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The ManTalks podcast features conversations between one of the leading men’s work facilitators, Connor Beaton, and world class guests with expertise in mindset, life purpose, psychology, relational communication, sexual intimacy, business and spirituality. For more information about ManTalks go to: http://www.mantalks.com
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I break down what emotional intelligence truly means for men and why so many of us get it wrong. I talk about the four traps that keep men disconnected from their emotional life and how these patterns sabotage leadership, relationships, and self-trust.I also share a simple 3A framework you can use to build real emotional mastery without losing your edge. If you’re a man who wants to lead with clarity, presence, and strength, this one’s for you.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Why Men Struggle With Emotional Intelligence01:07 - Emotions as Data03:37 - The Myth of the Stoic Leader06:09 - The Four Traps Men Fall Into12:44 - Understanding Empathy & Boundaries15:42 - What Healthy Masculine Leadership Really Is17:20 - Seneca, Self-Conquest & Misinterpretations18:25 - The 3A Model of Emotional Intelligence23:30 - The Call for Modern Masculine Leadership24:53 - Adaptability & Regulation for the Future25:38 - Final Challenge to Men***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I sit down with Dr. Orion Taraban to break down what’s really happening in the modern dating and relationship landscape. We get into why dynamics between men and women have shifted, how power works in relationships, and what actually drives attraction today. Orion and I challenge a lot of popular narratives and get honest about what men need to focus on to succeed relationally. This one pulls no punches.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Modern dating is deteriorating04:50 Tech, AI, and dehumanized dating10:30 Double standards in attraction15:45 How the marketplace really works22:00 What makes men attractive27:40 Love vs relationship dynamics33:55 Power shifts in modern relationships41:10 Cultural narratives and ideology48:00 Optionality and relationship power55:00 What men should focus on01:02:00 Where to find Dr. Orion***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I unpack the subtle and often misunderstood behavior known as avoidant gaslighting. I explore why avoidant partners distort truth, not always to manipulate, but to protect themselves, and how these patterns create distance and erode trust. You’ll learn how to recognize this behavior, respond without escalating, and set boundaries that foster accountability and connection.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - What is avoidant gaslighting?02:50 - Truth distortion and misremembering05:26 - “The Turn” and shifting blame07:39 - Why avoidants retreat from closeness10:04 - How to name and address the behavior13:42 - Tools for shared accountability15:56 - Avoidant awareness vs. defensiveness17:27 - Building reflection and self-awareness***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I sit down with my guest to explore the pain that shaped his relationships, especially the deep wound left by his father. Together, we uncover how childhood neglect and emotional distance can carry into adulthood, shaping how men love, trust, and show up. You’ll hear the raw, unfiltered process of reconnection, forgiveness, and reclaiming the parts of ourselves we’ve hidden for too long.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - The struggle to connect in relationships03:00 - Unpacking the father wound06:00 - Facing hidden grief and sadness10:00 - Speaking truth to his father17:00 - Releasing anger and old pain21:00 - Becoming the father he needed29:00 - What he hides in love33:00 - Healing the relationship with his dad35:00 - Embracing the inner child41:00 - Learning to express and reconnect***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I break down one of the biggest imbalances destroying modern relationships — the lack of reciprocity in expectations between men and women. I talk about how men are often taught to meet every expectation a woman has, but rarely to define their own standards. I’ll share how this dynamic leads to resentment, imbalance, and frustration, and what men can do to restore integrity, respect, and balance in their relationships.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – The core imbalance in modern relationships00:57 – What women are taught vs. what men are taught02:44 – The cost of overgiving and having no standards06:17 – Bringing your own expectations into relationships09:13 – The moving target of expectations10:40 – Restoring balance and reciprocity12:22 – Knowing your value and defining your standards14:11 – Communicating expectations and setting boundaries16:55 – Don’t reward disrespect18:50 – Expect deeply, love generously***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I sit down with Glen Henry, creator of Belief in Fatherhood and author of Father Yourself First, to talk about the real work of becoming a better man and father. We dive into the challenges modern dads face—balancing ambition, healing our own wounds, and showing up with patience and presence. Glen shares raw insights on building relational equity, repairing trust, and learning to father yourself before fathering others. This one’s a heartfelt and honest look at fatherhood that every man needs to hear.Buy Glen's book here:https://a.co/d/3EP2YoDSHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – The biggest challenges fathers face02:40 – The crisis of absent fathers05:00 – Mentorship and the power of guides08:20 – Storytelling and fatherhood in Black culture12:00 – Entering fatherhood with fear and purpose17:20 – Accepting your child’s invitations22:00 – Learning patience and self-compassion28:40 – Healing, failure, and forgiveness31:40 – What it means to father yourself38:20 – The power of proof and mentorship43:30 – Adventure, play, and connection49:10 – Managing ambition and presence56:40 – Rebuilding trust with your kids01:00:25 – Understanding relational equity01:02:20 – Glen’s message for fathers everywhere***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | a...
