Making The Change

Nik and Eva Speakman believe it’s cruel to take hope away from people. There might not be a clear solution to your problem today, but there might be tomorrow. As they explain, hope is not only scientifically proven to boost immune function and decrease pain, but having hope that there is an answer is what will make sure you keep searching for that answer rather than giving up.Someone who is proof you should never give up hope that you can get better is listener Betty, who had a very traumatic childhood. She joins the Speakmans to talk through how she went from consistently being told she was having break downs, to being the relaxed, happy woman she is now.CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains frank conversation about suicide, so please take care while listening.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Some names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidencehttps://smarturl.it/EverydayConfidenceMaking The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman have a pet hate, and it’s when people are told their issues are too ‘deep rooted’ to be resolved. If you weren’t born with a phobia or anxiety, you can get over it. To prove this point, they’re joined by listener Nina who suffered with emetophobia (a fear of vomit) for 57 years, before having her perspective changed in under 10 minutes at one of The Speakmans’ workshops.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Some names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidencehttps://smarturl.it/EverydayConfidenceMaking The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman talk through why what a bully does says more about them than it does about you. They’re joined by presenter, author, and DJ Gok Wan, who recalls his experiences of being belittled and called names at school, but explains why those incidents of bullying have shaped him into the compassionate, giving person he’s known as today. Together they all share how they’ve personally been able to turn negative experiences of both physical and mental bullying into positives, ultimately coming out the other side with as more confident people.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Some names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidencehttps://smarturl.it/EverydayConfidenceMaking The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman explain why a problem shared really is a problem halved. They believe that speaking is healing, as silence can make problems feel bigger when they only live inside your own head. Talking about trauma out loud takes power away from it. The process of speaking for the first time can be incredibly difficult, so the Speakmans talk through tips including rehearsing what you want to say, and writing your story down.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Some names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidencehttps://smarturl.it/EverydayConfidenceMaking The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman are joined by Jeremy and Ian, famously known as All On The Board on social media. They write positive poems and messages around mental health on the London Underground whiteboards. Their work is very personal; Jeremy has social anxiety, and Ian has a phobia of swallowing. The Speakmans help both of them look at their timelines to pin point the life events that brought on their anxieties.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media. Some names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidencehttps://smarturl.it/EverydayConfidence Making The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman are joined in their therapy room by The Chase’s ‘Vixen’ Jenny Ryan. Together, they explore their own experiences of how others have sabotaged their confidence, and how they’ve learnt to re-build their self-esteem. The Speakmans' advice includes setting clear boundaries with loved ones and looking back to change your perspective of painful experiences.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Some names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidencehttps://smarturl.it/EverydayConfidenceMaking The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman explore one of their twelve core schemas – the idea that anything is possible. They explain why we often create self-limiting boundaries that stop us achieving our full potential. It’s vital to believe that anything is possible because that’s what will ensure you keep looking for a solution. To prove their point, Nik and Eva invite Zion Clark on to the podcast. Born with no legs, Zion is now a professional wrestler and track and field athlete. He shares how surrounding himself with good people has helped him succeed.CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains frank conversation about suicide, so please take care while listening. To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media. Some names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidencehttps://smarturl.it/EverydayConfidence Zion Clark’s book, Zion Unmatched: https://zionclark.com/pages/about-the-book Making The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman explain why addiction is not a choice, that it’s a form of self-medication, and that the key is to understand what your brain’s positive intent in having this addiction is. A listener joins The Speakmans to talk through the technique that enabled her to stop eating the chocolate she was previously addicted to. Plus, Eva shares her own experience of how she gave up both chocolate and smoking.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Some names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidencehttps://smarturl.it/EverydayConfidenceMaking The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman talk through some of the lesser known symptoms of anxiety, including sweating, developing acne, and one that a listener writes in about – heaving. They explain why being able to recognise these things as symptoms will help you find the cause, and ultimately work towards healing the underlying trauma.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Some names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidencehttps://smarturl.it/EverydayConfidenceMaking The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman explain why setbacks don’t have to set you back in life, in fact, they can be a great opportunity to actively chose your next step. Daughter Liv pops in to explain how she turned her biggest setback into motivation to work even harder towards the future she wanted, and Queen of the Jungle Vicky Pattison also talks through why obstacles in her love life and career have ultimately made her the happy woman she is today.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Some names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidencehttps://smarturl.it/EverydayConfidenceMaking The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman are very clear that labels are for clothes, not people, as they generally only serve to as a burden that limits what we feel we’re capable of being or achieving. If you feel weighed down by labels like anxiety, OCD, or PTSD, it’s important to remember it’s not what’s wrong with you, it’s what happened to you. To prove the point that a change can always be made, Nik and Eva are joined by a listener who has transformed her life through building her confidence and learning to be kind to herself.CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains frank conversation about suicide, so please take care while listening.