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Home can be a refuge where you curl up, feel safe and read a good book. But your sense of 'home' doesn't have to be a physical place. Psychologist Chris Cheers explores how you can find that sense of comfort wherever you are. Also, the aunties, comedian Nazeem Hussain and broadcaster James Findlay, weigh in on what happens when you love your friends but find their kids (kind of) annoying.

From the Life Matters archives, it's all about parents today.You'll hear about how the way we're sharing our kids identity online is shifting. We also ask what's driving a rise in homebirths, and how fathering - not fatherhood - has changed in Australia over the last century.Plus how comedian Matt Okine has totally changed his priorities and how he thinks about money since becoming a dad in My Two Cents.

It's summer! Which means you're hearing the best of the best from Life Matters this year.Today we're giving you the wrap up on all things work life balance.You'll hear from someone who thinks it's just important to have a hobby as it is to have a fulfilling job. And by now we know AI is coming for our jobs, but what would it mean for our career trajectory if it takes our internships? Plus the town trying to add a public holiday to it's roster for their resident's mental health, and a healthy tourism boost. 

We're replaying some of your favourite stories from Life Matters this year for our summer specials.Today you'll hear our top stories to navigate the ethical minefield of shopping at Christmas time.If your kids are begging you for "dupes" of popular items - it's a double edged sword - on one hand you'll be saving money and on another you could be encouraging a trend that rips off smaller designers, so how can you manage it?And for the music lover in your life it's good news - CDs are back - and they're becoming an alternative for people turning away from unethical streaming companies.Plus if you're looking for a holiday with a bit of a twist - would you consider dark tourism? Hear why visiting a place with a dark past is on the up. 

It's summer on Life Matters so we're bringing you some of your favourite stories from the year gone by.Today we're talking housing, diving into how downsizing isn't always as straightforward as it seems. We'll also dig into the strain housing stress can put on relationships, namely the self-induced stress of a renovation with Grand Designs Australia host Anthony Burke, and investigate what role modular housing can play in addressing supply shortages. 

As kids, we imagine we'll hit a point when our 'adulting' instincts magically kick in, but many of us never quite feel as adult as we think we should. So  what do we even mean when we talk about 'adulting', can we learn to do it, or is it better to learn that we don't really need to? Moya Sarner is a psychotherapist and journalist and author of When I Grow Up: Conversations with Adults in Search of Adulthood and Dr Rebecca Ray is a psychologist and author.It can be a delicate balance when you try to support someone you love in a time of need. It's even more complicated when that person moves into your home. In today's Ask Aunty, letter writer Daphne is trying to keep the peace after her newly-separated brother moves in with her family. Aunties Denise Eriksen, Journalist and Executive Director of Screen Careers and comedian and writer Bec Shaw offer their insights.

As cosmetic procedures and weight loss treatments become more widely accessible, body changes can be rapid. So when the body you've known for years changes in a profound way, how do you navigate that mentally? And when – if ever – is it okay to comment on other people's bodies, or have a conversation about their appearance? Steve Molk lost more than 100kg over the course of three years and Professor Gemma Sharp is a clinical psychologist who leads a body image, eating and weight disorders research program.When so many of us look back on the movies which shaped our childhood, one element stands out - the magic of Dick Van Dyke. The veteran actor is about to turn 100 - and he's still cheeky, energetic, and larger than life. So, what's the real secret to ageing well? Is it mindset? Attitude? Something more? Nancy Pahana is a geropsychologist and Everald Compton, 94, never plans to retire.When we want to weigh the moral heft of a political decision in this country, we don't crack open a philosophy textbook. We pull up a stool at the nearest bar and ask, "does it pass the pub test?" But why is this our gold standard? Patrick Stokes is an Associate Professor philosophy at Deakin University.

Being an active bystander - that is, speaking up or intervening in the face of injustice - feels like the right thing to do when you see something you disagree with. But it doesn't always go to plan, and your best intentions can backfire. There's new analysis suggesting that, in schools at least, encouraging kids to intervene isn't always helpful. So how are you meant to know when it's the right time to stop being a bystander and step up? Dr Karyn Healy is an Honorary Principal Research Fellow at the Parenting and Family Support Centre at the University of Queensland and Dr Vicki Webster is an organisational psychologist with a focus on the workplace and executive team.Artificial intelligence may be a lot of things ... chatbot, digital assistant... but can it be funny? An Australian researcher is trying to work out whether AI robots can do stand-up comedy. Not necessarily write jokes... but deliver a comedy routine that leaves people in stitches.So, do you think AI could make you laugh? Dr Robert Walton is a Research Fellow, Faculty of Fine Arts and Music, University of Melbourne and Nicolette Minster is a comedian and writer.We're asking your favourite Australians about their relationship with money in our series My Two Cents. So, is it raining cash in ABC weather presenter Nate Byrne's world?

In under 24 hours, the internet will look very different.  Nationwide, anyone under 16 will be locked out of social media. Facebook, Snapchat, TikTok, Instagram, X, Reddit, YouTube - all off-limits. If you're not yet 16, you'll be waiting until your birthday to log back in. Julie Inman Grant is Australian eSafety Commissioner.Many parents have voiced support for Australia's social media ban for under 16s - but that doesn't mean it will be an easy transition. In fact, experts say it will mean a pretty solid adjustment for families, and a lot to navigate.  Professor Alina Morawska is a Parenting and Family Support Centre at UQ's School of Psychology and Cam Wilson is Tech Reporter at Crikey.You've been gearing up for a holiday all year... and now the day is finally here. The tickets are booked, bags are packed, you've even picked out your outfit for the plane. Psychologist Christine Bagley-Jones discusses how to manage different expectations of your holiday.

Whether it's the big flashy state library in your capital city, or the humble one in your suburb, the role of a library is stretching to meet demand for its free programs and resources. That evolution hasn't come without friction, so in modern Australia, who, and what, are our libraries really for? Cathie Warburton is CEO of The Australian Library and Information Association, and Dr Heather Robinson is Research Associate at Flinders University and author of Beyond the books: Culture, value, and why libraries matter.More and more people are turning to AI for spiritual support, by using bots for religious worship and guidance. They're known as "faith bots" and there's one for pretty much every belief. Christians can use Text Jesus. There's a virtual Islamic Scholar called Sheikh GPT. And Gita GPT allows you to exchange messages with the Hindu god Krishna. So, can AI help you become closer to God? Can it strengthen your faith? Dr Rosemary Hancock is a Senior lecturer and Convener of the Religion, Culture and Society Research Focus Area, at the University of Notre Dame and Venerable Dr JueWei, is Head of program of applied Buddhist studies and humanistic Buddhism at Nan Tien Institute.It's a time to eat, drink, and be merry. But for Australians struggling with - or recovering from - addiction, holiday gatherings can become a test of willpower. An addiction specialist shares his first Christmas off the booze.  Benn Veenker is Manager of Lived Experience at Turning Point.

Developmental paediatrician Dr Billy Garvey says behavioural and emotional difficulties are the number one reason parents come to see him. But, Dr Billy says parents can learn to respond to challenging behaviour in a way that works for both them and their kids.What do you do when it feels like you and your in-laws speak different languages when it comes to parenting? And the situation is heightened when your mother-in-law moves in to offer emergency childcare? Aunties Bridie Jabour, author, journalist and associate editor at Guardian Australia and James Colley, head writer for ABC's Gruen, offer their insights.

New research claims that the number of empty dwellings across Melbourne has risen dramatically... from more than 27,000 in 2023 to nearly 32,000 in 2024. And across the country ... experimental ABS data suggests that up to 140,000 dwellings are sitting vacant. So, why would houses, apartments, and blocks of land be left sitting empty? And is there a way to utilise these properties to address Australia's housing crisis? Rayna Fahey is Director of Advocacy, Prosper Australia and Dr Michael Fotheringham is CEO of the Australian Housing and Urban Research Institute.Only around one in twenty Australians eat enough fruit and veggies. The rest of us are falling way short of where we need to be. Price is a common complaint, but is fresh produce really that expensive? A Monash study has looked at the perception of prices of fresh produce - and found that displaying a cost-per-serving on the ticket induces shoppers buy more vegetables. Fiona Newton is an Associate Professor and consumer psychology expert at Monash Business School and Jane Martin is Executive Manager of the Food for Health Alliance.You've got dinner plans with a group of friends, and you've been looking forward to it for weeks. But in the days -or hours- leading to the catch-up... you get one... maybe several texts. Sorry, I can't make it. Sorry, work has been insane this week. Sorry. Sorry. Sorry. So, are we flakier than we used to be? Dan Woodman is a Professor of Sociology at University of Melbourne.

