This episode takes a different turn as I reflect on a recent podcast I listened to with Simon Sinek and John Travolta. Inspired by Sinek’s perspective, I revisit a word I often use in coaching leaders—vulnerability. While the idea of being vulnerable can feel unsafe, weak, or threatening, I explore a more empowering alternative: availability.I share how being “available” means opening yourself up—to feedback, to emotions, to learning, to others, and most importantly, to yourself. Instead of suppressing who you are to fit in or please others, availability calls you to align with your values, stand in your truth, and embrace your unique way of living and leading.The episode challenges listeners to reflect on where in their own lives they can begin practicing availability—making small daily choices to live authentically, grow, and reconnect with who they are. Vulnerable may feel heavy, but available feels expansive. This is an invitation to step forward and be the truest version of you.
In this episode, I dive into why true communication is about more than just words. I share a personal story of how miscommunication can turn collaboration into conflict — and how I learned that listening is often more powerful than speaking. We’ll explore the barriers that get in our way, from assumptions to ego, and the simple practices that transform conversations. Most importantly, I’ll talk about the role of self-communication — because how we speak to ourselves shapes every relationship we have. This episode is all about presence, connection, and creating healthier, more meaningful relationships through better communication.
This episode explores rigid, fixed mindsets—the inner voice that says “this is who I am, I can’t change.” A fixed mindset views abilities, intelligence, and personality as permanent, creating black-and-white thinking. While it feels protective and safe, it ultimately keeps people stuck, limits growth, harms relationships, and prevents potential.Fixed mindsets often stem from childhood experiences, praise linked only to achievements, fear of rejection, or painful events that create self-protective beliefs. This mindset can show up in relationships (“that’s just who I am”), work (avoiding challenges, fear of failure), and personal growth (avoiding learning opportunities).To shift out of rigidity:Awareness – Notice language like “I can’t” or “that’s just who I am.”Curiosity – Replace judgment with openness (“what if I tried?”).Reframe failure – See it as feedback and information, not proof of inadequacy.Practice flexibility – Take small steps outside comfort zones.Celebrate growth, not perfection – Value persistence, effort, and resilience.Ultimately, growth begins with a single perspective shift. The “box” of rigid beliefs isn’t locked—walls are only as solid as we believe. By loosening rigidity, challenges become opportunities, relationships deepen, and life feels lighter and more open.To book your session https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1
This episode explores the scarcity mindset—the belief that there’s never enough time, money, opportunities, or even that we ourselves aren’t enough. Scarcity narrows our vision, drives fear-based decisions, creates stress and defensiveness, damages relationships through competition, and makes us play small by avoiding opportunities.Key insights:Scarcity is not the truth—it’s just a story we tell ourselves, and stories can be rewritten.Our thoughts shape our actions, so shifting mindset changes how we show up in life.Ways to shift into abundance:Awareness – Notice when you’re thinking in terms of “not enough.”Gratitude – Focus on what’s working and what you already have.Celebrate others – Their success shows what’s possible; it doesn’t take away from you.Open perspective – Ask what else could be possible instead of limiting to one way.Invest in growth – Learning, relationships, rest, and creativity all expand abundance.Personal reflections shared:Abundance is everywhere—nature shows us this constantly.Fear (like during COVID) leads to scarcity thinking, while choosing abundance creates opportunities and creativity.Life moves in waves—ups and downs—but abundance is a choice you can keep returning to.Takeaway:Abundance means believing there’s enough, that you are enough, and opportunities never run out. By choosing awareness, gratitude, and openness, you can step out of fear and scarcity into a fuller, more generous life.To book your session https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1
This episode explores the role of challenging people in our lives and how they can either drain us or teach us. Everyone encounters difficult individuals—whether colleagues, family, or friends—but the key is shifting perspective: are they obstacles, or are they teachers?Why people feel challenging:Clashing values that make it hard to see their perspective.Different communication styles.They mirror something we dislike or haven’t resolved in ourselves.They trigger old wounds, insecurities, or patterns.Important distinction:Toxic people are harmful and should be avoided.Challenging but non-toxic people often help us grow, even if it’s uncomfortable.Lessons challenging people teach us:Practicing patience.Strengthening communication.Setting and defending boundaries.Learning forgiveness and letting go.Discovering who we are when tested.Practical strategies:Set clear boundaries—define what you will/won’t accept.Pause before reacting—respond calmly instead of reacting emotionally.Reframe the situation—ask, “What can I learn here?”Separate the human from the behavior—get curious rather than judgmental.Choose your battles—not everything deserves a reaction.Walk away when needed—protect your energy and peace.Reflection exercise:Think of a difficult person in your life. What makes them challenging? What emotions do they bring up? What might they be teaching you about yourself? Decide whether to invest in the relationship or let it go.Takeaway:Challenging people are unavoidable, but they shape us. Some we keep close, others we release—but all can teach us patience, resilience, and growth. By approaching them with curiosity instead of judgement, we transform frustration into learning.To book your session https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1
