Looking For The Middle: The Christian’s Guide to Modern Dating

Have you ever asked yourself the question, ”Why is dating so hard?” Have you felt frustrated, confused, or overwhelmed trying to navigate dating and relationships? Well you are not alone! Looking For The Middle is a podcast where you can find helpful, Christ-honoring, easy-to-follow advice about dating, singleness, relationships, and everything in between. There is a lot out there about the theology of dating and how to date in a way that honors the Lord.... and that is great! We’re going to talk about that plenty too, but we’re also going to talk about the practical stuff too. How to flirt. How to tell if they’re interested. What to expect on a 1st date. ....and so much more! Our ultimate goal is to help you navigate dating well as a Christian, and we can’t wait to walk alongside you in your own dating journey!

The End of an Era

Wow. We can’t really believe that we’re here. In some ways, it seems like the past 6 years have absolutely flown by. In other ways, it seems like we’re limping across this finish line after all of the turmoil and upheaval of the past year. Either way, we are so, so grateful for all of you and are mindful of the Lord’s goodness in all things. We are going to spend this last episode reflecting on the good times, the sad times, the funny times and everything in-between as we close out the Looking For The Middle journey as we have known it.  We have a very special “guest" with us and you do not want to miss it! Be sure to join our Facebook group here if you want to stay in the loop about what is next for LFTM! 

02-07
01:03:33

It’s the Final CouchCast…

If you sang that title in your head like I did… you are my people! haha  This is the second to final episode and we are feeling nostalgic so this is a bit of a full-circle moment. We are taking it back to the days of random numbers and topics we don’t know ahead of time like the early days of CouchCast. So, sit back, and enjoy as we answer all your questions one last time!

01-31
33:27

What to Do With an Extended Season of (Unwanted) Singleness

Do you find yourself in a period of being single for longer than you had hoped or planned? Even if this isn’t you right now, there’s a good chance it has been you at some point, and today we’re diving into how to navigate this season and what it looks like to honor the Lord even in a period of life you might not have picked.

01-24
41:02

Make the Most of Your Online Dating Profile

January and February are the months with the highest traffic on online dating apps for the whole year! Don’t miss out on those quality matches and messages… we’re here to help you get your profile in tip top shape.

01-17
36:20

Why is the Church Obsessed with Everyone Getting Married?

You guys… this week’s episode is a mess! I am just warning you! We sat down to record and before we knew it, the building was overrun with people and then suddenly there were people all over the outside and they were replacing the gutters. We are all kids of distracted and there is all kinds of noise. SO SORRY!! We did our best guys… haha

12-13
33:39

Practical Tips for Not “Wasting Your Life” in a Season of Singleness

Last season we touched on this idea from a more philosophical point of view… today, we’re getting into more of what this idea looks like practically. 

12-06
48:28

We’ve Got Some Explaining To Do!

We’re back from our little, unexpected, unannounced, poorly executed mini-mid-season-sabbatical! Sorry about that guys… there has been A LOT going on. We get into all of that today and we will be back to our regularly scheduled programming as usual next week! 

11-29
43:07

LFTM Revisited: How to Simplify Dating

We mentioned last week that we have been running on fumes the past couple of weeks… a lot going on personally, with work, and just all around. We hoped we’d be back on track this week, but we’re not quite there yet. So, just bear with us just a little longer and we’ll be back to normal (as normal as you can expect from us) in the next couple of weeks! 

11-01
55:22

3 Questions. 3 Answers!

We’re tackling some of your questions today!!

10-25
34:31

Are My Feelings True?

Do you ever wonder if you’re wanting to actually date THIS person or if you’re just wanting ANY person to fill a void that you feel in your life? Today, we’re going to tackle this question and talk through several scenarios where you may find yourself in this place. And, then, as always, we’re going to work through how to get out of it!

10-18
39:45

Let’s Catch Up On Life!

Hello, long lost friends! Goodness, this off-season seemed especially long! We have missed you guys and have so much to talk about… so, jump in with this week’s episode and let’s have a fun season!

10-13
54:34

Rapid Fire…Your Questions Answered!

Today is the Season 10 Finale! And, we’re getting through as many of your questions as possible. All bets are off. There are no filters. Here we go!

05-17
54:32

Dating in Church… the Good, the Bad, and the Weird

This is definitely one of those episodes where the point is that we all know we’re not alone! Dating in church can be just plain weird sometimes. There are so many pitfalls and awkward situations that are uniquely Christian. Today, we’re diving into all the weirdness, and while we may not actually solve anything, we will definitely all leave feeling decidedly less alone.

05-10
01:03:05

Biblical Manhood and Womanhood… Through the Lens of Proverbs

This episode has been in the works for a few seasons now! We wanted to give it the preparation and thought it deserved… so, now, we’re jumping in and tackling this topic with the book of Proverbs as our jumping off point. We’re looking at the Proverbs 31 woman and then the Proverbs 1-30 man too!

05-03
01:09:43

The Art of the Set-Up

Whether you’re the one being set up, or the one doing the setting up… we’ve been on both sides of this delicate topic and we’re talking about the whole process from start to finish from both sides!

04-26
42:30

Letters to My Younger Self on Dating

Do you ever look back and wish you had been able to tell the younger version of yourself that everything would be ok? Or, maybe you want to tell yourself to snap out of it and get your act together? Here’s what we would have told ourselves if we had that chance!

04-19
54:17

LFTM Revisited: Early Date Expectations

Dalton has been a bit under the weather and we haven’t been able to record this week. We’ll be back next week with our next new episode, but until then, here’s one of your favorites for you to listen to again!  Oh, those early, awkward, unsure dates.... they're the worst, right? Please tell me I'm not the only one?! One thing that has made all the difference for me is know what to expect going into them. What to expect of the guy AND the date. Today, Dalton and I are talking about what are reasonable and unreasonable expectations to have going into those first few dates with someone new.

04-12
01:02:17

How to Simplify Dating

We talk (and complain) a lot about how dating is a complicated and convoluted process and that you don’t want to complicate it more. But, we don’t really talk all that much about how to actually simplify the process. So, let’s do that today!

04-05
55:22

If I Just Had ______________, My Life Would Be Better

Do you ever feel like there’s something missing in your life and if you could just have that one thing, then your life would be better? Complete, even? It’s so easy to push aside the satisfaction and contentment we should look for from Christ and put “things” into that place instead. Sometimes it seems like God doesn’t even understand what it is that you’re walking through. We get it. We’ve been there. We are there. This week’s episode is a little more raw, we’re talking the walls down and speaking from the heart today.

03-29
48:10

To Pray or Not to Pray

That is the question... Today we’re looking at lots of different scenarios along a dating timeline and discussing whether or not it’s a good idea to pray with your significant other and for your significant other in those scenarios. This is a really sensitive topic and we’re trying to do it justice, while still being clear and offering a Biblical perspective.

03-22
52:41

Sarah Alexander

Sorry but, you ought to look up the accidents that have happened from people texting while driving. I used to work in trauma, it's really sad. Please be careful.

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