok: @legallycluelessafricaYouTube: Legally Clueless AfricaShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This week on The Mid Week Tease, Adelle unpacks the part of healing we rarely talk about, the loneliness that comes with growth. When you start choosing yourself, setting boundaries, and evolving, it’s easy to feel like you’ve lost your people. But often, that loneliness is a sign that you’re shedding what no longer aligns with your peace. In this episode, Adelle explores:💭 The quiet grief of outgrowing people🌱 The in-between season between who you were and who you’re becoming❤️ Why choosing yourself can feel like abandonment🌻 How to find new forms of belonging that match your healed selfIf your healing feels isolating right now, this episode will remind you that solitude isn’t punishment, it’s preparation.LINKS:✨ Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com📱 Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/🎵 TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica▶️ YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube📝 Story submission form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In part two of Steve's story, we journey through one of the most vulnerable seasons of his life, navigating his newborn son Zayn’s medical crisis, multiple surgeries, and the weight of financial strain. Steve opens up about the reality of asking for help, what fatherhood has taught him about presence, and how that season reshaped his view on love, faith, and masculinity.This is a story about courage in vulnerability, partnership in pain, and the quiet strength it takes to keep going. In this episode, you’ll hear:The emotional and financial weight of a child’s medical emergency.What it means to ask for help and let go of ego.Fatherhood, faith, and learning to be fully present.Deep gratitude for community and love that sustains through crisis.The transformation that happens when hardship forces reflection.Share your story:Have a powerful story to tell?Submit it here: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8Stay connected:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeStory submission form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This week on For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Veronica, founder of The Ova Circle and a certified menopause workplace coach, to unpack what it really means to thrive through menopause. Veronica opens up about her personal journey, from confusing symptoms and dismissive doctors to discovering perimenopause, finding her voice, and building a thriving community for women going through the same. She breaks down the gaps in healthcare, the power of holistic approaches, and why it’s time for workplaces to become menopause-friendly. Together, Adelle and Veronica explore:The difference between menopause and perimenopause.How shame and silence isolate women in this phase.Building a toolkit that actually supports you, from lifestyle changes to medical options.Why African women’s menopause stories must be centered in our data and media.Refusing to disappear, aging loudly, proudly, and mannerlessly.If you’ve ever felt unseen or unprepared for this phase of womanhood, this episode will leave you informed, validated, and inspired.🔗 Connect with The Ova Circle & Veronica: Veronica Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/veromamaverushkaOVA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.ova.circleOVA Website: https://theovacircle.comOVA Whatsapp Community: https://whatsapp.com/channel/0029Vb0GAS96RGJA5U6qLr1b -OVA LinkedIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-ova-circle/OVA Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5YSmenYKtxbQPe85ahDViC?si=8P5OtlmfST6F5Od_wzIc8wOVA YouTube: https://youtube.com/@TheOvaCircle?si=YMTHuQKMSLQ1Z8g8Menopause Guidelines: Australian Menopause Society Guidelines (referenced in the episode): https://www.menopause.org.au/health-info🌐 Join the Legally Clueless Africa community:Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This week on The Midweek Tease, Adelle opens up about a phase most women move through quietly: the luteal phase. That stretch of time before your period when energy dips, sensitivity heightens, and the world feels a little heavier. She unpacks what’s happening in your body, the pressure society puts on women to perform consistently, and how we can meet ourselves with grace instead of guilt. You’ll learn:🌙 What the luteal phase really is and how it affects your emotions💛 Why “doing less” is not a sign of weakness but of wisdom🕯️ How to adjust your rhythm, rest intentionally, and respond kindly to your body🎟️ Wellness Talk Alert:Join our next Legally Clueless Africa Wellness Talk on October 25th with Susan Wanjiku, founder of The Legacy Hub and SHE-E-O.Topic: Smart Money Strategies for Entrepreneurs & Freelancers.We’ll explore:💡 Building sustainable income streams💬 Setting money boundaries⚖️ Cultivating emotional wellness around money🎟️ Tickets available: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/products/68e77e4e1f5d0c1f082da173🔗 LINKS:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: @legallycluelessafricaTikTok: @legallycluelessafricaYouTube: Legally Clueless AfricaStory submission form: Share your story

