In this world, there is so much more than meets the eye. Things may appear to be one way, when in fact they are completely the opposite. Nothing should be taken at face value. Hashem is very deep, the Torah is very deep, and we are charged to use all our wisdom to see through the surface and try to understand on deeper levels. In this week's parashah Ki Tetzeh , the Torah teaches us about the mitzvah of shiluach hakan — sending away the mother bird before taking the eggs. The Torah promises a reward: lema'an yitav lach veha'arachta yamim — "that it will be good for you and you will have long life." Yet the Gemara tells of a boy who listened to his father — a mitzvah that also promises long life — and went to perform shiluach hakan . Tragically, he fell off the ladder and died. Where was the long life that the Torah promised? Our rabbis teach that "long life" in these pesukim is not to be taken at face value. It refers to life in the World to Come. One day, Hashem will send the Mashiach to redeem us. At that time, techiyat hametim will begin. The righteous who passed away throughout the generations will come back to life to enjoy the world of Mashiach. This resurrection will take place over many years, and those who rise earlier will live longer lives in that future time. Beyond that, Hashem will create a new world — Olam Haba — where the pleasure will be eternal and unlimited. That is the true world that is kulo aruch — everlasting — and there the rewards for mitzvot will be paid in full. Every experience we encounter in this world can be viewed from different perspectives. We must train ourselves to view everything with an emunah perspective, trusting that Hashem is always doing the greatest kindness for us. A man from Bnei Brak told how his widowed aunt called him late one Friday afternoon. All her power had gone out. No lights, no hot plate, no air conditioning. She begged him to come quickly. After asking a few questions, he figured it was a blown fuse, but she had no idea where to find the fuse box. He told her he would be right over. He thanked Hashem that his family had the habit of being ready early for Shabbat. Since everything was prepared, he had time to leave and help. By then there were no taxis available, so he grabbed one of his children's bicycles and pedaled as fast as he could through the intense summer heat of Bnei Brak. He fixed the fuse, and all the electricity came back on. By the time he got home, there was no time to shower, though he was dripping in sweat. Shul was starting, so he went directly as he was. Entering Shabbat that way was unpleasant, but he accepted it as Hashem's will. Towards the end of that Shabbat, during seudah shelishit , the power in his own home suddenly went out. After Shabbat, he checked the panel and saw that water had seeped in and damaged the main fuse — the one controlling the oven, stove, fridge, and air conditioning. At that moment, he could have asked: "Where is the justice? I went out of my way to help a poor widow with her fuse box, and then my fuse box gets ruined?" But instead, he used his emunah perspective. He said: "Hashem, You are so kind. Really, this Shabbat we were meant to sit in the dark with no food and no air conditioning. But in Your mercy, You gave me the chance first to do a big chesed for someone else, and in that merit, You delayed our blackout until the very end of Shabbat." Everything that happens to us is chesed Hashem . It may not always seem that way, but with emunah , we can always view it that way. Shabbat Shalom.
We've said it before and we'll say it again. People sometimes ask why we share so many stories with happy endings and miraculous yeshu'ot. "It's not real life," they argue. "So many stories don't end with that glamorous ending. Why only highlight the miraculous?" Some even feel disheartened that others are receiving salvations while they themselves are still waiting. It is true — not every story ends the way we want. But every story does end the exact way it is supposed to. Knowing that HaShem is the One in charge of all outcomes should give us chizuk. Everything is always going according to plan. Nothing ever happens haphazardly. And when we do see HaShem's wondrous hand in someone else's story, it strengthens our emunah that He is running the world. Furthermore, one of the questions a person will be asked after 120 is: "Did you anticipate My salvation?" The simple meaning is whether we anticipated the coming of Mashiaḥ. But the Bet HaLevi explains there is also a personal dimension: did we anticipate HaShem's salvation in our own struggles? When a person sees story after story of HaShem bringing yeshu'ot in extraordinary ways, it should strengthen him to believe that he too can be helped. It should give him hope, and motivate him to pray harder, realizing that salvation is a reality. Believing in HaShem's abilities and control is a great avodah. It is incumbent upon us to do whatever we can to strengthen that belief. Hearing real-life stories of others who experienced salvation is one of the best ways to build that hope. And even if we don't receive the miraculous yeshu'ah we were hoping for, knowing that HaShem is with us every step of the way can itself give us tremendous chizuk. A man related that he woke up in the middle of the night, consumed with worry over his financial situation. Unable to sleep, he went downstairs to think. His wife runs a small daycare center, but the government had canceled the subsidies for the families who sent their children there. Most parents couldn't afford the full tuition, meaning she would lose a significant amount of income that year. On top of that, his father-in-law, who had been paying their mortgage until then, had fallen into debt and could no longer help. The pressure was crushing. Sitting at the kitchen table in the early hours of the morning, he noticed a Hashgachah Peratit pamphlet that had arrived four months earlier. He hadn't read it, but in that moment, desperate for chizuk, he opened it. The first story he read was about a man who owed 20,000 shekels to the electric company and how HaShem helped him pay it. That was the exact amount he himself owed. The story gave him such encouragement — if HaShem could help that man, He could surely help him too. The second story he read was about a sofer. He himself was a sofer by profession, and that too gave him strength. Then he came across a third story that stunned him. It was about a man whose father-in-law fell into debt and could no longer support him — and how HaShem had helped him through it. At that point, nothing in his bank account had changed. The bills were all still waiting. But suddenly, he felt as though a heavy stone had been lifted from his chest. In just half an hour of reading, he became a new person. His family didn't know it yet, but they had just received a different husband and father — happy, smiling, and unburdened. HaShem had given him exactly the chizuk he needed. Stories of hashgachah and yeshu'ot are not just inspiring — they are powerful tools to strengthen our emunah. They remind us that HaShem is always involved, that He can help us in an instant, and that even if the yeshu'ah doesn't come right away, it is without question for the best.
