Lit AF Relationships

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Ever find yourself spiraling after a fight or overthinking someone’s mixed signals? This episode dives into the one question I ask my clients the most: What does that mean about you? Whether it's navigating criticism in relationships (hello, anxious preoccupied!), decoding why someone doesn’t want to date you, or understanding the beliefs behind someone else's actions, we'll unpack the stories you tell yourself—and how to rewrite them. Let's figure this out together!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. On today’s episode, Sigrid Blom shares how she overcame her fearful avoidant leaning dismissive avoidant attachment style after a divorce. She used to struggle to set boundaries and have authentic friendships where she was fully showing up as herself. With a slew of diagnoses including autism and ADHD Sigrid always felt like she was the one that needed to fix herself. Now Sigrid is about to embark on her dream of nomad living and has created an incredible group of friends that understand and appreciate her for exactly who she is.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Sigrid Blom on Instagram: @sigfoot Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Ever feel like there's a sneaky pattern sabotaging your love life? It might just be your core wounds making a dramatic entrance! Join us as we explore how these childhood-rooted emotional wounds shape our relationships and tie into our attachment styles.We’ll dive into the anxious attachment style, where you might find yourself constantly seeking reassurance and wondering, "Am I enough?" Then there’s the avoidant attachment, where pulling away when things get too close for comfort can leave you feeling isolated. If you identify with the fearful-avoidant attachment, you might be stuck in a push-pull pattern, craving closeness while also fearing it. And let’s not forget the secure attachment style—while generally more stable, even secure folks aren’t immune to the occasional situational fear.The good news? Understanding these core wounds is the first step to healing and building fulfilling connections. Tune in as we unravel the drama and start making space for love that lasts!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

In this episode, we're taking a playful dive into Love is Blind Season 7 to spot the rarest of all species: securely attached contestants! Join us as we break down what secure attachment looks like (hint: it's steady, calm, and confident) and how it holds up under the wild pressures of pods, fast proposals, and unapproving parents. Grab your popcorn and let’s dig into the attachment behind the show’s healthiest moments!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Ever feel like you’re dating the same person over and over? It’s not just bad luck—it’s your brain's subconscious comfort zone pulling the strings! In this episode, we’ll explore why your brain loves familiar relationship drama (even when it’s not good for you) and how to break out of those old patterns. Tune in for practical tips, a little self-reflection, and a fresh start on building healthier, happier relationships!Credit: The term subconscious comfort zone come from the personal development school.Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Sarah Cohan on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit Sarah Cohan’s Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Struggling to get your point across or feeling like every conversation is a minefield? Your attachment style might be the culprit! In this episode, we break down why communication is so tricky for the three insecure attachment types. We'll dive into why the Anxious Preoccupied can be overly critical, how the Fearful Avoidant tends to be super sensitive, and why the Dismissive Avoidant just shuts down. Plus, we'll share practical tips to help you navigate tough conversations without the drama! Tune in for insights, laughs, and some "aha" moments about why we communicate the way we do.Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/Download the free Healthy Relationships Scripts here: https://www.sarahcohan.com/free-toolsIf you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. In this episode, we sit down with someone who has transformed their relationship style from dismissive avoidant to secure while also navigating the challenges of ADHD. We explore the journey of what it takes to shift from emotional distance and self-reliance to building trust, vulnerability, and deeper connections. Our guest shares insights into the challenges of opening up, how past wounds shaped their avoidant tendencies, and the practices that helped them embrace emotional intimacy. Get ready for an inspiring (and fun!) chat full of practical tips to help you create more secure relationships in your own life.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one or couples coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you fell like you’re on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Ever feel like you're riding an emotional roller coaster when someone doesn’t text back? You might just be rocking the Anxious Preoccupied attachment style! In this episode, we’re breaking down why the fear of abandonment hits so hard for some of us. Spoiler: it’s all about craving that closeness but freaking out when it might slip away. We’ll chat about how childhood experiences shape this anxiety and—don’t worry—we’re serving up some tips on how to hit pause on the panic. Plus, we’ve got free tools to help you ask for what you need without the fear! Join us for a fun, relatable deep dive into the world of love, anxiety, and healthier connections!Download the free Healthy Relationships Scripts here: https://www.sarahcohan.com/free-toolsDiscover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one on one coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. In this episode, we’re diving into the world of dismissive avoidants—the attachment style pros at needing space. Whether it’s because they pride themselves on independence, avoid emotions at all costs, or keep their hearts guarded, dismissive avoidants thrive on alone time. Tune in to learn why their need for space isn’t personal—it’s just their way of staying cool, calm, and in control.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one on one coching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. In this episode, we dive deep into what makes your fearful avoidant so chaotic. It can be really confusing to be with a fearful avoidant, one minute they’re charming and adorable the next minute they’re probing you with questions and asking for space.  It all comes down to a lack of trust, a fear of setting boundaries (and the guilt that follows), and the constant tug-of-war between a fear of abandonment/betrayal and a high need for freedom. If you’re struggling to connect with a Fearful Avoidant partner, I’ll share my number one tip for improving communication and fostering a healthier relationship dynamic. Tune in to better understand the chaos and how to navigate it.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one on one coching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect.Do you struggle with discerning between avoidance or intuition? Do you experience the ick in dating? If so this episode is for you. Jordan shares how she healed her fearful avoidant attachment style in order to stop serial dating, slow down, and actually find someone she wanted to be with. Jordan started this work with a crippling belief that she was behind in her dating life, that she needed a partner to be validated, and that she was defective. Hear how she started to let all of this go and transform the way she was showing up in relationships. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one on one coching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships where you feel like you’re on the same team.Do you feel like you can only rely on yourself or that it’s a sign of weakness to share your feelings? If so, this episode is for you. I share why the dismissive avoidant attachment style is brought up to think they need to be independent. I also share why the dismissive-avoidant is cut off from their emotions. If you’re in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant this will help you understand why they need so much space and why feelings are so hard for them. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one on one coching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow [Guest] on Instagram:Visit [Guest]’s website:Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one on one coching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one on one coching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one on one coching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one on one coching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. I’m working with a client right now that has ADHD. For most of his life guilt and shame have been his big motivators. They often say things like next time you just need to work harder or do better or push through. I get it, I’ve used similar motivators in the past. My inner voice often says things like you should have known better. You probably think this is the only way to do things but I promise it’s actually hurting you in the long term. Listen to hear more about how this is affecting your relationships. Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow [Guest] on Instagram:Visit [Guest]’s website:Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one on one coching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Do you tend to escape through habits like eating, drinking, video games, watching too much tv, overdoing it at the gym, or get lost in daydreams or fantasies all day? In this episode, I share how escapism and dissociation show up in attachment styles. Then I share the first simple step to changing these habits. It’s a juicy one so buckle up!Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one-on-one coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform

Are you curious about what motivates you in your relationships? On today’s episode of Lit AF Relationships, I talk with Angie Meyer, an enneagram coach. She shares her journey with accepting her own attachment style (she’s earned secure now but grew up with a dismissive avoidant attachment style) and how the different attachment styles show up in the enneagram. She also shares which enneagram types often end up in relationships with others. And if you’re single, we’ve got you covered. She also talks about how to use the enneagram in dating.Listen to Angie’s podcast: https://www.angiealchemist.com/podcasts/enneagram-ego-death/ Take Angie’s enneagram quiz: https://www.angiealchemist.com/EnneagramFreeQuiz Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043If you’re interested in one-on-one coaching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy relationships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewformLit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect whether you are single or in a relationship.

Lit AF Relationships podcast is your resource for creating healthy relationships full of love, trust, safety, and respect. Are you constantly thinking about breaking up with your partner? Do you dream of the day you can be on your own and get the freedom you’ve been so desperately wanting? In this episode I share why the dismissive avoidant attachment style fantasizes about breaking up after a fight or triggering moment with their partner. Our brain is dreaming about that 1 bedroom 1 bath in the neighborhood we’ve been dying to move into. The fantasy can be quite intoxicating but really what it’s doing is distracting you from the hurt that you’re experiencing in the moment. Tune into learn about this extremely common pattern.Discover your attachment style to break free from old relationship patterns. Take the free quiz here: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/6329f75e6dd9410016a64043Follow Lit AF Relationships on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Relationships Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/If you’re interested in one on one or couples coching I’d love to help you heal old patterns to create healthy relationships where you’re growing on the same team. Get started by applying for a free 60-minute healthy realtionships call here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSddL3tie849uvgD1m31l4MAH3AzH0FlWgnsG0gPEBEzeDyPyg/viewform