Little People, Big Feelings Summit

Timestamps02:37 Being a grownup becomes extra real when you have your own little person to help grow up04:30 Brad asks kids what grownups should do to be better grownups06:15 What does a grown up look like?07:30 To really grow up is to show up09:00 The spectacular and the unspectacular11:45 How do we maintain the awe and wonder when the shine starts to wear off?12:55 If we can become better adults we will raise up better kids15:00 Mum and Dad don’t know it all15:40 Let’s talk about Kid President17:00 You’re Beyonce!18:20 Be who you needed when you were younger.19:30 Children who do well have had at least 1 stable relationship with a carer or other adult20:10 Light up when your child walks into a room23:15 If we do our job well, they’re going to “out love” us all.23:40 Playfulness, joyfulness and energy25:10 Deep, dark, heavy play26:20 Mr Squiggle26:50 Big, Busy & Boring28:40 A joyful rebellion30:10 David Hassellhoff31:50 How to play in the day to day33:45 Pop the balloon of seriousness37:30 Side by side39:20 Be present, be pleasant40:20 Pause, breathe, love and do it over and over again.Brad MontagueBrad Montague is creator of the hit web series Kid President, and Kid Correspondent, and author of the New York Times best seller Kid President's Guide to Being Awesome and Becoming Better Grownups. As an illustrator his work is regularly featured in Joanna Gaines's The Magnolia Journal. He lives in Tennessee with his wife and kids. Becoming Better GrownupsWhen his first book tour ended, Brad Montague missed hearing other people's stories so much that he launched what he dubbed a Listening Tour. First visiting elementary schools and later also nursing homes and retirement communities, he hoped to glean new wisdom as to how he might become a better grownup. Now, in this playful and buoyant book, he shares those insights with rest of us --timeless, often surprising lessons that bypass the head we're always stuck in, and go straight to the heart we sometimes forget.Each of the book's three sections begins with the illustrated story of "The Incredible Floating Girl." Brad weaves this story together with lessons of success, fear, regret, gratitude, love, happiness, and dreams to reveal the true reason we are here: to fly, and to help others fly.Beautifully designed and featuring Montague's own whimsical 4-color illustrations that appeal to the kid in all of us, Becoming Better Grownups shares the purpose and meaning we can all discover merely by listening, and reveals that--in a world that seems increasingly childish--the secret to joy is in fact to become more childlike.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Timestamps02:45 Maggie’s slideshow begins03:18 Why are we concerned?03:50 Developmental vulnerabilities05:50 4 key concerns07:18 What’s the hurry?08:10 Boys are struggling more than girls09:00 Creating angry boys10:45 Familiarity15:19 The truth about separation distress17:50 Latest trends - Boys18:50 The "fragility" in boys20:30 Boys are more prone to separation distress21:24 Top Tips for boys (and some girls)23:38 Other suggestions for all little ones24:34 Navigate your own feelings25:28 Honour & love & enjoy childhood26:36 Justin’s Knock Knock joke27:00 What is a Rooster/Lamb?28:42 The power of role play32:45 When should children start school?37:16 NAPLAN44:05 Learning to read47:30 What’s the best thing that parents can do to help little children with big feelings when it comes to school transition?Maggie Dent Commonly known as Australia’s ‘queen of common sense’, Maggie is an author, educator, & parenting & resilience specialist. She is a dedicated advocate to quietly changing lives in our families and communities. Mothering Our BoysMothers of sons are worried about raising their boys in a world where negative images of masculinity are front and centre of our media, almost every day. Not only that, but statistically our boys are still struggling in many ways -- including at school. In her bestselling book,  Mothering Our Boys,  mum of four sons Maggie Dent draws on her personal experience – and over four decades work as a teacher, counsellor and now author and speaker – to help build understanding, empathy and compassion for our boys. Maggie shares her insights, her reflections, and (as always) her humour around mothering boys in this book that will help you be the mum your son needs you to be.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Timestamps01:28 Fussy eaters01:54 Why do children become so fussy?03:06 Children are naturally scared of trying new foods03:38 Kids taste food differently to us05:03 Adults are fussy too06:37 When is fussy eating a real problem?08:13 Don’t be scared to give your young children interesting flavours09:27 Speech pathologists10:09   Food phobia10:40 Common mistakes that parents make11:43 Parents are role models13:08 The importance of animal products in your diet14:15 How meals should look for different members of the family15:11 Don’t make such a fuss17:40 How to introduce new foods19:03 Children on the autism spectrum20:03 Giving children choices21:10 Be mindful of the words that you say22:57 Never make assumptions about what your children will like24:12 Coriander 26:44 Allow children to express themselves27:38 Don’t forget to make food delicious30:15 Consistency34:55 Habit & familiarity35:55   How important is it that our children eat expansively?37:49 Top 3 helpful hints40:45 Feel Good Family Food PlanDr Joanna McMillanAs a warm and engaging MC, keynote and TEDx speaker, Joanna travels Internationally. She is a popular health presenter and a regular on television and radio, with over 15 years presenting health and nutrition segments.Joanna is an accomplished author of eight books.She lives in Sydney with her husband, two sons and her walking buddy, their labradoodle Spartacus.The Feel-Good Family Food Plan Packed with simple solutions, easy-to-follow advice and expert tips,  The Feel-Good Family Food Plan  does the thinking for you, so you get delicious home-cooked food on the table, even on the most hectic of work and school days. 60 weeknight dinners the whole family will love. 4 weeks of meal plans take the stress out of shopping and cooking. Great ideas for getting the kids involved in the kitchen. Plant-rich meals to encourage good eating habits for life. Ideas for fussy eaters and getting kids to love vegies. Quick healthy breakfasts, lunch boxes and snacks, for fuel on the run. Tips for savvy shopping, storing and freezing. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Timestamps1.28 What’s the difference between a child psychiatrist and a child psychologist?3.40 Why did you decide to specialize in child and adolescent psychology?6:20 How to make decisions about what information to listen to8:43 What do babies and young children really need from us? 9:30 “No-nonsense tenderness” and setting limits11:00 Developing a secure attachment relationship12:24 Children need to be delighted in15:17 How do we couple delighting in our children and no-nonsense tenderness?20:15 How do we find delight in the tougher times?22:46 Balancing helping your child and building their resilience27:50 Authoritative parenting28:40 Dealing with biting29:20 Babies and young children can’t self soothe31:50 Children CAN’T use their words when they’re having BIG feelings37:10 Connect before you correct38:00 They haven't "done the wrong thing". They've just fallen down.39:52 Getting ourselves into the right headspace to be the parents we want to be44:10 None of us are nailing it all the timeDr Kaylene Henderson Dr Kaylene Henderson is a medically trained infant, child and adolescent psychiatrist and one of Australia's leading parenting experts. She is also a trusted professional development provider for the early childhood education sector and a sought after media contributor and conference speaker.In her warm and relatable style, Kaylene shares practical, research based advice with parents and professionals alike in the hope that together, we can bring out the best in the children for whom we all care.I’m both a medically trained child health specialist and mother of three fun-loving young children. Having learned how to bring out the best in kids, I am now passionate about sharing these research-based approaches with parents.As unique individuals, our children will all have different challenges to face as they get older. The good news is, you are in the perfect position to help your kids overcome these challenges and become more resilient – you simply need to learn how.Each of my Advice Packs will provide you with instant, online advice across a range of topics (anxiety, behaviour, meltdowns and school readiness to name a few). These packs are filled with practical tips so that you can add a little more calmness, a little more confidence… a little more awesomeness to your wonderful children!Thank you. . . You’re awesome.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Timestamps01:57  How do you define anxiety & how does it present?02:21  Your feelings are messengers03:20 When does anxiety become a problem?05:25  Unprocessed emotions07:55  What are the mistakes that parents are making?09:00  Catastrophic thinking10:27  Your feelings are valid11:03  How to hold space for their emotions12:12  First shortcut14:20  Doing the basics when it comes to emotional support15:20  Make Worry a character16:53  If you can name it, you can tame it17:08  Psychological distance17:15  Worry is not good at remembering success17:40  Highlight & savour progress18:24  Tiny wins19:05  Shame around their feelings20:50  Reinforcing anxiety by avoidance23:00  Should we tell kids to toughen up?24:18 Zone of comfort, zone of distress & zone of growth.26:54  Play therapy28:00  Separation anxiety29:30  Separation techniques 32:12  Take home messageRenee JainRenee Jain is the founder and Chief Storyteller of  GoZen!  She has been recognized as a pioneer in marrying technology and child psychology in a unique approach that nurtures the hearts and minds of kids.Through her writing, product invention and development, masterclasses for parents, and children’s advocacy, she works to build the emotional intelligence of kids. Originally a tech entrepreneur who suffered with her own anxiety, Renee founded GoZen! to help a new generation of kids, parents and therapists.Renee earned her Master’s degree in Positive Psychology — the scientific study of optimal human functioning — from the University of Pennsylvania and is the NYT bestselling co-author of Superpowered: Transform Anxiety into Courage, Confidence, and Resilience.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Timestamps01:21 What is discipline?03:11 How to step away from punishment04:17 Put yourself inside their experience04:45 Children are normal in the way they present themselves05:20 Parents struggle to see their children neutrally 06:27 Our children invite us to grow ourselves up so that we can grow them up07:43 Central developmental realities08:43 Emergent phase 09:51 QTIP - Quit Taking It Personally12:00 Adaptive12:41 Adaptive = vulnerable 13:10   Point of connection creates context to parent14:30   Firm & kind14:45 The Parenting Mountain18:40   Working on ourselves19:30   Connection21:23 Toddlers who bite21:55 Flag drop23:45 Do we need to deal with the problem immediately?28:45 Techniques 29:05 We cannot control a child who has lost control of themselves31:05 Give in & come alongside 32:25 Children are human beings33:20 Do children understand their emotions?36:14   What do parents do with themselves?36:51 We have to be self full in order to