Life After Menopause

Many of us grew up with people telling us not to be angry or not to be "ridiculous" - this idea that we can show some emotion, but we have to suppress others. Dr Marny Lishman is a psychologist who joins me this episode to talk about adaptability, wellbeing and change. After the last couple of years, many of us have become more stressed, unhappy, and ultimately mentally unwell. And unfortunately, we have been grown up without being taught to properly process negative emotions, leaving us overwhelmed, and triggered at any moment. Join us in this episode to talk about mental health and how you can best identify and express your emotions.    Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep230

In this thought-provoking episode, join us as we venture into the multifaceted world of Suzanne Storrie, a former corporate executive turned dairy farmer and executive coach. Suzanne takes us through her incredible life transformation, sharing insights on how cultivating a meaningful routine can anchor us in the present and direct us towards a future filled with intention and purpose. Suzanne is a former high-profile executive with a diverse career at NRL, Layton, CBA, and Qantas. Amidst the challenges of COVID, she made a transformative shift from corporate leadership to becoming a dairy farmer and executive coach. Her story explores the complexities of balancing vastly different lifestyles and finding renewed confidence and peace.    Key Takeaways: How to establish a daily routine, like the "Sphere of Silence," to enhance focus  How embracing change is pivotal for personal growth and developing self-reliance. Learn how to prioritise tasks to maintain a balance between work, family, and self-care. Why Suzzane transitioned into farming, offsetting the demands of her previous corporate roles. Why transition periods offer unique opportunities for re-alignment with personal values and setting new goals. Quote: We all want to see that we're making progress... the research says you're 42% more likely to achieve your goals if you write your goals down. Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 0:01:11 - Dwelling on past mistakes and regrets 0:04:12 - Letting go of anger, sadness, and bitterness 0:07:08 - Learning to detach and focus on the present 0:08:40 - Handing over responsibilities and seeking support 0:11:03 - Redefining the mother-daughter relationship in a business context 0:14:38 - Overcoming self-indulgence and sharing personal experiences 0:18:12 - Dealing with unhappiness in a relationship without a major reason Find out more here: https://lifeaftermenopause.net/ep229

Midlife comes with a whole heap of angst, worries, concerns, confronting changes, all of it. In this episode, I take a look at how to handle all the changes that are going on without losing your mind (too much!) Find out more here: lifeaftermenopause.net/ep228

Dr. Ivana Matic Stanson discusses the importance of taking a holistic approach to perimenopausal health. She also highlights the societal messages and expectations that can add to the stress and overwhelm experienced by women during this transition. By providing education, support, and guidance, Dr. Stanson helps women navigate perimenopause and embrace the next stage of their lives with confidence and well-being. Dr. Ivana Matic Stanson is a perimenopausal health specialist, she also provides one-on-one consultations, group appointments, and online coaching to help women navigate the challenges of perimenopause and transition to a healthier and happier stage of life.   Key Takeaways: Why does perimenopause demand a holistic approach What are the factors that can contribute to the severity and duration of perimenopausal symptoms How mindfulness and reflection can help women navigate the challenges of perimenopause  Why understanding the physiological changes happening in the body during perimenopause is crucial for women to make informed decisions Quotes: "Perimenopausal health is about addressing all possible angles because we are such complex beings." - Dr. Ivana Matic Stanson Timestamp 01:25 - Dr. Ivana Matic Stanson's approach to holistic perimenopausal health 07:28 - Importance of community and sense of belonging in healthcare 12:02 -  Perimenopausal symptoms and the importance of lifestyle and stress management 19:42 - Slowing down, reflecting, and finding a new way of being 25:28 - Understanding the physiology of the body is crucial for managing symptoms. 30:39 - Adjusting eating habits and self-care is necessary during menopause. 36:56 - Transitioning to perimenopause in a healthy and informed way 37:23 - Conclusion and closing remarks     Find out more here: https://lifeaftermenopause.net/ep226