Most people think in either-or terms (black-and-white thinking), which creates rigidity and pressure. Both-And Thinking is the ability to hold two truths at once, leading to flexibility, compassion, and resilience.Either-Or Thinking: You’re either strong or weak, happy or sad, confident or insecure.Both-And Thinking: You can be both—life is complex, not binary.◦Example: You can love someone deeply and still feel hurt by them.◦You can be proud of yourself and still want to improve.◦You can be grateful and restless at the same time.Reduces pressure – You don’t have to fit into one box.Builds compassion – People (including you) are complex.Encourages resilience – Strength is about bouncing back, not never breaking.Personal Growth: Accept yourself while working on blind spots.Leadership: Great leaders are decisive and open to feedback, confident and humble.Relationships: Joy and hurt can coexist.Watch your language: Replace either/or with and/also.Allow conflicting feelings: No judgment—both can be true.Expand your frame: Ask, “What else could be true here?”Stay curious: Avoid fixed assumptions—keep your brain open.Practice in daily life: Identify areas where you default to either-or (e.g., career vs. family, joy vs. grief).Nature balances opposing forces (storms and calm).Bamboo bends without breaking—flexibility equals strength.Both-And Thinking doesn’t create confusion; it creates wholeness. Life is layered, not simple. Start asking:“Is it really one way or the other—or could it be both?”To book your session https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1
Hope is not wishful thinking or ignoring reality. It’s the quiet belief that change is possible and that there is a way forward. Unlike optimism, which assumes things will work out, hope acknowledges challenges but believes in finding a path through them.The Nature of Hope:Psychologists describe hope as having three components:Goal – A desired outcome to move toward.Pathway – The belief that there are ways to reach the goal.Agency – The inner drive to act and keep trying.Why Hope Matters:◦Fuels perseverance and resilience during adversity.◦Impacts mental and physical health positively.◦Helps people handle stress, recover faster, and find meaning in hardship.◦Encourages growth through challenges.How to Cultivate Hope:Shift Perspective – Replace “Why me?” with “What now?”Set Small Goals – Achievable steps build confidence and progress.Stay Connected – Isolation weakens hope; connection strengthens it.Practice Resilience – Reflect on past challenges you’ve overcome.Gratitude – Regularly acknowledge what you’re thankful for.Key Insight:Hope doesn’t deny reality; it equips us to face it differently. Even small acts of hope—like kindness or reaching out—can create powerful ripples.Closing Thought:Hope is not naive; it’s an act of courage. Even if it feels lost, it still exists within you, waiting to be reignited.To book your session https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1
Letting go may sound simple, but it is one of life’s hardest challenges. Whether it’s people, roles, expectations, regrets, or outdated versions of ourselves, we often hold on because our brains crave certainty and control—illusions that ultimately weigh us down. Letting go stirs resistance, fear, and grief, yet it also opens the door to freedom, peace, and new possibilities.True letting go isn’t always about losing someone; it can mean releasing old identities, false beliefs, or the need to control outcomes. It involves acceptance, forgiveness (for ourselves as much as others), and the courage to create space for something new.The process begins with awareness: asking What am I holding onto, and does it serve me? Then reframing—shifting from the fear of loss to the idea of creating space. Rituals like writing letters, donating belongings, or even taking a deep, grounding breath can help our minds embody release.Though emotional and sometimes painful, letting go is not about giving up—it’s about lightening the load we were never meant to carry, so we can invite in new relationships, opportunities, and a deeper sense of peace.To book your session https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1
Love — in all its forms — is chaotic, messy, beautiful, and essential. In this episode, I explore what love really means: how we give it, receive it, and heal from the lack of it. It's an invitation to reflect on your personal experiences with love — or the absence of it — and begin redefining what love looks like, starting with self-love.Key themes include:“We accept the love we think we deserve” (Stephen Chbosky): Our self-worth determines the kind of love we allow into our lives.Love has many forms — romantic, familial, friendship, and most importantly, self-love.Without self-love, it's hard to give or receive love authentically.The five love languages (words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, gifts, and physical touch) are important, but deeper emotional patterns matter even more — like fear of intimacy or past trauma.Many people block love because of past wounds, mistrust, or the fear of being vulnerable.Ask yourself: do you believe you need to earn love? Were you taught that love is conditional?Real love should feel safe and peaceful — not like walking on eggshells. Love isn’t chaos, control, or obligation.Even if you weren’t shown healthy love growing up, you can still become the person who gives it — to yourself and others.Healing starts small: accepting compliments, receiving help, being kinder to yourself, speaking gently to yourself.Love is a daily practice of honoring yourself, setting healthy boundaries, and choosing connection without fear.You are not unlovable — you were just unloved properly. That wasn’t your fault.Rewire your beliefs: if you’ve only known love as pain or anxiety, it’s time to learn a love that feels calm, steady, and safe.Final message:You are worthy of love.Start with you.Choose love — without expectation or fear.Your love — even if imperfect — can become your healing.It can be your quiet revolution.To book your session https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1