In part one of Steve Ataru’s story, we journey through Nairobi childhoods, the pressure of “golden opportunities,” and the courage it takes to start over. The moment that anchors this episode is raw and unforgettable: Steve’s newborn, Zayn, suddenly needs surgery and his wife’s intuition is the compass that saves precious time. This is a story about choosing alignment over approval, and learning to trust the wisdom right beside you. In this episode, you’ll hear:Growing up across Eastlands, Juja, and Lang’ata, and how environments shape resilience.Leaving a partial scholarship in Russia to return home and begin again.Surviving the in-between: hustling, odd jobs, and rebuilding identity through creativity.Dating, intention, and choosing partnership on purpose.A mother’s intuition: the Sunday morning crisis that led to Zayn’s surgery, and how it changed Steve’s outlook on partnership and parenting.Upcoming Wellness Talk: Saturday October 25We’re hosting a special session with Susan Wanjiku (The Legacy Hub, SHE-E-O):Smart Money Strategies for Entrepreneurs & Freelancers.What we’ll unpack:Building financial systems that support calm (not chaos)Mindset shifts to repair your money relationshipPractical tools for irregular income, paying yourself, and planning restTickets & details: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=69637Stay connected:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeStory submission form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

In this powerful episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Wambui Wanjau, a home-birthing midwife and birth doula, to unpack the truths about pregnancy and birthing that too many women are never told. From being shouted at in delivery rooms to the calm of candlelit births, Wambui shares her journey across Kenya, Finland, and Australia, and what she’s learned about how women can reclaim power in one of life’s most sacred experiences. This episode dives deep into:Why so many women feel unseen and unheard during childbirthHow to listen to and trust your body during pregnancyThe real importance of calcium, vitamin D, and nutritionHow partners can truly support new mothersThe emotional realities of postpartum lifeWhat it really means to have a doula and create a birth plan that centers youThis is an honest, soulful conversation about pregnancy, pain, power, and the beauty of trusting your body. Listen now and share it with the women in your life who need to be reminded that birth is not something to fear, it’s something to reclaim.🔗 Legally Clueless Africa LinksNewsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: @legallycluelessafricaTikTok: @legallycluelessafricaYouTube: Legally Clueless AfricaShare your story: Submit here

In this week’s episode of The Mid Week Tease, Adelle continues her conversation with Susan Wanjiku, financial educator and founder of The Legacy Hub KE and She-E-O Africa. In Part 2, they dive into the realities behind entrepreneurship, the pressure to keep up appearances, the misconception that investing is only for people with “big money,” and the importance of structure in keeping your business and sanity intact. Susan shares powerful lessons on:Knowing when growth is real and when it’s just for showWhy your business should grow at its own paceHow to start investing with as little as Ksh 100Building a business emergency fund for the unpredictablePreparing for transitions like maternity, illness, or relocationLetting go of financial shame and learning discipline with “kidogo” moneyJoin the Wellness Talk:Smart Money Strategies for Entrepreneurs & Freelancers🗓 Saturday 25th October | 🕘 9 AM – 11 AM | 💻 Virtual💰 Tickets: Ksh 1,000: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=69637Led by Susan Wanjiku.This interactive session will help you move from surviving your finances to strategically managing and growing them.🔗 Links:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafricaTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeStory submission form: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