Lyndal Sterenberg, founder of Es Una, talks about her journey in creating a swimwear brand that focuses on body confidence and comfort. Lyndal emphasises the importance of finding swimwear that takes away the anxiety many women feel about their bodies and allows them to enjoy summer activities without self-consciousness. She also discusses the impact of social media on body image and the need for women to embrace their bodies and share their stories.   In addition to her work with Es Una, Lyndal is involved in a program called Making Her Mark, which aims to encourage women and girls to pursue nontraditional careers. She shares her passion for supporting women in male-dominated industries and helping them find the courage to pursue their goals. Key Takeaways: How finding the right swimwear that takes away that anxiety can help women enjoy summer activities without self-consciousness. Why women should embrace their bodies and share their stories. How social media can have a negative impact on body image How to build confidence and overcoming your inner critic. Lindell's challenges and successes encountered in establishing a Es Una Quotes: "Finding swimwear that takes away the anxiety many women feel about their bodies allows them to enjoy summer activities without self-consciousness." - Lyndal Stellenberg Timestamps 03:40  The inspiration behind Lyndal's swimwear designs 05:38  The impact of social media on body confidence 12:23  The importance of courage and confidence to enjoy summer activities 15:34  Overcoming inner critic through research and planning 17:44  Building confidence by taking on challenges 19:32  Lyndal's journey into fashion design 24:29  Addressing individual body issues and finding solutions Find out more here: https://lifeaftermenopause.net/ep225

In this episode, Karen reflects on her personal experiences over the past year and discusses the importance of trusting one's gut instinct and recognising toxic relationships. She shares her journey of post-menopause and how it has brought clarity and a sense of liberation.  She also delves into her recent business experiences, highlighting the importance of trusting her instincts and recognising toxic relationships.    Key Takeaways: How to trust your intuition Why sharing personal experiences allows for connection and validation. How to recognise the people you tolerate in your life and evaluate if they are toxic. Discovering your untapped potential - why it matters Empowerment and coping strategies in menopause women Quote: "I am thoroughly postmenopausal and very glad for it. I cannot tell you how nice it is to be post menopause because there's just so many more things available." Timestamp 00:31 - Transition to focusing on life after menopause and personal experiences 04:45 - Recap of the past year, including separation, house sale, and podcasting business 05:26 - Difficulty in ending relationships with people who are "just okay" 06:37 - Negative impact of marketing relationship on podcast downloads and business 09:14 - Realisation that many "tolerated" people are toxic narcissists 10:26 - Frustration with people who don't learn from feedback 12:06 - Importance of sharing experiences and validating others' feelings   Find out more here: https://lifeaftermenopause.net/ep224

In this episode, Karen O'Connor reflects on her podcast journey and shares updates on her life over the past year. She discusses the vulnerability and challenges of sharing personal thoughts and experiences. Karen explores the concept of finding purpose in life and the pressure society places on individuals to have a singular purpose. She also delves into her decision to take a break from her long-term marriage to rediscover herself and her desires. Karen highlights the importance of addressing discomfort and making changes to live a more fulfilling life.   Key Takeaways: Why finding a singular purpose in life can be challenging, and it's okay to have multiple purposes and goals. How goals can feel restrictive, and how focusing on outcomes and experiences can provide more freedom and possibilities. The importance of  prioritising one's own wants and needs instead of solely focusing on others. How society's expectations and gender roles can limit personal growth and fulfillment. How taking action and addressing discomfort can lead to personal growth and a more authentic life. Quote: "I don't have a single purpose in life, a single goal that I want to achieve, a single thing that I'm going to do and make it my life's meaning." Timestamp 03:37 - The limitations of setting goals and finding meaning 08:17 - Exploring the idea of spending time apart in a long-term relationship 13:26 - The difficulty of making the decision to separate 18:07 - Taking action and embracing uncertainty is perceived as unusual 24:11 - Gender differences are mostly a result of societal training 27:49 - Children's response to bullying is ostracising the bully. 33:05 - Tolerating inappropriate behavior as a woman. 35:52 - Realisation of tolerating discomfort and danger in life. 39:14 - Feeling the cognitive dissonance of being a woman in patriarchy.

Karen O'Connor reflects on the most popular episodes of her podcast from the past year. She highlights snippets from interviews with various guests, covering topics such as aromatherapy for menopause symptoms, managing hormones in menopause, toxic relationships, essential oils, and the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and finding ways to cope with trauma and stress. Key Takeaways: How aromatherapy can be helpful for managing menopause symptoms, hormone levels and sensitivities. How recognising and understanding patterns of behavior can help break negative cycles and promote personal growth. Coping with Trauma from both major events and smaller, cumulative experiences, often leading to addictive behaviors. Managing stress and promoting mental well-being through exercise and meditation Why Gaslighting Awareness is vital in preserving one's thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Quotes: "Menopause is not a Xanax deficiency. It's about supporting our bodies and finding ways to alleviate symptoms." - Lisa Baker     Timestamp 07:41 - The risks and benefits of ingesting essential oils with aromatherapist Amy Anthony 12:03 - How Lisa Baker helps women through the menopause period 15:25 - Reclaiming agency over body and health choices 17:14 - Fear of expressing ourselves and being accepted 20:43 - Dealing with fragility, anxiety, and uncertainty 25:00 - Importance of guidelines for letting go of stress and trauma. 27:22 - Breaking negative relationship patterns through therapy and self-awareness. 30:51 - Coping with toxic behavior by focusing on meditation and exercise. 35:24 - Differentiating between extreme gaslighting and normal relationship dynamics.       Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep222

