Below the Head, Above the Noise

In today’s episode, Homaira talks about her next book, what it offers, and why it’s important at this time. If you’ve been feeling like you’re at the receiving end of an unpredictable life, and that no matter what you do, things aren’t going to get much better or go your way, then signup for Homaira’s newsletter as she shares ideas and strategies from her upcoming book to help you stay alive and create the best version of your life regardless of what comes your way. NL signup: https://homairakabir.com/newsletter/ Individual Coaching: https://homairakabir.com/individual-coaching/ The Book, 'Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’: https://a.co/d/hcypvpZ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir Facebook: https://facebook.com/TheGoodbyePerfectProject  

In today’s episode, we’re talking about the fleeting nature of life and what we can do to be more present with whatever we’re facing, whether it’s beautiful, boring or painful. We talk about the tendency to stay in our heads or to slip into the negative, and the small shifts we can make to experience life to its fullest. If you’ve ever felt like life is passing you by or that you’re too busy chasing the next goal to enjoy what’s right in front of you, this episode will help you reset and reconnect with what truly matters and find the energy and perspective to face whatever comes your way. Free gatherings on Zoom: https://homairakabir.com/monthly-gathering Individual Coaching: https://homairakabir.com/individual-coaching/ The Book, 'Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’: https://a.co/d/hcypvpZ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir Facebook: https://facebook.com/TheGoodbyePerfectProject

On today’s episode, we’re talking about what it really means to trust yourself. Too often, we think confidence comes from knowing all the answers or having all the skills for the job. But real, lasting confidence—what psychology calls mastery—comes from something deeper: the belief that you can handle whatever comes your way. We explore the 2 essential components of mastery: the belief and aligned action. You’ll learn why beliefs must come first, why past failures can be even more valuable than successes, and why perfectionism is the biggest roadblock to self-trust. If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt or hesitated to go after something meaningful, this episode offers a practical way of reflecting on your experiences through a growth-oriented lens so you can start taking action that feeds your beliefs and builds lasting belief in yourself. Free gatherings on Zoom: https://homairakabir.com/monthly-gathering Individual Coaching: https://homairakabir.com/individual-coaching/ The Book, 'Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’: https://a.co/d/hcypvpZ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir Facebook: https://facebook.com/TheGoodbyePerfectProject  

In today’s episode, we dive into a soulful process of uncovering your deepest longing and using it to guide your life. Too often, we set resolutions that reflect external expectations, leaving us disconnected from what truly matters. We explore how to create space for your desires to emerge, the importance of validating and nurturing them, and the transformative power of building gentle structures to support your journey. Whether it’s joy, connection, or quiet you’re yearning for, this episode offers practical steps and heartfelt encouragement to help you move toward a life of authenticity, grace and growth. Tune in and be guided through a 3 step process that offers practical insights, soulful reflections, and encouragement to create a year that feels beautifully yours. Free gatherings on Zoom: https://homairakabir.com/monthly-gathering Individual Coaching: https://homairakabir.com/individual-coaching/ The Book, 'Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’: https://a.co/d/hcypvpZ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir Facebook: https://facebook.com/TheGoodbyePerfectProject  

Today on the show, we talk about the soul truth that ‘all is well’ and how to live from that truth even when all isn’t so well. We talk about what it means to live like a child—excited, alive, and trusting that she is part of something bigger. And we discuss the greatest obstacle to living with this sense of trust—our thinking that’s usually driven by an overactive safety instinct on the lookout for danger in a relatively safe world. Tune into the episode and walk away with simple ways you can be truly present during the holiday season so it’s a time of joy, connection, and happy memories. And if it’s a not so happy time for you, you may find just what you need to move forward with grace. Free gatherings on Zoom: https://homairakabir.com/monthly-gathering Individual Coaching: https://homairakabir.com/individual-coaching/ The Book, 'Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’: https://a.co/d/hcypvpZ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir Facebook: https://facebook.com/TheGoodbyePerfectProject

Today on the show, we talk about autonomy and what it really means to be free in a world where our locus of control is actually quite limited.  We talk about emotional freedom, about shoulds and have-tos, and how our minds can keep us trapped in feelings and behaviors that shrink our experience of life and don’t bring out the best in us. As always, Homaira will guide you through a reflective process to approach life from a sense of abundance, joy and creativity, rather than lack or inadequacy.  Tune into the episode and find guidance in your own knowing so you experience this season—and life—for what they are: opportunities to love, laugh, enjoy, and grow. And join us on our  free calls  on Zoom where we work through the challenges that get in the way of us doing so.  Free gatherings on Zoom: https://homairakabir.com/monthly-gathering Individual Coaching: https://homairakabir.com/individual-coaching/ The Book, 'Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’: https://a.co/d/hcypvpZ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir Facebook: https://facebook.com/TheGoodbyePerfectProject

