Magnetic Mismatch

We reminisce about our first year of marriage and wonder how the heck we survived! Listen as we share our ups, downs, hilarious stories about piling dirty dishes, Will fighting for bed real estate, how we handle arguments, and some of the lessons we've learned so far in our 10+ year relationship. We definitely don't have all the answers or claim to be experts, but we hope that by sharing our experiences it will help, comfort, entertain and inspire you! 0:00 Intro 4:27 Why Will took forever to propose 10:06 Self love comes first 17:53 Living together & pet peeves 27:53 Tidiness vs cleanliness 32:31 War of territories 38:10 Problems in the bedroom 41:50 Housekeeper saved our marriage 48:44 Prioritizing time for each other 54:00 Why we podcast 57:20 Communication is everything 1:02:55 Being right or being married 1:06:35 Takeaways & lessons learned

What are you doing during the coronavirus lockdown? Sometimes in life, bad things WILL happen. The question is how will you CHOOSE to respond? We share some ideas and what we are doing to stay sane, healthy and how to make the most of the current situation. Some ideas include learning new skills, reconnecting with people, being leaders & role models, and supporting each other as fellow human beings. Stay safe out there!   0:00 Intro 0:48 Welcome banter 2:28 Start of topic 5:18 Cabin fever 7:10 Best use of time 9:30 Ideas to be productive 19:10 Parents & kids at home 24:10 Talking to your Kids 27:01 You have a choice 27:25 Gratefulness & Reconnecting 32:18 Take care of health 35:51 Helping others 43:39 Be a good role model 47:50 Don’t isolate yourself 51:53 Your actions matter 55:26 Takeaways & lessons Learned  

Who doesn't want a life of happiness & fulfillment? It's crazy how much we sacrifice to get to where we want only to be disappointed with a feeling of emptiness, and chase after the next thing in a never-ending cycle. One of the most important lessons that we've learned is to be present & grateful for what we already have right now. By practicing gratitude, we've been able to better deal with stressful situations, and appreciate the little things in life that make it worth living.   0:00 Intro 0:38 Welcome banter 2:04 Start of topic 4:34 Practicing gratitude 5:54 Never-ending chase for more 7:45 Feeling empty inside 11:42 Changing your mindset 15:19 Our morning ritual 19:04 You are already blessed 23:19 Taking our parents to Italy 27:14 Stranded in Europe 30:58 How you respond is everything 37:23 Go with the flow 39:09 What we’re grateful for 44:29 Happiness is a choice

We share our experience growing up in the U.S. with immigrant parents, and being torn between 2 identities as Asian Americans. We laugh about our childhood memories and struggles with areas like education, dating, money, dealing with conflict, etc. Looking back now as adults we really appreciate our parents being so hard on us because it gave us wonderful values and principles to live by, and pass on to others. 0:00 Intro 1:07 Welcome banter 2:25 Start of topic 4:10 Chinese school & music 16:04 Asian parents love comparing 23:36 Saving money & school uniforms 31:34 Strict parents 36:53 No dating until you're married 42:00 Disobeying parents & thinking for yourself 49:27 Bullying and not fighting back 53:52 Too busy to get in trouble 57:40 Skid row and tough love 1:02:09 Embarrassed of Asian food 1:06:40 Takeaways & lessons learned

We believe that food plays a critical role in every part of our health including the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual aspects. It even has the power to impact the quality of our relationships as well, the connection just might not be so obvious. In this episode, we share our story of how poor eating habits led to low energy, bad moods, arguments, and ultimately a turning point in our lives for the sake of our well-being, relationship, and future. 0:00 Intro 1:17 Welcome banter 1:45 Start of topic 4:23 Poor eating habits 8:11 Obese and not know it 10:15 Food guilt 13:52 Dominant partner wins 16:00 Will burns down kitchens 20:51 Negative impact of food 25:44 Change or die 31:10 Will didn’t know he was obese 33:34 Uncomfortable conversations 36:38 Change is hard 40:40 Stronger together 44:03 Small changes add up 47:34 Junk food is addictive 49:20 It’s a lifestyle not a fad

Traveling is one of the best experiences you will ever have in your life. Go on an adventure, see historical wonders, meet interesting people, and eat delicious food all over the world. We talk about how traveling has helped us expand our perspective, be more empathetic, resourceful, and grow as people. Come discover the invaluable lessons we've learned through exploring and experiencing this amazing place we call Earth.   0:00 Intro 0:55 Welcome banter 1:44 Thank you to our listeners 4:14 Start of topic 9:48 Why we love traveling 12:52 The world is huge 17:42 Expanding your perspective 19:18 Will’s first time 22:24 Linda’s favorite country 26:11 Will proposes in Italy 28:56 Unforgettable memories 30:53 Documenting your journey 37:27 Go with the flow 41:27 Travel teaches you a lot 46:29 Enjoy the moment 51:13 Budgeting for travel

IMPORTANT: This was recorded before the quarantine. We talk about how our friendships have evolved over time as we’ve gotten older, and what we value now in our 30s. We share our views on self love, outgrowing and cutting out toxic people, expanding our social circle, and maintaining quality friendships as life gets busier.   0:00 Intro 0:42 Welcome banter 2:26 Start of topic 3:52 Young vs old 5:57 Bullying 8:39 Need to be accepted 10:21 No tolerance for BS 12:50 Real vs fake friends 14:41 Get rid of toxic people 19:00 Life changes friendships 21:01 Expand your social circle 29:54 Hold on to good people 35:31 Nurturing friendships 39:20 You have to make time

**IMPORTANT NOTE: this episode was recorded before the quarantine!** Should you get into a long distance relationship? Linda and Will share their experiences and thoughts on what they've learned from their 1 year living apart in separate states, and how it actually strengthened their relationship. They also talk about strategies and tactics they've used to maintain and rekindle relationships with friends and family who live far away.   0:00 Intro 0:33 Welcome banter 4:48 Start of topic 7:41 Plan for success 9:44 Growing apart from family 14:21 Visiting parents 17:09 Will’s new nickname 22:28 Be present 24:42 Our long distance relationship 29:12 Growth from being apart 32:54 Setting expectations 37:30 Negotiations & sacrifices 42:43 Takeaways & lessons learned

Should you have a traditional or modern wedding? If you're like us, we wanted our special day to not only be memorable, but also make sure that our parents feel like they had their input as well. Not an easy task! Growing up in America with Asian immigrant parents, we definitely struggled with finding a balance between having a more modern western style wedding, and including more traditional elements from our cultural heritage. In this episode, we share some hilarious stories about Will's clash with his mom including picking auspicious dates, guest size, tea ceremony, and superstitious rituals.    0:00 Intro 0:44 Welcome banter 1:11 Start of topic 5:24 Traditional vs modern 9:57 Chinese wedding 15:24 300 people guest list 17:29 Funny superstitions  22:08 Will’s mom trolls him 30:08 Arguing with the parents 32:50 Finding a balance 35:58 You can’t please everyone 37:48 Takeaways & lessons learned

Let's face it, marriage is TOUGH! No matter how much you may love each other in the early stages of your relationship, life happens and things change. No one decides to get married expecting the relationship to fail, but the reality is that sometimes it just doesn't end up working out as planned. That's why we believe that it's important to at least discuss and consider if a prenup might be in the best interest of both you, your partner, and kids/loved ones. It's a touchy subject to be sure, so we discuss the pros & cons of a prenup and how to approach having a conversation with your future spouse.   0:00 Intro 0:46 Welcome banter 1:24 Start of topic 4:00 Celebrity prenups 6:06 Talk with your partner 8:08 How do you bring it up 11:22 Transparency is key 16:15 It’s not just about you 23:14 Do your research 26:12 It’s all about communication

Does money buy you happiness? It certainly is a big part of our lives, and we work every day to obtain more. Yet, have you ever truly taken the time and effort to ask yourself exactly why you get up every day to work for money? What makes you happy, and how much money do you really need to make that happen? Linda & Will share their thoughts about money growing up, and how that changed over time as they became aware of their own limiting beliefs.   0:00 Intro 1:02 Welcome banter 4:12 Start of topic 5:33 Beliefs about money 8:23 Are rich people evil 13:26 Define what makes you happy 18:43 What is your why 24:50 Strategies for success 29:10 Your beliefs are your reality 33:43 Money gives you options

Are you taking care of yourself regularly? Whether it's a relaxing day at the spa, a energetic workout or just a nice chat over coffee with friends, it's critical to practice self care. Life can get so busy that sometimes we forget to pay attention to our own well-being, and this can have a major impact on our relationships as well as our overall health. In this episode, Linda & Will discuss what self care means to them from the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual aspects. They share how they've learned the importance of self care in order to be at their best for their loved ones and best serve the world.    0:00 Intro 1:15 Welcome banter 3:33 Start of topic 5:50 What is self care 7:29 Physical care 23:42 Mental care 38:24 Emotional care 43:52 Take care of you 47:47 Spiritual care 50:52 Takeaways & lessons learned

Did you grow up in the 90s? We sure did! In this episode, we take a trip down memory lane and share some fond memories about what it was like growing up in a simpler time before the internet, smart phones and social media consumed our society. Come reminisce and laugh with us as we share stories about floppy disks, dial-up internet, Will’s first PC, beepers, childhood cartoons, and many more! It was a really fun episode to make, and we plan on doing a part 2, so stay tuned!   0:00 Intro 1:02 Welcome banter 2:06 Start of topic 4:50 Before the internet 12:55 How we communicate 20:20 Why are you calling me 22:30 AOL CDs 26:53 Cassettes & Walkmans 32:21 Dial Up internet 33:21 Cable TV & cartoons 36:28 Thomas guides & yellow pages 40:31 Toys R Us 44:04 The mall & glam photos 48:02 90s fashion 49:40 Childhood nostalgia