In the secular world, there's a saying: "Nice guys finish last." It means that in a competitive society, those who are kind, generous, and honest get taken advantage of, while the shrewd and aggressive people come out on top. But we do not live in a competitive world. We live in HaShem's world. And in His world, the "nice guys" finish first. We may not see how right away, but without a doubt, every act of kindness, every ounce of integrity, every moment of self-restraint is noticed, cherished, and rewarded by HaShem. A businessman once shared that he lost out on a very big deal because he refused to use dishonest tactics that were considered "standard practice" in his industry. His competitors laughed at him, saying, "See? Nice guys finish last." But years later, those very same competitors went bankrupt, tangled in endless lawsuits over their shady dealings. He, on the other hand, was blessed with steady success, peace of mind, and the respect of all who dealt with him. Looking back, he said: "The minute I walked away from dishonesty, I didn't lose a deal. I gained HaShem's partnership." HaShem's accounting is not like ours. Sometimes it looks like we're losing, but in truth we are setting ourselves up for blessings far greater than what we could have ever imagined. If someone chooses to be the "nice guy" — if he holds back his anger, forgives, lets another person go first, or does the right thing even though it costs him money — he becomes more beloved to HaShem and will surely gain from that. And HaShem's dividends in this world are not always in money. They can come as health, family harmony, or yeshu'ot in ways we could never anticipate. A man once told me he was listening to a class about someone who forgave a person who had wronged him — and immediately after, a relative of his was healed from a long illness. This listener thought of his own father, who was in the hospital and in desperate need of a yeshu'ah. He himself had been wronged and lost a tremendous amount of money, and he carried that resentment for many years. But in that moment, inspired by the story, he decided to let go. He picked up the phone, called the man who had wronged him, and made peace. He said it was one of the hardest things he ever did — but just a half hour later, his father woke up! Another man told me that a tenant of his left something valuable behind in the apartment he had rented. The next tenants found it, but when the previous tenants came to pick it up, they couldn't locate it — it seemed to have gone missing. The previous tenant told the landlord, "That's considered negligence, and they (the new tenants) should compensate me." Wanting to avoid machloket, the landlord called the current tenant and said he would personally pay the previous tenant and tell him it was from him. The current tenant replied, "No — I want to pay," and they actually went back and forth over who would have the zechut to pay in order to avoid machloket. Minutes later, someone called to say they had accidentally taken the item from the house and were already on their way to bring it back. The landlord said, "In the zechut of us trying to go over and above to avoid machloket, HaShem brought the item back." Another story: A man used to buy cars at auctions and resell them. Once, at an auction, there was an incredible deal. His friend and competitor was there too. Out of generosity, he offered the deal to his competitor. The competitor declined and insisted that he should take it. He bought the car, sold it for a major profit — and then, amazingly, the buyer sold it back to him at a lower price. He resold it again for an even larger profit. He said: "There was so much blessing in that car because I offered it to my competitor first." It is not always this obvious. In this world, it might look like the aggressive person wins. But such victories are fleeting. Wealth, power, and influence can vanish in an instant. What lasts forever are mitzvot, acts of kindness, and the emunah we show in HaShem. In HaShem's world, the "nice guys" don't just finish first — they never finish at all. Their reward lives on forever.
When a person faces a challenge — whether in health, parnasah, shidduchim, or family — of course tefillah is the first response. But sometimes, along with tefillah , a person needs additional zechuyot to open the gates of blessing. After all, the purpose of life is to reach our spiritual potential, and many times it is precisely life's challenges that bring us there. A man we'll call Avraham related that his business was extremely demanding. He was on the phone all day and constantly traveling. Slowly, he stopped praying daily with a minyan . At first, it was only Mincha that he prayed alone. Then it became Arbit as well. Finally, even Shaharit he was praying by himself. In the beginning he felt bad about it, but then he got used to it, and it became his new way of life. One day he closed on a huge business deal. He purchased an office building and paid for it with a mortgage-like loan. His plan was to rent out the offices, cover the mortgage from the rent, and keep the rest as profit. However, he was only able to rent out a few offices. Most of the building remained vacant, and the mortgage payments began draining his personal account. He was losing money every month and sinking into financial trouble. He prayed hard for Hashem's help, but no one responded to any of the advertisements he placed. Around this time, he met a friend who could see the pressure he was under. After hearing all the details, the friend told him he had an idea. He said: "In the sefer Ma'or VaShemesh there is a promise that whoever prays three times a day with a minyan will merit bountiful parnasah . Strengthen yourself in this area, and you will see a yeshu'ah ." Avraham replied that this was not simple for him. His schedule was already set, and it would be extremely difficult to change it around. He did try, but even with the knowledge that it would bring parnasah , he was unable to maintain it. Several months passed, and one summer day in July his friend reminded him that the yahrzeit of the Ma'or VaShemesh was approaching, and asked if he wanted to join him on a trip to Krakow to visit the kever . Avraham needed a salvation badly, so he agreed. He knew his friend would try to convince him to commit to praying with a minyan on the trip — and that's exactly what happened. Throughout the journey, his friend spoke only about this. At the end he told Avraham: "The parnasah will just be a side bonus. The real gain will be the serenity of tefillah , the connection with Hashem, and the constant reminder of your purpose in this world." By the time they arrived, Avraham was convinced. At the kever of the tzaddik, he accepted upon himself to pray all three tefillot every day with a minyan . He also prayed with great intensity that Hashem bless him with abundant parnasah . What happened next was astonishing. Before Avraham even left the cemetery, he received a phone call from a representative of a major company in the country. They were interested in renting out every available office in his building — for the next ten years!. A contract was drawn up and signed soon thereafter.. Avraham had made the best investment of his life: three tefillot a day with minyan . The financial salvation that followed was only the bonus. The true reward was that he reconnected with Hashem and grew immensely in his spiritual life. That, indeed, was the greatest deal he ever made.
Every good deed and every effort we make is recognized and cherished by Hashem. Sometimes He even shows us this so clearly that we cannot miss it. A story began over a year ago with two single girls who undertook to learn a sefer on emunah every night together as a zechut to get engaged. They finished the book, but nothing seemed to change. Instead of giving up, they began the next volume. This time, on the fortieth day of their reading, one of the girls started dating the boy who would eventually become her husband. On the very day they became engaged, the title of the lesson they were up to in the emunah book was "Yirmiyahu's Blessing." Amazingly, her c hatan's name was Yirmiyahu. They continued their nightly emunah learning even after the first girl was married. Recently, a year later, the second girl also got engaged. Incredibly, the night before her engagement, the lesson they learned mentioned a shul by name — "Yeshu'at Yaakov." The very next day she got engaged to a boy whose name was Yaakov Yeshu'a. Hashem made it so obvious to them that He valued their nightly learning. The salvation did not come immediately, but they persisted. Of course, the greatest gift they received was not only the engagement itself, but the emunah they gained through their dedication. Another story was told to me by a man named David. Last year, when it appeared that his father, Raymond, had only a few days to live, David wanted to bring him some joy. Since Raymond loved music, David arranged for a friend to bring an instrument to play for him. They could not find a singer, so the friend suggested playing recordings of Chazzan Moshe Dwek, whose voice matched beautifully with his instrument. Raymond enjoyed the music immensely. Sadly, he passed away a few days later. Afterward, someone pointed out an astonishing detail: years earlier, when Moshe Dwek himself was ill in the hospital, Raymond had been at his side, lifting his spirits and giving him c hizuk . Now, even after Moshe Dwek had passed away, Hashem arranged that his recordings would soothe Raymond in his final days — a beautiful circle of kindness repaid. There was also a man, Yehuda, who shared a remarkable story about someone in his community, whom we'll call Reuven. Reuven was in need of a yeshu'ah and was advised by a rabbi to make sure he always invited guests for Shabbat and Yom Tov meals. From that point on, he worked hard to ensure he always had guests. That year, just two days before Pesah, Yehuda received a call asking if he knew of anyone who could host new neighbors for the Seder. These neighbors were not religious and lived close by — if the host lived far, they might end up driving, which would be a tragedy on Yom Tov. Yehuda immediately thought of Reuven and called him. Reuven was thrilled — for the first time since he had started hosting, he had not been able to find guests. This was his chance. Even more remarkable, when Yehuda asked where he lived in relation to the new neighbors, Reuven answered that he was just two houses away. Hashem had arranged the perfect match: Reuven's desire to fulfill the mitzvah of hachnasat orchim was met by the need of the new neighbors. Every act, every mitzvah, every ounce of effort we put forth is treasured by Hashem. Sometimes He shows us directly just how much He values it — reminding us that nothing we do for Him ever goes unnoticed.