In this episode, Sylvia North discusses the impact of insulin resistance on women's health during perimenopause and menopause. If you have gained weight and are having difficulty losing weight, you may have a resistance to insulin. As we get older we lose a lot of estrogen which can lead to this resistance, and increases the risk of heart problems, bone density issues, and diabetes. Sylvia shares how best to manage blood sugar levels and the best diet for menopausal women. She also delves into the role of stress, exercise, and sleep in maintaining metabolic health. What is insulin resistance? Insulin resistance occurs when cells become less efficient at using different types of fuels, such as glucose and fat. Key Takeaways: How insulin resistance induces metabolic alterations, elevates the risk of chronic diseases and affects the body's ability to use glucose and fat efficiently, resulting in weight gain and difficulty losing weight. The importance of adequate protein intake during menopause to support muscle and bone health. Why balanced meals and snacks are essential for stable blood sugar levels Factors contributing to insulin resistance and metabolic health Recommended diet and holistic approaches to maintaining metabolic health during menopause Quotes: And insulin is a storage hormone, it's a growth hormone. It also makes you hungry.  Chapters 01:12 - Hidden impacts of perimenopause and menopause 03:24 - Insulin resistance and its effects on the body 09:00 - Impact of high carb diet on brain fog 11:15 - Managing blood sugar during perimenopause 16:52 - Good nutrition during perimenopause 22:29 - Use hand size as a guide for protein portion sizes 24:21 - Importance of getting enough protein in meals 26:38 - Considerations for intermittent fasting and protein intake 30:11 - Strategies for weight loss and improving metabolic flexibility 36:35 - The best diet and reducing hunger cravings   Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep221

In this episode Nancy Diaz, shares her journey of moving to Australia and finding her calling in working with this specific population. Nancy emphasizes the importance of self-care and the challenges faced by women in balancing cultural expectations and their own desires. She also discusses the impact of separation on migrant families and offers advice on how to navigate relationships with ex-in-laws during special occasions. Nancy highlights the power of mindfulness and the effectiveness of brain spotting in trauma therapy. Nancy is a trauma-informed therapist, speaker, and host of the Global Citizen Therapy podcast. She specializes in working with women of color who are daughters of immigrants. Nancy is originally from the US but has been living in Australia for the past five years. Key Takeaways: Why women of color and daughters of immigrants often feel a heavy burden to repay their parents for the opportunities they have. How gender plays a significant role in the responsibilities placed on women from a young age. The importance of having an open and empathetic communication with family members about expectations and desires for special occasions. How mindfulness can help individuals become more in tune with their bodies and advocate for their own needs. What is Brain spotting, a somatic approach can help access and process trauma stored in the body. Quotes: " I realised that gender played such an important role, especially across different cultures, across different countries." "Just because it was like that in the past, sometimes we just have to grieve and realize that's how it used to be and those memories will always be with us."   Timestamps 03:27  Common experiences of women of color and daughters of immigrants 08:11  Impact of family separation on migrant families 13:13  Multilayered issues faced by daughters of immigrants. 14:09  Isolation and stress for parents with limited English proficiency. 17:07  Dealing with extended family during separation and migration. 19:26  Finding community and acceptance in other ways. 23:19  Importance of strong communication in handling relationships and disappointments 25:48  Breaking generational cycles by having uncomfortable conversations 29:58  Shifting conversations to lighter activities to create a safe space 33:47  Embracing a range of tools and techniques for personal growth 34:47  Combination of mindfulness and other tools for individual effectiveness Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep220

