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5 Marriage Fights That Aren’t Worth It

2026-09-2531:34

Some marriage fights just aren’t worth it. Not because the issue never matters. Not because you shouldn’t have hard conversations. And definitely not because healthy couples never get triggered. But over time, we’ve learned to care a lot less about figuring out who was wrong, who started it, whose memory is correct, or exactly where the misunderstanding happened. In this episode, we’re talking through 5 marriage fights that we’ve learned not to pick up anymore — from calendar miscommunication...

The trap of "Main character" energy

2026-09-0738:22

Main character energy sounds empowering—but what happens when it follows us into marriage? In this episode, we’re talking about the subtle ways we can start viewing our spouse, our circumstances, and even our disappointments through the lens of the life I’m supposed to be happening. We unpack how main character energy can keep us waiting for our “big break,” resenting the ordinary sacrifices of marriage, and missing the good life God is actually forming in us. Because the gospel offers ...

"I told you so..." is sabotaging your marriage

2026-08-2642:27

What if “I told you so” is doing more damage in your marriage than you realize? What if it's actually reinforcing patterns you THINK it's dismantling?! In this episode, we explores how our need to be right—or to make sure our spouse “learns the lesson”—can quietly turn into over-functioning, control, and even boasting. We’ll talk about giving your spouse back the dignity of learning, owning your half without managing theirs, and trusting that sometimes reality (and the Holy Spirit) can ...

Generosity: The Marriage Value We’ve Been Rethinking

2026-08-2432:32

After studying generosity together, we started taking a closer look at our own relationship with money, possessions, and giving—and noticed a few things we didn’t expect. In this episode, we talk honestly about greed in a hyper-consumeristic world, the ways we’re each still growing, and how even something as good as “being a good steward” can sometimes become a reason to hold too tightly to what we have. This isn’t a polished lesson on generosity—it’s a conversation about what we’re noticing,...

The Nerdy Path to Connection

2026-08-0518:51

Most married couples want to feel connected—they're just exhausted. So connection often ends up looking like quietly watching TV together, tackling hard conversations about conflict or pain, or squeezing in the occasional date night (... if time, money, and childcare all cooperate.) But what if there's another path? In this episode, we talk about one of our fav connecting rhythms as a couple: learning together. A short book. A Bible study. A topic we're curious a...

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