There are many situations in which people have great needs but the odds of them getting what they need are extraordinarily low. The natural feelings in those situations would be to despair of getting help. It could be a doctor giving a patient a negative report, it could be a specialist telling a couple they most probably will never have children, it could be a financial analyst telling a person his business will never succeed, and the list goes on. What is the proper attitude a person is supposed to have when facing those bleak scenarios? The pasuk says in parashat Shoftim , כי תצא למלחמה על אויבך וראית סוס ורכב עם רב ממך, לא תירא מהם . The pasuk there is speaking about the Jewish People going to fight a war and it says, if they saw a nation much larger and stronger than them charging towards them, they were not allowed to be afraid. And the pasuk concludes with the reason, כי ה' אלוקיך עמך, המעלך מארץ מצרים – because they had Hashem on their side. The same Hashem who obliterated the entire Egypt, the greatest superpower at the time. Rabbi Matityahu Solomon, zt"l, explained, a charging nation that is more numerous and powerful seems like it presents a major problem. According to the natural way of the world, it would appear that death was imminent. According to the statistics, the Jewish People would have no chance at beating the opposing army. For that the Torah tells them, winning wars has absolutely nothing to do with statistics or odds. It does not matter at all how strong the opposing nation is. The reason- because wars are decided by Hashem and only Hashem. And therefore, there is nothing to fear. Not only was there nothing to fear, the Torah even gave a negative commandment forbidding the people to fear. Rabbenu Yonah in the Shaareh Teshuva writes that although that command was speaking to the Jewish People at large regarding wars of mitzvah, it applies to every single individual whenever he is facing adversity. In the words of Rabbenu Yonah, והוזהרנו בזה שאם ירא אדם דצרה קרובה, תהיה ישועת ה' בלבבו ויבטח עליו . We are being told here that if a person ever sees that trouble is imminent, he should realize, Hashem is the only One in charge. He should feel the salvation of Hashem in his heart and rely on Him to produce it. This means, when the doctor says the odds of becoming healed are extremely slim, that is a calling on the patient to recognize he has Hashem and, to Hashem, odds don't matter. That reality should be so strong in a person's mind that it should enable him to overcome his natural fear and feel calm, knowing that he is completely in the hands of Hashem, the One who loves him so much and always does what is best for him. So it comes out that whenever a person is facing these types of situations, he should know, he has a mitzvah from the Torah to ignore the odds and feel confident in the salvation of Hashem. He should continue making the normal hishtadlut and he should pray to Hashem and know that to Hashem there is never such a thing as odds.
https://www.artscroll.com/ Books/lemynh.html Living Emunah on Yamim Noraim Gaining faith from the Days of Awe Sometimes it appears at face value that good people lose out and wicked people prosper. This is because Hashem hides Himself so well and does not let it be obvious that those who follow Him always win and those who don't always lose. Because if that would be obvious, we would lose our free will. Hashem's ways are beyond our comprehension. There's a story told which took place in the days of the Ibn Ezra. There were two people traveling and they sat down on the road to eat. One of them had three loaves of bread while the other had two. A third man was passing by and asked them if he could eat together with them, and he would pay for the meal. They sat together and ate all five loaves. Afterward, the third man paid the other two five gold coins. They then argued about how to divide the money. The man with the three loaves said he should get three coins while the other one should get two. The man with two loaves argued that the guest ate from both of them and they don't know who he ate more from so they should just split the money equally. They brought the question to the rabbi of the city and he ruled that the man who had three loaves gets four coins while the man with two loaves gets just one. When people heard the ruling they started mocking the rabbi and the Torah saying it made absolutely no sense. When the Ibn Ezra heard about the case, he bemoaned the fact that people have a hard time understanding the ruling of a human being made of flesh and blood, and yet they think they're capable of understanding the ways of Hashem. The Ibn Ezra explained the ruling simply to the people as follows: Each loaf can be divided into three parts so five loaves makes a total of 15 parts, which means most probably each person consumed five parts so the man who had two loaves had a total of six parts which means he ate five of his own and shared just one with the other men. The man with three loaves had nine parts; he ate five of his own and shared four with the other men. That is why he got four and the other person got one. We have a mitzvah to trust that what Hashem does is always just and upright and is the absolute best thing for us. The pasuk says תמים תהיה עם ה' אלוקיך , which Rashi explains to mean כל מה שיבא אליך קבל בתמימות - anything that happens to you accept wholeheartedly. Rabbi Menashe Reizman said he visited a talmid chacham who has the dreaded disease known as ALS, he can't even move one limb in his body. The only thing that he has is his wisdom, his ability to think and comprehend. This particular talmid chacham had the disease for over 20 years and he is as happy as ever. He learns Torah with chavrutot from morning until night. Rabbi Reizman compared him to Nachum Ish Gamzu, someone who lost his hands and his feet and his eyes yet always managed to say " Gam zu l'tovah." This man has even less, because Nachum Ish Gamzu at least was able to talk while this man cannot, yet his face seems to be shining from the joy he has in his life. The natural response from someone in this position would be bitterness and agony, but someone who knows he has a mitzvah of תמים תהיה , someone who knows that Hashem is always doing best for him can shine despite his very difficult life. There are many people in this world who have very hard lives and they can't possibly fathom how what they are going through could be good. Yet, if they could say, "I don't have the ability to comprehend the ways of Hashem, but I trust that what He is doing is best for me," they can soar to the greatest heights. The harder that is to do, the more valuable it becomes. One day Hashem will enlighten us to see the goodness in everything He ever did, but before that happens, we can elevate ourselves by believing it and trusting in Him.
https://www.artscroll.com/ Books/lemynh.html Living Emunah on Yamim Noraim Gaining faith from the Days of Awe The Rambam writes, the more a person learns about who Hashem is, the closer he gets to Him, and the more favor he finds in His eyes. There's a sefer called Tomer Devorah , which explains in detail the attributes of Hashem. Rav Chaim of Sanz said, to learn this sefer is a wondrous segula to be saved from all types of sicknesses and plagues. Simply the reason is because the way we act down here is the way that Hashem treats us from above. And when we learn about the ways of Hashem, and then emulate them, that opens the storehouses of blessing. One of the middot of Hashem is that He is חפץ חסד , He loves doing kindness. And that is something that we are supposed to emulate. The midrash in Bereshit Rabbah 33 tells of a very difficult famine which took place in the city of Rabbi Tanchuma. There had been a long drought, and the city residents requested the Rabbi to decree a fast day to stop the famine. The Rabbi agreed, and the entire city fasted, but it still didn't rain. Rabbi Tanchuma then decreed a second fast, but still no rain. After a third fast went by without results, Rabbi Tanchuma told the city residents to increase their acts of kindness. One day, someone saw a man giving money to his ex-wife, and being that according to halacha , a person is not allowed to have a relationship with his ex-wife, this person told Rabbi Tanchuma, suggesting that perhaps there was an aveira prolonging the drought. The Rabbi summoned the man to ask him why he was giving her money. The man replied, "I saw her in such distress without any money and no one helping her, so I decided to help." At that moment, Rabbi Tanchuma lifted his face towards heaven and said, "Hashem, this man who has no obligation whatsoever to feed this poor woman, yet he had mercy on her and did it anyway. You, who are our loving Father, who is filled with compassion and mercy, please feed your loving children." Immediately, the skies opened up and it began to pour. We see from here that a simple man, with one pure act of chesed , could accomplish more than three fast days by an entire community. This is the value of having compassion on others and helping them. The Yerushalmi in Masechet Ta'anit tells the story of another occasion in which there was a severe drought in Israel. It was told to some Chachamim in a dream that if a certain donkey driver would pray for rain, then the blessing would pour down. The Chachamim called over this man and asked him what he did for a living. He replied that he transports merchandise on his donkey for people. Then they asked him if there was something special that he did recently. He said that a woman came crying to him, asking to rent his donkey. He asked her why she was crying. She said her husband was taken to prison by the Romans for not paying certain taxes they were requesting. They would not release him until they got the money. So she thought maybe she could rent a donkey and use it to make money with. The man had compassion on her. He sold the donkey and gave her the money to redeem her husband. The Rabbis asked this man to pray for the community to have rain and Hashem immediately answered his tefila . When we emulate Hashem and have compassion on His children, it opens up the gates of blessing and mercy.
