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Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Laura’s had something she doesn’t want return Single? No, self partnered The Compliment Gap "Admin Night" Controversy with Benjamin Chipman & Mel Robbins You think you F**ked up this week, think again. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many of you will know Jules from Married at First Sight Australia, where she met her now husband Cam Merchant in what has become one of the show’s most successful love stories. They met on the experiment in their mid-30s, fell in love on screen, and have since built a family  life together with two kids. Since the show, Jules has grown into a successful entrepreneur, launching the inclusive shape wear and fashion brand FIGUR. Jules lives with PMDD and explains how her hormones really threw a spanner into the works after having her first baby.  Today we speak about what it was like going on reality TV later in life and unexpectedly meeting your husband, how her experience on MAFS compares to what the show looks like today, the realities of postpartum mental health, and how she’s turned her platform into a thriving business. We chat: The concept of ‘timelines’ and how Jules’ life pivoted at 37 years old Having babies in her 40s What a ‘gender selection specialist’ does and how Jules feels about getting pregnant in her mid 40s What PMDD actually feels like  The post natal period with PMDD The difference a supportive partner can make Why Jules started Figur after MAFS and being body shamed  The realities of growing a business Who we all think will last as a couple from this season of MAFS We did an episode on PMDD with endocrinologist Dr Izzy Smith that you can watch here  You can find Jules on Instagram and Tiktok  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!! Welcome to Laura’s 40th birthday party! She’s got another party coming but her friends have taken over party planning and it’s becoming an extravaganza! Britt’s been tasked with finding a magician and we’re all on the hunt for Laura’s birth time for her birth chart.We have a nice sentimental moment when we get to share some of the ways that Laura has impacted your lives. Some are heartfelt and beautiful, some are absolutely hilarious.Laura also gets a personalised surprise performance by the incredible Hannah Conda  We need to talk about Taylor Frankie Paul and the cancellation of the bachelorette in the US. ABC pulled the season three days before it was supposed to air. They pulled the season after WE saw the violent video, not because they became aware of the past behaviour of the person they chose to cast!We speak about: Whether Taylor was cast because of controversy or in spite of it? The courts vs the court of public opinion How far the ‘line’ is being pushed by casting someone with criminal charges ABC's culpability Britt and Laura’s lived experience with the bachelor and why certain people are cast The background checks that they do You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to your ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions! Do you argue with your partner about household admin?  Vibes for the week:Sensor light link Britt - Marlo & Co Dog seat cover Laura - Queen of Chess documentary on Netflix Keeshia - @breeonabudget and Petrol Spy App  Then we jump into your questions! WANT MY BF TO USE A PET NAME EX USEDIs it weird to want my new boyfriend to call me the pet name that my ex used to call me? I am not one for pet names, especially ones like Bub, babe, lovey etc. But in my past relationship I adopted the name potato. Yes weird, it was because part of my name was similar to the word potato in his language, but I loveddd it. Whenever I heard it I felt giddy and personalised and special etc. I really miss that word lol and yearn to be called potato again. I am very much moved on from my ex and love my current partner and saying potato doesn’t bring ex desires. So is there a way that I can ask or play out to my new partner that I want to be called potato? Or do I very sadly let this go haha FRIEND CONSTANTLY STORY TOPS ME DURING CONVERSATIONSHow do I call out a friend that constantly brings up her own experience/s when I share mine? For example, if I share something about my kid, she won’t even acknowledge it and just share an anecdote about hers. Or if I tell her about a work thing, she’ll respond by saying how she’s been so busy and her manager is being difficult. Sometimes I think she’s trying to show me that she gets it and is being relatable. But talking to her is so invalidating and exhausting but I also don’t know how to call her out on it?? It really seems like she thinks she’s being a good friend when really she’s making every conversation about herself! PARTNER DELETING SEARCH HISTORYI’ve been with my partner a decade, we are about to get married very soon. Since early on in the relationship, he's always followed loads