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Whether your loved one suffers from addiction or not, having trust in your relationship is essential. Right? Because without it, you'll most likely start to feel frustrated or even stuck. But if you entered this relationship with any trust issues from your past, it's important to make your healing a priority. And you're not going to be able to do that if you're looking to your partner to help you feel better. So, how do you start to build back trust? Is it even possible? Tune in to this week's episode, where I share some tips (and examples) that you can start to apply to your life right now. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/trust-yourself/  Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com This classic episode previously aired in January 2021.
When your loved one who struggles with addiction has been in and out of rehab for 22 years, at what point do you say, 'enough is enough?' Because honestly, are they really EVER going to get healthy (especially when they can't be honest about their addiction)? That's something a strong woman in our community shared recently and what her 'line in the sand' was for leaving her marriage. Take some time to listen to this new podcast episode and how the work she's done on her healing (including unlearning 'learned' behavior) has also helped her kids regarding their dad's addiction. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/five-rehabs/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
When you think about the relationship with your partner who struggles with addiction, have there been times you've questioned yourself about why you've stayed so long? And if so, what keeps pulling you back in even though it's not a healthy situation? This is something a brave woman in our community shared with me recently that many people will most likely be able to relate to. Tune in for this new podcast interview to hear how trauma bonds kept this woman from leaving an unhealthy relationship (and whether or not she's still with her partner). Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/trauma-bond/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
When you think of someone struggling with alcoholism (or any addiction), you probably feel that they must drink every day, right? But as you'll hear in this new podcast interview, that's not necessarily always the case. Tune in for this brave woman's story of how her Aboriginal roots and learned childhood behaviors impacted her life later on (particularly with relationships), as well as why someone who doesn't drink every day can still be an alcoholic. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/alcoholic-drink-every-day/  Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
Loving someone with addiction can sometimes make you feel like you're spinning out of control, can't it? One moment you're feeling joy and hope, only to have it turn to fear and anger pretty quickly. And listen, you’re not alone. We've been there and completely understand. But the good news is that you can make it feel less and less like a roller coaster ride when dealing with your loved one. Tune in to this week's episode to hear how to stop spiraling, as well as to make sure you're moving forward in your own recovery.   Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/roller-coaster/  Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com This classic episode originally aired in August 2020
He Won’t Stop Drinking