One of the main jobs of a person in this world is to see through the facade of nature and recognize Hashem's absolute control over everything. It is not the food that we eat that keeps us alive. But rather, as the pasuk says, כי על מוצא פי ה' יחיה האדם - we live because Hashem says so. It is not the clothing that we wear which keeps us warm. It is Hashem who keeps us warm. Although if we go outside without a jacket, we're cold and if we go out with a jacket, we are warm, we must believe it's not the jacket that provides the warmth, it's the word of Hashem. But He makes it appear that it's the jacket in order to balance our free will. The more a person recognizes this with everything in life, the stronger his bitachon will be. And when someone truly believes this deep in his heart, it's a tremendous zechut and could bring about wondrous salvations. In any area that a person needs help in, one of the greatest ways to get it is to believe that it's completely in the hands of Hashem and the hishtadlut he is going to make is just a camouflage. The Mabit writes, one of the purposes of prayer is to ingrain in us the realization that it is Hashem Who is providing everything we are asking for. Therefore, the more things we ask for help with, the more it shows we recognize that we need Hashem's help for them. Rabbi Avigdor Miller writes in his sefer Or Olam , when we say the words רפאינו ה' ונרפא , we are supposed to think, we need You to heal us, Hashem, because there's no other way to be healed – it's רפאינו ה' ונרפא – You heal us and then we will be healed, and that's it. When we involve ourselves in hishtadlut to become healed, like going to a doctor or taking medication, it's very easy to forget that it's really Hashem doing it. And that is why the Shulchan Aruch writes, there is a special Yehi ratzon we are supposed to say before taking medication to remind us at the time we need it most that it is really Hashem who is going to heal us. Yes, we must do hishtadlut to be healthy, which includes eating right and taking care of ourselves, as well as controlling our inclinations of getting angry or being jealous, because in the natural way of the world, those things cause the body to get sick. But throughout our hishtadlut , we must remind ourselves, we will only be healthy if Hashem says so. One of the many reasons why a person may need to get sick is because the person is losing his connection with Hashem. The Or Olam gives a mashal of a father who sends his son, who lives abroad, money every month. As time goes on, the son forgets to thank his father, and so one month the father doesn't send the money. Immediately, the son calls his father asking him where the money is. The father says, "Why don't you call me when I'm sending you money? Why do you only call me when you don't get it?" Hashem wants us to have a relationship with Him for our own good. When our relationship is strong, we don't need to be reminded about it. That is why we say, הושיענו ונוושע , that refers to preventing us from getting sick in the first place. We tell Hashem, "We know You are the One who keeps us healthy and we appreciate it," and therefore there's no reason for us to get sick. When someone is close to Hashem when he has it all, that is the greatest segula to keep what he has. When the wealthy man asks for parnasa from Hashem with sincerity, that shows he knows he has nothing without Him, and he needs Hashem constantly. That is such a beautiful avodah . We need Hashem for everything, and we have nothing without Him. We need to remind ourselves again and again of this idea. If we pray properly with kavana, recognizing that we need Hashem for each thing we're asking for, then each time we pray, we'll be growing in emunah, and we'll become true ba'aleh emunah and bitachon , seeing through the natural way of the world, and recognizing that everything is from Hashem.
Before every Rosh Chodesh, the moon completely disappears from our view for 24 hours. And then right afterward, on Rosh Chodesh, there's a rebirth of the new moon. And then each day, we see more and more of the moon. And we make a beracha called ברכת הלבנה , or otherwise known as Kiddush Levana. The Gemara says, when the amoraim used to make this beracha on the moon, they would dance afterward. The Rema writes, people should dance after saying it, just like they do at a wedding. What is so special about this beracha more than any other that it should get such a response? The Arugat HaBosem explains, based on the Gemara, that initially the moon complained to Hashem that it and the sun were both equals. The moon wanted to have a unique job and serve Hashem a different way. For that, the moon was diminished. Everybody is given the exact job that they need to do to be successful in this world. We are supposed to do our job with joy. Usually, a person's lack of satisfaction from his job comes from jealousy. He sees others with more than him and feels that if he had what they had, he would be a better Jew. The tikun that the moon needed to make was to be happy with whatever job Hashem would give it. And every day, Hashem gives it a different job. For 29 days out of the month, it appears differently each day until the last day. Then Hashem tells the moon that He wants a service done from it in complete darkness. Sometimes, people are asked to do similar jobs. They feel like they are completely in the dark. Nothing ever goes their way. Their prayers don't seem to be getting answered. They have a hard time wanting to serve Hashem. What they don't realize is that during those times, they can shine the brightest. Because when there is complete darkness, even the smallest amount of light makes a huge impact. Every avoda they do at that time is worth infinitely greater because of the difficulty involved. When we say Birkat HaLevana, we acknowledge that the moon made Teshuvah. We say חוק וזמן נתן להם שלא ישנו את תפקידם . The moon never deviates from the job that Hashem wants it to do. ששים ושמחים לעשות רצון קוניהם -Not only that, but the moon does its job with joy and satisfaction. We are supposed to take this lesson from the moon and do our jobs happily. This is one reason why there is a minhag to dance with joy when we say Birkat HaLevanah. We are saying that we are also going to do our jobs happily, and we dance to show it. When a person thinks to himself thoughts such as, "If only I were married, I would be such a better Jew"; or "If only I had children"..or "If only I had more parnasa…" or if only I had better health...then I would be the person I am capable of becoming." He should then tell himself, "at this moment, Hashem wants me to serve Him to the best of my ability the way He made the situation. For today He wants me to serve Him without a spouse or without children or without Parnasa or without good health." If the person can give himself chizuk and serve Hashem from where he is with joy, he would become so great. Yes, we can pray for things to change going forward. But until they do, our job is to serve Hashem the way He wants us to. And if we can do it happily, we can reach the highest levels. During this month called Elul- Rachamim, a month of mercy, we can work on this and b'ezrat Hashem, that will be a tremendous zechut for us for the upcoming year.