be selfless 39:45 Self care is not about going and getting a massage40:50   Psychological distance42:26 We were never meant to go this alone44:30 Take home message - The bottom line is relationshipDr. Vanessa LaPointe Dr. Vanessa LaPointe is a mom, registered psychologist, parenting educator, best-selling author, international speaker, and a regularly invited media guest. Founder and director of The Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic, she has been supporting families and children for almost 20 years, and has previous experience in community mental health and the school system.Dr. Vanessa is known for bringing a sense of nurturing understanding and humanity to all of her work. Her passion is in walking alongside parents, teachers, care providers, and other big people to really see the world through the child’s eyes. She believes that if we can do this, we are beautifully positioned to grow up our children in the best possible way.Discipline without Damage When your child is threatening a meltdown in the grocery aisle, is it really possible to keep your cool, correct the behaviour, and reinforce healthy development, all at the same time? In this easy-to-read, science-based book, parents, caregivers, and big people of all kinds will discover how discipline affects children’s development, why intervention should reinforce connection, not separation, and why the disciplinary strategies that may have been used on us as children are not the ones that children really need.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Timestamps01:00 What is  un conscious parenting , and why doesn't it work? 02.00 What is  conscious  parenting? 04:10 How do we practice conscious parenting in the  heat of the moment ? 05:10 The  parenting fantasy  & our misguided expectations09:14 When  expectation and experience  don't meet10:50 Feeling  helpless  as a parent12:57 Why we " chase our children out of childhood  and hurtle them to adulthood"17:25 What do we do about our innate desire to  control  our children? 24:30 Our children's choices are  not about us25:40 Defining  mindful parenting28:30 "How do I make sure my son becomes a pilot?"30:50 What can a parent do to  manage the expectations  they have for their child? 33:50 Holding our expectations  loosely36:25 Start with the  present38:00 The myth of being  behind the curve40:50 How do we  redefine "success"  and happiness?44:10 How do I  not follow the tide ?  48:12 "May you be blessed with a child who..."May you be blessed with a child who defies you, so you may learn to release control.Who doesn't listen, so you may learn to tune in.Who loves to procrastinate, so you learn beauty of stillness.Who forgets things, so you learn to let go of attachments.Who is extra-sensitive, so you learn to be grounded.Who is inattentive, so you learn to be focused.Who dares to rebel, so you learn to think outside the box.Who feels afraid, so you learn to trust the Universe.May you be blessed with a child who teaches you it is never about them, and all about you.Dr Shefali TsabaryDr. Shefali received her doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia University. Specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, she brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family.Learn more at  drshefali.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Timestamps02:06 Emotional flooding02:36 Emotions are contagious03:10 Mirror Neurons05:44 High emotions = low intelligence08:30 “Our job is to keep our emotions low so that our intelligence is high”14:00 Toddlers & preschoolers15:32 Emotional & behavioural regulation16:57 H.A.L.T.S18:17 Fear19:02 Learned behaviour19:57 Language development22:06 Theory of mind22:53 The false belief task26:59 A better way to respond28:08 Fit your own mask before helping others30:00 Soft eyes32:02 Compassion32:55 Emotional flooding33:30 Connect before you correct33:50 Name it to tame it32:17 Be their safe space34:35 Problem solve together34:48 Respond to the need, not the behaviour37:22 Name the emotion & ask how you can helpDr Justin Coulson is one of Australia’s leading parenting and family experts and the founder of Happy Families. As host and keynote speaker, Dr Justin will be tackling the key issue of the Summit head-on: how to help our little people deal with their big feelings. 10 Things Every Parent Needs to KnowWouldn’t it be great if parents really only needed to know 10 Things to raise children successfully?When they’re babies, it’s usually pretty simple. Feed them. Change them. Put them to sleep.Then they start growing. Fast. They talk. They get moody. They have “needs”. They get siblings and start fighting, biting, pinching, punching, scratching, and more. They start school and come home with nasty words, threats that “you’re not my best friend anymore”, and all-too-often, even more challenging behaviour.Even when they’re a dream, we still worry about how we can give them the best start in life.In  10 Things Every Parent Needs to Know , parenting expert Dr Justin Coulson shares the ten key things every parent needs to know in order to raise their children in positive ways. They are also simple solutions to make parenting easier – so you don’t have to keep ‘making it up as you go’.Drawing on positive psychology, the book gives simple and effective strategies for the key issues parents of 2-12 year olds confront in everyday family life. Justin shares his secrets of effective attention, communication and understanding; how to discipline effectively and set limits; and how to manage hot-button issues such as sibling conflict, chores, school and screens – yet still have fun as a family.For parents of children 2-12 years, and beyond.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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