In this episode Laura Petrie talks about how to navigate relationships with ex-in-laws after a separation or divorce, particularly during the holiday season. Laura shares five tips for managing these situations, including setting up for success, putting the children first, setting boundaries, thinking long term, and taking care of oneself. She emphasises the importance of planning, self-awareness, and maintaining a positive mindset when dealing with challenging family dynamics.  Laura is a counselor and coach based in Melbourne. She specialises in helping women navigate midlife issues, including separation and divorce. With her personal experience and professional expertise, she provides guidance and support to individuals going through challenging life transitions.   Key Takeaways: Why setting clear expectations and communicating with your ex and their family is crucial before holiday events. How to prioritise the well-being of your children while also considering your own mental health. How to establish personal boundaries and decide what topics are off-limits for discussion. How to navigate co-parenting effectively begins with understanding it as a long-term commitment.  How to prioritise your well-being involves practicing self-care and having a plan in place for managing stress and emotions, particularly during and after family gatherings Chapters 02:24  Challenges of dealing with ex's family during Christmas 04:14  Importance of preparation and clear communication 09:29  Putting the children first while considering mental health 10:53  Balancing children's needs with personal well-being 11:51  Coping strategies for visiting ex's family during holidays 13:48  Setting boundaries and managing emotions during family events 16:15  Importance of planning and preparing for social situations 17:50  Having topics and responses prepared for awkward conversations 21:35  Thinking about long-term co-parenting and future events 22:43  Challenges of maintaining a connection with ex after divorce 27:37  Take care of yourself; plan self-care activities 35:05  Advice for mothers or mother-in-laws hosting Christmas lunch Quotes: "Set yourself, your ex, and your children up for success by clarifying logistics and expectations before holiday events." - Laura Petrie "Decide who you want to be and how you want to present yourself in challenging situations." - Laura Petrie "Remember that co-parenting is a long game, and you will be connected to your ex for the rest of your life." - Laura Petrie       Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep219

It's one of the dreaded symptoms of menopause: The Menopause Belly, the weight that can't be shifted no matter what you do. It's as though suddenly, everything that used to work, no longer works anymore, it actually makes things worse. Which leads to the question: what can we do? Not just to stay healthy but to lose that belly fat and begin to feel good about ourselves again? In the quest for better health and fitness, particularly during menopause, it's crucial to understand why traditional dieting approaches often fall short and how a more holistic view of nutrition can provide lasting solutions. Rachel Freiman, author and founder of Mindstrong Fitness, discusses the neuroscience behind dieting and the importance of understanding nutrition as a skill. She explains why diets don't work, how any kind of restriction isn't sustainable and how to fuel your body the right way to achieve your weight loss goals. She also highlights the impact of nutrition on menopause symptoms and the importance of raising one's energy and vibration to live a fulfilled life. Key Takeaways:  The real reason why diets don't work. What macros are and why we need to understand them. The importance of personalised nutrition plans in sustainable weight loss. Menopause does not have to negatively impact metabolism; proper nutrition can help fire up the metabolism. How nutrition plays a significant role in minimising menopause symptoms such as hot flashes and sleep disturbances. How taking control of nutrition and raising one's energy and vibration can lead to a more fulfilled life. Chapters: 0:03:45  Rachel's passion for teaching nutrition and debunking diet myths 0:07:34  Changes in metabolism and exercise requirements for women 0:08:46  The biology of aging and metabolism 0:10:39  Trusting the body and firing up metabolism through nutrition 0:11:04  The importance of lean muscle mass for longevity 0:11:28  Importance of resistance training for women as they age 0:13:34  Traditional diets based on restriction are not sustainable 0:15:22  Personalized approach to nutrition using macros 0:22:00  Impact of menopause on metabolism and hormones. 0:33:55  Diet industry's marketing and lack of empowerment 0:37:24  Immediate empowerment and transformation through taking control 0:39:19  Mindset shift from all in, all out to continuous progress Quotes "The world does not need another personal trainer. The world does not need another diet system"  "We can absolutely fire up your metabolism through nutrition alone" - Rachel Freiman Listen, watch and find out more here: https://mmmpodcast.me/ep218

