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Author: Julie Merica

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@MYDBpodcast is a real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed every morning. Build momentum - better your life. Each season is 66 days long to encourage long term healthy habit integration into your daily life. Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained on or available through this web site is for general information purposes only. This content is presented on an "as-is" basis.

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Regardless of where you’re at shouldn’t be any extra shame when dealing with your emotional process. It’s hard enough as is and society really did us all dirty with this shit. So grieve. Be angry about it. And remember that anger and sadness (when released appropriately) are both healthy emotional reactions to fear. And the biggest threat to fear is love. So welcome any unwanted emotions with love and remember - you’re a human who is not only allowed but encouraged to feel the full spectrum of emotions - no matter what anyone has ever told you in the past.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 231 || Who Am I?

Day 231 || Who Am I?

2021-09-2505:01

Are you a person who acts mostly out of fear or acts mostly out of love? Do you show up to your day to day tasks because you feel like you have to and are afraid of the repercussions if you didn’t - or are you someone who shows up to your life because of love for yourself?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Familiar will typically always be more comfortable than the unfamiliar. Even if that familiar is fairly unhealthy. Many people are miserable and comfortable. Many people can find comfort in sadness. There is no shame in it, because often, we’re so used to the sadness, anger, or shame that we don’t even realize there is another way. Push yourself to be uncomfortable when it means you may find more peace or joy in the future. Allow yourself to find comfort and ease in the good, and not just the familiar.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
You’re allowed to take breaks - even from your partners - to reassess, come back, and refocus on what you need, expect, and desire in a relationship - and you can do so without burning bridges. IF you wait too long to address something, it can infect itself and cause bigger problems in the future. Why amputate if you could’ve just cleaned the scrape properly as soon as you noticed it? Try not to burn bridges that don’t need to be burnt. Communicate openly, with consideration for the other person’s feelings, and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Taking a break may feel hard - but it’s less hard than burning bridges you may want to walk along in the future.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
I talk about the importance of recognizing nuance in everything all the time - but we still often fall back into black and white, all or nothing thinking patterns that can cause us more harm than good. Let yourself be intuitive and make decisions from a place that feels good instead of afraid. It can and often will be both. You will have reasons to stay and reasons to go. You will have reasons to quit and reasons to try. You’ll have reasons to start and reasons to procrastinate further. You’ll have people who love you break your heart and you’ll both forgive them and fall into rage fits in the shower over the audacity of their behavior towards you who did nothing but love them. This is why change is hard. It’s why it feels nearly impossible to cut people off completely because normally people aren’t 100% bad - and often we’re able to hold on Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
I think we get inundated with the knowledge that information, tools, and assistance is limitless - and we don’t often know where to begin. Start with something that feels realistic to your now. What tool can you integrate into your routine today that will help you tomorrow. Remember that new habits and routines take lots of time to get used to - and feel good doing consistently - but you’re allowed to change and drop and fix and simplify and complicate whatever the fuck you want anytime you want. You’re in charge of your life - but don’t forget there are plenty of people who think just like you - who have created tools that may help make your day to day living a bit easier.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
It’s about doing what works for you - at a pace that feels good for you. It’s about finding your path to success in whatever that means to you. And since this is a new path for you - and you’re a unique individual - there is no right or wrong way through a forest - You just have to start clearing a path that makes sense to you.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Get in the Practice of making and keeping promises to yourself that make your life better in the long run - and not just the now.  Start by setting an intention for the week. You may want to think about a goal you’ve had for a long time - or something you struggle with committing to - or maybe something more specific like writing a screenplay or something big like starting college or a mindful intention like getting healthy. Whatever it is, once you’ve chosen your overarching goal - You will want to break up that task into bite sized, realistic, manageable pieces.  By setting a reasonable daily goal to get you towards that intention and continuing to keep promises to yourself, your confidence in yourself and the project itself will increase.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
It’s important to allow yourself criticism but it's also just as important to expect other adults to bear constructive, fair, and essential criticism too. If they get defensive and angry - that isn’t necessarily a safe place for growth. If we all want to achieve better - we have to get comfortable taking, offering, and accepting that none of us are perfect.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
