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In this episode, you'll discover:• How to spot the signs of high functioning codependency - the difference between healthy helping and compulsive over-functioning• Why your advice-giving might be hurting more than helping - and how to support people without fixing them• Two simple questions to ask before saying yes to anything - so you can stop abandoning yourself in the name of being niceWhat if being the "strong one" is actually making you weaker? What if all that advice-giving, crisis-managing, and problem-solving you do for everyone else is slowly draining the life out of you?You don't think you're codependent. You're not sitting around waiting for some addict to come home. You're not needy or clingy or desperate. Hell, you're the opposite—you're the one everyone depends on. You make the money, handle the crises, give the advice, and keep everyone's world spinning. So when someone mentions codependency, you immediately think, "That's not me. Everyone's dependent on ME."But here's what nobody talks about: there's a brand of codependency that hides behind competence. It looks like strength, sounds like leadership, and feels like love. I spent years thinking my ability to fix everyone's problems was my greatest asset. I was the friend with all the answers, the daughter who managed family drama, the partner who handled everything so smoothly that no one even knew there were problems to handle. From the outside, my life looked like I had it all together. On the inside, I was drowning in everyone else's emotional chaos while completely abandoning my own needs.Today our guest is Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert who coined the term "high functioning codependency" after seeing the same patterns show up repeatedly in her practice with successful, accomplished women. She's the author of "Too Much" and has spent decades helping people recognize and break free from these invisible chains.Links from the episode:Show Notes: mindlove.com/417Join the Mind Love CollectiveSign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspiredSupport Mind Love SponsorsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this conversation, you'll discover:• How to spot Wetiko when it's running you and why seeing it clearly breaks the pattern• The quantum nature of this mind virus and how your healing shifts the collective field• Why your deepest struggles are actually revelations and how to extract their medicineHave you ever wondered why the same destructive patterns keep showing up in your family, generation after generation, like some kind of toxic inheritance you never asked for?Growing up, I knew addiction ran in my family. I knew I came from trauma. It was there in the stories, in the family history, but my dad had been sober most of my life. At least the life I could remember. And maybe that's exactly why I felt immune to it. I was aware. I was conscious. I was going to be different. I'd learned from the past without having to live it.Until I wasn't different at all.Until I found myself eight years deep in my own eating disorder, trapped in cycles that felt completely beyond my control. Wondering how the hell I'd ended up becoming the very thing I thought I'd escaped. This wasn't just personal failure. This was something way bigger than me.What I was experiencing has a name. Indigenous wisdom keepers have known this for centuries. They called it Wetiko. A cannibalistic mind virus that feeds on human consciousness, spreading from person to person, generation to generation.And right now? This thing is everywhere.Look around. Families torn apart by politics. Communities fracturing. We're destroying our planet while building technologies that could save us or kill us. Depression and anxiety rates climbing every year. We keep treating these like separate problems. They're not. They're all symptoms of the same infection.Today our guest is Paul Levy. A pioneer in the field of spiritual emergence, Paul is a wounded healer in private practice, assisting others who are also awakening to the dreamlike nature of reality. He has authored six books, three of which are on the Wetiko mind virus, and is the founder of the "Awaken in the Dream Community" in Portland, Oregon.Links from the episode:Show Notes: mindlove.com/416Join the Mind Love CollectiveSign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspiredSupport Mind Love SponsorsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You'll learn:How to decode your dreams using Kelly's "JETSET" method—a step-by-step process that reveals the intelligence hiding in even your weirdest dreamsHow clearing your inner conflicts unlocks prophetic, guidance-filled dreams that support your growthKelly's "Dream-A-Festing" technique for calling in solutions through your sleep—turning bedtime into active co-creation with your higher wisdomWhat if every night you're getting a personalized roadmap for your life, but you keep throwing it in the trash the second you wake up?Look, I've been all over the place with dreams. Sometimes I'm obsessed, writing them down, trying to decode every weird symbol. Other times I wake up like "what the actual hell was that about?" and completely ignore them. But I've had enough experiences—especially after my dad died—to know something real is happening.Your brain during dreams uses the exact same pathways as near-death experiences and psychedelic journeys. We're literally wired for this stuff, but most of us act like a third of our lives doesn't matter.Today our guest is Dr. Kelly