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Author: Michelle Anderson

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Do you love someone suffering from addiction? You're not powerless over this disease. You don’t need to wait for them to get sober to start feeling joy, happiness, and love. Join us for encouragement, hope, and some fun (because recovery doesn’t need to be depressing). If you feel exhausted from trying to help, depressed when they've been drinking or using drugs, and worried this roller coaster ride will never end – we can help.
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This week, I'm switching gears a little bit to talk about a subject that may be a little sensitive to some of you (myself included): abuse. While the thought of possibly being in an abusive relationship may be a bit unsettling, knowing if certain behaviors are abusive is so important. Knowledge is power. Tune in to this week's new episode, where I cover six types of abuse, as well as my personal experience with it.  And even if you're not in an abusive relationship with your partner, having this information in your back pocket might help somebody else out in your life.  Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/abuse/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
A loved one's addiction can sometimes have a way of making you feel that what you're asking for in your relationship is unrealistic. Can you relate? But just know that you're not crazy for wanting those things. That's why it's important to understand the steps in their recovery (and yours!) that will help you manage your expectations in a healthy way. Tune in to this new episode where I dive into Steps 8 and 9 of the '12 Steps' of recovery, which are about your loved one evaluating things they've done, taking responsibility for it, and trying to repair the damage that has been done. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/expectations/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
When you love someone struggling with addiction, have you ever wondered what it could look like if they ever got sober? Or what their behaviors would be and if they're someone who you can have hope in? Over the last couple of episodes, we've been working through some of the '12 Steps' of recovery because it's important to have reasonable expectations for yourself about where they may be in their recovery. Tune in to this new episode where I pick up with Steps 5 and 6 and why forgiveness and their willingness to make changes are essential. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/work/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
If you tuned in last week, you heard me covering some of the first steps in helping you figure out where your loved one may be in their recovery. And this week, we're going to dive in even more. These steps will not only help you understand what recovery looks like for them but how some of it may even apply to your own healing, as well. Tune in to this new episode, where I share the importance of taking a self-inventory, codependency, and how addressing both are essential for recovery. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/recovery/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
If you have a loved one struggling with addiction, you might have heard about the '12 Steps' of recovery. These are a set of guidelines (steps) to work toward recovery. As you know, I usually don't go into depth about their alcoholism or addiction. However, understanding these steps can help indicate where they're at in their own recovery. Tune in to this week's new episode, where I'll cover the first two 'steps.' (We'll dive into the other steps in the coming weeks). There's also a free printable worksheet that you can print and fill out. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/12-steps/  Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
When you love someone struggling with addiction, they've most likely played mind games with you at some point. As a result, it can lead to anger or frustration on your part (which is completely understandable). So what do you do if they're making you feel like you are the crazy one for getting upset? Tune in to this new episode to hear an important question to ask yourself, as well as what to do when your loved one tries to get a rise out of you. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/mind-games-anger/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
Have you ever felt guilty for a tough decision (or many) you've had to make when loving someone struggling with addiction? If so, you're not alone. But why do these feelings come up after all you've been through? And how can you stop feeling guilty? Tune in for this week's new episode, where I address these questions and why feeling guilty is actually normal. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/guilty/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
When you love someone struggling with addiction, there may be periods when they are sober. And then you see a tiny glimmer of hope. But when that happens, do you also worry about the possibility of a relapse? Tune in to this week's new episode, where I share some information about why (and how commonly) relapses occur so that you know what to expect moving forward. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/relapse/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
If you have kids, having a real conversation with them about your partner's addiction is important. Because here's the thing: not only is addiction common in many families, but kids are very observant. They notice when something isn't 'right' with their parent that struggles with addiction, and as a result, they may be feeling some shame or uncertainty. Tune in to this new episode where I share why it's important to normalize talking about addiction with your child(ren), as well as how it may even be necessary for their own health. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/conversation/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