He Won’t Stop Drinking

2022-02-2001:07:24

Has your loved one flat out refused to stop drinking (or whatever their substance of choice is) no matter how many times you've begged and pleaded? And what if their addiction is affecting your young children? That's something a strong woman in our community spoke about recently (and how she tried to compromise with her husband multiple times). Tune in for this new podcast episode to hear how she finally decided to move forward and is protecting her children, as well as reconnecting with herself. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/he-wont-stop-drinking/  Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
If you've moved on from your relationship with someone who struggles with addiction (or have been thinking about it), have you wondered what 'life after leaving' looks like? Or what would dating again be like? That might seem a little scary, right? I recently spoke with a woman in our community who was very brave and open about what this has been like for her. Tune in for this new podcast episode to hear a great conversation about starting over, what dating again looks like, and how there actually ARE some blessings of addiction. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/dating-after-leaving/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
If you've been tuning in for the last several episodes, you've heard me covering some clues that you may be ready to consider leaving your relationship with your loved one who struggles with addiction. And this week, I'm finishing up with the final two reasons.  As always, there's never any judgment on whether you decide to stay or leave. That's completely up to you (and you always reserve the right to change your mind at any time).  But please take some time to listen to this episode because it's all about you and your children's safety and well-being. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/signs-of-abuse/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
If you've gone back and forth on possibly leaving your loved one who struggles with addiction, what's holding you back from doing so? If one of the reasons is that you're afraid they might get better after you leave, just know you're not alone. But I want to share some loving truths with you, okay? Tune in to this week's new episode to hear several more clues that you may be ready to leave your relationship (even if you're still unsure right now). Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/what-if-they-get-better-after-you-leave/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
Has the thought ever crossed your mind about whether you should stay or leave your relationship?  And maybe just the thought of leaving your loved one who struggles with addiction makes you anxious or scared (which is understandable). But just hear me out, okay? Tune in to this week's new episode, where I dive into three clues that it may be time to consider leaving. And if you decide that leaving isn't the right decision for you, that's absolutely okay, too. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/consider-leaving/  Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
Have you ever felt like you're on a rollercoaster ride because of your loved one's addiction? Lots of ups and downs and uncertainty of what's ahead. So why do we stay on that ride (or keep coming back)? Tune in to this new podcast episode to hear a woman explain how her ex-husband used their child to manipulate her and how she found herself in a financially abusive marriage. But despite everything she's been through, she's now healthier and happier than ever, thanks to the work she's done for her own healing.  Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/used-child-to-manipulate-me/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
Have you ever wondered whether your loved one's drinking is really 'that bad?' When you love someone who is a high-functioning alcoholic, it can be easy to start doubting yourself and your feelings. I spoke with a brave woman in our community recently who opened up about going through this.  Tune in to this new podcast episode where she shares about her high-functioning alcoholic husband, as well as dealing with family members who are unsupportive of the decisions she's making for her future. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/high-functioning-alcoholic/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
For many of us, codependency is something we've dealt with for a long time. But have you ever wondered how you came to be that way? Or how to break the cycle of codependency, particularly with your loved one who struggles with addiction? This is something I discussed recently with a strong woman in our community. Tune in for this new podcast interview to hear how she's made her boundaries work for her and how she's committed to breaking the cycle of codependency for her daughters. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/cycle-of-codependency Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
You've probably heard the expression, “Let go and let God.” That it's somehow OK to lose control of what you want or believe. But I disagree with this saying when you love someone suffering from addiction (or even with unhealthy relationships with friends or family).  In our community, we believe that it's 100% OK to take control of your own life and feelings. You're a grown, wonderful, smart adult who knows what's best for YOU. Click to hear this week's episode about how taking control of your life is the responsible, healthy thing to do. (Even if that means doing some good ole self-talk in the laundry room sometimes). This episode originally aired in November 2020.  Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/take-control/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
As a codependent, setting (and sticking to) boundaries can sometimes be challenging. And look, no judgment at all. Boundaries are tricky and take lots of practice.  But they're also so important to have when you love someone suffering from addiction. Because here's the thing: without boundaries, the morals and values you entered the relationship with become compromised over time. Tune in to this week's episode, where I discuss a favorite book of mine (along with some helpful stories) about setting and sticking to boundaries. And even if you're not codependent, this will still be super helpful. This episode originally aired in October 2020.  Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/boundaries-for-codependents/  Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
Have you experienced red flags in your relationship with your loved one that almost caused you to make a huge decision to either stay or leave? That's exactly what happened to a woman I spoke with recently in our community. Not only did she almost call off her wedding, but she shares what her 'rock bottom' was in her relationship, as well as some vulnerable moments that you may be able to relate to. Tune in to this new podcast episode to hear how this strong and confident woman is coming out stronger than ever because of the work she's doing on her own healing. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/almost-called-off-wedding/  Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
Maybe you love the holidays. Or perhaps you're like a woman in our community I spoke to recently who has said, "I hate the holidays."  If that's something you've said before, you're not alone (and it definitely doesn't make you a 'Scrooge'). Tune in for this new episode to hear this courageous woman discuss several fears she has about the possibility of leaving her marriage, as well as some lessons she's learned while loving her alcoholic husband. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/hate-the-holidays/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
When you love someone struggling with addiction, the holidays may not always be something you're looking forward to, right? Because most likely, this is the time where their alcohol (or chosen substance) consumption might increase, especially with all of the holiday get-togethers going on. But what if you CAN still experience joy regardless of their actions and behaviors? That's one of the things you'll hear a strong woman in our community discuss in this new podcast episode (as well as the effect the pandemic has had on both our loved ones and us). Find more here: https://loveoveraddiction.com/interview-happy-holiday/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
How do you know if you should stay or leave your relationship when you love someone struggling with addiction? I had the pleasure of speaking with a brave woman in our community recently who shared the lessons she's learned while working on her own healing and her reasoning for staying or leaving her marriage. Tune in to this week's new podcast episode to hear how she built up her confidence and independence and how she grappled with what the church says about divorce. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/interview-stay-or-go/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
Comments (23)

Barb Morgan Springstube

every relationship ends up same problem, seems i only attract same kind of guy. So i stopped dating.. now my son is my co-dependent. this mother is so so tired. no idea no contact with son. cause i can't stop enabling.