I dive into how to desexualize your brain and regain control of your impulses in just 30 days. I break down the neuroscience of cravings, why willpower alone doesn’t work, and how to rewire your brain to stop falling into old patterns. I also share a practical five-step plan that you can follow to take back control of your urges and direct your energy where it matters most. This isn’t about shame—it’s about building trust, self-respect, and leadership within yourself.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Why impulse control matters01:47 – You’re not weak, just conditioned02:57 – How porn rewires your brain07:42 – The 3 forces behind urges12:22 – Step 1: Identify your triggers14:33 – Step 2: Redesign your environment16:44 – Step 3: Urge surfing19:38 – Step 4: Implement intentions21:03 – Step 5: Build your dopamine menu24:00 – Closing thoughts***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I sit down with John Lee to unpack the critical difference between anger and rage. John shares his decades of experience helping men and women understand how rage can destroy connection, while healthy anger can build intimacy and trust. We explore the generational cycles of rage, how it gets passed down to children, and what it takes to break free. If you’ve ever struggled with anger or felt trapped in rage, this conversation will hit home.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:10 – Welcome back, John Lee00:37 – Anger vs Rage02:11 – Why Rage Never Resolves04:24 – Rage Is Contagious06:29 – The Illusion of Control08:04 – Enragers and Outragers11:38 – Fathers, Sons, and Rage13:50 – No Models for Healthy Anger16:08 – Anger as Sacred Energy20:08 – Rage Equals Pain for Children23:19 – Facing Personal Rage24:24 – Four Styles of Rage27:11 – Where Healing Begins30:30 – Sobriety and Rage32:57 – Why Men Resist Rage Work36:59 – Reconnecting to the Body41:13 – Why Rage Work Isn’t Filmed44:06 – Gentle Practices to Reduce Rage48:58 – Expressing Anger Appropriately52:37 – Boundaries Around Rage53:45 – Closing Thoughts***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook |
I explore what it truly means to build self-worth as a man in a world that often tells us we’re not enough. Drawing from Nietzsche’s philosophy, I unpack how struggle, suffering, and the act of becoming shape our sense of value. This isn’t about chasing external validation or perfection - it’s about forging yourself into someone you respect. Join me as I share personal insights, lessons from fatherhood, and why facing life’s fire might be the path to authentic self-worth.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - The age of hollow men01:19 - Nietzsche and the bridge of becoming03:36 - Do it scared05:23 - The forge of suffering08:31 - Will to power and masculine expansion11:37 - Building ManTalks and facing judgment12:19 - The enemies of self-worth16:04 - The act of becoming19:25 - Living dangerously and becoming whole***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I sit down with Monica Yates for a raw and honest conversation about modern relationships, polarity, and the evolving dynamics between men and women. We dive into why true intimacy isn’t about splitting everything 50/50, why safety matters more than equality in relationships, and how both men and women can better understand their roles without falling into resentment. This one will challenge assumptions, spark debate, and hopefully leave you with some clarity about love, respect, and partnership.A Man's Guide to Period Phases:https://monicayateshealth.com/products/a-mans-guide-to-period-phasesFree resource from Monica YatesSHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Opening thoughts09:00 – Men losing purpose in modern culture12:00 – Breadwinners and shifting expectations31:00 – Bathrooms, chivalry, and respect42:00 – Safety over equality in relationships46:00 – Roles, polarity, and fulfillment53:00 – Masculinity, emotions, and balance01:05:00 – Leadership, attraction, and standing firm***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I take you on a deep dive into the Father Wound through a Jungian lens. I explore how your relationship with your father shapes your identity, sense of worth, and connection to the masculine. You’ll learn how this wound shows up in perfectionism, rebellion, or emotional distance—and discover five practical steps to begin healing and “fathering yourself.” This conversation is about reclaiming inner authority, developing discipline, and embodying a mature, grounded masculinity.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:01 - Introduction & Overview02:16 - Defining the Father Wound07:07 - The Father Archetype & Order10:06 - How the Wound Shows Up in Men15:01 - The Impact on Relationships17:00 - The Unlived Life of the Father19:28 - The Five Healing Steps26:15 - Rituals & Emotional Integration27:40 - Closing Reflections***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I sit down once again with Stephen Jenkinson to explore his latest work on matrimony, ritual, and the mothering of culture. We talk about how weddings have lost much of their meaning, what it means to return to vows with real weight, and how ritual can nourish not just a couple but an entire community. Stephen shares how he reconstructs ceremony from broken shards of tradition and why it matters now more than ever.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Introduction01:19 - Matrimony vs. Marriage06:10 - The Mothering of Culture13:32 - Rituals, Ceremony & Lost Meaning25:52 - Blessing and Vows45:55 - Creating Old Order Matrimony52:34 - Reimagining the Wedding Ritual01:04:38 - Remembering Ritual & Culture01:08:16 - Closing Thoughts***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I break down what complex trauma really is - and how it quietly shapes the way many men think, love, and connect. I share the difference between acute trauma and complex trauma, how it’s formed in childhood through neglect or inconsistency, and how these early wounds show up in adult relationships. Most importantly, I give you real, actionable tools to begin healing and reconnecting with your sense of safety and self-worth.