You don’t owe anyone the version of you that made them comfortable.Today’s episode of Life in Focus dives into what really happens when you start setting boundaries without apology.If you’ve ever been called selfish for saying no, cold for protecting your peace, or “different now” just because you stopped overgiving—this one’s for you.We’ll unpack:Why people take your boundaries personally (spoiler: it’s not about you)How fawning and over-functioning are actually trauma responsesThe nervous system rewiring that happens when you stop abandoning yourselfReal stories from my marriage that show what healthy boundaries look like in practiceThis episode is a reminder that you can love people deeply and still say, “That doesn’t work for me.”You can care without carrying. You can stay kind without staying small.Listen until the end for a reflection question to help you identify where you’re still mistaking self-abandonment for connection.Stay connected: • TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeinfocuswithsuttida • Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/suttidalifeinfocus • Website → https://suttida.com • Download the Healing & Growth Workbook → https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsuttida/p/get-the-healing--growth-workbook
We don’t talk enough about the kind of love that drains you.The kind that feels generous on the surface but slowly erodes your sense of self.In this episode, I share a story about a friendship that mirrored my oldest wounds — the part of me that believed love had to be earned through effort. It’s about overgiving, emotional exhaustion, and what happens when connection becomes conditional on your capacity to carry it.If you’ve ever found yourself confusing being needed with being loved, this one’s for you. It’s not about shame — it’s about clarity, reciprocity, and finally learning how to give without losing yourself.Stay connected:TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeinfocuswithsuttida for daily reflections and raw truths.Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/suttidalifeinfocus for behind-the-scenes, quotes, and community reflections.Website → https://suttida.com to read, listen, and explore deeper.Workbook → Download the Healing & Growth Workbook: https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsuttida/p/get-the-healing--growth-workbook
Starting the healing journey can feel impossible. Everyone says “just start healing,” but what does that even mean when you’re overwhelmed, exhausted, and unsure where the pain even began?In this first solo episode of Life in Focus, I share my own story and walk you through the messy, human beginning of healing. Not the polished version you see on social media—the real, awkward, clunky start.We’ll talk about:- Why healing begins with honesty, not fixing- How to notice the small ways you’ve been abandoning yourself- Why there’s no “finish line” in healing, only a relationship with yourself- Tiny, practical steps to rebuild trust with youHealing isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about finally letting yourself be fully human. If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by where to start, this episode is for you.Connect with MeTikTok: @lifeinfocuswithsuttidaInstagram: @suttidalifeinfocusWebsite: suttida.comWork with me + buy the 4 week Healing & Growth Workbook: https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsuttida
We’ve been taught to mistake intensity for intimacy. Chemistry for care. Big emotions for real connection.But love isn’t proven by how deeply you feel. It’s revealed by how carefully you act.In this episode of Life in Focus, I talk about the kind of love that actually creates safety and trust. The kind that doesn’t leave you constantly recovering. The kind that doesn’t require bracing, explaining, or shrinking to stay connected.Real love is built on consideration and responsibility. Consideration means holding someone in mind even when they aren’t in the room. Responsibility means owning your impact, not just your intention.This conversation explores:• Why honesty without care causes damage• How intensity can feel alive but remain emotionally careless• What adult love looks like in real life, not theory• Why regulated connection can feel boring if you learned love through chaos• How responsibility changes relationships, leadership, parenting, and self trustIf you’ve ever felt close to someone yet still unsafe, this episode names why.Love that considers you doesn’t rush.Love that takes responsibility doesn’t disappear.This is the shift that changes everything.Stay connected: • TikTok → / lifeinfocuswithsuttida • Instagram → / suttidalifeinfocus • Website → https://suttida.com • Download the Healing & Growth Workbook → https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsut...