Mar 9th
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Barb Morgan Springstube

i just want more info on why we are co-dependent.

Mar 9th
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Barb Morgan Springstube

what if it is your son. 44 years old.. not a child. years and years of tough love, then enable him.. ugh.

Mar 8th
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Barb Morgan Springstube

did change ph #

Mar 8th
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Barb Morgan Springstube

what if they say they will burn the house down if you call the sheriff? afraid to get a judge involved that way.

Mar 8th
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Adriana Jenson

Binge listening. Exactly what I need. My husband becomes an asshole when he's coming down and sometimes when he's drunk and loaded. He gets blackout drunk and lies to my face about being shitty drunk. He's gotten blackout drunk and made a pass at my best friend and niece but hasn't tried to be intimate with me in years. He does things that kill my heart, soul and esteem. He lies and steals when it comes to buying booze, pills or other drugs, and then there's the debt he accumulates and hides from things like gambling. Unfortunately, he's a "whatchagotaholic," meaning he's addicted to numbing himself by any means necessary and by whatever is available. I've been going through this for 10 years and I'm at a breaking point. If I weren't so damned scared over losing everything we have, most of which I earned, I would've left a long time ago. Also, I was independent when we met and had an excellent career, but now I feel dependent and not working. I'm like an empty shell. He's repeated so many times, "You couldn't survive without me. I do too much for you." As I've grown more depressed, he's picked up more slack but makes sure to tell me constantly how useful he is, how much he does, and that I'd be lost without him. I have to remind myself I survived 25 years without him. I went from having lots of friends and active to isolated and depressed, and my husband paints himself as my savior. He's got an entitlement issue where he believes he has the right to do what he wants without telling me because he does a lot for our household. He goes through phases of making me his enemy, then uses that mindset to justify his actions, lying to me, etc. I started the separation process a few months back and meet with an attorney tomorrow to get through the financial assets step of the process.

Jun 29th
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Leslee Dunn Burns

I really needed this today. Thank you Michelle.

May 15th
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David Golson

33444 doesn't work

Sep 24th
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Rachel Miller

thanks for this podcast

Aug 22nd
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Trish Richardson

This is an amazing listen... Thank you thank you for sharing the good stories. My partner is an alcoholic & nicotine addict. He is not abusive but does not earn enough to pay for his habits & I have been enabling him by sharing my money with him. At 52 I am now facing a bleak financial future but love him so much... he is an amazing human being. I now clearly understand that I have become codependant & need to work on me... Thank you thank you. xx

Jun 21st
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Nicole Brewer

Wow! I need this program so very much! Truly! I’m separated from my addicted husband now. I’m falling apart as we speak. I don’t want a divorce and there is no communication right now. My kids are all hurting. I love him. But don’t love the separation. He won’t come home and blames me for kicking him out. Now we may loose our home.

Mar 25th
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Mary Elizabeth

It would be nice if we could include men in these podcasts, I work with several men who are struggling with their wives addictions.

Jan 5th
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Mary Elizabeth

This podcast has changed my life for the better, it brings me peace to know I am not alone. Thank you.

Jan 5th
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Anita Pascal

this podcast has caused me to be more aware of my own personal issues.

Oct 9th
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Anita Pascal

very very helpful

Oct 9th
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Amanda Baker

Love ur podcast Michelle, u have helped me more than u will ever know!

Oct 7th
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Amanda Baker

The master class text is not working for me. Can anyone help?

Oct 7th
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Txharv08

Great information but I can’t stand how she invites you to her website and downloads at the beginning and end of every podcast. It’s literally 50% of each podcast

Aug 30th
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Jen Rhode Hebard

This podcast has been a game changer in how I manage myself. The one person I do have control over!

Jul 16th
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