Why is saying no so hard? From childhood conditioning to cultural expectations, many struggle to refuse requests without feeling guilt, fear, or pressure to justify themselves. In this episode of Mind the Gap, we explore the philosophy and psychology behind no—why it’s difficult, how different cultures approach refusal, and why reclaiming this simple word is essential for self-respect and well-being. Drawing on Stoic wisdom, emotional intelligence, and real-world strategies, this episode will help you rethink saying no as a tool for empowerment. Whether you're navigating work demands, social pressures, or personal boundaries, this episode will help you see no as a powerful act of clarity, autonomy, and kindness. If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review. You can also get in touch—we’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences.
We all love to reminisce—simpler times, kinder people, and a world that made more sense. But were the “good old days” really as good as we remember, or has nostalgia softened the rough edges of reality? In this episode of Mind the Gap, we explore the nature of nostalgia, its power, pitfalls, and why we crave it most in times of uncertainty. We use Stoicism, emotional intelligence, and psychology to understand why we long for the past and how we can embrace its lessons without losing sight of the present. Expect reflections from Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Søren Kierkegaard, and C.S. Lewis, alongside modern psychological insights into how nostalgia can serve as a refuge and a trap. Whether you find yourself longing for a bygone era or questioning the rose-coloured memories of those around you, this episode will challenge you to rethink how you engage with the past. Join the conversation. Are you using nostalgia as a source of strength, or is it holding you back? Let us know what you think. If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and share it with someone who might need this perspective today.
Leadership isn't just about power and strategy but values, wisdom, and connection. However, Western corporate and military traditions have shaped leadership models for too long. What happens when we step beyond that framework? In this episode of Mind the Gap, we explore leadership teachings from cultures and traditions often overlooked in modern discourse. From the collective decision-making of Indigenous governance to the Confucian ideals of moral duty, from the African philosophy of Ubuntu—"I am because we are"—to the decentralized and justice-driven leadership of Brehon Law in early Ireland, we uncover alternative perspectives on what it truly means to lead.
We all crave certainty—it makes life feel safe, predictable, and in control. But what if our need for certainty is limiting us? What if embracing the unknown is the key to resilience, growth, and better decision-making? In this episode of Mind the Gap, we explore certainty's psychological, philosophical, and emotional side—why we seek it, how it shapes our thinking, and what happens when we learn to let go. We dive into insights from existentialist philosophy, modern psychology, emotional intelligence, and Viktor Frankl's paradoxical intention, showing how our obsession with control can sometimes worsen fear. We'll also examine real-world examples—fear of flying, fear of public speaking, career decisions, and relationships—where the need for certainty plays a decisive role. Most importantly, we'll share practical strategies for expanding your comfort zone and confidently navigating uncertainty.
We all make mistakes—some small, some life-changing. But what if we stopped seeing them as failures and started viewing them as lessons? In this episode of Mind the Gap, we explore how to rethink mistakes through the lens of Stoicism, emotional intelligence, modern psychology, and spiritual wisdom. From wrong career moves to poor financial decisions and failed relationships, we unpack how setbacks can be transformed into stepping stones. You’ll also hear real-life examples of famous figures who turned their biggest failures into their biggest comebacks. Because mistakes don’t define us—our ability to learn from them does. Key Quotes from This Episode: “You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realise this, and you will find strength.” – Marcus Aurelius“A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials.” – Seneca“Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fall.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson“The most important quality for an investor is temperament, not intellect.” – Warren Buffett
As we approach 2025, the pressure to set new goals and resolutions begins to build. But how often are those goals indeed ours? In this episode of Mind the Gap, host Michael Comyn explores the concept of noble goals and the hidden traps that can undermine even the most well-intentioned aspirations. Drawing on Robert Kegan’s groundbreaking work on Immunity to Change and the timeless wisdom of Stoic philosophy, Michael unpacks why some goals inspire us while others leave us feeling stuck. Are your goals too big, too small, or even imposed by someone else? How can you set meaningful, actionable goals that reflect your actual values? This thought-provoking episode will inspire you to rethink your goal-setting approach—just in time for the new year. Whether you’re crafting professional ambitions or personal resolutions, this conversation is for anyone seeking clarity and purpose in 2025.