The Pasuk says in Parashat Re'eh: "וברכך ה' אלוקיך בכל אשר תעשה"-Hashem your G-d will bless you in everything you do. Our Rabbis learn from here our obligation to put in our Hishtadlut, our effort, to accomplish what we want. Along with this obligation comes a very big test that everyone faces on a daily basis- to be able to put in the effort, yet realize the whole time that Hashem is really the One getting everything done. Hashem wants the world to run בדרך הטבע , through nature, so in order to camouflage His presence, He makes it look like we are the ones accomplishing. But in truth, it is all Hashem. The Mesilat Yesharim calls our Hishtadlut a tax to pay. Once we have fulfilled the quota, Hashem sends His blessing down. Shlomo Hamelech summed it up in a Pasuk in Mishle: "סוס מוכן ליום מלחמה" We have to get the horse ready to go out and fight in battle. An army cannot go out to war expecting a miracle. Rabbenu Bachya says that if they do, they will lose. They have to make all of the necessary preparations to fight. But the Pasuk concludes: "לה' התשועה" The victory of the war is entirely in the hands of Hashem. The'בוטח בה- one who trusts in Hashem, knows that once he puts in his effort he can feel comfortable with the knowledge that he did his part. Then, whatever happens is the will of Hashem for his best. A person should never feel that his efforts were wasted , even if he didn't see his desired results. For example, a man worked on a sale for six weeks, and then it all fell through. His time was not wasted, he paid six weeks' worth of tax, and that opened the pipeline for Hashem to send blessing when He sees fit. If a person went to three doctors and didn't yet come up with a solution for his health issue, he didn't waste his time. He did his Hishtadlut, he paid his tax, and now he should feel great knowing that he did his part. If there is ever a situation where a reasonable Hishtadlut is not possible, then the person becomes exempt from Hishtadlut, and he can totally rely on Hashem. For example, if a person had an ailment, and tried one method to cure it, yet it didn't work, and then tried another, and a third, and still no results, and the doctors say that there is nothing else to try. At that moment, the person becomes exempt from Hishtadlut, and he can totally rely on Hashem for a cure. Rabbi Yechezkel Abramsky, זכר צדיק לברכה, used to tell over the following story which happened to him. He was taken to Siberia against his will along with a group of people. They were told to remove their shoes, their jackets and their shirts. They had to walk on snow and ice for miles. The Rabbi had a condition from a very young age that he was very sensitive to the cold, and he would frequently get sick from being exposed to even moderately cold temperatures. His mother, he recalls, used to send him to school in many layers of clothing to protect him. He still had this condition now, and he knew that many people had died in Siberia from being exposed to the frigid temperatures. On his first walk on the ice, he turned to Hashem and said, "The Gemara tells us: '-הכל בידי שמים חוץ מצינים ופחים"Everything is in the hands of Heaven except for cold and hot," which means that if a person goes outside in the winter without a jacket and gets sick, he brought that upon himself. Hashem commanded us to guard our health; we are not allowed to act recklessly. The Rabbi continued. "When I had extra layers and jackets I put them on to protect myself. But now, I don't have that ability, so I am exempt from that obligation. All that is left is the בידי שמים part. Now Hashem, it is only in Your hands. Please, save me from getting cold here." The Rabbi testified, that for over a year and a half in Siberia, he never felt cold even once. It is not the clothing that warms us up, it is Hashem. When we have the ability to help ourselves, we are obligated to. But when there is nothing for us to do, we can totally rely on Hashem. Those who are able to see through nature and recognize that everything is really Hashem, will not only pass this very big test, but they will reap the rewards both in this world and in the next.
People who go through periods of difficulty in their lives hope and pray every day for those difficulties to end. They imagine how great it would be to get the salvation they are so eagerly anticipating and they can’t wait for that day to come. It does happen sometimes that instead of getting a salvation another major difficulty arises. The person may then think to himself, it is bad enough I have one difficulty, now I have to deal with another? But if the person would look at this from a different perspective, perhaps it would be able to change their situation for the better. The person should think, maybe by overcoming this new difficulty, it’ll give me the zechut I need to get the salvation for the first one. Maybe this is Hashem’s way of helping me get my salvation that I want so badly. So instead of fighting the circumstance, the person should view it as a calling to elevate himself, an opportunity to overcome with emunah and get the zechuyot that he needs. A rabbi told me, when he started out as the rabbi of a shul some 40 years ago, he got a strange request from a new congregant. The man said he was in need of $2000 and had no way of obtaining it and it was critical that he get it right away. The rabbi asked him what he needed the money for. The man said he just discovered his wife was expecting and they did not want to continue on with the pregnancy. They were not ready for children and they surely couldn’t afford the expenses that came along with them. The rabbi said, “At least let us find another family to raise the child.” The man said the cost to go through with it was at least $10,000, which he definitely didn’t have. Forty years ago, $10,000 was an extremely high number. The rabbi himself had no idea where he would get that kind of money from, but he told the man, heroically, “If you want the $2000, I’m not the man to help you, but if you want the $10,000, I’ll get it for you.” The man discussed it with his wife and they agreed. The rabbi went searching for a donor for this money. He found a man learning in kollel for eighteen years who was still not blessed with children. He told him, if he paid for the expenses, this child would be his. Although this kollel man and his wife did not really have $10,000, they agreed to pay $1000 a month for the next 10 months. Finally, the day of the delivery came and a beautiful, healthy baby was born. The mother who delivered the baby said she wanted to keep her child. She and her husband told the rabbi, the deal was off. They also said they could not afford to pay back that $10,000. The rabbi did not know what to answer them. He tried convincing them that they couldn’t really back out at this point, but they wouldn’t hear of it. What would the rabbi tell the kollel man and his wife, who sacrificed, paying $10,000 and gave so much anticipating finally having their own baby? He prayed to Hashem for the right words and he went there and broke the news to them. He then said, “In Shamayim , this baby is considered yours. You will get all the credit for bringing the baby into the world.” He also told them, the zechut of accepting the ratzon Hashem is enormous. He then encouraged them to take in a foster child from the organization called Ohel as an additional zechut . Although this news was devastating to that couple. They listened to the rabbi and, amazingly, four months after that, after nineteen long years of marriage, this couple received the wonderful news that they were expecting. Baruch Hashem, later that year they welcomed twins into the world. What seemed like a devastating blow was actually their opportunity to lift themselves up and earn endless zechuyot and, eventually, get that salvation they were always hoping for. Everything that happens is for our best, even what appears to be something way too hard to handle.