of women that post very sexy content and actually just loads of women in general, often liking posts. This used to really affect me when I was younger and it made me feel super insecure. He was fully aware of how I felt about this though. Time and time again I was having to remind him of why this hurts me and I wasn't okay with it, even though he'd continue. But then he turned it down over the years. Fast forward to now. I feel so much more secure in myself and I feel like I've grown so much over the years with my self-confidence. And I also trust him, honestly, rarely thinking or worrying about what he's up to on social media. However, just today I asked him if I could look at something on his phone or on Instagram. My phone was dead and instead of him just handing his phone over to me, he kept the phone and went to the search bar and asked me, what do you want to look up? About to look it up for himself. As he did this, I noticed he quickly started deleting multiple searches from his recent search history. I immediately asked why he felt the need to remove his searches, and why it was an issue for me to say he didn't really give me an answer of what the searches were, but said he didn't want to get in trouble. I asked why he felt like he'd get in trouble, and obviously it was something that would be upsetting for me to see. The fact that he decided to remove them immediately in front of my eyes. He said he was sorry and it was something he shouldn't have been looking at, but didn't really admit to. What now?I wouldn't say I've ever been a controlling partner. And I know it's so normal for men to look at other women and think that they're attractive. He has free will, and I have no right to be looking into his search history. However, my issue is with him seeking women out in social media constantly, even when he knows it gets under my skin. It's made me feel really icky. Is this normal? I don't feel like I'm asking too much to expect of a partner that isn't looking at other women on social media constantly, or am I overreacting? PARTNER DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO HAVE FUN OR LET LOOSEMy partner and I have been together for 8 years. We live quite different lives where I work in a bar which is social and I often go out afterwards and he has a standard 9-5. We own a house together and are getting married in May. We went to a wedding on the weekend and I noticed on the dance floor all these happy couples dancing, paying full attention to one another and both laughing and letting loose. My partner doesn’t behave like this, is quite awkward and seems like he doesn’t know how to dance or ever fully let loose. Others have noticed this too…….How can you get your partner to loosen up a little or is expecting this of him too much? 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Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Britt has found her hallpass Punch's new girlfriend Is Timothee's Oscar's downfall Jenner coded? Date my mate powerpoints The neuroscience that explains why mums wake up more than dad An opposing view on the infamous coldplay kisscam moment You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There is so much conversation at the moment about the Epstein files and the trafficking of young women and girls. But while all the conversations seem to be around  who was involved, who knew what and how this went uncovered for so long, the actual stories of survivors and their incredible strength can be lost. So today we are speaking to a trafficking survivor.Lurata Lyon's life story is one of unimaginable hardship and extraordinary resilience. As a child in war-torn Yugoslavia, Lurata endured the horrors of war, being separated from her family, and being taken by human traffickers - not once, but twice. After surviving the first trafficking and returning home, Lurata was kidnapped by Serbia's illegitimate army. She was tortured, abused and held in captivity for 6 months.  Through her harrowing experiences of torment, abuse, and near-death, Lurata not only survived but found the strength to share her story with the world with the mission of stopping this happening to other children and young women.We speak about: Why traditional media aren’t talking about human trafficking Lurata’s story of how she kidnapped and brought to a human trafficking boss The one thing she said that changed their plans for her How she escaped their horrific abuse How Lurata was taken a second time How she survived living in a ‘box’ that felt like a coffin How her father saved her Lurata’s life afterwards; how she found refuge in the UK and found love  Why Lurata shares her story and how common trafficking is You can find Lurata’s book here  You can follow Lurata here  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Britt has had a bit of a morning. Laura feels like she’s been on a bender from a lack of sleep but she may have found a solution (to