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - The hidden struggle many men face02:23 - What complex trauma really means07:03 - How complex trauma is formed11:34 - The telltale signs and survival patterns17:55 - How to start healing complex trauma20:26 - Building safety in relationships24:11 - Learning to regulate your nervous system27:23 - Final thoughts and Carl Jung’s reminder***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I dive deep into what really happens to men in a sexless marriage — emotionally, psychologically, and biologically. I break down why rejection cuts so deeply, how it impacts a man’s confidence and identity, and what couples can do to rebuild trust, safety, and intimacy. Whether you’re in a relationship that’s lost its spark or trying to understand your partner better, this conversation offers a roadmap back to connection.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Why a sexless marriage hurts men02:53 – Rejection and the male nervous system05:25 – Hormonal and emotional fallout10:32 – When sex becomes a bargaining chip13:15 – Resentment and emotional withdrawal17:03 – How to start rebuilding intimacy22:54 – Practical steps for reconnection28:29 – Co-creating a new vision for your sex life31:06 – Final reflections and takeaways***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I explore the real roots of self-worth and why so many of us struggle with it despite doing “all the right things.” I share how childhood experiences shape attachment and how that impacts our ability to value ourselves as adults. I also break down the crucial practices that build self-worth — from expressing needs and boundaries to taking healthy risks. Finally, I open up about my own journey of failing my way to success and how you can begin your own process of healing.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – What really damages self-worth02:29 – Attachment and early development07:23 – Childhood shame and adult struggles11:41 – Hostility to needs and boundaries15:23 – Expressing desires and boundaries18:58 – The risks of lacking self-worth23:24 – Doing hard things builds value25:05 – ManTalks Alliance invitation***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I dive into the three “dark traits” that every great leader throughout history has had to master. From unpredictability to high stress tolerance to a lack of empathy, these qualities can make or break your leadership in relationships, business, and self-mastery. I unpack how to wield them without being consumed by them, drawing from history, psychology, and personal experience.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Why great leaders need dark traits02:05 – Trait #1: Unpredictability10:20 – Trait #2: High Stress Tolerance18:15 – Trait #3: Lack of Empathy27:48 – Integrating the dark traits29:08 – Carl Jung on wrestling with the shadow***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I dive into the anxious attachment trap and why it keeps sabotaging relationships. I share the hidden beliefs and behaviors that fuel insecurity, and I break down practical strategies to move toward secure attachment.You’ll learn how to interrupt the cycle, communicate clearly, and start building safety and stability in your relationships.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Understanding anxious attachment02:44 - Why it’s not your fault03:57 - Common red flags and behaviors05:54 - Pre-breakup anxiety explained07:04 - Why you attract avoidant partners10:16 - Breaking the cycle of anxiety12:50 - How to communicate anxiety without pushing partners away16:45 - Expressing your needs clearly17:59 - Self-soothing strategies for anxious attachment20:29 - Building security in your relationship***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I explore the rise of misanthropy and why so many people seem to be losing faith in humanity. I unpack how social media, economics, and cultural conflicts fuel this growing sense of distrust and despair. I also share why I believe practicing a radical faith in humanity is not only possible but necessary. Join me as I challenge the narratives of fear and invite you to see a different way forward.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Introduction: What is misanthropy?00:58 – Social media and amplified othering03:38 – Economics and generational insecurity04:47 – Gender conflict and family strain11:20 – The idea of “Virtuous Misanthropy”16:49 – Catastrophic thinking and the future22:35 – Radical faith in humanity23:38 – Closing thoughts and invitation***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I dive into Carl Jung’s concept of the Puer Aeternus—the eternal child, or what we might call the “man-child.” I explore how this archetype shows up in our lives through procrastination, fantasy, and avoidance of responsibility. I share myths like Icarus and Peter Pan, the shadow side of this archetype, and practical steps to move from the eternal boy to the integrated man.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:01 – The Puer Aeternus: Eternal Child02:42 – Fixation on Youth vs. Responsibility04:12 – The Provisional Life07:01 – Myth of Icarus08:12 – Peter Pan and Neverland10:33 – The Seduction of Youth13:24 – The Shadow Side16:34 – Step 1: Accept Limitations18:47 – Step 2: Embrace the Ordinary20:14 – Step 3: Facing Failure21:50 – Step 4: Commit to the Process23:29 – Step 5: Seek a Mentor25:28 – From Eternal Boy to Integrated Man26:21 – Brutal Honesty and Feedback27:43 – Closing Thoughts***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
I sit down with Sandy to explore how childhood experiences and family dynamics shaped the way he shows up in his marriage and new role as a father. We dive into themes of complex trauma, feeling alone, and learning how to connect in the moment rather than after the fact. Together, we work through practical exercises on presence, nervous system awareness, and building safety in relationships. This is a raw, vulnerable dialogue about healing, fatherhood, and not carrying old patterns into the future.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – Introduction00:37 – Childhood patterns and family role04:07 – Struggles in marriage and fatherhood07:34 – Feeling unseen as a boy11:17 – Working through tension in the body15:51 – “I’m not alone anymore”23:58 – Understanding complex trauma31:08 – Daily connection practice with partner36:50 – Breaking the freeze cycle42:05 – Learning from fatherhood44:30 – Closing reflections***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
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Rick Wade