Hashem tests us all the time. There is no light flashing the words “TEST” when they come. And as a matter of fact, Hashem makes them appear to come so naturally so that it doesn't even seem to us like Hashem sent them. Hashem is able to make it look like a person is a victim of circumstance or a victim of other people’s free will. In reality, however, it is always a set-up just to give this person the opportunity to elevate himself by overcoming it. The difficulty of these tests is that by listening to the evil inclination, the person gets immediate gratification, whereas if he does what is right, he has to give up the instant gratification and wait until later to be paid for his sacrifice. That’s all an illusion. When a person takes forbidden pleasure, he will eventually lose it at another time. Yet, when a person holds back from doing what is wrong, he will definitely be paid for all eternity, and sometimes Hashem will give him a bonus in this world as well. A man told that his friend who works as an air conditioner installer and repairman once received an urgent phone call to repair an air conditioner. It was late at night and he couldn’t see so well and he accidentally mixed up some cables and caused the compressor to blow. That would be a major expense to fix. His initial reaction was to just tell the homeowner that he needed a new compressor. Nobody would ever know that he was the cause of the problem. But then he strengthened himself and instead told the homeowner the truth and apologized for his blunder. He told him he would get a new compressor and have it installed the next day. After he left that house, he spoke to his partner and told him what happened. The partner said just a few minutes before someone told him he had a spare air conditioner engine sitting dismantled on his window and asked if he had any need for it. When this man heard that, he immediately went to pick it up and then went back and installed it on the spot. Less than an hour later, the man’s air conditioner was working perfectly, and he didn’t have to pay anything out of pocket to fix it. It was so clear to him at that point that the entire episode was just a test for him. He passed the test and then Hashem gave him the compressor for free. Another man said he was sitting one night in his home trying to figure out all the debts that he had coming due. He owed a lot of money to various places and did not have close to enough to cover it. He remembered that a friend of his owed him a large sum of money and the due date for that debt had long passed. Perhaps Hashem set it up that way so that he could get the money now and pay everything he owed. He called his friend and had a pleasant conversation with him. Then he reminded him of the debt and said he really needed the money now, and hoped he could pay right away. The friend, in no uncertain terms, let him know that he had no intention of paying at that time. The conversation ended uncomfortably. How could his friend act this way, he thought. In his time of need he was there for him and now, when he was in need, he was turning his back on him? The more he thought about it, the angrier he became. But then he decided to take the emunah approach instead. He said to himself, Hashem runs the world. It is not a coincidence that his friend owed him this money that he needed so badly and was refusing to pay it. If Hashem wanted him to have the money, he thought, He could easily give it to him from another source or make this friend have a change of heart and pay him. He made a determined decision, he would not bear a grudge against his friend. He would still be his friend, just like before. That night, when he prayed Arbit, he asked Hashem to help him not have any negative feelings towards this friend and to help him pay back all of his debts. Later on the same night, the friend called him back saying he was bringing the money over right away. It was an amazing turn of events. It didn’t make sense, but it didn’t have to. Hashem tested him and he passed, and afterward Hashem sent him the money. We don’t always see immediate benefits for overcoming our tests; that’s also part of the test. We must always remember, everything that happens is planned by Hashem and if we respond the way He wants us to, we will be rewarded for all eternity.
There are various segulot found in Chazal , some which promise wealth, some marriage, some children. If a person follows exactly what he was told to do but does not see the outcome that he was told he would get, it could severely damage that person’s emunah. The same applies when people go to rabbis for berachot and the rabbi tells them, If you do this, you will get married by this date, or you will have a child by this date. If it doesn’t happen, the person’s emunat chachamim gets damaged. The Gemara tells us that even a Tanna , Elisha ben Avuya went off the derech because his emunah in the Torah became shattered when what he saw didn’t seem to match up with what it said. The Torah says for doing the mitzvah of kibud av v’em one of the rewards is long life and the same applies to the mitzvah of shiluach haken . Elisha once saw a boy who was told by his father to climb a tree and sent away the mother bird, and he fell and died. He did both mitzvot that promised long life and he died young. This caused Elisha to go off the path. The Gemara says, if he would have understood the pasuk properly, he would not have gone astray. The reward referred to in those mitzvot of long life is speaking about life in the Next World. The Rambam wrote in a letter to his son that if he ever comes across a pasuk or a Chazal that he doesn’t understand, he should attribute the lack of understanding to his own shortcomings. He should leave the question on the side and, one day, he will get an answer. The Shulchan Aruch writes in siman 118 that washing netilat yadayim for bread with a lot of water is a segula which brings a person wealth. The Mishna Berura there writes, if somebody is careful to always wash with a lot of water but did not become wealthy as a result, it is because that person has other deeds which he did that are blocking the parnasa from coming. Washing with a lot of water does bring wealth, but that is assuming the person didn’t do an averah that blocks the wealth. The Mizmor L’Asaf writes, the same applies the other way. If a person did an averah whose negative effect is to lose parnasa , if he has certain merits, they can prevent the parnasa from being lost for the time being. The Gemara says, someone who prays the Amida at sunrise will not get damaged that day. The Mishna Berura says something similar about a person who is סומך גאולה לתפילה . Rav Chaim Kanievsky, zatzal , said the same applies to those guarantees. They are assuming the person did not do an averah that would require him to get damaged. If somebody followed a segula of Chazal and did not get the reward he was looking for, it is not because the segula didn’t work. Rather, it is because of other deeds that he did that he needs to make teshuva for first. And therefore, he should not lose faith in the promises of Chazal but improve his ways and continue doing the segulot . The Chatam Sofer in his Teshuvot in siman 158 writes, regarding the segula of being a sandak making a person wealthy, it is one hundred percent true. However, it is also possible that the person may have done sins which block that parnasa from coming. The same applies as well when a rabbi gives a beracha . The rabbi has power, but there could be other factors that are holding back the coming to fruition what the rabbi said. Every word in the Torah is emmet , every word of Chazal is emmet . We should never allow an experience to cause our emunah to waver even in the slightest bit. There is an answer to every question and if we don’t know it yet, we should leave the question on the side and continue doing our avodah knowing that one day we will get the answer and the answer will be so clear to us that we won’t even believe that we ever had the question in the first place.
The Gemara tells us, if a person sees that hardships have been coming his way, he should view it as a calling to improve his ways. Sometimes a person knows exactly what he needs to improve in but other times it is very hard to determine. A person is encouraged to ask Hashem to help him make the changes that need to be made. Hashem loves to help us, especially with our spiritual needs, we just need to want it enough and sincerely ask Him for His help. A rabbi related, one morning on his way to the yeshiva in which he taught, he realized he was very late. He was hoping someone would offer him a ride and, sure enough, a nice driver who saw him looking did indeed offer him a ride. Before they got to the block of the yeshiva, the rabbi asked to be let out. As he hurried to the yeshiva, he realized he forgot the bag that he had with him in the car. That bag had his most prized possession, a very large notebook with all of his own personal chiddushei Torah that he had written over the course of thirty years. It was irreplaceable, a lifetime of work with no other copy of it. There was nothing in that bag that had any identification on it. In the days that followed, the rabbi did various segulot for finding lost objects. He also hung signs and invested a lot of effort in trying to identify the driver of that car. Because he had gotten out of the car near stores, he asked the store owners to check their security cameras, perhaps they could see the license plate of that car, but none of them had a clear enough view. He continued praying and hoping for a yeshua . Then he started to do some self-introspection, thinking, maybe Hashem wanted him to improve in something. All of his tefilot from then on were concentrated towards asking Hashem to show him what he needed to rectify. Then, suddenly, it hit him. He recalled that he used to always visit his parents once a week and recently he had completely stopped. Maybe that was the mitzvah he needed to fix. He started to think further, the pasuk says, one should honor one’s parents so that it should be good for him. From the positive we can infer the negative, the lack of honor can cause something good to be lost, in this instance, his chiddushei Torah. That day, he went to visit his parents. They were so happy to see him and, when he left, he told himself, from then on, he would try to honor them and visit them at least as often as he used to. The very next day, his father called him, asking if he lost his notebook with his chiddushei Torah. “Yes!” the rabbi yelled with great jubilation. His father told him, the owner of the car where he left that notebook is accustomed to visiting his own father every day. When he gave him a ride that day, he was on his way to visit his father. When he discovered the bag left in his car, he tried to identify its owner, but there were no identification marks. He brought the notebook to his father and asked him for an idea how to reach the person who left it there. The father didn’t have any ideas and so, in the meantime, the notebook remained there in his house. One day, someone came to his father for a bikur cholim visit. The father showed his friend the notebook and asked him if he could figure out how to identify the owner. The guest leafed through the notebook until he discovered on one of the pages, in small letters, a family name. Because he knew the rabbi’s father, he brought it to his house. That is when his father called him to tell him the good news. How amazing it was! The notebook was retrieved by the rabbi in the very place he chose to improve upon, his parents’ home. Hashem enlightened him because he asked for help. Hashem is always available to help everybody, especially when it comes to our spiritual needs