From the desks we work at to the places we retreat to at the end of the day, the spaces around us quietly shape how we feel, how we live, and how we connect with each other. Good design isn't just about looks – it's about comfort, dignity, possibility, and the way a space can hold us, support us, even change us. Kevin McCloud, presenter of TV show Grand Designs and Tim Ross, comedian, broadcaster and self-described design nerd dig into how design can make our lives better.Have you ever asked a hairdresser or a tradie if they can do a better price for cash? Have you done work for someone and got paid "cash in hand." Or perhaps a friend has a small business with a percentage of income generated "under the table." Australia's shadow economy is thriving and Tony Goding, Assistant Commissioner and Chair of the ATO's Shadow Economy Taskforce, is one of the people cracking down on this illegal activity.

If you're heading on an overnight hike or about to tackle a challenging climb on your summer break, how much thought have you given to the worst-case scenario? It's not something anyone likes to dwell on, but preparing for all possibilities can be the difference between life, death, or being extracted by specialist rescue teams. So how prepared are you to venture into the wilderness? Dr Jo Kippax is an emergency doctor and 2026 Tasmanian Australian of the Year, Dr Jim Whitehead is a search and rescue trainer, and Krystal Dacey is a PHD candidate looking into the way we behave when we're lost in the wilderness.The Christmas party invite says smart casual. But what does that mean when it's 35 degrees and storms are on the way? And why are double pluggers acceptable in a Queensland office setting, but you'd never catch anyone in Sydney with their toes out at work? There's no doubt our weather and cultural trends influence what we wear. But how much personal freedom do we really have when we're getting dressed? Alex Haslam is a Professor of Social and Organisational Psychology, University of Queensland.Two major clothing retailers have been busted using AI-generated ads. Now Heineken, Polaroid, and Cadbury are pushing back- branding their campaigns "human made." So, why are we bothered whether an ad is AI-generated or not? Paul Harrison is Chair of Consumer Behaviour at Deakin University's Business School.

Last Thursday morning, a woman died and her boyfriend was seriously injured in a shark attack at a remote NSW beach. The attack happened as the couple was reportedly filming dolphins in the water. It's a tragedy... and the fifth fatal shark attack in Australia this year. So, are shark attacks on the rise in Australia? And what's the most effective way of reducing attacks? Professor Culum Brown is Head of the Fish lab at Macquarie University and Steven Pearce is CEO of Surf Life Saving New South Wales.AI is already pretty good at making decent music with bare minimum human input, but now one of the biggest AI-music generating platforms has partnered with one of the world's biggest record labels. It could mean the artificially-made music is about to be based on some of your favourite – and most popular – artists' work. So once the song is sung, do you care whether the music you love is AI or human-generated? Ben Lee is an Australian musician, Dr Emery Schubert is a Professor at UNSW, and Dr Ben Green is a music sociologist and Lecturer at RMIT. The consumer watchdog is urging shoppers to be wary of online "ghost stores" in the lead-up to Christmas. The ACCC has received more than 700 complaints about online stores suspected of misrepresenting themselves as local businesses. So how can you steer clear of online scams this festive season? And what should you do if you've been caught up in one? Dr Cassandra Cross is a Professor at Queensland University of Technology's School of Justice and Troy Hunt is a web security consultant and founder of Have I Been Pwned.

Although we’d all love to imagine you can have a second chance at love, the divorce rate for second marriages is double that of first. Psychotherapists Dr Zoe Krupka and Stephen Andrew have been a couple for 14 years and it's a second marriage for both of them. They say marriage number two can be the fulfilling and thrilling relationship people always hoped they could have.In high school, sorting out friendship drama can take up a lot of time, but it can cause even bigger headaches as adults. So what do you do when your relationship with your new best friend is upsetting your old best friend? Aunties Patrick Lenton and Dr Rebecca Ray get to the bottom of the problem.