knowing how much sleep she’s getting rather than actually getting more sleep). We have a particularly candid chat about botox and Britt shares the most recent embarrassing situation that she’s gotten herself into. We all watched a documentary this week that has left a lot of the world quite shocked about the realities of the content being shared amongst young men. It’s the new Louis Theroux: Inside the Manosphere on Netflix, and it’s exactly what the title suggests; Louis Theroux diving into the online world of influencers who are shaping how a lot of young men think about masculinity, dating and women. We speak about: Why so many young men drawn to these ideas about masculinity, power and women The Manosphere is a huge grift The algorithm is partly to blame The ludicrous amount of contradictions they make Who the doco was actually made for You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to your ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions!Vibes for the week:Laura - Claude Britt - @rainbowdadsKeeshia - The Dinner Ladies  Then we jump into your questions! 6 YEARS AND HES NEVER POSTED A PIC OF MEMy boyfriend has never posted a photo of me, and we’ve been together for six years. He was previously married, and our relationship started as an affair. Up until last year, he still had photos of his ex-wife on his social media, and I eventually asked him to take them down because it really hurt me. He’s honestly a great partner in every other way — there aren’t any obvious red flags. But he has never posted me, not once, and it quietly bothers me more than I’d like to admit. I think part of me worries that he feels embarrassed about how our relationship began, or that he doesn’t want to publicly acknowledge it because of the history. I know it might sound trivial, but it doesn’t feel trivial to me. IS CHEATING ACCEPTABLE IF ITS FOR SPIRITUAL AWAKENING?I’ve been dating an amazing guy for 5 weeks (known him 8 months), early days but the most emotionally mature relationship I’ve ever experienced. He told me he had these spiritual growth weekend workshops coming up which involve sexual energy which he had booked months ago and didn’t want them to come between our connection. He is always honest and transparent about everything with me and invites any questions I might have. I just said I am supportive of his passion for this.  After the first workshop he reassured me there were no sexual interactions. However, the next workshop is the amalgamation of all learnings and the final part involves penetrative sex and that he is partnered up with his ex (it wasn’t possible for me to do it as I hadn’t done the prep work). He strongly reiterated that he doesn't have any feelings towards her and he wants to pursue things with me. I said I was uncomfortable and it triggered jealousy and low self-worth in me. I didn’t explicitly say “don’t do this because it will hurt me and I don’t know if I could stay with you” but I thought I made my emotions clear. I said “if you feel you need to do this, then do what feels right” (I regret this). So it happened, he did it. He could completely compartmentalise this act within the workshop and feels nothing for his ex, and he was really looking forward to being with me. Intellectually, I can understand the delineation between this and cheating but my nervous system does not. I feel like I wasn’t chosen and that my feelings weren’t considered. I ended it and we’re both devastated. I’m having second thoughts, he was transparent and honest, I didn’t explicitly express my boundaries… is this something I can overcome? WHICH TOILET TO USE WITH KIDS?Curious to know where people are at with the following scenario: a parent on their own, taking their child/children of the opposite gender to the toilets (public toilets or at a venue etc) when there may not be a gender neutral option available (whether that be because there isn’t one, or it is occupied and child is absolutely desperate) Do they take them to the child’s “correct” toilet? Wait outside? Or take them to the adult’s “correct” toilet, and at what age would people consider this no longer appropriate? Different answers to these questions, based on if the adult is male or female?? As a second point, do people think using the disabled toilets (for the above reason) is okay? Obviously these are rightfully meant for those that require the extra accessibility, so unsure if it feels wrong to occupy it - even when the purpose is to keep children safe? HAVE I MADE THE RIGHT DECISION?Have I made the right decision? I recently ended my relationship, we were together for 8 months. We had so much fun in that time and we went overseas together. Things have been a bit rocky on and off but overall it was great; he was all the things I look for in a guy; he respected me, made me laugh plus so many other great qualities. I’m not sure if I was completely happy, but I’m aware that I have to create my own happiness. Have I just been jeopardising our relationship to prevent myself from being happy by not picking? I’m sad now every time I think of our time together and look back through photos. How do I know if I made the right decision? I would love your advice and opinions on this. It’s been a month and I’m still sad.  