Brenda’s finale follows the last mile of her childfree journey: pushing past healthcare gatekeeping to access sterilization, what true informed consent looked like, recovery, the unexpected discovery of a retroverted uterus (and pain relief after it was corrected), and the quiet peace that came with making a choice that fits her life. She also reflects on dignity in maternal spaces, conversations with family, and what autonomy has meant for love, sex, and community. In this episode:From “no” after “no” to finally accessing sterilizationWhat respectful, consent-centered care looks likeRecovery, relief, and the feeling of peaceRetroverted uterus: naming it, fixing it, reducing painFamily conversations, community, and building a life by choiceContent note: Medical procedures, menstrual pain, reproductive health. LCA Wellness Talk, 25 Oct (Virtual) Smart Money Strategies for Entrepreneurs & Freelancers with Susan WanjikuShifting from survival to sustainable successSeparating business & personal financesBudgeting with unpredictable incomeMultiple income streamsInvesting with irregular incomeRetirement planning for entrepreneursWhen: Sat 25 Oct, 9:00 AM–12:00 NOON (EAT)Tickets: Ksh 1,000 here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/products/68e77e4e1f5d0c1f082da173Stay ConnectedNewsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8Listen & subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your pods.New episodes every Monday.

In this empowering episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with certified fitness coach and nutritionist Coach Roseanne to unpack the deeper truths behind diet culture and how African women can heal their relationship with food, fitness, and their bodies. Roseanne shares her personal journey from being medically obese to creating a sustainable, shame-free approach to health. Together, they explore:Why most diets fail, how mindset and identity play a bigger role than calories.The emotional link between food, shame, and self-worth.How to decolonize your plate and rebuild a healthy relationship with traditional African foods.The four “food personas” many women fall into and how to identify yours.The power of small, sustainable steps and mindset shifts over restrictive plans.Why healing your inner world is key to transforming your outer habits.This is not a conversation about losing weight it’s about finding freedom in your body, your food, and your life.🎙️ Guest: Coach Rosanne Certified Fitness Coach & Nutritionist📩 Connect with Rosanne: https://www.instagram.com/coachroseanne✨ CTA:If this conversation stirred something in you, share it with another woman on her healing journey. Subscribe to For Mannerless Women and join our growing community of women rewriting the rules of womanhood.🔗 Our Usual Links:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: @legallycluelessafricaTikTok: @legallycluelessafricaYouTube: Legally Clueless AfricaShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

This week, The Mid Week Tease features Susan Wanjiku, financial educator and founder of The Legacy Hub KE and She-E-O Africa. In this part 1 of our conversation, Susan opens up about her journey from employment to entrepreneurship and the financial shock that came with losing a steady paycheck. She shares real, relatable lessons on:Managing irregular income without panicThe mindset shifts that turn creatives into business ownersTracking your money (and why even Ksh 100 matters)Building systems that make your finances work for youSeparating business and personal money to regain control🎟️ Don’t miss the upcoming LCA Wellness Talk:“Smart Money Strategies for Entrepreneurs & Freelancers”🗓 Saturday 25th October | ⏰ 9 AM – 12 NOON | 💻 Virtual Session🎟 Tickets: Ksh 1,000 | Available here: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=69637Join us as Susan breaks down practical money systems that can help entrepreneurs and freelancers thrive — even with irregular income.🔗 Links:Newsletter signup: www.legallycluelessafrica.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafricaTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8

Part 2 of this series follows a Brenda, deepening her path toward a childfree life; from navigating painful periods and stigma around tampons, to learning contraception, witnessing friends’ very different pregnancy choices, facing healthcare gatekeeping around permanent options, and finally finding language and courage through a childfree community.In this episode:Body literacy over pain and shameTampon myths, contraception, and informed choiceAbortion, pregnancy in school, and compassionHealthcare gatekeeping vs. consent-centered careCommunity as mirror: “I’m not alone”Content note: Menstrual pain, abortion, stigma.Group Therapy (3-Part Series) on Childhood Trauma.Ticket portal closes Thursday (Oct 9).We’ll explore: Signs of childhood wounds, how they show up in adulthood, trauma responses & coping, trauma bonds, healing your inner child, and more.Facilitators: Symon Murage, Margaret Wachira, Catherine NjorogeDates: Oct 11, Nov 8, Dec 6 (Saturdays)Time: 10:00 AM – 2:00 PM (EAT)Cost: KES 4,500 for all three sessions (limited slots)Register: https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/?product=68543Stay ConnectedNewsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafricaYouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutubeShare your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8Listen & subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your pods.New episodes every Monday.