Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women

If you’re human, then you’ve probably received criticism. Though it can be quite unpleasant, your ability to encounter criticism and not let it affect you is directly proportionate to both your self-esteem and self-worth. In this episode, you will learn... - the 2 different types of criticisms - what makes certain criticism hurt so badly (and how to not let it affect you) - 3 questions to ask yourself before listening to other people’s opinions Remember: don’t choose a stranger’s criticism over your intuition, your values, and your heart. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Mary’s Body-Image TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/DoDzwM0gybg?si=P3kfRMBBdFgTMOAI Mary’s IG reel that went viral and got criticized: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C5l6-_fvZCS/?igsh=ZDJrYjA0aXpzM2ww The 4 Agreements book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1878424319/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_AJC459ZTT9B1T36FX5ZR?linkCode=ml2&tag=maryscupoft0b-20

Today we’re talking THRIFTING! If you’re anything like Mary, you love secondhand stuff and the unique joy it brings to your home. Artist and collector Virginia Chamlee joins us to share her tips, tricks, and secrets to scoring vintage furniture. You will learn... - how thrifting builds confidence - tips for finding valuable vintage furniture and decor - mistakes people make when they shop secondhand Virginia Chamlee is a writer, artist, entrepreneur, and avid collector of vintage. She is the author of Big Thrift Energy, a manual for finding beautiful (often valuable) pieces of design for pennies on the dollar, and a source of inspiration for those looking to collect or style vintage in their own homes. A lifelong collector of vintage design, Virginia has spent years scouring thrift stores, estate sales, antique malls and flea markets for truly incredible, museum-worthy finds (like that Goyard trunk she found for $90, or the floor-length Christian Dior cape scored at Goodwill for $9). She believes even the most high-quality design should be accessible for everyone, and that the antiques industry is long overdue for a shakeup (and maybe a little more, well... energy). An accomplished artist, her paintings and prints are available via exclusive partnerships with Chairish, Artfully Walls and Anthropologie. Virginia is also a professional writer with bylines at PEOPLE, Buzzfeed, Eater, Bustle, and others. Follow Virginia on Instagram: @vchamlee Get Virginia's book, Big Thrift Energy here: https://amzn.to/3V7zAPY And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @vchamlee Mentioned In This Episode... estatesales.net

Celebrating 200 episodes with sips of tea and a heart full of gratitude. Thank you, my self-lover, for listening to this podcast and giving yourself the gift of self-love. Get my list of 200 Reasons to Choose Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.myflodesk.com/200 From my heart to yours, Mary Mentioned in this episode: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. - Hibiscus Heart Tea: maryscupoftea.com/tea

My husband and I are celebrating 5 years together and 1 year married! To commemorate, we thought we’d answer your burning relationship-related questions while reflecting on the half decade we’ve spent together. We talk about… - how being married feels different - adult friendships and how they’ve changed since our wedding - our age gap - advice for dating and finding “the one” - tips for repairing after a fight - how to decorate your home together, even if you have different styles - new things we’ve learned about each other post-marriage Tune in for hot takes, relationship advice, and just a sweet conversation about couplehood. And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @maryscupofteaa Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 157 about Our Wedding Reflections: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0UGsNzalIhBmXyVogGFKFp?si=ylcqFLbIRgGIVZElssJDCQ 101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged: https://amzn.to/3ISBSew

Would you consider yourself an organized person? What about those with whom you live with? In the hustle and bustle of life, households frequently face daily stress, financial hiccups, and time crunches which are often aggravated by a lack of organization in the home. Professional organizer Nikki Boyd joins us to talk about communication as the ultimate organizing tool for households and well as hacks for keeping your home beautifully organized. You will learn... - ways to communicate with those you live with to ensure a more harmonious household flow - 2 places in one’s home that tend to cause stress - hacks for organizing your house and making it feel like a sanctuary Remember: your home should feel like a vacation from the outside world. Why wouldn’t you make it into a place that feels rejuvenating? Nikki Boyd is a professional organizer and founder of athomewithnikki.com where she helps bring beautiful order in homes around the world with her business, blog and YouTube channel. What began as a hobby is now a successful home organizing business, a popular blog, and YouTube channel, with thousands of readers coming to her site for creative and straightforward ways to beautifully organize their homes. She lives in Charleston, South Carolina with her husband and two puppies. Follow Nikki Boyd on Instagram: @athomewithnikki Watch Nikki’s helpful YouTube videos: https://www.youtube.com/@AtHomeWithNikki/ Check out Nikki’s organizing services: https://athomewithnikki.com Get Nikki's book, Beautifully Organized here: https://amzn.to/3PmyWKS And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @athomewithnikki Mentioned In This Episode... Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst by Robert Sapolsky: https://amzn.to/49VkEcl