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Silent retreats Penguins and their pebbles Should all cheaters have to do this escape room? The customer isn’t always right The terrifying trend to do with ‘obeying’ and younger men are most likely to be into it You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today’s guest is one of our most beloved comedians, writers, broadcasters and content creators Tanya Hennessy! We first sat down with Tanya just over a year ago when she shared one of the most challenging and heartbreaking chapters of her life, her fertility journey. She spoke openly about their IVF journeys (all 7 rounds), the emotional and financial toll it had taken and that deep knowing she had a little girl waiting for her.  You can listen/watch here Since then, Tanya’s life has completely changed. She’s had her baby girl Scottie and she’s released her 8th book! Today we chat: How Tanya will never write smut books Being painfully anxious during pregnancy What it was like to finally hold her baby girl (it’s not quite what you think) The high followed by the crash Is motherhood what Tanya expected it to be? The expectation of motherhood vs the reality Where Scottie’s name came from What Tanya feels helped her get pregnant How becoming a parent affected her relationship Why she wrote Sunny and Storm You can find more from Tanya on Instagram  You can get a copy of her latest book Sunny and Storm You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Britt is ‘trying something new’ today and she’s been humbled by her closest friends.P*rnhub has locked Aussies out and Britt has revisited her saucy past. Have you ever vetted a nude for a friend?Laura’s realising that her nearly 7 year old daughter has got impeccable taste but is also getting a little sneaky!Keeshia has a PSA about getting fire extinguishers for your home after her next door neighbour’s laundry burnt down last week.There’s a reel we came across this week that had us thinking about expectations and only celebrating ‘traditional’ milestones for our friends. Do you or your friends only celebrate/put time and money into the typical celebrations like hens parties, weddings and baby showers?? “This story is inspired by actual events. Certain depictions of people and events have been dramatized or fictionalized for story telling purposes”. Love Story: John F. Kennedy Jr. & Carolyn Bessette is one of the most streamed shows in the world but we are once again left questioning how much creative freedom writers should have when the people they’re depicting are real.Daryl Hannah has written a piece in the New York Times and said that the version of her on the show is “not even a remotely accurate representation of my life, my conduct or my relationship with John.”She has also noted that “the choice to portray her as irritating, self-absorbed, whiny and inappropriate was no accident”. We ask if it was necessary for Daryl Hannah to be depicted in this way so we would barrack for Carolyn? Do we still need such a blatant heroine vs villain narrative? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut, where we answer your deep and burning questions!Vibes for the week:Britt - Weekender Premium Foldable Travel BagLaura - The Perfect Neighbor on Netflix Keeshia - Lexon Mina Sunrise Sunrise Alarm Clock  PARTNER HAS TERRIBLE DENTAL HYGIENE My partner of a decade has terrible dental hygiene. Always has, but when he lived at home during our early years of dating, his mum would nag him about it so it wasn't as bad. He has a huge fear of the dentist, and despite many conversations, me booking appointments for him (that get cancelled) etc, nothing changes. I've even told him how scared it makes me for his health, because I know dental problems can lead to more. On top of that, it kills our intimacy. Sometimes I can barely stand to be near him when he's talking, let alone kiss him. He's given me UTI's before from eating me out. What the hell can I even do at this point, the fight feels futile. CONCERT TICKET ETTIQUITEI'm a massive Hilary Duff fan. Three of us decided to go together, so we all entered the week-long battle trying to get seats. On the final day another friend said she’d try too and would grab tickets for herself and me if she got in. Well… she actually got through and bought them. So I had to tell the original group I already had a ticket. They were not impressed and said I went behind their backs. So here’s my question: what’s the actual concert ticket etiquette? If you say you’re going with a group, are you supposed to stick with them only, even if it means you might miss out completely? Or is