Today on the show, we dive into the emotional experience of rejection—why it hurts, how it affects us, and what we can do to navigate it in a way that strengthens rather than diminishes us. We discuss the common reactions to rejection, how shame can keep us stuck in disempowering patterns, and why reconnecting with our soul truths is essential for healing and growth. As always, Homaira will guide you through a reflective process to meet yourself with compassion and explore what the right action looks like for you, whether it’s forgiving, confronting, or letting go. Tune into the episode and walk away with practical steps and deeper insights to transform rejection into a stepping stone toward your most authentic self. And join us on our free calls on Zoom where we work through the challenges that get in the way of our goals and growth. Free gatherings on Zoom: https://homairakabir.com/monthly-gathering Individual Coaching: https://homairakabir.com/individual-coaching/ The Book, 'Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’: https://a.co/d/hcypvpZ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir Facebook: https://facebook.com/TheGoodbyePerfectProject

Today on the show, we talk about emotional connection, what it is, why it’s important, and how you can be a more emotionally connected person in your everyday life.  We cover the difference between head connection and heart connection, why emotional connection is the path to a higher consciousness, and what it means to love and to be loved. As always, Homaira will also walk you through a self-inquiry process so you meet yourself where you are and set structures in place to become who you can be.  Tune into the episode and walk away with practical steps you can implement right away to feel more emotionally connected with the people in your life. And join us on our free calls on Zoom where every other Sunday we cover a topic related to the key areas of self-actualization.  Free gatherings on Zoom: https://homairakabir.com/monthly-gathering The Book, 'Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’: https://a.co/d/hcypvpZ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir Facebook: https://facebook.com/TheGoodbyePerfectProject Website: https://homairakabir.com/

Today's topic will likely resonate with a lot of people who have ageing parents or in-laws, and who are struggling to be who they want to be as their adult children. If you’re feeling triggered, resentful, or angry, or experiencing the inner turmoil of not living in alignment with your values—unless you’ve justified why you’re right in doing so—this episode is for you!  Homaira shares the importance of making people seen, the beauty of “5-minute favors”, and a science backed strategy to be guided by your intuition and by who you want to be. Listen and be guided by your own heart and intuition! More Homaira:  The Book, 'Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’: https://a.co/d/hcypvpZ  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir  Facebook: https://facebook.com/TheGoodbyePerfectProject  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZ5ioA3IdfrEwsQ7u_QxvGg  Website: https://homairakabir.com 

Today's topic will is a very important one, because so many of us keeping waiting for the day we can finally live our lives. If you hear yourself saying I need to wait until the kids leave home, or I need more clarity on my purpose, or I can’t follow my passions because I need to pay the bills, then you’ll surely relate with this one. Homaira reads excerpts from the chapter on Purpose from her newly released book Goodbye, Perfect (published by Sourcebooks). She’ll share 10 common objections that people have when they uncover their purpose, because we’re wired for safety and comfort. Best of all, you’ll learn what you need to do to start living with purpose TODAY, because life waits for no one. And you’ll learn how to do so without dismissing your other roles and responsibilities—listen on how to embrace the freedom of BOTH / AND.    If you haven’t listened to part 1 of this 2-part series on Purpose where Homaira reads from the sections on uncovering purpose, you can do so at this link: ADD LINK TO PREVIOUS EPISODE More Homaira:  The Book, 'Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’: https://a.co/d/hcypvpZ  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HomairaKabirOfficial/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZ5ioA3IdfrEwsQ7u_QxvGg  Website: https://homairakabir.com 

Today's topic will likely resonate with many people, especially women. If you feel that something is missing from your life, that you’re living someone else’s life, or longing for more joy, ease and purpose in your day-to-day experience, then this episode is for you! Homaira reads excerpts from the chapter on Purpose from her newly released book Goodbye, Perfect (published by Sourcebooks). She’ll walk you through why we lose connection with ourselves, how to listen to the life that longs to live through you, and different ways you can uncover your most important “thing” at this time in your life.   This episode can really tug at your heart and make you reflect on the important questions of life: Who am I? What am I here to do? You’ll walk away with a much deeper sense of purpose and belonging to your place in the world. Listen on for the start of your authentic life. More Homaira:  The Book, 'Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’: https://a.co/d/hcypvpZ  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HomairaKabirOfficial/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@homairakabir7413  Website: https://homairakabir.com 

We’re a relational species. We find joy and fulfillment in being there for others. But we can also be judgmental, mean or weak when we could’ve been kinder or more helpful. We’re imperfect after all—and sometimes others don’t make it easy either for us to be who we want to be.  And so, we will all carry regrets ion our relationships. In fact, if we don’t, we likely never engaged fully with the people in our lives. In this episode, I talk about: Why interpersonal regret is normal How repair brings us closer The two forms that repair can take Listen to find not only the peace you seek, but also actionable steps you can take to learn from the regret and start living in alignment with who you want to be.  