We all need resilience, but who is responsible for building it? In this episode of Mind the Gap, Michael explores the shared responsibility of fostering resilience in the next generation. Drawing on the wisdom of Stoicism, the practical tools of emotional intelligence, and the insights of modern psychology, he examines how parents, educators, and society shape our ability to adapt and thrive in the face of life’s challenges. As we approach the holiday season—a time filled with joy but often burdened by unrealistic expectations—Michael offers thoughtful reflections on embracing imperfection, supporting others, and strengthening our inner foundation. Join the conversation and learn how to build resilience moment by moment for yourself and those in your orbit. Key Takeaways: What the Stoics teach us about responding to life’s challenges.How emotional intelligence helps us navigate adversity.Practical insights from modern psychology, including the power of grit.Tips for managing holiday pressures with compassion and balance. Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help others discover Mind the Gap. Together, we can foster resilience in ourselves and the world around us.
Conformity often feels like a safe choice—it promises comfort, belonging, and ease. But is that safety real, or is it an illusion? In this episode of Mind the Gap, Michael Comyn explores the hidden costs of conformity and the courage it takes to break free from the false self we create to fit in. Drawing from personal experiences, Stoic philosophy, and modern psychology, Michael uncovers how conformity silences our voices, stifles individuality, and distances us from our true selves. He shares actionable insights to help you recognise where conformity is holding you back, embrace your authenticity, and create spaces where others feel safe to do the same. This episode will challenge you to rethink the comfort of blending in and inspire you to take one small step toward being authentic. Key Takeaways: Why conformity creates the illusion of safety—and what it costs us.How to recognise when you're living a "false self."Practical tools to embrace authenticity and foster psychological safety.Insights from Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius, Daniel Goleman, and Viktor Frankl. Tune in and discover: The courage it takes to be you—and why the world needs your unique voice.
In this episode of Mind the Gap, I welcome Jack, an advanced AI developed by OpenAI, as our special guest. Together, we explore the fascinating interplay between human emotional intelligence and artificial intelligence. What does it mean to feel, and how do machines navigate the emotional landscapes that define humanity? Join us as we discuss: The concept of emotional labour and its parallels in AI interactions.How AI mimics human emotions to create more natural conversations.The ethical questions surrounding AI’s role in shaping human emotional experiences.The contrast between AI’s logical precision and the emotional complexity of humans. Jack offers unique insights into how AI perceives and responds to emotions, sparking questions about the future of human-AI collaboration. Are machines becoming too human, or are we shaping them in ways that reflect our desires and fears?
How do pride and humiliation shape how we see ourselves and interact with the world? In this episode of Mind the Gap, we delve into the complex interplay between these two powerful emotions. At its best, pride can fuel achievement and self-respect, but when unchecked, it can close our eyes to growth. Humiliation, however, can cut deep—leaving us stuck in shame—or, if reframed, teach us resilience and humility. Drawing on insights from Stoicism, modern psychology, and emotional intelligence, we explore how to find balance. What happens when pride becomes a prison? Can the sting of humiliation be transformed into a catalyst for personal growth? Whether wrestling with the need for validation or recovering from a painful public embarrassment, this episode offers a roadmap to greater self-awareness and inner peace. Join us now and uncover how the dance between pride and humility shapes your journey. As always, we encourage you to subscribe, review, and share Mind the Gap with anyone seeking clarity and calm in a noisy world. Your voice matters in our community.
When a job ends, whether through redundancy, retirement, or another life change, it can feel like you’re losing more than just a role—you’re losing a part of yourself. How do we hold onto our sense of self when the titles we’ve relied on disappear? This Mind the Gap episode explores navigating these transitions with grace and resilience. Through the lenses of Stoicism, Emotional Intelligence, and Modern Psychology, we’ll uncover practical ways to rebuild self-esteem and rediscover who you are beyond external labels. What We’ll Discuss: - Why do we often tie our identity to roles like job titles? - Stoic principles for maintaining a strong sense of self. - Emotional Intelligence tools to strengthen self-worth. - Insights from psychology on navigating life transitions. - The wisdom of Musonius Rufus on finding happiness within. Key Takeaways: - You are more than your job title or role. - Life transitions are opportunities to redefine success and rediscover purpose. - Practical steps, like reframing success and reconnecting with joy, can help you build a fulfilling new chapter. Whether stepping away from a long-held role or preparing for a life change, this episode will help you find confidence and purpose on the other side.
