Loving BDSM

A podcast hosted by Kayla Lords and John Brownstone to share what a love of BDSM looks like in a loving relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. People new to the lifestyle or new to the idea that BDSM and love can mix will find something to learn or realize they're not alone in their experiences or feelings.

What’s Changed in our D/s | Updates from Old Episodes

We had technical issues last week which kept us from recording this episode, but we’re back! (Technically with new technical problems but those don’t impact the podcast, lol.) This week, we’re giving updates from... The post What’s Changed in our D/s | Updates from Old Episodes appeared first on Loving BDSM.

09-19
01:43:56

Is Kink Being Normalized or Is It Just Going Viral?

This week, we look at some of the most recent viral trends that borrow from kink and ask, “Is kink becoming mainstream?” In this episode: Kinkery is having a Labor Day sale! Use code... The post Is Kink Being Normalized or Is It Just Going Viral? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

09-05
01:41:19

Chaotically Answering Kink Questions from Our Inbox

After multiple weeks locked out of our own email inbox, we’re finally back in and celebrating by answering the questions that were waiting for us just like we would for our Monday Q&A episodes... The post Chaotically Answering Kink Questions from Our Inbox appeared first on Loving BDSM.

08-29
01:10:31

BDSM Reddit Response

This week, we’re responding to questions and situations from the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: There’s still time to enter the podcast anniversary giveaway. Can a Dom “take away” a safeword? My... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

08-22
01:19:15

It’s Our 10th Podcast Anniversary!

Somehow, someway, we’ve managed to keep the chaos going for exactly 10 years! In this week’s episode, we take a look at how we got here, then we do our “job” of helping folks... The post It’s Our 10th Podcast Anniversary! appeared first on Loving BDSM.

08-15
01:51:37

Our Experience Using the Obedience App

We’ve spent the past couple of months using the free version of the Obedience app, and now we’re ready to share how we’ve used it and how it’s helped us. Spoiler: We like the... The post Our Experience Using the Obedience App appeared first on Loving BDSM.

08-08
01:15:38

Our Uneven, Non-Linear Return to Our D/s Life

This week’s episode is a “ripped from the pages of our life” kind of topic. We recently had a long conversation where Kayla shared some of what she needs as a submissive, but JB... The post Our Uneven, Non-Linear Return to Our D/s Life appeared first on Loving BDSM.

08-01
01:27:47

Princess Treatment vs Power Exchange

A non-kinky version of “princess treatment” has gone viral recently but when there were comparisons made to power exchange, we decided to learn more. Here’s what princess treatment is – according to the original... The post Princess Treatment vs Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

07-18
01:35:41

Answering 10 Unhinged Relationship Questions

This week, we’re answering more Therapy Jeff questions – this time “unhinged” relationship questions. In this episode: Register for a free BDSM bootcamp: Jumpstart Your BDSM Journey Therapy Jeff is a therapist on IG... The post Answering 10 Unhinged Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

07-11
01:05:52

Ethics and Responsibilities in High-Risk Kink Play

All kink carries some level of risk but certain activities are known to be genuinely dangerous. Should kinksters who engage in these scenes – with full consent from both parties – be “allowed” to... The post Ethics and Responsibilities in High-Risk Kink Play appeared first on Loving BDSM.

07-04
01:07:58

Adding Kink to Special Occasions

Thanks to Xetheriel aka X for this week’s topic. Let’s talk about how to incorporate kink into special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, etc. In this episode: Thanks to X for this week’s topic. Spending... The post Adding Kink to Special Occasions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

06-27
01:07:54

What We’re Still Learning About Each Other

This week, we share – with each other and y’all – things we’ve figured out about ourselves that has changed over time. Not much to “learn” from this one other than that if you’ve... The post What We’re Still Learning About Each Other appeared first on Loving BDSM.

06-20
01:12:33

BDSM Reddit Response

We took an unscheduled break last week because Kayla got sick, but we’re back with a ranty BDSM Reddit response episode! In this episode: We’re on our new summer schedule. Subscribe to the Kinkery... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

06-13
01:06:09

Q&A: Am I Asking for Too Much From My Dominant?

This couple has been going through it for the past few years and have spent the past year in couples counseling, but they’re not where they were before. The submissive partner worries they may... The post Q&A: Am I Asking for Too Much From My Dominant? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

06-02
18:33

Kinky Q&A

We’re back from an extra long break and we’re easing in by answering your kinky questions! In this episode: We’re starting our summer live stream schedule the first week of June – 7pm ET... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

05-30
01:06:22

Q&A: What Do I Do as a Newly Single But Inexperienced Sub?

A submissive was introduced to BDSM by a former partner, but their relationship ended before any kinky exploration. Here’s the question: I met a Dom by accident on Tinder. He suggested I look into... The post Q&A: What Do I Do as a Newly Single But Inexperienced Sub? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

05-19
15:34

How to Be Consistent in D/s | Making D/s Work in the Real World

To us, the best way to be consistent in your power exchange – as a Dom or sub individually and together – is with a routine. In this episode, we’ll talk about the factors... The post How to Be Consistent in D/s | Making D/s Work in the Real World appeared first on Loving BDSM.

05-09
01:21:58

Q&A: How Do I Stop Apologizing While Topping?

A switch who’s new to topping keeps apologizing when their partner expresses (consensual) pain. Here’s the question: I’ve recently discovered my Switch side and Impact Topped for the first time at a kink event... The post Q&A: How Do I Stop Apologizing While Topping? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

05-05
13:20

D/s When You Take Care of Others | Making D/s Work in the Real World

Whether you’re a parent (now or in the future) or you are a caregiver for an adult in your life (now or in the future), it’s going to impact your power exchange. This week,... The post D/s When You Take Care of Others | Making D/s Work in the Real World appeared first on Loving BDSM.

05-02
01:22:03

Q&A: How Do I Convince My Dom That I’m Ready for More?

This submissive knows they need to move slowly into D/s but nothing’s happening at all. Here’s the question: I’m 28 and am just figuring out that I want/need a Dominant partner. I’ve been kind... The post Q&A: How Do I Convince My Dom That I’m Ready for More? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

04-28
15:06

Grayson Smith

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05-27 Reply

Afsaneh Bahadori

Hi guys, I wanted to thank you for the podcast. I have a question, did you have another channel before? Cause I see episodes from 63 not before

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Zac C

you can not have a set of balls and not be a man according to biological science lmfao

08-14 Reply

Eric Cartman

I love BDSM and I think it's just awesome and you can't do without it if you want to really rest your body and soul. But it's often hard to find even an interlocutor on the subject, because it's often taboo and people try not to talk about it publicly. But I found a great social network here https://bdsmlr.com/ where you can discuss this topic with anyone, there are all like-minded people. It's cool and nice for me personally. I recommend it.

11-24 Reply

CC

not all the episodes loaded. starts at LB063 here. I found LB001 at https://lovingbdsm.net/2015/08/27/anyone-can-be-kinky-lb001/

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