it fair game during a ticket sale to try every possible option and see what comes through? MY PARENTS WANT TO HELP NAME OUR BABYMy parents want to help name our unborn baby. Am I wrong for feeling annoyed by it?? My parents are great, I live interstate from them so I don’t see them often (maybe once or twice a year). I’m 38 weeks pregnant and keep getting messages from my mum suggesting names for our baby. Is it just me or is naming your baby something special between you and your partner? I know it’s harmless coming up with suggestions for us but it’s just giving me the ick every time I see another message come through with a new baby name! I understand that living so far away, they feel like they’re missing out on a lot so I’m remaining polite but deep down it’s driving me insane! I’m mindful it could just be pregnancy hormones and I’m over reacting. DO I TELL MY FRIEND HUSBANDI just found out my best friend’s husband has been having an affair. She is completely blindsided. The thing is… I’m not surprised. And that’s what’s eating me alive. Last year, my husband and I went away with them for a weekend. At the time, my husband and I were in a really fragile place — we’d recently terminated a pregnancy and were struggling a lot. During that weekend, my best friend’s husband hit on me. Nothing huge or explicit, but enough that it was clear. I never reciprocated, I never crossed a line, and nothing happened. But if I’m brutally honest… I liked the attention. I was feeling low and disconnected in my own relationship, and it felt good to be wanted. I shut it down and we basically pretended it didn’t happen. After that weekend, I told my husband I didn’t trust him and that I thought he was the type who would cheat one day. Fast forward to now — we’ve just found out on another trip away that he’s been having an affair. She is shattered. And I feel so guilty that I didn’t warn her about the vibe I got from him a year ago. Part of me thinks: what would I even have said? “Your husband hit on me and I have a feeling he’ll cheat?” That feels messy and potentially friendship-ending. But another part of me feels like I failed her by staying quiet. Now I’m stuck wondering: Do I tell my husband (if he doesn’t already know the full extent of how it made me feel)? Do I tell my best friend what happened last year? Or is this truly none of my business and I just support her now? I never betrayed my husband. I never betrayed her. But I can’t shake the guilt. What would you do?   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Laura's protesting a negative review with her chest Our random animal fun facts Boy kibble vs girl dinner They want to ban PJs at the airport  Aussie Brie and Camembert are the same Could this be the end of the group assignment? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! We know you love ask uncut! The data tells us that you love ask uncut. They’re our most popular episodes so we have decided that once a month (ish - give or take 😂) we are going to have a guest ask uncut on a Friday! When thinking of the guest line up there was one person that we all unanimously said YES to and it was Toni Lodge! Toni has joined the podcast before (you can listen/watch here). She also joined our live show a few years ago in Perth! Today she is here to answer your deep and burning questions but first we will start with the pettiest hill she’s willing to die on: It’s okay to use your windscreen washer whenever you like; even if there’s someone behind you. Then we jump into your questions! CAN I STOP AFTER I'VE COME?Is it okay for me to have sex with my partner until I come, and then just stop - if I can tell he won't come too? My partner comes about 1 out of 2 times we have sex - and he always has, since we've been together. It used to annoy me but now I accept his sex drive is lower than mine and also, he doesn't think it's an issue. We used to keep going regardless, for fun and because we both enjoyed it. But I'm tired and pregnant, and have a toddler, and I can tell if he won't climax in a session... sooo can I just roll off him when I'm done, or do I have to wait til he calls it quits, even if it takes ages?? CAN I SHAVE IN THE PUBLIC POOL SHOWER?So let me preface this by saying: I have two small children, work part time, study full time and take most of family mental load. I get very little time to myself and very rarely get to shower by myself or uninterrupted. Twice a week I go swimming at the local aquatic centre. It’s my time all to myself, no children. I go to a pool that does not have child facilities so it’s very much me having a grown up moment. I also go during the day when it is not very busy, so the change rooms and showers are all free (this becomes important later). The shower I have after my swim is bliss. I can close my eyes and pretend the hairballs and the foot fungus don’t exist and for a moment I can just stand there. No screams of ‘muuuuum’, no toddler telling me I have a hairy ‘pagina’, no husband fumbling around the kitchen using every pot we own to boil spaghetti. Bliss. So I do everything: I wash my hair, I scrub my body, I double cleanse my face and (this is the gross bit) I shave my legs. Is this considered disgusting? Is shaving in a public shower acceptable, given the circumstances? I’ve posted under a pseudonym because I’m not going to stop (just being honest), but I’m so interested to know your thoughts.   