Regret is a topic that’s showing up more and more in our conversations. Perhaps what we’ve lived through these past few years has reminded us not only of the shortness of life, but also that many (or most) of our pursuits haven’t even been aligned with what we want. And with that comes the regret of our unlived lives. In this episode, I divide the regret into 3 types, and offer a different way to work through each of them. Specific things I talk about: Regrets about conscious decisions we made Regrets about things we avoided out of fear Regrets about the unstoppable passage of time You’ll find practical and actionable ways to reclaim not only the life you’ve lived, but also the life that lies ahead of you.  

Longevity vs ageism—are the two at war with each other? Or is there room for happy co-existence where we can live long with health and meaning? In this episode, I reflect on what the focus on longevity may be doing to our collective psyche and beliefs, and why it is important to be mindful in our pursuit for a longer life. Specific things I talk about: Longevity—a means or an end? Ageism, and its effects on healthy adult development Elderhood, and its role in society How do we pursue longevity while embracing age?  https://conniezweig.com/  https://www.homairakabir.com/goodbye-perfect-book/   

What role does our relationship with “place” play in our lives? Does it matter how much we feel part of the land, neighborhood or city we live in? In this episode, I talk about author Sharon Blackie’s reflections on “place”, with reference to my unhappy relationship with a certain place early in my life, and how it may contributed to the eating disorder that followed.  Specific things I share: Why forming connection with a place can be difficult. Why we long for connection to ancestry  How healthy connection affects our lives for the better  Ways we can form connection even when we feel dislocated https://sharonblackie.net/if-women-rose-rooted/ https://www.homairakabir.com/goodbye-perfect-book/   

We normally have an exciting vision when we set out to achieve our goals. We also have a detailed plan of action, including a plan B or C, so when obstacles happen, we know what to do. There’s one small problem: most of us don’t achieve our goals. Studies show what we already know—within a month or so, most goals and resolutions are a thing of the past. Despite a vision and a plan (and a month of trying), we end up feeling bad about ourselves. In this episode, we talk about: Why this is so The false promise of planning The most essential aspect of growth  The 2 components of this aspect And how you can make it a part of your life.   Connect with the show: Visit Homaira’s website: https://homairakabir.com/podcast Follow Homaira on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HomairaKabirOfficial Follow Homaira on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir/

Often when we think of our goals, we think of we’ll do to achieve them. But successful goal achievement is so much more than that…especially for long term goals. In this episode, discover how to set yourself up for success in ways that energize you, instead of depleting you to the point that you give up on your goals. We’ll explore the three key relationships that are essential for success, and you’ll walk away with practical steps you can implement right away to re-fuel the goals and aspirations that may be losing their spark. If you’d like your days filled with a lot more joy, ease and motivation, this episode is for you. Enjoy!   You can learn more about Homaira's new book Goodbye Perfect here: https://www.homairakabir.com/goodbye-perfect-book/ Preorder the book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Goodbye-Perfect-Pleasing-Proving-Yourself/dp/1728247497/ Connect with the show: Visit Homaira’s website: https://homairakabir.com/podcast Follow Homaira on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HomairaKabirOfficial Follow Homaira on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir/

How do you want to experience your life? In the final episode for 2022, Homaira reflects on the experience of life, and what we can each do to live it fully. She shares what it means to live each day as your first and your last, and why it is important given life is challenging and uncertain. Listen for inspiration on who you want to be and how you want to show up going forward, because it’s something that’s likely already at the back of your mind at this time of the year! Connect with the show: Visit Homaira’s website: https://homairakabir.com/podcast Follow Homaira on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HomairaKabirOfficial Follow Homaira on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir/

Who are you being called to be? This episode is about getting clear on a vision that feels real and precious to you, and on an identity that you need to embody in order to move toward it.  Homaira shares 2 simple ways that you can put into practice right away – especially if you’re going through a transition at this time in your life. Connect with the show: Visit Homaira’s website: https://homairakabir.com/podcast Follow Homaira on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HomairaKabirOfficial Follow Homaira on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir/

What “best” are you striving toward?  In this episode, we’ll explore the concept of a good life, and whether our ideals are true to who we are, and even possible for the lives we live as women. Could they be the source of our stress and unhappiness? And can we set ideals that actually lift us up and make us feel good about ourselves?   Connect with the show: Follow Homaira on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HomairaKabirOfficial Follow Homaira on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir/ Visit Homaira’s website: https://homairakabir.com/podcast