The Uptalk in this episode lowered my Testosterone levels.

Feb 9th
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Jacob Anderson

incredible episode. best one yet

Jan 28th
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Jonathan Roseland

A masculinity podcast that doesn’t suck! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Conner strikes an impactful balance between practice and theory in the interviews and solo ManTalks shows. The recent men’s work session episode with the anonymous guest was especially compelling. The interviews with female guests don’t suck - most of them leave me with a lot to think about! Finally, I love that ManTalks is not interrupted with A LOT of midroll ads. So much to learn for free here.

Oct 3rd
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Rob Villegas

There is a lot more to the answer of why he is such a divisive figure. For one, he espouses beliefs that run counter to prevailing social trends. He shops his ideas in vocabulary lifted from right wing propaganda. Your definition of the word patriarchy seems dishonest in that the definition you gave sounds innocuous--but that is not the definition in current use by people today. People today use the word for a system. While the system definition has equally great social relevance, I suppose if you are looking at it through the lens of masculinity you would mainly see the positive aspects of the definition. If I'm wrong, help me understand.

Mar 18th
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Rob Villegas

Your comments about sovereignty and distance are key. When we start dating, there is a powerful draw for what the other person brings. Once it's yours already, already there, it doesn't have the same draw. In terms of mystery, maybe there is something to having separate rooms and undressing together only for sex. Overfamiliarity is the price of losing mystery. Finally, don't use the restroom with each other.

Mar 11th
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Rob Villegas

Good stuff in here, that in a lifetime of sex I had never thought of. Maybe most of us don't know the answer to the question of how we want to feel during sex.

Mar 11th
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Kronen Bing

a really interesting episode thanks very much

Jan 22nd
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Damien Glover

This podcast has been the foremost authority on modern men for me. I read extensively and listen to multiple podcasts daily but after subscribing to this one 4 months ago I've listened to most episodes. The quality of guests is always great. Connors mini episodes are extremely insightful and allow heaps of introspection should you choose to go deeper. Anyone wanting to grow and challenge themselves to be a better man, this is the podcast you need! 5 stars.

Jul 5th
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