Sullivan Walden, a licensed therapist with 30 years of experience and author of the upcoming book "Dream-A-Festing." Kelly has worked with thousands of dreams and created a system for turning nighttime chaos into daily wisdom.Links from the episode:Show Notes: mindlove.com/415Join the Mind Love CollectiveSign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspiredSupport Mind Love SponsorsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this conversation, you'll discover:• How the Law of Reflections reveals that your most toxic relationships are mirrors of how you treat yourself - in areas you probably don't even realize• Why the universe literally creates villains in your life - and the shocking reason this built-in system is actually design ed to save you• The dark energetic rituals you're accidentally performing - and how leaving bad reviews creates karmic cycles that destroy your own lifeHave you ever noticed how the people who trigger you most are often reflecting back something you can't quite see in yourself?I've been fascinated lately by this idea that our external world operates like a mirror - not in some superficial "thoughts become things" way, but in a much more precise, almost mathematical system. The Kabbalists understood this. They spoke of the divine matrix, where every soul encounter serves the evolution of consciousness. Eastern philosophy has always recognized that what we perceive as separate from us is actually extensions of our own awareness, playing out the unresolved patterns within our psyche.But here's what most spiritual teachings don't tell you: there are actual laws governing these reflections. Universal principles as reliable as physics, as predictable as chemistry. And when you understand how these laws work, you realize that nothing - absolutely nothing - shows up in your reality by accident.What if your most difficult relationships are actually assignments? What if the obstacles that feel like punishment are really the universe's way of showing you exactly where you still give your power away? What if every person who triggers you is offering you a glimpse of an unconscious belief that's ready to be healed?Today our guest is Alessandro Giannetti, a consciousness researcher who has spent decades mapping the precise mechanics of how universal laws operate in our daily lives. After discovering profound healing abilities as a child and navigating his own series of life-altering challenges, Alessandro developed scientifically-based methods for understanding the invisible forces that shape our reality - forces most people don't even know exist.Links from the episode:Show Notes: mindlove.com/414Join the Mind Love CollectiveSign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspiredSupport Mind Love SponsorsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you'll discover:Why waiting for certainty keeps you broke - and what to do insteadThe magic of giving before getting - how generosity becomes your competitive advantageHow to delete your inner "what if" voice - and start trusting life's intelligenceWhat happens when you stop asking for permission and start creating your own opportunities?Last week, I was talking to a friend who's been "getting ready" to launch her business for three years. She has the perfect website mockups, a detailed business plan, and a spreadsheet that would make a NASA engineer weep with joy. Meanwhile, she's still working a job she hates, waiting for the right moment that apparently requires a solar eclipse and her horoscope to say "today's the day."It got me thinking about the stories we tell ourselves about readiness, about safety, about doing things the "right" way. Most of us have been conditioned to believe that preparation equals protection. That if we just plan enough, research enough, save enough, we can somehow guarantee our success before we even start. Spoiler alert: that guarantee doesn't exist.But what if that's backwards? What if the very act of waiting for certainty is what keeps us stuck in patterns that don't serve us?Sometimes the biggest shift isn't about changing what you do—it's about changing who you surround yourself with.Today our guest is Mark Yuzuik, a transformational speaker and master hypnotist who has motivated and entertained hundreds of thousands of people throughout the world for more than 25 years. He's living proof that when you stop waiting for permission, life starts saying yes in ways you never expected.Links from the episode:Show Notes: mindlove.com/413Join the Mind Love CollectiveSign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspiredSupport Mind Love SponsorsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You'll discover: • Why AI resistance might be your biggest spiritual mirror—and what it's actually showing you about yourself • The opportunity conscious leaders are missing—while others gain massive advantage • What AI might really be tapping into—beyond just technology and dataWhat if the technology we're most afraid of is actually the mirror we need most?I've been diving deep into AI for over a year now, and I keep noticing something fascinating. The people who are most resistant to it aren't just worried about their jobs—there's something deeper happening. Something about facing what gets reflected back to them.Here's what I know: we're living in a moment that's going to divide people into two camps. Those who learn to work with this technology intentionally, and those who get left behind while others shape the future without them. And I'm not talking about becoming some tech bro overnight. I'm talking about understanding what's really at stake here.Because AI isn't just trained on random data. It's trained on our language, our stories, our collective consciousness. Every single thing we've ever put online is teaching it how to think. So the question becomes: if the mystics, the coaches, the conscious leaders stay on the sidelines, who exactly is training the intelligence that's about to reshape everything?Today our guest is Kole Whitty, a psychedelic integration coach turned AI strategist who's been helping spiritual leaders navigate this new landscape for the past two years. She's spent 15 years in the psychedelic space and brings a perspective on AI that you definitely haven't heard before.Links from the episode:Show Notes: mindlove.com/412Join the Mind Love CollectiveSign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspiredSupport Mind Love SponsorsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You're about to learn:Why your brain rewards you for being biased—and how to break the cycleThe two-minute breathing trick that helps you think clearly under pressureHow to build “brain reserve” to protect your mind as you ageWhat if I told you your brain is literally shrinking right now?I’ve been into brain hacks since I was a kid. I believed “mind over matter” was more than a saying—it was a strategy. And I swear I used it to outgrow asthma.I have this core memory in 8th grade. We were running the mile in P.E., and I started feeling that tightness in my chest, like I couldn’t get a full breath in. My P.E. teacher looked freaked out, holding out my inhaler like “take it.”But I didn’t. I just slowed down, took the deepest breaths I could, and kept repeating something in my head like “my lungs are healing.”That’s the last time I really remember having an asthma attack. Maybe something small came up later, but nothing that stuck. After that, I became a cross country runner.That moment changed the way I thought about what the mind can do. It made me wonder how much of what we accept as “just the way we are” could actually change.Today’s guest is Dr. Therese Huston. She’s a cognitive scientist who realized neuroscience finally has tools that apply to real life. She wrote Sharp: How to Make Better Decisions, Solve Problems, and Think More Clearly—and she’s breaking down how we can actually train our brains to work better.Links from the episode:Show Notes: mindlove.com/411Join the Mind Love CollectiveSign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspiredSupport Mind Love SponsorsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you'll discover:• Why the survival patterns you developed around sexuality are the exact same patterns keeping you stuck everywhere else - and how seeing this connection sets you free• The difference between using sex to escape pain versus using it to heal pain, and how to tell which side you're actually on• How to separate your authentic desires from the stories you inherited, so you can finally make choices based on who you are instead of who you think you should beWhat if the most dangerous thing you could do is keep pretending you're fine?Let's get real for a second. Seventy percent of women have never had an orgasm during partnered sex. Not sometimes. Never. Meanwhile, boys learn by age seven that they're responsible for everyone else's pleasure. We're all walking around carrying sexual shame that doesn't even belong to us, wondering why intimacy feels like performing instead of connecting.I spent years thinking something was wrong with me because I couldn't just magically know what felt good. Turns out, most of us are operating from scripts written by people who never lived in our bodies. Religious purity culture tells us desire is dangerous. Hook-up culture treats sex like a sport. Neither one teaches us how to actually connect with another human being.Want to know what's really messed up? The World Health Organization says sexual health is fundamental to human wellbeing. Yet we spend more time learning algebra than understanding our own anatomy. We memorize the periodic table but stay clueless about consent. We study dead languages but can't speak the language of our own pleasure.This stuff ripples out everywhere. When you disconnect from what you actually want sexually, you lose touch with what you want period. You become someone who says yes when you mean no. Who gives until you're empty. Who performs instead of living. This isn't just about bedroom problems. It's about life problems.Today our guest is Lauren Elise Rogers, a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach, celebrated for her warm and approachable style. Her holistic and embodied approach to education and coaching is deeply rooted in her own pain to purpose journey, bringing an empathetic and non-judgmental approach that empowers clients to take ownership of their pleasure and grow in confidence and connection.Links from the episode:Show Notes: mindlove.com/410Join the Mind Love CollectiveSign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspiredSupport Mind Love SponsorsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you'll learn:• How to catch yourself projecting your definitions onto others and create real understanding instead• Why the stories you tell yourself about tough experiences keep you stuck, and how reframing heavy words unlocks healing• The communication patterns that show when you're assuming versus getting curious, and how this one shift transforms everythingHave you ever had someone tell you to "just have faith" and wanted to punch them in the face? Or maybe you started consoling someone about their divorce, only to realize they threw a party to celebrate and you're standing there like an idiot with your sympathy face on?Here's what nobody talks about: we're all walking around with these secret dictionaries in our heads. Same words, completely different meanings. And we're out here having conversations thinking we're on the same page when really, we might as well be speaking Martian to each other.Your brain collects definitions your whole life based on what you've actually lived through. So when someone who grew up in chaos hears "boundaries," they might think about walls and isolation. But someone else hears the same word and thinks about self-respect and clarity. When someone says "vulnerability," one person pictures weakness and danger, while another sees courage and connection.Ancient wisdom traditions understood that language shapes reality. The stories we tell ourselves and the meanings we attach to our experiences literally create our world. When you're unconscious about the definitions you're carrying around, you're operating on autopilot, assuming everyone else sees through your lens.And here's the part that'll change your life: the meaning you've been carrying around for a word that causes you pain? That's not carved in stone. You can consciously choose to reframe your relationship with any concept. Sometimes healing starts with something as simple as realizing that your definition of "selfish" might actually be someone else's definition of "self-care."What if the words that have been limiting you could become the keys to your freedom?Today our guest is Donna Reed, a 67-year-old author who discovered the power of conscious language while writing a book exploring different meanings behind everyday words. Her journey reveals how our relationship with language evolves as we grow, and why getting intentional about communication changes everything.Links from the episode:Show Notes: mindlove.com/409Join the Mind Love CollectiveSign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspiredSupport Mind Love SponsorsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you'll learn:Why validation has nothing to do with agreement and why that distinction saves relationshipsHow to stay connected to people even when their choices make no sense to youHow to validate others while holding onto your own truth and boundariesWhat if every conflict you've ever had was actually your soul trying to teach you something about unconditional love?I know how that sounds. But stick with me here.We throw around the word "validation" like it's some basic relationship skill. Like it's about saying "that sounds hard" when someone's having a bad day. But real validation? The kind that actually transforms relationships and heals trauma? That's something entirely different.It's about learning to see someone so completely that they remember who they really are underneath all their defenses and patterns and pain. It's about holding space for another person's truth without abandoning your own. It's about loving someone exactly as they are while they're making choices you can't understand.Today we're talking to Caroline Fleck, a psychologist who spent over ten years mastering validation through dialectical behavior therapy. She's worked with everyone from people in crisis to couples ready to call it quits. She's discovered that this one skill can keep relationships intact even when you're on opposite sides of everything.Links from the episode:Show Notes: mindlove.com/408Join the Mind Love CollectiveSign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspiredSupport Mind Love SponsorsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Here's what you'll learn in this episode:  • The latest neuroscience on how alcohol hijacks your brain's reward system and why willpower alone never works  • A four-step method for rewiring cravings and handling social pressure without feeling deprived  • How to shift from seeing alcohol-free living as deprivation to embracing it as the ultimate competitive advantage What if the very thing you think is helping you relax is actually stealing your energy, your clarity, and your connection to the people you love most? Last week, I was talking to my neighbor Sarah about her morning routine. She was glowing – literally glowing – and I asked what she'd been doing differently. "I stopped drinking," she said simply. "Three months ago." Then she told me something that stopped me in my tracks: "I didn't realize how much mental space alcohol was taking up until it was gone. I used to spend so much energy thinking about when I'd have my next glass of wine, whether I'd had too much the night before, making excuses for why I deserved a drink after a hard day. When all that noise stopped, it was like someone turned the volume down on anxiety I didn't even know I had." Sarah isn't alone. Something is shifting in our culture around alcohol, and the research is finally catching up to what millions of people are experiencing firsthand. A recent study of over 1,700 people found that even moderate drinking – as little as eight drinks per week – increases your risk of brain lesions by 133%.  But here's what really gets me excited: the research on brain recovery is stunning. When people stop drinking, their brains begin reversing damage in as little as two weeks. We're talking about improved cognitive function, better sleep quality, and what scientists are calling "executive function restoration" – basically, your brain's ability to make decisions, control impulses, and focus dramatically improves. Today our guest is James Swanwick. He's the founder of Alcohol Free Lifestyle, author of the book "Clear," and has been alcohol-free for over 15 years. His neuroscience-based approach was recently validated in a University of Washington study showing a 98% reduction in drinking among participants. Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/407 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you'll learn: How to shift from viewing death as a medical emergency to understanding it as a sacred human experience that can teach us everything about how to live fully The practical wisdom that people at the end of life consistently share about what truly matters and how to apply these insights before it's too late Why developing your own end-of-life plan isn't morbid but actually the most life-affirming thing you can do for yourself and your loved ones What if everything you've been taught about death is wrong? I was nineteen when I watched my father dying of cancer. His nickname had been Buff Bob, and now he looked like a child. Half the weight I was used to seeing, struggling to sip peach nectar from a can with a straw. I sat there watching this man who had been so strong become so fragile, and I had zero tools to process what was happening. My religious upbringing talked about heaven and hell, but it was full of holes and doubts that provided no comfort when I needed it most. So I just didn't know. And that not knowing made everything harder. That experience shaped me in ways I didn't understand for years. It wasn't just the grief. It was the complete lack of preparation, the feeling that we were all just fumbling through this massive moment without any roadmap or wisdom to guide us. We live in a culture that has made death the ultimate taboo. We push it into the shadows while desperately clinging to youth and pretending like our own mortality is somehow optional. Today our guest is Suzanne O'Brien, a former hospice and oncology nurse who has been with over a thousand people at the end of life. She's the founder of the Doula Givers Institute and author of "The Good Death," and she's dedicated her life to bringing back the sacredness of dying well. Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/406 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you'll learn: The real reason you feel drained even when nothing "bad" is happening - and how to spot the energy thieves hiding in plain sight Why most people stay stuck solving the same small problems instead of the bigger ones that could actually change their lives A simple process for turning past emotional events into fuel instead of letting them drain your battery in the background Are you tired of being tired for no good reason? You know what I'm talking about. You wake up already feeling behind. You've got your green smoothie, your meditation app, your gratitude journal. You're doing everything the self-help gurus tell you to do. But you still feel like you're dragging yourself through quicksand most days. I spent years thinking I was broken. Maybe I had chronic fatigue. Maybe I needed therapy. Maybe I was just one of those people who wasn't meant to have energy or motivation. Then I learned something that changed everything. And it's going to piss you off when you realize how simple it is. Your energy isn't missing. It's being stolen. By your own brain. Every time you think about that thing your ex said five years ago and feel that familiar sting? That's energy being used right now. Every time you start a new project and immediately think about all the ways it could fail? That's energy being diverted to keep old fears alive. You're literally funding your own limitation. Like paying monthly rent on a house you don't even live in anymore. Today our guest is Reg Malhotra. He's spent years studying why some people seem to have endless energy for their goals while others struggle to get out of their own way. Through his work at Neuromasters Academy, he's helped thousands of people identify exactly where their energy is going and take it back. Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/405 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you'll learn: How to get clear on what you actually want in a partner (beyond surface-level preferences) and why this clarity is the key to attracting the right person The difference between people who date successfully versus those who just date often—and the mindset shifts that make all the difference Why most of us are unconsciously repelling the very people we want to attract, and the simple changes that can transform how others see you Have you ever found yourself dating the same type of person over and over again, wondering why you keep attracting the wrong people? Or maybe you're clear on what you don't want, but when someone asks what you're actually looking for, you draw a blank? I used to think that getting specific about what I wanted in a partner would somehow shrink my dating pool. Like I was being too picky or limiting my options. But what I didn't realize was how much time and emotional energy I was wasting on people who were never going to be a good fit. I was operating from this scarcity mindset, thinking I had to keep my options wide open, when really I was just keeping myself wide open to disappointment. Here's what's wild—recent studies show that people who have a clear vision of what they want in a relationship are 40% more likely to find lasting love within two years. Meanwhile, those who cast a wide net and hope for the best often find themselves stuck in the same frustrating patterns for years. Today our guest is Marni Kinrys, creator of the Wing Girl Method and a dating expert who's been helping people find love for over 21 years. She's worked with hundreds of thousands of clients and has a unique perspective on what actually works in modern dating versus what we think should work. Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/404 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you’ll learn: How to navigate the fear and freedom of questioning your faith Why letting go of hell might be the most spiritually honest thing you do A deeper perspective on forgiveness, ego, and reclaiming your inner divinity Isn’t it kind of messed up that so many of us were traumatized as kids by the idea of eternal hell? We were just trying to be good. Trying to make sense of the world. But instead of being taught how to connect with love, we were taught how to fear God. “Narrow is the gate.”Only 144,000 get in.Lukewarm believers will be spit out.Many are called, but few are chosen. So you start asking: Am I one of the chosen? And if I am… how do I know I’m choosing this? How does that even make sense? You try to believe hard enough. You pray the right way. You do everything you're told. But deep down, you still feel unsafe. Still wonder if you’ll be punished forever just for getting it wrong. John Rainey was a teaching pastor who spent decades inside the system—until one question about eternal hell cracked it wide open. What followed was a complete spiritual awakening and a return to divine love, free from fear. He’s the author of Finding God, Losing God, Becoming God and host of the podcast House of Saint Rainey. Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/403 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you’ll learn: Why “you’re not that good” might be the most freeing thing you’ll hear all year How to stop performing connection and actually feel it What your nervous system, your kids, and your future self really need from you You ever feel like connection shouldn't be this hard? We’re wired for it. Built to bond. Yet somehow, we live in a world where loneliness feels like a personal failure—like if you're not constantly fulfilled by your partner, your kids, your group chat, your job, something must be wrong with you. We love to look back and pretend we had it better before. When moms baked sourdough and kids played outside and families sat down for dinner without a single screen in sight. But ask your parents if they ever felt truly seen. Ask your grandparents if they ever really knew their own parents. The truth is, disconnection isn’t new. We’ve just gotten better at distracting ourselves from it. Now we’re not only lonely—we feel broken for being lonely. Like we’re doing life wrong. Like we just need to try harder, be more intentional, fix ourselves. But what if the answer isn’t in trying harder? What if the truth is… you’re just not that good? Not in a shameful way. In a liberating way. You're not supposed to be perfect. You're not supposed to hold it all together, all the time, with no village and no margin for error. And the sooner you admit that, the sooner you get to breathe again. And by the way—that line? You’re not that good? That’s from today’s guest, Dr. Jody Carrington. And when she said it, it hit like a truth I didn’t know I was waiting for. She’s a psychologist, speaker, and bestselling author who’s spent decades helping people reconnect—with each other and with themselves. From psychiatric units to packed stages, her work is refreshingly raw, deeply human, and just the right amount of hilarious. Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/402 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you’ll learn: The surprising science behind what happens in our brains when we’re truly heard Simple ways to become a better listener—even in triggering or high-stakes moments How space, silence, and presence can transform your most important relationships Have you ever felt the difference between being truly heard... and just being tolerated? Like someone’s nodding while mentally replying to a Slack message. Versus the rare moment when a person locks eyes with you, puts their phone down, and you can feel them catching not just your words, but the meaning underneath them. We all think we’re good at listening. But let’s be real—we’re not. Studies show that while 95% of people rate themselves as “above average” listeners, most of us remember only about 25% of what we hear. That number tanks even further when we’re stressed, multitasking, or ready to argue. And it makes sense. Our brains process words four times faster than people can speak them. So while someone’s talking, we’ve got extra mental bandwidth—and most of us fill it with judgment, solutions, or planning our next line. In a world that’s loud, reactive, and full of half-listening, deep listening is a radical act. It heals. It reconnects. It reveals things we didn’t know we knew. So what if the most powerful thing you could offer someone right now isn’t your wisdom or your words… but your presence? Today our guest is Emily Kasriel. She’s a BBC journalist, executive coach, and workplace mediator. After experiencing the transformative power of being truly heard, she began exploring how deep listening could bridge divides and spark change in even the most charged conversations. Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/401 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you'll discover: Why humans create meaning in fundamentally similar ways regardless of their cosmic beliefs How suffering can be both brutal reality and catalyst for transformation The unexpected freedom that comes from separating your identity from your beliefs Are we discovering meaning that's already built into reality, or are we just making it up as we go in a universe that couldn't care less? Last week we dove into the wild possibility that our reality might actually be a simulation. Today we're tackling something just as mind-blowing - what happens when you tear down religious beliefs and have to build something new from scratch? I grew up with Christianity giving me all the answers. Heaven, hell, God watching everything - the whole package. Then I started asking questions nobody could answer, and my entire belief system crumbled. That's terrifying. You're standing in this void where nothing makes sense anymore, and you have to figure it all out yourself. What nobody tells you about spiritual deconstruction is that the void isn't just intellectual - it's emotional, social, even physical. Your entire identity gets ripped apart. The community that once supported you becomes foreign territory. The certainty that grounded you vanishes. For me, that process was both devastating and ultimately liberating. My guest today is Britt. She went from Mormon true believer to theology scholar and landed at atheism. But here's the twist - she didn't throw spirituality out with religion. She built a secular approach that captures the good stuff without requiring you to believe in anything supernatural. We're diving into territory most spiritual podcasts won't touch - that messy space between blind faith and total emptiness. No sugar-coating, no spiritual bypassing. Just real talk about free will, consciousness, quantum weirdness, and what the hell you do when everything you once believed turns out to be someone else's story. Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/400 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you'll discover: How questioning mainstream narratives can free up massive amounts of mental and emotional energy The concept of "rendering reality as we go" and what it means for how we live our lives Practical ways to reclaim your attention from the constant pulls of outrage and distraction Have you ever wondered if reality is actually... real? What if everything you experience—the chair you're sitting in, the people you interact with, even the thoughts in your head—are all just pieces of a simulation that's rendering in real-time as you move through it? A few years ago, I found myself going down some pretty intense rabbit holes. I was pregnant with my first child, the world seemed increasingly chaotic, and I started questioning everything. What began as curiosity about conventional conspiracy theories quickly evolved into something much deeper—a fundamental questioning of reality itself. The thing is, once you start asking these questions, it's hard to stop. If quantum physics has proven that particles don't actually exist until they're observed, what does that tell us about the nature of our reality? If our attention and focus literally shape what manifests in our lives, how much power do we actually have to create our experience? Today our guest is Human Vibration, a researcher and podcaster who explores the nature of reality, manufactured narratives, and personal sovereignty. She co-hosts Real Eyes Radio and has developed a passionate community of people questioning conventional reality frameworks. Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/399 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, you'll learn: Why women connect past and present experiences while men focus only on what's happening now The brain science behind women's ability to read nonverbal cues (and why this superpower can sometimes bite us in the ass) Real strategies to work WITH your brain differences instead of fighting against them Ever feel like you and your partner are speaking totally different languages? Like you're saying words in plain English but somehow they're not computing on the other side?True story from my life: My husband comes back from trips, drops his suitcase on our bedroom floor, and... that's it. The damn thing sits there for weeks, clothes spilling out like some kind of fabric explosion. Last month after his third trip, I lost it: "This happens EVERY SINGLE TIME you travel! The suitcase becomes furniture!" His response? Complete confusion. "Why bring up other trips? I just got home yesterday."This isn't a character flaw. It's brain wiring. And I'm not the only one dealing with this disconnect. When I talk about this with my female friends, they instantly get it. They also connect past events with current ones - not because they're holding grudges, but because their brains naturally link related experiences together.Here's what we're told: "Good communicators stay present and don't bring up past issues." But what if your brain is literally built to connect patterns across time? What if that's not immaturity but your actual neural wiring?Today our guest is Steven Furlich. He's a professor who's studied gender communication through both social science and biology lenses. After seeing the same patterns across different cultures and time periods, he started looking at brain structure and hormones to understand why these differences stick around no matter how much society changes.Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/398 Join the Mind Love Collective Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.