In this episode, Mairi Thomson talks about a little known side effect of peri-menopause and menopause: bone density loss.  There is a huge need for women to become aware of this condition and be proactive in managing their bone density before any loss becomes irreversible.  In this episode, Mairi Thompson shares her own experience of being diagnosed with osteopenia, a condition that can lead to osteoporosis, and how it prompted her to find out as much as she could about the topic and then teach others about the importance of bone health. Key Takeaways: Bone density loss is a silent symptom of menopause that often goes unnoticed and unaddressed. Women over 40 are at a higher risk for osteopenia and osteoporosis due to hormonal changes and other factors. Building strong bones before entering perimenopause can help prevent further bone density loss. Strength training and weight-bearing exercises are crucial for maintaining bone health during menopause. Increasing protein intake, especially at breakfast, can support muscle and bone health. Timestamps: 0:02:00 | Mari's experience with perimenopause and shock of symptoms 0:05:18 | The importance of bone density and risk factors for osteoporosis 0:10:29 | Cost and coverage of bone scan test 0:11:46 | The impact of oestrogen in menopause 0:12:39 | How to monitor oestrogen levels and manage symptoms 0:16:56 | The changes we can make in exercise, diet, and stress management to support bone health 0:17:25 | The impact of hormones, metabolism, and inflammation on weight and energy 0:18:29 | Differences in fat storage and energy utilisation during menopause 0:21:30 | How inflammation and stress affect food absorption and fat storage 0:25:43 | Why doing the same exercise routine won't work in menopause 0:26:46 | How menopause can negatively impact body confidence and self-esteem 0:31:43 | Why oestrogen is necessary for building muscle mass 0:33:20 | How to embrace menopause as a time of reflection and empowerment 0:39:03 | How to get in touch with Mari Thompson at BodyMindBones.com Quotes: "You can't cut out health the symptoms of perimenopause, but you can make your symptoms better." - Mari Thompson "If you can build your bone density bank before you hit perimenopause, you have a much better chance of maintaining your bone density." - Mari Thompson "Strength and weight training has been proven to burn belly fat and build muscle mass." - Mari Thompson Listen, watch and find out more here: https://mmmpodcast.me/ep217

Are you "woke"? Are you against "woke" and what it stands for? Do you understand the term? Do you know what it's really talking about? In these days of fast-changing terminology, a common word can change its meaning and the implications of being labelled by that word in an instant. "Woke" is a classic example of that. Nina Thom, author of “Woke or Not: A Guide to Woke for Older People,” joins us to discuss the concept of “woke”, what it is and how it came about. We also discuss the anti-woke movements and that modern day phenomenon, cancel culture. This is about giving midlife women a comprehensive understanding of woke and its impact on society. Find out more, connect with Nina and buy the book here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep216 

Did you know that Jet Lag can have a much wider impact beyond just being tired for a few days?  Most of us know that jet lag disrupts our body clock, leading to daytime sleepiness, brain fog, and mood changes, but how many of us have considered the wider impact that these disruptions can have on those around us? Dr Steven Jasper explains so many things about jet lag that you may not be aware of: preventing jet lag, recovering from jet lag as quickly as possible, minimising the impact of jet lag on our private lives, work lives and overall health. Join us now to find out what type of body clock you have and how you can work with your body type to mitigate the effects of jet lag. Key Takeaways: Jet lag can have a significant impact on performance, mood, and overall well-being. Morning people may find flying west more challenging, while evening people may struggle more with flying east. Supporting employees who travel frequently includes allowing breaks and time outside, delegating tasks, and providing time off to recover from jet lag. In families, open communication and understanding are crucial when dealing with jet lag. Respecting individual body clocks and chronotypes can help prevent and manage jet lag. Key Points: 04:12   Impact of jet lag on business travellers’ performance 05:57   Impact of jet lag on relationships and family life 08:11   Explanation of what causes jet lag 09:04   Factors that influence susceptibility to jet lag 09:30   Difference in jet lag experience based on morning or evening preference 16:30   The serious health effects from jet lag 27:45   Challenges for partners left behind during travel 28:36   Impact of travel on family life 32:16   Using light therapy to prevent jet lag 36:50   The need for employers to support workers who travel frequently Quote: "Jet lag can have an impact on relationships, as it can lead to irritability and strain." - Dr. Steve Jasper   Connect with Steve and find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep215

Many of us do things to "improve" ourselves, whether that's personal development courses, reading self-help books or listening to podcasts (thanks!), but how many of us do those things because we believe there's something wrong with us? The problem is the person we have to spend the most time with is ourselves, so let me ask you this: how much do you like yourself? Do you focus on what you've done wrong, on what you did or didn't do when you should or shouldn't have done it? Are you one of those people who compares themselves to others only to realise how much better other people are in life, in looks, in achievements? Personally - and not being a perfectionist in any way, shape or form, nor am I judgemental or critical (particularly towards myself) - this is exactly what I do: I focus on what I did wrong, what I could have done better and, for the most part, I'm not happy with myself about the whole thing, so the idea of liking myself is possibly a bit far-fetched, maybe even a tad outrageous. Join me in conversation with one of Australia’s most respected coaches and trainers in the fields of personal development, NLP and Coaching, Pip MacKay.   Find out more about Pip, register for her upcoming free 1-day event and connect with her here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep214