When a loved one struggles with addiction, their actions and behaviors can lead you to feel hurt or angry sometimes, right? And it's easy to stay stuck in those feelings. This is why it's so important to learn how to love from a distance. But what does that look like (especially if you're staying with them)? In this week's new episode, you'll hear a very personal story where I recently had to do this and how loving from a distance will help honor your boundaries. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/love-from-a-distance/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
Boundaries. You've probably heard that term before, and to be honest, it's one of my favorite subjects to talk about. But it can be a little confusing sometimes figuring out what your boundaries should be, right? And not only that, how do you determine what a good boundary vs. a bad one is when you love someone struggling with addiction? Tune in to this new episode, where I share why boundaries are an important tool to master and some steps in figuring out the right ones for you. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/master-your-boundaries/  Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
Today, I want to talk about something that's important for your healing: having more fun in your life. Yep, you heard me correctly. You may be asking, 'How in the world can I have more fun when I'm constantly dealing with my loved one's addiction?'  Take a listen to this week's new episode, where I'll explain how having fun is a key element to moving forward with your healing (along with some loving truths). Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/having-fun/  Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
When you love someone struggling with addiction, trust (or rather, a lack of trust) can be a common issue. Your loved one may have broken that trust. Or maybe you went into your relationship with prior trust issues. And just know, I can completely relate. Tune in to this week's episode where I share an 'a-ha' moment I had recently regarding trust with my current husband. And if you've already moved on from your relationship, what may be holding you back from fully trusting someone again. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/lack-of-trust/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
As you've heard me say before, my ex-husband is a good man who struggles with addiction, but unfortunately, addiction turned him into a different person. There were also many red flags that I missed (or didn't want to believe) during our relationship. Have you ever wondered if your partner really is (or isn't) a good person? Tune in to this week's episode, where I dive into a list of red flags that could indicate your loved one may have some psychopathic behavior and what you can do about it. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/red-flags/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
If you've decided that leaving your partner who struggles with addiction is best for your situation, you might then be asking, "What's next in moving forward with my healing?" Or another big question: "What steps should I take so that I don't end up in another unhealthy relationship in the future?" Tune in to this week's episode where I answer these questions (and more), as well as asking you some important things to think about. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/healing-next-steps/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
Loving someone struggling with addiction can sometimes make things feel out of control in your relationship and your life. And when you start feeling that way, it's normal to want to control everything because it's hard to let go, right? Letting go can feel a little scary, or like everything may fall apart if you do. So I reached out to the women in our Secret Facebook Group and asked, "what’s something you’re having a hard time letting go of?" Tune in to this week's episode, where I answer some of those questions, and why in certain situations, letting go doesn't apply. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/letting-go-answers/  Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
Thinking about whether you should stay in or leave your relationship with your loved one struggling with addiction can be hard, right? It might give you little pangs of anxiety (which is completely normal). But just know that you're not alone in this journey (and there's never any judgment on what you decide to do). Tune in to this week's episode where I share some red flags and warning signs I had while dating and being married to my ex-husband and why it's so important to listen to these little whispers. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/relationship-ex-husband/  Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
When you love someone suffering from addiction, you've maybe wondered: why am I not good enough for them to get sober? Or thinking that if your partner would just get sober, you'd finally be able to feel happy again. This can then start a downward spiral with how you're feeling. But the loving truth is that basing your mood on how others are feeling (or what they're doing) is not healthy. So how do you make sure that regardless of things going wrong around you, they don't affect how you feel? Tune in this week to hear why it's important to be in control of your mood, along with some helpful (and actionable) tips that I share. Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/control-your-mood/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
Addiction Is Not Normal