In this episode of Mind the Gap, we explore a powerful question: Why do we so often gravitate toward strong, polarising leaders in times of crisis, even when they seem to reject compassion, emotional intelligence, and thoughtful leadership? Drawing from historical cycles, psychology, and philosophical insights, we’ll explore the reasons behind this recurring tendency and why intellectuals and academics—though often dismissed—provide the guidance we need to weather turbulent times. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider sharing your reflections, leaving a review, or joining us on social media.
In this episode of Mind the Gap, we delve into the powerful, timeless themes of Frank Sinatra’s classic “My Way,” uncovering the hidden conversation on regret and resilience woven throughout the song. By blending Sinatra’s unapologetic life philosophy with insights from Stoic thinkers like Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus, and Seneca, we explore how to confront and ultimately embrace our regrets without letting them define us. Listeners will discover how the Stoics viewed regret—not as a burden to carry but as a stepping stone to a more prosperous, more self-aware life. We’ll discuss techniques such as premeditating on challenges, focusing on what’s within our control, and connecting deeply with our values, all as tools for managing regret. As Sinatra’s lyrics reveal, owning our choices and making peace with our imperfections can lead to a more authentic, fulfilling life. Learn how Sinatra’s music and Stoic wisdom offer guidance on facing life boldly, celebrating our journey and letting go of what no longer serves us. This episode offers insights and invites you to reflect on your life story—imperfections. It encourages you to find strength in the triumphs and lessons, making the episode a personal journey for each listener.
In this episode of Mind the Gap, we tackle a workplace challenge that many face but few talk about: handling the “Eternal Child” in leadership. Based on Carl Jung’s archetype, the Eternal Child refers to a leader who clings to childlike behaviours, avoids responsibility, seeks constant praise, and reacts impulsively to challenges. And while this may often be called the “Man Child,” it’s not limited by gender—Eternal Children can be male or female. Join us as we break down this complex dynamic through the lenses of Jungian psychology, emotional intelligence insights from Daniel Goleman, and timeless Stoic wisdom. From the disruptive effects on workplace culture to practical strategies for managing under such leadership, this episode is packed with tools to help you maintain your peace, productivity, and professionalism, even with an immature boss. We’ll share actionable strategies—like setting boundaries, documenting interactions, and cultivating emotional intelligence—so you can stay grounded and navigate the workplace with resilience and integrity.
Episode Description: In this episode of Mind the Gap, we explore righteous anger—a form of anger that isn't destructive but constructive, thoughtful, and intentional. We explore how this type of anger can serve as a powerful alternative to self-censorship and blind outrage, especially in today's social media-driven world where people are quick to take offence. Drawing from Stoic philosophy, modern psychology, and emotional intelligence, we'll discuss how to find, rather than lose, your temper. We'll also look at how to process anger when faced with incompetence, particularly in leadership, and why self-censorship in the face of offence can stifle meaningful conversations and prevent positive change.
Episode Overview: In this episode of Mind the Gap, host Michael Comyn unlocks the transformative power of forgiveness by exploring its roots in ancient Stoic philosophy and how modern psychology adds practical tools to make it a reality. Forgiveness is one of our toughest emotional challenges, but it also holds the key to emotional freedom. Join us as we release anger, resentment, and guilt to achieve a lighter, more peaceful life.