Get ready for a pep talk on how to overcome your insecurities and cultivate authentic, true confidence. You will learn... - the difference between true confidence vs. pseudo-confidence - a counterintuitive approach to conquering your insecurities Remember: the only way to conquer your insecurities is by making them a glorious part of you. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... TEDx talk on “how to talk to the worst parts of yourself”: https://youtu.be/gUV5DJb6KGs?si=PolNO_jAa1ElBpbg

Last year, Mary did an interview with Christy Harrison on her podcast, Rethinking Wellness. We are resurfacing that episode here, so you can listen to this “reverse interview” where Mary and Christy talk about how wellness culture coupled with social media algorithms creates a toxic environment for both consumers and creators. Tune into this deeply personal conversation about... - Mary’s history as a bikini fitness competitor starting at age 16, and how it both triggered and exacerbated an ED - how social media algorithms drive us into more extreme diet and wellness content - why Mary thinking of quitting influencing despite finding much success on social media (and why Christy Harrison has already left Instagram) Though this episode was recorded 10 months prior, everything Mary said still holds true. Social media seems to be doing more harm than good and with every passing day, Mary is more and more tempted to call it quits. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @chr1styharrison Mentioned In This Episode... - Ep. 162: When Wellness Becomes BS with Christy Harrison on Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1fhy0aQwPZlgUQ4xANrxwq?si=b1b1cf5962894c9a - Sign up for Christy Harrison’s newsletter: rethinkingwellness.substack.com - Get Christy Harrison’s new book, The Wellness Trap: https://amzn.to/3ST99uD - The Social Dilemma movie: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 - Rabbit Hole Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rabbit-hole/id1507423923 - “Is There Life After Influencing?” NYT article: https://www.nytimes.com/2023/04/11/style/lee-tilghman-influencer.html

A solo episode where Mary talks about an emotion that’s underrated yet magnetic in other people + how you can channel this emotion to lead a more fulfilling life. Mary talks about... - what’s different about this emotion vs. other positive feelings - how experiencing this feeling is also an act of feminism - ways to get out of a funk - how the show Love on the Spectrum is inspiring her If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Love on the Spectrum: https://www.netflix.com/title/81338328 The Emotion’s Thesaurus: https://amzn.to/3SQfnvA

There’s often a disparity between how men and women make sacrifices for their relationship. In a long-term partnership, it’s normal and necessary to compromise, but how do we ensure that said compromises don’t make us lose important parts of ourselves in the process? Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us to talk about how to identify, communicate, and retain independent parts of ourselves as we embark on a life journey with someone we love. We talk about… - how to keep the “me” within the “we” - is dating objectively harder now than it was in the past? why or why not? - should we go through our partner’s phones as a way to ensure honesty? Remember: when two individuals form a unit, there are parts of their individuality that may be pushed aside. It’s not always a bad thing as long as we acknowledge each other’s individualities within. Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, phD, is internationally-recognized as one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awarness has resonated with millions. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tool people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical pscychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of now 3 books: Taking Sexy Back, Loving Bravely, and Love Every Day. Follow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon Get Dr. Alexandra’s new book, Love Every Day here: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/book/ And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @dr.alexandra.solomon Mentioned In This Episode... Lizzo’s NPR Tiny Desk Concert: https://youtu.be/DFiLdByWIDY?si=KAXcDxpW1aVmA9v2