Addiction Is Not Normal

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When you think about the relationship you have with your loved one that suffers from addiction, you're more than likely the one who does all of the giving and gets nothing - or very little - in return. Does this sound familiar? But here's the thing: that's not a normal relationship because addiction is not normal. Tune into this week's episode to hear why you might be experiencing some trauma because of your loved one's behavior. I also share how to get to a place of feeling empowered and happy again (and why you deserve the love that you so freely give to others). Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/normal/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
When you love someone struggling with addiction, you want so badly to help them get healthy and be the person they were before addiction took over. Can you relate? But the loving truth is that their addiction is not your battle to fight. It's time to release that back to them because you deserve to have comfort in your mind, body, and spirit. You're in charge of protecting your peace, and you need to do everything possible to make that happen. Tune in to this week's episode, where I share how to get to a place of comfort and be your biggest ally.  Find more here:  https://loveoveraddiction.com/comfort/ Join us here: https://loveoveraddiction.com
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Barb Morgan Springstube

every relationship ends up same problem, seems i only attract same kind of guy. So i stopped dating.. now my son is my co-dependent. this mother is so so tired. no idea no contact with son. cause i can't stop enabling.

Mar 9th
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Barb Morgan Springstube

i just want more info on why we are co-dependent.

Mar 9th
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Barb Morgan Springstube

what if it is your son. 44 years old.. not a child. years and years of tough love, then enable him.. ugh.

Mar 8th
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Barb Morgan Springstube

did change ph #

Mar 8th
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Barb Morgan Springstube

what if they say they will burn the house down if you call the sheriff? afraid to get a judge involved that way.

Mar 8th
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Adriana Jenson

Binge listening. Exactly what I need. My husband becomes an asshole when he's coming down and sometimes when he's drunk and loaded. He gets blackout drunk and lies to my face about being shitty drunk. He's gotten blackout drunk and made a pass at my best friend and niece but hasn't tried to be intimate with me in years. He does things that kill my heart, soul and esteem. He lies and steals when it comes to buying booze, pills or other drugs, and then there's the debt he accumulates and hides from things like gambling. Unfortunately, he's a "whatchagotaholic," meaning he's addicted to numbing himself by any means necessary and by whatever is available. I've been going through this for 10 years and I'm at a breaking point. If I weren't so damned scared over losing everything we have, most of which I earned, I would've left a long time ago. Also, I was independent when we met and had an excellent career, but now I feel dependent and not working. I'm like an empty shell. He's repeated so many times, "You couldn't survive without me. I do too much for you." As I've grown more depressed, he's picked up more slack but makes sure to tell me constantly how useful he is, how much he does, and that I'd be lost without him. I have to remind myself I survived 25 years without him. I went from having lots of friends and active to isolated and depressed, and my husband paints himself as my savior. He's got an entitlement issue where he believes he has the right to do what he wants without telling me because he does a lot for our household. He goes through phases of making me his enemy, then uses that mindset to justify his actions, lying to me, etc. I started the separation process a few months back and meet with an attorney tomorrow to get through the financial assets step of the process.

Jun 29th
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Leslee Dunn Burns

I really needed this today. Thank you Michelle.

May 15th
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David Golson

33444 doesn't work

Sep 24th
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Rachel Miller

thanks for this podcast

Aug 22nd
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Michelle Ann Green

First of all my name is also Michelle and my husband is a alcoholic...i am sooooo appreciated by finding your podcast...i soooo needed this support!

Jul 9th
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Trish Richardson

This is an amazing listen... Thank you thank you for sharing the good stories. My partner is an alcoholic & nicotine addict. He is not abusive but does not earn enough to pay for his habits & I have been enabling him by sharing my money with him. At 52 I am now facing a bleak financial future but love him so much... he is an amazing human being. I now clearly understand that I have become codependant & need to work on me... Thank you thank you. xx

Jun 21st
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Nicole Brewer

Wow! I need this program so very much! Truly! I’m separated from my addicted husband now. I’m falling apart as we speak. I don’t want a divorce and there is no communication right now. My kids are all hurting. I love him. But don’t love the separation. He won’t come home and blames me for kicking him out. Now we may loose our home.

Mar 25th
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Mary Elizabeth

It would be nice if we could include men in these podcasts, I work with several men who are struggling with their wives addictions.

Jan 5th
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Mary Elizabeth

This podcast has changed my life for the better, it brings me peace to know I am not alone. Thank you.

Jan 5th
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Anita Pascal

this podcast has caused me to be more aware of my own personal issues.

Oct 9th
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Anita Pascal

very very helpful

Oct 9th
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Amanda Baker

Love ur podcast Michelle, u have helped me more than u will ever know!

Oct 7th
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Amanda Baker

The master class text is not working for me. Can anyone help?

Oct 7th
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Txharv08

Great information but I can’t stand how she invites you to her website and downloads at the beginning and end of every podcast. It’s literally 50% of each podcast

Aug 30th
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Jen Rhode Hebard

This podcast has been a game changer in how I manage myself. The one person I do have control over!

Jul 16th
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