In a demanding and fast-paced world, this episode challenges the common myth that resilience means just pushing through. Instead, it reframes resilience as a balance of strength, flexibility, and self-awareness — like bamboo, which bends in the wind but doesn't break.True resilience isn’t about being tough — it’s about being adaptable, compassionate with yourself, and knowing when to pause.Resilience VS ToughnessIt's not about working harder, proving yourself, or pushing nonstop. Real resilience means:◦Resting without quitting◦Bending without breaking◦Knowing when to reset and start againExternal vs. Internal FocusYou cannot control the outside world — opinions, events, uncertainty.But you can control your inner world:◦How you respond◦Your values, integrity, and voice◦Where you place your energyTrying to prove yourself to the wrong people is draining. Stop defending yourself. Start directing energy toward those who understand you.Small Acts Build Resilience◦Saying no when you're stretched◦Taking a breath before reacting◦Asking for help◦Saying what you really think◦Being vulnerableResilience isn't just big heroic moments — it's the daily choices that align with who you are.Relational ResilienceWe’re not meant to do life alone.Lean on others. Collaborate. Share the weight.“10 brains are better than one.”Are you just coping or truly resilient?Where in life are you pushing when you need to pause?Who supports your resilience?What small thing can you do today to stay grounded and whole?Final Insight:Resilience doesn’t mean being unbreakable — it means learning to heal, to adapt, to rise again without losing yourself.Keep your heart open. You don’t have to do this alone.
This short and punchy episode is a powerful reflection on a tough truth: you might be the one holding yourself back. It's not about blaming yourself — it's about reclaiming your power.The core message:You feel stuck not because of circumstances, people, or timing — but because of the stories you're telling yourself.Those stories like:“I’m not ready.”“I’ll fail.”“No one will support me.”They feel like protection, but they actually build walls around your potential. They keep you safe, but they also keep you small.Signs you're in your own way:Overthinking instead of startingStaying comfortable instead of growingWaiting for permissionAvoiding discomfort at the cost of your dreamsThe key questions:Where in your life do you already know what to do — but aren’t doing it?What story are you telling yourself that’s stopping you?Imagine what could happen if you stepped aside and let your courage lead.Take one small action today.Say the thing. Apply for the thing. Start the project.There will never be a perfect time or complete readiness.Often, the only thing standing between you and the life you want is you.Write down the limiting stories. Be brutally honest. Then — get out of your own way.
In this deeply reflective episode, I explore the powerful question we’ve all asked ourselves: Am I on the right path? Often, we expect the “right” path to feel good—full of clarity, peace, and purpose. But what if it feels heavy, confusing, or misaligned despite looking right on the outside?This episode is for those who feel like they’re losing themselves, even while seemingly doing everything “right.” Through personal anecdotes and soul-stirring insights, I share how the true measure of being on the right path is not whether it feels easy—but whether you're walking it with truth, integrity, and presence.Key themes include:The illusion of the 'right path' always feeling goodResistance as a signal of self-abandonmentThe cost of silence, people-pleasing, and fear of rejectionLearning to walk in alignment—even when it shakes youEmbracing discomfort as a call to change and growReturning to your soul’s truth, even if you've driftedYou are encouraged to pause, reflect, and ask yourself honest questions:Where am I compromising to stay safe?What truth am I not standing in?What would it mean to walk my path fully, with courage?The episode closes with an empowering reminder: You are never truly lost—just out of alignment. And you always have the power to come back. One step, one truth, one decision at a time.Are you looking for your coach? Book a 15 min FREE chemistry session https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting-1Find more podcastswww.millionpodcasts.com
This episode is a powerful call to action for anyone stuck in the planning, dreaming, or procrastinating phase. It emphasises that imperfect action always beats perfect inaction.Key Points:Perfection is the enemy of progress. Waiting for the perfect time, plan, or skillset keeps you stuck. Action creates clarity—not the other way around.Common blockers to action:Fear of failure or successOverthinking and analysis paralysisWaiting for the "right" momentFeeling drained by the transition from idea to executionAction fuels momentum:Referencing Newton’s law: an object in motion stays in motion.Confidence is built through doing, not through thinking.Momentum helps override fear and builds identity as someone who takes action.Mindset tools to help you act:Mel Robbins’ 5 Second Rule: Count down 5-4-3-2-1 and move.Daily bold action: Commit to doing one uncomfortable thing every day.Examples of action creating results:Starting a business before it's “ready”Writing a book one step at a timeA fitness journey that began with 30 reps, then scaled to 100Starting a podcast without over planningLanding a dream job after sending 100 emailsBuilding an audience by posting one sketch a dayQuote Highlight:“You don’t need to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” — Martin Luther King Jr.Final Message:You don’t need permission or perfection to begin. Take one real step—no matter how small—today. That’s where confidence, clarity, and progress begin.🎧 Call to Action:Send the email. Do the workout. Record that first podcast. Start messy. Start scared. Just start.
This episode explores the life-changing power of knowing your value. So many people feel directionless, unsettled, and constantly seek external validation — not realising that a lack of self-worth is often the root cause.Key Talking Points:Why It Truly Matters:When you know your value, you stop settling. You say no with clarity, choose jobs and relationships that align with your worth, and protect your mental health. Self-worth becomes an internal compass — not dictated by external validation.Value vs. Values:This episode focuses on your value — the gifts you naturally bring to the table — not just your principles or beliefs. It’s about owning your contribution, regardless of titles, degrees, or praise.The Invisible Armour of Self-Worth:Knowing your value gives you emotional resilience. Rejection might hurt, but it won’t define you. It sets the tone for how others treat you and helps you build respectful boundaries.Confidence Without Ego:When your confidence is rooted in self-worth, you don’t need to over explain, compete, or seek applause. You show up quietly, but powerfully.How to Start Connecting With Your Value:Self-awareness – Identify your natural strengths, gifts, and what energises you.Know your core values – Define and live by the principles that guide you.Track your impact – Reflect on how you’re already adding value.Define yourself – Set boundaries and don’t let others determine your worth.Act your way into self-worth – Confidence grows through consistent action.Use feedback wisely – Learn from it, but always run it through your filter.What Doesn't Determine Your Value:Job titles, relationship status, productivity, or external opinions.What Does:The unique impact you make, the presence you bring, and the authenticity you live by.Takeaway Message:You don’t need to be loud to be valuable or perfect to be worthy. Your quiet confidence, honesty, and ability to show up as your full self — that’s your value. Let this episode remind you: You are valuable. You are needed. Your presence matters.Take your Drive assessment and determine your Natural Drives https://engagementfitdrive.com/
In this episode, I explore why receiving is so difficult for many people—especially natural supporters and independent individuals. Receiving is not weakness, but a powerful act of vulnerability, connection, and emotional strength.Key themes include:The emotional blocks to receiving: shame, control, and conditioningThe societal praise of independence and its unintended consequencesHow receiving connects us, deepens relationships, and allows others to feel fulfilledPractical ways to begin practicing the art of receiving, starting smallInsightful parenting advice on giving children "just-right" challenges to build resilienceA special message to women about letting go of the need to “do it all”Call to Action:Start small—say yes to a compliment, help, or invitation. Please share this episode with someone who finds it hard to receive. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram, or LinkedIn.
In this episode of Living With Your Thoughts, we explore the often challenging topic of change—a word that can feel disruptive or liberating, depending on your mindset. I unpack the difference between planned change and unexpected disruption, and share practical strategies to help you navigate both with more ease.Whether you're someone who thrives in uncertainty or prefers structure and predictability, you'll learn how to:Recognise your mindset (finite vs. infinite)Anchor yourself in your valuesBuild adaptive habits and mental flexibilityFind meaning in uncomfortable transitionsStay connected instead of isolatingRemember: change is inevitable, but your response to it is where your power lies.👉 Tune in for grounded advice and heartfelt reflection—and don’t forget to share how you navigate change.
Boundaries protect love. Judgment protects fear.Boundaries come from self-awareness and care. Judgement comes from reactivity and self-protection.Where are you stuck in judgement and need to set a boundary?
We live in a world obsessed with external leadership. Be a better manager, be a better parent, be a better partner, but how often do we hear the deeper call - to lead ourselves. I have 6 steps for you to follow to become a great leader.
There are days when emotions rise like storms—loud, unruly, and uninvited. Sadness creeps in like fog, anger crackles like lightning, shame slinks in silently and settles in the gut.And we wrestle.
You are born worthy, there is nothing you can do that will make you more worthy than you are right now. Why you seek external validation and how to switch to finding your own worth. Self validation will bring you peace. I would love your feedback, your story and appreciate you sharing this podcast with someone who needs it. You can book a session with me via https://calendly.com/tmoxey99/new-meeting