Do you ever cry on your birthday? Because I DO. Every year without fail. Turns out, birthday blues are a real thing. It’s quite normal to feel a mix of emotions as you reflect on the year that’s passed and look forward to the year ahead. Tune in to learn why “birthday blues” are so common + how to cope with feeling behind in life. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Dr. Jen Gunter is an OBGYN with 30+ years of experience as a vulvar and vaginal diseases expert. She joins us today to debunk menstruation myths! Mary asks Dr. Jen questions like... - is menstruating the body’s way of detoxing? - what causes menstrual cramps and period poops? - why/ how is “alternative medicine” harmful? - do chiropractors really work? - what’s the purpose and process of menstruating? Remember: don’t believe baseless claims you see on the internet! Dr. Jen Gunter is an internationally bestselling author, obstetrician, and gynecologist with more than three decades of experience as a vulvar and vaginal diseases expert. Considered “the world's most famous—and outspoken—gynecologist,” (The Guardian), her New York Times and USA Today bestselling books, The Vagina Bible and The Menopause Manifesto, have been translated into 25 languages. And her new book Blood is all about the science, medicine, and mythology of menstruation which you’ll get a taste of in this podcast episode. Dr. Jen is the host of Jensplaining, a CBC/Amazon Prime video series that highlights the impact of medical misinformation on women, and the recipient of the 2020 NAMS Media Award from The North American Menopause Society. Her 2020 TED Talk, “Why Can’t We Talk About Periods?” received more than two million views in its first six months, leading to the launch of her popular podcast on the TED Audio Collective, “Body Stuff with Dr. Jen Gunter.” Originally from Winnipeg, Canada, she lives with her sons in San Francisco, CA. Follow Dr. Jen on Instagram: @drjengunter Get Dr. Jen's new book Blood here: https://amzn.to/3RPBDVS And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @drjengunter Mentioned In This Episode... Dr. Jen’s TED talk “Why Can’t We Talk About Periods?”: https://www.ted.com/talks/jen_gunter_why_can_t_we_talk_about_periods?language=en

I’m out of town for 2 weeks hosting another self-love retreat; this time in southern Portugal with 20 women coming from all over. So in attempts to preserve my energy while still keeping the pod going, I thought it’d be fun to revisit an older episode called “Learning the Difference.” This episode is about DISCERNMENT: the ability to perceive, judge, and understand things in an empathetic, rational, conscientious way. I believe that many things in life lie on a spectrum with nothing being inherently good or inherently bad in all contexts. That’s why it’s important that we have discernment not to judge others, but rather to know the difference for OURSELVES. Discernment is the act of choosing what’s serving you and releasing what’s not, and doing so with self-compassion. Tune in to learn how to discern! You will learn… - how to find balance with food, exercise, work, and other things in your life - an important question to ask yourself to determine if something is serving you or not - advice to help you feel more at peace and content Remember: life is about learning YOUR difference. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Hyper-independence could be holding you back. Speaking for myself, I am reluctant to ask for and subsequently RECEIVE help which leads to stress, resentment, and basically me running myself in circles. You will learn how to... - ask for help in small and big ways - convince your brain that you’re not being a burden - harness this healthy receiving energy to feel more at peace Remember: self-worth is directly proportional to your willingness to receive. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Jumping on the fresh New Year energy, we’re discussing 5 thought patterns that are keeping you stuck + new mindsets to embrace instead. You will learn how to... - stop overthinking - cease comparing yourself to others - quickly get out of negative self-talk Remember: there is a survival-based need behind everything we do, no matter how self-destructive. Luckily, there are more empowering ways to motivate yourself with self-compassion and self-love at the core. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 165: People-Pleasing Thought Patterns & How to Break Them with Maria-Victoria Albina- https://open.spotify.com/episode/5zXXHgPJgzC9HVtVMJuZmS?si=DueamaQJRZugQw6Ru_EZxw Ep. 32: Tools for Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff- https://open.spotify.com/episode/6rHAFkK3zikk9FFZURAZMm Ep. 183: The Best Book on Communication- https://open.spotify.com/episode/3l23N2zAkMk4EVzJlSnooy?si=1_R_GfxtSbuSm5OnLrKLaw Mary’s 2024 Vision Board- https://www.instagram.com/p/C1ngjVMP7Ll/?hl=en

A personal solo episode where Mary reflects on the highs, lows, and lessons learned of 2023. We invite you to think of your own lessons learned from each month of the year as you’re listening. We hope you had a happy holiday season and a refreshing start to your New Year. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s self-love workbook + journal: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 145: My Super Simple New Years Intention Setting Process- https://open.spotify.com/episode/4udZhbOPwKrEJTdBrtX8ZD?si=bbbcbaceed9a43a9 Ep. 187: Clean Up Your Digital Space(s): https://open.spotify.com/episode/6LF9T54tKn7csoyyUXylm1?si=n9WHUqW2QHKqI3Nni4Vxaw Ep. 184: How to Find Yourself When You Feel Lost with Dr. Sara Kuburic: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7xyHsObn16axmtxE9ypbaC?si=242Xv_s7QCCkafPErwLm-g Ep. 170: Intentional Wedding Planning & Artful Gathering with Priya Parker: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0RRZmG1HVPVxKDwf87yu5s?si=9mIIq04wQjGwjRtT69oZRg Ep. 157: Wedding Reflections with My HUSBAND: https://youtu.be/2u1_XzYUKO0?si=EN8Ay277vboEoOwS Ep. 176: Our Safari Honeymoon Recap: https://youtu.be/iHPyOARLWh0?si=EoJ7iuoaZqylrmwF Ep. 183: The Best Communication Book: https://youtu.be/DlVt-VsCcgU?si=H3o6vDeXet94W9TD

In this episode, Mary shares 6 ways to declutter your digital spaces. You will learn how to… - declutter your phone, computer and social media - better manage your email - organize important information Remember: Self-love demands that we properly shift from one role to another, acknowledging that digital decluttering is not just about organizing our spaces but reclaiming our focus, reducing stress, and embracing a more intentional and organized use of technology. It's a journey towards improved well-being in a world filled with constant digital noise. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... How to Remember Your Life: https://youtu.be/GLy4VKeYxD4?si=JcMxOl_qkeSrxedr Sign up for Notion: https://notion.grsm.io/zb63msx9ep0n

In this solo encore episode, Mary shares 5 habits that are good for mental health and personal development AKA habits that might make you a better person! Remember: take what you need and leave what you don‘t! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. 

The reason you feel behind in life is because you’re comparing yourself to others who seem to be ahead of you. When you compare yourself to people who graduated, got jobs, got married, reproduced, bought cars and houses and vacations, not only are you doing a disservice to yourself, but you’re also contributing to the narrative that “success” is measured by external achievements rather than inner fulfillment. Here’s how to stop comparing yourself to others and start accepting that you are exactly where you need to be. Let this episode be a refreshing, encouraging reminder that feeling lost, directionless, or behind in life just means that you are taking the necessary time to pave your own way. Mentioned In This Episode... Get Your Self-Love TEA: https://maryscupoftea.com/tea Ep. #163: Feeling Lost? Listen to this: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6yFlPHOd6psTmAu1iJh97L?si=eUtcRPv3S-CwNULANGmiEw Ep. #180 on Detaching Self-Worth from Productivity: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tXIGoj9RLZMjob3xbjqsN?si=LwWaB-3STWCe7tl18fPoUQ If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love: - The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. - 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Cheers to self-love!

“Some of us knew who we were and then we lost our way. Some of us never became our Self in the first place. We grew older, we aged, our roles and functions changed, but we never grasped our essence. We became many things- a professional, a partner, a mentor, a parent, a friend- but we never truly became our Self.” ~ pg. 22 in Dr. Sara Kuburic’s book, It’s On Me. If you’ve ever felt this way– lost, like you don’t know who you really are– then this conversation is for you. Dr. Sara is a psychotherapist who focuses on existential psychology after a long journey of experiencing, studying, and explaining the concept of “self-loss.” You will learn... - how to answer the question “who am I?” - why hearing advice like “go find yourself” and “figure out who you are” is unhelpful - the first step for how to create an AUTHENTIC sense of self Remember: who you are evolves over time, but if we are stuck checking boxes and pleasing others, then we will always feel inauthentic, disconnected, and lost in life. Follow Dr. Sara on Instagram: @millennial.therapist Learn more about Dr. Sara's book here: https://amzn.to/3Rata05 And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @millennial.therapist

I thought I was a good communicator until I read this book. It has challenged me (in a good way) and I wanted to share some of my takeaways with you. You will learn... the book Mary’s been reading, bringing to therapy, and trying to learn from how most people communicate and why it causes conflict the 4 levels of communication Remember: there’s a difference between communicating clearly and communicating compassionately. I always thought the goal was the former, but now I’m realizing that it’s the latter. Hope you enjoy my unofficial book club, where we talk about books that have helped me heal, grow, and evolve. If you liked this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Get the book Nonviolent Communication: https://amzn.to/3GaGriU