When trauma of any kind descends on us, it can be very difficult to keep from sinking into depression, hopelessness and apathy but some people seem to manage it. How do you manage your emotions, take responsibility while being open to other people's ideas, and allow your loved ones to support you without taking onboard their upset and pain? Also, how do you make the best decisions for yourself and your life while you're in the middle of all fear, pain and upset? Anyone who's ever been told that they or a loved one has a life threatening medical condition will know how the mind and body can shut down. You don't hear things, you can't function, your whole existence seems to initially be one of numbness followed by overwhelming and often incapacitating emotions. Unfortunately, there are decisions to be made, people to notify, things to do. At age 35, Shana Pereira was told that her kidneys were failing. Five years later and still waiting for a transplant, she was told that her heart was also failing. At Christmas 2020, while doctors were telling her that a heart and kidney donor had been found, Shana went into cardiac arrest and flatlined for 2 minutes. She was rushed to surgery where they manually kept her heart beating until the replacement arrived several hours later. Now Shana is supporting other people going through challenging medical experiences about how to take care of yourself emotionally and physically and how to set yourself up with a medical team that's going to give you support in a way that works best for you. In other words, how to take responsibility for your own medical journey while allowing your doctors to perform to the best of their ability. It's not about taking control, it's about creating a team. Join us now and download Shana's book here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep213

Menopause can be a very stressful time but imagine what it's like when that's compounded with a healthcare system that's biased against you.   Studies show that women of colour experience menopause at an earlier age and with much stronger symptoms than their caucasian counterparts.   Menopause can be daunting and challenging enough because it's still not openly discussed or understood by many women or healthcare professionals. When you add into that mix the lack of representation and research focused on menopause in women of colour, it can lead to disparities in healthcare. Dr Monica Williams talks to us today about the experience that African American women have through menopause, how menopause can hit earlier, how health advice is often not sought because of systemic bias against women of colour, how beliefs such as black women don't feel pain are still present in some medical professionals today. We also talk about multi-disciplinary approaches to menopause, bio-identical hormones and the need for open discussion and sharing among women of all races.       Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep213

Our voices naturally change over time through age, hormones and all the different life experiences that we have. But what happens when your voice changes to the point where you have difficulty being heard in conversation or you sound timid or uncertain? How do you overcome that? When singer and voice coach, Emmanuela Grace, started coaching other people on how to make the most of their voices, she soon realised that some people needed more than voice coaching to be able to speak comfortably and confidently.  For example, why do some people struggle with small talk? Why do so many of us struggle with public speaking? Why do women often feel self conscious when they have to talk to a group of mainly male directors? And why do many women shy away from stating where their boundaries are? So off Emmanuela went to do a degree in psychology so she could answer these questions and fully support people. With a fascinating combination of psychology and voice coaching, Emmanuela talks us through the process of learning about ourselves so we can feel more comfortable and confident in all situations.  Key points: 6:34 - Why learning to speak up may involve more than just a voice coach 7:29 - Why small talk can feel so overwhelming and difficult   *** Emmanuela has done a special video for you on how to get your vocal chords ready before you go into an important conversation. You'll find the link on the episode page here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep212

Australia is coming up to The Voice Referendum and apparently becoming more of a "divided nation" by the day. But why do First Nations people need a special mention in the constitution? Shouldn't the constitution cover them already? Have you ever tried to explain to someone what sexism is but they just can't see what you're saying? The sexism is so ingrained that it's invisible? What if racism is the same? That it's so deeply ingrained in our culture that we can't see it?  This is a hot topic in Australia at the moment: should our First Nations people have a say in policies and decisions that impact them? Isn't that like saying that it's necessary for women to be involved and consulted in the decisions and policies that impact women?  Yorta Yorta and Gunnai-Kurnai woman, Pamela Anderson, CEO of EMILY's List Australia, explains to us the history of First Nations people after colonisation, how trauma is passed down through the generations and talks about the systemic racism that most white people don't realise is present.   Timestamps: 02:06 - Introduction into Pamela's heritage & experiences as a First Nations person 05:26 - The impact & implications of "Terra Nullius" 14:47 - Issues with Australian Policy regarding First Nations people 16:35 - The Australian Constitution 20:09 - Why should our constitution specifically include First Nations people? 23:03 - Why would any First Nations people vote No? 23:57 - What is systemic racism? 33:13 - Why stolen generation is still happening 39:32 - Assimilation, trauma & substance abuse in First Nations communities     Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep210