Mindful Momma | Dana Massat | Shaman + Psychotherapist

Mastering your wholeness is your foundation that you bring forward to help you achieve the goals you desire.

If you are leaving yourself open to be triggered or manipulated, you are not playing the game of life to it's highest potential.

We are all getting scammed to hit it hard in January, to reset! To be our best selves and to change everything! It's not sustainable. Instead, spread out your goals throughout the entire year allowing you time to master one or two at a time. Then step into a new year feeling proud and accomplished, instead of stepping into a new year feeling "dang I need to get my shit together!"

Depersonalization is just soul recognition and yes that means your soul is using this Human form as an avatar.

Why do we shame or judge people for not sharing or processing their life and emotions with others?So sorry for the sound disturbance in the beginning.

We are so used to pointing the finger at others. They are my problem, it's not me, if they would change this or that, my life would be better. Let go of that idea and just focus on you. Focus on your peace and joy. This will help you grow and then give you the clarity that you need for your path.

Once narrative I have been hearing lately is I am choosing to not have children because the world is so unhealthy and unstable. And I have to chuckle; really? This time in history, this present moment is considered the dark ages to you? It almost makes what our ancestors went through, barbaric times, or times when our ancestors had to move to a new village or land because an invader stole their land, insignificant. Yet they were still having children. Our ancestors are badass, and if you are prescribing to narratives that are limiting you, what does that make you?

Whether you are trying to heal or shift your mental state of being or have a health goal to achieve, there is no easy button. Most likely you know what you need to do, but you want an easy solution. Yet the easy solution is not truly changing your habits or mentality.

The growth mindset is open, optimistic, realistic, and ready to grow and learn from their lessons. Victim mindset is always placing blame on others, close minded, and resistant.

We have a society that favors the victim mentality, and teaches us to become our trauma, not heal from it, or become resilient.

Sometimes we make achieving our goals too hard from the start. We are over planning, seeking perfection or even so afraid of failure that letting go of the goal is less of a risk.

Anything that is happening outside of us as the collective, good, bad, ugly, beautiful, etc., is a reflection and manifestation of the collective shadow.

Guess what? Those Happy people you admire, can be you! You just have to drop the victim consciousness and step into acceptance of the journey and show up!

What is success? What is holding you back? Sometimes its our own beliefs and thought patterns that keep us stuck or small in our life.

Many times subconsciously and just through survival, the victim turns into an abuser, to themselves and others.The drama triangle is a model of human interaction comprised of three roles: victim, perpetrator, rescuer. The victim is passive and helpless to the perpetrator, the perpetrator is pressuring, manipulating or persecuting the victim, and the rescuer intervenes to “save” the victim and stop the perpetrator.

Through sickness and in health... doesn't mean that sitting in a relationship long term only giving 30% is okay. Yes sometimes we hit rough patches, sometimes we have a long term illness. But what I have noticed is many over functioning partners leaving the under functioning partners. Why? Because they no longer feel joy in the relationship and they are finally choosing themselves.

It's wonderful to get professional support and guidance when you are healing, but the most important and hardest part of healing, is the work you do on your own.

Healing your shadow can should daunting and also confusing. What is the shadow? The shadow is basically everything you have been sweeping under the rug and sometimes that includes what your family has been sweeping under the rug.

Lustful love is filled with fantasy, lives on the surface; Mature love has deep tree roots, yet can fade. What is better? Can lustful love turn into Mature love?

Rumination is indulging in your pain; some therapists will also indulge in your trauma and pain. This weaves it into your personality instead of creating resilience. The path to healing is accepting your trauma, not focusing on the why or who, because must likely those variables have been removed. What you do have control of after a trauma is how you move through it. Some people want to say they don’t have control over their life or emotions, but that’s just not true. It requires effort to shift from rumination to freedom. It takes effort to change the narrative. Trauma is 💯 going to happen. The darkness is the teacher. No one is going to leave Earth without some type of trauma. We have to accept that darkness is here, we need to be aware of it, and learn from it. But as soon as the focus becomes the trauma, you have stopping living. You have stopped living in the present. . “At the end of this journey, what matters is how you felt during your journey, not what you did or accomplished. The Earthly chaos is perfect, yet we keep getting distracted, trying to change it. The goal is to cultivate more inner peace and joy in the midst of the chaos. The chaos will always be.”