FOUND OUT DAD HAS ANOTHER CHILD AND I’M HURTOkay this might be a big one but I need some advice as I’m really struggling with this. I haven’t had a real relationship with my dad for years after he walked out on me and my family after an affair he had, I have always struggled with my relationship with him and it had been so back and forth for a long time and I was always the one to forgive him and give him chance after chance and would constantly have my heart broken fast forward to 6 years ago when I found out he has another child with the partner he cheated on my mum with, I recently have seen a photo of him with his new family and for some reason it has absolutely broken me, I feel as though I wasn’t enough and so he has replaced me. Although I have no relationship with him and that all ended up being on my end as I was over being hurt by him but I don’t know why I still feel so heartbroken over this revelation. Am I silly for feeling this way? RED FLAG TO HAVE A GIRL BEST FRIEND THAT HE DATED? I just recently started seeing someone. We are in our mid 20s.  We’ve been on about 4 dates and it feels really lovely and steady. On our last date, he told me about a girl best friend. We’re not at the stage of meeting each other’s friends yet, so I haven’t met her yet. He told me they’ve been friends for several  years, they go to uni together being in the same class, and they dated for a year before deciding it was a mistake. She has a boyfriend now. I appreciate him telling me about her, as if things progress we’ll be doing long distance and it would have been easy to hide. I didn’t feel anxious when he told me as he reiterated that the chapter is very closed, mutually. However he’s said they text every day. He was very understanding that it’s unconventional and he’s happy to answer any questions I have. I wanted to take a few days to think about the conversation before I had it. Is this a major red flag, and if it is, what should I be asking him about their relationship or what boundaries should I be putting in place? I don’t want to control his friendship, and he has invited me to meet her in a few weeks, but I’m nervous. You can find Toni on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! It’s finally Laura’s 40th birthday (month) and she’s feeling an unexpected way about it; despite what other people in the content world might think!We speak about the feeling of knowing yourself fully and peace that comes as we get a bit older. Can you still have photos of your ex in your phone? Does it depend on what ‘kind’ of photos they are? We unpack a situation that unfolded on MAFS and why we feel weird deleting photos from the past. Plus we chat about the terrifying trend being sold to young men - looksmaxxing There’s this streamer called Clavicular who has blown up online in the past year. On the surface, looksmaxxing sounds like skincare, grooming, self-improvement but this is not just gym bro content, darker.Is this just the male version of long-standing beauty pressure on women?  Or is it a pipeline into something black pill culture?  Are we normalising surgical self-editing as self-care? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep, dark and burning questions! Keeshia has a new haircut that she’s claiming is ‘for the girls’. Laura has an ask uncut of her own and we’ve come to the realisation that sometimes we don’t react in the ways we think we will in some situations.  Vibes for the week:Britt - Reality Check: Inside America's Next Top Model - Netflix  Keeshia - The Babies Kept in a Mysterious Los Angeles Mansion - The New Yorker  Laura - @womenshealthwithheidi Then we jump into your questions! I ASKED MY EX NOT TO MOVE ON FOR 1 MONTH - IS THIS UNREASONABLE?My partner and I (of 3 years) recently separated. We continued living together for a month after this, trying to make it work, but I'm now moving out. He had purchased a house and a dog very briefly before we got together, so they are technically his, which means my whole world is changing, but his stays much the same. I've asked him to not do or start anything with anyone else for a month while I find my feet - I'm absolutely devastated and am so scared of being immediately replaced and having our relationship feel like it meant nothing to him. He has said he isn't in a hurry to move on but can't commit to this. Is my request reasonable? I'm asking him out of respect for me and the life we've had together.  