Effort does not create desire. Loyalty does not manufacture commitment. Patience does not convince someone to stay.This episode breaks down a hard truth many people avoid. When someone starts pulling away, giving more does not bring them closer. It disconnects you from yourself.What looks like devotion on the surface often runs on fear underneath. The nervous system panics at emotional distance and switches into overdrive. More explaining. More caretaking. More trying. Less dignity.In this episode, we unpack: • Why working harder teaches people to expect self abandonment instead of reciprocity • How overfunctioning trains your nervous system to confuse anxiety with love • Where this pattern actually starts and why it feels so hard to stopThat pattern rarely begins in adulthood. For many, love was conditional early on. Approval arrived when you were useful, quiet, impressive, or easy. Closeness followed performance. So when connection felt threatened, effort became the solution.Fast forward. Adult relationships trigger the same wiring. Distance feels dangerous. Silence feels personal. Instead of pausing, you chase. You carry the emotional weight for two people and call it commitment.You will also learn how to: • Set quiet limits that protect your dignity without playing games • Separate fantasy from behavior using grounded reality checks • Sit with the urge to fix without abandoning yourselfThe deeper shift is this. Love is not something you earn through exhaustion. It grows where effort is mutual, interest is steady, and respect does not require sacrifice of self.This conversation invites you to: • Stop proving your worth to people who are not meeting you • Let misalignment reveal itself instead of chasing clarity • Choose yourself without hardening your heartIf you feel the impulse to rescue connection every time it wobbles, this episode is for you. Pause. Listen. Then watch what remains when you stop chasing.Stay connected: • TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeinfocuswithsuttida • Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/suttidalifeinfocus • Website → https://suttida.com • Download the Healing & Growth Workbook → https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsuttida
This episode cuts straight into the real work. The kind you only learn when life forces you to rebuild yourself from the inside out.I talk about growing up as the fixer, the overgiver, the emotional anchor. The kid who learned to earn love instead of receive it. And how that early blueprint followed me into adulthood until I finally ended the cycle myself.This conversation is about the shift that happens when you stop asking other people to give you what they were never capable of providing. You start becoming it for yourself. That’s the moment your healing stops being theory and starts being lived truth.If you're in a season of shedding old patterns, raising your standards, and refusing to settle for emotional breadcrumbs, this one’s going to hit home.• How childhood conditioning wires us to overgive and overlook red flags• What changes when you stop outsourcing your emotional safety• Why becoming the love you never got transforms every relationship in your lifeListen in and let this be the reminder your past never gave you and your future self is begging you to claim.Stay connected: • TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeinfocuswithsuttida • Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/suttidalifeinfocus • Website → https://suttida.com • Download the Healing & Growth Workbook → https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsuttida
This week’s episode strips accountability down to its real form, the one that isn’t about blame but about finally meeting the parts of yourself you’ve been dodging for years. I talk about how motherhood and marriage forced me to face the younger version of me hiding in the basement of my nervous system, the one still running the show when life gets hard. This is the deeper layer of accountability that turns avoidance into presence, defensiveness into honesty, and survival mode into emotional leadership.You’ll hear about • How motherhood became an accountability mirror and pushed me to reparent the version of me that never got what she needed • The way conflict in marriage exposes the age of your wounds and why taking responsibility there changes everything • How real accountability shifts your nervous system out of autopilot so you stop letting past injuries run your current relationshipsStay connected: • TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeinfocuswithsuttida • Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/suttidalifeinfocus • Website → https://suttida.com • Download the Healing & Growth Workbook → https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsuttida
Limiting beliefs don’t start as thoughts. They start as survival. They’re the strategies your younger self built when the world felt too loud, too chaotic, or too unpredictable to trust. You didn’t wake up one day and decide to shrink yourself. Your body learned it was safer that way.This episode digs into the beliefs that live under the surface. The ones that don’t just shape what you think, but how you breathe, choose, love, work, and protect yourself. The ones that once kept you safe and now keep you small.Inside, we explore the roots of these patterns, why your brain holds onto them even when they hurt, and what healing really asks from you. The grief. The anger. The honesty. The relief that finally lets your shoulders drop.You’ll hear why you still slip into old versions of yourself when you’re triggered, why growth doesn’t erase your wiring, and how to separate who you are from who you had to be to survive.If you’re in a season of outgrowing your coping strategies, this episode will feel like someone finally turned a light on.What you’ll walk away with• How survival strategies become identity without you noticing• Why letting go of old beliefs feels unsafe even when you’re done suffering• The nervous system patterns that keep you stuck in repetition• The emotional grief that shows up when you outgrow your childhood roles• The questions that expose the belief holding you back the most• What it feels like when survival finally shifts into real self worthStay connected: • TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeinfocuswithsuttida • Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/suttidalifeinfocus • Website → https://suttida.com • Download the Healing & Growth Workbook → https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsuttida
This week’s episode sits you down with a truth that feels sharp before it feels liberating. Nobody owes you anything. Not love. Not effort. Not emotional maturity. Not the version of themselves you kept cushioning. Once that lands, your entire relationship with expectations starts to shift.This conversation breaks open the places where disappointment hides. The childhood patterns you carried into adulthood. The way you’ve mistaken overgiving for connection. The quiet resentment that builds when you keep expecting people to meet needs they’ve never shown the capacity to hold.You’ll hear the kind of clarity that pulls you out of fantasy and into relationships that can actually breathe.Here’s what we get into:- Why “nobody owes you anything” isn’t cold, it’s grounding- How your expectations were shaped long before you ever named them- The trap of emotional overgiving and why it keeps you stuck- What clarity and boundaries look like when you’re done performing- How to stop choosing people you need to emotionally renovate- The moment expectations shift from burdens to filters- Why liberation starts when you stop asking the wrong people for the right thingsIf you’re tired of feeling let down, tired of translating yourself, tired of waiting for someone to show up differently, this episode will hit home. It’s the kind of truth that stings for a moment then opens a door you didn’t realize you were allowed to walk through.Tune in if you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start choosing the connections that choose you back.Stay connected: • TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeinfocuswithsuttida • Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/suttidalifeinfocus • Website → https://suttida.com • Download the Healing & Growth Workbook → https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsuttida
When your growth starts shifting the room, you’ll notice who claps and who goes silent.This episode dives into why some people can’t celebrate you because your evolution confronts what they’ve avoided in themselves.We’ll unpack:Why your success feels like rejection to people who haven’t chosen growthHow social mirroring shapes connection and belongingThe guilt that comes with outgrowing old versions of yourselfAnd how to stand in self-trust when the applause fadesIf you’ve ever felt alone in your growth or confused by who fell off along the way, this one’s for you.Listen and reflect: Are you choosing people who clap for your comfort or your courage?Stay connected:TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeinfocuswithsuttidaInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/suttidalifeinfocusWebsite → https://suttida.comDownload the Healing & Growth Workbook → https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsuttida
In this episode of Life in Focus, I talk about the endings that change us like the relationships, friendships, and family ties, and what it takes to truly heal.You’ll hear about:• How endings rewire your nervous system and sense of safety• Honoring who you had to be while grieving what can’t be• The legacy of my grandfather and the love that taught me how to healStay connected: • TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeinfocuswithsuttida • Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/suttidalifeinfocus • Website → https://suttida.com • Download the Healing & Growth Workbook → https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsuttida
Join us for a compelling conversation with Tim Enwall, a distinguished entrepreneur who has masterfully steered multiple startups to success. In this episode, Tim shares his strategic insights on cultivating a high-performance culture, driving growth, and fostering innovation within a business. Dive into his philosophy on leadership and personal development, focusing on self-awareness and the sources of validation that impact one’s journey. Whether you're scaling a startup or leading a team, Tim's experiences offer profound lessons on building excellence and nurturing transformative environments in both professional and personal realms. Tune in to explore how integrated approaches to business can lead to sustainable success.
Tune in as Laura Green, a comedic content creator, shares how she combines humor with her passion for running, all while juggling life as a mother and collaborating with brands. In this episode, Laura offers insights into her creative process, the support she receives from her partner, and the joys of parenting. Subscribe for an engaging look at how laughter can bring us together, whether on the track or through life’s ups and downs. Here’s what you’ll learn: Blending Passions with Profession: How Laura merges her love for comedy and running into relatable content. Relationships and Parenting: Insights into balancing creative work with family life. Working with Brands: Practical tips on managing partnerships and brand deals in the content creation space.