The Torah is the beginning of parashat Ekev promises the most beautiful rewards to those who adhere to the mitzvot . Rashi writes there that the Torah is speaking about the mitzvot that people trample upon and don't give enough respect to. Every mitzvah is such a treasure and, unfortunately, sometimes we take them for granted and don't treat them with the respect that is befitting them. Recently, a student of mine told me that he had allocated money for tzedaka and asked me if I could recommend a few people to give to. I thought of a friend of mine who is a mashgiach in a yeshiva in Israel and has a very large family. I knew he needed the help. I called to tell him of the money he was going to receive and he said, very excitedly, "Baruch Hashem, there's more to this story," which he proceeded to share with me. He said, like many others he is struggling with parnasa and on Shabbat Parashat Ekev , he read a story about a man who was also struggling with parnasa and he took upon himself to say Birkat HaMazon with kavana and very quickly his fortunes changed. My friend said to himself after reading that story, he had not been treating Birkat HaMazon the way it should be treated. He generally looks to avoid eating hamotzi and prefers mezonot instead. He felt like that was an insult to Birkat HaMazon . So from that day forward, he accepted upon himself not only to have more kavana when saying it, but to make sure to eat bread for breakfast every single day and have the zechut to say Birkat HaMazon . His wife is an excellent school teacher, but hasn't been able to find a job for the last three years, partly because schools generally want teachers there by 8:00 am, but because he has to be in yeshiva early, she has to send the little children off to school and can't start work until 9:00. Eight days after his kabbala , his wife received a phone call from a school asking if she would be willing to be their 5 th grade teacher for this year. This was on September 1, just days before school was starting. She told them she would love to but she wouldn't be able to get there until 9:00. Because they needed her so badly, they accepted her anyway. And just like that, after three long years, she had a great job. A few days after that is when I called him and told him out of nowhere he was getting thousands of dollars. That's when he told me about his kabbala to say Birkat HaMazon with kavana and to stop trampling on it and give it the respect it deserves. He added that last week his wife went to a resume specialist to see if she could somehow improve hers. The specialist told her she did it all wrong and would never get a job with that resume. She didn't even get a chance to fix it yet and, with the poor resume, she still got that job. Our mitzvot are wondrous. The more respect we treat them with, the more blessing we get in return.
Chazal tell us that every person is obligated to say בשבילי נברא העולם – that the world was created for him. One explanation is that it was worth it for Hashem to create the entire world for each Jew to do his own personal avodat Hashem. Hashem values the service of each person so much. There is no one else in the world that can replace what Hashem wants from each and every Jew. When someone goes to shul to pray or to learn Torah or to do any other mitzvah, he should understand how vital his avodat Hashem really is. Another explanation of בשבילי נברא העולם is that every person should feel that everything in the world that Hashem created and constantly does is all just to benefit him. And that is supposed to invoke such a deep feeling of hakarat hatov towards Hashem. Hashem does everything for us down to the smallest details and when we see it clearly, it gives us so much chizuk. A woman said, after doing renovations there were a variety of construction related items in front of their home waiting for the bulk pick up. One of them was a partially used can of white paint. One day, her energetic young son discovered the paint and had a very good time with it. The worst part of the damage was that he spilled half the can over a large area in the street. The stark contrast of white paint haphazardly spilled over black asphalt was definitely an eye sore. She knew there was no feasible way to get rid of that paint and felt bad that all their neighbors would have this unpleasant sight on the street that they shared. They realized this was from the smaller problems in life but, nonetheless, it bothered them because they were the cause of something negative to their neighbors. Hashem, in His infinite kindness, helped them even with this relatively minor issue. A few days later, they received a notice from the municipality that they were going to pave their street. This was the first time their street got paved in forty years. When the designated day arrived, they were so delighted to see a newly paved street that was fresh, clean, and completely black. Yes, Hashem helps us even with the most minute details of life. We know He is with us at every moment. But when we see it so clearly, it is very heartwarming. Another woman said she has a child with special needs. She has many challenges with this child as he requires constant, round-the-clock care. One day, she was literally at the end of her rope when she reached out for support. She spoke to a woman and shared with this woman her dream that one day her five-year-old son would stand at his bar mitzvah and deliver a speech that everyone in the crowd would be impressed with. While this dream brought a smile to her face and light to her eyes, she expressed concern whether she was being realistic or not. The woman who she was speaking to told her, it was a very important dream, and she should hold onto that vision and keep it alive. Later that same day, a friend of hers called her. They don't see each other that frequently but she mentioned she was passing by the area and wanted to come by and say hello. This particular friend has a degree in Special Ed. And so, she shared with her some of the challenges she was going through with her son. She also mentioned that her son just began attending a new school. After hearing that, her friend shared something with her that blew her mind. She said she had a student several years ago with a very similar profile to her son. He attended this very same school and made tremendous progress. Years later, her friend attended this student's bar mitzvah in which he stood up and delivered a speech that impressed everyone in the crowd. The woman couldn't believe this incredible hashgacha . The very same day she expressed her dream, Hashem came and whispered to her that this dream could indeed be a reality and that gave her so much chizuk . Hashem does everything for us down to the smallest details. It is incumbent on us to feel this way and express our hakarat hatov all the time.
If a person had a very big problem to deal with and he was told that if he would accept what Hashem had given him with love, immediately that problem would disappear, he would have a very easy time accepting that problem. He would recognize the great benefit he is going to receive by responding with joy and it wouldn't even be a test for him. I read a story about a woman who worked to support her family, enabling her husband to learn Torah day and night. On one occasion, she had a month's worth of earnings in cash and put it in an envelope and asked her husband to deposit it in their bank account on the way to his kollel. That day there was a major rainstorm and on the way there the man slipped and fell. He quickly got up and continued on. When he finally arrived at the bank, he reached into his pocket to pull out the envelope, but to his dismay it wasn't there. His heart dropped. An entire month's worth of his wife's earnings and he had just lost it. He ran back to the place that he slipped to search for the envelope, but it was nowhere to be found. He was so broken over what had taken place and feared telling his wife about it. He knew his wife was an eshet chayil and would for sure accept it with emunah, but he still dreaded breaking that news to her. He worked up the courage to call her and told her what happened. She told him, "Don't worry, it could happen to anyone." She encouraged him to go learn with peace of mind and everything would be okay. After she hung up the phone, she knew her husband was going to have a rough day, thinking about what he did. She knew he was going to come home ashamed later that evening. She decided she was going to remove any distress from her heart and instead think about how to make him not feel bad. She planned a very fancy dinner that night with their nicest dishes and she was going to make every effort for them to accept what happened with joy. Her husband came home that night looking very ashamed, but he immediately saw the festive atmosphere and his expression quickly changed. They sat and ate together, giving each other chizuk in emunah and they accepted that this is what Hashem wanted for them and they did it with love. At the end of that meal, there was a knock at the door. It was a man returning the envelope with all the money intact. They were both overjoyed! The wife had gone that day to put up a sign in the place that her husband told her he had slipped. She had her name and number on it and the finder actually knew who they were and brought it straight back to their house. When a certain noted rabbi heard this story, he said, "It was the zechut of them accepting with love that brought them back the money." If we would know that accepting a problem takes away the problem, we would be so excited to accept it with love. Our great Rabbis have told us, when we accept our problems with love, we get something so much greater than that. Having our problem solved is a temporary worldly benefit. The Chofetz Chaim writes, when someone accepts with love what Hashem does to him, יתרומם עבור זה מדריגתו מאד מאד – his spiritual level soars to the greatest heights and לעתיד לבוא יהיה שולחנו שלם מכל טוב – in the Future World he will receive endless reward for it. That is a guarantee. It may also be true that problems in this world go away with the proper reaction, but for sure, one hundred percent, that reaction will earn a person the greatest rewards forever and ever.
Michael Cohen, who would later go on to found the well-known organization Mitzvah Man , once set a personal goal to do at least one act of chesed every single day. But one day—years before his organization ever existed—he found himself struggling to fulfill that mission. He drove around like a salesman searching for a client, only he was looking for a mitzvah. Maybe someone needed a ride. Maybe a pauper was waiting for tzedakah. Maybe someone just needed a helping hand. But nothing came his way. Still determined, he turned to Hashem and prayed: Please send me a mitzvah. I want to do something for You. Toward the end of the day, he passed a food pantry gemach and decided to walk in. "Is there anything I could do to help?" he asked. The person behind the desk looked relieved. "Actually, yes—perfect timing. We have a huge amount of garbage piled up in the back. Would you mind helping us get rid of it?" At first, Michael was taken aback. Garbage? he thought. After sincerely wanting to do a mitzvah, this was what he got? This was his big mission? But then he caught himself. If I'm a true eved Hashem, I should be happy to do whatever job Hashem gives me. I asked for a mitzvah, and this is what He sent. That means this is exactly what I'm supposed to do. He rolled up his sleeves and did the job with a full heart—because when a person serves Hashem with emunah, no act is beneath him. If Hashem sent it, it's a privilege. שויתי ה' לנגדי תמיד - The pasuk teaches that in every situation in life, even when something doesn't look glamorous or meaningful, we must remember: I'm standing before Hashem. This is the mission He's giving me right now. Real emunah means living with Hashem every moment. When we truly feel that everything in front of us was given to us by Hashem for a reason—whether it's giving a shiur or dragging garbage bags—it all becomes avodat Hashem , if done with the right mindset. Rav Yerucham Levovitz used to speak about the greatness of kavod Shamayim . He told the story of a man who cleaned the area in front of the Aron Kodesh with his own beard—just to give more honor to Hashem. What others might have seen as lowly or extreme, he saw as an exalted expression of love and reverence for the Melech Malchei HaMelachim, HaKadosh Baruch Hu . A Rosh Yeshiva once shared a story about a young boy in yeshivah who was not known for his brilliance, but was consistent, sincere, and always willing to help. One Erev Shabbat, while the rest of the boys were busy preparing for Shabbat, someone accidentally knocked over a large pot of soup in the kitchen. It spilled everywhere—steaming hot liquid all over the floor. Most of the boys quickly moved on, not wanting to get involved. But this one boy quietly got down on his hands and knees and started cleaning, without being asked. That Shabbat, the Rosh Yeshiva commented during his drashah: "Sometimes Hashem looks at how a person reacts in the quiet moments. You're not being tested on a big stage—just with a dirty floor. But your decision in that moment can lift you to greatness." We don't always know which moment or mitzvah will shape our future. Sometimes it's the most unexpected acts—the so-called small ones that we almost turn down—that open doors we never imagined. Maybe it was Michael Cohen's sincere willingness to take out garbage for the sake of kavod Shamayim that earned him the heavenly assistance to later build a world-renowned chesed organization. What matters most is that we're willing—to accept whatever mission Hashem puts in front of us, and to do it with joy. Because whether we're giving someone a ride, giving tzedakah, or just taking out the garbage—if we do it l'shem Shamayim , we become partners in Hashem's plan. May we all merit to embrace every opportunity Hashem gives us with emunah, humility, and joy. Be'ezrat Hashem , we hope to release Living Emunah on the Parashah , Volume Two, sometime next month. There are a few opportunities for dedications If anyone would like the zechut of dedicating part of the book, please email: livingemunah123@gmail.com
The Midrash Rabbah on Megillat Ruth, quoting Rabbi Yehoshua, teaches: יֹתֵר מִמָּה שֶׁבַּעַל הַבַּיִת עוֹשֶׂה עִם הֶעָנִי, הֶעָנִי עוֹשֶׂה עִם בַּעַל הַבָּיִת — More than the homeowner does for the poor person, the poor person does for the homeowner. One application of this Midrash is in how we view the time we invest in helping others. People often think — especially when life is busy and responsibilities pile up — I'd love to do more chesed… I'd love to learn more Torah… I'd love to do more mitzvot… but I just don't have the time. It sounds logical: every minute we spend doing Hashem's work is a minute we could have spent on ourselves. But Hashem's accounting works very differently. When we give our time for His mitzvot, we don't lose time — we gain it. And it's not simply returned; it comes back with blessing. The more we give, the more we are given. Often, this isn't obvious, but sometimes we see it clearly in our own lives. A man who had recently moved into a new apartment discovered that one of his neighbors was an elderly, broken Jew who lived alone with no family or support. He decided to offer a small kindness: a hot meal. That small act quickly turned into a daily delivery. His family joined in, and it became part of their routine. But over time, the chesed became harder. The neighbor began requesting more specific meals — vegetables chopped finely, fruit salad prepared fresh. At first, the man complied, but eventually, the demands wore on him. He decided to stop chopping and simply sent whole vegetables and fruit, reasoning, He knows how to cut them himself. Around that same time, his healthy baby — who had always eaten well — suddenly refused to drink formula. The baby cried through feedings, turned his head away, spit out whatever he managed to drink, and each feeding became a stressful, time-consuming ordeal. The man didn't connect the two events — until a friend who also knew the elderly neighbor praised him for his kindness. "You have no idea what kind of mitzvah you're doing," the friend said. Then he added, "If you could please send the food nicely, prepared fresh the way he likes it, it's a very big part of the mitzvah." Those words struck a chord. The very next day, the man went back to preparing the food exactly as the neighbor preferred. That same day, his baby ate without crying, spitting, or resisting. The connection was crystal clear. When he tried to save time by doing less chesed, he ended up losing time in another area. We never lose by giving — we only gain. The time we "lose" on a mitzvah is never truly lost; it's invested. Hashem repays us with smoother days, calmer outcomes, and, yes, even babies who cooperate. But when we guard all our time for ourselves, we often find that it slips away anyway — tasks take longer, frustrations mount, and things don't flow. So the next time the yetzer hara whispers, You don't have time for this mitzvah, for Torah learning, or for chesed, whisper back: I don't have time not to.