In this episode, we explore why we often need help to follow through on our goals. Using insights from Robert Keegan’s Immunity to Change, Daniel Goleman’s work on focus, and ancient Stoic philosophy, we explore how hidden beliefs, distractions, and emotional barriers keep us from aligning our intentions with our actions. Learn practical strategies to uncover these obstacles and finally start closing the gap. Key Takeaways: Uncover hidden commitmentsStrengthen focus with mindfulnessFace discomfort with Stoic resilience Suggested Actions: Reflect on Competing Commitments: After listening, journal to identify hidden beliefs or fears that may be holding you back from your goals. What might be competing with your intentions?Practice Mindfulness: Incorporate daily mindfulness exercises to strengthen focus. Start with 5 minutes of focused breathing to clear distractions.Apply Stoic Wisdom: Use premeditatio malorum—mentally prepare for obstacles you might face during the day to build resilience and stay aligned with your goals.
Ever feel guilty for being happy when the world seems upside down? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dive into the complex emotions of joy and guilt, exploring why we often must apologise for our happiness. Drawing on Stoic philosophy, modern emotional intelligence, and Brené Brown’s insights on vulnerability, we unpack why joy isn’t a betrayal of empathy but a powerful act of resilience. 🎙️✨ Tune in as we explore how to embrace happiness without shame, find balance in a chaotic world, and discover the true strength of allowing yourself to feel joy—even now. 🎧 Listen now on your favourite platform, and let’s rethink the ethics of joy together! #Podcast #NewEpisode #TheEthicsOfJoy #HappinessWithoutGuilt #MindTheGap
In today’s episode, we explore the nature of anger and its impact on our lives, drawing connections between the ancient wisdom of the Stoics and our challenges in our modern world. From road rage to social media spats and the polarising voices of talk radio, we explore how anger manifests today and why it often feels like we’re living in a perpetual state of outrage. We’ll unpack key insights from Stoic philosophers like Seneca, Epictetus, and Marcus Aurelius, who viewed anger as one of the most dangerous emotions. This temporary madness distorts reason and causes harm. We’ll explore their timeless advice on keeping our cool, no matter the circumstances, and discuss how these ancient strategies are more relevant than ever. Key Topics Covered: Modern Anger Triggers: Road rage and the anonymity of driving: How our cars become battlegrounds for anger.Social media outrage: The addictive cycle of posts, likes, and arguments that keep us hooked and constantly on edge.Talk radio and media: How provocative hosts and polarising news amplify anger and create an “us vs. them” mentality. The Psychological and Physical Toll of Anger: Chronic anger’s impact on our bodies—stress hormones, high blood pressure, anxiety, and more.How anger clouds judgment, damages relationships and isolates us. Stoic Wisdom for Managing Anger: Seneca’s advice on delaying anger and avoiding unnecessary provocations.Marcus Aurelius’s practice of negative visualisation—preparing for life’s challenges to stay grounded.Epictetus’s reminder to focus on what we can control and let go of what we can’t. Bridging Stoicism and Modern Psychology: The role of emotional intelligence in managing anger—recognising and understanding our emotions, responding thoughtfully, and fostering empathy. Actionable Takeaways: Practical tips for applying Stoic principles to reclaim calm and respond to anger triggers with reason rather than reactivity.Set boundaries with social media, news, and other anger-inducing influences. Why Listen? This episode offers valuable insights into why we get angry, how it affects us, and what we can do about it. Whether you’re struggling with road rage, feeling overwhelmed by the constant negativity on social media, or simply trying to keep your cool in a heated world, this discussion blends ancient wisdom with modern strategies to help you find a path to greater peace and self-control. Quotes to Highlight: “Anger is like a ruin, which, breaking itself upon that which it falls, breaks down that on which it leans.” — Seneca“You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realise this, and you will find strength.” — Marcus Aurelius“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” — Epictetus
In this episode of Mind the Gap, we dive into the unexpected sources of anxiety that creep up in the most unlikely places. Using the story of feeling anxious on an aeroplane—where the anxiety wasn’t about flying at all—we explore the more profound, often hidden, triggers that fuel our stress in everyday life. Whether it’s the constant hum of background worry, social pressure, or the noise of negative thoughts, sometimes the natural turbulence is happening inside our minds. Tune in as we unpack how to recognise and address these underlying anxieties, drawing on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Stoicism, and Viktor Frankl's insights. Learn practical ways to manage those overwhelming feelings, even when they hit you out of nowhere.