HUSBAND WANTS TO TAKE OUR KIDS TO CHURCH, I’M NOT RELIGIOUSMy husband and I have been together for 8 years and married for almost 4. We have two beautiful girls, a 2.5 year old and a 3 month old. We are currently having some in depth conversations about religion. When I first met my husband he let me know he had faith and grew up as a Christian and went to church as a family. When he and his family moved to Australia they stopped going to church and there was no talk about religion. In the last few years his brother, mother and father have started going to church again. My husband has recently started talking to me about wanting to get involved back in the church and taking our girls. For context, I am not religious and grew up in a non religious household. He would like to start taking the girls to church occasionally and would like me to come as well. I would like to broach the subject of religion when the girls are older and are able to do their own research, learn about all the different types of religion, question it and form their own opinions. I don’t want them going up and thinking Christianity is the one and only way. Please don’t get me wrong I do understand and respect Christianity and certain aspects of it .. like being a kind and selfless person, having grace etc.. I'm just not sure about some of the other aspects as I am not sure I agree with them. How do we find the balance for our family? ENGAGEMENT RING IS SO NOT MEEarly last year my partner and I went and looked at engagement rings. I chose a plain 2mm gold band with a 3 carat oval diamond (lab grown). I always wanted the solitaire to be the main focal point with no diamonds on the band. While we were there I tried wedding bands on as well. Initially I tried on a 2mm band that had small diamonds all the way around which my partner really liked, I said it felt uncomfortable and scratchy against my other fingers and I always pictured myself having small oval diamonds. Fast forward to late last year, my partner got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. There was my beautiful solitaire oval diamond but to my surprise the band had little diamonds around it just like the wedding band he liked. He said he wanted to add a little something special to it. I have never told him how I feel but I really don’t like the ring and every time I look at it I feel like it’s not me. We are currently looking at wedding bands and he has sent me what he wants. He keeps asking me what I want and I don’t know how to tell him that I don’t know what wedding band I want now because the one I wanted looks stupid with this ring now that it has the little diamonds around the band. I feel my only wedding band options are a plain gold band or get one exactly like an engagement ring band. I really want to have the diamonds removed so I can have my dream ring but I don’t want to hurt his feelings or seem like a brat. I also imagine having the diamonds removed from the band would be expensive. I’d love your help You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Punch’s $16 IKEA toy selling for wild amount The most revolting hotel 'hack' circulating The lesser known 'looks minimising"  Eric Dane secretly recorded his 'last words' You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today’s guest is someone many of us grew up watching even if we didn’t realise it. David Holmes was a stunt double in the Harry Potter films, mostly for Harry but he also doubled for quite a few other characters and contributed to one of the most iconic movie franchises of our generation. But during filming, an accident left David paralysed from the chest down at just 25 years old. His memoir The Boy Who Lived and his documentary of the same name tell the story of that accident, but more importantly, what happened after. In the book and the doco, David shares how his friendships are what kept him alive, how his identity has shifted since the accident and the complicated reality of rebuilding a life when everything changes in a second. In today’s chat we speak about: Losing sensation but finding the best s3x he’s ever experienced A particularly beautiful love story - David and his partner (who also has a spinal cord injury) falling in love and ‘heeling’ a lot of themselves together What it was like being a stunt performer for 7 Harry Potter films BTS of Harry Potter and his close friendship with Daniel Radcliffe David’s accident that happened on set  Fighting for 3 years for proper compensation Blame after an accident like this David’s advocacy for disabled people The friendships he has maintained The future of the creative world like stunting with AI “If Someone Offered Me A Magic Pill To Get My Legs Back, I’d Be Reluctant To Take It” You can get a copy of David’s BookYou can find him on Instagram  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers There’s no ‘big news’ in this episode despite dangling that carrot in the past… Britt has sent some accidental pictures and Laura’s got a story about her fridge that will have you on the edge of your seat! We catch up on MAFS and whether the public ‘punishment’ fits the crime or if the outrage tips the scale.We speak about the really controversial participant and how ‘red pill/black pill’ language has entered the chat.  Confessionals are back! Some are light and easily forgiven, others are… diabolical! Do you tell your partner everything? What about secrets that friends have asked you to keep to yourself? There’s an article in Vogue UK called “Please, Stop Telling Your Partner My Secrets”. When you tell your friend something vulnerable are you actually telling the couple? Because somewhere along the way, we decided that when you’re in a relationship, your partner gets access to everything. Every conversation. Every secret. Every piece of emotional processing.But is that fair? We unpack. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! The start of this episode nearly got vitto-d and maybe it should have stayed that way!Vibes for the week:Laura - Leakproof Milk Bralette  Britt - The Interview': The Woman at the Center of the French Rape Trial That Shocked the World- The Daily Podcast Keeshia - StepsApp added to lock screen widget  Then we jump into your questions!My HUSBAND IS GAY AND HOW SOON IS TOO SOONI got married young and about 11 years in, my husband came out to me as bi. Totally fine, not the biggest surprise and at the time he said he didn’t feel the need to act on it. Cut to 12 months later, we had moved cities and were trying to establish our new circle and life. One Saturday he asked me to bring up the weekend newspaper quiz on his phone and I opened it to an app where he had been chatting with men online. He confessed to masturbating with them live online and that he did feel the need to act on it. Cut to six months later, he told me he was gay and we are getting divorced. Funnily this isn’t actually the crux of my question. Truthfully we were on the rocks for a long time, there was no intimacy (shocking I know) and I had been very unhappy.After we separated officially and some intense tears at saying goodbye to a version of my life that I thought was it, I jumped on the apps for the very first time! After a few non-starters I met a wonderful guy. He is caring, smart and treats me like I am what he has been waiting for. The intimacy is amazing and we have been together for nearly a year. So here it is, this all just feels too good to be true? I mean what are the chances of finding “the one” so soon after my experience? FRIEND DIDN’T TELL ME ABOUT IVFMy friend just told me she is 6 months pregnant after multiple rounds of IVF, which she never told me about either. She said only people who asked her directly were let in on the secrets and that they’ve all been especially supportive through this tough time. Am I entitled to be annoyed with her because she didn’t share this? Is she entitled to be annoyed with me because I didn’t ask? I’m happy she’s pregnant but annoyed that I haven’t been part of her journey until the last minute! DO I SHOOT MY SHOT?Do I shoot my shot at the gym or risk things getting awkward? For reference I go to quite a small group gym (around 35 people per session). I’ve been going for a few months now and ever since I started I’ve noticed this one guy who always goes to the same sessions as me. I’m single, not having any luck on dating apps and am wondering how I could potentially get to know this guy without making things awkward. I have no clue if he’s single or not but have seen him arrive with one of the other girls on a few occasions. I don’t even know how to go about initiating a conversation with him as it’s usually quite separated with girls on one side and guys on the other. So my question is, would you guys shoot your shot and try to get to know him more or is it better to keep things as they are and not make it uncomfortable seeing as we go to all the same classes and see each other most days? DO YOU HAVE TO RETURN HAND ME DOWN BABY CLOTHES?I would love your opinion on this. I have a friend who gave me some hand me down clothes for my youngest son, to which I am forever grateful for as I am a single mum of two. However, I’ve just received a message from the friend saying “Hey next time you do a wardrobe clean out, can you just put away whatever I gave you because I want to take it back. I’m starting to collect stuff to give to my brother in law because they’re going to start trying next year.” Now the problem is, I’ve given away most of the baby clothes. I never expected to see them again nor did I expect that I was going to return them to her. So am I right in thinking this is a really weird request? Some of the clothes I’ve donated, some I’ve given to other people. I didn’t realise that she would need them back. Do I tell her that I donated them? How do I navigate this and am I in the wrong?   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.