How has technology changed the way we date today? Having grown up during the pre and post smart phone era, Linda and Will share their unique insight on how they feel technology has changed the social dynamics and the way we interact with each other today especially when it comes to dating and romantic relationships. Listen in as they talk about both the positive and negative impact of social media, online profiles, and dating apps and how they have perhaps created an overwhelming amount of options and unrealistic expectations when finding a partner.   0:00 Intro 1:01 Welcome banter 3:53 Start of topic 4:30 Online dating stigma 6:04 Dating in the 90s 12:38 Technology changed the game 19:07 Matchmaking 20:27 Introverts need love too 24:04 Too many options 29:01 Taste the rainbow 31:31 Social media stalking 34:40 Playing the field or settle down 37:23 Women are from Venus 38:24 Safety & background checks 43:07 Put yourself out there 45:01 Love is worth the risks

As a young adult in your 20s, the world is still full of possibilities, excitement, and everything is still so new, waiting to be discovered. It's also a time when you might not really know who you are, what you stand for or what you want out of life yet, and that's totally OK. In this episode, Will & Linda have fun discussing what they wish they knew in their 20s now that they are "smarter and wiser" in their 30s. We hope to share important lessons, habits, and perspectives that we've learned through our experiences and maybe help you with your journey no matter what age or where you are right now in life.   0:00 Intro 0:43 Welcome banter 1:48 Start of topic 3:19 Not knowing what you want 6:12 Sample & experiment 8:03 Expand your perspective 9:30 The safe lane 10:33 Fear of failure 16:22 Slow down to speed up 22:00 Burning out 26:57 Asking for help 29:45 Build your network 31:45 Protect your time 33:00 Take risks & explore 36:54 Takeaways & lessons learned

When you think of home, what does that look like for you? What does it smell and feel like? To us, our home is where we can feel safe and truly be ourselves. It’s not necessarily the physical location that matters most, but who you’re with and what vibe you create that makes it home. In this episode, Linda and Will discuss their thoughts on what home is to them, and why it’s so important to build it with intention for a healthy relationship and life together.   0:00 Intro 1:08 Welcome banter 4:34 Start of topic 7:03 Warm and loving 8:39 Do you need a mansion 11:43 Our ideal home 16:51 Pets 19:40 Building memories 22:22 Humble beginnings 23:17 Safe haven 27:04 Takeaways & lessons learned

We often hear that getting older sucks, and while there are definitely parts of it that do, we've found that life has gotten better as we've aged. There's a certain beauty that only comes with time and experience, pain and lessons learned. In this episode, we dive deep into what we want our old age to look like, and the things we want to accomplish during this short time on Earth because Time is truly our greatest asset. We share our thoughts on the importance of leaving a lasting impact and legacy, and living a life without regret.   0:00 Intro 1:14 Welcome banter 4:27 Start of topic 8:00 Stigma of aging 11:07 Living with no regrets 13:52 Legacy 19:40 Living with urgency 22:36 Protect your dreams 24:30 Learning to say no 30:14 What do you really want 32:54 Living fearlessly 35:27 Takeaways & lessons learned

Do you remember what you were like as a child? When you were fearless and didn't learn the limiting beliefs you have today as an adult? What about your boundless imagination, unlimited creativity, sense of wonder, adventure, and the biggest dreams you could think of? In this episode, Linda & Will have fun chatting about what traits they miss from their childhood that they wish they still had today. It might be surprising, but sometimes those child-like characteristics could actually be invaluable traits to help us today and in the future.    0:00 Intro 1:10 Welcome banter 2:27 Start of topic 4:04 Creativity & imagination 16:38 Lost childhood traits 19:06 Fearlessness 23:00 Hating my own voice 25:50 Trauma & wounds 29:15 Curiosity & hunger to learn 34:33 Dreaming big 43:22 Regaining your talents 49:55 Staying positive

If you have found a partner whom you can share laughs, cries, ups, downs and all arounds with in life, consider yourselves very fortunate! However, don’t get too comfortable once you’ve found that person. It takes hard work and commitment to nurture and protect the beautiful relationship that you share. In this episode, Will & Linda remind the listeners and themselves the importance of regularly letting your spouse or partner know how much you appreciate having them in your life. Remember, tomorrow is not guaranteed, so make today count! 0:00 Intro 1:01 Welcome banter 1:25 Start of topic 5:00 Will compliments Linda 11:27 Linda keeps it real 14:59 Law of reciprocity 18:04 Learning to listen 24:28 Speaking up 29:29 Insecurities 32:30 Appreciate each other 37:48 Takeaways & lessons learned

Do you remember your last heartbreak? It might be a distant memory now, but at the time it might have felt like your whole world was falling apart. In this episode, Linda and Will share some insight on their last relationships and how they overcame their emotions and feelings. More importantly, they share some of the lessons they learned and how that helped them to grow and learn as people.   0:00 Intro 1:16 Welcome banter 2:48 Start of topic 4:01 Broken heart 9:37 Linda is a heartbreaker 14:03 Drama-free 17:12 Tactics for coping 19:42 Jaded & self destruction 24:00 Focus on you 26:42 Stronger than before 28:49 Takeaways & lessons learned