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Some names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Everyday Confidence: Boost your self-worth and build unshakeable confidencehttps://smarturl.it/EverydayConfidenceMaking The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman talk about how to cope with difficult relationships with family, especially over the festive period. They explain that when conflict arises in families it’s not because either person is right or wrong, it’s because they each have different expectations of the relationship and what it means to be a family, so learning to empathise and understand their point of view will always help release tension. Plus, how might looking at your own self-esteem help your relationships with others?To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Books by the Speakmans:Conquering Anxiety: Stop worrying, beat stress and feel happy againhttps://amzn.to/2XNVE48 Winning at Weight Loss: Achieve your slimming goals, enjoy food and feel great againhttps://amzn.to/2YsvNOy Making The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman tackle disordered eating – everything from overeating and undereating, to phobias of certain foods and kids who are fussy eaters. They discuss why these problems might be exacerbated over the festive period, but also give advice to begin tackling your specific issue whenever you’re ready. Eva explains why and how her anorexia developed, and Nick reflects on being a fussy eater as a child.TW: This episode contains in depth discussion of eating disorders, so please take care when listening if you need.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Books by the Speakmans:Conquering Anxiety: Stop worrying, beat stress and feel happy againhttps://amzn.to/2XNVE48 Winning at Weight Loss: Achieve your slimming goals, enjoy food and feel great againhttps://amzn.to/2YsvNOy Making The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman weigh up the pros and cons of smart phone use. On the one hand, they can be great for your mental health – they can help you connect with loved ones and relive fun memories. However, they can also have a detrimental effect on your self-esteem. The Speakmans explain how to spot the warning signs that your phone use is having a negative effect on the rest of your life, before talking through tips that will help you turn your habits around, making you less anxious, and more confident.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Books by the Speakmans:Conquering Anxiety: Stop worrying, beat stress and feel happy againhttps://amzn.to/2XNVE48 Winning at Weight Loss: Achieve your slimming goals, enjoy food and feel great againhttps://amzn.to/2YsvNOy Making The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman explain what they mean when they say you should ‘fake it ‘til you make it’. Want to feel more confident in social settings or at a job interview? Study the people you admire in those situations and copy their behaviours – after all, changing your outward behaviour first can change how you think and feel on the inside. Nik, Eva, and daughter Liv all talk about the times in their lives that they’ve stepped out of their comfort zones despite not feeling completely ready …and all the stories have brilliant endings!To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Books by the Speakmans:Conquering Anxiety: Stop worrying, beat stress and feel happy againhttps://amzn.to/2XNVE48 Winning at Weight Loss: Achieve your slimming goals, enjoy food and feel great againhttps://amzn.to/2YsvNOy Making The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman explain why panic attacks are your body’s way of protecting you and keeping you safe. Creating a timeline will help make sense of your panic long term, but what are some mechanisms to pause the panic in the moment? They talk through how sighing, focusing in on your senses, and saying thank you to your body could be useful for you. Nik and Eva also open up about what triggers panic for them personally, including late night phone calls and bumps to the head.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Books by the Speakmans:Conquering Anxiety: Stop worrying, beat stress and feel happy againhttps://amzn.to/2XNVE48 Winning at Weight Loss: Achieve your slimming goals, enjoy food and feel great againhttps://amzn.to/2YsvNOy Making The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman explain how to identify if you’re experiencing a lack of confidence and self-belief. Do you struggle to accept compliments from other people? Do you justify your achievements as ‘just good luck?’ Do you often compare yourself to others? The Speakmans talk through how to pinpoint where in your life your low self-esteem might come from - including parents getting divorced, a comment from a school teacher, or perhaps social media - and how to build your confidence for the future.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Books by the Speakmans:Conquering Anxiety: Stop worrying, beat stress and feel happy againhttps://amzn.to/2XNVE48 Winning at Weight Loss: Achieve your slimming goals, enjoy food and feel great againhttps://amzn.to/2YsvNOy Making The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman explain why they believe persistence outweighs talent. Their son Hunter makes an appearance, telling his parents what makes him commit to achieving goals he’s set himself. The Speakmans also talk through the inspiring stories of people like Henry Ford and Jim Carey, as well as those they’ve met at their workshops, as examples of how persistence pays off. To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Books by the Speakmans:Conquering Anxiety: Stop worrying, beat stress and feel happy againhttps://amzn.to/2XNVE48Winning at Weight Loss: Achieve your slimming goals, enjoy food and feel great againhttps://amzn.to/2YsvNOy Making The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman talk through why a bad day doesn’t equal a bad life. Do you feel like a panic attack turned a bad day into a bad life? That’s exactly what happened to a number of people the Speakmans have helped, including a woman who was agoraphobic. They explain how timelines and celebrating positive outcomes can help you learn to reframe what you think of as bad days.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Books by the Speakmans:Conquering Anxiety: Stop worrying, beat stress and feel happy againhttps://amzn.to/2XNVE48 Winning at Weight Loss: Achieve your slimming goals, enjoy food and feel great againhttps://amzn.to/2YsvNOy Making The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nik and Eva Speakman explain the thinking behind one of their favourite phrases: “when doubt comes in, kick it out”. Maybe you’re doubting whether you can get that promotion, pass that exam, or even ask someone out on a date… the Speakmans talk through how disregarding the people who don’t support you and writing a list of achievements could help.Plus, daughter Liv pops in for a cup of tea and a chat about when her university neuroscience professor doubted she was capable of understanding the course.To ask a question or share your own story use the hashtag #MakingTheChange on social media.Names and identifying details in this podcast have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.Books by the Speakmans:Conquering Anxiety: Stop worrying, beat stress and feel happy againhttps://amzn.to/2XNVE48 Winning at Weight Loss: Achieve your slimming goals, enjoy food and feel great againhttps://amzn.to/2YsvNOy Making The Change is produced by Anouszka Tate for Orion Publishing Ltd  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.