There is nothing better than getting a lurking task off of your to do list - especially if it’s been nagging you for more than a few weeks. Get out of your comfort zone - knock the shit out - then reward yourself for being such a bad ass. Instead of dreading that to do list every time you rewrite it and add the same old bullshit to the end of it, try breaking it up into manageable baby steps. Dedicate 10 minutes of intentional thought to the task every day for a few days and see if that helps build momentum around it. There are always ways to make things more enjoyable, by including someone’s company, adding music or entertainment options to the mix, or watching someone else on YouTube do it first. If you worry too much about the outcome or even the implications of what you have to do to get there - you may get overwhelmed - so instead, focus on the first step and take it. What MUST you do next to get started on the task - then do that.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Stop stressing and procrastinating because "it’s not going to be perfect” and make the process of planning it enjoyable - which will feel better than perfect could. Also, let’s not forget tastes change and the shit you’re obsessed with now may drive you up the wall in ten years. None of that specific shit really matters unless it’s genuinely sentimental to you.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Cars are a literal miracle we have become so used to - we forget how amazing it is. Think about the fuel itself. Gasoline is combustible, dangerous, and potentially deadly if not used properly. But if you harness that incredibly powerful resource, you can make cars drive across the country and literal airplanes fly into the sky. Our emotions are the same way. Both big emotions and jet fuel, can both cause immense destruction if they’re not controlled, or, on the contrary if you focus a more tactful release can create beautiful movement, expansion, and experience.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Feeling Good should be the focus of your day to day. This does not mean to only do the things that feel good in the moment - what it means is to actively decide to change the way you feel about the shit you have to do. It takes time and practice. Commit. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Your friends and loved ones often won’t feel comfortable inviting themselves into parts of your life because it’s yours and they don’t understand a thing about it. And, honestly, if that’s how you want to keep it, great. But if you feel like you’ve been lacking a sense of connection, don’t be afraid to occasionally allow the people you trust to join you where are you are you are your most comfortable and thriving! There’s something really magical about seeing people in their element. It can be incredibly inspiring of you to share your light with others and that means shining on your own, sometimes too.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
 Like anything, optimizing your space can be a slippery slope - and you may feel like it’s never perfect and can always be better. To you, I say relax. Fix what matters but recognize there is never a perfect solution to anything - and it’s about feeling your best. Stressing over what makes it the best is not feeling your best. Take a step back, ask yourself it’s working well enough for the time being, and move on.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Optimizing your space takes time, self awareness, and it means getting comfortable rearranging as often as you need to to ensure that your space continues working for you as you grow and change.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
The more you consciously DECIDE to feel excited about your healthier choices, the more your brain associates these healthy things with dopamine too. This is how people get addicted to working out and eating right. It starts with small, consistent changes, which we all know and hear about regularly but to me, the most important piece comes from the intentional choice of good feelings surrounding those healthy routines.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Jumping around searching desperately for a purpose is a lot more difficult than honing one based on the shit you’ve already got going for you - but that’s not to say, your next favorite thing isn’t right around the corner. Don’t be afraid to try out the new shit and rehash the old shit.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
Day 214 || Big Spender

Day 214 || Big Spender

2021-09-0805:43

Be conscious of your purchases because it is too often, too simple for us to go full Ariana grande and “I want it I bought it” ourselves into the cumbersome nightmare of amazon boxes and useless shit that didn’t actually feel good when you got it, had to unload it, or when you finally decided to get rid of it six years later and realized the tags were still on it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
If you’re like me and you struggle to limit your spending in any capacity - next time you want to buy something new, ask yourself this: Can I afford this? And Do I need this?If the answer is yes to both -great. Buy it! No hesitation. If you say nah I don’t need it and it’s worth it to you to buy it anyway - great. Buy the shit. And if you can’t afford it - that’s a case by case basis. But at least you’ve asked yourself the shit you were supposed to ask first so your purchase in itself - became a conscious practice. Which is really the only thing I ever really preach. Conscientiousness.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed-1. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
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great podcasts!

Mar 15th
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