A big backyard used to be part of the Australian dream. But a shift has happened over time. Block sizes for new houses across our cities have shrunk by 22 per cent in the past 15 years, according to the ABS. We're building bigger houses with smaller yards. So, RIP the backyard? What does it mean for our communities if backyards become a rarity?cCosta Georgiadis is a landscape architect and host of Gardening Australia, Professor Joe Hurley is at the Centre for Urban Research at RMIT University and Dr Thami Croeser is Deputy Associate Director at Regenerative Environments & Climate Action at RMIT University.As the social media ban approaches, Meta platforms are prompting users under 16 to download their data before they're removed from the platform. As Australia enters our world first of taking social media off of teenagers, what do we need to make sure they take with them? Tama Leaver is Professor of Internet Studies at Curtin University.When you die, what sort of assets will you leave and who's getting them? Or maybe you've handed over your inheritance early - helping your kids out with a house deposit, paying for their uni, or your grandkids' schooling. Financial expert David Koch says Boomers are putting a good retirement at risk to give their adult kids money. Koch argues that outside of a stable upbringing and a good education, you don't really owe your kids anything. So ... do you? Patrick Stokes is Associate Professor of philosophy at Deakin University.

When you think of the 1960s, what comes to mind? Hippies, Vietnam War protests, the music? What about the 1990s? VCRs, grunge music, minimalist fashion? We're about to reach the halfway point of the 2020s, so what is the defining legacy of this decade? Nic Carah is a professor at the University of Queensland School of Communication and Arts. She has never revealed her name publicly, but her opinions about fashion have made a huge impact. Fashion Critical started making "silly posts" to entertain her friends, but her platform ended up gaining a huge following.  She tells us why we should never take fashion too seriously.Even at low speeds... if you have a car crash... and you're a woman... you're more likely to be seriously injured than a man. But interestingly, car crash testing and plane safety testing is dominated by "male" crash test dummies... and has been for decades. These dummies are part of a system of testing methods designed with men in mind.... and it's been letting women down. Natasha Heap is the Program Director for the Bachelor of Aviation at the University of Southern Queensland.

New plans in Victoria and New South Wales seek to address the issue of underquoting houses set for auction.  So, will these reforms create a fairer system? Will they help first home buyers? And will the changes do anything to address Australia's housing crisis? Melinda Jennison is president of the Real Estate Buyers Agents Association of Australia, Andrew McCann is chief executive of Jellis Craig Real Estate Agents, and Richard Denniss is an economist and co-CEO of The Australia Institute.If you're over 50, new research shows that unaffordable and poor quality housing is getting in the way of living a dignified second act. Lynette Stevens is living in community housing after leaving her long-term tenancy, Fiona York is Executive Officer, Housing for the Aged Action Group, and Dr Piret Veeroja is lead author of new research from Swinburne University.What happens when your ex announces their engagement... and the news throws you? Psychologist Christine Bagley-Jones unpacks the emotions at play.

For the third year in a row, ABS figures show an increasing number of Australians are taking on two or more jobs as the cost of living rises. Lessleen Makoni is working two jobs to get by in Sydney, Isaac Koomson is a senior research fellow the University of Queensland's Centre for the Business and Economics of Health, and Dr Isaac Gross is a senior lecturer in Economics at Monash University and former RBA economist.For many of us who work, this time of year is a countdown until much-needed holidays over Christmas and the New Year. But a large number of people will push through with no break from work... not even on Christmas Day. Now, a new legal ruling has enforced the concept that employers must "request not require" staff to work on public holidays. Andrew Stewart is a Professor of Work and Regulation at the Queensland University of Technology and Sarah McCann-Bartlett is Chief Executive Officer and Managing Director of the Australian HR Institute.Women's teams are breaking records and hearts, with the Matildas selling out stadiums and record attendance for the women's Ashes earlier this year. But at the grassroots, the gap is real: data shows that nearly 30% more boys aged 0–14 participate in club or association sport than girls. Nikhil Kulkarni is the author of My Summer of Cricket, James Kay is a PhD Candidate at Flinders University's College of Education, Psychology and Social Work, and Dr Rochelle Eime is a Professor of Exercise and Sport Science at Federation University.