In this episode, Pete shares his journey, delving into the challenges and triumphs of building companies from the ground up. His strategic insights and practical advice are not just inspirational but also actionable for anyone looking to make their mark in the entrepreneurial world. Whether you're an aspiring entrepreneur, a seasoned business owner, or someone passionate about innovation and growth, this discussion is packed with valuable lessons and perspectives. Don't forget to hit the subscribe button to stay updated with more inspiring stories and expert guidance from leaders like Pete. In this episode, listeners can expect to learn: - Strategies for effectively scaling a startup and navigating growth challenges. - The importance of mentorship and investing in the next generation of entrepreneurs. - Insights into the mindset and habits that contribute to success in the fast-paced world of startups.
Dive into the compelling journey of Leah Rosenfeld, a story of resilience, ambition, and overcoming adversity. As a former Under Armour athlete and Division 1 college runner, Leah's path has been marked by both remarkable achievements and profound challenges. This in-depth interview reveals how she races through life's ups and downs, embracing each lesson along the way. From Elite Athlete to Inspirational Coach: Discover Leah's transition from the pinnacle of competitive running to empowering others as a sought-after running coach and founder of LDR Coaching. Battling Mental Health: Leah opens up about her mental health struggles, offering insights into how these battles have fueled her passion for personal growth and helping others — all while recognizing that she isn’t striving for perfection but continual progress. Building Resilience Through Running: Learn how the discipline of running has been Leah’s steadying force, teaching her to navigate life's unpredictability with grace and strength. Lessons in Entrepreneurship: Explore the challenges and triumphs of translating athletic discipline into an impactful coaching business that helps others reach their goals while enjoying the transformation that takes place. Finding Joy in Simplicity: Leah shares the importance of balancing ambition with life’s simple pleasures and necessities such as, doing the dishes, getting great sleep, maintaining good nutrition, self-awareness, and more. Leah’s story is a testament to the power of perseverance, the importance of mental health awareness, and the endless pursuit of personal and professional growth.
Welcome to the latest episode of Life in Focus with Suttida, where we dive into the incredible journey of Dr. Jennifer Derse, a renowned cosmetic dentist who has carved a niche for herself in the competitive world of dental care in Colorado. In this inspiring episode, Dr. Derse shares her remarkable story. We explore her humble beginnings, the challenges she faced, and the resilience and determination that propelled her to the top of her field. Dr. Derse's story isn't just about dentistry; it's a testament to the power of perseverance, hard work, and the enduring quest for excellence. Key highlights of this episode include: Dr. Derse's early struggles and how they shaped her career path. The pivotal moments that led to her success in cosmetic dentistry. Dr. Derse's philosophy on patient care and building a successful practice. Advice for aspiring dentists and entrepreneurs. Whether you're a dental professional, a student aspiring to enter the field, or someone who loves a good success story, this episode is sure to inspire and educate. Dr. Derse's journey is a powerful reminder that with passion and persistence, any dream is achievable. Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe for more inspiring stories. Your support helps me bring more of these stories to you!
This episode is about the friendships you quietly grow out of… the ones that once felt like home but now feel like a version of you you’ve outgrown.Not because of drama.Not because of resentment.But because growth changed the language you speak.We talk about what really happens when you begin healing, setting boundaries, choosing peace over performance and how those shifts often create distance between you and people who only knew the unhealed version of you.I share the emotional layers of what it means to evolve out of friendships you still care about, the guilt that comes with letting go, and the integrity it takes to be honest with yourself when the connection no longer aligns.Some friendships were only meant to witness your becoming.And once you’ve become, it’s okay to keep walking.Stay connected: • TikTok → / lifeinfocuswithsuttida • Instagram → / suttidalifeinfocus • Website → https://suttida.com • Download the Healing & Growth Workbook → https://stan.store/lifeinfocuswithsut...